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@goxonikelwa670 12 сағат бұрын
At what age are they fully adult?😅
@Kathycunningham717 10 сағат бұрын
It depends on what your definition of an adult is. Our culture says you are an adult at 18 - 21 but being an adult is not just about age it's about emotional growth and there are many people that are not an emotional adult most of their lives. That is why as parents we need to help our children become adults by allowing them to grow emotionally as well as physically = there is a good book on this subject by Henry cloud
@izzie.12 Күн бұрын
I am that adult child. I am a proper grown up adult. The thing is my mother is a serious narcissist. And I was the family scapegoat. I have given her a lot of opportunities. I have taken a lot of time to work on myself and heal. I do meditate and I do everything to take care of my soul. I don’t expect her to come around. She’s 43. I don’t think she will come around anytime soon.
@Kathycunningham717 10 сағат бұрын
I am so sorry that this is your experience. And I do agree there are times we need to set hard boundaries to protect ourselves even from a parent that is unhealthy. I would encourage you to just keep working on yourself and become the healthiest person you can be.
@fatemakhatun4968 2 күн бұрын
Thanks for the information
@g.g.6785 2 күн бұрын
There is nothing you can do when they block you and move with no forwarding address. You can't send a text or a card. When they were talking to you one week and the next blocked you, you can't apologize or acknowledge any wrong doing. Was I a great parent? No, I did a lot wrong. I did try, but failed. I learned, but too late. I've apologized to my other children, but this one wouldn't allow me to and doesnt even know how things have changed. (I was too controlling and yelled too much.)
@Kathycunningham717 2 күн бұрын
I'm so sorry for this, it is so hard when they block you from communicating. But I still think except for the communication points the rest of the steps are good to put in place. First, because even if worse case they do not reconnect, you will still be a healthy person for you and the others in your life but mainly for when they do reconnect which is usually what does happen eventually - you will be ready to do what you need to do in the reconnection process. Don't give up, there is always hope. ❤🙏
@sqrfoot6548 Ай бұрын
Yes all those reasons. Sure I understand but it's still no excuse. Keep growing and be a better parent and say sorry when you've hurt your kids. Would you say it to your partner? Would you say it to your parents ? Your siblings? Your friends ? But not your kids !!! No excuse.
@KarlerFowler Ай бұрын
My favorite saying is "Ain't that all of my business and none of yours" it ain't the nicest but it does get a rise outta people.
@kathrynrealhealthtalk910 2 ай бұрын
Emotionally IMMATURE parents can be FATALISTIC TO YOU😭😭
@Ale69899 2 ай бұрын
They should teach this in every church.
@Kathycunningham717 2 ай бұрын
Agreed!!
@laurah.160 3 ай бұрын
the microagressions add up= death of thousand cuts
@laurah.160 3 ай бұрын
thank you
@Cantfindme3 4 ай бұрын
So when you become chronically ill to a point you can barely work and then you got kicked out of your home because you found out your ex is cheating and lying to you and the doctors aren’t finding answers let alone solutions and your parents don’t think it’s bad enough for you to get government assistance, but you know it is and has been for years …. I would like to know what the adult thing to do is.
@hannansujan7506 4 ай бұрын
great speech.
@Benny-jt9cj 4 ай бұрын
I really needed to hear this actually, thank you for the hints!
@angellee9307 4 ай бұрын
Groomed much? It is why these children are not maturing to full potential.
@mdborhan9703 4 ай бұрын
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@Melissa_John3_16 4 ай бұрын
Or how about you’re a liar and I hate all liars. That and I love you but I sure don’t like you right now is what I’m familiar with.
@marcush4741 4 ай бұрын
If I bring up something that hurt me, and my parents immediately deny or deflect, there is no letting go. I own my mistakes. All of them. If my parents genuinely refuse to own ANY of theirs, they will not be forgiven. Children are always told "let go of your blame". Parents are never told "own your mistakes".
@hannansujan7506 4 ай бұрын
Good advice.
@Melissa_John3_16 4 ай бұрын
Thank you!!! I needed this advice!
@erindummitt8287 4 ай бұрын
Thank you. Very insightful. 😊
@fredkornis6803 4 ай бұрын
Thank you…
@juliehill8292 4 ай бұрын
I was a very young mother and I would just like to hear my adult children say that they know I always done my best for them.I know I always tried but to know that they seen my efforts would make me feel validated in some way. I have close relationships with all three and maybe that should be enough and it is but that unsure young mom wants to know she was enough.
