Don't listen to these ignorant people in your life. They may mean well but often give horrible advice.

Hi Aaron, If you get a chance, can you please do a video about your experience getting your CDL and life as a trucker? I would be very interested to hear about that.

Great video. When someone is an attractive person, people automatically expect them to act a certain way, and when they don’t, people get weirded out. It sucks.

Im glad to see you’re back man. Hope you’re having a good Memorial Day..

Hi i relate to you A lot and i found that the biggest turn off for women is our general stifness, the lack of easy goingnes and charisma Its like we are missing something fundamentaly human that others can connect to. The inability to make them comfortable, and not knowing how to touch them. I dont know how to develop that. Maybe acting classes. I´ve discovered erotic massages recently which is basicly cuddling with happy end for money and i will be Broke within next couple of months...

Trouble is with me in the workplace i tend to be with people i dont get on with i have to be very quiet all the time

What are you talking about you've made a good series

You visually present yourself in a way that appeals to "the cool kids". This group will find out and recognize people who seem "off" the fastest. You can only temporarily act like them, and if what they're looking for is people like themselves, you won't last long. And be disappointed. Therefore they may not even be good to be around anyway. There are other people out there. Nice people. Lonely people. People on the spectrum. Women on the spectrum looking for partners. Just like how regular people judge you to be one of the cool kids at first glance, so will these people. And they will avoid you. At least the 'you' that you represent in their eyes. Because they have learned to avoid the bro types, the player types, the superficial types. They haven't had good experiences with them. Social activities like online groups that meet offline for activities allow you to meet these people. Dress down a bit. Leave your hair unperfect. Wear a shirt that doesn't instantly reveal your gains. Present yourself a little less intimidating and they will feel comfortable around you. Many are similarly akward around social situations, trying their best to hide it. You can still learn lessons you missed earlier with these folks, these kindred spirits. You do not need to feel alone and cast out if you don't want to. But you will if you are the chimpanzee hanging out amongst the gorilla population, futilely trying to fit in. Fit the star block into the star hole. It just splinters and breaks if you force it elsewhere.

You need a coach. Maybe even some hypsnosis or therapy for underlying trauma stuff. I don't know what all you’ve found. But it would be dope to see you do a video on your experience with seeking out coaches, or if you have or haven't. A lot of us whether neurotypical or not CANNOT do this alone. A lot of men are failing right now just because across the board testosterone levels have plummeted and we aren't the men our ancestors were. And with women a lot of inflated egos and anti-male narratives they've been raised on. There ARE men out their who have been in positions and dealt with conditions very similar to your own that can help you in this one area. That's all you need. And as you’ve said "you've got everything else" Remember that, and keep your head up

I took a long walk a few days ago and started getting bummed out about how I really made no true life progress in the past 20 years. Literally the only quantifiable thing I have that shows progress is a very small 401K balance 😄. I've always been bad with my finances so I've hit the restart button there a number of times (resetting again currently). I don't necessarily plan on getting married but I do hope to end up in a long-term relationship. I don't obsess about owning a home but at the same time I'm tired of moving every to 2-3 years based on rent increases. I'm definitely the only one out of my friends and family group that hasn't really changed much at all in the past 20 years. I've always tried to live in the moment and have as much fun as I could at that moment in time but recently I found that I've been unable to hide from depressed feelings and I think that's mainly due to the fact that I've had to be on a very strict budget so I can't go blow my money on experiences and things which would do a good job of temporarily shielding me from where I really was in life. I try my best to look up at the positive things. I have my health and I've been with the same company for 25 years now although I find my job to be incredibly boring and I've had a hard time breaking through the next level on the ladder. I think it's a combination of a general midlife crisis combined with being bored at work and not being able to move ahead while watching others seemingly sprint past me. Ultimately my short-term goals are to get back in decent financial shape and end up in some kind of relationship. Obviously one has to come before the other. I believe that no matter where you are in life many people experience some kind of midlife crisis or depression when they hit their late thirties or early forties. Not to say that changes anything but I guess it's mildly comforting to know that so many people go through it regardless of what they have achieved. My biggest problem is extreme boredom and then being bummed out that I am essentially a 20-something living in a 40 year old's body, but without any of the benefits of being a 20-something with 20-something peers. The funny thing is that my married friends we're under the impression that I was just having a ball. When I explained to them that I was bored and depressed they seemed genuinely surprised. Then another one of our friends who has seemed to achieve nearly everything in his life that he had a goal to achieve was also found to be under a severe depression. He's one of my closest friends and I would never want that for anyone I was close to but I'll admit it did make me feel better to know that even in his position you can still be depressed. There are no easy answers but I suppose as long as you have a few attainable goals to work on and you truly work on them that's all you can really do. I suppose if things are serious enough in the depression realm you can always look toward medication. I don't believe that I am at that level necessarily. I do have diagnosed ADHD and went off medication a number of years ago which is when I started seeing some negative effects in my life but at the same time I couldn't stay on it because there were too many negative effects being on it. I plan to look for another medication or something similar to see if that helps right my ship. The social problem being single in your 40s is a real one though. You don't really have very many peers that you can spend time with that are in your same situation so nobody to really commiserate with. Funny enough I think many of us are going to start making very close friends with AI in the next few years. Maybe that sounds depressing but I actually think it's going to be a good thing for many people.

