I just had a random thought to look you up this time ( something I do once in a while) and not going to lie, this really made me happy. Even though I can tell your journey does feel hard sometimes for you, you have more sparks than ever before. I can relate so much with how we navigate depression, and found this video to be very helpful for me. I do want to say I am totally proud of you, and rooting on whatever makes you happy where ever it may be. Let’s not put ourselves in boxes, but find purpose in the freedom of creativity and diversity; let’s start coloring outside the lines and explore the human experience on all its glory. The reason I watch you is really because you find ways to reinvent yourself, try to be so genuine and honest each layer, can also face the reality and truths of the multi layers of yourself. You are not perfect, but you are definitely a wonder! Thank you again for this video! -long time viewer.

I'm 28 and I know exactly what it's like to have parents in seperate homes and it was like that not long after I was born. It was one hell of a struggle trying to balance the time spent between my mom and dad. They both had joint custody of me, so I got to see them both but it felt more like I was just visiting my mom and living with my dad. You're very lucky that they didn't divorce before you turned 1. Throughout my school career, I was bullied for being too short and too scrawny and dating a girl with short hair. I had nobody to talk to about it either. The principal did nothing about it, my mom and dad never confronted the principal about it but instead, I was labeled the bully. Wrong place at the wrong time kinda moments. Over time, it changed me and it resulted in me being on medications that did nothing but cause more problems. When high school came around, I switched psychiatrists and what a big mistake I made. She put me on a mixture of four medications that weren't supposed to be taken together and she started me on dosages so high that my liver could've shut down. I eventually stopped taking them due to my fits of rage, uncontrollable sadness and suicidal ideations. I built myself back up and for a while, things went well until my friends and girlfriends started taking advantage of my kindness and willingness to help. Fast forward to now, I recently seen a photo of the young me and I thought to myself "Innocence, my life as a child was pure and good.". Now, I look in the mirror everyday and I think "Well Ira, you became what you swore to never be, a coldhearted wretch. How do we fix this? What are we gonna do to change and succeed?". I use that pain as my strength everyday to keep going and not bite the bullet. I used to believe that life would be easy but it sure proved me wrong. I made several mistakes that I'm far from proud of. That's the dilemma of being human, we're prone to make mistakes but those mistakes can make some of the best people on the planet. Keep fighting, focus on your positivity, set new goals and LEAN ON YOUR LOVED ONES. Hopefully things will look up for you soon. We're all in this together.

My name is Roberta and I'm Transgender I would like to say your my idol

What a gorgeous beautiful mama 🤗❤️⛅️🦋🪽💎🐇🌊

I love you Stef, this is my first Christmas without my mom, my home was sold, my dog is gone, my cats are with my other mom whom I can’t live with and it all feels so wrong, but the videos you make like this one help me remember the good times 🤍🎅🏻🎄

Holy slay

Ur a man

so glad your back on KZbin. You're super cute, loving the tattoos. Most importantly, very informative!

Stefff your soooo pretty the blue eyes and light patch of hair is some symptoms of Wardenburg syndrome. It’s so pretty in my opinion I wish I had it.

Wow. You really hate white people. That's racism, and it's something you need to work on.

I just wanted to write you, I hope you are doing great, I know these life problems are always hard. I recently about a month ago got sick of the twenty years of fighting with myself. I have lived what I thought was my life hiding something I thought was not acceptable because I was raised and taught your a man you need to meet a girl get married have children and provide for your family. I have done all this and have thought I was happy, things would be essentially good. About two years ago my youngest child who was a 14 year old at the time came to me and my wife and expressed to us that he thought he should have been born a boy and wanted to be called and treated as such and his name is Elliot. This was a painful bit of information because I felt as if I should have been born a Girl, I told him that he is my child I love him no matter what and I want him to be who makes him happy. I couldn’t at that time tell him how I truly felt because I was too scared. This had eaten away at me for two more years. I eventually got sick of it I couldn’t take it any more. I finally a month and a half ago sat down with my wife and told her everything, she was initially shocked and was curious what that meant for her and I could only tell her I had made promise on our wedding day and this changes nothing between us I still love her and will be here until the day I die. We talked the rest of the night and didn’t get a wink of sleep. She told me don’t worry she wants me happy, and she didn’t care what that meant. She did ask if I was going to want surgery I told her I am not sure as I am 41 years old and diabetic healing might not happen very quickly enough to make that a viable option so she asked me what does that mean? What do I want? I said I definitely think that I would like to go on hormones and transition into the female was meant to be and see where it goes from there she said whatever made me happy she would support me. The days following, we have sat down with the children and talked with them. My kids are always amazing. They were very supportive and behind me no matter what it meant then I went to my parents and had to talk with them. I was a little scared and worried, but my parents said they would want me happy and support me no matter what, I went to my siblings and they were all very supportive and behind me my closest friends of which I’ve had for 20+ years most are OK. I’ve had a few that. I’m not quite sure yet, but I knew that might be a thing. I’ve been watching your KZbin and a few others is past few weeks and to see you open up with this video the way you did you look so happy even though this video of the show there has been hard times in your life as well just know great things are planned for your life, and that you have helped in Way. for many people that you probably will never know. Thank you for your openness and your honesty. I hope things get better for you. I will be starting my own TikTok account and using my social media to hopefully help people in the way that you’re trying to help others.

Love the blue! Something fun from me , I finally got a ps5!

ok fine your jewish new yorker voice proved it, you are qualified. lol.

Watched it from start to finish, thank you so much x

Omgggggg the last time I watched one of your videos was about 6 or 7 years ago!!!!! U are still one of my fave youtubers...so happy to see you still going and evene prettier than ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Omg I'm shook rn I clicked so quickly

❤❤❤❤

I’ve literally seen this video when I was so young, and I didn’t even realize that this was the condition that runs in my family.

