Thank you for discussing this unique yet painful topic. The stats say that about 37% of child abuse comes from siblings. SSA is horrific and the damage it causes short term and long term are challenging to measure. I too experienced SSA. I found that the emotional abuse suffered after I disclosed was more painful than the sexual abuse. The DARVO behaviour, the gathering of enablers and finger pointers, the shunning and the shaming of the survivor, etc., the guilt tripping (victim shaming and victim blaming speech) all add to the burden of trauma recovery work. SSA does not stop when the sexual abuse stops. The emotional abuse still continues. For some, the emotional abuse never ends. The fall out can include family breakdown and having no contact with the abuser and possibly their enablers. I have identified the unique behaviour from the perps after disclosure follow a play book of sorts - it's called Post Abuse Grooming. And I've written a book on this called, Identifying The Wolf, Shedding Light on the Grooming Behaviours of Sexual Predators. The goal is Silence from the survivors - it is what the perps and their enablers want. So good on you two for keeping the conversation going. I appreciate and applaud the work you two do! Thank you.

I've noticed its always male on female or male on male. My sister sexually abused me. Our cousin was doing it to us both, we also lived with an adult pedophile. and she started doing it to me on her own. I don't know how to feel about it

My sister made this comment, how would you react? I (31F) told my sister (37F) that I had received appreciation from my boss on a letter I had drafted at work and he appreciated my language skills. She reacted by saying that his own writing may not be that good that’s why he appreciated it. She said that I should share that writing with her so that she can make a more accurate assessment. She has been a jealous person her whole life. When I spoke to my mom about it, she as usual made an excuse for her saying her illness (which got cured long back) was making her behave in that manner. Like WTF is wrong with this jealous bit**!? How do you suggest I react because I get dumbfounded that a human being can stoop this low. Whenever she shares any achievement with me I only appreciate, why can’t she do the same? Why is my mother always defended her disgusting behaviour?

Abused til I was 26 by an 11 month older sister. Her only goal in life was to destroy me, she did nothing out of her life. I lived hell in this world/life. The entire family witnessed it all, and did nothing and denied all. The message was it was ok to abuse me, I don't count. Im extremely independent now, just because I don't trust anyone. Of course, did not build my own family and cannot form a romantic relationship. I ended up cutting with the entire family off. And moved to the other side of the planet.

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Omg, this is a never ending cycle. Good work if you can get it 😂😂😂