How did people meet pre-COVID? Well, I met my wife when we both (separately) gatecrashed a BBQ. I took all the kids to the park, she thought I was a predator and wouldn't let her daughter come with us. I decided that was a bit unfair, so I then social-engineered my way into her workplace, found her CV in the owner's office, called her and asked her out. Been married for 24 years now. Probably not a good idea to use me as a role model, if I'm honest.

haha damn you, you're slowly earning my support, never been into vtubers before but I'm really liking the things you say. Thank you for that.

My time has come 🤣🤣🤣😭

Whats a women

I was the butt of so many jokes when it comes to girls/relationships as a kid/highschooler. I just kinda got tired of it. I'm honestly fairly attractive now in college, have good social skills, and good hobbies, but it's almost anxiety-inducing when I think of approaching a woman/getting to know one with hopes of a relationship.

I do have some love experience, but if a lady said to me "you can look" I'd just die right there. That's hot

hot damn michi sounds so good

No one understands the gravity of whats actually happening over 60% of the western population of millennial men and younger aren't dating or in a relationship. This is huge, i foresee the infrastructure falling to bits within the next 30 years

I was doing some of my excercise routine while I was listening to this and this gave me some motivation. As an explanation to how this motivated me is because finding a girlfriend/fiancée is one of my three reasons why I excercize in the first place as motivation. While my other two are to protect others, and to become stronger. Although a lot of times I excercize by sheer determination. 😅

I honestly dont think Ill ever get to that point lol but hope everyone else does.

Sometimes it just devastating to me that I have this mental frame that dating is pointless and I would never find a partner soon. I'm 23, relatively nice looking, going to gym, smart, chatty, a lot of people are thanking me, asking my advice, saying "why you don't date anyone?" And still, here I am, never had a girlfriend, and in a mainframe that it's too much of a task in this day and age to find someone who at least will be interested to have relationship with me

As a man when I first worked up the courage to go on my first date, I was stood up.

Matara is a true matriarch. Protect the queen :p

Funny to see how every girl is "i like shy, nerdy man" and every shy, nerdy man is alone and never even talk to the girl

that is some very solid advice i've seen anyone give. I do hope for the younger generation it gets better for them.

3:29 LMAO

Cant remember if it was gura , or mumei Think it was mumei

I have never been on a date in my 20 years of life xD I think general fear when addressing

jesus christ why is chat so cringe

if its somewhere else i saw her on prnhub

Some girls also have a hard time finding good men bc good men have been heart broken by the "less well raised" girls and so tend to be alone therefor alot of woman these days are sadly left with all the fuck boys or assholes atleast from my experince as a guy I was hurt 6 years ago and only recently started dating a lovely girl and she genuinly cares about me and my feelings wich is why i return the love and affection ofc

I can’t trust woman anymore. All the girls who have ever talked about wanting to date me or tried to hook me up with their friends saying they “liked” me, was always just them setting me up to embarrass me.

If it happens, it happens, ima just do what i want and if some lady friend notices me and decides to join by all means lets dance 🤣 until then im chilling till the end.

I’m crashing out when I turn 30

Top 3 rejections iv gotten from asking a girl out 3. Eww, no 2. I thought you were gay 1. Laughs

Out here doing God's work

The "we should go out" or "what about a coffee together" is pretty good. I always went out with girls who gave me a clear hint or asked me out on a date. Clear communication, clear intentions and being playful/flirty helps a lot.

I met my husband on an online game back in 2014. We were dating separate people at the time but left our relationships for our own separate reasons. At the time we lived in different COUNTRIES. However with time, honesty, and most importantly trust, we found love with each other. I moved to America to be with him. We have been married 8 happy years. My advice to younger people is this: Do what you love and are passionate about and you will find people who share that. Talk. Be honest with each other. Be yourself. Today we have a budding business we work on together and a flame that has not died, only grown stronger. Dont give up on yourself, others, and love.

