1 year *REVIEW* 😂❤️🎉 Marriage chit chat || finances + boundaries + entitlement + infidelity, etc

Hi friends! 🥹 1 year later, we've been through so much and just thought to have a marriage chit chat to look back at the year and where our marriage is!
We talk about our marriage in all facets; our mental headspace, social setting, (family, friends), moving, finances, expectations, work-life balance, addressing social faux pas, our relationship & it’s evolution, boundaries, entitlement and so on.
This is not a HOW- TO or advice video. We're just sharing our journey and reflecting on our marriage so far.
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[@zellemaleek]

Oh my goodness! I’m literally in tears of joy because of how beautiful your relationship is. Everything you spoke about is everything I would want in a relationship with someone. It’s gotten me so emotional but also given me so much hope that if it’s possible for you guys then definitely it’s possible for me too. I cannot wait for my turn, for now I clap for others.❤❤❤

[@nyashathandi]

The fact that you are here, and seeing it is possible to get the things you want is something I can relate to. I had 2 couples I used to look at and pray "God, if you can do it for her, you can do it for me because clearly what I want exists". And although it took time 😩😩😩 it still happened and Here it is. Your blessing is coming, and even if you feel like it is taking time, wait for it. Habakkuk 2:2-3. I promise you, your blessing is around the corner. ❤️

[@benedictkunaka]

Pro Barber 💈 Appreciation Button 👇🏾

[@nyashathandi]

I’m the best barber you’ve ever had sha 😹😹😹 in your WHOLE Life!!!

[@jackycracker9548]

Congratulations to you both! Just wanted to let you know, I’m in New York and watch your videos every Sunday. Your channel literally carries me through my homesickness and warms my heart when I’m missing Zimbabwe. There are real people behind every KZbin stat and number of views you get. We love your content. I think you’re so funny and charismatic! Major shoutout to your husband for pushing you to publish this one today. God bless you both.

[@nyashathandi]

🥹🥹🥹 Oh my! It is always so surreal when the people who watch the videos from different locations actually comment. You know, YT just gives a percentage to show where people are watching from, and at times its so easy to discount the numbers as small. But I have been learning and realising that having 10 people tune in, and say something is REALLY BIG. 10 people in a room is a big thing, and so should it be even on social media/entertainment platforms. Thank you for this beautiful reminder ❤️ ❤️🥹 I do not take the support for granted, ever. Thank you for cheering me on and supporting me! God bless you too 😘😘 Have a lovely week ahead! And, thank you for the anniversary wishes 🎉🥰

[@tapiwamatambanadzo4668]

Awww man this is beautiful. Thank you for this beautiful conversation. 5yrs in marriage and I feel like a have picked up a lot of things from this conversation. Munonakidza guys!!! And please don't mind us black people, we don't have boundaries and shame it's gonna take centuries to unlearn this bad habit. You did well with this one 👏

[@skylermotivation943]

I was just scrolling on Zim wedding videos and I came across your first video about lobola ...I got to watch more af your videos ...damn I really appreciate you guys ...I have someone I'm separated from but we are working towards getting back together and the stuff you spoke about in this video really got me thinking of things I did wrong and how to fix them ...thank you honestly ...from the bottom of my heart may The Good Lord fully Bless your union.❤

[@tattmu8]

Love everything about this vlog, practical, very informative and love you guys’ vibes ❤❤❤

[@Naniso]

Congratulations on your anniversary! We love love!

[@nyashathandi]

Thank you so so much!! 💕 Have a lovely week ahead!

