You BORE people when you take this approach,frankly they don’t give a shit so just ignore your drinking days and move on you’ve cracked it when you couldn’t give a shit and STOP TALKING ABOUT IT BECAUSE YOU SOUND A PAIN IN THE ARSE ,THE TYPE PEOPLE WOULD AVOID.
@dougiemiller420610 күн бұрын
Dude, dont do it!! Unless you can keep control it, it’s to easy to fall into the trap, I was a binge drinker for years, I look back and see how bad things was, also your so called friends are not your friends, I’ve learned a lot through my life, one finale nail in my coffin was living with a drunk for a year, absolutely the worst experience, living with a violent drunk and setting about me, ie punched in the face, I left her, the worst woman I’ve ever met, not been drunk since 2019, one last thing, I spent working in health and social ie trained in dementia, this is a fact, heavy drinking will induce dementia, I’m now 58 and happy, I live alone, this is not a lecture!!! Good luck for your future,
@phil649811 күн бұрын
The sleep issue you yave is coffee, ive noticed the more i have in the morning the earlier i wake the following morning and most days ive had my last coffee by 8-9am
@phil649811 күн бұрын
Wow thats amazing, whenever i get close to my PB i have the same calg innury and its hard to rest for more than a couple of weeks, id be happy with 3.5 hours as that would be 25 mins quicker than my previous time, good 🤞
@phil649811 күн бұрын
Just had a 10 day holiday in Fuertuventura totally alcohol free and it was the best time ive ever had thete with my wife. I hit 11 months sober i.e no lint of beer and to celebrate we went to a newly foumd 80's disco bar called Back to the 80's in my new Air Jordans i wore for the first time aince reearding myself them for doung a sober Barcelona in May this year. I asked the barman for a 0% beer which he accomadated and when i mentioned my current 11 month journey he daid more people ahould be doing what um doing. We didn't stay forong but just to have a small celabration. Also while on that holiday i rode a jet ski for the first time and drove a biggy across the rugged terrain, jaut things i wouldn't have considered if i still had alcohol on my schedule. Truly hand in heart my best winter sun holiday ever. 😊
@sober-diary3 күн бұрын
@@phil6498 so awesome to hear!
@jasonpollard495813 күн бұрын
Great videos. I stopped two months ago and the benefits are big. Ill keep watching
@sober-diary3 күн бұрын
@@jasonpollard4958 thanks for sharing. Keep it going, for me all the good stuff happened after 2 months.
@raymondlin872825 күн бұрын
At least 2 years no alcohol. I was also kicked out of rehab for relapsing. They told me I graduated and I'm doing well. Good luck. My wife told me eventually I was kicked out bc I tested positive for alcohol in my urine. Anyway I didn't give up..I still kept myself busy with housework, reading, walking, watching YT video for therapy. Still not drinking like I said. Just bored
@tommysherman715523 күн бұрын
Get offline and outside find a hobby if you are bored being online won't help that's my screen time done for today limit 30 minutes not wasting my time on phone
@raymondlin872823 күн бұрын
@tommysherman7155 can't. Don't have a car. Or a bicycle. Nothing nearby. At least the house, yard, is super clean and neat
@raymondlin872826 күн бұрын
No thought. No cravings. Watching video to distract, to cope, now im ok. Was i like that? All those wasted year, ruined relationships, with family, friends, jobs,
@chrisfernon68929 күн бұрын
I stopped drinking alcohol four months ago. I go out to bars frequently still. Why? That is where the women are.🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 nobody cares that I'm not drinking😂 i'm also saving a lot of money 🤑
@1Slayer6661Ай бұрын
Thanks for this video. I needed it.
@sober-diary25 күн бұрын
Great to hear! Where are you in the journey?
@midlanderwbaboothy7068Ай бұрын
The only drug your ridiculed for not taking
@markczarny7088Ай бұрын
Takes a while for the head to clear lots of people been were your at f,ew say I made the right decision drinking again.choice is yours
@sober-diary25 күн бұрын
This is the overwhelming consensus, so glad I didn't cave in to them. Thanks for sharing.
@TranquilWaters-m9wАй бұрын
Well done brilliant lifestyle change keep moving forward 👍
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Thank you so much!