I have had many women online tell me that men should never approach women in any situation. So, like, great, but that means women have to start approaching men.

My favorite is the vague rejection where she doesn't explicitly say no, she just doesn't say yes, so you're left to question what the fuck is even going on, where you stand.

(Whispers) She's gonna fight My battles for me ❤

Just gonna throw this out there. If women made the first move you have a 98% chance of not only seeing the most confused man you've ever met but he'll also say yes out of pure surprise/shock.

Holy Fuck, this hit really hard.

I grew up being told men were the selfish ones in relationships. I internalised a lot of this messaging, and ensured as best as possible I would be different My experience is that every woman I dated cheated on me, compared me to past partners and potential new ones, could not accept me for who I was, and were incredibly selfish in bed In each case, I left the relationship full of self loathing, deepened insecurities, and a growing sense that I would never be able to find someone who could understand me I eventually came to realise that even female friends had simply intended me as a "backup" guy should their current relationship fail. Strung along enough to be kept "interested", but not enough to base a real friendship on I don't see a future with a partner anymore, and I haven't for a few years now, but every so often I spend a few days mourning the death of that particular fantasy. "It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness; that is life" - Jean Luc Picard

You want to start the first move? Think about what makes sense around the situation. Pretty? Sure, but are they even available? Being blunt may work but being smooth works better. Play around the topic of relationships or even the idea of sharing interests like movies or games or other hobbies. The real question is how you go from greeting to conversation, which usually goes into questions because if they don't ask why you approached, have them answer what made you move, even if general like what they think of something. If you miss because they're taken or not interested, keep your manners and still be friendly. Maybe they come around, maybe they won't. I'd rather make friends than only go for goals immediately. Also because so many people are different, some women and men are vile regardless. Others are afraid from the get-go.

How to attract a mate: Stop trying to have sex and start trying to be honest and be friends FIRST, THEN go for it.

Kabhaal has such a hardy and genuine laugh

You sound like a hoe

Aight so JC's in the house turns out thats me yeah thats right Asmodeus be the second coming of Christ like it's a dumba$$ family guy joke and i got strung up on a legot schizo for the last decade (plus excursion outside of time) thinking i wasnt when they smacked that sh!t right outta my head bro i have been so confused i am making it my life's goal to play a magic game with you after i stay tf outta the psych ward peace ✌️

Ive given up at this point, i havent even talked to a woman since 2015, and i cant even keep contact with friends.

How nice of Matara to let them know how to have rizz

Yes please continue doing so, women have the dating field stacked on their side so much

.... are you a moth or ... Only asking so i can properly understand whatever it is the walkies comment awakened....

I’m absolutely with her on flirting. Flirting is when you’re not direct, but you’re making it obvious. You’re not testing them, you’re not playing games, you’re not just dropping hints; you’re making it obvious that you’re into them, but you’re also not just saying “hey baby wanna come back to my place and smash”. You’re a bit more subtle about it than that, but you can still tell that they’re not just hanging out.

If a guy gets upset by this... there is something wrong with him.

I was just thinking the other day I wished schools taught or at least gave the first steps about dating or just talking with the opposite sex ,so much stuff is left out to interpretation and "feeling" but that leaves out so many neurodivergent people out or typical people who don't get it or are not interested at that point to date or talk but nevertheless are inveitably gonna use the skills in the future or even if they don't they wil atleast understand what people who do are doing. It just seems so bad to leave it for families to teach when its such an important thing that not all families will explain accurately or in a help that helps everybody involved

Honestly as a guy I'm tired of always making the first move ,Been focusing on myself and improving myself rather than chase girls ,I'm still open to dating but If I see they are just another person who sits on her laurels as a woman its an instance no for me , I've had exceptions for people I've been really attracted to but even then if I notice they put no effort its a goodbye.

mom being the wing-mom we all needed

Matara is so classy, I wanna be like her one day

"But i'm too shy...." "Ok, die alone then..."