[@michaelphonela3639]

Thank you guys .,4 make me strong 💪.., on behalf congratulations 🎉

[@cynthiamakowa5869]

All you said here is the reality of marriage and marital counseling is very important. 4 years in but im still learning. All i can say is in marriage be ready to evolve/ grow out of certain habits and spaces etc. People be asking when are you having a child, yooh wasimbisa dumbu iro asi waneimwe nhumbu 😢im like what apa i have cysts which with make you look bloated all the time and affects fertility especially trying for a second child. But some people 🙄 don't know a thing called boundaries

[@nyashathandi]

Marriage indeed is a school of love, where people never stop learning 🙌🏾 And honestly, I think our cultural background in Africa leads people to think they can just ask whatever intrusive questions they have and get away with it. At times? We need to step up and address some of these rude comments/questions.

[@nyashadhlakama6130]

37:21 This!! This!! Marriage doesn’t change people.

[@chidoeucaria7826]

This is so inspiring🥹. There are so many things I didn’t get to consider within my relationship especially things like marriage counseling, considering I’ll be married soon.This was an eye opening session and I loved it. Thank you for sharing your beautiful life with us ❤

[@nyashathandi]

Congratulations 💍🎉❤️ So so happy and excited for you!!!! Pre-marital counselling is necessary. I hope you find the perfect couple to journey with you 💕 And, thank you so much!

[@priibunu6361]

Literally agreed to everything you guys have said,many people need to hear this 👏🏻.

[@rudogore8599]

Happy Anniversary 🥳😍 May God’s covering always be present in your union in all seasons. Thank you for sharing and being authentic. There’s no straight jacket to some life experiences. I truly adore how you two support, respect and consider each other. So many takeaways here!!

[@nyashathandi]

Amen, Amen, Ameeen!! Thank you so much, Rudo ❤️❤️❤️ So honoured that you took something away from this video! 🥹 You have no idea!

[@sophymoyo3985]

I’m humbled by your wisdom this early in your union. I pray you keep this throughout your marriage.👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾

[@vimbainasheashleighh]

Loved this video …So many takeaways ,happy anniversary to you❤

[@nyashathandi]

So honoured that you took something away from this video 🥹🥹 You have no idea! Thank you so much!❤️😘

[@Nyarie-hc6rc]

What a much needed sit down on marriage very informative, thank you. Happy one year anniversary💝

[@nyashathandi]

Thank you so much 💕💕 Have an amazing week ahead!

[@joyleensamanthamajurira851]

So many takeaways from this video. I can not believe that its already a year time definitely flys . Happy 1st anniversary🎉🎉

[@nyashathandi]

Right?? Just yesterday, we were going for those intros, and chilling in that bedroom waiting to hear that we can come out because the negotiations were concluded 😂😂😂 and suddenly its a whole year now??? Time does fly! Thank you so much My Friend ❤️

[@RozviQueen_Amoyo]

🎉❤ I thoroughly enjoyed this video, the candid talk. As a fellow 1 year in marriage fellow being you have no idea how many times I kept nodding my head to the facts 😅 and truth in this conversation. Am so happy for you guys ❤ to many more blessed years in the marriage Nyasha and Farai😊.

[@nyashathandi]

So glad it was relatable! I wasn't very keen on making the video because I felt it wouldn't do much...but the chiming in has been great and so glad I listened to Fari!😂 And so happy to know that we're not going through anything extraordinary 😹😹 Thank you so so much! ❤️🥰 May God continue to bless your marriage too!

[@RuvimboDadi]

This was so relatable for me. Thank you so much for sharing. Happy anniversary ❤️

[@nyashathandi]

Thank you so much! So happy to hear it was somewhat relatable. May God bless YOUR marriage ❤️

[@TashingaCecilia]

Notification gangggg!!!!!❤️🔥🔥

[@nyashathandi]

😅😅 Gaaaaang gaaaaang!!!!!