@larryyoder4861Ай бұрын
Drank 47 years and have quit since 3-7-22 and have never felt better in my life and never want to go back to that lifestyle
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Congrats on this, it's inspirational to hear. I'm now at over a year and hear that things can keep getting better and better. Is this what you found?
@jdon2020Ай бұрын
Top 5 Better relationships More energy Being in the moment More confidence Better overall mood
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Great ones, agree with them all. Thanks for sharing.
@leo0986Ай бұрын
The whole alcohol being on your mind all the time thing reminds me of the theory of being a dry drunk. Maybe take a look into that. That resonates with me too
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Will do that, thank you for the suggestion 👍
@leo0986Ай бұрын
This is really helpful for me, a fellow binge drinker who has set an initial goal of 6 weeks off. I’m in week 2 so am feeling very positive about it all at the moment, so visibility of some of the stages I might expect and should prepare myself for - thanks!
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
So glad to hear this. There's plenty more videos if you ever decide to extend that 6 weeks 😉
@chrisfernon689Ай бұрын
Just finished 100 days alcohol-free. I just saw your 100 day video. Now i have just saw your 1 year video to give me insight to my future. Thank you for sharing 😊
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Perfect! Exactly what I was hoping for when I made these. Keep it going my friend!
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
What have been the biggest benefits and challenges for you since quitting alcohol? Do any of them match my experience, or have you faced different ones?
@nicholasdunkley9620Ай бұрын
Well done such a great achievement 🎉
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Thank you mate, can see the running is going well! How long have you not been drinking now?
@Gary_OCАй бұрын
Congratulations on your achievement mate. I’ve followed you from vlog one and your progress and growth has been remarkable to witness. Well done you. 👏 I am also on the journey. 7 months sober under my belt and am also transforming and growing and loving this new way of life. It’s incredible. I am going on an all inclusive holiday to Mexico in April and will have 1 year under my belt by then. Planning to drink exclusively just on that holiday and I have reservations. It doesn’t even excite me and I feel I can easily go sober if I want to. Which is incredible. I have been alcohol dependant for over 10 years and would fall under the alcoholic description but on the milder scale.
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
This is awesome to hear, thanks for sharing. I'd be lying if I said that the 'have drinks on holiday' thought hasn't crossed my mind. For me it opens the door too wide and I know people that tried the same and went back to normal. If you already have reservations then this might mean something.
@Gary_OCАй бұрын
@@sober-diary That is very true. And it’s a hell of a lot to throw away. I do take your words on board about them anecdotal tales of people returning to normal. That’s scary. Best of luck with your business and sober journey. I do hope you continue to post updates. Cheers.
@stepha3003Ай бұрын
Excellent, thank you for your inspiration! I'm 2 weeks in with sober October 🎃 I just need to make sure I'm getting good nutrition 🍓🥦
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
You're welcome 🙂. Nutrition is mega! Once I had alcohol out the way I could start dialling it in to make me feel optimum.
@dwdrumshdmotorcyclesvirgom7379Ай бұрын
I heard someone say if you have to try to moderate your drinking you have a problem with drinking. So true!
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
The very word 'moderation' doesn't sound that fun does it!
@jamesbyrne9312Ай бұрын
Youre so lucky, you have a wife, a beautiful garden. Stay sober as a dedication to your blessings
@jamesbyrne9312Ай бұрын
If you need to relax, take a paracetamol and get a bath, kind of calms the nerves. I agree alcohol does switch off the mind, but us binge drinkers are too sensitive to that effect, and we need to be wise and choose not to partake.
@digidol52Ай бұрын
I think there has really been a shift in attitudes to drinking, especially among younger people. Perhaps one of the reasons so many pubs are closing down.
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Fully agree, seeing this a lot and have heard a few interesting theories about this. What do you think is the reason?
