My first memory is my own thought at age 3 walking into Walmart to get my picture taken with a sleeveless dress looking at my arms thinking oh no they’re too fat. Since I was so young I must’ve learned that even before then which is heartbreaking. Those pictures today make me sad. I’m smiling but I can see that I’m actually upset 😢. I sometimes hug my little inner child and tell her she’s good enough just as she is. It’s difficult.

I work with my inner child every day. I love her, the many iterations of her, and it’s been so life changing to morph my relationship to myself in one that is loving and creating space and empathetic rather than trying to control and hate. Absolutely life changing

Hi Sarah!! This is a difficult one that I feel like I make progress and then regress with continually. It’s hard to give myself permission to eat unhealthy foods at any time when I try so hard to achieve health with what I put in my body. But I realize that restricting these foods actually leads to eating them bring pleasure at other times. It’s something I still need to work on and part of the overall becoming more relaxed with food on a daily basis

My mom has been dying of cancer. She’s nearing end of life right now. Almost I want to do is eat eat eat and eat bread! I need it to stop!!

Find out are you actually binging. I was not. In a year food was changed to muscle and im much fitter and leaner. I am afraid of certain foods which sucks.

Omg I think your content is amazing!

I really needed to see this video! I have been struggling with both urges for so long now. I just didn't have the words. I am so grateful that I found your videos today. Just ordered your book. Thanks so much for being in this space!!!

Hey it’s me, your biggest fan lol. 🎉 thank you Sarah for these videos! I really resonate that control and out of control are two parallels that try to I guess balance each other out in some way. This just feels like such a stupid problem to have. This is a necessary requirement for life and I tend to screw it up lol. When I feel recovered sometimes I catch myself doing more controlling behaviors. Today I commit to questioning my beliefs around my black and white thinking. I think my words are: Nourishing, calm, satisfying. I reject the idea that I can’t achieve perfect middle ground Sarah LOL. Jk

This is so true. For years I've had the goal of 'losing weight' and have tried a ton of punitive diets that don't work. This year, partly as a result of your videos (!) I'm working on eating mindfully, something I've not mastered before. It's not a restrictive thing of saying I can't ever have chocolate again, but I'm not overindulging, listening to hunger cues etc. This alone is a struggle but I'm slowly getting there, and as a result I'm losing weight, even though I'm not actually focusing on that at the moment. I think I finally realised I needed to work on my relationship with food before I can focus 100% on weight loss. Yay me! ❤

I'm heavy enough that I have to loose weight but I've been dieting on and off since childhood and just trying again wasn't gonna work for me. Over a year ago I came across your videos and listened to your book and put weigh loss on the back burner. I knew I needed to loose weight but I also needed to heal my relationship to fold and mindset. I tried intuitive eating for several months then I moved on to slowly cutting out most ultra processed foods (I am not going to get 100% and thats fine!) for heath reasons. Now I just started WW about a month ago and it's a whole different experience! My mindset is different and I'm navigating it so much better than ever before. When I get to my goal weight im going to try to go back to intuitive eating to maintain a healthy weight and relationship with food. My goal isn't to be skinny or look a certain way, its to be healthy

You are so insightful.

This was beautifully put together. Thank you so much. You helped me untangle thoughts i never knew were tangled to begin with.

Touché. 🙏

Do you have any resources for intuitive eating for people with autism? I am autistic and often don't feel hunger cues or fullness cues until it's too late and I'm either hangry or stuffed.

what can a under 18 do to get help in the uk?

what can a under 18 do to get help in the uk?

If you take an honest look you can see for yourself to what extent focusing on weight loss is ruining your relationship with food. Don’t take anyone else’s word. Explore for yourself. For most people I work with focusing on weight loss at the same time as trying to heal a dysregulated appetite just doesn’t work. Some will say you have to give up any expectation of weight loss forever. I say your job is to focus on NOW and where you would benefit most from putting your time and energy. ❓But if I’m not focusing on weight loss, what am I focusing on? Here are a few ideas with suggestions for accounts to follow: 👉🏼 Nervous system regulation - @iamstefaniemichele and @_stephaniemara are great accounts to follow for help with this 👉🏼 Dismantle diet culture - @alexlight_ldn @lifeafterdietspodcast 👉🏼 Learning about intuitive eating - @intuitive.eating.ireland and @intuitive.eating.ni 👉🏼 Eat 3 meals and day, plus a couple of snacks to help regulate your appetite - dietician accounts: @elenakunickird @binge.eating.dietitian 👉🏼 If food is a coping mechanism, what are you trying to ‘cope with’? Are there deeper issues at play? If so, you may want to check out my YT channel The Binge Eating Therapist **And yes, I am shamelessly exploiting my cat for the algorithm **#notsorry** For more cat antics @utterly_otterlie *** If you would like to join a therapy group, please DM or contact me via my website 90 minute weekly therapy groups (UK times but international applicants welcome) Monday 12noon-1.30pm (GLP1 users only) Monday 5.30-7.30pm Tuesday 12.30-2pm Tuesday 5.30-7pm Wednesday 12-1.30pm All groups are facilitated by me, a BACP accredited psychotherapist #intuitiveeating #recoveryispossible #healyourrelationshipwithfood

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Thank you

Great information congratulations!!

Sarah, you rock so much❤

Sarah, this is absolutely brilliant. Primal and dopamine chasing I now know are both factors for me, mind blown! I appreciate your wisdom, thank you for sharing.

