⁉️ Do I HAVE to Stop Trying to Lose Weight to Stop Binge Eating? Therapist Responds...

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@TheBingeEatingTherapist Ай бұрын

For more information about HOW to regulate your appetite, check out this playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PL-0iL93mU_TSGEVMaxBE-S0yn2bShlPCs&si=T-Bz6sp54c6T-vaq

@Peafice Ай бұрын

It’s so crazy how you can feel SO understood by someone through a “screen” I’m genuinely grateful I found you.

@valodimopoulou8865 2 ай бұрын

I am binge eating 3 days in a row. Eating half loaf of bread after buying it from bakery and while walking. Everything I do is useless It's excruciating mental pain. My goal is exactly this, regulate the pattern of eating Then the weight loss will come naturally. For me now food is a comfort to financial distress which ironically makes me spend so much more for food! I am emotionally and physically knackered.

@josie9306 Ай бұрын

I'm so so sorry I've been in similar situation so many times and that's a horrible feeling. This book called "it's not about the food," from 2008 helped me so much. I didn't read the whole thing I just took what resonated with me but it helped me let go of "trying" to "control" myself with food and I started letting up a little bit and became able to eat for hunger and stop at fullness over time. Just recently I gained a little weight after eating more for a few weeks related to chronic illness and I didn't freak out hardly at all for the first time in my life and it was/is amazing!! So I didn't go to restriction or trying to control myself and so I just went back to eating my normal now which is eating whatever I want and stopping when full. I'm 34 and have had disordered eating since I was 14, and I discovered helpful books like the one I mentioned when I was 29 and have been recovering for the last 5 years. Anyway long spiel but I am so sorry for what you're going through right now. "Trying" so hard and releasing some resistance and control helped me more than anything ever. Sending so much 💕

@valodimopoulou8865 Ай бұрын

@josie9306 Thank you so much for taking the time to write your story. Just to add that I have a chronic condition myself, diabetes type 1 which makes it even harder. Sending you blessings and a big hug!😘

@DemureDelight8055 Ай бұрын

I am recovering from BED and am I think hopefully replacing food with other rewards that actually help me. You hit the nail I’m the head. I gave to others and never gave to myself. I didn’t even know how to fill up my own cup. When I had thought of doing nice things for myself another voice in my head said NO!! for some reason?? I’ve worked on this super hard. Even when I did do self care things it came from a place of guilt and shame like “should” and perfectionism. Now I can do things that feel good bc I feel like I deserve them and bc it feels good. Life is more beautiful now

@newaccount8022 Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this video and all of your videos. I've heard this message many times from your videos, and every time I hear it, it made sense, but it is not until today that it finally clicked. It did because I just went through some difficult days where I did everything I thought would help to stop it, but i still ate uncontrollably. There was a lot of presence, a lot of noticing, and must of all, a lot of letting go. All that had to happen before it finally clicked. I finally understand that it's not about the food. It's about me and most of all about giving myself permission to be nice to myself, without guilt, without shame. Basically, I had enough of mistreating myself. And of course about learning to be okay with not being okay😊

@abc_ratio Ай бұрын

You can lose weight by the way. But slowly. Don't reduce your calories too much. And be patient it is okay even if you lose 1 kg in a month. Focus on whole foods, eat regular meals don't skip meals, don't eat while watching or on the couch. Focus on building muscles. And general be active walk, cycle outside, run, swim find an activity hobby for yourself.

@suebarton9995 2 ай бұрын

So grateful to you, Sarah. Thank you for your videos.

@madamel.6756 Ай бұрын

Thank you, Sarah! Loved that question at the end. I think that, yes, if I were to remove all the bingeing and everything that I consider to be overeating, I’d be in a slight deficit. I never really thought of it like that! And you're so right, if I cannot regulate my eating now, what are the chances I'll be able to regulate it when I've got all these hormonal mechanisms to deal with. You really do give us a lot to think about!

@vivianwohl 28 күн бұрын

Sometimes it is so hard to understand what you are saying because I'm Dutch. But the things I understand are amazing. In fact, you are the person I need. I'm talking with a psychologist who specializes in eating problems for many weeks now but it is not working for me. I need someone like you. But I don't know were to look in the Netherlands. So, for now I'm gonna watch all you videos and try to heal myself.

