I already killed that dream I am 34 and ok with it my only problem is that I have a high sex drive....if it wasnt the case I wouldnt expect it and my body cant wait anymore....I never had sex I was 17 when I converted...If I wait another year I might give in ....and yes I have prayed and fasted about it. I did the work on myself ...I went to therapy for a whole year, worked on my appearence,work on my calling, builded on my career ...constantly so being prepared sometimes it is not enough ...I have seen ppl who have a messed inside and were blessed with a healthy marriage so I disagree...thats why I killed the dream cuz its not worthy

On July 28, 2022, I was getting ready to attend a farewell party for my seniors. I had planned to take a cab to college, but my mom insisted that I use public transportation instead. So, she came with me to make sure I got on an e-rickshaw. Since I was going to a party, I was dressed up nicely. As I sat down in the e-rickshaw, a guy sat next to me. My mom, who was still standing outside, was concerned about my safety. She asked the people in the rickshaw to look out for me, but none of them were going to the same place. Then, she turned to the guy sitting next to me and asked him to keep an eye on me until I reached my stop, and he agreed. I felt really embarrassed when she said that because I couldn’t believe she’d ask a complete stranger to do something like that. I was worried about what he might think of me. We didn’t speak at all during the ride, but when we reached the stop, the guy approached me and said, “Ma’am, are you a model?” I blushed and replied, “No, I’m a student.” He then said, “You look like a model.” I was flattered and blushing. He asked for my Instagram, and I got really shy. I couldn’t say no, so I gave it to him, and then he left. I don’t know why, but in that moment, I thanked God. I was a little surprised because we should be grateful for all moments, but I felt a special urge to thank Him then. When I reached college, I told my friends about what had happened, and they smiled and said I did the right thing by giving him my Instagram. Later, when I got home, I told my mom what had happened-how the guy she had asked to look after me asked for my Instagram. I thought she would be furious and ask me why I gave it to him, but instead, she surprised me. She smiled and asked, "Did you give it to him?" When I said yes, she seemed happy, as if she liked him right away. The guy and I spoke on Instagram for a few days. He sometimes asked me to meet him for coffee, but I never agreed. Instead, I kept making excuses, telling him I was busy. In my mind, I was thinking that I didn’t know him well, and I didn’t want him to think I was the type of girl who would meet a stranger casually. I was more traditional, and I didn’t want him to think I was too modern. After a while, he got tired of my excuses and directly asked me if I was ever going to meet him. I told him, “Maybe never.” That’s when he said he had fallen in love with me. At that point, I knew he wasn’t serious because it hadn’t been long since we met, and we hadn’t even spoken on the phone. So, how could he have fallen in love? Still, I didn’t want to lose the friendship, so I tried to keep things friendly between us. But he told me that a guy and a girl could never just be friends. After he confessed his feelings, I didn’t say or do anything, and I’m not sure if he got upset about that, but we didn’t talk for almost a year. Even though we followed each other on Instagram, our interactions were limited to him replying to my stories occasionally, and that was it. One night in September 2023, he suddenly called me. I had wanted to get his attention through a picture I posted on Instagram, and as I expected, he texted me and called. We spoke, and I was quite nervous. He then dropped the call, saying he would call back in 10 minutes, but he never did. This reminded me of past experiences with other guys, making me feel vulnerable and depressed. Darkness and negativity filled my mind, and I cried out to God, asking Him to save me from falling into toxicity, anxiety, and depression again. I didn't want to be hurt once more. God answered my prayers as this guy didn't text me until I tried to get his attention again through Instagram stories and reactions to his posts. He started to text and call me very often. Whenever I spoke to him, I was