Lol

Disagree. Shes great.

I understand why she did. They lovebomb us so much & are so skilled at it. Also if we've had trauma as kids & not allowed to gave boundaries. Boundary enforcement is Extremely hard for a Codependant & someone who is a RECOVERING ACON like me. We weren't allowed them as kids...they were broken down.

Oh Yeah..for Sure I agree @ 37 in on vid This guy I "met" online dating The chat & pseudo connect ion one night went on for 5 hrs; other nites usually 2/3. It was Intense Attention that my lonely soul drank up But he'd not sleep too well & I'd be literally Exhausted by the end of the chat & ALL the next day. Not a great sign. I ended it after some Extremely painful events... Where he'd flare-up & just erase me : is how it felt. He'd erase all my photos & all our chat. You see being a former RN I saw him as caring; as he'd tell me stories of caring for his Dad. Then I saw later this as a mask...tomorrow me - the carer. He even thought it was hilarious making jokes about his Dad dying & he got a particular kick out of telling me (a Christian) he'd told his devout Christian neighbour. Shed have asked after his Dad. He told me laughing :"& ..I told her he has DIED!" Another time he did the same! Also huge pity stories about both exes & aweful things they'd done. He NEVER said sorry after upsetting me & erasing all my info & photos. It's now day 4 Of me having left the Intense daily contact Then the fallout & the dicards. Very very odd & I'd say demonic...his rages very scary

Oh yes... He wanted online sex. Luckily for me I'd met so so many guys like this online; I decided to work out his Real motives by stopping the sex thing using my faith as an excuse. & then he Mocked me. He was Highly into rushing the sex thing. As it was a distance rel. I said I'd rather meet him 1st. Then he'd future fake coming down & it was of course all my fault. He had to change his mind due to my behaviour. Then when @ the end he future faked again Whilst asking to Web cam me with my new underwear.... He then rampted it up Mentioning where he'd be going on hol in Feb 24... I noticed all hol choices were mine...not his. It was all a complete lie. Highly skilled manipulators; I'd say.

@@DoubleRainbows-fp6ih I'm just saying women need to be more careful, can end up.dead otherwise

@@DoubleRainbows-fp6ih we get that but what’s with he kissed me I kinda hated it but end up kissing him in public bcz I felt pressured giving into it, sorry don’t want to sound judgemental but she kind of gives me entitled vibes .

I laughed n cringed at at once that dude is crazy

I agree. I think it's narc vs narc in this case.

Exactly my thoughts, she comes off as a bit grandiose and superficial, again don’t want to sound judgemental but thts what I see.

I still cannot. 4 years no contact now and had therapy 😭

Exactly. How do we know if they are not just doing the usual script. I'm watching this to endure my heartache from a recent 4 months date. He was very polite . Sadly the 1st decent man but it ended after I could not deal with feeling unimportant bc of long silences in between dates and a cold distant vibe. Very confusing but he also seemed honest when he said he is emotionally unavailable but in the first chat he said he looked for an emotional connection. Long story short it felt safe different which makes it extra confusing and like a loss. After our last call about 'ending' it he wrote " we will talk tomorrow! Well it remained silent. Sent him one last text for my own closure relief but then he replied 3 days later "allright...next week im travelling but after that we can talk". That was 3 weeks ago. I know he is gone but I keep feeling rejection pain and guessing. Flashbacks. Even though I pushed him away by expressing my confusion but I was still open to resolve and he said he had been thinking and doubting for days but it's not sustainable and best for both to end it. I'm going to do EMDR and seek answers with a psychologist also to make a change in myself. My own wound. It takes time. Apart from attraction and missing the romantic flow it's also because I cared about him as a person after 4 months. Can only imagine the pain for longer relationship but in my case I feel like I failed and ruined it.

This man sounds like a borderline (BPD) @@peaceofmindofpeace1650

@@peaceofmindofpeace1650if they say they’re emotionally unavailable believe them. Why would you want a relationship with someone like that? You won’t be happy. Be grateful you didn’t waste more time. When someone wants to be with you they will show it.

@@staceystrukel1917 I'm glad I didn't waste more time but it doesn't mean I have to process the dissapointment but you are right. Take it or leave it. He kept initiating to meet and said he was happy to see me again. Yesterday someone told me: but we all have different love languages, some like calling others texting, introverts are less expressive. All different opinions but at the end of the day I was faithful to myself. I told him we are not compatible long term due to different communication values. That's where it ended. So jeah. He told me from the start he would not have much tome bc of work but Isid not eexpect days of silence. Om already starting to feel myself again. No more unneccesary sreess . Thanks for your reply.