this is a really good video

So true! That helplessness and even wanting to fix or control prevents us from listening and instead we want to jump in and try to make it better. Ironically it just makes it worse. Also sometimes we don't want to pry or be nosy by asking questions, or we want to give a person their privacy. But indeed it does a service for the other person to be present and supportive through listening. It truly makes us better people. Great video!

Sitting with the discomfort to let things unfold is such a good metaphor for building trust in so many ways!

Very helpful to hear these ways to maximize success... Great post!

SO true! Some days are just not for that. I think the best thing we can do in that case is to accept it, and go take a nap, go for a walk, or hug a cat/dog/familiar. I like what you said about creating space around it.

Oh my word how FANTASTIC!!!

I’m thrilled too!! Great news thanks Simon. No knowledge is wasted 😅

Your video has sparked a meaningful conversation. How do you handle the emotional rollercoaster of success and failure in your own life? As someone who runs a dream interpretation channel, what strategies would you recommend for maintaining emotional balance during times of fluctuating fortunes? I appreciate the insights shared in this video about navigating life's highs and lows, and I've liked and subscribed to your channel for more valuable content.

Interesting! It’s very subtle. I’m going to try and use it as things crop up. Take a breath. Take a moment. And bring this other energy in. Thanks Simon!

❤YESSSSSSSS, I just found you........please make your Videos Longer, it is so Eye Opening, n Encouraging, Thank You. Shame is Huge for me! What is your thoughts on Isolating or being stuck in a Freeze State, Shame Based, unable to get out into my life and live? Do you have some insight on this coping technique, that seems so Debilitating?😢

Funny that, I have the same voice!

Sure recognise this..!

Traumatized people were often advised into the nuthouse.

Meeting another where they are.... what a gem of a message! Grateful to come upon your wisdom and clarity.:-)

Wonderful to have your presence here on KZbin, Simon. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and compassion.

Most problems we suffer on an emotional level are alleviated by "processes"! However, egocentric folk who struggle to "accept" reality "feel" it's soooo much more than a process and resist. Tough love, with a caveat, will often work. The caveat being some explanation as to the Tough love process and the "sensetive" battering of their ego!

I haven't been born yet but thank you!

Thank you sir.

grey hair, balding, loose skin, wrinkles, giving life advice... must be a single 30 year old going through a mid life crisis. GL

Thank you!

I don't believe in having friends, they are a liability. However, I find that saying "Pray Continue", then listening...

I have never met a person before but thank you!

I don’t have friends but thank you!

Thanks so much Simon - this is great! What will make the biggest difference to me right now was putting a wash on ;-) Just because it was weighing on my mind how many loads of washing are waiting to be done after our Airbnb guests. Such a little thing to make me feel more in control 👍🏼

Such a great tool to turn up the volume on our awareness when it comes to what we are judging!

Lovely as always Simon!

Very thoughtful as always Simon! I always enjoy your videos.

What a profoundly helpful talk Simon, thank you!! I can share it with many people.

Enjoyed this Simon! Great story that I can personally relate to...!

Thanks for the story, Simon! I really can imagine all those little bits all over your refrigerator… ;-) And I so identify with being able to see how quickly I lose connection with myself.

Really valuable information we can apply to our lives to make simple or even big changes. Thank you for sharing this!

Oh... I have a laundry list of bad decisions. I've learned I don't make decisions after 2pm because my NS is exhausted by that time in the day. That's how I help make less bad choices day to day! and.. I assure you... I will never do press ups on my fists! LOL (and...fun fact in Canada we call it 'push ups') --

what a wonderful tool, thank you for sharing!

Such a great message, thank you for sharing this!

What a helpful perspective! I felt more and more relaxed listening to you and taking on that perspective for the uncertainties in my life...Thank you 🙏

Excellent ideas, thank you for sharing!

Great idea! I see these two skills as working on the external, and working on the internal - changing/adapting external environment as I can, and equally adapting my internal experience and like you said 'build my capacity'. Loved this video, thanks!