Widows: Understanding your Loneliness

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★ Day 1: 6 Myths and Facts about Grieving
★ Day 2: Understanding Your Loneliness
★ Day 3: 6 Tips to Help you Cope with Loss
★ Day 4: The Secret to Being Truly Happy Once Again
★ Day 5: How to Handle the Hardships: The Do’s and Don’t’s
★ Day 6: Debunking Self-Care Myths
★ Day 7: 5 Mindset Hacks That Will Change Your Life
★ Day 8: Roses or Thorns?
★ Day 9: 6 Daily Happiness Habits
★ Day 10: How to Eat an Elephant
★ Day 11: Your Life, Your Choice
★ Day 12: How to Manage the Dangers of Grief and Loneliness
Whether you are newly widowed or have been on this journey for some time, this free daily video series is for you. My hope is that this series will help you feel more empowered, less alone, and better equipped to handle the challenges that come with grief.
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The Widow Wisdom series is produced by Widow to Widow LLC. Widow to Widow LLC offers support for widows seeking any of the following:
- grief resources for widows
- struggling with grief
- moving forward after loss of spouse
- being a grieving widow
- grieving the loss of your spouse
- how to cope with loss of spouse
- how to deal with husband's death
- how grief support helps widows
- how grief counseling helps widows
- how supporting young widow helps
- how widows support groups work
- how online widow support groups work
- help with grieving
- how to cope with loss
- how to cope with loneliness
- how to avoid chronic grief
- how to overcome grief
About me...
I'm Lidia Buzek. I was 47 when my husband died. I was numb, shattered and at a loss as to how I could ever carry on.
For 5 years, I struggled to get my life back. I tried doing it on my own (spoiler alert: time does NOT make it all go away). I tried grief groups, self-help books, and therapists. But none of those showed me how to survive the grief.
It took me over 5 (!!!) years before I found my way through, but you know what? It doesn't have to be that way for YOU.
And as a certified life coach, I've created the Grief Relief System - www.widowtowid... - to share with you what took me so many years to learn. It is a unique self-paced coaching program designed exclusively to lift you up and out from the grief rut. It provides hope, structure, and guidance so that you can have a life that you can truly love living.

[@jn3098]

My wife of 38 years just passed two months ago. She was my soulmate ,and everyone says she’s happy now. Well the ones left on earth are the ones who suffer

[@truthboomertruthbomber5125]

That is the reality of life and death.

[@maggiesace389]

Im so tired of feeling alone (social and situational) and lonely (emotional). Am I at risk for being a chronic alone/lonely? Yep. Am I gonna fight against it with HOPE? Yep! 🙏

[@nancywest4094]

It’s been 5 years, 3 months, and 11 days today. 12/31/23. I found your channel a few weeks ago. But I haven’t watched regularly. I’m 73 years old, I live alone in a nice, but rural area. Living on Social Security and hoping I can make my savings last. Thank you for explaining loneliness. Hoping to find more peace deep inside myself in 2024.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Wishing you everything to be wonderful for your this year!!

[@mharryvan5324]

@@nancywest4094 hi Nancy. I hope you are managing. Life on social welfare isn't easy. But you sound like you can prioritize and your journey to inner peace will bring you to the right choices.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

just wanted to check in and see how you are doing!

[@jenasys520]

I am now widowed at 32, he passed away 3 days ago. I feel I am in emotional loneliness and still traumatised watching him die from pancreatic cancer. Thank you for posting stuff like this. I dont know how I will get through this, but somehow I can forsee I will.

[@jordanlin777]

I am 46 and my wife passed away 2 months ago. I am feeling exactly what you are feeling as well. It takes time to get better, but you can do it.

[@joanns7842]

Oh, so sorry for you dear. Be strong. Time will work with you and not against you. Accept as best as you can the reality, the loss, the love, the grief… it all works together inside of you. I hope you have a. Strong faith in God’s love and goodness. IT was kept me strong and believing that there is some eternal purpose for our losses and pain. The love you shared is real and will keep giving to you if you will allow it. Seek to embrace this new place as it has gifts to give your soul, too. This is a path no one really chooses for themselves. There are many of us here, though. Cry when you need to, wipe your tears away and get up and do something good for yourself, be patient, be strong… and never let go of the love you shared. Love is eternal. God is love and He will always be with you to show you the way. God bless and keep you in this time of sorrow and pain.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Hey - checking in to see how you are doing?

[@joanns7842]

Dear Lydia, thank you for providing this platform for widows. I look forward to hearing you. It has be 4 1/2 years for me. I thought I was doing well, until the 4 year came around and it feels like I have only just begun to grieve. I had 3 children still living at home when my husband passed and I had to be strong for them. But now my youngest is a high schooler and doesn’t me as much. I find that the loneliness and sense of purpose in my life is glaring in me in the face. I don’t want to have another relationship to soothe this pain; I want to live my life and enjoy who I am… I hope to find other widows in the same place as I am. I am in my mid-50s. God bless you for sharing with us.

