Some women Ive known weaponize being a victim by traiangulating against th actual victim who's actually being abused and paint the victim as the aggressor when he's just reacting to the abuse , it's disgusting but now that years have past and occasionally I run into those women they obviously aren't too happy and still single playing the victim while antagonizing those who even slightly inconvenience/disagree with them in the smallest manner , same kind of women who make false rape reports and lies ,
@BasedGodEmperorTrump4 ай бұрын
We like to be prepared for likely outcomes. We hate being blindsided. We like to plan for what's to come. We assume the worst because most of the time we don't have a positive experience for comparison, on top of negative experiences are easier to come to mind overall. We jump to conclusions when we don't have enough information to have fact based intuitions. We fear betrayal and have trust issues so we take everything with a grain of salt from anyone. We almost border on persecutory delusions/ideas of reference and become paranoid due to anxiety. It's hard to articulate our thoughts and feelings because of the big picture, it's hard to elaborate said picture. Especially, when there's constant information coming in simultaneously. It's like talking to a sketch artist, having to describe a person, place etc with enough detail to paint a picture for others to visualize. We can seem to interrogate people just because we're intrigued by the human aspect of life or whatever the current situation is. Is your son neurodivergent? I have Asperger's, ADHD, borderline personality disorder and OCD. Your son has similar reactions and responses that I and others experience.
@shawncaruthers41448 ай бұрын
Wow! This is so informative. Thank you for sharing!!
@alowlypawn8 ай бұрын
Great video!
@Ketobodybuilderajb8 ай бұрын
I told my ISTP wife i was feeling depressed. I didnt know what brought it on. She began talking to me like i was a check engine light then told me i was making her worry that i was going to act out. I assured her i was just communicating information. It was hard because she offered no warmth and just stopped talking and went to bed. It was a bitter pill to swalllow knowing i was 100% alone in dealing with it. I end up being more concerned that my affect will cause problems for others, so i usually bottle things up and eventually get over them on my own. Sometimes, i just want to feel like i can let my guard down and not bear the weight of the world and my emotions. But im also realistic and i cant say she is a bad person when its her cognitive functions that explain it all. Like you explain, her emotions can come out spontaneously and rarely so. So i told her truthfully that i probably needed warmth and that i know ill get over it on my own somehow. She was upset at the fact... You know, that her Ti cant fix depression with questions. So she will be upset and distant for a while but she will eventually forget and just be glad that im not being dramatic with having negative emotions.
@CanadianWhatever14 күн бұрын
I tell my ISTP what I need from them while also keeping in mind that I am the only person responsible for my emotional well-being. "I feel overwhelmed and could use a hug." Or "I need to feel heard about xx topic" and he responds beautifully.
@mraarontorres9 ай бұрын
Intp: The problem is majority only NT / dominant thinking & intuitive types will take the time to look into personality styles and take the time to understand and accommodate to the needs of others , essentially we are the ones adjusting for everyone else's needs ... I could send this video to a feeler / sensor doms and there's only a possibility they will watch the entire video and learn something ...
@davefengler42669 ай бұрын
I'm amazed there are no comments!! As an INTP, this is the best description of them I have ever seen!! You REALLY get them! You've summed up all my strengths and weaknesses!! INTP's are probably the "weirdest" type. Almost no one gets them! I'm wearing my W.E.I.R.D. t-shirt (Wonderful, Exciting, Interesting, Really Different). I wore it to Thanksgiving dinner yesterday, doing my usual of saying weird things and asking weird questions. I am always coming up with new or weird ideas!! If people don't like or get me, oh well. It's rather be authentic than fake, like most people. I'm not sure I've ever seen anyone mention that INTP's really don't care what other people are thinking or feeling, it's only what we are thinking that is important. I don't want to be bothered with other people's problems. And I CANNOT STAND confrontations!!! My ESFJ wife is very emotional and will pick a fight with anyone for any reason!! I should just wear a "cringe" mask whenever I go anywhere with her!! She has told many people, who are experts in their field, that they don't know what they are talking about because they will not say what she wants to hear! I'll end this rant now, I have other things to work on.
