I started a Sunday School class at First Baptist Atlanta just to address this isolation.
@edieh39327 күн бұрын
It’s been 6 years and I’m in chronic I can’t and don’t think I will ever
@edieh39327 күн бұрын
I’m in chronic and c ant get out ,, and don’t think I’ll ever will
@patriciaspires5450Ай бұрын
Soulmate gone going on 11 years! I’m in the chronic stage!
@scain1954Ай бұрын
My husband just passed July 7th 2024 and I'm so lost
@user-wk1ml3jo9jАй бұрын
Church 0:35
@jn3098Ай бұрын
My wife of 38 years just passed two months ago. She was my soulmate ,and everyone says she’s happy now. Well the ones left on earth are the ones who suffer
@truthboomertruthbomber5125Ай бұрын
That is the reality of life and death.
@elizabethnchapi9963Ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing 🙏
@tatiekbokings79302 ай бұрын
if i feel lonely not for a men but social interaction.just call friends n meet somewhere or doing my embroidery❤😂
@jackiebushable2 ай бұрын
Thank you. Lost my husband 4 weeks today
@mechellepillay88012 ай бұрын
Everything u have said is so true. I feel all of this
@widowtowidowcoach2 ай бұрын
a great bit hug for you! Please reach out to me if you want more guidance!
@mechellepillay88012 ай бұрын
I lost my husband 14 months ago to cancer. I battle with the feeling of not belonging when I go out
@widowtowidowcoach2 ай бұрын
I’m so sorry. That’s such a hard place to be. Please reach out if you’d like some support getting thru this!
@joanns78422 ай бұрын
Dear Lydia, thank you for providing this platform for widows. I look forward to hearing you. It has be 4 1/2 years for me. I thought I was doing well, until the 4 year came around and it feels like I have only just begun to grieve. I had 3 children still living at home when my husband passed and I had to be strong for them. But now my youngest is a high schooler and doesn’t me as much. I find that the loneliness and sense of purpose in my life is glaring in me in the face. I don’t want to have another relationship to soothe this pain; I want to live my life and enjoy who I am… I hope to find other widows in the same place as I am. I am in my mid-50s. God bless you for sharing with us.
@mharryvan53242 ай бұрын
@@joanns7842 dear Joan, I can connect with your phrase of grief staring you in the face. I wake up to this empty hollow feeling every day and before getting off the bed I feel exhausted. I'm glad your children were at home with you during the early time, I'm on my own since my husband died last year april.
@widowtowidowcoach2 ай бұрын
Joann - I’m so very sorry! Your path is almost identical to the one I walked a few year ago. Just want to let you know that I am here for you! If you want to connect, let me know. 🥰
@tatiekbokings79302 ай бұрын
if we are used to be alone then nothing to worry
@widowtowidowcoach2 ай бұрын
@@tatiekbokings7930 everyone’s journey is different - and there’s so much that needs to be adjusted to. It’s not just being alone that is a challenge.
@joanns7842Ай бұрын
@@widowtowidowcoach in happy tears just to know you have offered time to me.. thank you! Just knowing you have someone who understands without even saying a word is strength… Thank you.. I am just now seeing your response.. .not so saavy with youtube interaction.. :). I will follow more of your videos and get better acquainted! God bless you! You speak what I feel! :)
@user-jy2qp8gp2l2 ай бұрын
Jesteśmy przeklęci przez boga, by w młodym wieku zostać wdowcem / wdową, bo mamy już piekło na ziemi !!!
@disco_cherry3 ай бұрын
More wins! Yes! Needed to hear that. 🙌
@disco_cherry3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for these videos. I am a young widow, unexpected death almost 3 years ago. I feel so stuck in fighting against the heaviness. Thanks for coach suggestion too. Sending blessings
@widowtowidowcoach3 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for your feedback! I'm glad that what little bit I'm sharing here may be helping! I'm sorry that you are still struggling. Let me know if you want to hear more about what I, as a coach, do to help widows just like you. Hugs.
@mharryvan53243 ай бұрын
I miss buying clothes and wine for my husband........ 27 May would be our 30th anniversary. It has been a horrendous year since April 2023.
@widowtowidowcoach2 ай бұрын
I’m so sorry. I know how hard it is. Please reach out if you would like some support!
@plangnanyakwen73734 ай бұрын
This is so helpful,i will try get over my Emotional loneliness
@widowtowidowcoach2 ай бұрын
just checking in to see how you are doing?
@kathyd4854 ай бұрын
I lost my husband after 20 yrs ...I am totally lost
@widowtowidowcoach2 ай бұрын
Hi Kathy - I get that feeling of being totally lost. How are things working out now? Just to let you know that there there is support available - I can guide you through this! Reach out!
