10 Clear Signs You've Been Abused By a Narcissist + Healing Prayer + Q&A

[@Kris_Reece]

Master Powerful Tactics to Gain Control When Triggered into a Toxic Argument krisreece.com/live-workshop/ FREE Toxic People Survival Guide krisreece.com/toxic-people-survival-guide

[@2510aggie]

Can you do a video on how we sustain PTSD and subsequent forgetfulness from narcissist abuse?

[@tweetybird2851]

Bless you.

[@Floyd-l3c]

Wow I am so sensitive.I can tell by the tone of somebody's voice and it doesn't matter who it is if I need to walk on egg sales really quick.😂

[@lindawest4580]

I don't trust anybody anymore.

[@lindawest4580]

Unable to comment on this post. Not sure why? Use to be able to.

[@anastasiapillay8790]

It is spiritually, physically and emotionally draining. Do not try to understand anything they do, they have no empathy, they lack all forms of empathy.

[@surfkat59]

Narcissists are demonically possessed. Get away from them! God won't get angry if you divorce the Devil!

[@deborahwilcox5716]

Wisdom comment. You are completely correct.

[@jackiecurtis8588]

@anastasiapillsy, you are correct! 👍. I tried to understand my Narcissistic partners behaviors towards me, for the 15 yrs we were together 🤦‍♀️ OMG! What a waste of time! It only served to frustrate, and confuse me! So much wasted energy, on my part 😢! To anyone else reading this, don’t try to understand their behaviors! You never will figure it out 🤷‍♀️, just know it has nothing to do with YOU! ❤ These people are damaged, don’t let them damage you also 😔! My partner was damaged LONG before we ever got together! They will just throw their “baggage” all over You! Give your kind, caring, giving, heart to someone who deserves it ! I walked away with nothing, but the clothes on my back, and $3.00 in my pocket! This person took everything from me, and never gave in return! That was 15 months ago, I’m still recovering, but, I’m back to my “old self” again 😊! I had doubts that I could ‘start my life over’ again, at age 65 , but, I did it ! 😊 And, You Can Too!

[@janetwestbrook3245]

​@surfkat59 ...I agree with you 💯%!!!!!

[@Katarina4567]

They have no empathy whatsoever.....when you are sick they do not care....I believe they are dead inside....empty!....I thank the LORD JESUS. for HIS love. 🎉❤ GOD BLESS You all....We must continue to heal.🎉.

[@sasdon8]

Thank you. I realize I’m under narcissistic abuse with my partner but I’ve been hiding from the truth 😢… please pray for me anyone reading this

[@Heseesyou]

I pray you will leave and trust Jesus christ.. I did and my only regret is not leaving sooner😢

[@elizabethash4720]

I pray you continue to believe in yourself and seek help. AMEN.

[@DJH97]

@@Heseesyou. Exactly. Made it to 30 years but was almost insane till I got out. He had left and abandoned me and our son who was an adult but still living at home. Like a hopeful fool I allowed him back. He didn’t change at all in spite of a little counsel that he sat through until the counselor started telling him that he had work to do. Got to the point I couldn’t think. Was hard to work. Had to get counseling and that is when I found out about passive aggression and narcissistic behavior. Took me 2 more years to get finances separated and in order and find another home but I did it. I should have NEVER left him come back the first time.

[@Heseesyou]

@DJH97 thank you for sharing, I have been on the journey with the lord for 21 yrs.. he has taken me through alot of counciling and groups. I have sat next to women that have been shot in face and still go back, and the list will go on and on and on until myself woke up .. I pray foe others to do a fraction of what we have endured and still are enduring.. its quite the layers when you start to heal and the other part is to who you hang out with or hear while you heal. I'm very grateful for your courage and I respect women who take action and nor keep permitting another person not to change.. Nothing changes if nothing changes and you are responsible for your own recovery.. great job. May others hear you and I and go go go.. I left it all behind, I even marked the box for no spousal support.. money can't buy a way of escape in the mental sense.. thank you Jesus christ help us to stay free!!

[@DJH97]

@@Heseesyou. Oh so true. I didn’t want to divorce as God hates it. But I was losing my sanity and had to really take stock of whom I allowed around me. My family of origin had to go. They were just like my ex. They were hateful and cutting and when I looked back to my abusive father in childhood I realized it was for my whole life that I was in this environment. So it’s so true that narcissistic parents will set you up for that same pattern. At 63 I’m free from all of it. If it wouldn’t have been for my son passing in the middle of the separation and divorce I think I would be on my way to total healing. But the death of a child is nothing like anything else you will endure. So this is take me a “minute”. I try to keep faith in Jesus. But it’s been very hard to understand why I went through all of this. Only He sees the whole picture. Thank you for your kind words.

[@sunflowerenterprisellc3032]

“We’re not called to please people, We’re called to please God” Thank you so much for your ministry. It helps me so much. Thank God for you and May God bless you and your ministry miraculously.

[@LaylaHumphrey-pg1eo]

Amen Amen!!

[@JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht]

Bingo im not here to please them. I'm here to please God

[@ninaerasmus6639]

Amen!! I'm married to a narcissist for 54 years! Only my Lord Jesus Christ carried me through all these years and still is in my old age!

[@iw9338]

Wow, that's a long time. I don't know if I can continue to do it another year. He's about to retire and I'm not looking forward to it.😔

[@debra8883]

Amazing.....You truly loved a person. You were truly a committed giving person. I hope that you are okay.