The blackpill truth isn't this "aw looks are the only thing that matters man, you can't improve anywhere". It's about the truth of human nature, and how you can do all the looksmaxxing, moneymaxxing, etc and still lose to things outside your direct control (neurodivergence included if cards end up that way). Life is categorically unfair, and any anecdote you may have that "oh I know a guy" I assure you there's 2 to counter it. You and I both know successful people who never had to suffer this way, and probably have no frame of reference for that type of experience. Just the way things go. We still move forward, hard as it is, but can't deny it's a sanity drainer. It will take a toll in some form (social pressure, paranoia, etc). I mean this as sincerely as possible because I don't think anyone posting "empty" positivity understand how much Aaron has seen this already, and knows how little it's gotten him. If anything, he continues for himself and I want to support those things for that end (motion affects emotion, and can be the best little thing we can do to keep our brains from the downward spiral). Keep that motion going, brother.

It's wild to me that you haven't found someone yet! You're handsome, in good shape, and have a good personality. I think you'll find someone, don't give up. 🥰

There's a few ppl on yt older than u who haven't even been with a woman so dont feel to bad they got it much worse than u

Good to have an upload from you again Aaron 😃👍

Keep making videos my man !

Yeah..usually when people start making videos like this it's already too late, for some people it's just not meant to be. A sad reality that it's almost impossible to get used to being alone and staying normal and the situation becomes a Catch-22. Stay strong Aaron.

It’s pretty much over for you if your not neurotypical when it comes to dating as most foid can get someone who’s neurotypical like why would they want someone like me

This is my life story, funny thing though i uncovered so much because of this, sometimes i feel like it was meant to happen this way

You should try dating apps again; you look great; but make sure someone experienced reviews your dating profile it makes a big difference!

If even you with your looks can’t get women, then maybe we should all just give up tbh

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I could have made this exact video word for word, except my struggles are with career prospects instead of dating. Everything you say is valid, we're in a world not designed for autistic people.

My heart goes out to this guy. I'm higher up on the spectrum than he is and can pass for neurotypical with a great deal of effort on my part. However, my social battery gets depleted very very quickly. I'm 52, a little older than Aaron, and have come to terms with the fact that I may never be in a long term relationship. I can interact with people but not truly connect with them. At times I conjure up these false images of people I grew up with laughing and smiling with their significant others and it causes my mood to plummet and creates a great deal of sadness. Logically I recognize that what I'm responding to isn't reality, but the lizard brain doesn't understand that. And this has been my lifelong struggle.

How tall are you?

Hi Aaron! A couple things come to mind after watching this video. One is how fortunate you were to have loving parents. You know what love is. Whatever your neurodivergent social issues may be you know what love is and what kindness and compassion are. So you have that to share. People who judge others’ differences often times come from a place of having ineffective parenting. I was fortunate in that way having parents who loved each other, us kids, did not use drugs, were responsible etc. So you and I have the basics. Meeting a kind and receptive potential mate as we age gets more difficult from both a numbers perspective and a mental health compatibility standard. Part of my strategy as a woman in my 60’s is to enjoy my life…my alone time. Sure I am on a dating app, have hobbies that allow me to mingle with other potential dates too….but not everyone finds their person even with a lot of effort. Just keep trying but also focus on enjoying your compromise free freedoms and alone time.

Very relatable. Thanks for sharing your experience.

bro you look like 36 not 44

Yeah. People tend to put too much value on a person's outer appearance. I for one am always on the lookout for someone with a personality. They seem to be in short supply. When it comes to wanting companionship. Hang your mug out there, stop caring about pleasing others and just have fun with your own experience. It won't come around again.

The solution is easy. Ur a simp. U literally have everything and ur focused on giving that everything including ur energy to women. And women are never single. So ur a simp for women who aren't even thinking about u or care about u.

People who claim the "victim mindset" are usually not neruo-divergent, and so have a better foundation. It is impossible to convince them otherwise. You need a first hand experience to be able to relate to this, like with mental illness, and so many other things. We humans are not really good at relating to eachother at all.

I think 50 years ago you would’ve been married. Nowadays a man has to be just about perfect. If you’re average in any way, you’re out of luck in regard to relationships.

as a young person i "pedestalize" as you say, certain experiences that others had naturally that i didnt, that came about for them through normal friendships and the like

I appreciate the message nearer to the end there. I'm 34 and feel sheepish sometimes next to my friends who are long into their second marriage already. Still, I'm optimistic about my progress with women. For example every physical interaction with a woman used to feel strange to me and I was in my head about it, until I realized it's GONNA feel "awkward" and "unnatural" the first few times because it's simply an activity you haven't done before. Whether it be physical intimacy or mountain skiing - you're gonna feel awkward the first few times. Also the appearance of confidence is definitely a tool I use, even though deep inside I'm not confident at all, I've learned how to fake it well enough that people (women) can't seem to tell the difference. "Fake it till you make it" is an approach I've learned to adopt, for better or worse.

You have made a video about me, it would seem. I'm 49 and in the same boat as you. Everyday is a struggle. You are much better looking than me, in a country with much more opportunities than mine,... I can relate with everything you said. But I don't have a solution. I hope you get that family you yearn for.

Wise words as always. I am not autistic and i still struggled in my relationship but ultimately got lucky and found a wife in my 30s. You have improved a lot physically and mentally compared to your 44 year old self so keep up the search and continue to move forward one step at a time.

When i reached 35 everyone stopped asking me When this ?? , When that ?? It was a godsend.A massive weight off my back.

I tell my 20 year old son who is just starting out, “Don’t fall in love with the first person who touches your peepee. Or don’t be surprised if you do.” Happens to the best of us. Heck, he wouldn’t exist if it didn’t! 😊😉.