@slf51415 ай бұрын
I was widowed suddenly at 48 .... its been 2.5 years and its hard ... im a bit more social but its still hard at home alone .. weeknights and weekends.
@Wookinpanub2353 ай бұрын
Yeah its tough. I’m a 53 y/o man. Lost my wife to cancer 2 months ago. Lots of red tape makes the grieving process all the worse and forces you to be in full survival mode. I’ve also been trying to have as much social life as possible. Just going to the store alone at first was a weird feeling. Ive done it a million times but at first it was like I was trying to walk for the first time again, lost like a magnet that lost its other half. Sooooo…..Im just trying to make the most of it in social settings and being receptive to looks from the ladies for the first time since I started dating my Wife when we were in high school. I’m staying busy, keeping my health and body a top priority and hoping the right lady might come along. This would make my wife happy because she kept insisting I remarry. She was worried for me and was always think ten steps ahead. I think staying busy and having as much social interaction is the best way to handle rediscovering yourself after losing your soul mate…it is hard bit the more you do it the easier it gets and the more you’re receptive to smiles, comments and glances from the opposite sex. Its a good feeling to get smiles from the ladies and Ive been taking really good care of my body and eating better. Even with all the crazy red tape Im still finding time to heal myself and the best healing for me has been the looks I get from the ladies and it has done a-lot for my confidence and helps me all around in my outlook on life and keeps me from being stuck in a dark place. I have to a wedding soon. My Wifes coworker’s Daughter is getting married. Im like and Uncle to this girl and she loves me to death. She texts me often and my wife was her biggest hero and she misses her alot. All of my wife’s co workers, all females will be there. I know its going to be really weird seeing them all again because I havent seen them since my wife’s memorial service and I know they’re all going to be awkwardly looking at me to see how Im doing and Im hoping none of them make any comments about my wife at all because I dont want to Lose my shit in front of them all…again. They saw me do it in the hospital with my wife and at her memorial service and all its gonna take is one of these ladies walking up to me with her eyes welling up with tears and that will be it for me. I know the bride is gonna cry as soon as she sees me. Its almost like I dont want to go because I know what will happen bit I cant miss it for the world because the bride has been texting me every week reminding me to come. My Daughter is coming with me for moral support. This is gojng to be tough but I figure if I got through my wifes memorial service I’ll het through this. I just don’t think Ill be staying for the reception, I’m gonna duck out to avoid people feeling awkward around me and me around them.
@mharryvan53242 ай бұрын
@@slf5141 same here. My husband died april last year and I Stil can't grasp it.
@aaishkarajawat96395 ай бұрын
We were in relationship for 7 years from 10th standard but we knew each other from childhood, we married on 7 December 2021 and just after 7 months and one week he got into a road accident on 15 July 2022 , it'll be 2 year soon but I still don't have any idea what to do now, I don't have any direction for my life , I don't have any idea what's going on in my life, everyone has ignored me like I never existed even my best friend didn't even called me after visiting once, my family members they are forcing me to remarry as I'm only 23 but they never understand the pain and fear that's not leaving me, they never understand that even the thought of some other man touching me makes me cry
@widowtowidowcoach2 ай бұрын
I’m so sorry - but I do understand what you are going through. If you are still feeling like this, please know that I can help you with all of it. Just reach and let’s talk.
@nikkipage91325 ай бұрын
It just isn't that easy. Of course one has gratitude. A roof over your head, a car to drive, climate control..I am in Florida.. support from my kids. But there are so many sorrows and yes a touch of bitterness. Why us? What kind of future now? Will I ever wake up without that huge hole in my soul ever again? Tired of doing things alone. Gratitude, sure, I get it. But I can't get over the losses. He who knew me well. Loved me completely. Enriched my life and soul.
@widowtowidowcoach5 ай бұрын
Of course it’s not easy! This is just one of the many steps you can take to shift yourself into a life again.
@USA50_5 ай бұрын
❤🇺🇸💪👍 Thanks 😊 God Bless 🙏
@npenick665 ай бұрын
My wife of 20 years unexpectedly passed in her sleep almost 3 months ago on 1/5/24. We have a 14 year old semi verbal autistic son that needs 24/7 supervision. Throwing myself into full time parent mode has helped me get through the initial crippling pain of loss but I know it's not a viable long term solution. My closest relatives are 1100 miles away. My two closest buddies moved out of the area over the last year. So I'm definitely isolated socially, my only real in person interactions are with the staff at my son's school. Relocating to be closer to relatives (very small family) may give me a little social interaction and an emergency backup for temporarily watching my son in case something happens to me but I'll still be on 24/7 Dad duty. I'm trying to see a way to avoid the long term cronic issue but I don't see it yet. I'm getting past the initial FUBAR phase hoping to get into SNAFU sometime soon but I'm worried for the long term.