[@jonathanduncan8752]

Thank Christ he answered with I cried out for me and he set me free that night, it cost me everything but I PPOL every day for setting me free

[@kaylaliebeck4894]

I’ve been with my narcissist from the age of 16 to now, in almost 60. How do you explain this to anyone? You love and are accused of not loving them, even by your own family. They say he loves you. We never tell. I’ve learned it’s a great lesson. It really is. Not that it doesn’t hurt. Not like it isn’t real. My whole family is now against me. Thanks to him. I’ve been the scapegoat. Help them all. All these years. I get cancer and a rare infection. No one helps me. I can no longer be the one they rely on. 2 of them lie and say they’ve gone to chemo with me. My oncologist never met one of them. But you know your a chosen one. Jesus loves you. Let that give you peace. At least this is becoming known now. We are the ones bringing this to light. Every generation gives the next generation a gift. This is what we are making better. God bless us. Jesus will take care of them. Know that.

[@Heseesyou]

Please prepare to leave, him in the home on a constant basis will lead to so much cronic pain and you already have it😢😢😢​@iw9338

[@idontgetitdoyou]

I became a Christian after watching Kris's videos about forgiving a narcissist. In the last 6 months my life changed dramatically. Thank you for your wise words!

[@suestoklosa3602]

I have forgiven my ex but You have to move on and have no contact. For 40 yrs. He mentally, physically and emotionally abused me and I am finally free, after ruining my life. Want nothing to do with him. He is pure evil!

[@madeforsomuchmore]

Which video as I am just released from a 32 yr toxic marriage

[@idontgetitdoyou]

@@madeforsomuchmore1 how to forgive a toxic mother (it has all the necessary points), 2 if i've forgiven why am i still angry, 3 how to forgive a toxic family member and still move on, 4 what happens when you are released from a toxic relationship. The last one is about the changes that have to happen inside your heart when you're finding the ways to rebuild your life, mental detox, so to speak. Kris's general point is always that we are much more in control than we think and with God's grace all things are possible

[@idontgetitdoyou]

​@@madeforsomuchmore1. how to forgive a toxic mother 2. if ive forgiven, why am i still angry 3. After you're released from a narcissistic relationship

[@Dr.JulieJames]

Glory and Praise to our Heavenly Father!

[@adel2457]

I am still married to the evil narc husband and I suffer with everything that you mentioned in this video. I am sooooo tired of living this way. I am secretly planning my escape. I cannot do this anymore! Please pray for me and my safety.

[@wendywatchwoman]

Praying

[@adel2457]

@@wendywatchwoman 💞thank you!

[@winks478]

I am doing the same. Be careful. Praying for you!

[@adel2457]

@@winks478 You be safe as well. I will also keep you in my prayers. We got this. We can do this. ♥

[@lisagarcia9442]

Get book "Enough is Enough" Dr David E.Clark. lays out plan to leave the Narc. My Narc caused me 4 Strokes... Adrenal problems trying to diagnose. Pray for me please!

[@LoveEndures7]

I am in my healing isolation season. God is teaching me how to trust the Holy Spirit in leading me on how to interact with people again despite the agonizing pain I've been through. I am loving being myself and in peace and joy, but some days are lonelier than others. However I know im not ready to have anyone close to me right now. In time I trust God will lead equally yoked people into my life ❤

[@Heseesyou]

Amen, I'm seeking the same. I'm praying for a healthy sister who is working on her healing and has revelation and fruit.. may his face shine upon you all of your days❤❤

[@HlseMdce]

I wish you peace with the Lord in this healing isolation season. I'm living the same. Be blessed !

[@TruthInspector]

I also am in an isolated season. struggling with the loneliness. And out of my loneliness.I don't want to make the mistake of letting the wrong person back in when the somebody does come my way that I enjoy being with. I've never been this isolated before. No family now no friends and god hass removed the ones who are so toxic I didn't have the ability to do on my own. I call myself an elder orphan

[@tmo.48]

Why an elder organ? I understood everything else❤

[@never4saken165]

Amen. Same here. God bless

[@jeniferfuhrman1525]

I stayed in a toxic marriage to a narc far too long, believing God hates divorce, so I must make it work, only to lose myself, and find myself needing help to heal. These vids help!

[@wilblissful]

This is me.

[@Sues007]

I now see I've been surrounded by several family members all with this and was always told I was the problem!! It's freeing to know otherwise!! Very happy now!

[@Juliane-ql5zm]

Me too.

[@andreachavez3603]

God doesn’t want you getting abused love!

[@liciacanada7527]

Same with me, but I finally got divorced and am treating with the help of the Lord

[@triscuits777]

I have been in a narcissistic marriage for nearly 7 years now and all your signs line up perfectly. I do need to comment from experience, these are demons involved and a Christian (myself) can be demonized, anyone can buy opening themselves up to more influence of the enemy. Deliverance is a necessary part of change and healing for many, but counseling and emotional healing just as necessary. Through deliverance, God turned the tide and broke a curse that was causing me to be suicidal for 4 years under this harassment. I am more free now, but still seeking the Lord about grounds for leaving. The enemy knows us from birth, but God puts boundaries on the enemy, thank you Jesus.

[@janeylynn5934]

Narc abuse often creates health issues. Health issues then create a lack of financial resources. A lack of financial resources then creates further dependence on the narcissists, as well as no money to get counseling, help for the health issues, etc., which leaves a person with absolutely no solutions. I never hear anyone address the problem of no solutions, due to no money, due to narc abuse.

[@anushia.alpha2omega164]

Absolutely relate to this. It definitely needs to be talked about..addressed. It’s frightening. Many (women especially) end up in refuges due to this🙏🏼❤️‍🩹

[@syrrwillborn3405]

This is an underrated comment and very true. The cycle cannot end and a victim cannot see the light of day until an option is available to get out. Many times the narc controls all these options and the victim sees no way out.

[@maryl9180]

A lot of people with narcissistic spouses do not have anyone else in their life so they think even the narcissist is better than total isolation in the world.