@phil6498Ай бұрын
I'm nearly at 10 months and I am very similar to you but 54 years old. I keep telling people I'm doing a 12 month challenge but deep and part of me is saying I realise now that even two pints in one sitting seems a lot to me. I've not got a money mind and always focused on my health, not a daily or weekly drinker either. My thing is when a planned event with say my Son comes along a feel I should have a drink even if it's just a few sips. I'm sure you continue to live a decent life with alcohol in your life but know your life is better without. I do feel more positive when I say to myself I don't want to drink again and recently found out I may be autistic so I'm also finding out a lot about myself so if you can offer any advice it would be appreciated. Next up, Iron Man 😃👍
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Hey Phil, the uncertainty of 'will I won't I' go back to alcohol was just a mental strain and decided to quit made me feel free. It also gave me much more conviction in conversations about it and made that part easier. I did not believe I could have one or two drinks and enjoy it so quitting is the best way forward for my circumstances.
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Also, good luck with Ironman, I bottled that one for now to concentrate on running. Massive respect for this.
@phil6498Ай бұрын
@@sober-diary Thanks Mate, It's only a thought with the ironman but thanks, I certainly consider myself a non drinker now. I have done 4 sessions of BJJ too, no way I would have done that in my old mindset. Peace out brother 🙏
@vectorhold6489Ай бұрын
Im 6 months semi sober today after 24 years of hardcore abuse. I did have beers for my 50th bday. Which was my only slip up. I puked my guts out later that night. Instant regret. What that taught me was that i was over it. In a way i wanted to test myself. Just not for me anymore. Too old to feel like dog sh*t now. Keep up the content. You help a lot of ppl out. Thank you!
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Doesn't have to be a constant trend of upwards progress as long as the overall trend takes you to where you want to be. Thanks for the feedback it means a lot.
@dg-wb4xgАй бұрын
Sauce aint the boss helped me
@dg-wb4xgАй бұрын
I did it after 4 months gutted isnt the word
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Damn, we'll let each other off though ;)
@danielpriestnal3596Ай бұрын
Really enjoyed your video mate. Congratulations on achieving your goals! 4 months into my sobriety journey. Lots of what you’re talking about is resonating with me. Safe to say it’s a shared experience. If you’re looking for the ultimate dopamine hit I’d suggest going for a run followed by a sea dip, ideally first thing in the morning. Guarantee you’ll feel amazing all day and beyond 👍🏻
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Hey mate, really appreciate the comment. Feel like I made this channel for people like you so I can be relatable and say that it's worth it! My best mornings are exercise followed by cold plunge, bit of a trek to the sea though ha! Keep it up and keep me posted.
@jdon2020Ай бұрын
Well done my friend I’m 9 months now it’s so good how things seem to be continuing to get better in life, obviously we have to put the work in but it’s a great feeling, well done on the year!
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Thank you and congrats on 9 months, that month was when I decided to bin it forever. Chatted to someone who has just crossed 3 years and he said it continues to get better :).
@ScottO-sl5cdАй бұрын
Thats awesome..ive been into drugs and alcohol for many years.. it's hard to stay sober at first
@JimRosebush-g8vАй бұрын
You handled it perfectly. If it was me I would have said to myself " Oh well I screwed up , I might as well have a few alcohol ones now!!"
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
You might surprise yourself if you ever find yourself in that circumstance. I just always remember that my thoughts might say one thing but the action is much more in my control. I've i acted on every thought this would be a very different channel haha!
@JackR7722 ай бұрын
A month alcohol free and I’m struggling a little, miss the pub and miss the booze 🤷♂️
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Check out my first 100 days video. Month 1 definitely tough once the novelty wore off. At this point KZbin and relentless research helped me a lot.
@bjb5362 ай бұрын
Only a few minutes in but your video resonates with me. 1 beer for me is pointless, just makes me groggy. I may as well have my favoured 7-10 units (about 4 pints) over 2-4 hours in an evening. A light evening to some, but its a limit I set myself a fair few years ago and can stick to. Some people cant do that. Once they start they cant stop until they go to sleep. Thats not for me either. I cant stand a hangover. Right now im 87 days into a 90 day alcohol free challenge I set myself. Im going to go for the 100 day number, then at some point after that I might have a few beers. What I have learnt is that I dont want to go back to my old pattern of drinking nearly every time I have a day off work. Between now and Christmas I will test my new relationship with alcohol, and if its a failure then I will start next year sober and continue for longer than 100 days.
