10 Agreements Every Couple Must Have Before Marriage | Kingsley & Mildred Okonkwo

[@AgabaRichard7]

1. Freedom to Walk away 2. No Divorce 3. Joint Account 4. Communication 5. No passwords, shared devices 6. Exchanged parents 7. No quarreling 8. Intentional with Intimacy 9. Looking after each other 10. Running the marriage by the word.

[@elisabetholaniyan9044]

Thank you for the collaboration

[@GladysLifeOfThanksGiving]

Thank you

[@Minister--pat]

You do all ❤

[@dejibimbola]

I knew a blessed soul would have extracted the points

[@ChiafieEthel-fz1pg]

This is so heart touching. Thank you pastors

[@tadecraftltd]

For those of us who are listening to this message as singles, we are luckily blessed 🎉

[@SetApart7Generation]

Yes!

[@nyashawayneris5337]

So true....I wish I had heard these earlier. The one time I celebrate social media

[@mhizperp]

Yes ooo

[@ishayaukwen]

I love the fact that when she talks he rarely obstruct her

[@Ad-Lo]

*interrupts not obstructs.

[@masilelacalsile9056]

"Prayer does not change your Selection" Pastor K.... this captured my attention the most..my fellow Christian ladies while we're praying and trusting God for Kingdom marriage..it is upto us to still be intentional in selecting..so help us Holy Spirit in Jesus name amen.

[@veronickollo7786]

Amen 🙏

[@affyaffy-yk1fq]

AMEN

[@abenadufie4312]

Amen n amen

[@jalianabiira9404]

Amen

[@graceogechi]

Amen

[@evelynkwarteng7638]

1. Agreeing to hault the relationship when you see that it's not going to work. 2. Agreeing that if the relationship end up in marriage, divorce is not an option. 3. Agreeing to have a joint account (make everything finance transparent). 4. Agreement on communication (communicating more). 5. Agreement on no keeping of secret, password (building trust). 6. Agreement on exchange of parents. 7. Agreement on quarrel free marriage. 8. Agreeing to be intentional with intimacy. 9. Agreeing that nobody looks down on the other(more selfless and less selfish). 10. Agreement on using the Bible to work the marriage.

[@owohchioma992]

Thank you for the summary It’s helpful

[@OgooluwaOjo]

Thank you

[@hannahumukoro7919]

Thanks 🙏

[@olusolaonanusi5643]

Thank you

[@OsifoMary]

Thank you for the summary

[@tobiabraham8574]

1. When uncertainty of conviction comes, never leave each other hurt 2. Divorce is abolish (Same as threatening to leaving the relationship isn't healthy) 3. Having Joint Account.(building Trust, Money will never be an issue) 4. Communication is the key ( communicate your pains and hurts often and don't keep silence) 5. No secrets especially on social media handles 6. Exchanging parents 7. No quarreling (we mustn't be mad at the same thing) 8. Mutual intimacy intentionality (Kissing and hugging each other every day) 9. Looking out for each other (Not been selfish, always asking questions of what do you want me to do for you. Are you happy?) 10. Word Center

[@kuekiakuffo7167]

😊

[@GbemisolaOluwasina]

Much appreciated ❤

[@tosinadeoye9931]

PST K knows how to lighten up the mood of the room. His sense of humor is great!!!

[@maloni_c]

Absolutely, he's really good at reading the room! As for his Sense of humor,he's a pure & proper Sanguine😂!

[@Funminwaneri]

LAPD OOOO

[@ennyscakesnbites]

"It takes two intentional people to build a marriage but takes one to scatter " Thank you Sir

[@adebimbola8532]

😊😊

[@bestmanprobel2971]

Couldn't drop my phone down till I finished listening. Guess what! My Wife sent this to me

[@chisommefor5035]

May your marriage continue to wax strong

[@MakeMoneyEveryWeek]

Wow! She's such an amazing soul!

[@theofficialchizzy]

She did well ❤

[@mjgreathomes]

God bless her😂❤

[@estherjoshua1299]

Nice

[@darlingtonodom6913]

Wow...I just heard everything that was wrong in my previous relationship. My priest who is also a marriage counselor told me I dodged a bullet; I didn't understand it. My ex fiancee just hated the fact that I listened to Pastor K's teaching too much, I was like, what's wrong with trying to know how to love you better.

[@ekweozorpromise2976]

All Pastor K's messages I sent to my own he didn't even care to listen to them

[@diamondp8438]

Currently

[@jackiekobusinge3745]

Wow!! Imagine

[@ebubechinedu194]

Aah... I'm surprised o I'd definitely love me a man that listens to Pastor K

[@janeteneadikwu301]

Same here as well.