[@krisknapp2386]

We have Jesus. His grace is enough. Better to be on a corner of a roof than with a... narcissistic husband.

[@Sues007]

They feel isolated because of that spouse - no Narc Spouse - no more isolation!

[@jackiecurtis8588]

@maryl19180, NOT ME! My “Total isolation” is SO much Better than my narcissistic husband ever was!! Believe me, the peace I now have, since I left my evil narc husband, 14 months ago, is pure bliss! 16 years with him 😢! What a waste! I only wish I would have had the guts to have left, WAY before 16 years!! Better late than never I guess.. As long as you are still breathing, @maryl9180, it’s NOT too late! Go! Leave! You’ll be glad you did! Show up on a church step, asking for help, go to a woman’s abuse shelter, call a crisis center, go to a “homeless shelter “, if you have to! ANYWHERE is Better than staying with a person who is destroying your life! Go, be alone, at least you’ll be safe and have a chance to look at YOU, self reflect, ask God to help you, pray until you have blisters on your knees, whatever it takes, You will get an answer to what to do, and where to go! You are NEVER truly Alone when you have God walking beside you! Never!

[@never4saken165]

Yep

[@Daizey57]

@maryl9180 AMEN to that!! They systematically get rid of all your support system i.e. friends & family & one day you look up & you are alone. God really pressed this on my heart years ago, I believe, so that I'd learn to TRUST HIM. I changed my prayer life right then, radically. He then began to reveal the wolves to me & I am finally at PEACE. I have successfully eliminated all the narcissists from my life. Crazy too, cause one just tried to come back onto my life, & out of nowhere, Kris' videos began to pop up again. God, in my algorithm reminding me once again. Keep God first, always, & He will guide you out of the misery & confusion. Prayers for all who've commented.❤️☝️🙏🙏

[@conniepeterson8733]

My mother was a narcissist and subsequently I married to two of them. I have several of these characteristics, hypervigilance often seeking approval and walking on eggshells in relationships when I don't need to be.

[@tmo.48]

You can heal yourself ❤

[@MarjaParikka]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ from 🇫🇮. My life is exactly the same. Mom and two husbands. I'm still married to number two. I'm old and thankful, that I buried mom at last 5 years ago. 57 years with that "lady" was a tough trial. And all the other narcissistic people in my life: I'm a magnet. I've not been in contact with other kind of people. Maranatha Yeshua Hamesiah Sarshalom.

[@Judah2019]

Same. My mom was the narcissist and married 2 as well I don’t know who to trust a lot of the times. I really hate being this way.

[@windkind64]

​. Guess is she in hell sinse than?

[@Heseesyou]

So what ate your choices and options?

[@KarenMCB-us1ct]

I see myself in many of those traits. Married 40 years to a narcissist. Miserable all 40 of these years. I'm a Christian and I know envy is a sin but I struggle when I see a happily married couple. I have longed for what they have for all my married life.

[@Bg4J]

Ditto. I have recently found out horribly hurtful and evil things about my husband. I’m getting out. I understand how you feel.

[@KarenMCB-us1ct]

@@Bg4J I'm so sorry.

[@Bg4J]

Thank you Karen. I’ll be praying for you❤️

[@KarenMCB-us1ct]

I'm glad you are able to get out, I'm not. I will be praying for you as well.❤️

[@Flo07109]

Everything or married you see probably have their own demons, people often think they are happy but they are not 9 x out of 10 They are just codependent

[@wajufor]

No guilt in life, no fear in death This is the power of Christ in me From life's first cry to final breath Jesus commands my destiny NO POWER OF HELL, NO SCHEME OF MAN Can ever pluck me from His hand Till He returns or calls me home Here in the power of Christ I'll stand 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@jeniferfuhrman1525]

Amen!

[@carolannburke5450]

@@jeniferfuhrman1525 Lifechanging, awsome....Thank you

[@Samantha-ho4hv]

Amen, all the glory to our Lord Jesus Christ 🙌👑🩸🔥

[@victoryamartin9773]

Love that song. Sing it loud. Sing the rest. May you be forever blest.

[@marytaylor9504]

Lookup the song Take It Back!

[@norenem7995]

broke off an engagement with a covert narc, its unbelievable, looking back, how much of myself I had to change to earn his love, which wasn't even enough anyways. I thank God every day I was freed from that. I am also high functioning, so now having healthy relationships is difficult.

[@kajalnanda5806]

Are you healed?

[@LordJesus-e2p]

When they move your stuff or steal your stuff, mind games, and gas lighting

[@IsabellRN]

Ugh I hate that

[@Artistpath]

Yes, my abuser does this all the time. He steals my things and then projects this onto me by accusing me of stealing his stuff. He hides my iPhone all the time and then said “I” must have moved it there. So one day I Googled “find my phone” and activated the screech alarm (this is REALLY loud!) and there it was under the ottoman right next to his head. He then says, “you must have kicked it under there”. The ottoman is very large, very heavy, is all the way on the floor and i wrapped it in a blanket so my cat can’t scratch it. You have to physically lift it up and put the phone under. So much gaslighting. I’ve been very ill for the past 8 years and didn’t have the energy to say anything but not anymore. It’s going to take some real energy to fix this and move on but I’m not sick anymore. Things need to change.

[@shannonwashburn4126]

Won't even let me drive. Sends me horrible texts, hurtful lies.

[@shannonwashburn4126]

Lies. Lies, lies.

[@Dr.JulieJames]

Childhood Trauma whether you can or do remember it or not is 100% real. We all have some kind of trauma. We all need reconciliation with the Living God our heavenly Father through his Son Jesus Christ and we all need to trust our Creator.

[@marytaylor9504]

Trust Completely In The Holy Spirit!!! He will lead you and guide you!!!!

