Not me watching this cause i forgot you had uploaded it later and I had fallen asleep. Aghhh! I'm lmfao at your compliment of my name...AGAIN...🤭🤣😂😭😩🫂💜💐⭐🇩🇴 Anyway, thank you Tabs for everything you do. Your videos are not complete if you don't say to someone: Just eat!" 😂

Thank you for this video. I have been in a state of partial recovery for years but struggling to kick disordered behaviors completely...used to be a quite heavy shoplifter to support the ED and then, as recovery progressed, I was mostly able to avoid stealing. Had an incident (not food prompted though) in which I was caught not paying a $10 ski pass and have been beating myself up ever since...but have finally made the connection that it's probably related to stalled state of recovery. Gives me something to discuss with my therapist...THANK YOU

You just explained exactly how i feel

2025 and watching this; dont recall staying until you finished the live (late AF here); Thank you for discussing my concern about feeling full; I'm still working things out to reach full recovery but I'm certainly better than I was when asked you this. Thanks for the compliment about my name Tabs. Keep u the good work and fun personality.💅🫦🎀🐩💐🫂

Just realized my question was answered and part of the thumbnail.. interesting. I prob fell asleep cause it was late AF here😂😂 but ty for answering Tabs🌹💜🫂💐

Watching this on Dec 25th,2024.. Ugh...I want to go back to the gym but the treatment team doesn't want me to get back to exercising and the nutricionist only wants me to do 2 hours/week of exercise. At the moment, im only doing small walks everyday before and after work because i dint like feeling like im just sitting all day. (i work sitting for like 7 hrs/day) Im seeing yhe nutricionist again soon so I'm gonna share with her.my thoughts about increasing my exercise tine/day. Thank you Tabs: for all your interesting vids and thoughts.

I had a hard time with my relatives 'cause it was my future sister in law's family gathering. I guess what made it harder was that the house is small and im not that close to most of her family but since she's dating my brother (now fiancee) we have to socialize but i do see what you mean about food and always having to gather with food near. I just wanted to sit alone far from everybody while i tried to eat dinner but i couldn't cause itd then make me look rude and theyd all start asking if im ok🙂‍↕️ I survived the dinner but it was tough. For background: In Latin America we meet on dec 24th for dinner and on dec 25th we sleep until late and eat the dinner's leftovers. Thank you Tabs for all your work and support to so many people (love your sense of humour and cussing times;)

I am in recovery now and I realize how miserable this disease is. Last year I was preoccupied with food and when the time came I had a "binge" and exploded and of course the next day I punished myself. This year, it was much easier. I still think that too much food is overkill and I talk about it with my mom, who agrees, since there are only 4 of us. There was still a lot of food left, but I knew how to enjoy it. I ate more than I wanted, but I stopped and didn't overdo it. I knew I could eat later. I didn't restrict myself, nor did I overdo it. I didn't punish myself. I knew how to enjoy it. I still have a lot to do.

Have a great Christmas! Thanks to you I can celebrate and not be obsessed about the food. ❤

How about if you’re depressed or have other mental health issues than the ed so you eat sugar to get the dopamine increase. Would this not be addictive for someone who is depressed, regardless of whether they’re eating unrestricted or not?

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I’m trying so hard but feel like a freak when I eat at events with my other coworkers. We had Italian catered food and I had a plate of all the food and a bigger piece of cake. I had only had vitamin water in the morning and was too full for dinner and did t eat. I came home feeling discouraged because almost all the other ladies took about 5 noodles and a tiny salad and a bread. They had one cookie or a slither if the cake. I was the only one with a plate full of food and felt awkward like there was something wrong with me.

I went to an event and ate but was so taken back that all these ladies ate inly4-5 chicken Alfredo noodles and I took two schools plus a large slice of cake when they only took a slither.. How do they eat like that? Everyone except me. I feel like a freak!!

Whoa!!! I see it now- how to ignore the fear response after following you for over 3 years!

I will translate anything of yours into German. (I know what I‘m doing. 😉)

Re 2:42, I used to take a very holier-than-thou stance in my head, like 'Why is everyone so obsessed with eating food together? We should be getting together just to enjoy each other's company, not focussing on food all the time! I care more about people than food!' Now I realise I was more focussed on the food than anyone else at those events was. I was the one looking up menus in advance and panicking, and hovering by the snack table after a few drinks, unable to stop snacking because it was the only time I had my guard down and my body could get snacks. Nobody there cared as much about the food as I did. I still remember the panicked feeling after I ate what I felt was 'too many' sweets at a party, but not a single interaction I had with anyone there.

How can I schedule coaching with you? 40 years of ED and on my own trying to get well….ran 19 marathons and now I keep getting injured. Hope there is hope

Ayyyy Thanks for this video Tabs. I actually skipped my aunt's Thanksgiving dinner and didn't eat anything ar my co-workers gathering a week ago. I was freaking out about both events and didn't want to overeat high- calorie foods. I'm returning to outpatient treatm prob by the first week of Jan and I'm already nervous about the next sessions with the treatm team. Ugh...This is exhausting. Not giving up tho.

