Being monogamous is not limiting. In fact I would say its very freeing. It allows two people to come together and bond in both a sexual way and an emotional way thats not shared with others. Once the trust is built then you have real freedom by not having to think so much about the relationship and what the future holds. You can put that sexual energy into each other or just have clarity of thought in putting it into other endeavors such as building your careers or your families finances. The human heart can be fickle and the less temptation its given, the less fickle it becomes. By being monogamous, you are protecting both yourself and the person you love from potential emotional disaster. Like anything in life it takes work. Me and my husband have been together for 45 years and we have been pretty much monogamous the entire relationship. Except for a few times of wonderlust on one or the others part. Once it nearly ended us. Lets just say, being monogamous is the goal to strive for success. if long term survivability is your goal.
@vincentbarnes783919 сағат бұрын
May be i m old fashioned james if I commit two one person i would not look elsewhere for any ting else. If you have feelings for another person whilst in a loving relationship why look elsewhere mate I disagree
@ralphturner379819 сағат бұрын
I don't believe monogamous means you can sleep with only one person **for life** If you are monogamous for, say, 10 years, then start sleeping with two people, you were still moogamous for those 10 years.
@ZEK-ip4fu19 сағат бұрын
I disagree with your logic. Monogamous should be everyones goal
@VanceEvans-t8h21 сағат бұрын
You are so hot 🔥🔥🔥❤❤❤
@stevemoseley7420Күн бұрын
I lov e listing to you keep going
@SWAluvКүн бұрын
I am in love with Tony!!!!
@bajanyaoikaizer6902Күн бұрын
I'd be more willing to accept the "side" terminology if nearly everyone I see using it weren't just ravenous bottoms whom are ashamed to be bottoms or a bunch of uppity tupity prudes that believe m/m intercourse was some low level means of enjoyment that was significantly beneath them or people who were repulsed/traumatized/scared by m/m intercourse. There's probably another reason but I'll hold my tongue.
@marklola12Күн бұрын
tbh as a gay guy i find it very disturbing people calling themselves animals or daddies etc and yes its seedy and gross
@vincentbarnes7839Күн бұрын
Im still a virgin but never fancied top bottom or anything anal. Thanks for this video means i am not alone this is why i am still a virgin thanks james so much mate
@garyneeley4932Күн бұрын
I am verse/ top. Meaning I am completely versatile, but tend to be more top in most interactions.
@adrianchappell5139Күн бұрын
Great video James , Never heard of side before , only top bottom vers, but good to learn something new
@michaeljohndennis2231Күн бұрын
Hi James - love the new background, can you tell us about the statue in the background? I do hope that you, the gorgeous Daniel and the lovely cats had a nice Christmas - I’d probably call myself either a vers or a side, as I love to cuddle up with my beloved teddy bears, especially my darling Paddington Bear, even at age 54, as he’s my best friend and we fall asleep and wake up in each other’s arms on a cold night/cold morning 😍😍😍😍
@justonlyjohn6596Күн бұрын
Let's be condescending... so it's not the PERSON, it's the PERSONA that matters. Perhaps how he looks with you as an accessory on his arm to FRIENDS AT THE CLUB. *NOW NOW, that sounds SHALLOW... Ummm Hmm - YES, it is* Reductive categories of human beings presented/imagined as insightful in his mind - isn't that kind of like when a stupid dude says, "NOW I've got you in your box!" *It's AMAZING 2b SEEN by HIM?* - just before you dump him _and then reconsider all your decisions which led to giving him WAY TOO many FLAGS MISSED_ === Hey... it's real, but you don't know until you shovel yourself out of this then look back, and even that's only the gay stuff... not ALL of HUMANITY. Good topic.. week minds find identity in labels. Magical Evangelical witches find power in WORDS. Simple ideas can be shared with simple minded people, but not all thoughts are simple - then what happens? Independent thought is important, and SHALLOW LABELS... that's abdicating the difficult responsibility to THINK ON YOUR OWN. Sure, shared delusions are advantageous, but they are also INSANE.
@alankent2 күн бұрын
We always called a pillow queen as a "do me" queen. It is an insult
@herkcollins63052 күн бұрын
I'm too short and fat to be a bear in my opinion, I'm known as teddeybayre in England. Maybe I could start a new trend lol.
@brittsaunders46212 күн бұрын
I've gone through phases as you have, James - I was a twink as a teen/in my early 20s, then a twunk when I started working out, but over age 30...I can't even say. At age 56 now, I like to say I'm just me, and I don't fit into a category. PS: The wink at the end...so cute!! 💖💖💖
@curtisdaniel92942 күн бұрын
So I am not a gold star gay. Why the Eff does it matter? We gays are even tougher on ourselves than many straight people.
