Thank you so much Dr Jo.....I lost my 23 year old son to cancer. My brother's and sister could not deal with having me around. They stopped inviting me to their gatherings.

You are an angel ❤️

GREAT VIDEO. THANK YOU FOR POSTING THIS! THIS IS A TOUGH TOUGH JOURNEY!!

Combine grief with older age, daily isolation, diagnosed autism and depression, singleness, childlessness, joblessness and constant money shortage, then you become unfixable junk. Out of those circumstances comes neediness which is useless. Alone is probably better.

I would tell my father I love you and I am happy to be he's daughter 😊

That was so beautiful thank you

I am still isolating and it’s been 2.5 years.

Banding the horns? No thanks. We actually watch our babies VERY closely and no foam was eaten. And they were recycled and upcycled too. How about you let others do what they want without name calling?

Dumb. Introducing foam, which could be eaten, instead of just banding the horns

Ty EagleRockers long story short I took care of him for eight years and their worried about selling house and stuff. I am worried about the things I owe in here and moving. Everything reminds me of him and also his mom and step dad have way more money than me but not really helping me with the getting rid of cats and stuff it's crazy

Totally get it. After two years since, I prefer my own company.

Dr. Jo, Thank you so very much for sharing in your vulnerability. Everything I read and watch of yours is so validating, and I am sure others feel the same. I am so grateful for you and the wisdom you share, and wish you gentleness during this particularly difficult season.🙏 Shanna

It's been 2 years and 5 months since my sweet wife passed. I feel waves of warmth and heaviness in my chest and behind my eyes. Then the tears begin. I am thankful for my tears.

Rather put a mask nobody really understands most think you crazy

Thank you, I like the description of a sunburn, that's how it feels!!

I lost my husband six and a half years ago. A gal pal smirked when I told her that getting through the grief was much more difficult than I thought it would be. I felt like she was making fun of me

Lost My Partner 10/25/21. My Mom 10/25/22. Didn't Go to Their Funeral. Have Not Had Any Company at My Home in 2 years. UNIMAGINABLE PAIN ❤

I have found a few friends through all this that have lost their spouses also and they understand exactly where I am at and that in it self is comforting! And that’s my advice! Seek out people who are or have gone through it and you will probably bond from this!

Its better being alone than listening to the insensitive comments people make...like "at least they aren't suffering anymore" or "you still have your health and a lovely home " or the absolute worst one " they are in a BETTER place"..I am sure being in an urn on the table isnt a f'kn better place...if this is all you can say then keep your mouth shut.

I lost my husband 2 years ago, I have isolated my self because I feel so empty with out him, I'm lost, he was, is my soulmate. I know I will get better, but who knows when I miss him so deep. But now I know there are other people going thru the same thing. God bless everyone.

Last year, I lost my fiancé and my mom. I don’t care what anyone thinks about me. I’m grieving so there are times when I just want to be alone. 😢😢

I was

I keep mostly to myself because it's just easier. I don't have the bandwidth to deal with other people's questions and expectations and judgments when often times they are clueless and cruel.

Talk about grieving for decades

It's been a yr and half since I tragically lost my 21 yr old daughter my 1st born , I'm still only able to work and that it self is hard 😢

excellent .... I am four and a half months post traumatic loss of my husband soulmate. Together for 30 years married for 20. I am recovering and rebuilding my "inner" and visualizing the magnificent rest of my life going forward ............... isolated for these very reasons ........... isnt she strong .......... she is doing so well .......... or we are so worried about her, what can we do. I am healing, my home is a mess, I look older, I can keep my mask on for around an hour and when I go out I have glasses which hide how I am feeling, they are excellent and transition in colour depending on the brightness of the sun but always give me some shade from others curiosity, some comfort. Thank you

My wife died of suicide after 30 years of marriage

I just lost my grandma and never cried so much!! My aunt thinks Im so strong bc I dont cry in front of them and thats bc my feelings and emotions are somethin that they dont understand nor I want to explain. I always thought Id be able to hug my grandma before she leaves us but I couldnt and to think I wont hear her voice again is too painful. I also dont want to add to her pain so I fake being strong in front of her. But loosin someone you live is extremely painful to everyone💔😔

People like to make your pain and suffering about themselves. They're like "Stolen Valor" for fake veterans. They want to wear your pain as a voyeuristic badge of honor and use your pain to elevate themselves. They try to lift themselves up socially using your suffering as a ladder to their own importance. These are gross people. I've met them.

I can't attend family gatherings with my deceased wife's family. I tried once and became so emotional. I left because I didn't want to sadden anyone. I skipped another family birthday party today. I hope I can adjust to the loss someday. When that happens it may be too late, they may just start to exclude me...Anyway that is why I isolate. ,

Isolation is comfortable after losing husband 4 months ago

Six months after the love of my life died by suicide, my very close friend told me I was wasting my life by grieving and she had no sympathy or time for me. And that was the end of a 30 year friendship. I never heard from her again.

Thank you so much for your advice. I lost my wife 12/12/23 and you make so much sense

Absolutely correct, I've been drinking beer since my wife committed suicide. It's been two years. It doesn't help. I need to stop.

I totally agree with you, i isolate from people and friends, i have more peace, i walk alot alone, it helps me find the peace that i need to heal , grief is neverending,it just gets better with time,but it is always with you.

I have listened to this broadcast over and over. 5 months in, after losing my beloved husband. Thank you DrJo. Your words resonate over and over, with kindness and empathy. Also, thank you to the commenters. Together we share our pain. Together we understand each other. I read your comments. It makes me feel normal.

Thank you for the beautiful story. I am now crying for you, for me and for the loss of our amazing daughters we will see again one day ❤

I am bit different. I find myself wanting to get out there but my family keeps telling me that I need to take it slow.

Thank you for your explanation. I went through everything you spoke about many years ago. My beloved son died suddenly in a car accident. I felt like a zombie many times. I walked around doing what I had to do each day, but feeling as if I didn’t really exist anymore. I too put on a somewhat happy face around others, but it brought me no comfort. It took years before I was able to go on with my life. Grief is a process and that process is different for everyone.

Thank you! My Mom died almost three years ago, and I treasure her belongings and even still wear some of her clothes that I couldn’t bear to part with. It hurts, yet is also comforting. If people don’t “approve”, too damn bad! I love her and miss her so much!

It's been 10 years for me and I do not look forward to any holiday or weekend -ever!

I'd like to know more about this running program, e-motion. Thank-you for this interview. ("Bearing the Unbearable" has helped me a lot and I plan to read "57 Fridays", too.)

Yes, Doctor Jo every day what we go through without them and the tears just flow out of nowhere! Thank you for sharing!

You’re so right - it (the grief) always comes back. I’ll never be without it.

Definitely agree with the chest heaviness. That's always what is most prominent for me.

Omg. Wow……. So many times you have been here for me…. Us……. So happy to hear your beloved daughter still reaches out to you. 💕. You give us strength. I so happy that you are getting strength, too.

I'm so sorry for your loss. xo

You are so right Dr. Jo, the staff at Selah Carefarm are amazing (as are you). I had one of those therapists when Kelly died....I got up and walked out when she told me I would find a silver lining

So much love to you Dr. Jo, thank you for sharing your most vulnerable emotions and help normalize the deep grief that we feel, especially on those special occasions when their loss is just a little larger

Love to you Dr. Jo and to your beautiful Cheyenne