@sober-diaryАй бұрын
Awareness about your relationship with alcohol is the key. For me, once I started trying to monitor the amount I drank it took the fun out of it. I'm sure this isn't the same for everyone though. Let us know how you get on my friend.
@caseyhalliday99032 ай бұрын
I spent from 17 two 47 getting hammered 30 years I been 4 months sober it is worth it lost weight skin looks better and bank accounts healthy 😎 but yah half 2 really want 2 stop not just because some1 else wants you 2
@casewood2 ай бұрын
When I was about 100 days sober I was on a ski trip and everyone was drinking beers back at the lodge, I had alcohol free beers, but turns out my AF beer can looked very similar to my friends "real" beer, we were sitting next to each other on the couch and had our beers on the coffee table in front of me, I accidentally took a sip of his beer but realised as soon as it was in my mouth, I stopped and just held it in my mouth, looked around and no one had noticed, my friend and everyone were all in mid-conversation, so I quietly got up and went to the bathroom and spat it into the sink. My reaction really surprised me, that I kept calm, and didn't choose to just swallow it anyway.
@sober-diary2 ай бұрын
Fair play for reacting in that way, others might have seen it as a way out! I do wonder if I'd notice a beer with alcohol in it purely from the taste, luckily not had to find out yet.
@moirahill63972 ай бұрын
I'm 68 days sober and almost everything you said resonated with me. I could have actually made a carbon copy of this video! The hardest thing for me was the 'thinking about drinking' constantly but I watched another video where a guy said that we can have up to 60 thousand thoughts a day and we don't act on most of them, they're just thoughts and to let them play themselves out, moving on to the next and so forth. So, I calmed down about that and carried on and in the last couple of days I have noticed that those thoughts have gone down from 80% to around 10%. And i'm so pleased about that because I was worried they would consume me. I also learned that alcohol 'hijacks' the brain so hence the thoughts. I have now worked so hard on changing my thought processing around alcohol, to living a sober life and i'm really enjoying it. And now I feel hopeful that I will never put that poison in my body again. Good luck to you and all who are on this beautiful sober journey.
@sober-diary2 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing, I know there are many of us out there and I'm glad it could help. One of the big reasons I went more long-term with the break was because it takes longer to rewire the brain. I'm no very interested in the topic of dopamine, check this out if you feel you have an 'addictive personality', I'll also do a video on it once I've tested it.
@moirahill63972 ай бұрын
@@sober-diary Will do, thanks again 🙏
@LiamX-v3h2 ай бұрын
OK, these are some good reminders, there’s no question that increasing your mental clarity and boosting your drive, comes with quitting. Yes, there are many ways to kick the habit, Steffon Barkload's Quit Drinking Forever is what worked for me, best shortcut I go’ogled that took days without withdrawal.
@VMalcom-e1j2 ай бұрын
Thanks, these are some good reminders, there’s no question that increasing your mental clarity and boosting your drive, comes with quitting. Yes, there are many ways to kick the habit, Steffon Barkload's Quit Drinking Forever is what worked for me, best shortcut I go’ogled that took days without withdrawal.
@JacobN-d3h2 ай бұрын
If only I knew how easy it would be, it’s been over 2 years and I don’t have any cravings at all, for me the key difference was that I didn’t suffer withdrawal, not even within the first 30 days after go’ogling and following Steffon Barkload’s and quitting because I just wanted to.
@fizywig2 ай бұрын
I have stopped booze for 60 days so far. Combined with alternate day fasting to lose weight. This experience showed me that my particular pattern of addiction is the "fine food with wine" experience rather than just booze. Food addiction is tough because you can't completely abstain from eating. That's why I believe an intermittent fasting process helps immensely in repatterning eating addiction ( usually coupled with wine consumption) and adoption of healthy eating for good.
@sober-diary2 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing. Check out some podcasts on dopamine, you may find this interesting. I'm exploring this right now to understand why I always want more of things!
@Big_Jims_American_Dream3 ай бұрын
94 Days here -- excited to hit 100 next week and then continue far beyond that. Former decade+ binge drinker here as well. I am still in the lonely phase since there's no one I really feel I can share my success with on this. Nice video.