@RobloxGamerRuby 2 ай бұрын

I'd love to know how to regulate my appetite

@Sypeth 2 ай бұрын

I feel like it’s a super power I’ll never have 😣

@abaslesregimes.sarahb.8366 Ай бұрын

I believe you will regulate your appetite by eating what you want, whenever you want and as much as you want. It will then regulate by itself.

@RobloxGamerRuby Ай бұрын

I just can't do that. I've been trying to do intutive eating for years and I've gained several stone and now I'm in a lot of pain because of my weight. My knees and back are always hurting. And I really can't afford to keep buying bigger clothes. I think I need to learn more about emotional eating and how to reduce that.

@Sypeth Ай бұрын

@abaslesregimes.sarahb.8366 I would recommend being careful with this method. While it certainly works for some people with troubled relationships with food, it doesn't with others as it’s just a free pass for the brain to eat whatever it wants, and trust me, some brains are twats ! 😅 with my particular issue with food it did quite a lot of damage. There are some good pro and con videos on KZbin that are useful to see whether it could indeed help with the whole "I could eat 10 mars bars in a row" issue just because your brain thinks it can't have them and when you offer them it will say yes once or twice and then ask for only 2 and fruits, which is brilliant ! Or your brain could be like Kevin being Home alone where he can eat as much as he wants and proceeds to do so until he gets sick... and you mix it with the memory of Dory and get a brain that never gets tired of eating junk food. The issue here is then when do you stop this intuitive way of eating, how do you know it's actually not the right method for your own situation. I have lived it, that's why I emphasize on learning what there's to know about this method.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist Ай бұрын

I have a whole playlist on appetite regulation: kzbin.info/aero/PL-0iL93mU_TSGEVMaxBE-S0yn2bShlPCs&si=T-Bz6sp54c6T-vaq

@Safferz Ай бұрын

Hi Sarah, I’ve been a lurker here for a little bit but wanted to finally comment that it always feels incredibly reassuring to know that I’m not alone in my struggles with appetite and food. Your commentary about food as a reward and a strong desire to people please is me to a T! You are also so spot on about that chase for that feeling of reward when it comes to weight loss, at least in my personal experience. I found that I would continually do well on weight loss and dieting the more I saw continual progress but as soon as I hit a plateau or stalled I wasn’t getting that reward hit that kept me distracted from turning to food and would inevitably wind up turning back to food to seek it. 😅 For as long as I can remember, especially as a kid, food was always the reward for things like ‘great job you finished school today, let’s go get a cupcake!’ which eventually evolved into ‘hey it’s end of the week/day, let’s celebrate our job well done for making it through… but with food!’. I so badly want to learn how to better regulate my appetite and teach myself better discipline when it comes to delaying gratification and work on telling myself things like ‘how about we wait and see how we feel in 10 minutes first’. I am certainly at the point where I’m ready to speak to a psychotherapist about these struggles and find healthier ways to reward myself and work on my overall relationship with food.

@TheBingeEatingTherapist Ай бұрын

Thanks for coming out to say hi! ❤ I'm really glad my content has resonated so much with you xx

@Flauschbally 2 ай бұрын

Thank you Sarah, this video is so helpful and interesting. So logical. Love your Blueprint Course.

@mlouw8218 Ай бұрын

Thanks Sarah! I’ve had eating issues since I was a teenager. They’ve shapeshifted a lot, but generally become stronger and stronger over time (I’ll be 34 in January). Like any addiction, they’ve squeezed out other aspects of my life: I haven’t got energy to work, I’ve developed social anxiety/phobia, I can’t imagine going back to school etc. Since I binge every day, I don’t find it that rewarding, but everything else seems even more unappealing. I suspect this may have something to do with dopamine dysregulation, but I wonder if you have any thoughts or advice for this situation. It’s hard to find motivation to recover when life seems to vacillate between dull and frightening moments, and I can’t really think of anything that I want (at least nothing that seems achievable). Hope this doesn’t depress you, I just feel a bit stuck and it’s hard for me to imagine letting go of the eating stuff…

@TheBingeEatingTherapist Ай бұрын

I really love this video. It helped me when I was in a dark spot and life felt very pointless: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nYqooal4naqJocUsi=N8sGvxBx2V-_G7WS

@flowerpower9464 Ай бұрын

@@TheBingeEatingTherapistThank you so much.