Missed you Stef great to see you back. Missed you. X

Ooo girlie. I am late to the party, but I definitely feel all of the above. Especially with the election results. You held up an Indigenous brand from Canada that I am not familiar with. Can't find the point in the video where you name it. If you'd like to support another Indigenous brand that absolutely deserves more folks talking about it... Prados

I've been a subscriber for like 9 years and never even knew

9 years later youtube says check this person out!

Pretty sure I have heard people calling men gay for liking masculine-looking women, regardless of their genitals. It’s not only a thing that happens to men who date trans women. People have the weirdest criteria for what they consider “gay.” (They can even call someone gay for dating a woman, and then in the next breath tell an actual gay person that they aren’t really gay.) There’s that whole meme that goes “fellas, is it gay to [insert any random thing that has nothing to do with sexuality]?” On another topic, I’m asexual, so I don’t really understand how sexual attraction works. I was under the impression that it’s mostly about physical appearance, not about gender. And then of course, attraction can change as you get to know someone better, first impressions don’t always have a lasting impact. (When you find out someone has a horrible personality, you might not find them attractive anymore, and vice versa, that people seem more attractive after you find out they have a lovable personality.)

I have a question plz: how did you achieve your voice? Voice training + surgery? And if so which ones? I would very much appreciate it if you got back to me because my voice makes me more dysphoric than anything

But u look so normal like genuinely

For me you are a very attractive and beautiful but I don't know how to call you woman? Trans? I'd love to go on a date with you

❤amazing

Thank you so much for this video. I'm 37 yr old CIS but have pcos, am very pale and grow coarse facial hair.. never really knew how to color correct cuz i definitely have a 5 o'clock shadow and didn't know how to conceal it correctly

If the overwhelming majority of a populace are not trans, then you do get to be the default, by, well… default. Normalize normal.

I am ADHD was surprised to see this on your channel, I am a 54 yr old male in Canada, have had attention deficit hyperactivity disorder well…… all my life but was diagnosed at young age about 10 in 1980 wasn’t really understood, was prescribed many different medications over the years, so I get it take care Steph.

Allow me to tell you that you are the most beautiful and amazing woman that I've ever seen in my life

Gorgeous wish i could have a lady like you xxx

If anything, people with faces like those with Waardenburg Syndrome, with wide set beautiful light eyes, I always thought were extremely beautiful. Not that I'm saying I think she has the condition, just love the look of many of those features.

As a trans gal who does not know how to do makeup at all, this is really helpful, thank you. <3

Thank you so much for posting this Stef! I love your content, I learn so much from you, and I appreciate how you inform us and how nicely you speak to us! Wishing you the best 💕

Hey I (cis male) am very interested in cross dressing and i have kinda the same head shape as you of course without the changes from your femalizing surgery and it really helped me to get started. Finally understood contouring and highlighting and will try it out :) thanks a lot for your great tutorial. I hope I can pass one day just with make up :)

Steffi, there is no fault

the bread analogy made total sense to me!

"Why aren't masculine cis women treated negatively" They are...Where have you been. Women can't even work out their arms without being called man arms, if they catch a football they're called dykes etc. Cis women go out of their way to not appear "masculine" ALL THE TIME because they are ridiculed for it. You never grew up female, you have no idea what you're talking about. Nor is there any problem with specifying that there is a difference between trans women and women. Either way, no matter how "masculine or feminine" a person is in society, it doesn't change what they were born as. If you're attracted to someone who has a penis and you're a male, that is not straight. There is nothing wrong with being bi or gay or acknowledging that your boyfriend is.

persistence is a virtue. I've come to accept as a neurodivergent that consistency is simply not one of my virtues. I don't natively generate recurring structure around time, like releasing on a recurring schedule. So I also tolerate people who do the same, and recognize it where I can. Persistence often wins races. People can build good and bad habits out of it as a trait. Also you look awesome. Keep posting videos, please. They are awesome to me, as an egg who hatched a few months ago.

I'm under estrogen and I feel amazing being a kathoey forever my boyfriend penetrates me hard to much to make me feel like a filthy girl

Close enough, welcome back gojo!

I’m a trans man who has been out for 9 years, and I’m considering detransition. I don’t regret my transition, I think it gave me agency to explore my identity and myself during a time where I didn’t have control, but I feel different now. It’s so hard to find resources on detransition that isn’t just spewing anti trans rhetoric- because that is far from my sentiment. I am terrified of this new journey I’m embarking on because I feel overwhelmed and like even if I did detransition I don’t know where Id begin, how everyone who has known me since I was 13 would react, and I’m worried about people trying to use my experience as “proof” against trans folks despite me being in full support of the community. So many mixed feelings, but these videos really help me feel like maybe I can take a step closer and test the waters more without caring what other people think about me

How strange I've always thought that wider not only woman more beautiful but could give them a wider perspective on life.

Good to see you back

Hi Stef, in the previous vidoes you made on this subject, you used something you called baking, where you used light powder (i think), across the face, but not in this video... what did that technique do, would you recommend it now, if not... should I stay away from it for some reason? Thank you for this, I'm at the point of learning to contour, which has been very intimidating and this video explains it really well ❤

If you have to look around before telling a joke then you shouldn’t be telling it is my thought. You are a wonderful beautiful family and I am so happy to see all of your joy!

If you have to look around before telling a joke then you shouldn’t be telling it is my thought. You are a wonderful beautiful family and I am so happy to see all of your joy!

This feels just like the kind of argumentation my partner and I were to have in a similar situation 😂❤

I love makeup artists one did a wonderful job on my makeover I’m A cross dresser

I think you are absolutely beautiful!