[@yomide_naturals]

You don't SULK, you TALK 📌

[@Arrows_4_Christ.]

I'm blessed. Though I'm single now but I trust God to be a great partner to my spouse when God settles me in Jesus Name,Amennnn.

[@chikadibia7064]

Amen

[@adedayoademokoya9109]

Amen

[@venunyesrabi]

Amen

[@euniceganadzi4644]

Amen amen 👏👏

[@Honeywhitebiz]

Amen dear

[@oluwabukunmibamikole1737]

Communication is the life of every relationship. 🤔 It takes two intentional people to build a great marriage and marriage is between two givers

[@fatimatubah15]

I'm a muslimah but I'm so much inspired by these marriage guilines. May Allah SWT continue to keep you strong and safe for each other. Thank you Mr and Mrs Kingsley.

[@zamnam91]

Sister Fatima thank you for acknowledging this divine wisdom

[@JohnTemitayo-gk2hz]

Whoever is earning more is not superior to who is earning less

[@888KingsDaughter]

Say that again

[@sophiacyril9858]

My future marriage is blessed. I will marry right. I will marry my best friend. I will marry a lover of God and true believer of Christ. My future marriage will be a great achievement to me and i will be super proud of my spouse🙏🙏🙏

[@darefinance7264]

It works, am excited for you

[@OkpanachiBlessing]

🙏🙏

[@SirEminewtons]

Amen 🙏

[@SetApart7Generation]

Amen

[@patienceadranyiwilberforce1147]

Amen

[@cryptoairdroplover7172]

One thing I conclude with this is that everything from a to z has to be intentional, it's risky to act on your feelings i.e doing what you feel like doing in the marriage.

[@generationalworshippers9472]

Right intentional

[@nyimbonizipendazo]

Listening to Pastor K and Pastor M has made me grateful for all the broken relationships I have had.

[@newwineskin5494]

Love them,may GOD ALMIGHTY CONTINUE BLESSING them,and giving them wisdom,protecting them to continue enlightening us all..IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME OF NAZARETH AMEN. 🙇🙇

[@adedoyinolamide6266]

The family you build is of more priority than the family you're from.

[@StarrStuddedEnt]

Most men, especially mama boys don't understand that!!!

[@Aiii_me6682]

​@@StarrStuddedEntso true

[@pelumiraheen4936]

​@@StarrStuddedEntGod bless you 🙏🏾😊 my thoughts exactly

[@TheVictoriaC]

I used to sulk too because I felt that it was better than talking out my emotions and it was definitely worse. But now I talk and sometimes I over talk, so, I just keep praying to know 'WHAT TO SAY AND HOW TO SAY' when angry!😊 We all really need to unlearn and relearn in this thing called marriage. 😅

[@avessel22]

One thing this message has helped me understand is: in marriage it’s two halves that come together to make one. The ability to see yourself as incomplete without the other person is very important.

[@sir_kurah]

Everyone, yet to be married or married needs to watch this. If you've missed it already, it's not late to realign with God's intentions

[@SetApart7Generation]

Very true

[@preciouspresh4183]

I will marry right.. I will be a good and kingdom wife to my future husband & kids,and he will be a kingdom,good and kindhearted husband to me and our kids.. We will make it right with God.. We will Train an amazing kingdom children for God and the society We will love and cherish each other, looking out for each other, fulfill God's purpose for each other while we build a good, healthy and amazing home for us and our children...Amen God bless you dear pastors for this wonderful piece.❤

[@sheenakapachika8929]

Finally i have found people who think like me

[@nalubegalydia42]

This couple has blessed the kingdom proud of you more grace

[@mercyogbu5681]

I'm preparing to be married again after the death of my husband, thank you pastor K and wifey, I will be more intentional about my spouse this time

[@sublimeswhite]

This time ???? Oh women . Your statement is a show of relief that ur late husband was a pain. Na waoooo. Won't you stay. Why do you want to marry again.

[@voiceofogostar6532]

Did your late husband die due to your unintentionality?.. This comment though

[@gennienassar8348]

Llljjkj

[@ChijiuwaTrends]

I'm here for you ❣️

[@pstphilipnewmantv7628]

Marriage without tolerance will not work, no body is perfect

[@indibala3941]

Tolerance is not a virtue, Patience and Acceptance is a great virtue.

