Great episode thanks for sharing.

Is this feeling of power that you get with a strap-on because what we associate with having a penis, or is it the actual physical fact of having the instrument that penetraes things? Or maybe both? I have never tried it, but when I imagine it I would think it`s more about the actual physical fact of being able to penetrate that changes your relationship to the world.

Great episode thanks guys ❤

This was a great discussion thanks guys.

This is so helpful

Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.

“Confidence is knowing what is true. Joy is loving what is true. Judgment is the thief of joy.” These words are speaking to me!

Is Jace a sagittarius moon? Going down a youtube rabbit hole to regulate is bigly relatable (ik bigly isn't a word, it just makes me giggle)

I loved this episode, very balanced and informed. Thank you 🎉

Great episode thanks for sharing.

Been feeling lately now that my present career coupled with living situation is leaving me feeling like maybe I should be saturated at 1. One partnership is deeply fulfilling on every level we have needed. My other two relationships, for various reasons, we rarely ever meet and carving time to meet is always much more difficult and never feel like they’re going to get the room to breathe and grow to a fuller potential. Many of those reasons when a date is broken off on my end, wind up being work-related (I’m on call to 3 separate businesses 24 hours a day full time).

What I've noticed from a lot of people is that if they move away where one partner is happy but the other is not, it can go both ways. They might be grateful or feel isolated. If they don't feel welcome in their new environment, it could lead to chaos.

Was this upload a mistake of some kind ? :) (or corrected upload for some reason?)

This was extremely helpful thankyou 😊

Great episode.

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Great episode.

Love this podcast so much, keep up the great conversations!

So I am 25% in 1% if the population :D

Interesting to consider.

Nice announcement.

Great episode. Congrads.

I’m a trans 🏳️‍⚧️ female and I recently had the honor of being chosen as the unicorn 🦄 for another bisexual trans 🏳️‍⚧️ female and a bisexual cisgender woman couple. This was so extra special because I was literally chosen over a bisexual cisgender woman. This is so incredibly affirming for a very new trans 🏳️‍⚧️ girl like myself.

Great episode thanks for sharing.

"Straight sex always ends with her getting fucked" What?? No, no it doesn't. This guy's views on straight people are beyond biased. & Let's not shame people for shooting their shot, regardless of if they're a stranger or an acquaintance.

a kitty in a cat tree <3

48:00 Feeling super-Boomer (I'm GenX, but who's counting) but my 18yowas talking in the car with one of her friends. The friend was approached by a guy that she didn't find attractive and immediately called it "harassment" telling him off to go away... and in the same run-on sentence said that if he was good looking, she would have liked it. For as much as we have tried to raise awareness of poor and unwanted behaviors, harassment is not a function of how attractive the person is. Like Dan says, "guess wrong" can ruins lives.

Dan and Esther are two parts of my Unholy Trinity.

Great episode.

Would love him back again!

Nice. Dan’s column would have been the first strong voice I had ever heard as far the topic of sex positivity goes way back when in copies of the Chicago Reader. I also credit him for my occasional use of the acronym of DTMFA to this day! Great guest! =]

You guys are such amazing people. I do wish one day... soon, this could become your only job. The world need more people like you. Wishing you all best❤

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10 years? My partner and I have been poly now for just about 10 years and your podcast is what helped me learn a lot about what was going on with my relationship with my wife. Thank you all so much for helping me through this journey and so happy that you three are still doing this podcast!

Congratulations!🎉

Great episode.

Loved this book, its content, its style, very accessible, inclusive and empowering. It echoed a lot of my experience and left me with much food for thought.

I do a lot of driving and am still very new to polyam. Finding y’all on Pandora and here has been a lifesaver. I wanted to ask, do you have a compiled reading list somewhere online? I have a wordpad doc I’m slowly filling in as I listen to episodes, but that’s not the most efficient. =] Anyway. Thanks again and hope y’all are having a wonderful day!!

Great episode.

This is so helpful. I can relate the the family experiences paving the way.

If you want to date me, you don't get to impose restrictions on my one-on-one time with you for the protection of your established relationship. You have to be available to me. I'm not going to go at the pace of a third person. That's dehumanizing to me. Even if we only see each other in person a few times a year, due to long distance, when we do meet, you're mine. You don't get to deny me the experience I want with you out of concern for the emotional needs of your established relationship, because that's not fair to me. During my time with you, MY emotional needs take priority over any metamour. You have to have my back. You have to open yourself up to me if you want to date me. I'm not your third.