If women are talking about super attractive dudes, guys that have all the options due to being tall, handsome, wealthy, charismatic, sexy, etc then...... it ain't going to get easier but you could try having oerson commit before sex and assert that ASAP, like you need to meet his parents and to be compatible etc

Is ghosting the normal for professionalism? Maybe that's a bad influence

Lots of women will be turned off by men being nice to them, or gentlemen, or dedicated... so women want these men because they are aloof... maybe learn to assert self and distinguish between competence / arrogance , availability / limerance , authenticity / fantasy...

Women: "Oh, that guy is unavailable. Let us be interested in him! Ugh, the other guy is clearly interested in monogamy. Oh cruel Fate, why dost thou confuse!?" Lots of times limerance happens when we aren't being very authentic with others or even ourself. And projections, etc. Also antisocial communities sometimes, and polarized views of other groups as dangerous or privileged or disdainful and reasonable targets of misuse. Also moe people growing uo in broken family dynamics and less wealth in Western countries, so less chance for healthy families. Women: "Oh he is broody and mysterious! Let us like him a lot! Yikes, he revealed his normal reality, kinda boring now."

"Feelings are the problem". So weird! Tatkin constantly says things that completely contradict the EFT model, emotion focused therapy. They say, feelings are the solution. The highest form of intelligence. Oh man, id love for pact and eft to square off. A scientific debate. Id pay to see that!

BTW, not all "ghosting" (i.e. cutting off all contact) is bad. When I found my best friend and romantic partner had been sleeping together while I was on a trip, and then they both LIED to me about it repeatedly, and LIED directly to my face when I suspected and asked directly, I didn't say another word. Literally.

I think the potato, I mean "camera" here, is ghosting.... :-p

Ghosting is not a good idea,, particularly for females. It will literally.come back to haunt you, psychologically. Let the person know that you don't want to see them again.

If you feel like someone victimised you in a relationship ghosting might be a way to reassert your will over the relationship dynamic.

Idk, i typically only get the "itch" for social contact beyond workmakte interactions around 1 once a month. Sounds like you would think i "ghosted" before i even realized something was "wrong"

Yeah but, isnt it a victimless crime though?

You're right madam.

I was recently ghosted from a gf of almost 5 years, no explanation and the last thing we were doing was laying down watching a movie. Next day gone and every family member removed from social media without the ability to contact or anything..it's been 3 months and I'm broken

Gretta another great episode! I was ghosted last year..my ghost sent me the last message on September 1..and still hurts like crazy. I truly and deeply loved him. One year has passed and I haven't gotten over it so during the last few days I had been considering starting out journaling so this episode was what I needed! Gretta once again thanks from the bottom of my heart!

Thanks Gretta!

Ghosting is a deal breaker, I firmly believe that respectful communication is extremely critical in any relationship (more important in marriage or LTR). I define boundaries up front and don't budge a millimeter on them. My secret to maintaining a peaceful lifestyle!

This was incredibly healing. I feel very seen. Dr. Tatkin is very insightful!

truly incredible episode! beautiful music