So sad. Sounds like my soon to be ex husband. So pathetic.

3 years 30 discards

It ends when you do this... by enabling her your keeping her stuck as well

🤦🏿‍♂️ damn Coach 🏄‍♀️ guy… her birthday is coming up in a week 🤷🏿‍♂️

Well said.

So it’s like resetting ( return to step zero) the whole no contact timeline ?

Stayin the course on NC. I wish I didn’t want her back so freakin bad, but man I just do. I’d rather get her back and then have it end with a fight, than for it to just fade into nothing like this.

Coach Ryan, you always come in at the right time with a new video that resonates with me. He wasn’t my ex because we were not dating but we spent several months spending time together until he said we were getting too close. I am missing those moments tonight greatly but will not reach out. Thank you for this timely reminder. Thank you for helping us with that extra bit of strength in our weak moments.

The best advice! Great video.

The millisecond after you tap the send button on a text message, ….you will regret it.

Dismissive avoidant - covert NPD

My avoidant ex told me I am his fresh air.

Interesting video content. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

😑Avoidant viewers this is your master class. Take notes 🖋️ and get that therapy you need before you even consider the world of dating ‼️. The secure types are not here to enable or 'tolerate' the problems you come with, this is the only content creator keeping it real and reminding us. Signed on behalf of all securely attached people who have decided to never deal with an avoidant person again ⛔

Experienced one Narc relationship and one avoidant/ocpd relationship in 4 years. Traumatized badly.

What if my exgf left me for a guy she met and their relationship is a rebound, she's a Dismissive Avoidant. The guy isn't even acting like they are a couple on his socials. Meanwhile she flaunted it for a week or two, and he has been "casual" with her.. They met up in person a few weeks after meeting each other on FB and it's long distance. Her BF acts like she is not that much a priority, no relationship status change showing they are together. She looks like she was the one chasing him. He follows hundreds of women on his IG, she made a IG to follow his IG, he follows her but has made no effort to openly show her any love. It seems one-sided. Now she's adding random guys....

Well illustrated

Well explained my pains

Yeah maybe I won't be so overwhelmingly loving to her. Maybe she just seems so divine because everything is so far away

Thank you, I needed to understand that

I am truly hoping he never comes back this time. I've blocked him via every channel possible.

Why are we always expected to mind read, bend over backwards to do everything for the avoidant even when we are dying inside during such a stressfull time ? Its so frustrating ! We are people too and deserve love and affection

Avoidant keeps a lot of supplies from time to time.

This is a good video thank you. In the personal development school I'm in, avoidants complete more courses than any other attachment style so you might want to check the stats on that. What I will say is that they likely won't change for their partner on the spot, so anyone waiting around for that might be waiting the rest of their lives. Avoidants have to do the work because they want to change for themselves or they realize that they lost someone they truly care about. I appreciate the language you used for avoidants in this video. ❤

My avoidant ex never came back since she discarded me. It's been 3 ½ months!

Yes friends do not answer the last return , mine was a fake wrong text... 🙈followed by a casual talk

I caved..

I have serious questions about affairs 1 If i was dating Morgan i starting seeing my ex boyfriend Stephen start to make emotional attachment to Stephen i when i know him from school to college by texting him and meeting up and talking to Stephen on phone and thinking about him and watching films with him without never never having no sex ? Is it emotional cheating Ps me and stephen are ex boyfriend and girlfriend we got history can that cause emotional affair to happen. 2 can i have affair without ever ever having no sex i am not interested sex at all.

I did the third method and it was for me

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That's why it's crucial to assess how they come back, what do they say, what's the vibe. If there is no real accountability, signs of self-reflection, empathy for how they hurt us, and even if it is warm, flirtatious or intense, it is not worth reopening that door. That usually is sign no significant self-discovery and change have happened. Missing and regretting is not the same as being really available.

Does avoidants who seek sex like to friend a lot of women on fb? Ain’t that trying to seek validation

Ramona Fn Flowers Scared or hurt but won’t communicate

At least some of you got the privilege of being dumped. Mine just faded out. No closure. No explanation. Extremely hurtful. But, nothing I can do but move forward.

After seeing a channel that talked about how you love an avoidant by basically tiptoeing around them, learning how to speak to them differently so they don’t shut down & saying that therapy won’t help them so YOU need to change, you are a breath of fresh air! You’re putting the responsibility right where it belongs.

She now says she never said she loved me and.was.always not.wanting a relationship. She hets angry and abusive verbally. Says wants someone.who never disagrees or argues and suddenly im not.muscly enough hasha. But then she wants to go out together. Like next week i work Fri so she said she wont go out fri we can go out on Sat. Think i have had enough now. Pity.

What I don’t understand is why do they come back ? What is the point since they said they don’t want to be with you ? It’s like someone who refuses to buy a car because they don’t like the color or the design or whatever and then when the car is off the market, this person suddenly realise that this car was actually the most amazing car ever and none of the other cars can compare. That doesn’t make any sense. I have the impression they come back precisely because you don’t want them anymore. It’s like : someone who wants me = this person isn’t interesting / someone who doesn’t want me (anymore) = this person is so great.

So true!!!!

Im currently in the slow fade discard from an avoidant man; the third official discard altogether by him towards me. Our relationship prior to this fade has never been better. Happy, bonded, I felt very loved and cared for by him, he recently introduced me to an extremely significant person in his life. He was actively seeking to assist me in my recent moving house. And now here we are. Im not making any attempt to contact him again and just letting him go. Its so sad and such a waste.

Thank you somuch this is really helpful

The timing of this video is impeccable. I needed this TODAY.

Man, this one hit me! That 12, 13, 14 times? I'm embarrassed to say that is us! And I have always called it groundhog day too. This little video really woke me up! Setting those boundaries is hard! Not a recreational activity - I love that! 😅 But yeah, MUST be done! That's the self work I need to do!

😢 I agree. Thanks.

Every line down to tee. it is so damn confusing to have an avoidant feeling these overwhelms ? Ugh 😢😩😢

R-U-N a leopard doesn’t change their spots

What if they heal and then next time they do that again in tough circumstances?

My life. This. Two years. New victims, don't try to understand/be their parent. They're not going to heal without YEARS of time, money & work. I had a 60 year old dismissive avoidant who refused to talk about the past and lied about 5 marriages and HUNDREDS of failed relationships. Take it from an accidental expert; R U N

I have been watching online about attachment theory for months. But where is it that you tell them they need help how does one do that without them losing it on you

I went from secure to anxious. First time in 55 years. Really truly thought I was an anxious attacher. Then thought back that, "Hey wait a minute you never acted like this before. Why now?" Put all the pieces together. Boundaries back up. Walked away. Wasn't quite that simple but yeah, I totally let her do a number on me.

All so dead on!!