[@tarigabrielle]

Loved this. Congrats on your anniversary ❤️

[@nyashathandi]

Thank you so much 💕💕

[@bridgetkajawu6271]

beautiful couple ,love how you love d compliment each other

[@nyashathandi]

Thank you so much! Have a lovely week ahead 💕💕

[@zellemaleek]

Wow that exes convo!!! Yoh a lot of people aren’t ready for that conversation

[@nyashathandi]

I know right!!! I don't know why our generation (especially) just wants to hold onto exes and make it seem normal. I was guilty of this at one point. Long before Fari and I started dating, I had an ex I entertained a lot, and left the door open for anything to happen. When I finally realised I'd be upset about my future husband being in touch, or being this close to his ex, I just knew what had to be done. So i literally woke up and blocked him, and never looked back. So so glad I did that, and wished I had done it sooner. Leaving a door open for a ghost is so dangerous!

[@berthatakunda4805]

I have learnt a lot here especially the issue of boundaries

[@nyashathandi]

So glad that you picked something small from our experience. Boundaries really are important, for things to continue functioning well in our society. We just need to set boundaries, and also communicate them sometimes. Thanks for tuning in 💕

[@zellemaleek]

I also used to have the same feeling of shying away from expressing how I feel because I didn’t want to be that girl but now I definitely do speak up for myself and I’m much happier.

[@nyashathandi]

Well done sha!! Speaking up and standing up for yourself goes a long way! Never suffer in silence ❤️😊

[@zimnality8123]

It’s Thandis husbands channel too 💃🏽

[@tinevimboleannempani7757]

I really enjoyed the Vlog Nyasha. Everything you mentioned is true I hope people will learn to know their boundaries . Happy anniversary to you and your Hubby 🎉🎉

[@nyashathandi]

We should have a 'Respect Boundaries' marathon honestly 😂😂 Might get through to people that way! Thank you so much 🥰🥳

[@Miss_veee]

Yoooh! I’m learning so much I was actually taking 📝 ❤

[@nyashathandi]

Oh my, oh my! We feel so honoured. Just having someone learn a thing or 2 from our story is so special to us. Thank you! 💕💕

[@kudakwashenyamazana]

I love how real this video is. Such a beautiful couple you two❤

[@ngaatendwechikobvu]

Absolutely love your videos. Love how you are always positive it is refreshing. The pink dress Thandi looks good on you. Congrats on your one-year anniversary soon❤❤

[@nyashathandi]

Aaw Thank you!! I feel like the dress really communicated my personality too.😅 And honestly, we all could all use some positivity because the world (esp social media/entertainment space) is just so vile at times. So honoured to be a part of the positive-camp! Thanks again 💕💕

[@tanakam3175]

Love this!

[@nyashathandi]

Thank you!

[@DTCIGF]

Its the way they both look at each other for me❤❤God really did his thing ❤

[@nyashathandi]

You really be seeing the small things! 😂😂 Not me going back to see how we look at each other!! God did indeed! 🙌🏾 Still can't believe we are here 🥹

[@tadiip]

She’s so happy

[@nyashathandi]

As should be!

[@blessing1824]

It's the eheh don't you dare😂😂.This was so informative and a heads-up to what is coming. Thankyou so much

[@muts_lady]

Eeeh guys today I’m early 🎊

[@nyashathandi]

😹😹😹 the video is still processing over here, and you’re watching already??? How??

[@muts_lady]

When flavour locates you 😇

[@nyasha1520]

Congratulations guys.May the good Lord keep you and bless you 🥹🥹🎉

[@nyashathandi]

Amen, Amen, Ameeen!! Thank you so much, Nyasha ❤️😘

[@lolly3596]

Sunday gang, always my favourite day of the week when you upload! I personally like it here😂😂. Wow, I am learning didn't know financial infidelity was a thing

[@nyashathandi]

You’re so supportive! Thank you so much ❤️😘 And we were so shocked when we were taught about the financial infidelity thing too! But it definitely made so many other things clearer.

[@benhildah16]

Thank you Nyasha Thandi and Thandi's husband congratulations on the one year anniversary An in person meet and greet will be lovely maybe create a platform for us who are looking for love😊

[@nyashathandi]

Thank you so much!💕 Also, thanks for the feedback. We'll see what we can work out sometime.

