I developed PTSD at 40 years old after my dog and I were attacked by two others dogs. I was never the same after that. Growing up, my parents were both alcoholics and I have/had serious issues surrounding abandonment and rejection. I believe that that dog attack, which might not have been so severe for someone else, was incredibly impactful for me because I didn’t have any recall for managing and regulating any of my emotions, especially not ones that came out of such a significant event such as that.

Everything i belive and feel , he comes and validates this.

Very Interesting tnx

That "which part of you is saying that", that's frighteningly powerful

This is all bullshit. You can talk and use philosophy all day long it won’t change anything. Actions do, but sadly not always. Sometimes even if you try hard sometimes it just doesn’t get better.

"Read a book and go for a walk." Yeah, brilliant. Definitely never tried that... 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

My depressed friend would ask, why do you try to change me? Look for yourself, you don't have to look for me.

At 50+ I still hide or freeze. And I haven't been able to escape this.😢

I think its inside our soul that we need to connected back to where we were when we were younger growing up as kids in grade school most of us had a good childhood many at that age were not all depressed. Us humans for most of us we need that connection we were not made to disconnect but to be made to connect. So if we can bring back how we were as kids to get that life back in us. Now some did not have good childhood also today some are so strong that can live alone. How about people being alone away from town omost off the Grid there are people who can fen for them selfs alone in the mountains the woods or on a island alone by them selfs. The part that I want to know is when depression set in and how did it fall on the person. So I back track from happy and life to what or how did this feeling enter in you now the outside plays a part on what fell over you that decided to stay in you and now it has a hold on you and it's hard to shake it off alone. Some answers omost all answers have to do with family friends marriage seems like the word love and people a job not coping to live alone. Thees are the things that can trigger depression. Relationships family job so the answer are many things I picked out a really good few of answers. To give good advice is good because you first have to go to where this depression is comeing from what fell on you how far back how long were you like this. Many things can come apon us. Sometimes it feels on how to get back life in what was lost in our life. We need life we need love to be loved to keep our spirits up. We got do many kinds of people out there you always have to remind your self to stay on hard on your self. And around you. You are your own enemy you don't need to know who can hurt you you can hurt your own self. How we were created what ever you believe but I believe we were created by a higher way higher advance being no for me it's not the aliens in the UFOs. No not that. We were made not to disconnect and to handle all life alone. Something drops on us as soon as we enter in that feeling so something triggers it. Most of it is people. Places and things. Everything on this planet is all here on earth. We are targots of our own self on what we bring in us what we hold on to. Many are ensucure. But don't down the person hate the thing that fell on them it's like being locked in no man is and can be forever his own island. We need to tap into life and love and contact and connection. We were not made to be depress this is a negative thing that does not belong in our soul or spirit. We all go threw something money love people anything could trigger us in that. And when it enters in us yes for real it's hard to shake that off. I wish I of would save everyone in person from depression. It can be so deep you can drown in it. It's one of the powerful things to shake off alone. And we know everyone's on pills. Pills cover that don't cure. No body says here take this at night it will fix your soul and your Spirit you be ok and brand knew nope it don't work that way. We got reality and we got spiritual we are both so we need to see both because that's what we are. We are feeling emotions that cut deep in our soul and our inner self which I say our Spirit gets hurt and damaged most times it's from people or being pushed into something. We live as we always did in a verity world. There's the God the bad and the ugly. There are God answers out there to save us and shake this depression off. The mind set is a power tool that's the CC computer in our heads that's what brings in or takes out what we keep in can affect the whole body to go downward and into that mood. All things mostly come of course three out minds how else would we be aware for those that are in the normal that can see and feel and talk we do have many different health related issues if not hearing or be able to talk all people need love no matter who or what. Love was out in us to start. We only know positive and negative thees to words were always with man. So much to learn from higher sources and good teachers I admire those that can bring out words that I can say o wow I never thought of that. Every word we can think of is our there. You always got to go backwards to back track to see how you became who you are now how did the depression get there you left that in but how and why. So much to think about first always start backwards so you can see the now in the present.

Yea there will always be answers for depression your doctors will give out medications to calm you and keep you to be ok.

That’s part of it, but the baseline is your inborn temperament.

As an adoptee, this absolutely resonates

Im alone, not lonely.. I like to hang around with myelf.. In the parks, the streets, and at home.. Im not lonely or depressed, i havelearned to be alone in a way i love it.. I go hike, drive my bullet 500 bike to darjeeling hills all alone 50 km from my place alone.. Being alone is a blessing, not all can get it. When they all cheat, drink, smoke n carry the burden of the consequences .i sit atop of a mountain and laugh back, being alone is a blessing.. No expectations, spcly no one expects from you, that burden of ppl expecting from u is lot. Im a freelancer, besides financing them i help them who needs them, the shelterless.. Im satisfied to cover a blanket on homeless family over my expensive meal my wife had asked for.. My money,yes over drinking may have wasted, not anymore. Now a room looks like a home, when i come back feeding a homeless, every child i gave blanket to, that smile of warmth.. Lone wolf my gf called me to mock me. Im better a lone wolf.. I guess world need a men and a line wolf.. To them who lost it to women n living homeless with their child. We need to rebuild without women.. N the laws that suckx

Dr. Gabor Mate is brilliant

This is from the 1920s, we know that's not true now. You can get PTSD without a childhood trauma In WW2 they wasted the time of soldiers with shell shock trying to figure out what their childhood trauma was instead of trying to learn how to treat the trauma they had. So many years and lives wasted

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No friends, no family, no car, no job, stuck with a narcissistic abuser. There's actually nothing.