[@mharryvan5324]

@@joanns7842 dear Joan, I can connect with your phrase of grief staring you in the face. I wake up to this empty hollow feeling every day and before getting off the bed I feel exhausted. I'm glad your children were at home with you during the early time, I'm on my own since my husband died last year april.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Joann - I’m so very sorry! Your path is almost identical to the one I walked a few year ago. Just want to let you know that I am here for you! If you want to connect, let me know. 🥰

[@tatiekbokings7930]

if we are used to be alone then nothing to worry

[@widowtowidowcoach]

@@tatiekbokings7930 everyone’s journey is different - and there’s so much that needs to be adjusted to. It’s not just being alone that is a challenge.

[@joanns7842]

@@widowtowidowcoach in happy tears just to know you have offered time to me.. thank you! Just knowing you have someone who understands without even saying a word is strength… Thank you.. I am just now seeing your response.. .not so saavy with youtube interaction.. :). I will follow more of your videos and get better acquainted! God bless you! You speak what I feel! :)

[@diannejeffrey9265]

Dear Lidia, I have been married for 57 years to the best man on Earth. I was bereaved on the 19th of December 2022 and I’m finding it incredibly difficult to cope with the loss the loneliness and the love I still feel from my beloved Nicky. I have lots of coping strategies, mainly suggested by my amazing friends network, but I cannot cannot cannot reconcile myself to the fact that… I can’t even say it. you see?bye for now, Dianne

[@wendysullivan1909]

Dear Dianne. I feel for you. Me 42 years best man I ever knew. Miss him so much. But he would of wanted me to go on and live the best life I can. Try my dear to find some happiness Go out and bite the best out of life. Please find some happiness with in yourself .❤❤

[@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb]

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from,?

[@patriciaspires5450]

Soulmate gone going on 11 years! I’m in the chronic stage!

[@slf5141]

I was widowed suddenly at 48 .... its been 2.5 years and its hard ... im a bit more social but its still hard at home alone .. weeknights and weekends.

[@Wookinpanub235]

Yeah its tough. I’m a 53 y/o man. Lost my wife to cancer 2 months ago. Lots of red tape makes the grieving process all the worse and forces you to be in full survival mode. I’ve also been trying to have as much social life as possible. Just going to the store alone at first was a weird feeling. Ive done it a million times but at first it was like I was trying to walk for the first time again, lost like a magnet that lost its other half. Sooooo…..Im just trying to make the most of it in social settings and being receptive to looks from the ladies for the first time since I started dating my Wife when we were in high school. I’m staying busy, keeping my health and body a top priority and hoping the right lady might come along. This would make my wife happy because she kept insisting I remarry. She was worried for me and was always think ten steps ahead. I think staying busy and having as much social interaction is the best way to handle rediscovering yourself after losing your soul mate…it is hard bit the more you do it the easier it gets and the more you’re receptive to smiles, comments and glances from the opposite sex. Its a good feeling to get smiles from the ladies and Ive been taking really good care of my body and eating better. Even with all the crazy red tape Im still finding time to heal myself and the best healing for me has been the looks I get from the ladies and it has done a-lot for my confidence and helps me all around in my outlook on life and keeps me from being stuck in a dark place. I have to a wedding soon. My Wifes coworker’s Daughter is getting married. Im like and Uncle to this girl and she loves me to death. She texts me often and my wife was her biggest hero and she misses her alot. All of my wife’s co workers, all females will be there. I know its going to be really weird seeing them all again because I havent seen them since my wife’s memorial service and I know they’re all going to be awkwardly looking at me to see how Im doing and Im hoping none of them make any comments about my wife at all because I dont want to Lose my shit in front of them all…again. They saw me do it in the hospital with my wife and at her memorial service and all its gonna take is one of these ladies walking up to me with her eyes welling up with tears and that will be it for me. I know the bride is gonna cry as soon as she sees me. Its almost like I dont want to go because I know what will happen bit I cant miss it for the world because the bride has been texting me every week reminding me to come. My Daughter is coming with me for moral support. This is gojng to be tough but I figure if I got through my wifes memorial service I’ll het through this. I just don’t think Ill be staying for the reception, I’m gonna duck out to avoid people feeling awkward around me and me around them.

[@mharryvan5324]

@@slf5141 same here. My husband died april last year and I Stil can't grasp it.