[@zellemaleek]

I agree!! You can’t really be having friends of the opposite sex when married for the same reasons you mentioned.

[@nyashathandi]

Because honestly, why? what for? Hubs always says 'You will lose friends of the opposite sex when you marry. So, if there's a friend you deeply care about, you might as well take the leap and date, and see where things go. Because either ways, you can't keep a person who is so close to your heart as 'just a friend' when you're married to someone else. That person will automatically take the place of your spouse, emotionally.' And I agree! The vulnerability to share what bothers you will come naturally when it's them you're talking to, but not your spouse. That is just dangerous.

[@fadzaimaunga4200]

We cant wait for the something something, already counting down to next week sunday❤

[@nyashathandi]

😅😅 I cannot wait either. I mean, I don't know why I can't wait hangu 😹, but I'll wait with you! Have a lovely week ahead 💕💕

[@fadzaimaunga4200]

@@nyashathandi may God enlarge your territory and increase your money so that you give us content twice a week♥️♥️ but that means you will have to stretch yourselves to give us more content but anyways that will be your own problem and not ours🤣🤣🤣 our duty is to sit like passenger princesses, watch, like and comment 💃💃

[@nyashadhlakama6130]

Loved this video will come back to it 🥹🫶🏾

[@nyashathandi]

Thanks for being so supportive, Nyasha 💕💕

[@tapiwachimwaida4175]

Haa Thandi wapopota shamwari lol. Key takeaway, stop asking people when they’re getting married 🤌🏾

[@tapiwachimwaida4175]

My brother finally succumbed 🧑‍🦲 🧑‍🦲 😂

[@nyashathandi]

Ehe 😹😹😹 stop asking people whether they’re expecting!

[@nyashathandi]

I’m a pretty great barber 🤓 what could he do

[@laurentiamawire218]

l am in 7 minutes and l dont know why this video is making me so emotional, whatever yal went through, l am glad a year later you can smile and laugh about !!❤❤

[@nyashathandi]

It’s not you alone… We got a little teary watching it too 🥹 Dark times don’t last forever ❤️🙌🏾🥹 thankfully! And where God calls? He provides!

[@matifadzagondo157]

Love you guys 🥰

[@nyashathandi]

Aaaw Mati 🥹❤️ you’re too sweet! We love and appreciate you being here, and supporting us too.

[@muts_lady]

Congratulations on your one year anniversary 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 keep the fire burning 🔥🔥🔥 I pray that God will continue to bless your union, spiritually, emotionally, mentally and financially… Today’s chit chat was so insightful and you guys have no idea how relieved I am that I’m not the only one going through similar challenges as a married person. I lost so many friendships too during that engagement/ marriage prep phase which hurt so much but the Bible is so clear about seasons…it’s one thing knowing it and thinking nah I’m fine I can handle it…but when you go through it 🤯🤯🤯 Personally I have learnt that there is no such thing as a “perfect marriage “ from all the rom-com movies we watch or the lifestyle content we consume online, of which most of is a facade😂😂😂 no one shows what happens behind those picture perfect instagram posts etc… We are all on a different journey as a married couple that is unique in it own way. God intricately put us together for a reason. As long we continue to uphold our vows and evolve I believe we can go far in life…

[@nyashathandi]

Thank you soooo much sisi ❤️🥹 We don't talk much about friendship break-ups, and honestly, we should...because they HURT. Losing people you thought would always be around as you reach some milestones does actually hurt, but sometimes its better done sooner than later really. Someone said 'the friendships you lose as you enter your vocation as a married person make space for you to deepen your friendship with your partner.' So I guess, that's a consolation, if you think of it. So many other people actually went/go through friendship changes when they got engaged/married. Seasons like you said! And yes! There is no perfect marriage. We compare our realities to the polished social media image we have of certain couples, and forget that they also have their stories and battles. One thing though, living out those vows one day at a time definitely goes a long way. I pray that God may continue to bless you and your marriage, and answer your prayers too. May your love abound all the more ❤️ Have a lovely week ahead Sisi 😘😘😘

[@muts_lady]

@@nyashathandi amen 🙌🏾 have a blessed week ahead too sisi 💕

[@mudiwachirinda7863]

Yazonzi OUR finallyyyy🤭

[@benedictkunaka]

Takeover is closer than you think 🫣

[@nyashathandi]

Our 😹😹😹 For the sake of peace!

