Why Are INFJs Such Control Freaks?
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@elisawyer
@elisawyer Күн бұрын
Hmm, I was told I was INFJ over 40 years ago and was intrigued when the idea of being an INFJ was romanticized. Really, I don't call the idea of looking at 99% of possible outcomes "future-proofing." I just call it normal for me and if someone cares to ask me about possible outcomes in any given situation I am happy to share my thoughts and even teach them analytic skills if they show signs of genuinely wanting to learn. And, BTW, when I came across a description of demi-sexual (also gender non-conforming and sapiosexual), I was happy to have an easier way of describing my sexuality than had previsouly been available.
@deborahsacco186
@deborahsacco186 Күн бұрын
100% correct! LOL
@rima-gu6so
@rima-gu6so 2 күн бұрын
I guess, people never know who we are. I liked once my coworker told she was surprised to see I am not that person she thought before.
@mattmcroberts
@mattmcroberts 3 күн бұрын
It's very rare to have an infj with dark triad traits. Any rare outbursts are usually defensive in nature.
@sirfunkalot1291
@sirfunkalot1291 3 күн бұрын
i wonder if INFJs get along better, since ive found a girl thats just like me, and we work so good together
@lynn6799
@lynn6799 3 күн бұрын
I've been told I'm arrogant and not all that (I have a work ethic and I'm confident in how to do my job well), that not everyone can work with me (I'm not going to pick up their slack), I'm mean (I tell the truth and they get upset), I'm obsessed with politics (I follow current events and not everything is politics. Politics is the excuse people with a lower IQ use to avoid discussing anything going on in the world these days), and I'm pretty sure most don't have anything of substance to make me want to talk to them. It's shallow interactions and superficial stuff most of the time for them unless you want to deal with major crybabies. It's as if they think I should walk on ice for them and they get upset when I won't do it. If they wanted sugar coated bs, they should have gone to work for Willy Wonka. I'm not a supervisor, thank God. I do not want anything to do with that.
@nicolevogelaere8820
@nicolevogelaere8820 4 күн бұрын
guess there is no greater chance to meet an infj man than in the youtube topics about infj man...Infj woman , still trying to find a life partner without having to awaken the conscience of a grown man first or how to be emotionally mature. And can deal with some level of weirdness so normalness...and hermitness and other stuff that needs no further explanations....
@rosepink8953
@rosepink8953 4 күн бұрын
These kinds of "Do You Know Clips"... It amazes me how they don't ever mention that most of this does NOT apply to the healed Empaths. So as I listen to this I'm like.... it is misleading straight up... most of this applies to non healed empaths in bulk... but "some" of these points do apply to healed Empaths. Thats social media for you.
@andylee7953
@andylee7953 5 күн бұрын
Yes my mother Gemini me cancer male son!
@rachaeldjordjevic5415
@rachaeldjordjevic5415 5 күн бұрын
When you have nothing. And people still hate you😂
@nuez23747
@nuez23747 5 күн бұрын
Ppl disconnected from their body and feelings make out the majority in our Western society and they will often project their anger, shame, self-loathing or just their mistakes and lack of responsibility for their words and actions( when you challenge them by setting boundaries) onto an INFJ because they're ego is too big to question themselves or to reflect on their behaviors that hurt others. I think its rather a societal issue that can't be solved by an single individual wirh " communication can solve it all mentality" . They don't want to face their inner demons and fears, to me they're coward.
@RobertBecker-me8uf
@RobertBecker-me8uf 5 күн бұрын
So many great empathic people to find and love e
@KristofferAAnensen
@KristofferAAnensen 5 күн бұрын
No way Im a INFJ, im way to shy of conflict for nr 3 🙃
@AShadowToLove
@AShadowToLove 6 күн бұрын
I'm just another Shadow on the wall
@zaidane6859
@zaidane6859 6 күн бұрын
we stare coz we recognize beauty.
@Wellch
@Wellch 6 күн бұрын
1:40 thinking too deeply.
@sheyennejohnson7013
@sheyennejohnson7013 7 күн бұрын
Over preparing ... sure im prepared for everything! EXCEPT for what actually happens!! 😂
@Ab.eNormal
@Ab.eNormal 7 күн бұрын
I tested as an INFP in my early 20s. Retested in my late 30s and typed as an Infj. Just recently took the test (now 42) and tested as an Infj-A.
@Wellch
@Wellch 9 күн бұрын
As an INFP. I had imaginary friends too….reminds me of the Shilo,…a Neil Diamond song.
@brucemcclelland904
@brucemcclelland904 10 күн бұрын
I have an INFJ “girlfriend” (I’m INFP). This video nails it, and answers a lot of questions about the way intimacy between us is managed (turned on and off, depending on what else is going on in her life). Thanks.
@JacquesieKwaakie
@JacquesieKwaakie 10 күн бұрын
Sounds like a rather self-destructive and delusional mix of idealism and narcissism!
@zibusisodlamini2003
@zibusisodlamini2003 10 күн бұрын
Problems with intimacy, being comfortable giving and almost never receiving, moving too fast, wanting to know everything about my love interest. It's when I watch videos like this that I don't doubt I'm an infj😂😂. Side note: as an infj u need to go through some hurt, how much depends on the person, and when u reach that point where you're burnt out completely, depressed and just not interested in things u used to love anymore. It's in that moment when u choose yourself even if it means u pull away, cut toxic people off. Be more honest about what u want, establish more solid boundaries to protect yourself. Meaning what u say. U need to go through the mud but trust me in the end you'll see bulls hit when it's happening. Your intuition will be on autopilot. You'll know who to associate with and when to leave without burning your batteries. But most of all youll start healing
@RodeoDogLover
@RodeoDogLover 10 күн бұрын
100%❤
@GeertHorringa
@GeertHorringa 10 күн бұрын
Most interesting take I ever encountered in the INFJ subject as a whole. It is as if the spiritual 'shortcut' to all questions in general, ultimately can carry us the furthest. I take the clip very much to heart.