@sober-diary2 ай бұрын
Know the feeling! I continued to go to all of the nights out but just left early. At 11 months in now everyone is used to it. Also I needed to replace my drinking community with other people with shared interests. Luckily found this with golf and fitness. Keep it going, all the great stuff is still to happen.
@moirahill63972 ай бұрын
Just have a little smile and feel that proud feeling to yourself. I too am on the lonely stage but that's what I do and it helps. Well done!
@nicholasdunkley96203 ай бұрын
Brillaint progress, do you have strava?
@sober-diary2 ай бұрын
I certainly do, Ill add you if you let me know name / location. Prepare to see similar runs every morning if you do ;)
@nicholasdunkley96202 ай бұрын
@sober-diary it's Nick Dunkley, Coventry. Currently training for the Yorkshire marathon next month, trying to work towards the big goal of sub 3 like yourself 👍👍
@sober-diary2 ай бұрын
@@nicholasdunkley9620 Following now, look forward to seeing your progress. I broke 90 for first time in the half this weekend. Really drilled home the challenge of sub 3 but we will do it with consistency and progression.
@nicholasdunkley96202 ай бұрын
@@sober-diaryjust followed back. Awesome work on the sub 90 👍👍. I also got a HM PB this weekend at 1:26
@McTaz3433 ай бұрын
218 days in - waiting for the benefits
@sober-diary2 ай бұрын
Something must be going well to have made it to 218 days?
@guyboycecam16363 ай бұрын
I have much the same relatioinship and approach with alcohol as you. I am 35 days in and feeling brilliant, so more to look forward to. + I really like the thinking around the quitting for good. Whilst I am not saying that openly that is how I am thinking also
@sober-diary2 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing. If you like the idea of quitting for good, then there's something there. I found it easier to commit to a year first, then the full commitment came naturally after I could fully evaluate where my life was at, plus go through all the relevant experiences.
@phil64983 ай бұрын
I told my uncle I'm not drinking at the moment and it's as though he feels sorry for me saying what if you die in six months, you ha e to enjoy life, I just replied what if you die this afternoon, why aren't you drinking now. At the moment I'm in 1 year no beer and am thinking about 1 beer and 1 glass of wine on Xmas day night and I know that would be it. Doing a 12 month coffee challenge next May and will add alcohol into that again and maybe won't drink again who knows. Good work on the running, I've ran 3 London marathons over the last 10 years, I did have 1 pint and 1 glass of wine with a steak when I'd finished as I did my first sub 4 hrs over 30 mins quicker than when I ran my first one over 10 years earlier, can only dream about doing sub 3 hours 👍 I'm 9 months off the beer so far.
@sober-diary2 ай бұрын
Hi Phil, thanks for sharing. Great work on the marathon progress, I find it so rewarding and like the structured / controlled style of training. How was it when you had the couple of drinks after London? Coffee is an interesting one for me, I'm working to reduce my dependency and may do another video on this, but don't see it as something I need to give up.
@phil64982 ай бұрын
@@sober-diary hi, interestingly all I had was the 2 drinks with my meal and after we left the restaurant I didn't give alcohol a second thought. We also just realised from Dublin and I went to the Guinness storehouse and had 2 pints of Guinness zero with one I had my face put on. I did try a cheeky sip or two of the real deal and honestly couldn't really tell the difference and I'm just not bothered any more. At 9 months sober today , apart from wanting to do a couple more marathons by the time I'm 60 I am thinking of trying BJJ, it's only the risk of injury that has put me off this far. Thanks for replying.
@grahamsmith57683 ай бұрын
Alcohol is a killing killer. It's a slow process of a poison. It will claim your life, and it will be to late when its damaged your organs in your body.
@benjaminwoodman16183 ай бұрын
Loved this as a fellow classic binge drinker on day 18 AF!
@sober-diary2 ай бұрын
I knew there were plenty of us out there when I started this channel, glad you enjoyed it. Keep it going!
@spaceted39773 ай бұрын
It's Forty Years Since I gave up Dinking and Smoking. Drink does Terrible Damage to your Body. The Answer is YES, it's Always best to Give Up Alchohol. It Really is Poison !!! Substitutes are good to get off Alchohol. I used Sweets and Fizzy Drinks !!!