[@ayodejifunmilola2559]

Lord give me my own, intentional, Godly, ready to listen to me every time 🙏, never get tired of me God i will not marry rubbish in Jesus name 😭🙏

[@frankifeanyi3540]

Amen

[@EmpireOfPips]

Amen

[@GidsongsIsreal]

The family you build is better and more important than the family you're from

[@JohnTemitayo-gk2hz]

No secrets,no password and no hidden things

[@oluwatosinevelyn4165]

I needed these secrets shared I have been selecting wrongly and God has been faithful to be saving me from the relationship. I knew God has a better plan for me. I just have to wait build my capacity to be the right person while the right person comes

[@estherokon7024]

I'm single and watching this ahead of time. I've learnt that communication is the key in the relationship. And to always look out for each other in the relationship.

[@aurelieb7353]

As single woman I am blessed to be listening to this before I get married. Thank you for preparing us for kingdom marriage.🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@ewanembohfiona6451]

When you are both inlove with each other, almost all of these rules/agreements comes naturally. Respect will make it come naturally. Love will make one be patient till the other partner can accommodate his/her presence. Etc

[@sannom5467]

Love is more than a feeling, it's a choice. You choose to love, you also choose to be intentional.

[@edziemacpelashalom610]

​@@sannom5467 Your statement is just powerful

[@modupekalejaiye5981]

Kingdom marriage is the way to go. No other way. Thanks for your exemplary marriage. God bless you both.

[@tuulipamweshiindi1721]

I was blinded, I regretted fighting for the love I knew it won't work, but holy spirit opened my eyes,yet I learned so much from it that I'm also grateful for today, to God be the groly 🙏

[@victoriaeffiong2777]

Wow! I love this teaching, i have never heard it in this version. Exchange parents, look out for each other, be intentional about intimacy etc. God bless you sir/ma, for letting people like us into some of the secrets to your marital success/bliss.

[@chibuzorhenryochu9967]

Better half brought me here 😊! Ready to learn! Pen 🖊️ and paper 📑 here

[@ogogalonduaba7521]

True

[@chariemakaripe4850]

Oh nice! Not all the better halves take things their partner shares seriously

[@jerryonosike2865]

God bless you

[@AliveinChrist247]

1 be contend with yourself and be able to walk away from the relationship. 2. Once married, there's no room for divorce. Divorce is not an option 3. When angry or upset, talk, don't sulk. 4. No quarrels. We can't both be angry at all. 5. Exchange parents and only intervene when there's a problem 6. Joint account and joint accountability. 7. Look out for each other. The other person is responsible for the other's well-being. 8. The marriage must be Word-ruled. 9. No password or no secret. Know each other's passwords and have each other's accounts. Transparency

[@SeasonTRU]

Q❤

[@jasonokie]

Alisca babe🫡

[@AliveinChrist247]

@jasonokie 🙌. I greet you bros

[@jasonokie]

Great write-up sis. I love it 🔥

[@AliveinChrist247]

@@jasonokie I'm always blessed listening to them 🙏 😌

[@AbodunrinAbiola-x9j]

Am tremendously blessed...I pray the Lord give me a partner that we would both serve God together ❤🙏

[@akpachukwuloveth3152]

Thank you Jesus, I don’t know how God does it… but everytime I need clarification on something especially relationship, I just open KZbin and God leads me to a message or preach I should listen to. I especially love the part you said ‘’WE would not think of divorce no matter what happens, we are in this for life. I also learnt about the sulking, that’s me .. but I have changed now… because it’s not a good character. God will help me Thank you so much.

[@OyebanjiPrecious-lc4yn]

Anyone about to go into relationship should watch this very helpful ❤

[@uwitonzeemile7678]

I really don't see any agreement very important than the other. They are actually completing one another. I can envisage a happy marriage built from following and respecting these agreements all. Thanks very much pastor Kingsley and your lovely wife.. I'm following you from Rwanda.

[@ofoegbuujunwa5673]

The part of exchanging parents is 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌 God bless you

[@dorcasbrownson]

I hear you Sir!!!!! The choice of partner is the foundation!!!!!

[@longlifeangel3850]

I love this man, that's marriage.... Now I'm ready

[@sandraagharese1666]

Wow! So you share accounts PK & PM, very good to hear. I thought my husband was stubborn by insisting on it. Thank you so much for sharing 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@Obaayikitv]

You have a good man, daughter of God

[@Cme_Fashion]

Perfect example of kingdom marriage. Pst K and Mama, your home is forever blessed in Jesus name 🙏.

[@ojochideadams4975]

I agree for joint account only for contributions to run the family. Joint accounts and also to have individual accounts. I like to help people around me so I still need my own money.