@annedranitsaris16509 ай бұрын
Its always fascinating how we pick partners who are so different than we are, isn't it! The challenge for all of us is to recognize when we are using our preferred functions to enhance our lives, our path and potential, or using them in a self-protective fashion. INTPs have a need to be recognized (second function, extraverted intuition) and can get attached to their weirdness as a way of being seen. Getting to know the difference is criticial as it's so easy to be dismissive and say we don't care. Thanks for taking the time to share your experience.
@davefengler42669 ай бұрын
@@annedranitsaris1650 I was a 28 year old very introverted, very inexperienced (NONE!!), naive, clueless INTP (unknown at the time) who was "captured" by a force of nature. I had no idea what I was doing. She was the first to "claim" me, so I went along with it. She proposed to me! If I had and clue what was going to happen I would have run away!! And found someone more my type. But with my quirks, I doubt I ever would. As an INTP I like to stay in the background, doing what I want to do. But, yes, sometimes I do like to be noticed. Sometimes I'll wear loud shirts. Rather hypocritical!! I was never really aware of my weirdness until recently. I look back at the past 60 years and see the patterns. I've always been weird, different, never fitting in, never really caring. But even as an INTP, I don't fit in. I tend to be more driven and organized, like an INTJ. And more hands on, like an ISTP. Without any other characteristics of those types. INTP by far describes me. The ISTP-INTP in the title of your video is what drew me in. And the "Highlights" you wrote are by far the best I've ever seen.
@celiacresswell69099 ай бұрын
You deserve more views!
@DavidSummers-wt1hz9 ай бұрын
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@DranitsarisHilliard9 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for your incredibly kind words! I'm thrilled to hear that you appreciate not only the stage presence but also the insights. I look forward to sharing more LIGHT and knowledge with you!
@DavidSummers-wt1hz9 ай бұрын
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@dmitrynedopyokin64119 ай бұрын
Im on a half of the video and can say that all what was said refers to ENFPs as well
@RobertJohnson_Zeppo9 ай бұрын
As an "ISTP," a "gifted" one intellectually, and a gray beard at that, I have a few observations to share; it may have been "Mr. Toads Wild Ride" but I would happily do it all over again, there is no such thing as "toxic masculinity" but their are masculine men who find themselves in a world increasingly toxic to them, the scale of "We" vs. "I" has been unbalanced heavily toward the "We" for so long that it will likely be the end of western civilization as "We" know it, and I am truly blessed, in more ways than I could have ever imagined, particularly as a young man... Godspeed, to you and yours.
@annedranitsaris16509 ай бұрын
Always a challenge to live true to one's nature in a world quick to judge and condemn those who don't fit the mold. Thank you for sharing your ISTP experience and insights.
@mohammed88air10 ай бұрын
my parents used to think I’m autistic cuz I was distracted shy hate crowds refuse to go to family meetings with them rarely express emotions always fight in school cuz I don’t know how to avoid bullies just beat them and i was so curious there is nothing I haven’t dismantle hair trimmers microwaves vacuum cleaners motors drills motorbikes electrical panels literally everything sometimes i can’t sleep unless i disassemble the new appliance that my family bought and i was reckless and impulsive never care about the consequences I’m so grateful that i’ve never been injured
@annedranitsaris16509 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing this and raising such a critical challenge for children of your personality type. If more parents sought to understand their children and their needs (in the case of the ISTP child, the deep need to know the mechanics of how things work) the more they could direct and facilitate their growth and journey through life. Glad you weren't harmed in your quest to know the mechanics of everything!
@RaffertyMBTI10 ай бұрын
Actually amazing and accurate advice, knowing these types. Much better than most videos which are romanticised and un-detailed, relaying inconsequential information.
@RaffertyMBTI10 ай бұрын
Pretty amazing stuff - coming from an ISTP. Very good video.
@annedranitsaris165010 ай бұрын
High praise indeed! LOL Glad you enjoyed and hopefully gained insight you can share with those you are in relationship with.
