How To Survive Living With An Alcoholic | Part 28: Rebuild Your Life In Four (Easy) Steps

[@Oldbroad1]

I’ve decided to stay with my alcoholic partner but he is living in a trailer in the backyard so we have mostly separate lives. My next step is to focus on my happiness and becoming engaged in my life, doing things that I love to do like music, shooting pool and hiking. I want to focus on my health and fitness and I want to focus on simplifying and decluttering my environment. These things should keep me busy for a few years. I want to create a life worth living and he will continue drinking and smoking and watching tv all day in his tiny, sad world. He’s like an old dog that I can’t put down and I can’t take to the pound because that is more cruelty than I could bear. He’s harmless enough but I’m done waiting for him to want to do things with me. The past 10 years have been lonely.

[@lisalagunas9397]

Finding time to reach inward is so important. I find that I’ve lost who I am and I am trying to figure out who she is. I see who my future self is. She is in good health. Has the time and desire to take care of herself. She is independent. Able to have goals and complete them on her own. She is a friend. She is able to share her life with others. I’ve started to pave the way to my independence, that road is a work in progress and may take a bit of time.

[@GraceChatting]

I'm so glad Lisa that you are making time for this most important work! Do subscribe to receive more videos :) xx

[@SIMpip374]

I agree with Lisa, as the spouse of a alcoholic you tend to lose yourself. I have withdrawn from most of life not because he made me but mostly to keep his secret.