always nervous, trying my best to impress him so he would like me as much as I liked him. We always said we were just friends, but the way we talked was not how friends usually talk. He began calling me at night, sometimes talking until 3 AM. His compliments and flirtatious remarks made me feel like he had feelings for me and would one day confess them. I hated it whenever he complimented other girls, but I accepted it, thinking all men are like that. I met him one day with my younger sister at a coffee shop. This was our second meeting after almost two years. We didn’t speak much; he was quiet, and so was I, unsure of what to talk about. Despite this, I felt good meeting him. However, he didn’t open the coffee shop door for me, nor did he ask to drop me home. I took a cab home, and he didn’t even check if I got home safely. Still, I had never been on such a date with any guy before, and he seemed to be the one for me. Throughout this time, God tried to warn me many times through scriptures, preaching videos, and quotes/messages online. I clearly knew it was God speaking to me, but I didn’t listen, hoping that God might somehow change the situation. I imagined myself as his wife, fantasizing about a beautiful family and romantic scenarios with him. Two days after meeting him, his texts became slower, and he didn’t call or text me all day. This hurt me deeply. One night, I decided to tell him how I felt about us. I conveyed my feelings indirectly, but he seemed to avoid the discussion and changed the topic. I insisted, telling him that talking every day had left an impact on me, and I no longer saw this as just a friendship. I felt overwhelmed and suggested we take a break. I hoped he wouldn’t want to lose me, but he replied, "Okay, as you wish." This ripped me apart, shattering all my dreams and thoughts about him. I cried the whole night. The next day, I went to church, my soul crying out. Mrs. David prayed for me, and I felt relieved for a moment, but then the sadness and loneliness returned. Back home, I slept and woke up crying, thinking this happened to me again. I had always known he might leave me broken, especially with God’s warnings, but I really wanted to be proved wrong this time. That evening around 7 PM, he texted me, "Hi, how are you?" He wanted to start anew, as if the previous night’s discussion never happened. I didn’t reply, not wanting to be hurt again. He called, and I answered. He talked casually, pretending nothing had happened. I brought up the topic, but he said he had a headache. When I persisted, he said we were just friends and would always be friends, with no future together. He didn’t want to hurt me. I told him I couldn’t do this any longer and suggested we part ways. He agreed, and we said goodbye. For 1.5 months, we didn’t speak except for three times when he replied to my stories/statuses. Then, one day, he called me out of the blue. I was shocked, as I never expected him to call. During our time apart, I missed him every single day and prayed for God to reunite us. On the call, he talked casually and asked if I had missed him. I replied vaguely, and he laughed. This time, he didn’t call every day but occasionally complimented my pictures and made comments suggesting he liked me romantically. However, he still complimented other girls and mentioned wanting a wife with characteristics completely different from mine, which broke my heart. But then he would call and say nice things, making me think he liked me romantically, even if just a little. One day, he suddenly asked, "Do you love me?" I replied, "Do you?" He said yes, and I also said yes. After that, he ignored and avoided me. He didn’t answer my calls or texts but was active online. This caused me immense pain. After two days, I texted him, asking if he was avoiding me. He said no, he was just busy and would call me. But he didn’t. I waited all day and night until 11:20 PM, then called him myself. He answered casually, pretending nothing had happened. I asked about his confession, and he said it was a joke. I felt like my world was crushed. How could someone joke about such a serious thing? How would I ever trust someone’s confession of love again? I dropped the call and cried. My mom, who knew everything, called him and scolded him for his disgusting joke. And that was the end of our story (still hoping that one day God will bring him back to me).