[@Eliane70b]

I see 8 of these signs in my life. My health issues are related to cronic stress.

[@suvarnajoy2879]

I'm experiencing the same in my life , how to heal from this? I'm having a high chronic stress and tingling sensation in my nerves throughout the whole body. Pls pray for me.

[@richardjohanson612]

Walking on eggshells since childhood... Gods word gave me boldness.... to confront. To many years under Covert Narcissistism

[@BarbaraJordan-bp2hk]

So pleased to have a Christian talking on narcissism - have spent years getting over abuse from my parents especially mother -still see some of the above symptoms

[@Jennifer-qb8oi]

First God centered woman I have found !

[@ninaflores2091]

Hyper-vigilance can also manifest defense mechanisms that look like the opposite of hyper vigilance. You might start disconnecting from other people and begin numbing yourself to all things.

[@RandiPandi8-15]

Yes, I feel like those that were close/supportive before(I left) are now burned out on me. It's very lonely and I feel almost betrayed. Wtf?

[@krisknapp2386]

Oh my gosh I am definitely monitoring his moods constantly. I look for a good mood to bring up conversation. My husband instantly says you're not going to do this now are you?! He cannot talk about us. He considers it a fight. He turns it into a loud voice shutting me down and walking away. And blames me for ruining a good day. So I don't talk about us. Ever. I started last week going to counseling. Lord please soften his heart. I've stopped trying to.

[@Sue-s5v]

Don't wait for him to change! You go get some help for you! Take care of you!! You're wasting your time hoping he'll change! I wasted 14 years of my life on my ex. Finally realized I needed to take action and get out. I'm now married to a lovely man, who is not a narcissist! God saved my life.

[@inezbuethe7684]

Wow, I experience this same instance with my husband.

[@lesliem5617]

Same

[@CrochetySharon]

Same here.. cherry on top is that my husband offers marital advice to others and suggests books to them he’s never read.

[@wilblissful]

I gave up on trying to have any real meaningful conversations yrs ago. Its been so lonely like living in a wasteland.

[@lyds7771]

This is such a hopefull message after 25 years of narcissistic abuse I’m still healing after being free for 8 years

[@Heseesyou]

Thank you Jesus christ for setting you free, I pray you stay free.. I pray for a deep healing as you continue to diligently seek him❤

[@lyds7771]

@@Heseesyou yes thank you healing ❤️‍🩹 slowly but steadily and God holding me close

[@AshPointLogiK]

I've watched this and really needed it. I keep getting caught in the same loop. You described me to a T. Stage 4 C metastasized , and I had to retire. He's still pulling all the same ugly behavior and I need God to intervene. The cycle must be broken.

[@julies2814]

The most horrific and the most destructive and insidious type of abuse is the mental/emotional/psychological/verbal/sexual/financial/reputational abuse that doesn’t leave an outward "physical" mark, but instead severely damages and destroys ones self worth and integrity by destroying one's soul = soul murder. That's what cowards do = they systematically destroy your very soul and leave no outward physical signs that hide in plain sight the gaslighting, Crazy-Making, walking on eggshells destruction they reap on their victims.

[@never4saken165]

YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT, EVERYTHING YOU SAID

[@RandiPandi8-15]

I used to describe it like this" if every time you abused me left a little scar on my skin, I'd be covered from head to toe!

[@pamela9148]

Kris, i cant thank you enough for enlightening me. This list is so accurate. I loved my husband so much and wanted to make him happy. Its so hard for me to wrap my head around the idea that he could treat me so bad, and have no remorse. We met on a religious website, so i assumed he was a "good" Christian. Not only was he not a good Christian, but he isnt even a good person. Ive been self destructive and beating myself up for not trusting my instincts that he was the dysfunctional one. We barely made it threw one year of marriage and i couldn't take the cruelty anymore. Im still trying to heal from all the toxicity. Your videos are a tremendous help, especially knowing that im not alone. You are a true blessing ❤

[@RandiPandi8-15]

Thankful you got out, blessings to you:)

[@lizcuero9065]

Imagine living in an Abuse free and Narcissist- free gated Condo community?💝💖❤💙💜❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@POS3278]

🙏

[@amywoodson1623]

It's called heaven...😁

[@wilblissful]

I want to know why they dont just have their own colony somewhere and leave the rest of us alone.

[@Dr.JulieJames]

@@amywoodson1623 Praise God thank you Jesus Christ for setting us all free now and for eternity.

[@michelleigbokwe]

I am constantly scared I might say something that will spark his anger and violent behavior.

[@sirtedricwalker2979]

That's called "walking on eggshells" and it's a form of control. I told mom "I'm not walking on eggshells to be around you"...eventually I had to go no contact since she trashed my boundaries and was so Abusive...I used self-care and put my sanity first.

[@suvarnajoy2879]

Same here lived in prison of fear for 19 years

[@MB-tr8sq]

OK then get out NOW. It will only get worse !!

[@Shelb13v]

1 peter says don't be afraid and obey him. Just make it clear you respect him and that you want to be close to him

[@RandiPandi8-15]

So was I! In doing so I became more & more tolerant and very quiet. Not good, I'd tell him if he was a friend of mine, we wouldn't be friends anymore cause I wouldn't BE friends with someone like him that treated me the way he did.

[@Movedon24]

Dear Lady. Your teachings on narcissistic abuse is enlightening and encouraging. I am so moved by your prayer of lifting us up to the God Who Heals our broken hearts and Who cleanses and mends all our wounds. May the Lord continue to boldly empower you in His Kingdom Work.

[@Pzjgr]

Best Counselor for us is the Holy Spirit! John 14:26 "But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you."