@widowtowidowcoach5 ай бұрын
so sorry for your loss. You’ll be challenged in the days ahead - no doubt about that - but work on taking it a day at time. Look for a support group as well.
@hawtenslaton43075 ай бұрын
@kiranNiks6 ай бұрын
Out of context but.....i thought i saw blake lively. I was shook.
@widowtowidowcoach2 ай бұрын
um - THANK YOU!
@user-fw9yc3ss2n6 ай бұрын
thank you , it's 9 months since my wife died , ty for comforting words
@BecomingManifiesto6 ай бұрын
Mine 6, sending you love and confort
@widowtowidowcoach6 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry - I do hope these videos help
@shelleycharlesworth51776 ай бұрын
My life became so empty and desolate after my husband died. He was my very best friend. We had been through so much during our almost 40 years as a couple, and we had cried and laughed together so many times. We had shared each other‘s experiences and we gave each other encouragement. I know how he would’ve thought about many difficult issues and how he would’ve acted in various situations. I still think what would he have done now I still miss him terribly- he died 9 years ago- but I feel him with me all the time. I even ask him for advice. I carry our life together inside me. Our thoughts, our fun, our troubles. These are all treasures no one can ever take from me.
@Loveyalise857 ай бұрын
3 years and 3 months for me now. And I have been feeling my future has no hope anymore. I am 57 but was 53 when I lost my husband after a long ill ess. My daughters are grown and have thier own lives. I work full time, still have no money left-over after barely making e ds meet, and he lost his life insurance because we couldnt afford it on just my check while waiting for SSDI to kick in. I had to make choices at the time and his prescriptions were more important. And once the SSDI started coming, the rates for his life insurance were outrageous. I am not the most attractive person, and lost many friends while being my husbands caretaker. I honestly belueve I am in the chronic stage of lonliness now but I dont want to be. I feel like there is no hope for me. I have tried widow /widowers groups. They are a joke. The other woman are catty towards each other if you so much as speak to the widows in the group. Certainly not friendship material which is all I was hoping to find. My church is super small , so really no hope there. So I have no money, and not many friends, and the ones who are , are married and busy with thier spouses and make excuses not to include me in thier social events. I have to work alot to support myself. What do I do and how can I help myself get out of feeling as I have been lately. I am to the point of giving up even trying to live a life worth living because I just feel I am hinderednin so many ways no matter ehat.
@jenasys5207 ай бұрын
I am now widowed at 32, he passed away 3 days ago. I feel I am in emotional loneliness and still traumatised watching him die from pancreatic cancer. Thank you for posting stuff like this. I dont know how I will get through this, but somehow I can forsee I will.
@jordanlin7776 ай бұрын
I am 46 and my wife passed away 2 months ago. I am feeling exactly what you are feeling as well. It takes time to get better, but you can do it.
@joanns78422 ай бұрын
Oh, so sorry for you dear. Be strong. Time will work with you and not against you. Accept as best as you can the reality, the loss, the love, the grief… it all works together inside of you. I hope you have a. Strong faith in God’s love and goodness. IT was kept me strong and believing that there is some eternal purpose for our losses and pain. The love you shared is real and will keep giving to you if you will allow it. Seek to embrace this new place as it has gifts to give your soul, too. This is a path no one really chooses for themselves. There are many of us here, though. Cry when you need to, wipe your tears away and get up and do something good for yourself, be patient, be strong… and never let go of the love you shared. Love is eternal. God is love and He will always be with you to show you the way. God bless and keep you in this time of sorrow and pain.
@widowtowidowcoach2 ай бұрын
Hey - checking in to see how you are doing?
@shelleycharlesworth51777 ай бұрын
Yes we must focus on what we still have not what er have lost. Gratitude! It’s so hard to understand how the deaths of those we deeply love affect us. Lost my beloved husband 9+ years ago. He was my steadfast, trusted partner in all things. When I had him, a hard day at work or some sort of disappointment didn’t really matter that much because I had HIM. He was my rock. He gave my life a meaning I did not know was possible. I had a 30 year teaching career but I always felt that my greatest accomplishment was my relationship with my husband. Have a grateful day!
@caroldevries44607 ай бұрын
I thank you.
@widowtowidowcoach7 ай бұрын
You are most welcome!
