Let your brain catch up with your mouth Love it !

I love how you nailed it down to the main issue "how he reacts to someone else's statement". Looks deep down he disagree with the statement and trying to defend himself.

Great job Marcia of showing how to dig below the emotions to help them identify an area for growth and change. I love that you stopped the client from the spiralling and living in the past - I have a client who does similar and I've been letting them share in the hopes it will help them process, but I can see how effective it is to catch and break the spiral, and redirect back to 'where to from here'

That was an excellent session demonstrating a shift in attitude in a quick 20 minutes....The client definitely gained a lot of new insights in a short amount of time. The coach made it look effortless so credit to her. The only thing I noticed that was missing at the beginning was setting an agreement.... But by the end of the session, a new awareness was definitely formed.

Mercia, first time I could feel that you lead the client in the middle. it appears you were trying to solve her problem that changing belief. In fact it looked like you were making her to accept your agenda of solution and you were looking clueless at the end.

I'm not sure this is a shifting of any belief. Rather it seems to me to be a clarification of Frans role. Regardless, it helped her with her situation.

Your book Coach the person and not the problem - I am reading it now and it has been an eye opener for me. Your TED talk was an absolute inspiration. This demo clearly shows what coaching the person is all about and much more. I am learning a lot from you. Thanks a lot for being so kind and being YOU Marcia. Regards, Deepak

What a small world. I was watching this and realise I know Christine (the Coachee)! We were in a Lean in Circle together. I haven't seen her in quite a while but she did get a job after this that she liked.

He mentioned balance more than once. It seems like this is what he is longing for? Is it?

While I was listening to you, I was reminded why it's so beautiful to be a coach. Your explanation moved me to tears, and the only thing that came to my mind afterward was to comment here that you are a beautiful soul. :)

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Thank you for Sharing this magnificent session. This is GOOD Coaching. Real, genuine, no fancy words or dramatic woo woo gestures, outstanding. A Beautiful Human being interacting with another Human Being. Masterful Coaching demonstrating the Power of Client Centered Listening.

Gosh. Thank you for this Video. Every sentence is so powerful. I am so happy to discovered you and your work. Cant wait to get hands on your books. xx

Thank you for sharing

I find this an amazingly strong and impactful coaching session. Thank you!

This coach keeps interrupting the client with “okay” before the client is done and it feels like the coach is too eager to speak. And she’s also putting words in the clients mouth and telling her more what she thinks than asking clarifying questions. You can tell the coach has already decided what the clients needs or wants - she’s projecting her narrative onto the session instead of being more curious.

Thank you for inspirational coach demo session. I truly enjoyed the sincere and reflective exchange.

Coaching is about unlocking possibilities. A Coach is a though/perspective disruptor. It help seeing what else there is. What is blocking the way of the player to create what they aspire to? What mental models or assumptions let them to belief that this or that thing getting in the way? The coach is a mirror that shares back what is heard. Actively listens (in words, silence, energy, body…) and asks questions to question, discover and expand the perspective. Coaches are thinking parners that help players think for themselves.

thank you!

Seems to me that she might be from a family with many siblings and she is one of the younger ones, or one with less power, whose opinion is usually no heard in the discussions. She is just recreating that experience. "They don't listen to what I have to say" is her emotional issue, which might be older than the last 10 years. So she might benefit from a few therapy sessions.

It is when people are dismissive about my chronic illhealth that I get wound up. It is infuriating. It's ridiculous to argue with someone that has an illness which you have never had. Just say "I am sorry you are dealing with that" instead of all the dismissive comments. They act like they are in competition with me - Like you say - "arrogant"!

This was such a great example of awareness coaching using the markers! I'm working toward ICF certification and have had the opportunity to coach classmates in very short periods of time to some amazing insights. It blows me away what can be accomplished in such a brief session. I'm just starting to really hone my skills with the markers. I'll be checking out more of your demos. Thank you so much!