[@vitalisanasudu8408]

😂😂😂

[@alinayili2199]

No matter how you explain it, you want to live an individual secret life. There's no way, your partner will say don't help except it's at the expense of the family which is a foolish idea to begin with

[@the_eduthusiast]

You are still giving excuses...

[@the_eduthusiast]

Pick the right partner, heal from your insecurity and you won't have to have "your own money"...

[@charleschidera6306]

I don’t think it’s about being insecure, I don’t see anything wrong with keeping personal accounts, like me for example i like to plan surprises and it’s easier to do that when you have a separate account

[@Stella-cf9vq]

Watching this makes marriage interesting to me.

[@sannom5467]

I love the part about being open with your phones. No passwords or secrets. Sin actually thrives in secrecy

[@princesskezia4713]

Communication is the birth of any relationship

[@ejikeokechukwu498]

1, before marriage if it will not work signify 2, after marriage no room for divorce, solve issues together 3 joint account seeing both as one, trust joint accountability 4 communication, expressing your feelings don't stay muddy 5 no secret, no password 🔑 no hiding things. Honesty and transparency 6 exchange of parents vise versal ie oness when there is crisis you take responsibility 7 no quarreling, we may disagree but should not lead to violent 8 intentoner in our intimacy, romantic 9 thinking about each other, we look out for each other 10 kingdom marriage, the agreement is amazing God hates divorce and we do

[@po7495]

I've gone back n forth on this finance (especially the matter of prenup) issue a lot. I wish I cld send him a question directly. It's not that u don't trust the person but rather u cannot control how the person will change 10 yrs from now. Even God said he regretted creating man at some point. Of course the person u marry today is someone u trust but if that person gets up 10 yrs from now n walks out regardless of counseling etc., u can't force them to stay. Why are we ok with every kind of insurance (life, home, car) but not a prenup😢 which is pretty much a financial insurance? Like he mentioned person can be determined to fight for the marriage when the other one mentally left a long time ago n nothing can change their minds.

[@petakiliyaonlinetv2051]

What is prenup about?

[@yomide_naturals]

​@@petakiliyaonlinetv2051an agreement entered into by a couple - preferably in good time before a marriage - which sets out how assets will be divided if they divorce or the marriage is dissolved

[@yomide_naturals]

Having the idea of prenup before getting married shows that you're already thinking of divorce happening at any point in time and you don't totally trust this person.

[@po7495]

@yomide_naturals while I absolutely respect your views, I don't agree and I don't think having a prenup is a sign of distrust. I live in the US so I'll speak only concerning the laws here, anyone who is married here is required by law to have the marriage registered at a court, whether it's signed at a church, at Vegas...wherever. Now, what do u that is? It's a contract; we don't have contracts because we expect everything to go right, contracts by their very nature r created to protect each party in case something bad happens. Are you therefore saying that every Christian who's had their marriage registered (bcoz it's required by law) did so bcoz they want a divorce? No, that's not the case at all. I don't hv the time go into this n even show u a place in the Bible where God protected the property of women bcoz of marriage but like I said, I do respect your views. At the end of the day, those who believe a prenup signifies divorce will not do it and the rest of us who think about it practically and not emotionally will go for it. Everyone will do what makes them happy n that's what counts

[@agehethel9194]

Thanks pastor. I've learnt greatly here. Imagine I just shared this with my fiance

[@JessicaNwaobilor]

Communication is the life of every relationship Thanks so papa❤ and mama❤

[@ogohediri3690]

Communication is the life of every relationship.

[@Chiamaka-Ugo]

Kingdom marriage is better. God bless you both Pastor K &M

[@ahanotujovy1688]

I bless the day, I cross path with pastor K and his wife.. May God continue to bless & protect your marriage Sir.

[@speaktothewisepassionforwi9538]

~Nobody has successfully begged for love......not for long.... ~Marriage won't give you what you don't have..... Have a life. ~when you have self-esteem and self-value, you'll become very selective of the person you journey with in marriage... Nuggets from Pastor K.❤😊

[@kechamartha2337]

Never beg for love. Have self esteem & value yourself

[@saggeussilas6921]

It takes two intentional people to build a marriage and it takes only one to scatter the marriage.