@beckybauer8937 ай бұрын
Good stuff!! I am almost 4 years out, and it has been a slow process. But I agree that we need to purpose to and intentionally look for the positive. I started a “gratitude” journal about 3 months ago. Someone had given me that idea and it was one of the best things to help in this journey of getting my life back, so to speak. Thanks for your words. They mean a lot to those of us that are on the journey of widowhood.
@widowtowidowcoach7 ай бұрын
thanks for sharing all of that! Let me know if you need more!
@cynthiawinn94967 ай бұрын
I believe I am in the chronic stage its been 11 years this month 1/12/24. Im barren as well. Im 63 with no hope. I'm sad, depressed and miserable. No friends or close family who cares, live near by.. I work byt it's a struggle every day and night. Do I really have a future? We were married for 32 years. I still miss him a lot.
@widowtowidowcoach7 ай бұрын
Aw Cynthia - I’m so sad to hear this! No hope for 11 years must be a really hard way to exist.😥 You ask if you have a future. I’d say yes absolutely - BUT it’s up to you what that future will look like right? I’m hearing that you are not happy with how things are - so you need to do something different. I’d be more than happy to guide you thru this - let’s get you out of this rut so that you can breathe again!! If you are interested, you can contact me me at [email protected].
@cynthiawinn94967 ай бұрын
@@widowtowidowcoach I will reach out to you!! Thank you!! I can use some help.
@widowtowidowcoach2 ай бұрын
@@cynthiawinn9496 hey - how are you doing?
@mikeburgan76758 ай бұрын
Thank you L
@widowtowidowcoach8 ай бұрын
you’re welcome Mike
@morganfalkdesigns8 ай бұрын
I take 3 ornaments off of the tree everytime i walk past it.
@widowtowidowcoach8 ай бұрын
brilliant!!
@maggiesace3898 ай бұрын
Im so tired of feeling alone (social and situational) and lonely (emotional). Am I at risk for being a chronic alone/lonely? Yep. Am I gonna fight against it with HOPE? Yep! 🙏
@nancywest40948 ай бұрын
It’s been 5 years, 3 months, and 11 days today. 12/31/23. I found your channel a few weeks ago. But I haven’t watched regularly. I’m 73 years old, I live alone in a nice, but rural area. Living on Social Security and hoping I can make my savings last. Thank you for explaining loneliness. Hoping to find more peace deep inside myself in 2024.
@widowtowidowcoach8 ай бұрын
Wishing you everything to be wonderful for your this year!!
@mharryvan53242 ай бұрын
@@nancywest4094 hi Nancy. I hope you are managing. Life on social welfare isn't easy. But you sound like you can prioritize and your journey to inner peace will bring you to the right choices.
@widowtowidowcoach2 ай бұрын
just wanted to check in and see how you are doing!
@KS-yb1wq8 ай бұрын
I'm ready to listen and your content is going deep. Thank you.
@KS-yb1wq8 ай бұрын
Concise and delivered in a way that is receptive. You've got me thinking. This is an important channel.
@widowtowidowcoach8 ай бұрын
I appreciate that! Thank you :-)
@yolandatorres2358 ай бұрын
Thank you for these reminders. I lost my husband of fifty years last October of this year and it hurst so much. I hope that in time I can be happy again.
@widowtowidowcoach8 ай бұрын
condolences - time helps numb you, but intentionally wanting things to be different is much more effective. Keep hoping!!
@sj-sj2kh7 ай бұрын
I lost my husband of 53 years. I am sad. I don’t know how to live alone. I miss him so much.
@widowtowidowcoach7 ай бұрын
@@sj-sj2kh I’m so sorry for your loss. It is such hard road - I know - I hope these little Widow Wisdom sessions help you out! Let me know if you need more person guided help - I can do that too.
@susanmendoza20419 ай бұрын
I know yr right I am a widow an so lost since my husband passed 7weeks ago it was real sudden I feel so much guilt cause I should have done more for him but I couldn’t! I am alone a lot an can’t walk well so I’m cooped up an trapped hope I can move on
@catherinebosley75399 ай бұрын
That is where I am now and my Husband is alive,but lost to Vascular Dementia,in a care home and I stand on the outside of his life,unable to help.I come home every day,after visiting choking with loneliness.
@widowtowidowcoach9 ай бұрын
Oh I’m so sorry! I am not unfamiliar with that burden. You may be interested in getting started now with my program. You can get more info on my website www.widowtowidow.coach
@patriciaredick984910 ай бұрын
Just found your channel. Really liked your brief, encouraging information. Very helpful to me. Thank you. Newly subscribed.