[@catherinebosley7539]

That is where I am now and my Husband is alive,but lost to Vascular Dementia,in a care home and I stand on the outside of his life,unable to help.I come home every day,after visiting choking with loneliness.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Oh I’m so sorry! I am not unfamiliar with that burden. You may be interested in getting started now with my program. You can get more info on my website www.widowtowidow.coach

[@mechellepillay8801]

Everything u have said is so true. I feel all of this

[@widowtowidowcoach]

a great bit hug for you! Please reach out to me if you want more guidance!

[@edieh393]

I’m in chronic and c ant get out ,, and don’t think I’ll ever will

[@npenick66]

My wife of 20 years unexpectedly passed in her sleep almost 3 months ago on 1/5/24. We have a 14 year old semi verbal autistic son that needs 24/7 supervision. Throwing myself into full time parent mode has helped me get through the initial crippling pain of loss but I know it's not a viable long term solution. My closest relatives are 1100 miles away. My two closest buddies moved out of the area over the last year. So I'm definitely isolated socially, my only real in person interactions are with the staff at my son's school. Relocating to be closer to relatives (very small family) may give me a little social interaction and an emergency backup for temporarily watching my son in case something happens to me but I'll still be on 24/7 Dad duty. I'm trying to see a way to avoid the long term cronic issue but I don't see it yet. I'm getting past the initial FUBAR phase hoping to get into SNAFU sometime soon but I'm worried for the long term.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

so sorry for your loss. You’ll be challenged in the days ahead - no doubt about that - but work on taking it a day at time. Look for a support group as well.

[@TraceyTraysea]

It's been 4 years. I still have trouble getting out of bed. 😢

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Oh Tracy....I’m so sorry. Do you know that I have a program specifically designed to help widows through their grief so that they can start really LIVING again? Go to my website for more info www.widowtowidow.coach

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Hey Tracy - checking in to see how you are doing?

[@TraceyTraysea]

@@widowtowidowcoach Thank you for checking in. I am actually not doing well.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

@@TraceyTraysea I’m sorry to hear that. If you are ready to try something different to get your life back, I have an amazing program that can show you how. And I have different levels of help available depending on what you are looking for. let me know?

[@user-ph6ko6th9k]

Thank you for sharing this video. I am from north east India, i am widow for 5 years. Last year i started a small widow ministry. Your videos help me a lot.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Thank you so much for letting me know that they are helping you - and thank also for helping the widows in your part of the world. It is a profound journey.

[@susanabraham8893]

Wonderful to know jus widowed a year now. It’s been a journey. Tc ♥️ God be with us. What ministry by the way pl 🎉

[@widowtowidowcoach]

@@susanabraham8893 so sorry for you loss - it is a hard journey! I hope what I am sharing helps! No ministry - just me and my heart!

[@patriciaredick9849]

Just found your channel. Really liked your brief, encouraging information. Very helpful to me. Thank you. Newly subscribed.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Oh i'm SO GLAD!! It's such a hard journey - and it feels so isolating. I'm happy to be able to share what I've learned with others!

[@mharryvan5324]

I miss buying clothes and wine for my husband........ 27 May would be our 30th anniversary. It has been a horrendous year since April 2023.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

I’m so sorry. I know how hard it is. Please reach out if you would like some support!

[@plangnanyakwen7373]

This is so helpful,i will try get over my Emotional loneliness

[@widowtowidowcoach]

just checking in to see how you are doing?

[@aaishkarajawat9639]

We were in relationship for 7 years from 10th standard but we knew each other from childhood, we married on 7 December 2021 and just after 7 months and one week he got into a road accident on 15 July 2022 , it'll be 2 year soon but I still don't have any idea what to do now, I don't have any direction for my life , I don't have any idea what's going on in my life, everyone has ignored me like I never existed even my best friend didn't even called me after visiting once, my family members they are forcing me to remarry as I'm only 23 but they never understand the pain and fear that's not leaving me, they never understand that even the thought of some other man touching me makes me cry

[@widowtowidowcoach]

I’m so sorry - but I do understand what you are going through. If you are still feeling like this, please know that I can help you with all of it. Just reach and let’s talk.

[@tatiekbokings7930]

if i feel lonely not for a men but social interaction.just call friends n meet somewhere or doing my embroidery❤😂

[@cynthiawinn9496]

I believe I am in the chronic stage its been 11 years this month 1/12/24. Im barren as well. Im 63 with no hope. I'm sad, depressed and miserable. No friends or close family who cares, live near by.. I work byt it's a struggle every day and night. Do I really have a future? We were married for 32 years. I still miss him a lot.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Aw Cynthia - I’m so sad to hear this! No hope for 11 years must be a really hard way to exist.😥 You ask if you have a future. I’d say yes absolutely - BUT it’s up to you what that future will look like right? I’m hearing that you are not happy with how things are - so you need to do something different. I’d be more than happy to guide you thru this - let’s get you out of this rut so that you can breathe again!! If you are interested, you can contact me me at [e-mail].