Just found your account. Thank you for making this content, you have definitely made me feel a bit more normal but hopeful to alter the norm. ❤

Thank you! Feels great to have words to put to experience I didn’t know were even happening.

I will believe I am recovered when I stopped saying I’d start again tomorrow. Now is the time to stop and start.

Another thing that has been really important for me is internalizing your theory of being in state A vs state B and practicing come back to state A. Bringing this theory into meditation allows me to practice going back to observing from the non observing state. And then letting go of perfectionism around making a change. Like drinking more green tea or going to bed earlier, for me. If I go back to state B of staying up till 3 and staying dehydrated, when I suddenly remember that another part of me had different goals, I can go back to state A which is aware of this other parts intentions and go ahead and got to bed earlier out of self love and brew a cup of tea bc I want myself to feel good, and let go of the guilt and shame that I hadn’t done it perfectly 100% of the time since I decided to do it with the knowledge that I am working on becoming more observant and working with my various parts to do things for myself that feel good for me.

lol the cat chiming in :3 Thank you for another awesome video Sarah!! I will watch and comment and ingest each of your videos, sometimes more than once! ✨

Thank You!❤

I'm so distracted by your cat hahaha....love it though 🤩 but this is again a great video and very helpful for me, thank you.

4:20 "Combobulation fatigue"?

timestamps for each chapter: Introduction: 2:30 Part One: Chapter One - Everybody Overeats: 0:07:28 Chapter Two - Your Body, Your Home: 0:33:27 Chapter Three - Why Control Isn't the Answer to Out-of-Control Eating: 0:57:57 Chapter Four - Not What to Eat but How to Eat: 1:30:20 Chapter Five - An Inward Journey: 2:00:30 Chapter Six - Who We Are (and Why it Matters): 2:29:18 Chapter Seven - Eating to Escape: 3:03:51 Part Two - The RALIC Method: Chapter Eight - Introducing the RALIC Method: 3:27:53 Chapter Nine - The RALIC Method: R is for Recognise: 3:36:29 Chapter Ten - The RALIC Method: A is for Accept: 3:58:31 Chapter Eleven - The RALIC Method: LI is for Lean In: 4:18:18 Chapter Twelve - The RALIC Method: C is for Choose: 4:33:28 The RALIC Method - A Quick Guide: 4:47:32 Chapter Thirteen - Troubleshooting the RALIC Method: 4:51:04 Chapter Fourteen - The RALIC Life: 5:09:33

Hi can you tell me how to control myself from eating junk I ate juck thing just a few minutes ago now I regret and crying starting proper diet tomorrow

So how do you stop ?

I get what you’re trying to say, but this is so frustrating. So we just have to be ok with being overweight, even if we absolutely hate it and it affects our health? I just can’t accept that.

I've struggled deeply with Christianity because it made me feel unworthy of love, especially 'God's' love. The teachings often led me to hate myself and believe I was never good enough. I'm grateful for people like Brandon and the MindShift channel, who challenge these harmful ideas and offer a healthier perspective.

I will believe I recovered when I can eat till I am comfortably full and satisfied even if it means I didn’t clear my plate. I can eat without any compulsion to finish everything in sight

Thanks for these real suggestions Sarah! I’m really proud of myself today as I usually go to the gym for at least an hour every day. I was debating not going at all or going as part of my normal expectations (driven by my ED) but I heard my parts and decided to do a 30 mins exercise video at home, focusing on movement, not calories burnt. Not a complete day off but a compromise that felt more tolerable for me today. Wish I could be this aware more! 😂

Yes, I relate. The analyse paralyse is my stumbling block.

I agree, I can't keep crisps in the house because I will eat the whole bag (big one). I can't stop because of the chemicals in them and of course, they are delicious.

Wonderful! I read a book called Addiction to Perfection by Marion Woodman. It's society's message about being perfect. If I am perfect, my troubles will be gone. Obviously it isn't true but it seems to sit in our beings as a temptation against life's challenges.

wow you described what I feel and think perfectly. I have been struggling with binge eating for years now. And before that I was a master at restricting and controlling my weight by not eating. So now that I'm older and don't have the will power to fast/restrict like I used to its so hard for me. I just want to have a normal relationship with food and stop thinking about it 24/7.

Until you said, "Sorry about my cat," I was looking all over to see which of my four cats was calling me. 🙂 Great advice as always!

I am not bald.

Thanks for this great channel, it's been such a help. I just discoverd Stacy Sims who specialises in woman's nutrition and fitness. She points out most research is done on men. She's got lots of stuff on youtube and a mind blowing TED talk - 'Women are not small men''. Intermittent fasting is fine for men but detrimental for women. Best wishes to everyone, Jackie

Thank you doctor. I'm from srilanka

Thank you ❤

I will believe when I'm recovered when I no longer use food as an emotional crutch.

Why are you taking about adhd as if you can say who does an doesn’t have it it’s being more identified now because of a better wider understanding and knowledge not just because of the current world we’re in it’s just worsening the symptoms but yes there are loads of poor with it

I actually watched this after a binge, and sometimes when I binge I take a break because I think I’m gonna stop, then I go back and eat some more. I watched this and it makes me not want to go back :) thank you so much❤️❤️

Your videos are amazing ❤ thanks for sharing this with the world for free!!!