@widowtowidowcoach10 ай бұрын
Oh i'm SO GLAD!! It's such a hard journey - and it feels so isolating. I'm happy to be able to share what I've learned with others!
@alimatambwe340211 ай бұрын
I have been married for 12 years,I lose my husband in difficult situations was just surprised me,I remember was Saturday night my husband came from work he was really worried,I try my best taking care for him all the tasks needed.when he done we was just chill and talked but he was worried and ask more Questions and told me if he died how I ll survive with his children alone and told me his has feeling he can’t make it tomorrow while still alive and that was true he didn’t make.he woke up in morning and bath and told me to get ready he’s going somewhere so he ll come back to pick me with children to go out but after people came with care his body death.I ll never forget that day was difficult day to me,I remember how he was talking with to night about death,I feel he was saying goodbye to me I didn’t know.that day until now comes to me like memories it has brought me hurts attack and anxiety I feel very lonely but I struggle very much to raise children alone.he died left me with six children.
@widowtowidowcoach10 ай бұрын
extra hugs for you - that’s a big load to carry
@mrsacademy10039 ай бұрын
Your experience is quite relate able with me. My husband died . And i have 1 kid girl to grown up alone. 😢😢 i am financially independent but still facing trouble when i face contradiction situation. My husband was my great motivator. 😊
@widowtowidowcoach9 ай бұрын
@@mrsacademy1003 if you are still struggling with your grief, I have a super effective coaching program that can help you. You can go to my website to get more info! www.widowtotwidow.coach
@user-ph6ko6th9k11 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this video. I am from north east India, i am widow for 5 years. Last year i started a small widow ministry. Your videos help me a lot.
@widowtowidowcoach11 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for letting me know that they are helping you - and thank also for helping the widows in your part of the world. It is a profound journey.
@susanabraham889310 ай бұрын
Wonderful to know jus widowed a year now. It’s been a journey. Tc ♥️ God be with us. What ministry by the way pl 🎉
@widowtowidowcoach10 ай бұрын
@@susanabraham8893 so sorry for you loss - it is a hard journey! I hope what I am sharing helps! No ministry - just me and my heart!
@philly11111 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this video, much appreciated!
@widowtowidowcoach11 ай бұрын
Thanks for letting me know - I hope it helped you! I understand how overwhelming and isolating becoming a widow can be (I've been there) and I'm so glad that i can share some of my coping strategies. Be sure to watch the other as well!
@widowtowidowcoach2 ай бұрын
Checking in to see how things are going for you?
@ChristinaOstil11511 ай бұрын
Dating a new person can be hard because I found that men would date that younger single woman who never experienced being a widow.
@widowtowidowcoach11 ай бұрын
Hi Christine - you’re right about that - dating again is just hard anyway, but then finding someone who can not only RELATE to what your are going thru (ONLY someone who has lost their partner can actually relate) but that person also has to figure how to leave space for your deceased person to still be a part of your life (and their) life. That is a challenge. But not unreachable. Best of luck!
@gregflores895911 ай бұрын
@@widowtowidowcoachYou are correct on all points. My mom went through this, she was inconsolable for awhile, I couldn’t stand to see her suffer, I helped out.
@widowtowidowcoach11 ай бұрын
@@gregflores8959 Your mom is lucky to have you 💞
@gregflores895911 ай бұрын
@@widowtowidowcoach Thank you, it benefits both of us.
@diannejeffrey9265 Жыл бұрын
why am I so quivery and quavery??
@widowtowidowcoach Жыл бұрын
Please reach out to me directly? Hugs - Lidia
@diannejeffrey9265 Жыл бұрын
@@widowtowidowcoachhow do I reach out to you directly Lidia?
Hi Dianne, that's the physical shock your body is feeling. What was your anchor and physical life/ live support system is now gone and your nervous system is in melt down. I had it really bad for about 8 months up to the first year. It's a bit less now & I do stretching every day to Reiki music to regain my focus. ❤
@diannejeffrey9265 Жыл бұрын
Dear Lidia, I have been married for 57 years to the best man on Earth. I was bereaved on the 19th of December 2022 and I’m finding it incredibly difficult to cope with the loss the loneliness and the love I still feel from my beloved Nicky. I have lots of coping strategies, mainly suggested by my amazing friends network, but I cannot cannot cannot reconcile myself to the fact that… I can’t even say it. you see?bye for now, Dianne
@wendysullivan190911 ай бұрын
Dear Dianne. I feel for you. Me 42 years best man I ever knew. Miss him so much. But he would of wanted me to go on and live the best life I can. Try my dear to find some happiness Go out and bite the best out of life. Please find some happiness with in yourself .❤❤