@DavidSummers-wt1hz11 ай бұрын
Most Pleased with your delivery style & the depth of insight you share as you bring to the table. So pleasant, a dose of Cryptonine glows in the dark.
@annedranitsaris165010 ай бұрын
Thanks David.
@RetroXRicardo Жыл бұрын
Insightful information on these MBTI types! I stumbled upon your channel through the KZbin algorithm today. My MBTI channel does the same. Thanks for sharing! 🌟🌟🌟
@DranitsarisHilliard Жыл бұрын
We're so glad you enjoyed our content! It's always great to hear from someone who shares similar interests and knowledge in MBTI types. It's a fascinating field that can offer valuable insights into how individuals perceive the world, make decisions, and interact with others :)
@darrenharney2 Жыл бұрын
I can't wait to watch the next 2 videos in the series
@darrenharney2 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely amazing description of what I have been dealing with in my small business and my operations manager a very long term employee 23 years. This employee refuses to follow any direction. Use KPI,s implement accountability or reporting. Anger, tantrum, insubordination, sabotage, envy, jealousy....Finding this video tells me I am not alone, explains the boundaries and give's me some tools to deal with the situation. 25 years ago a owner would just let them go.... employee also knew there place with mutual respect. I need you and you need me. Since covid 19 the entitled don't need anyone.
@RetroXRicardo Жыл бұрын
Oh wow, Insightful series of information on this ENFJ type! I encountered your channel through the KZbin algorithm by chance. Thanks for sharing! 🔥🔥🔥
@DranitsarisHilliard Жыл бұрын
We're so glad you enjoyed our videos! We appreciate you taking the time to comment. :)
@Dani-jo9yr Жыл бұрын
Sorry Noooo- massive difference between SF and NF types!! We only have Fe on common and that’s it!!! You actually talking about ESFJ here 💯
@DranitsarisHilliard Жыл бұрын
Actually I am taking about extraverted feeling function, the behaviors that emerge and the emotional drivers of this function. Both ESFJ and ENFJ share extraverted feeling as their first function and make decisions and value judgments the same way. While I agree their are lots of differences based on how each gathers information, their decision making is the same.
@Dani-jo9yr Жыл бұрын
@@DranitsarisHilliard yeah- I see us as massive differences and knowing heaps esfj can testify to huge differences…so much so that can not have any deep connection as I would prefer…
@Dani-jo9yr Жыл бұрын
Bravo 👏 Thank you 🙏 so right 💯💜
@DranitsarisHilliard Жыл бұрын
We're so glad you found the video relatable!
@godforce1 Жыл бұрын
Woah this was awesome, thank you so much 😁
@OdiousCoprophagus Жыл бұрын
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_know_that_I_know_nothing
@danoncho Жыл бұрын
I am kinda INFP... I mean, as I know, usually people have combined personality types. INFP fits me good, and although creativity and ability to see and feel deep and "different" things than other people is great, it makes me feel really lonely... My "place in world" is like an edge between mystery and knowledge, that, as it feels for me, almost nobody around me understands. So I think, it is great idea for this personality type to write books, articles, and to try to teach others about complicated, previously unknown, and scary-to-explore topics. I tried to "push" myself in public and be more social, but it just doesn't click for me.
@DranitsarisHilliard Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. We all have four functions that we use, with one predominant function and a supporting associate. These functions contribute to our personality, as do our conditioning, beliefs, and other traits. For INFPs, they introvert their feeling function and extravert intuition, meaning they make decisions based on their values and gather information based on all possibilities. Their need to be creative, unique, and original often clashes with their need to belong and be harmonious in social situations. Being social for them and enjoying it means they need to get comfortable being authentic in social situations rather than judging and comparing themselves and finding themselves lacking. By focusing on abundance rather than on what is lacking, INFPs can have a lot more fun in their lives as well as in writing, teaching, and exploring the unknown. It's usually when we are afraid of being judged that our forays into the unexplored feel scary. Hope you are encouraged to set your fear aside and joyfully explore your beautiful, creative nature.