@elite950
@elite950 11 күн бұрын
The thumbnail and title had me dying 😂
@kmac2280
@kmac2280 11 күн бұрын
My mind about tripped when he started asking all those questions. Exactly 💯. Sexually I relate better emotionally, but I feel I'm gonna have to wait a long time to find a guy who wants to hang out and build that emotional bond.
@sersnuggles7697
@sersnuggles7697 11 күн бұрын
When alone the Turbulent goes boeing on stormy day. But when around others the Assertive rises like a calm stream. Does anyone else feel this? Like you reserve the T for private spaces and the A is your shield and sword in the real world?
@Skylightwolkers
@Skylightwolkers 12 күн бұрын
I am a spiritually awakened INFJ with the ability to communicate with the other side, seeing ghosts, dressing like a hippie. guess how people know me?🤣✌️ Considering that I honestly talk about my super powers 🤣✌️ but honestly, at the beginning they have a mistake but as they get to know me better, they get used to it and only those who feel insecure avoid me, others even they allow themselves to be shown the way if they have a problem and there are others who try to belittle me, but you know how an INFJ reacts to such people. 🤷😅✌️ dear INFJs, enjoy life and yourselves, because life is beautiful, but we complicate it for ourselves. I'm sending you a huge virtual hug 🫂🫶
@santinamarie4699
@santinamarie4699 12 күн бұрын
You didn't even cover the really scary stuff
@LonelyRider87
@LonelyRider87 12 күн бұрын
I figured I'd be a T.
@reviewyup592
@reviewyup592 14 күн бұрын
INTJ on the list again. I will sleep well tonight.
@maryleemorrical982
@maryleemorrical982 14 күн бұрын
Nailed it! Made me laugh. I can relate to each thing you described.
@PeinUchiha100
@PeinUchiha100 15 күн бұрын
As an INFJ who experienced many of these, I really don't know the right answer. I'm not even close to being done trying to figure myself out.
@Elfdustify
@Elfdustify 15 күн бұрын
I began my villainry today! So far it's been fun.
@justsayin2985
@justsayin2985 16 күн бұрын
Introvert,
@justsayin2985
@justsayin2985 16 күн бұрын
Oh yes thats me 100% and yes the leaving the house is true.
@WinsieWINSTARLee
@WinsieWINSTARLee 16 күн бұрын
I realized the main social norm I don’t get is the obligation to make money upon graduation and boxed into a 9-5 job that may not fit our education we studied hard for. After my Visa expired, I had to leave my dream city Washington DC and moved in with my parents in Asian Las Vegas where I didn’t fit in with the materialistic & functional job market. I didn’t attend grad school due to ADHD and financial concerns. I discovered the online world of personal development and got a coaching certification and have been building my coaching business with financial support from mostly my INTP dad even though I’m a grown adult. He understands me not wanting a low-paying job that doesn’t fulfill my growth potential.
@mycapitain843
@mycapitain843 16 күн бұрын
My issue about leading is that most often my soften side is viewed as a weakness and some people tend to undermine me or fake leading while i am there 9:06
@AliseIam
@AliseIam 16 күн бұрын
This makes “T” sound so horrible 😂😂😂
@naturalPaths
@naturalPaths 17 күн бұрын
Oh, my goodness. All 7 of these things describe me. Over many years, I've mostly learned to deal. This year, I am flatly refusing to travel for a several day Thanksgiving visit with multiple groupings of relatives, etc., in a large city. I'll be hermit-ing at home.
@LoraineTomocik-z6h
@LoraineTomocik-z6h 17 күн бұрын
I’m sorry I’m late, I came when I felt like it.
@lB-fu8ss
@lB-fu8ss 17 күн бұрын
Ahhhhh I feel exposed....shit
@sl3102
@sl3102 18 күн бұрын
I think this is true only when an INFJ meets somebody like-minded. In my experience extroverts will most likely just think you're weird and boring.
@sl3102
@sl3102 18 күн бұрын
I think it's the other way around. Usually it's me who come to the conclusion that somebody isn't worth my time and effort. Rarely I think the other person understands why.
@courtneyleeannturley4566
@courtneyleeannturley4566 18 күн бұрын
I think the authors of this video have fallen in love with an INFJ. I am an INFJ and I can't imagine anyone seeing me in this manner except through the eyes of love.
@Dave00_
@Dave00_ 18 күн бұрын
Ive never felt so seen, thank you
@rachelhudson4370
@rachelhudson4370 18 күн бұрын
Maybe some INFJs believe in a higher power, but not all of us. I certainly do not.
@amereneee
@amereneee 19 күн бұрын
INFJ girly here and my hubby is and INTP :) he definitely helped me become more laid back haha
@Irkeee
@Irkeee 19 күн бұрын
Infjs can be very good teachers (explaining complex ideas in a way a 5 y old can understand), and public speakers if they find a way to overcome their fear of to be seen by large masses and their anxiety which stems from their perfectionism and overly self criticizm.
@Glowcreations87
@Glowcreations87 19 күн бұрын
Divorcing an intp. We could not get past the opposite personality traits.