These words are so true. It's a very odd feeling not "knowing" yourself anymore. You get so hung up on monitoring and watching another person that you forget you are one too! "my brain is tried" is SO SO TRUE!

You look so beautiful

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So good , thank you Grace

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Attributing horrible dating choices to some personality disorder is insane deflecting and irresponsible. My confidence my self esteem My trauma ..

It would be better to have a written monologue rather than just turn a camera and start gabbing about your thoughts as they come to you. I wanted to scream at time because you got so side tracked you forgot to make a point. Far, to many verbal bridges between thought & speach. Attend a few Toastmasters meetings would really be helpful. I want to hear a well structured researched and thought out information from you.

Thank you Grace! I have just ordered the book by Dr. Wayne Dyer. I appreciate your talks, they really help me feel heard and understood.

I've been struggling so badly with depression recently. Listening to your videos help me, thank you Grace 🤗

Hello Grace I'm from the North of Ireland,Derry my mother is a full blown Alcoholic I have been living with her for 11 years when I turned 18. I'm at the point where I can't take anymore I'm like a kettle that is ready to explode. My brother lives in a 2 bedroom Flat but is moving out back into my mother's house as his rent is going up and he can't afford it anymore. His flat was a safe heaven for me and him a place to lay our head at night, a place where we can think clearly and above all have some Piece in my Life. Me & my brother want to move out but Rent at the minute is very expensive. Any advice you can give is greatly appreciated. We do feel Trapped and we need a way out

The denial Grace referenced can continue even after you leave. I can attest to that! I recommend anyone suffering take Grace up on her offer…she helps so much with support, ideas and tools to more forward. ❤

Never date a single mother

Yes profound and more to process and understand, cellular memory vs conscious memory 😮

Amazing and I will start this!!!

Lovely to see you again Grace. Your Living with an Alcoholic series saved me (plus Al-Anon) 🤗🙏

Thank you. Great video and could not have come at a better time.

I’ve decided to stay with my alcoholic partner but he is living in a trailer in the backyard so we have mostly separate lives. My next step is to focus on my happiness and becoming engaged in my life, doing things that I love to do like music, shooting pool and hiking. I want to focus on my health and fitness and I want to focus on simplifying and decluttering my environment. These things should keep me busy for a few years. I want to create a life worth living and he will continue drinking and smoking and watching tv all day in his tiny, sad world. He’s like an old dog that I can’t put down and I can’t take to the pound because that is more cruelty than I could bear. He’s harmless enough but I’m done waiting for him to want to do things with me. The past 10 years have been lonely.

You are awesome Grace and so is your chair I must say 😊

I can’t express my gratitude to you for doing these videos and helping so many of us. ❤

How in this world can you know my life. Every video is my life. Oh my gosh. Thank you for this life line.

Thank you for this life line!!!!

Oh my gosh you are completely describing my life! Oh my thank you for sharing! Oh my gosh I don’t have the right words to describe how grateful I am.

I am living with an alcoholic husband for48 years & I am at my wits end I feel that I personally have changed in a negative way

This is exactly how I feel I'm losing my softness. I have a very low tolerance for off or bad behavior. It doesn't take much for me to cut someone out of my life & it's starting to leave me with no one.

Grace, you just described exactly where I’m at. Thank you for your wisdom, and that beautiful description of what happens in a butterfly’s journey to eventually exiting the chrysalis, and using her hard-fought for wings 🦋 I read a book by Sue Monk Kidd recently called, ‘When The Heart Waits’, which also has the butterfly-chrysalis theme running through it. So beautiful, thank you for posting this 💜

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Wow, this video is incredibly insightful and thought-provoking. It delves deep into the impact of our upbringing and childhood experiences on our adult lives, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and breaking negative patterns. The speaker's perspective on parenting and re-parenting is refreshing and empowering, reminding us that we have the power to redefine and shape our lives, regardless of our past. This video serves as a powerful reminder that self-reflection, self-awareness, and personal growth are essential for creating a fulfilling and happy life. Highly recommended for anyone seeking inspiration and guidance on transforming their life for the better.

But if this video is made in short form then many more people can benefit,

This video on age difference and its effect on relationships sheds light on a fascinating topic. The presenter articulately explores the various aspects of this dynamic, offering valuable insights. The video highlights that while age difference can bring unique perspectives and growth opportunities to a relationship, it can also pose challenges in terms of differing life stages and societal perceptions. The importance of open communication, trust, and shared values is emphasized, reminding us that successful relationships are built on more than just age. Overall, this video provides a thought-provoking exploration of the complexities surrounding age difference in relationships.

Verry good information.