@danoncho Жыл бұрын
@@DranitsarisHilliard wow, thank you for information! Yes It is interesting to explore myself! 🙂 And it is definitely great to meet supportive and kind people on the way.
@bldbar118 Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much! This was so insightful and informative. Keep up the great work!
@DranitsarisHilliard Жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed our video!
@bldbar118 Жыл бұрын
This is spot on, and I’m glad YOU are the one saying it, so I can show them this video and say “see, it’s not just me.” I think what you said about struggling to listen to the INFP devalue themselves and getting caught in constantly reassuring them is really important for long term respect and health in the relationship. They ARE, objectively, to everyone else, wonderful in all the ways that matter. And in the INFP mind, it’s all insincere flattery of people being polite because they don’t see the “flawed” me. In reality we all see the flawed me, we just think it’s trivial in comparison to the positives and can’t understand why the INFP keeps taking it back to the same place of self-doubt in the face of love and acceptance. Understanding it as an unconscious process to be worked with in a loving, and boundaried, way has helped a lot. Thanks for this video, I will definitely be checking out the rest of your content. KZbin has been such a great resource for MBTI over the years, but it’s really special when experts like you can come on and share!
@supernovacentury Жыл бұрын
Very meaningful presentation and highly relatable. I call it the "reverse Picasso syndrome". He said, "good artist borrow, but great artists steal." But, unlike Picasso who had a wildly high sense of self-esteem and success, I always carry this slight sense that whatever I do (creatively) is an assemblage of a great many others' works or contributions which gets reformed, remouilded or reinterpreted while in some ways feels a bit like thieft. In reality, there is nothing unusual about this as that is the case for most things, while maintaining a grounded sense of balance, modesty, positive self-critique and sufficient confidence can be tricky. Much thanks!
@DranitsarisHilliard Жыл бұрын
We're so glad that you find the video helpful! We have more videos on the Imposter Syndrome and have published a book called 'Power Past the Imposter Syndrome,' which is available on Amazon if you would like to find out more! Feel free to check out the rest of our content or contact us for a free consultation!
@yvonnelygo681 Жыл бұрын
As soon as this person opens their mouth, it does not matter what the subject, even the weather, my blood runs cold, they could be a p *******th.
@paolodimartino241 Жыл бұрын
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Having to tip toe around on egg shells in a professional setting is sickening to the soul. Most people will look for a new job these narcissistic leaders cause the organization to lose valuable talented members.
@Ken-rw2vh Жыл бұрын
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@elvisdunbar8636 Жыл бұрын
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@victoriahiley83952 жыл бұрын
I’m not going to pander to a narc and your recommending that we do just perpetuates the problem rather than calling it out. The only realistic option is to get another job.
@victoriahiley83952 жыл бұрын
No they cannot change. There are numerous diagnosed narcissists on Quora who admit minimal change after ten years of therapy …
@DranitsarisHilliard2 жыл бұрын
It's so true no one will change unless they see the need and have the motivation to do so. Many narcissists' wounding happened at such a young age they are limited to surviving by keeping their image intact.
@AdoptionLawSourceTrinity2 жыл бұрын
Very clear examples. Thank you.
@DranitsarisHilliard2 жыл бұрын
That's great to hear! Thanks for watching!
@inxpfamous95582 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this very informative video, it’s much needed in this day and age. Many of us certainly feel the discomfort this mindset brings, sadly it hinders many from succeeding. It’s great to know how to identify and deal with this issue at work wether remote or not. Great video. 🙏👍🏼
@DranitsarisHilliard2 жыл бұрын
We're so glad you found it useful! Thank you for watching!
@nadiacavallini47282 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this today! Thanks
@DranitsarisHilliard2 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear it! Thanks for watching, Nadia!
@AsrifYusoff2 жыл бұрын
Great content and subscribed! Would love hear what you think of our grad school channel. Thanks!
@DranitsarisHilliard2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching! We'll check it out!
