"Waking up into a nightmare..."

Conversations that matter: Today we are discussion "waking up into the nightmare" (as Charlie's mama, Liz, says), and the times of day when hard emotions come into the foreground for those who are bereaved.
Feel free to join the conversation below in the comments and tag others who may want to answer this question as we courageously have conversations that matter!
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From Bits & Pieces, here is a new series I call "Conversations that Matter" (pre-recorded due to internet interruptions) based on conversation cards for bearing the unbearable.
These are wonderful aids for support groups, meetings, family time, therapy tools, self help, journaling and more.
If you want to order your own card deck, you can use the cod BP2024 for 15% off from WP for the Bearing the Unbearable course and cards
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Special thanks to Angelo in honor of Max Stein for producing this series.

[@angelapage4927]

Since the transition of my beautiful ❤️ son Lee Simon who is a beautiful Artist and scientist x From 2021 march my grief has never lifted there 24/7 every second of everyday . I can't still say how long it's been in real time it's too painful. Still can't cook a meal. Got three beautiful daughters and grandchildren don't see them a lot with them working. Just feel like I don't belong here don't want to to be honest . This is my second beautiful son ❤️ x My first son Daniel ❤️ was only 2 days old 44 years ago but still hurts x No words out there that can describe this pain . No break from this grief. 💔 Sending Love to everyone wearing these shoes ❤️

[@DrJo_bitsandpieces]

Oh gosh, my heart to you and both your precious "baby" boys, Lee Simon and Daniel. Heartshattering losses. 😢 😢

[@laurahoffman9397]

I lost my significant other last September literally overnight without warning. 45 and passed in his sleep of an unknown heart issue. I consider him my fiance even though he didn't get to propose. His mom bought me the engagement ring he wanted for me. I have a terrible time in the morning getting out of bed. I am OK once i get going. But yes, it hits all over again. I also find nighttimr really hard. My significant other talked and prayeed together every night. I also lost my Mom 2 years ago in October 2021 with just a few days warning but i did get to say goodbye to her. Grief on grief with trauma. You have been so helpful Dr. Jo. God bless you! ❤

[@pamelashearwood-vingoe5609]

It's been 4 months since I lost my beautiful partner after 31 years together. She was ill with terminal breast cancer and passed aged 56. I find grief is most intense when I am alone at home where we lived. I hear her absence - it is the loudest screaming silence. During the night, when everything is quiet my mind starts to relive memories, emotions and the flood gates open. I only hope that at best I can build up some emotional muscle over the coming years. My heart also goes out to her mother - my partner was her first born. I don't think any parent should lose a child, at any age. Thankyou for your videos- I only recently found them. They are so honest, real and succinct. Blessings

[@DrJo_bitsandpieces]

Thank you for sharing some of her story. We are truly so sorry. 56 is so young. 😢 - yes, nighttime ... the quiet... hand on my heart for you both.

[@janingham1823]

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[@Adriana-shops-cooks]

Bob has been gone for 6 weeks now. Every morning when I am just waking up I find myself looking for him. My favorite time of the day was when we got in bed for the evenng, phone wasn't ringing and it was just us and our two dogs. We would call it the family bed and start to laugh. We had 32 years together.

[@DrJo_bitsandpieces]

Sending your heart tender compassion as you miss your Bob, always.

[@Adriana-shops-cooks]

@@DrJo_bitsandpieces Thank you so much your vlogs have been helpful.

[@DrJo_bitsandpieces]

Thank you, that means so much@@Adriana-shops-cooks

[@christiesachde3156]

I lost my husband suddenly/unexpectedly just over a year ago...I don't mind bed time so much because sleep is an escape. In the morning I get up and have to take the dogs for a walk...that used to be his job. When I get back I feed them and make my breakfast in the silence...Normally, he would have taken them for a walk and been back by the time I got up. When I would go down to fix my breakfast he would be sitting in his chair in the family room with both of the dogs on his lap...Now when I look the chair is empty...I guess that's when it starts.

[@DrJo_bitsandpieces]

Oh (((Christie))) the empty chair... that wrings the heart. 😢 Wishing - with you- that he could walk the dogs...

[@christiesachde3156]

@@DrJo_bitsandpieces Thank you...

[@sherrijones9234]

Mornings are the hardest!

[@DrJo_bitsandpieces]

Oh yeah, the notorious 'griefhog' day, over and over, the reality of their absence mows us over ugh.

[@donnamcclendon4128]

Yes it’s definitely late night/bedtime. N then the memories come n the sadness n the inability to calm down enough to go to sleep.

[@ariaahmadi7864]

Hi dr. Joanne I just lost my not only husband my best friend the brother that I never had my protecter ,father of my 4 kids ages 19/17/15/10 I mean my whole world he was only 42 years old young he got killed in front of our apartment over parking spot he was a hero he gave his life that night protecting our to boys he loved us unconditionally my life got destroyed since dec 30 /2023 I feel like i live in a nightmare I really want to talk to you because my kids and me got traumatized and he got killed front of us I blame my self a lot and I feel so guilty that night after I called cops they didn’t even let us to hug him they took us to police station until morning my kids and me we’re getting crazy they treatment of us was horrific pls let me know if I can get in touch with you because I was listening to other doctors I didn’t like them I didn’t see if they feel your pain I live in slc ut thank you so much

[@DrJo_bitsandpieces]

Oh, Aria, this is awful. I'm so very sorry about the your husband's death and the horrific nature of his death. I can absolutely imagine how intense the trauma of this must be for you all. We do have help and support. Please contact [e-mail] - while most of our work is for parents whose children have died, we also work with traumatic grief for spouses, siblings, and parents.

[@ariaahmadi7864]

I really appreciate your response thank you