Thank you for this. I'm 38, single and never dated. I've been doing better in expecting God to do His good and perfect will in His timing. I believe in this more and more!

Late 20s (28) and a single mom. I've been single since June 2023 (its October 2024). Its hard to believe my husband is out there. I know im not quite ready yet but starting to think its not in the cards for me. 😞😞

If that desire is not from God, you need to let your desire go away.

So I’ve never had sex and I’m 30+. It gets confusing bc I’m unmarried and many Christian’s are having sex before marriage and getting married and enjoying married life. I feel like church fear mongers women saying he will leave but what I’m seeing… seems like women I know in the same boat as me are not married and have no suitors. Meanwhile the ppl I know getting married by the dozen…. Are sexin and living together. It’s starting to look backwards to me and brings questions despite knowing what the Bible says.

Esther’s beauty is highlighted in the Bible though. Speaking as a woman who has never used the tools mentioned in the video. I just feel like, who is for you is for you. Buttt honestly there are Christian’s women like myself who are all into God, pray ect, see his favor in other ways but it still hasn’t opened the door for a husband.

I see this a lot. Where a woman says God said he’s my husband….and I agree, it blocks you from seeing real potential suitors bc the focus is on that one.

I enjoyed what you had to say. I've been a widow 5 years and been waiting for the man, my late husband prophesied before he died. I thought my husband was crazy but he told me about him and died 2 weeks later. I miss him so much, but I trust his prophecy and I trust in the Lord. It's just my frustration gets me sometimes because I need help. I don't just need a husband I need a helper.. I still trust in the Lord and what he's doing in my life. I just need to pray through the loneliness and frustration. Thank you

Beautiful testimony sister!!! How old were you when you got married how long you waited?. I'm 36 and what is getting to me is not having kids getting old. I need some encouragement. God bless you sister ❤

38 and waiting. But God should be #1

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My patiences has run out I don’t even desire it anymore. Honestly I wouldn’t even give it my best effort at this point completely lost faith.

I’m 34 and childless and I have no hope left.

Wendy Griffith got married at 54 for the first time. She wrote two books. Beautiful woman from the 700 Club… worth reading her story!!

I’m really wanting to meet my husband. It has been disappointing meeting men who are lukewarm. That isn’t what I want. God send me a godly man!!

Im single aged 49. I have Sons..I left abusive marriage ten years ago. Is it the Lord's punishment I don't marry

1 corinthians 7:1 better not to marry. (unless you are weak) typically, christian marriages just lead to life force being drained away. You have to love god more than the orgasm. Its not easy...period. You are not wearing his yoke until you put the flesh to death. this is a message to

Thank you so much I have been waiting for more than 10yrs uuuum love never comes but I deeply know and believe I will be married one day

Girl, I let go of that so long ago! Now, I'm thinking about getting the desire again, but... it's not easy. For me what will be will be by the will of God Almighty 🙏

What about when you thought you heard God tell you who your husband is but nothing ever happened so you believe it was a lie and now you hate the thought of marriage 😢😢😢😢

Amen❤

At this point, I am not even mad with God. I feel emberrassed by HIM. 33 and single(and yes I am doing the work!)

I have prayed, believed,refused the men who didn't know God and been intentional with my purity...am a 25 year old virgin but Born again men never look my side ..may be am too ugly or short for them....I see the girls who are even new in the faith being married off early then us who have been born again for years are all alone..... May be we don't deserve what other's have.. May be are lying to ourselves

Solid truth God bless ❤

Thank you. ❤️

There are options if you massively settle ... Look around the church. Five times the amount of single middle aged women over men in the congregations. Also, many of those men are unfortunate, have behavioral disorders, or mentally disabled and are being cared for by family. What a variety of "opportunity". 😅 I rather stay single than be with a man that I don't want to be left alone with... I believe God can do all things but I think he chooses not to take action. That's it

This does not apply to me coz I’m married but nevertheless, I think patience is always a virtue. Better marry late than marry wrong. Amen

God bless you, Sis! Thank you for sharing your experiences and encouragement!

wow "the odds are more in our favor than against us," and "God won't take that desire, because he gave it to you!" Beautiful sister thank you - wow tears. I am so tired of ministers reading into the text, taking Scripture out f context and then beating singles over the head with it; suggesting that there is something wrong with singles or they haven't found fulfillment in Christ and they need to get more healed that the longing is out of place. Like Hannah the priest accused her of being drunk and completely out of order but her promise was related to kingdom destiny. There is not something always wrong with someone because they are single and truly desire to have a family - maybe they are like Hannah. I wish more were speaking life like you! Ready to encourage and stand with someone in faith. There is a war out there on identity and marriage. This was a word of hope, of faith for our breakthrough. THANK YOU for your words!!