@katrinawolfe9981 Ай бұрын

Thanks Sarah so insightful as always. I just feel not pursuing weight loss is so unsafe and that regulating my hunger, honouring my own set point and eating what my body deems enough will leave my body physically bigger and that is a dangerous (consciously and subconsciously) place to be. Any tips for overcoming the fear? Thanks so much you are so fab!

@polina4238 16 күн бұрын

Oh lord, this thing with dopamine chasing is really what happens to me all the time. First couple of days/weeks after binging I stick to a very restrictive diet and feel so freaking excited and inspired by my weight loss… and then I suddenly get apathetic and depressed (because i’m starving!!) and i run to the nearest bakery to buy all my cravings. Then i feel guilty and binge for a week non stop. And then I start all over again. These “ups and downs” every time get more and more frustrating, and honestly i almost lost my hope to ever feel calm around food again. I know i have to shift my mindset from losing weight to being healthy. But I also feel this anorexic anxiety and persistence because i used to have anorexia for 9 years before I’d developed BED and gained many kilos. Anyways, I know i’ll never give up. Life is to precious to give in to my ed. Thank you for your videos, Sarah, they are really helpful and uplifting ❤

@TheBingeEatingTherapist 16 күн бұрын

I’m glad my videos are helping! ❤️ There is a tendency these days to attribute a lot of this to dopamine chasing, but I would say that if you are doing a ‘very restrictive diet’ it’s probably that more than a dopamine issue. That said, when you have been restricting the reward pathways in the brain probably get such a massive hit that it certainly could overlap with the dopamine theory

@polina4238 16 күн бұрын

@ Thank you for the reply! 🤍 Yes, it’s highly probable that both of these things affect my eating patterns. Anyways, now it’s dawning on me that i have to put my mental peace number one priority rather than weight loss to end this vicious cycle.

@amyh1045 Ай бұрын

Thank you for this reminder…

@paulawhittaker3538 Ай бұрын

How can I let go of dieting/restricting and also be ok knowing there will be weight gain (before anyone says how do you know that for sure - well, I'm in a deficit and have actually lost weight so if I eat more I will gain) I've read the books, followed so many anti diet accounts but still I cant let go.

@sweetnothingsasmr1 4 күн бұрын

I get what you’re trying to say, but this is so frustrating. So we just have to be ok with being overweight, even if we absolutely hate it and it affects our health? I just can’t accept that.

@Lavendel-ly5pb Ай бұрын

Please please please make an video on how to reggulate appitite 🙏🏽

@Lavendel-ly5pb Ай бұрын

Not just for weightloss but for a healthier relationship with food and peace of mind

@TheBingeEatingTherapist Ай бұрын

I have a playlist on appetite regulation: kzbin.info/aero/PL-0iL93mU_TSGEVMaxBE-S0yn2bShlPCs&si=Fs7S5kgK26QLIz-7

@shenandoah1322 Ай бұрын

I started the ketogenic diet on Oct. 17/24 and my cravings stopped within days. I feel satiated and satisfied when I focus on my protein and vegetables. I am also eating healthy fats, such as avocados, olive oil in my homemade salad dressing. I am absolutely loving a large tin of salmon mixed with homemade guacamole for my quick and easy work lunches. I am not counting calories or macros and I only binged once on keto bars once since I started keto, and now I've gotten rid of the keto bars. I haven't been tempted, since that one binge, to binge even on stressful days that I previously would have binged. Before I started keto I would binge almost every night after work and on weekends too. I also am in therapy, using a trauma protocol called observed experiential integration to work through a lot of trauma, including around my binge eating, and it's helping me in other areas of my life too.

@heyyahhh655 Ай бұрын

You never really cover medications how do you feel about them? Can you make a video about it ?

@TheBingeEatingTherapist Ай бұрын

@@heyyahhh655 That’s been deliberate. I’m not a physician and I am mindful of the potential there is for me to influence people one way or another. I am planning a GLP-1 video, but this needs to be done very thoughtfully and ethically so I’m not rushing it.