@AffyisAffy2 жыл бұрын
Not sure my current boss is a narc or not but he has certain weird 'tells' I'd like to share. False empathy, especially after giving an infodump or large assignment, usually with the phrase, "I would be impressed if you finished this 100%. I know it's a lot to remember". Curiously he proceeds to give more info or expectations after doing this as if he didn't say anything. Also, he pre-grades me with expectations with subtle threats of underperforming, such as, "you won't like me if I find out you did that," or in the other direction, "I don't care I won't review you too harshly if you don't do this" I think he fancies himself my grade school teacher but we're both in our thirties and I don't have time to play shenanigans with this guy. The best tactic I've found is to be unmoved by their threats, and ask them to expand on what they will do to you out of mere curiousity and tell them you'll do your best and leave it at that. Another weird tic of his that I'm unfortunately familiar with is if you fawn over him (probably a vulnerable narcissist) and feel sorry for him he'll either immediately change the subject or (I'm not exaggerating) leave my statement totally unacknowledged in dead silence. My theory is this changes the power dynamic so a 'subordinate" showing empathy triggers their anger because it makes them feel like you don't respect their position over you. Sort of like a peasant feeling sorry for a king. Another issue with these people is they love to contradict you, especially if they have power over you even if they share the same opinion but if you correct them they'll never forget that
@DranitsarisHilliard2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your experience. While you describe your experiences with your boss as weird, you might be surprised at how common leaders use tactics learned from their own childhood experiences from teachers or parents to manipulate employees. While narcissistic bosses may believe they are motivating employees with these tactics, it is about holding on to power and making sure employees are never on solid ground. You flagged manipulation, gaslighting, devaluing, and the voracious need for admiration. You are absolutely right the best thing to do is depersonalize their behavior and stay focused on objective outcomes. Surviving narcissistic bosses can be an opportunity for growth or the motivation for a change of career. Thanks for watching!
@Karina_Engr2 жыл бұрын
This dude obviously feels like he needs to yell at his spouse and kids. So sad, but a sliver lining is that now he's aware and MAY be making changes. There are a ton of ppl like this in many industries.
@mariabr89542 жыл бұрын
very useful! thanks
@ahabalheis24782 жыл бұрын
I would really appreciate a video about strengths and struggles to overcome in an ENTP x INFP relationship
@DranitsarisHilliard2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the suggestion! In the meantime, try this video for more information about the INFP relationship style: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mqbVlKulqp6Ep7c For even more information, you can order relationship style reports for each style here: strivingstyles.com/node/735/report-details Thank you for watching!
@DranitsarisHilliard2 жыл бұрын
These videos might also be helpful to you: INFP Predominant Needs - kzbin.info/www/bejne/opWUnKONmbeGhNk ENTP Predominant Needs - kzbin.info/www/bejne/o6ecmZqff8ySoKc Please let us know if you have any questions. Thanks again!
@jupiterskiss34732 жыл бұрын
Phenomenal. Thank you!!!
@Lyburtus2 жыл бұрын
Great & Very helpful video. Thank you🙏🏾
@cleancut392 жыл бұрын
Food for thought! How does dopamine play into this? I lost 50 lbs only to put 25 of it back on. I've come to the conclusion that I have a food addiction.
@annedranitsaris16502 жыл бұрын
Low levels of dopamine in the brain lead to increased appetite, regardless of when you last ate. I causes you to "feel" like eating rather than experiencing actual hunger. In addition to supplements, sleep, exercise, etc. that increase dopamine, satisfying other human appetites and needs can increase dopamine levels as well as diminish the attachment to food to fill emotional emptiness or the neglect of one's authentic self.
@cleancut392 жыл бұрын
I found this video very helpful in dealing with my step son. It gave a lot of answers and helpful tips. I hope this video gets more traction it is deserving! God bless looking forward to watching your other videos!
@compall66212 жыл бұрын
thank u entp me looking into it
@DranitsarisHilliard2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching! Check out one of our latest videos about narcissistic behavior here!: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rn2tXn53icl_bZo