[@meiw8358]

My mother is a covert narcissist, I was 3 to 4 , she told neighbor lady that she did not want me, I came was an accident, couldn’t throwing away, then just have to keep, told me that I am not pretty enough, my eyes not big enough, my nose bridge is not high enough, and my face is too wide, I was so sad and I did all could to please her accept chores as young as 4 year old to proof that I was valuable to keeping. She programmed my mind to be her maid , told me to do chores I was in cold winter washing dishes with no warm water , she was lying in bed read novels I was 6 , that was how my childhood was like , not talk about gaslighting, backstabbing, cheating, lying all her lifetime till now , she is 99 , still pushes her guilt to other people who is not in front of her. I have been watching professionals teaching about narcissistic abuse, I forgave her in Christ, but I do not need to continue to be exposed to narcissistic abuse.

[@ninaerasmus6639]

Amen!! For the 1st time I realize that I am married to a narcissist for 54years!!! But the wonderful thing is that my JESUS carried me through all this years. Yes it is hard. Thank you nou I realize that its not as I believed all my fault

[@CarolIncierto]

I have experienced these 10 signs from my husband for 12 years. But now, i moved out from him and im getting better now, more confident than ever before. I thank God so much because he kept me safe from the hand of my husband. I thought he would changed but his getting worst. I am better now. Its only by His grace. In Jesus Name. Amen.

[@lisa7711]

Thanks so much for this wonderful video! My dad is a narcissist 100%. I have practically all of the symptoms you described on here. I also have fibromyalgia, restless leg syndrome, neuropathy, and gut issues. And yes I definitely do believe this is generational, because of the way my dad was raised. I have stopped all contact with him for over 3 years. I have realized the longer I stay no contact with him, the better I am getting. I can’t believe how messed up I’ve been since I was so little. 😢 Thank you again! ❤️ AMEN!🙏🏻✝️

[@SuperReznative]

Sincerely sorry, whatever you had to experience in that relationship, but perhaps try see what he might have been "enduring ' in his life or past as well .If you , would Pray for the Holy Spirit to bring , renewal and blessed hope to his life as well. Your part , may be a catalyst with Jesus love and forgiveness.

[@lisa7711]

@@SuperReznative thank you 😊❤️

[@michelleullrick4547]

Kevin is way way toooooo adorable. God bless you for taking him in and having the patience to love him to wholeness

[@anneroarty6473]

Me too went through alot of physical illness and got fibromalaga for 6years but Jesus healed me. Praise God I hVe left my husband 5years now.

[@lisastutzman3140]

I didn't know how bad it was in my life, until I gave my life back to God and started to dig into my Bible and take some classes on faith. Now it's almost unbearable. But I am also working on learning to trust in God.

[@Dr.JulieJames]

Yes, keep giving him to Christ to take care of and correct. Trust God that no matter what you are going through God is with you in your suffering it is why Jesus Christ came to be with us and die for us.

[@RhondaBall-p2t]

I am a abuse survivor, sexual, emotional, mental, physical and I’m 54 years old so I guess I had to top it off by marrying a covert narcissist and I am struggling to leave him completely. I am codependent, insecure, embarrassed, ashamed, angry, hurt and I have been going through this for 20 years. It is terrible.

[@BelieveInJesus77774]

I prayed to God The Father to guide and comfort you and give you peace and strength ❤

[@never4saken165]

I can relate to everything you said. Not sure what you mean by TRYING to leave. I can assist you on an exit plan & 🙏🏽 get you the help you N need for at least a year.

[@SnarkasticSunny]

33yrs here... & just found out that he married me for tax reasons - was go8ng to owe money for 1st time, unless he got married. Explains why everything changed -everything! - once married to him.

[@kathleenwharton2139]

Narcissists are the Teachers. We are the students! It is All for Our advancement. 😊❤

[@ramonalisa8218]

My Stomach turned the whole time and I felt all of this!! Stated with my mother! Then in my Relationships!!! I still am trying to figure out who I am! And why I am !

[@robertaturk]

Going back to someone who is abusing you to get validation - my Mother called that the abused puppy syndrome - dog adictively keeps crawling back to it’s master despite abuse. It gets wired in.

[@iw9338]

Yes, and it can be healed. Put God first not man. Praying for you 🙏

[@nichill7474]

All these points are a part of my experience with my vampire covert narc wife. Sorry to be so blunt. The Lord started a healing process 6 years ago. Until recently i didn’t see much progress, my anger, frustration and hyper-vigilance was growing, but I still trusted that the Lord was working on it behind the scene. The amazing changes that have all come together in just the last month or so reminds me of the verse “he works all things together for good to those love him and are called according to his will…” I never thought after so many years of narcissistic abuse that i could ever find peace, trust, joy or love in my heart. But it’s here now and i am almost completely free from the bondage and guilt. My identity and health is coming back now and i am so thrilled i want to tell everyone.

[@sueharber7944]

It is to much work for them.

[@Blessedone620]

Im a very happy and loving person. All of a sudden im always in some kind of pain. I developed hot flashes. My skin is not as glowing as it was when I met this person. The narcissist has the answer to all I stated earlier. I’m told I should change my diet, I’m told I’m suffering from menopause. I’m told by the narcissist I should bring myself to god. He doesn’t see his contribution to all pain. Sometimes it’s hard to get away from this. I don’t understand why I know this is not right yet I’m still here.

[@talktodonella]

Trauma bonding 😢 so sorry 😞 Get out, run.

[@Dr.JulieJames]

Unfortunately, depending on your age some of what is being said to you could be true. Contact Kris and find a counselor in your area to help you manage what is true and false about your health.

[@joycemoore9901]

I’m so grateful for your guidance. I am 70 years old and have just learned about covert narcissism. My mom is a classic example and I have been her victim all these years. She is now 89 and still pulling my strings like I am a puppet. Understanding my codependency is helping me so much. Thank you for reminding me that the Holy Spirit can make the changes I need!