@Nelson_5042 күн бұрын
I fit in the category known as depressed middle-aged average-bodied undesirable homosexual from a homophobic country.
@one-seventh2 күн бұрын
James surely is the hottest Twink, Twunk and Queen on this channel.
@clayclifton38952 күн бұрын
😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊
@michaeljohndennis22312 күн бұрын
At age 54, I’m definitely a queen - I was never a jock or a frat boy
@ukbob2 күн бұрын
Im a Gunk - Gay punk :)
@TheYopogo2 күн бұрын
I'm a Platinum star gay! (Like a gold star gay, but born by cesarean)
@stationarywanderer79102 күн бұрын
"Gold Star Gay" isn't negative, and it isn't meant as a judgment. It's celebrating someone who always knew who they were, and think it's wonderful. Gay people are often shamed for being gay, and this is celebrating being gay.
@marshallmkerr2 күн бұрын
Here in the States, of course, a Gold Star Family is one that's lost an immediate member in active-duty military service. There are some tax and other benefits involved, but a free session with a rent-boy is not - unfortunately - among them.
@nunyabiznes333 күн бұрын
Am a 40 y/o gay virgin incel. Is there a funny term for people like me? 😂
@one-seventh2 күн бұрын
Adorable is your name. And lovely.
@kernow93243 күн бұрын
Holy hell, I didn't know any of this! I'm not on any apps - happily married. No judgement.
@garybregel15723 күн бұрын
I define myself as a guy. It's nobody's business what I am sexually.
@detcarguymichigan40213 күн бұрын
I began coming out in 1983, age 27. I knew I was different by age 8 and I also knew to hide it. Here in the USA, every State had anti-gay laws, but nationally the American Psychiatric Association classified homosexuality as a mental illness. So both children and adults could be sent to mental hospitals for all kinds of torturing treatments to cure you into being heterosexual. Finally in 1973, when I was 17, the APA removed homosexuality from their list of mental illnesses. A first step to our civil rights.
@detcarguymichigan40213 күн бұрын
Another common acronym is FWB, meaning Friends With Benefits. It's also sometimes called a fuck buddy. Essentially an on going friendship for primarily mutually satisfying foreplay and sex. It gives you a willing friend to play naked, acknowledgeable partner to enjoy your fetish play and someone you know and trust.
@charliehiker22473 күн бұрын
Someone told me I was a bear, back when I had no idea what that meant, I did have a close-cropped beard at the time and wearing my favorite flannel shirt, but frequently didn't have a beard due to 'safety respirator' requirements at my work place (paper mill: chlorine, sulfur dioxide, ammonia, among others). I didn't like the "plastic bag", compressed air tank set-up carried around by visitors and those wanting to keep their beard (was heavy and got in the way) "define myself" as just me... like it or leave it
@thesilverdragon19633 күн бұрын
I define myself as an Experience! 😂
@pedrofelipepamplona19443 күн бұрын
I’m a Gold Star Gay but that doesn’t mean I think I’m better than those who are not !
@ArtfullyGifted3 күн бұрын
It's much harder being a trans guy. I'm oblivious to flirting queues. Typically it seems I attract more bisexual men and many look straight.
@ArtfullyGifted3 күн бұрын
I've seen plenty of cis men with FTM in their profile.
@stevemoseley74203 күн бұрын
I am a gold star gay
@stevemoseley74203 күн бұрын
I like your videos keep on going
@Islander2553 күн бұрын
My gay friends use gold star gay every bit as much now as my gay friends did 10 years ago. It was never truly a "badge of honor"--always more of a tongue-in-cheek thing. I think this becomes more obvious with the use of platinum star gay (born by c-section, so never touched any vagina, even when you were born), because obviously people don't have any control over that.
@xentharas56293 күн бұрын
So a pillow princess is someone doing the starfish?^^
@michaeljohndennis22313 күн бұрын
I define myself as a queen 😍😍😍
@Samuel115s3 күн бұрын
The one in the middle is so hot 🥵
@romantroshkin31423 күн бұрын
You are haaandsoome
@stuartm60693 күн бұрын
Platinum Gay here. Born via C-Section and never had sex with a woman. We are rarer than gold star gays. However, I think we should do away with these terms. They are not representative of the inclusive community that we are striving for.
@laughingmonarch45824 күн бұрын
"FTM" - A modern day conversion therapy!
@JoeT-re5ro4 күн бұрын
There’s also the term platinum gay . Those of us who never had sex with a woman nor touched a vagina, even in birth
@stevemoseley74204 күн бұрын
thank you
@dougcrawford69674 күн бұрын
Great explainer. Short and sweet. Love the ink too.