Thanks for the encouragement. To be honest I’ve been waiting for decades 25 years. I cried so much that I can’t cry anymore. I have told God to take that desire away because I felt like I was being tormented for waiting all these years and nothing. I feel like it was a waste. I don’t get approached at all and I’m tired of being overlooked. I had a lot of faith years ago but I became weary and gave up. I don’t even think I have the energy to have faith in this waiting game. It’s really a struggle for me. It’s mentally and emotionally exhausting. Thanks for your video.❤

God created Robin for a man

I’m JUST now coming across your videos and I don’t believe it’s by accident! 😊 I appreciate the straightforward explanations and you backing everything up with the Word of God! I look forward to listening to more of your videos and receiving the wisdom that is being imparted to us through you by the Holy Spirit. Thank you for taking the time to share what you’ve learned yourself. God Bless!

A hope deferred makes the heart sick.

Amen! I thought I was wrong for desiring marriage. I thought I wanted it too much, God did promise me marriage. I was in a situation-ship and I know it's not His will for me to be in. I desire to be with the right person, God has ordained. I will hold fast. I will have faith in my marriage promise.

Lady, you're still single at your age you're delusional 🤣 just settle, you've got like 20 years left

I actually praise God the desire left me, so much peace and tranquility. Never have to worry about a cheating husband/divorce, praise God!!

I just broke up with my boyfriend he stopped talking to me because I told him I wanted to be in a sex less relationship and I had to let him know that I am waiting until marriage. He hasn’t text me or call me. My friends tell me that I’m never going to find a man that is going to wait until marriage to have sex. I have been abstinence for 6 years with no prospects at all. No dates nothing. 🙏🏾😞

That’s good sis. 👏🏾

Isn't our true hope as Christians to be in Heaven with our Lord?

I’ve been waiting for a husband for so long that my heart is now broken. I’m 53yrs old, it’s too late for me to marry and have a family so how can I trust His perfect timing? It’s already too late. I’ve tried so hard to stay faithful in hope and expectancy but after more than 30yrs I am worn out and overwhelmed by loneliness. I’m starting to wonder if I just don’t deserve to be loved. Yes, I’m totally broken after waiting all these years, but I’d challenge anyone to wait 3 decades and not feel as I do. Please, pray for me.

Thank you so much for this word. I literally am at the end of my rope waiting for the right man of God. I’ll be 41 at the end of the month and I have tried online dating and I get ghosted all the time. I left the online dating scene 2yrs ago and tried to go back to it but I couldn’t tolerate the swiping and ghosting all over again. I prayed and my mom prayed and I knew that some home how I was holding things up. So I typed it to youtube why haven’t I found a Christian husband yet. You popped up. This message hit the nail on the head. I’m going to go God about my expectations because I have been hoping only. Thank you again.

At this point, I don't even know how I feel anymore about this waiting season 😢

I believe it will happen but im soo tired of waiting. Next year i will be 50 and i haven't been married even once!

Thank you for trying to help. I’m losing hope😞 I want whatever’s god will is, I’m just scared to have to accept that I might have to do it alone.

Do you have advice for men too? We have the same struggles as single women.

First time on your channel and this was really good! “It’s still NOT the one God has for you.” Having the desire versus the substance to STAY married I laughed when you said straight bum lol lol I enjoyed the blog reading and wisdom you shared through the Word of God to remind singles on the importance of waiting on God AND allowing Him to change and work on you in the process!

Thank you for sharing this. i am 53 single un married yet and have many times thought : God, will i ever get married? should i let go the desire to be a wife? God bless you

Ok I got you I see what you saying because I love being married it’s was a blessing to me so for

That what I was saying nobody wants me I was married twice, and they both cheated and left I feel well I’m not smart enough. I am not pretty enough and I’m not good enough. That’s why they left.