I wish I could understand the client :( I’m only getting 5% 😢

Love this! A really good example of how the coach's presence, pacing of speech, and validation help to regulate the client's experience. Overall, She took time to explore and find meaning and direction in all the thoughts swirling in her head, which was so important

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I just got your book! I met you through Jay Shettys School, you are amazinfg.

Excellent demo of coaching. I admire the way you genuinely care for and love the client. And the questions.... ❣Bible for learner coaches like me :)

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You are an amazing coach. It is natural for you

A good session on how to get to the core of the ramblings of a self-important, pompous client. People retire all the time. No one cares. Peddling his own book during the session with Marcia seemed a bit opportunistic & dishonest on the client's part.

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I feel this session was very profound in a whole Presence, a human coaching a human. The place where he can see himself, that shift of him seeing all the beautiful value he has in an unique way. As a coach, we know the client is not broken and the process is walking side by side the client in their realisation of their greatness and possibility and the greatness of others in his life, trusting that and knowing is so simple. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

Love it. So powerful and smooth. @Marcia you are amazing

Women do cat fight each other in some situation....and some women do Cat Fight each other to gain power, unfortunately.

She is procrastinating. I resonate with her. I am in the process of developing my first coaching program as well, and I have been delaying getting the work done and being inconsistent in the process. Since this program is about her journey (as is mine), she should ideally detach from the outcome which is that everyone will jump at the opportunity to do this program, and rather focus on the accomplishment of creating and launching the program. The likelihood is that very few will take the course, at first. She will find that her next mission is to learn how to market the program. The other thing about finding the time or the motivation or a quiet time to focus on the development requires more boundaries and less excuses. I hope she finishes it soon as launches it. All the best to her. Side note: I find it amazing how coaches need coaches to walk through issues that these coaches actually already know how to get out of, or work through. Really what they need is a sounding board - a form of confirmation. Just an interesting observation. Im glad I came across this video.

I hope Fran has established some dates for the interviews. One way to prepare is to interview herself in front of a mirror, asking and answering the questions. Whether its the right or wrong answer doesnt matter. Its the mental preparation. I detect shes a fellow South African like me. Great video Marcia, thanks for sharing. I have just come across your channel.

Lovely session! Lots to learn from.

Thank you Marcia for sharing the demo sessions 🙏 Just started reading your book - "Coach the person, not the problem" and the reflective inquiry is making so much of sense 🙂 I have began my coaching journey recently and pursing ICF ACC credentials, completed NLP Practitioner certifications. Please do share if you have suggestions or guidance for people starting up with the coaching journey. Thank you 😇

Appreciate your way of making one stop a moment & listen & really hear fully the simple solution we sought or pondered. Thank you.

Such a lovely coaching demo. Thank you both!

Everytime I watch a Marcia coaching demonstration it just highlights the impeccable skills of an MCC level coach. Its extraordinary to watch and learn from. I bought the book "Coach the Person Not the Problem" and absolutely love it so far. Cannot wait for January 2024 for the next book Breakthrough Coaching. I have so much to learn and really grow from watching Marcia coach. I have watched all of Marcia's coaching demos and it has provided so much value. Selfishly, I would love to see Marcia analyze her own coaching demonstrations and provide insights on what she was thinking with tips/pointers on how she navigated certain topics/situations during the coaching session.

if a 20 min coaching can do what it did, am excited about what a lifelong commitment to being a #coachee on all things important to self can do to one🪄👌👌👌

Thank you for sharing, Marcia. Always a pleasure to see you thinking with you clients together.

Love, how can you hold on to that !

Thanks, Marcia. Conversations with those who seek to win each point can be so incredibly draining. I appreciate your suggestions

Sounds like Amiesh feels unseen by colleagues/community. So many accomplishments, and yet one person triggers a need to show how much he's been doing. I get it.

Privileged and honoured to be coached by you Marcia 🙏 You deftly facilitated my journeying through my very dilemmatic situation. So very helpful. Thank you! 🎉 Congratulations and best wishes for your new book!

What an excellent and insightful conversation. Thank you!