[@lauragagnon3601]

Divorcing from one - sexual abuse on daughter and verbal/emotional abuse on myself and 2 kids. Developing physical symptoms and praying for healing for all of us. This process is very difficult. Thank you for your teaching and encouragement.

[@peterbroom4286]

🙏🙏🙏

[@lourdesmicallef3120]

God heal this family in the blood of jesus Amen 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@annettemelville8920]

So glad to meet you! I've been married to a narcissist for 54 years also! And it's only Jesus that brought me through!

[@robertablattenberger-pw4gr]

I'm an Empath. My mother is a narcissist and more. I'm disabled. She's disabled. She tortures me EVERY DAY. I live with her and stay bc of Honor thy mother and father. I thought that I was obligated to stay with her bc of the honor thy mother and father. I understand now that she has demons that are trying to change me and gradually is changing me. I understand now that I MUST LEAVE so that I can continue to grow in Christ. I began to have lupus at age 27 bc my fight or flight never released as a child and growing up. She has always kept me intense. I'm 50 now.

[@sunshine-db2zm]

True they are demonic people and try to bring in horrible feelings in the ones that are close to them....i realised that i was acting out of my character because i was being subjected to reactive abuse by my mom, then i moved far away from her manipulative claws and am so much better and can clearly see through the emotional abuse now....all the best for ur escape...

[@dct1238]

Praying you get out, soon! Your health will decline more if you stay 🙏

[@angelawade1445]

Leave.

[@robertablattenberger-pw4gr]

​@@sunshine-db2zm it's beautiful that you are doing better. Praise God. Thank you for your kind words and encouragement.

[@robertablattenberger-pw4gr]

​@@dct1238 thank you for your prayers. I appreciate it

[@sonyariggs5925]

I am going through heck because of a narcissist, husband. Not only mental abuse, physical abuse, financial abuse, and ME myself is gone. Kris, I have been through all of this. He has taken my children as well.

[@andreaalbert858]

My husband has 3 kids with three different women, and two with me. He lied to me about why things didn't work out with them. He is a narcissist, he put me through so much. He didn't want me talking to his ex-wife, and now I know why. He treated her the same way he treated me.

[@fanofmansbestfriend]

My gosh, everything on that list is what i'm experiencing, I have gastric problems and extreme adrenal fatigue to the point that i'm fainting and having nerve pain, the emotional dependance is another thing and trauma bonding. I don't have any friends left and only my parents are left. Both are narcissists, and I live with them at 33 years old due to financial difficulties, unemployment and the illness. I have tried to move out but had to move back in due to finances, it is exhausting and I cry everyday praying and just searching for friends or people to show me kindness.

[@KirstenLambert-nt8iy]

I was the black sheep of the family because I fought back. Sadly, my father never stood up to my mother.

[@fabulousfamily564]

I cried when you said God could heal me.

[@gabbie921]

Such a great video Kris 👏🏽 so educational. I’ve made a list of points as I was scrolling for them myself & couldn’t find any 😄 1. Hyper vigilance - walk on eggshells. Startle easily. 2. Trauma bonding - “it’s going to get better” excuse making - Christlike endurance 😅 3. Loss of personal identity 4. Chronic guilt - gaslighting - challenging your reality 5. Physical symptoms - stress responses 6. Low self-esteem due to constant criticism & belittlement 7. Emotional dependence 8. Walking on eggshells 9. Trust issues 10. Self-doubt - gaslighting, invalidating someone’s experience

[@isinhaprado82]

Dear Kris Reece, you probably won´t get to read this but if it could serve as a testimony for other people that´s fine to me. I´m so glad that I found you. I´m sure God acted in my life because of His plans through your videos. I´m so glad because I was so depressed. I have a 3 year old son and I take care of him almost 100% alone... I´ve been through so much lately and even I wanted to take my own life away but I didn't have the courage because of my son. I was this way until I started watching to your videos yesterday. I´m much more calm today... taking care of my son with so much love because the Jesus's loves that came into me, my house through your videos. I can´t explain it very well because English is not my first language, I´m brazilian. Thank you so much Kri Reece. I´m pretty sure I´ll be a better daughter of God and mom, feeling the love of God, watching your videos. I used to feel very guilty with my son's father (ex husband). He always blamed me for everything but now I have a chance to start over!!!! I´m pretty sure your work reaches many lives through the power of Jesus Christ. It's a beautiful work. Thank you very much. Thank you all.

[@RhondaBall-p2t]

Emotional dependency is me, I know I have never received anything from him that I need but I continue to go to him and thinking this is insane but I still do it.

[@crimenurse8264]

I’ll be praying for us both to finally be able to get out of this cycle with the Holy Spirit’s help.

[@izabellaparuit8020]

bowed my head..wept in my heartbrokenness and lifted my hands...Amen. 🙏♥ Thank you Kris x

[@cathyjackson1150]

I. So Thankful for the Power of God and your scriptural information in getting out if this 12 yr narcissist relationship.God is So Wonderful and I'm going to Grow spiritually and stronger everyday!!

[@glorialynn2242]

Thank you so much Kris! You are so genuine. Your prayer was so genuine. I've heard so many videos on narcissists, but because you are a Christian, it just helps differently! Even during your prayer, my heart was stirring. I thought I'd had a lot of healing from all the narcissists and abusers in my life, but today I feel like I may still need more healing.

[@kathleenbarbato]

My mom was mentally ill and psychotic and was a narccersistic type but the good news was I became a counselor and worked on a psyche unit and being hyper vigilant made me good at my job. I thought it was a gift. So grateful for your wisdom and knowledge and walking that road! I thank God for you. Gonna sign up for the course and both of them actually! This helps one with their intimacy with the Lord!