[@mirriamnatashasongore4751]

My favorites

[@berthatakunda4805]

May the Lord protect your marriage guys❤❤😊

[@nyashathandi]

Amen amen amen! Thank you so much ❤️☺️

[@tadiwanashechibudu3417]

Im going to sit down and watch this with my boyfriend again. Thank you nyasha❤

[@nyashathandi]

You're welcome! I can't wait for you to have all the conversations that will come up after you watch the video together! Here rooting for healthy relationships that radiate peace and love ❤️

[@laurahtapiwa]

❤❤❤❤

[@kgabobiancamathuthu2485]

Yep, sibadala Kakhulu to be having male/female friends. I believe your partner should be that male friend 😅 cause yeah I just don’t see the need of a male friend especially when looking to be in a committed relationship

[@zellemaleek]

I would immediately cut off someone who would ask my partner about an ex when they clearly see me in the picture. It’s happened to me before and I blocked them using his account. He’s an ex now though but point is I will do it. 😂😂

[@nyashathandi]

Salty girl!!! 😂😂😂 We even responded together, and also asked them about their exes! Because what nonsense is that?!

[@Nick-Nacky]

I was just listening to your podcast 😅

[@nyashathandi]

So this was timely right? 😹

[@headym5995]

❤❤❤

[@Nick-Nacky]

I was so uncultured about the whole pre-Lobola and post lobola but you guys have been educating me 😊.

[@nyashathandi]

So delighted to hear this 🥹 it’s such an honour to have someone learn from our experiences and the little we managed to learn and share. Thank you for this!

[@gugudube3455]

Hi sweetie ❤

[@nyashathandi]

Heeeey!!! 😅😅😅

[@daphnemamhende6132]

💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@fay8892]

❤

[@nyashathandi]

😘😘

[@cynthiamakowa5869]

Marriage doesn't change anyone it simply exposes you 😂

[@nyashathandi]

Accurate 👌🏾

[@zellemaleek]

Hanzi are you talking about me? 😂😂😂 The audacity, why would you ah ah Personally I’m the ex you’ll never need to worry about because once we’re over you’ll never hear from me again.

[@nyashathandi]

Ah nhai 😂😂😂 busy thinking He or she still cares about you even though the person is married to someone else? I think people sometimes think others can't get over them EVER! Meanwhile 😂😂😂😂🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 people move on and life goes on!

[@nyashadhlakama6130]

Honestly we need to bring back something called shame 😭😭😭😭because where do you get off asking people such questions? 29:07

[@nyashathandi]

I honestly do not know what is happening. I guess people have become so entitled to people's lives 😫

[@mudiwachirinda7863]

It’s been a year already?????????

[@nyashathandi]

Time flies ka??? 😹😹 🥹🥹 It's almost a whole year already sha

[@_clarisse_manishimwe]

So many things that edified my heart in this video ❤ One major thing I’m taking away is “your marriage is meant to be healthy” 🥹 You two are a proof that IT exists! God bless the Kunakas 🩷 Happy happy anniversary! May God strengthen you!

[@nyashathandi]

This just warms both our hearts so much! Thank you, Clarisse ❤️ And you know what? I knew 2 couples who seemed to have what I wanted, and I held onto that. Like God, I don't even need 2 men, I just need 1. And if you could do it for these ladies, you can and will do it for me too. Waiting on your blessing with you ❤️ It is around the corner and in the near future, you will see it.