Dayum, that last bit hit hard. Shots fired.

Hmm. Thought so. Explains plenty

This guy is awesome. ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 He have helped me to understand the patterns that was stuck in my bloodline/the biological family I was born into.

I don't know how they know it but everyone knows. All of the things that have happened to me are so tramatic. It doesn't matter how confident I get or how capable I am. Strangers come out of nowhere to abuse me in broad daylight and people just stand and watch. Thousands of times. Just getting verbally berated by a stranger and everyone goes: What did you do to provoke that? Your guess is as good as mine. You have watched the entirety of our acquaintance. He just decided to walk up to me and start screaming and threatening me. And you made the decision to stand there and watch. Even police officers have just stood there and watched. I don't know how they know it but they know my parents didn't love me and they know that no one's going to help me so they attack me.

I have self harm issues that have been going on since I was 8 because of some "nonsense" from my childhood. The self-harm never left as they told me it would "when you get older". I seem stuck with those same trouble thoughts and feelings. Not only bullies but crap that happened at home. I think I just kind of have to live with the way that things are. I've been trying to heal but it has never happened so I just try to help others and love others. Try to that is. Most of the time I spend it isolating.

Wow!! This explains why some people get this and others don’t!

were you a happy child? I wonder.....❤

I never had trauma in my childhood. When I was 23 someone tried to kill me and I was in psychosis for a year

But this snake oil salesman tells us all in his books that, if we have "trauma" or negative emotion, we will die of MND or ALS... so do you REALLY want to be giving this sheister your time? According to him, you are already doomed to the worst fate imaginable. 😂

Dye and straighten that hair

Such wise words,Thank you😇❤🙏🏼

I don’t know if I can keep going … it feels unbearable to be so alone and so hopeless

Let them swim in your love and attention, don’t be absent physically or emotionally. This is the most important thing you will ever do.

The first five years, the first five years is Everything.

A man walking his Dog by my window daily gives me joy.. having my coffee

Yes. Merci à vous de soulever cette problématique" You should be ashamed of yourself" " Tu devrais avoir honte ! " said in all monothéistes religions. IN ALL RELIGIONS especially infinitely more so against female gender

Thank you for this! It's so important for them not to diagnose someone immediately in a panic or crisis moment. So many labels rather than truth and facts can come out. Especially if it's a male dr or therapist who's never dealt with trauma in their lives. The first time I talked to a therapist about an immediate family trauma, it was a male, over Betterhelp or something. He couldn't understand what I was going through. He wanted to talk to my boyfriend who had nothing to do with my family or my past trauma. Like why dude? Gotta meet their quotas rather than help people. I dropped him and found a wonderful lady who took a moment to actually call me multiple times rather than just type at me. She got to know me and understood what my world looked like and had changed into. She seen that my trauma was a momentary thing caused by other people who were barely in my life. I just needed to talk to someone, vent, and get back to my life. At the time she was doing it for 20 years. She understood the value of just talking and listening to someone. My panic and stress was a momentary thing, nothing about me needed a diagnosis. The guy would have thought otherwise. Emotional and mental reactions are normal when you are traumatized. Don't let anyone try to tell you otherwise. Be kind to people.

My dad had HORRIBLE PTSD and no childhood trauma…….

I’ve always wondered about this. It makes so much sense

👍🏼, Plus biologically it also greatly depends on whether you're nervous system regulation was built healthily in childhood , and whether your parents/careers had healthy working nervous system regulation while you were a child..

And I’m living proof.

So the emotionally immature and psychologically uneducated belief that trauma makes people stronger is in fact a lie.

I was physically abused by my father! He believed in capital punishment as a form of discipline. I am presently suffering from severe anxiety. All you’ve said makes sense.

Wow

One more reason to choose a water birth ❤

I whole heartedly agree with this

A real treasure, Gabor is, to so many.

This is now proven to be false, the brain is still forming throughout life.

This guy looks like he needs a good laugh!

I have reason to believe that this is true. A lot makes sense for me and my family.

I don't believe that at all, my childhood was fine, I had a traumatic experience as an adult and that's causing my PTSD.

You say more helpful words altogether. TY. So calming.

Once again, thanks mom and dad for the shit childhood that will fuck me up for life. Most people should not be parents.