[@sirpa07]

I had a cat who had very abnormal behaviour. He came to me 4 years old. I knew something was wrong. I loved him. He changed and trusted me later. His behaviour calmed down much. He lived 18 years. I miss him every day. Kevin is a lovely dog and so happy you gave him a good home.

[@DianeSagert-ij7xh]

I was married to 2 of them! My childhood role model taught me to be subservient and stick it out no matter what

[@marylynnblack9258]

I have a n Arabian horse I rescued . With love , good care , and work he is now a different horse. He still has holes but is SO much better. I myself have been a victim of childhood sexual abuse. With GOD's help and years of counseling I am SO much better myself.

[@CSDGrace]

Amen 🙏 Jesus never leaves us!

[@maxwell-cole]

Wow, the physical symptoms, and the things you mentioned, that you dealt with, literally are similar to what I’ve experienced, particularly the gastrointestinal, not being able to sleep, and the stress that I felt during that time. Also, enjoying being somewhat of a workaholic. Sometimes the evening times are the only time you have for peace and for yourself and to think clearly so that you can get your work done. Such an informative post. As are all of them.

[@sharonkrzyzanowski2283]

Sadly, I have seen most of the signs in my life. It is so hard to heal when they keep offending. It's my sister and she acts like she can't believe that I don't want a relationship with her & then is hurt and tells EVERYONE how terrible I am. :(

[@KCc2059]

I am doing self healing on myself from different programs of Narcissist, praying, asking for help/guidance/understanding from God, every day, different sounds of music, this has helped me "alot" as I have come along way with all this, I have learnt/understand what/who my real enemy is, not to hate/no anger but how to heal within with God's help "Don't show resentment, forgive but don't forget", look at this whole thing as.... we were born to "learn/to carry on" not hate, revenge, anger, etc... You have to learn/retrain your brain different ways of life/out look on things, don't remember the past but learn from it. This took me along time to understand all this, learn about it cause my brain wad so full of garbage now I'm on my way to recovery all Thanks to KZbin programs I have constantly listened/slept with, I was at the maximum bottom of my rope ready to commit suicide but God said all this to me, told me to keep fighting cause it wasn't my time to give up (if it was he would of taken me) so now Im here to let people know what I have experienced. ❤🙏😇 Oh, my issue was my family who made me be a nothing in life (parents stold my life), everything about me was destroyed since 8yrs old, it took me this long to understand everything so keep fighting the battlefield (within yourself) don't show on the outside, keep everything to yourself, keep silent (only smart ones will see it) don't prove yourself to no one but God.

[@KathyRieck-t6d]

100 percent always needing validation from men whom I'm in relationship knowing they don't deserve me and I continue to do above and beyond to make them happy

[@letagilmoreithinkweneedtos8879]

That was one of my struggles

[@Heseesyou]

So I was under the same lust😢 I want to share that the cycles don't stop until you take yourself off the clearance shelf. Go heal to your fullest, it may take yrs.. but it's worth it.. its for you to have freedom in this life.. or you can keep sinning and being an open landing strip to satan😢😢 please repent for your part, your lust, your disobedience ❤

[@Gem0674]

I was verbally abused (screamed at and lunged at) for the 4th time by my SIL who has severe mental health issues. And this is the last time I will be around him. My father and ex-husband also abused me verbally and physically. It's a real nightmare. I just turned 70. I have been in therapy and I will proudly say after one day I am already over it. I am however worried about my daughter and granddaughter. It's heartbreaking .

[@allisonhunt891]

Yes! Desperately keep going back to get validation! Hoping for respect, peace and love desire.

[@rebeccanesbitt8670]

How beautiful you are. What a wonderful healing prayer. The words in your prayer spoke to me personally.

[@ladyvirgo013]

Im currently divorcing after 12 years & ive definitely experienced these ptsd symptoms. Thanks so much for the powerful prayer🙏

[@JewLsTruly]

I'm living all this right now. Walked away from him but my only option wasn't much better!

[@letagilmoreithinkweneedtos8879]

I was married 18 years to a control freak who made sure I had no car, no phone or help in caring for our children. If I asked for help or money, I was told if I don’t like it then don’t let the door hit me in the %#* when I leave. I eventually left and am now living alone but a satisfying life with many friends and with the power of the Holy Spirit to lead me. I forgive my ex husband for his actions and see him as his own victim. Praise God . Amen

[@janicelussier3078]

I have been in a narcissist for 30 years. I want to get out, and I'm having a hard time.

[@riamoggee219]

Dear Kris, listening to this months down the line, after being have to deal with this, all my life. I had a mother, a Narc, then married a man, a Narc, and then had to deal with my mother for the past 8 years under my roof, looking after her until her death. How sad is this???

[@jessicarichards1623]

All of them, all 10 of them Its true what you said about physical ailments. I started having health issues pretty soon in the relationship spent 2 years with the guy, now 6 months free of him and my most recent blood tests have things starting to return to normal. What I cant understand is why i put up with it so long, why i abandoned myself, my values, my beliefs for this guy. I honesty thought I had more self respect than that. I think forgiving myself is going to be harder than forgiving him 😔

[@dennyfie]

Jessica try not to be too hard on yourself I let a lover from high school back in my life she was out to destroy me from the start , I let her stay for 14 months, walking on egg shells in my own house was just wrong.i blamed myself, I did try early on to end it I seen it was not for real.heck my Dr.( Her and I use the same doc.) Put me on valium.i was about to stroke out.hang in there girl.

[@sondrajett3821]

A lot of self doubt, and even trusting my new husband, totally, he is a man of God that I have developed trust issues because of my narcissist, mother, and I want to heal and trust him as I should.

