I can 100% relate to "sitting with my queerness." I have a book recommendation that you'll relate to. Eddie & Alan is written by black gay author Anthony Amiewalan. It sheds light on the complexities of relationships between men, the fluidity of sexuality, and what happens when the lines are blurred. It also examines trauma when growing up as a queer person.

The first outfit (with the shirt untied) was so cool !! Way too loud for me but if I saw someone wearing this in the street I’d be like heart face emoji 🥰 Well they were all nice. The first was my fave though.

Thanks for sharing. But it may also be that some of your beliefs about what constitutes and man and woman and how they should dress or look is rooted in some outdated stereotypes. It might be helpful to challenge those beliefs through cognitive behavioural therapy or similar practice. Essentially we should live in a world where a man or woman can dress however they wish. In many ways we are already there but your own internalised prejudices may be negatively effecting you. Even your own categorisation as ‘non binary’ may be a source of your dysphoria as you see yourself somehow different from ‘woman’. Liberation looks more like not buying into stereotypes for me.

Loved this video! Subbed ❤

Thank you for having a conversation about queerness. Take care of yourself.

I love that you said “sitting with my queerness” cuz i felt that.

your description of queerness has changed me. thank you

I want to see more videos!

Can you tell me what the nike top at 3:21 is called? Cause I can't find it on the internet

You inspired me with your courage:)

2:45 it was really nice to hear someone consider $20 expensive. It totally can be depending on the circumstance!

So beautifully articulated, thank you for your openness and vulnerability. This will help give so many language and perspective for their own journey’s. 🙏🏽

This video really pointed at internal questions I don’t know if I ever considered and I thank you for that. 💚 So much of my relationship with all the intersections of myself and my identities feels like completely uncharted territory. I’ve thought about how certain things make me feel and how these aspects influence the way I’ve navigated certain spaces but I don’t think I’ve ever really considered how far I wanted to deconstruct those dynamics and how it affects me. I don’t really know if I understand much of who I am in regards to the intersection of my identities, my traumas, and where that is headed in terms of my worldly experience. I’ve been trying to think more intentionally about who I am and what I want in life but I think I’ve neglected focusing on myself in regards to being present for myself in every stage of life how that is informing the current moment. Maybe it’s questions I just haven’t been able to put into concise words but thank you for this space and allowing in your vulnerability to encourage an exploration of myself within my own.

I've beem searching this like CRAZY I'm genderfluid and I'm in my "he" period and it's summer in Rio. I HAVE NO IDEA what to wear. I very very very anxious.

i really love this video. exactly what i need right now. so beautiful. very affirming. thank u

I didn't know I needed to ask myself that question about Meg the Stallion

Cool video, thanks

So interesting how rash guards can be worn as NB swimwear when it's considered a common/modest swimwear in Korea and popular for spf coverage, too.

What camera do u use ?

I’m a young non binary kid and I’m really scared for summer so thank you for making this because I’m trying to research as much as possible :)

Also, if you wanted to pay a little more and get some one pieces, I'd recommend Beefcake and Tomboy X 🥰

I recently wore a bright yellow binder (swim friendly, and a size larger) with some nice blue board shorts I bought second hand, and I honestly felt the most comfortable I've ever felt at the beach!!

my mom accidentally bought me swim shorts in trans colors and i thought it was hilarious

Great video! Your energy is radiant 🙌✨

This is something I think often on when I associate times of trauma with what I wore (if the memory is there). I definetly believe as a AFAB person it’s triggering coinciding with trauma. But then I don’t want to uplift the masculinity/particularly because of who those traumas were cause by which is also a conflict. So then I’m trying to just navigate on emotion and mood and not associate as many looks so deep but base it more so off of comfort tbh.

I appreicate you and this reflection you have shared. I have had similar thoughts/reflections with myself about what queerness means to me, and the connection between my queerness, blackness, and my other identities. And just hearing someone else talk about it and knowing that I'm not alone in some of these feelings is so nice.

Youre finding expensive clothes because you’re looking ONLINE. Shop irl at thrift stores and youll never have this problem again. I havent for 21 years.

This gave me inspiration and confidence. Thank you

Please continue to post more videos. Your channel is a place for me to feel like I'm not so alone in my journey.

thank you so much for creating this video, as you've introduced me to boardshorts! it's changed everything I previously thought about swimwear and what I can wear, so thank you!

I needed this today. Thank you.

This really resonates with me. My queerness is the most important part of my identity and as someone who has also experienced trauma, the fall out manifests in how I feel about myself with respect to presentation, trust, and how we I see the world. Thank you for sharing this with us.

What is the brand of the first shirt?

Thank you for sharing. Really sitting with you on this.

I like the first outfit but I would style it with a cream top!

beautiful humans! as of 2/22/21 target has some simple black boardshorts WITH POCKETS

Thanks for tips and help! That really help me as no binary person! 🌈🌈🌟

this was so helpful and inspiring! thank you!:)

Finally, I have found my style icon.

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My goodness. This video was the gentle, compassionate, wonderful thing I didn't know I needed today.

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

I wish I could wear swim trunks but I'm afab

Really nice 👌 😍💋 💝💖❤️

this made me so so so happy omg, like i'm nonbinary too and swimsuits + bikinis have alwayss made me uncomfortable and thanks to this video it has somehow only just occured to me that i can wear shorts !!!! and a top !!!! like,, i'm actually allowed to do that !!!! ahhhhh I'm so excited :')))) thank you so much !!!

I love this so much!

i aspire to be as cool as u someday

This video is so calm and beautiful! I love the way you phrase you're words, it almost sounded like a poem the whole way through ^^ I am really happy that I found you're channel, hope you keep doing what you're doing great!!

What a fun video!

Thank you for this video! So inspirational :) from one enby to another <3