Thank you.❤ I would love to hear your thoughts sometime on drugs like ozempic. They clearly have allowed rapid weight loss via restriction, even in those who never before had much success dieting. People taking them have reported an aversion to even the sight of food. Setting aside for now the possibility of physical side effects (other than weight loss) from longterm use, could a restrictive diet be maintained indefinitely by dependence on these drugs? Or would you expect the brain to override them somehow, just like it inevitably does for any other restriction method?

It is sooooo annoying... My sister, who is anorexic hoards food she doesn't eat, and lets expire. She then can not pay her rent and expects her relatives to pay it for her. We can not enable her behavior.

I don’t like cooking either. But I do like other people cooking for me now I am better. I find cooking just boring and a chore. I love baking though 😁

I feel the same way about garlic! So I bought a garlic press from Pampered Chef that doesn't have to have the garlic skin removed first (other than the very outer layer of the whole bulb, because who knows what has been touching that 😂). It's lovely!

I do not like cooking either. And do not get on with all sorts of self-care, such as resisting going to bed. Or resisting stuff I want to do. I suspect I have demand avoidance.

I used to cook a lot when I had ED, but now that I'm recovered I hate it😂😂

I realized that when I started my eating disorder, I started to COMMAND the kitchen. I started recovery this year. At first, I felt like helping my mother cook, but I knew it could trigger me. But I kept thinking about helping her, because she was doing everything alone. After 8 months, I went back to helping her. I saw an improvement and I no longer control the quantity/quality of the food, but I still like to cook. 😊

Oh God lol the expiration dates!

my extreme mental hunger is lasting a year and a half already.. i don't know what to do

What if there is another component to kleptomania that develops during ED that stems from deeper, unhealed parts of our personality that didnt get their needs met during early childhood/as babies, which then translates into this twisted form where we try to compensate for the lack of resources (of food, love, care, attention etc) that we needed in childhood and ED only triggers these earliest memories of neglect/abandonment/scarcity?

This actually felt as if it was me who wrote it. Wtfffff 😱😱😱 Im going through the same ordeal at work and sometimes I get do upset that I can't even sit straight somewhere and just eat. My manager used to be with me while i ate and he arranged us to sit at the HHRR small room when it was empty just so i didnt feel so overwhelmed during the lunch time. Right now I get 1 hr of lunch which is better than before so im glad in that sense. Thank you Tabs 💜🫂💐

Hi tabitha, I'm over weight restored and I'm truly eating unrestrictedly but I'm experiencing extreme hunger and I still don't have my period. I'm unsure whether I'm doing something wrong. Thank you🩷

happy thanksgiving tabitha!! im so grateful for you<3 ur vids helped me TON

This is a scary part of recovering. Your satiety signals are just completely switched off. You just have the mindset that your going to balloon up in weight and become obese. Yes your weight does increase. You probably actually need to add this anyway. You will notice though that you begin to just feel this. Im good sensation. It does take a while but you need to trust your brain. Don't restrict any foods. The cravings are usually your body crying out for certain nutrients. If you have had an eating disorder for years. Just think of how malnourished you are. When your eating try and listen to your body also. Take your time as their is a delay between food intake and fullness. You need to really listen and eventually you will sense satiety. Another big part of recovery is stop watching any sort of fitness influencers (This was huge for me). Everyone of them have eating disorders. Carrying food scales in your bag everywhere isn't being "fit". It's toxic. If you can't stop watching them then atleast just watch them when their eating food. They will eat like their starving (Which they are) and they will always get straight up after food to start burning calories. They will say. Oh going for a walk helps digestion and then they say they have just done 12'000 steps 😂 Once you begin to see it you will understand. I use to watch all those channels for hours. I deleted everyone of them. Also. Throw those scales of yours in the bin. Scales are so toxic during recovery. You will find any excuse to stand on them. If that number climbs you will freak and start restricting again. I smashed mine up. Best move I ever made. Listen to Tabitha. A wealth of awesome information. Thank you

Absolutely true! I can now go days without chocolate. Thanks for your help to get healthy again and recover from my anorexia.

I don't know if you've made any content about this, but do you have any experience with the whole OCD ED comorbidity? I struggle with OCD behaviors, and I am unsure if me wanting a whole bunch of chocolate on every Saturday and Sunday evening is because I "truly" want it, or because it's just a compulsive habit? I have many other similar behaviors which obviously have to do with control; but I am just not sure if it's and ED or OCD behavior.

Ive only ever been sugar fixated when i restricted…. Can happily take it or leave it these days (except in the run up to my period, where i will happily have it🙃)

Id love a new video about the initial overeating binging or whatever you want to call it when you first start the recovery process and how you have helped or seen your clients push through this feeling that it wont ever stop or that im such a emotional eater ..bla bla bla ...

Im finally notified you uploaded. Thanks for another great video Tabs 🫂💜🇩🇴🌹🎀