She says she is bringing on another man into her business to run things for her? This sounds super sus.

The problem with this video is that it enunciates an idea of a man who is both a guy looking to become a husband, whose values are at that place, and also a perv sult boy at the same time. Then the woman who watched it goes home and wonders “What have I done wrong?”. Mind you, I don’t drink at all, I’m warm, empathetic, I know my boundaries and am capable of very deep conversation and also of very playful and light hearted time. None of these things changes a guy’s initial mindset or his psychological makeup. Not for the better and neither for the worse.

As a carpenter who was recently divorced by his partner of 27 years, I am wondering if this was our problem. She got with me because she loved me, but about the time she started making more income than me things started to go wrong. Were we doomed from the get go?

Awesome!

Sorry ladies, but the DHHS Child Maltreatment Reports show that mothers abuse and murder children almost three times more than fathers every year without fail since they started keeping record, the idea that women are more nurturing is a myth.

Great stuff. But I will say I was aware that when I wrestled with my boys that I was going to teach them empathy. I knew I was going to teach them how to be rough but learn where the boundary was. How to hurt but not over-hurt. How to apologize when unintentional injuries happened. It always bothered me that my ex-wife would just complain about us messing up the sheets. I understand that she put the sheets on more often than me. But if I changed the diapers too, why couldn’t she have pillow fights too?

All great stuff. But I did feel insecure when my ex-wife started talking about wanting new floors 2 weeks after we bought our dream home. Is that in her or me? Also…as a Texan we don’t usually wear hats (or boots)

This is so refreshing after reading the forums full of divorced women who double down on the blame shifting and victimhood.

It’s really strange. Throughout my 30’s I was running my own business. I was getting stuff done at home and work. I was actually more controlling and less concerned about my ex-wife’s happiness. She threw sex at me and we were extremely happy. When we both hit 40, Covid happened. No more date nights. I shut down my business. I slowed down my workload. I started becoming clingy. I complained (a lot about modern feminism). She started calling me controlling. She asked for a divorce 3 years later. Believed she was having to “do it all”. I understand now how the dynamic changed, but I have to ask: when is enough enough? Why does it never end for the woman? When can a man finally rest for a bit and get some peace? Btw - Even a year after our divorce, she still tries to micromanage my actions with our kids.

So enjoyed this chat! Thank you

I am an artist type. I grew up with the messaging that women wanted a sensitive man. But I didn’t hide my sexual desires. I had ambition (but not to an obsessive degree). I became self employed and then hired a few full time employees. Around Covid I got burned out. I let go of the employees. My wife hit 40 and perimenopause. I started taking less business. She started criticizing me. Her career was starting to finally take off. She started making more money than me. Despite paying the mortgage and bills for 21 years, she started claiming that she paid “so much more than me”. We divorced last year after 27 years together.

I see lots of videos like this on the 0-3 phase of life, please do one on 3-4. It seems like everything covers 0-3 and then 5 onwards, but no one is covering the way to handle 3 and 4 year old socializing.

Raising your son to be a feminist is de facto emotional and psychological abuse. It’s good to know that at least a few women understand that.

They all. Still here yo fools are blind..yo falt....

Yes please for more from you Susanne! Thanks for this both!

If anyone has ever been in a relationship with a die-hard leftist or a feminist you will completely understand what she is saying.

Thank you so much!

The natural instinct of a man is to provide and protect? What planet do you live on Suzanne?

I don't know what planet Venker is on as I'm a bit older than her and ''dating'' was never about looking to get married back then either.

1950s wife had a better social life than the 2020s wife.

I am impressed by what she says. But she’s still very young. I wonder how she will “feel“ when she hits perimenopause. and Suzanne, I know you do not agree with her about the baby boomer versus the millennial selfishness. She openly admits that she had more kids for more elderly age support. I mean, come on.

Wife does inside “mental load”, Husband does outside “mental load” sounds equal to me.

I will never combine finances with my husband. And we do have a prenup keeping everything separate, because he still has finances with his ex-wife. I'm not going to sign on to pay her debts or let her have access to my money. I didn't marry her.

Same with divorce. AGREED!!! kzbin.info/www/bejne/nX7EgKt3rZlpjZYsi=6DDwWC7nnV2bzMMv

These were really good actually! The problem lies simply that these r not natural for women! At the end of the day.. it cant b just on women to communicate how men want. Men also have to do the same and meet in the middle

My son and daughter moved away from home in AZ after college to Los Angeles area. We ended up retiring in a town about 55 miles away where hubby inherited half a house. I am close enough to emergency babysit if they had kids, if they moved closeby I’d be happy to regularly sit.

There is so little talking about the actual topic in the titel. Maybe change a titel after you edit to make it fit. Feels so misleading. Other then that love what you do!