This has been amazing and I feel like you are speaking to me directly. I am working the whole series and taking notes....I started my journal October 2021 after many years of not doing it. I have been married 30 years and the last 10 yrs in particular have been hardest. My addictive husband is only getting worse and I see my part and have been going to codependent meetings for a year and a half. I am working towards surviving and no longer the victim. I have finally woken up....the road is tough but I cannot retire with him and our youngest and second son is graduating high school this month. My son and I kicked him out in March.

Thanks Grace! Have you checked out standing for women? X

Very helpful thank you 🙏🏽

hello grace Do you have a email address please I would like to write to I need help.or perhaps you can send me mail.nicky amin

My partner was alcoholic xx it was sad xx he died xx now i missed his company and kind heart

Family intervention would not work because the only people that know are me, him, and my two children and their spouses, and the children don’t want anything to do with this. I cannot even talk to them about it as they quickly shut me down and say it is my problem to deal with and talking about with them, they say it makes them sad and feel bad. My husband is a prominent person in our town, he knows everyone and everyone knows him. He only drinks at home and between the hours of 6 to 10 pm. He can down 14 beer in that time mind you.

Thank you, these videos were so helpful for me. My story is 36 years married, living with a high functional alcoholic who says he is not an alcoholic because he only drinks beer. My children are grown. They know their father has issues with alcohol, they probably have their own issues to deal with having grown up in this way, but they want nothing to do with it now and say it is my problem to deal with and not theirs. One of my children is a doctor so she knows very well what he is. They love their father and he is good to them, he is really a nice man with a dependance on alcohol. So one thing I find so difficult is how alone I am in this situation. I have tried talking to a few family and friends but they don’t want anything to do it, and since I have come forward with the truth of my life to them, I find these relationships are now awkward. So the isolation is very difficult. I really have no one. He is the sweetest nicest person outside the home and he mostly only drinks at home. He has hidden his issues from his family and friends. I have hidden it from family and friends, and we both are very good at pretending. My husband is basically good to me too, treats me like a princess except if I want to talk about his issue with him, then he becomes a complete ass, mean to me, vindictive and sometimes scary. I have to admit that dealing with this since we were married, has made me very insecure and angry and lonely. My husband is also a gaslighter, which is one of the most infuriating things to deal with. He will do something or say something mean to me or just be drunk and deny all of it. He will say I am crazy and that I exaggerate everything. Or he will say you are mistaken , I didn’t do that, or say that or I only said that because I wanted to hurt you because you hurt me when you asked me how much beer have you drank, or you are mistaken. After awhile you start thinking you are crazy. But I get really upset when he does this to me, and I lose control and flip out, and he knows this so he pushes me to this and then the whole thing switches from him to me. Trying to defend myself to the gaslighting is so tiresome. I have figured out over time that he is doing this on purpose, pushing to the brink of losing it, and have now started calling him out on this and not letting myself get to the point of flipping out. I try to just walk away now and I try not to even talk to him while he is under the influence. I am going to look at all these videos once again.

Your advice has been the best so far. I've watched so many others but these series ring so true and are the most helpful

Am tired of his drinking habit i just want to get divorce from him

My ex narc husband thought he was better than doing AA or 12 steps he always did it his way and it never worked all the while. Taking steroids and obsessed with gym ! Yep proper Prince charming

where can I land a rich hot looking cougar? I want to be cabana boy

I appreciate your talks so much! You really woke me up with the “I can’t afford to, i cannot afford not too”. I kept wondering why I felt so low, unmotivated and just plain yucky… thinking it was my job, when lo and behold it’s my marriage to a man who is alcohol dependent. I lost me, trying to force myself into a place I don’t belong, taking on all the household responsibilities and thinking I’m I’m doing the right thing. I’m taking back my life with my head held high. You can love someone, but you can’t save someone. Especially, if they don’t want it for themselves

Thank you Grace. Such words of wisdom and a beautiful calming accent and lovely way of making your points in an easy to understand way. "Being there" for your children is the best gift you can give them and the benefits ripple down through generations x

I absolutely love Gracce, her Living with an Alcoholic series helped me immensely 🤗🙏🏻

I’m so co-dependent. I can relate to everything in this video. Now to figure out how to heal me and fill that huge hole in my heart… the parenting I didn’t get. Awareness is a major first step.

My husband of 30 years!!! In the last 7 years has been bad. Drives home from work he stops and buys a bottle of crown royal and gets drunk and comes home drunk and starts fights with me. Everything is my fault.. cusses me out and calls me vile names..

I have lost friends due to my husbands behavior. We were no longer invited to anything It took the police coming many times to finally get him out.😊