[@cynthiawinn9496]

@@widowtowidowcoach I will reach out to you!! Thank you!! I can use some help.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

@@cynthiawinn9496 hey - how are you doing?

[@philly111]

Thank you for sharing this video, much appreciated!

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Thanks for letting me know - I hope it helped you! I understand how overwhelming and isolating becoming a widow can be (I've been there) and I'm so glad that i can share some of my coping strategies. Be sure to watch the other as well!

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Checking in to see how things are going for you?

[@LMaxson235]

thank you, this is helpful

[@widowtowidowcoach]

I’m SO glad it helped you! Please reach out if you need anything else!

[@alimatambwe3402]

I have been married for 12 years,I lose my husband in difficult situations was just surprised me,I remember was Saturday night my husband came from work he was really worried,I try my best taking care for him all the tasks needed.when he done we was just chill and talked but he was worried and ask more Questions and told me if he died how I ll survive with his children alone and told me his has feeling he can’t make it tomorrow while still alive and that was true he didn’t make.he woke up in morning and bath and told me to get ready he’s going somewhere so he ll come back to pick me with children to go out but after people came with care his body death.I ll never forget that day was difficult day to me,I remember how he was talking with to night about death,I feel he was saying goodbye to me I didn’t know.that day until now comes to me like memories it has brought me hurts attack and anxiety I feel very lonely but I struggle very much to raise children alone.he died left me with six children.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

extra hugs for you - that’s a big load to carry

[@mrsacademy1003]

Your experience is quite relate able with me. My husband died . And i have 1 kid girl to grown up alone. 😢😢 i am financially independent but still facing trouble when i face contradiction situation. My husband was my great motivator. 😊

[@widowtowidowcoach]

@@mrsacademy1003 if you are still struggling with your grief, I have a super effective coaching program that can help you. You can go to my website to get more info! www.widowtotwidow.coach

[@user-wk1ml3jo9j]

Church 0:35

[@nisanabibu8946]

I think i'm experiencing all the them Exactly 2months now 😰

[@widowtowidowcoach]

I’m so sorry for your loss.Be very cautious about the chronic stage. You don’t want to get stuck there. And look - there’s no reason that you need to figure this all out on your own. I’m here to help if you want! Go to www.widowtowidow.coach and message me.

[@kathyd485]

I lost my husband after 20 yrs ...I am totally lost

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Hi Kathy - I get that feeling of being totally lost. How are things working out now? Just to let you know that there there is support available - I can guide you through this! Reach out!

[@diannejeffrey9265]

why am I so quivery and quavery??

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Please reach out to me directly? Hugs - Lidia

[@diannejeffrey9265]

@@widowtowidowcoachhow do I reach out to you directly Lidia?

[@widowtowidowcoach]

@@diannejeffrey9265 you can email me at [e-mail] -

[@mharryvan5324]

Hi Dianne, that's the physical shock your body is feeling. What was your anchor and physical life/ live support system is now gone and your nervous system is in melt down. I had it really bad for about 8 months up to the first year. It's a bit less now & I do stretching every day to Reiki music to regain my focus. ❤

[@ChristinaOstil115]

Dating a new person can be hard because I found that men would date that younger single woman who never experienced being a widow.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Hi Christine - you’re right about that - dating again is just hard anyway, but then finding someone who can not only RELATE to what your are going thru (ONLY someone who has lost their partner can actually relate) but that person also has to figure how to leave space for your deceased person to still be a part of your life (and their) life. That is a challenge. But not unreachable. Best of luck!

[@gregflores8959]

@@widowtowidowcoachYou are correct on all points. My mom went through this, she was inconsolable for awhile, I couldn’t stand to see her suffer, I helped out.

[@widowtowidowcoach]

@@gregflores8959 Your mom is lucky to have you 💞

[@gregflores8959]

@@widowtowidowcoach Thank you, it benefits both of us.

[@nocotton]

Widow's need to refrain from dating someone who is ALIVE after losing a spouse. You'll always be less of a person than "he" was. Been there and done that. Run, guys!! I played this stupid game for 5 years--it does not change!!

[@widowtowidowcoach]

Oh my goodness! Sorry you had that experience - but that is definitely not true across the board!

[@yxngthugger1561]

@@widowtowidowcoachof course it’s true. If it doesn’t apply to some then you never loved your deceased husband

[@pamcornelius9122]

Jackie Kennedy once said the first marriage is for love, the second for money and the third for companionship. 🤔

[@user-jy2qp8gp2l]

Jesteśmy przeklęci przez boga, by w młodym wieku zostać wdowcem / wdową, bo mamy już piekło na ziemi !!!