@theveryfirstlostgirl 4 ай бұрын
as an adult child who’s largely left the faith I was ready to cringe but this was good advice, thanks for putting it out there
@Kathycunningham717 4 ай бұрын
Your welcome! I had to learn this the hard way but it is the best and really only way if we want healthy, good relationships . Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
@kaitlynsamford5622 4 ай бұрын
Love this! No one ever changed their behavior because any other human made them feel judged, disliked, or any other negative emotion.
@Kathycunningham717 4 ай бұрын
Thank you! Absolutely!!
@xXAce_TnTXx 5 ай бұрын
or just don't have kids.
@Savedbygrace44 5 ай бұрын
What is an adult child..
@DeanNicholson-i5i 5 ай бұрын
❤🎉 AMEN TO THAT 🙏💞❤️💕💞.😊
@unnlind 5 ай бұрын
❤Thank you
@bryansmith6135 5 ай бұрын
💋
@kevinbeard45 5 ай бұрын
Amen.
@Ginnie-v8z 5 ай бұрын
This is actually amazing I wish more mothers could be like/have the same mindset as you! Your a great role model to other mothers out there.❤
@lowlee78 5 ай бұрын
😢 treat us like actual functional adults? What? This hit hard. Struggling with my incredibly well intentioned but oblivious mom. Words like I love you are wonderful but actions speak louder. Thank you for this.
@bethmasters..tooten60 6 ай бұрын
constantly staying busy thank you
@bethmasters..tooten60 6 ай бұрын
stay calm 🦌 don't allow 🦙 e~motions to overtake (you) appearance of inner confidence .. that God will work things out
@sharonmierau1979 6 ай бұрын
This is definitely a video to meditate and learn from!!!! Thanks for your help.
@majestic-1 7 ай бұрын
I experienced this with someone I've known my whole life! I got to the point where I had to completely distance myself from her.
@RachelVanNice 7 ай бұрын
Thank you for your encouragement, Kathy! You help me so much and I'm so grateful for you! Sending you hugs! Love you and hope you have a beautiful day! 💙🙏 Love, Rachel Van Nice
@RachelVanNice 7 ай бұрын
Love you, Kathy! Thankful for you. I honestly do learn so much from you! Grateful for all that you do and for sharing your wisdom and insight! I feel like I have grown closer to God since I started watching and reading your content! You have such a loving and caring heart! Keeping you and your family in my prayers and thoughts! Love you and wish I could give you a hug! You inspire me, Kathy! Hope you and your family are doing wonderful!💙🙏 Love, Rachel Van Nice
@John-xd4fq 7 ай бұрын
She describes Leftist.
@Mike_Lennox 7 ай бұрын
It appears that way because you are looking from codependency, not self-awareness.
@bushraafzal508 7 ай бұрын
Omg all these behaviours are in me 😢
@maricelaelizondo2482 7 ай бұрын
Uff, my ex So long ago I’m so happy now 🙏🏼
@MakhosiNyandezulu 7 ай бұрын
❤Thank you for this positive message.
@bethmasters..tooten60 8 ай бұрын
🪞 🚨 6/9 (perspective)
@evettegonzalez6922 8 ай бұрын
Why do we feel responsible for others and want to fix everything?
@Kathycunningham717 8 ай бұрын
Because it was either modeled for us or we were put in a position of responsibility that should not have been ours, especially at an early age🙏
@evettegonzalez6922 8 ай бұрын
Kathy why is it scary or difficult for us to move into the red zone? What can we be doing in the stretch zone to help us get to the red? And What can we experience when we do?
@Kathycunningham717 8 ай бұрын
Because it feels uncomfortable, and we don’t like discomfort. But we are always going to have to feel uncomfortable to grow.
@Babybrowntiger 8 ай бұрын
Thank you
@argarman09 8 ай бұрын
The grass isn't greener on the other side. It's greener where you water it
@puddlejumper3259 8 ай бұрын
Yeah my problem is going out by myself and meeting new people is outside my comfort zone. If I have a friend with me it's in my stretch zone. But I have to meet people by myself to make friends first.
@paulatyrrell 8 ай бұрын
Shut up
@eyalgg609 8 ай бұрын
That's deep 😢