[@sourceoftruth-1]

This was very helpful. Never heard of him but I completely agree with both of them. Such a blissful marriage. Its easy to tell they’re best friends

[@loischoji2031]

Doing what you don’t feel like helps build your discipline 🔥

[@Durchez]

“It takes two Intentional people to build a marriage but it takes one to scatter it” Word 👏👏👏

[@PriscillaAttaAmissah]

"For a hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet "

[@mildredmakungu4925]

With all these wisdom am much ready for marriage and ready to work on it and make it work. Thank you so much Pastors Kinsley and Milderd Okwonkwo. May God bless you more abundantly 🙏

[@grass2grace256]

What a ministry 🎉🎉🎉 I love how God is using you Both, (Pst Kingsley and Pst Mildred) Thank you for being authentic and real ❤❤❤

[@cherishsotonye940]

It's easy to do marriage if you do what Jesus says,... make your marriage word ruled👍

[@KatsinaElla]

I pray God give me a husband that will understand the things of God, when the time comes.

[@Pretty_Edna]

I really enjoy watching your teaching .. I just call my friend and say let’s learn ahead of times 😅😂😂.. God bless you both .. love you two ❤

[@Madebykuku]

This made so much sense and yea… the Holy Spirit is the Spirit of truth.

[@preciousanazodo6884]

Thank God I came across this now that I'm still single... Thanks for sharing 🥰 Lovely couples.

[@DamilolaIshola-yx4pf]

Our marriage will be word-built!!!!!!!!! The Word of God is our Marriage manual!.... Kai

[@sparkles703]

I enjoyed every bit of this…. We are definitely adding the kiss before leaving the house thingy 😀

[@olutosinokikiade8877]

Also include a welcome kiss😊

[@mausibukola8397]

Thank You Ma for opening up about your Mother-in-Law. More tips of how you went about it. Thank you ma

[@patienceigbojianya7695]

Transparency will save you from temptation ". I love that

[@Thatconstructiongirl]

This is probably one of the best videos I have watched on marriage/ relationships... My future husband must watch this too and be encouraged

[@williamswang2374]

Transparency will save you from temptations by pastor k 🙏 I hear that word

[@kukuaparker1341]

“Men don’t read minds, they read newspapers.” 😂😂😂👍🏾

[@Rotondwa_Matshidze]

I thoroughly enjoyed this. Ps Mildred and Kingsley are a blessing to the Christian community 🫶🏽

[@onyimarichard3508]

Thank you pastor for this greAt message i really learnt a lot from it on how to handle my family in the future. God bless your family with more wisdom.

[@derickesong9039]

Pastors, thanks for this session. This was so educational and as someone intending to be married someday, I’ve learned allot. You guys are so admirable.

[@emankhujurika5524]

My heart melted for this things that was outlined,I never really thought of them.... Thank you Pastor for sharing

[@solomoneffiong7894]

I really appreciate the area where you say men don't read minds, and that they are literal being❤

[@nnaOnyebuchi]

I really love this teaching,I pray for such an amazing N a Kingdom marriage,God bless you pastor K N family and more love

[@mamaakos575]

This is so educative.. Seriously, marriage is not for the weak.. I wonder y they can't read our minds 😢

[@DeborahBriggsDB]

I just started listening. Number 1 & 2 are so good, my babe and I did the same. I also encourage every couple to do the same. 👏

[@brightifiok1660]

I'm so filled right now. Thank you PK & PM 🥰 I will be deliberately intentional😊.

[@ritaodionobasuyi6553]

Communication is the life of every relationship

[@imeldasifisohonde5864]

Oh am blessed❤ i will get married to my devine spouse before end of this year..

[@MarieAnokyewaa]

I'm glad I came across this especially for the fact that I am single..God bless you 🙏 ❤

[@NnekaSharon-uj9vx]

Lord i pray u give me a understand man 🙏 bcos i know i will be a Great partner to my spouse 💯by his Grace

[@PerpetualchinazaAsionye]

Wow I really enjoyed this idea and the most important part is selecting a good partner from beginning

[@heleniyangbeso4557]

Its easy to do marriage if you do what Jesus says you should do💯 I'm really blessed with the teaching... God bless you Pastor Kay and Pastor Mee

[@Angebl2000]

I thank God for you speaker, we need more of this for our young ones who believe in prenup.

[@bisiriyurukayatabiodun3833]

So many thing to Emulate here. Thank you mummy and daddy I'm blessed

[@RichieB521]

I'm grateful that I came across this message, God bless you pastor K and Mrs M, God will continue to grant you more wisdom

[@ChinazaFavour-v8g]

Communication is the key to any relationship

[@CHIAMAKAIHEDINMA]

That constant reminder i love........ Indeed men don't read minds they read newspaper 😅😅😅

[@Splendidtreats]

WOW ooooo am blessed kingdom marriage is wat I am going for by his grace Amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