Episode 96: An Experience of Sibling Sexual Abuse Part II | What Would Dr. Meyers Do? | Podcast

[@lisababcockhilton2721]

Thank you for discussing this unique yet painful topic. The stats say that about 37% of child abuse comes from siblings. SSA is horrific and the damage it causes short term and long term are challenging to measure. I too experienced SSA. I found that the emotional abuse suffered after I disclosed was more painful than the sexual abuse. The DARVO behaviour, the gathering of enablers and finger pointers, the shunning and the shaming of the survivor, etc., the guilt tripping (victim shaming and victim blaming speech) all add to the burden of trauma recovery work. SSA does not stop when the sexual abuse stops. The emotional abuse still continues. For some, the emotional abuse never ends. The fall out can include family breakdown and having no contact with the abuser and possibly their enablers. I have identified the unique behaviour from the perps after disclosure follow a play book of sorts - it's called Post Abuse Grooming. And I've written a book on this called, Identifying The Wolf, Shedding Light on the Grooming Behaviours of Sexual Predators. The goal is Silence from the survivors - it is what the perps and their enablers want. So good on you two for keeping the conversation going. I appreciate and applaud the work you two do! Thank you.

[@HillbillyYEEHAA]

I've noticed its always male on female or male on male. My sister sexually abused me. Our cousin was doing it to us both, we also lived with an adult pedophile. and she started doing it to me on her own. I don't know how to feel about it

[@amymeyers1768]

Yes, that happens as well and shouldn't be overlooked! Thanks for your comment.