I haven’t listened to video yet just reading comments. Men are you also taking into account the cyclical nature of women and that sometimes it’s not the right time to have sex? Like is this where the man is trying every single day no matter the condition of his wife and she just doesn’t feel like her body is taken into account? Like I mentioned in another comment Jewish men don’t touch their wives for a certain week every month to respect that her body needs to go thru a cycle. Do the men in these comments respect this and the nature of women’s bodies or are they just demanding every day and getting upset? This is a true question because my husband kinda of just respects if my body is not physically able and in return I never turn him down when he comes for me so we have a mutual respect. Just curious how this goes but will listen to video as well

Family that doesn't help with the next generation gets quickly forgotten going forward. Emotional support, financial encouragement and advice, and spiritual unity is key to extended family relationships. We haven't seen our family in years despite living in the same city and reaching out. We will not be incorporating them into our children's lives. How are children supposed to understand emotional health and availability if the people supposedly close to them never make an effort to see them, nurture them, and love them? Sounds like a recipe for heartache and horrible relationships as an adult. Family is worth more than anything, to not show up for the next generation just proves you are not a serious person in the family network. My husband and I opened our eyes after children to the sad state of family affairs.

Millions upon millions of American women are also on antidepressants which have a major side affect on sex drive .

40 yrs old, can confirm I was lied to. Not able to have children naturally

Amen!!!!

I agree with all you say but what would you say to the women who genuinely don’t like staying home with their kids? I have several friends and family members who feel trapped and dissatisfied being a stay at home mom..

I think you are lucky with the particular dynamic of your marriage. My family was high conflict and my folks stubbornly stayed together. My ex wife is a product of divorce and her blended family was conflict avoidant. If our sexes/ genders were flipped it might have worked out given that most men are willing to stick it out longer than women. But if she views divorce as an option, doesn’t want to have the big discussions, and feels her emotions are truth then as a man I was kinda f@caked from the get go. Amazing it lasted almost 3 decades.

She's a fool.

I love your videos. But I gotta say I got married early, 25. We were same age. We met at 17. I used to think that early commitment would mean we/she had time to live our life before kids. And we did. But at 44 she divorced me last year. We weathered many storms throughout the 27 years but we couldn’t make it past middle age.

As an older Millennial with Boomer parents, I can relate to all these stories and more. They sucked as parents, and they’re even worse as grandparents. I constantly struggle to find insight as to why this is… Edit: None of us expect our parents to _raise_ our children; that’s absurd, and feels a lot like a strawman; we are expressing our disappointment that we cannot rely on them to help _at_ _all_ …

My ex wife didn’t tell me about how trapped and unhappy she felt during the last years of our marriage but she would go on and on about work drama. But over-sharing was definitely my problem.

Your videos are such a breath of fresh air. You aren’t a shill trying to make money off male anger/frustration or female victim hood. You aren’t pushing a super Christian/conservative agenda. I love it. I can’t believe it took a year after my divorce to find you.

I think what we all need to understand is the inherent need for safety that women have and men don’t. It’s what causes women to act passive aggressively to get their needs met, and it’s why men don’t understand why she behaves the way she does, which in turn makes him treat her like she’s crazy, which in turn makes her felt misunderstood. Guys, we like to pretend that we are completely logical, but all humans have a problem confusing emotions and logic. Are you “logically” trying to convince her that her needs don’t matter? To be fair, most women don’t communicate as directly as a man would like, but that’s because they assume we have their intuition. If you keep missing each other then eventually the relationship will fail and everyone loses. Everyone.

Also to add moms for generations have been doing the same things we do today but the one key difference now is social media and excessive screen time that also adds to mental overload I think

These smart and wonderful women won’t say it but I will! American woman as a whole are lazy and want everything given to them!!

Really good point about young women needing to think about how they want to parent well before they get pregnant. And they should know what kind of fathers their boyfriends will make. These should be questions couples go over before marriage; it makes the early years so much easier when you are already compatible in that area and couples know what to expect/be on the same team once they have to start disciplining, or signing kids up for sports, or enrolling them in public/private/homeschool, etc.

Fix the money and the food will fix itself

Can we get a link to Liz podcast? Can’t seem to find it.

97 women for every Chad

I'm getting ready for baby #2 and the support i have for birth (a counselor and a doula) are pressuring me to get a babysitter. . . It has become unusual to want to be at home with my kids! Why do people have kids if they don't want to enjoy the companionship? How am I the unusual one to actually want to bond with the people i make?? I still work nights and weekends. . . My husband gets break because I am the "babysitter". . . We can still be home and scroll our phones or watch tv while my child has independent play. . . Like what else are we missing out on? Why am I the weird one to have nothing better to do but be with my developing children? There is truly nothing more I'd rather be doing. . . My mom (who was a career woman and not a nurturer) is offering to TAKE my children. . . But truly it is my priority to be with my kids when it counts. Your example calls the man her husband because taising children together marries a couple even if you don't ask the government to regulate your union. Your Title is confusing. . . "Women in their 30s" not just 30 women

Number of women who listened to this: 0

She enjoys wine/alcohol a bit

Women that make more are masculine, theh cheat, they will do whatever they. So men will do the same. Stop making family, make kids and share the weeks if yall need a leftover after yall passed