Why anyone would want an ex back defies belief. These videos are good not only for figuring out how to resist such a temptation but more importantly, figuring out how to spot emotionally stunted individuals before being seduced by their charm offensives in the early stages of a new relationship.

Definitely the second example and no chance I would break what I now know to be no-contact, which I instinctively entered into. Interestingly, after I ended the relationship giving very clear reasons why, two days later she 'ended the relationship' in a way that shifted the blame onto me. So rather than look to taking any kind of responsibility or ask for clarification, she reacted in a way that clearly made her feel better about the rejection and abandonment she was feeling. Not that it bothered me but it kind of reinforced my reason for ending it, that she was not emotionally available to a satidfactory degree. I am interested to see if this no-contact thing actually works, seeing as there are about a million videos online about it. I don't think it will, there is way too much pride and stubbornness there, which is all a part of the reason it had to end. I wouldn't take her back anyway, these ones don't tend to face up to themselves and don't tend to 'do the work'. Thank you for the video. Do more of them, I like your down to earth Aussie style !! All the best.

Interesting term, "conflict avoidant". I recently parted company with a woman who I discovered after several months that she was indeed conflict avoidant. At one point I had initiated a conversation in order to open up dialogue on an issue that I saw had arisen. To me this was very normal and I might do this quite happily with any friend, family member of whomever. Just that, she became immediately defensive and felt personally attacked, even though it was a general topic to do with us both and actually not about her personally. I started to discover she was avoidant of anything to do with her own feelings and at a certain point shut down emotionally for the first time for no apparent reason. 3 days later she was still withdrawn, on day 4 I ended the relationship. Kind of brutal but as the video suggests, if there is not some way of being able to communicate about stuff and things then the relationship is doomed, in my view. Heartbreaking because this was a relationship ended without ever having had an argument, let alone a cross word. Perhaps there should have been. It was a really lovely few months together but you have to be able to talk about stuff, even when it's difficult to do so. I'm afraid I have zero tolerance for emotionally stunted people at the best of times and strong boundaries to go with it to protect my own emotional well-being if nothing else. Interesting video, thank you, I appreciate it.

I was completely blind sided.

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