[@sandydickinson6193]

Amen. Thank you for the teaching and the prayer. God is helping me understand and stay unmovable. I don’t feel so alone now. God bless you! 🙏🏼♥️♥️

[@lisawells9905]

Kris your channel has helped me so much. I grew up in a family of narcissist. I felt like everything wrong was my fault. I walked on egg shells all the time. I was both mentally and physically abused. But I managed to finally able to break free. I felt so guilty and angry that I would just go off for nothing. My son told me that he hated when we went to my family gatherings because I would act just like them for days afterwards. It wasn't until I found your channel that I understood what was happening. Thank God for this channel.

[@bonnieblue7118]

Thumbs up! Love this list. Proves to me I have healed from the narcissistic abuse I suffered from multiple relationships, starting with my parents.

[@2coryman]

The reason you have this clarity about the narcissists is because of your specifically Christian moral spine❤❤

[@Chaotic4426]

You, dear Lady, are a much needed friend. God Bless You

[@joseyndaba5076]

Just discovered this channel, this is just INCREDIBLE!...Kris Reece your experience has filled you with Omniscient Wisdom, your testimony is packed with Divine Healing, it's a redeeming force...thank you!

[@TeriTaylor-zn5xb]

Thank you so much for your ministry. Praise God that you are bringing healing to so many people as you help us gain understanding.

[@Kind-w3t]

It's a blessing to be connected to this channel... Been abused for 10 years now by a covert narcissist.

[@Ms.Journa]

Loved this video ❤ Remember this is not about the narc this is our personal healing process.

[@suestoklosa3602]

After 40 yrs. I developed RA, IBS, and sleep disorders, anxiety from my ex's abuse. Finally left, I was always in good health until enduring years of his physical, mental and emotional abuse.

[@bobbates7421]

Kris, my wife and I already liked you but once we met Kevin, we really love you. Kevin’s great God bless his soul.

[@markmarinello119]

Well Kris I have qualified on ten out of ten of these issues. I imagine that tells you that I have been living a very lonely and unhappy life bordering on constant thoughts of suicide. I am 66 years old, male, veteran and the only way I have survived is trusting in Jesus, Father God and Holy Spirit. I am divorced twice by two types of these women. I live a life of being constantly broken hearted and alone. The only thing I look forward to is knowing I hopefully won't live too much longer. There is only one woman I have ever truly loved and because I blew it she went to another man and married him. I have never been able to forget her. I know I'm a big disappoint to everyone including God and myself. I am drowning and have been for over 45 years and I don't know how to stop it. I can't afford to get professional help and I don't think they would be able to understand me. Thanks for letting me hear what you had to say. I wish I could talk to you. My name is Mark, please pray for me.

[@MsBellsandy]

You are not a disappointment to God. You are his son, he sees you like Jesus. Soul Care by Rob Reimer changed my life. You can afford a book. Do it.

[@victoryamartin9773]

I know you feel so alone, but you're not, really. Just in the dark. I feel your pain. And we're all here alone with you. Hang in there. The Son will shine again.

[@michelleullrick4547]

AAAAALWAYS "mood monitoring" with my husband. I NEVER know what is safe to talk about and what isn't. One day, it may be perfectly okay ... the next ... NOT AT ALL .... and all circumstances can be 100% the same .... except for in his messed up head, apparently. But yes ... ALWAYS monitoring his moods to try.... usually failing .... to see if he's in a "good place" or not.

[@Tiger-dg3cz]

This is a good warm hearted story. You mended his heart. I don’t believe I can ever be restored. My family are all professionals. They have smeared my name all over town to all other like professionals. I can’t trust anyone. I can’t support myself because of all the damage. I cannot find any way to support myself. They will smear and turn anyone I am associated to against me. And it starts all over again. Sadly I want to just end everything

[@victoryamartin9773]

Sounds absolutely overwhelming. I know the feeling. God is there to catch you.

[@denise0777]

Beautiful Kris, thank you...I needed to hear this. Thank you for your compassionate prayer. I felt the anointing from start to finish!

[@muffincarrol1671]

Thank you, I'm praying for my children.

[@sonsolesnavarrorubio]

THANK YOU, Kris… For transmitting hope against narcisism, and in my experience, demonic oppression. Asking God for discernment, your words and counseling (I’ve been following you for a while) are, within, a treasure to pray and force for healing. Glory to GOD!!

[@CopperMoon4747]

Good stuff and well done! The toll has been tremendous and I deal with one still. It's exhausting and consumes your life. Thank you for this recognition! It's rare to get clarity in counseling. They get uncomfortable with the depth. Then they start offering a pill. I knew that wasn't the answer. I walked away and talked to God instead. Finding me through Him. Guidance dignity and understanding are the biggest keys. Thank you so much!❤

[@amyb5808]

So good, Kris ! Thank you so much ! God bless you .

[@BlancheNtrOy]

This video by far is the most comprehensive, balanced and compassionate teaching I’ve seen regarding narcissism. I’m the oldest daughter of a narcissistic mother and an enabling father with ego issues. Since I can remember at 4 years old, I’ve seen violence (them trying to kill each other) and then patching up the next day. It’s a big swing of pendulum. I’ve been physically, emotionally and verbally abused by both but most by my mother. I’m now 42 years old with children and the straw that broke the camels back was when my own children saw my mom’s outbursts (kicking my door shouting) when she learned I was moving away. My father demeans me and questions my being Christian. He always take my mothers side. I grew up thinking I had no ally but GOD! He was always there. When I told my parents I’m becoming a Christian (they are Catholics) they stopped talking to me for 3 months. My father belittles me because I was posting Bible verses. Both get mad when we don’t agree on things when we have differing opinions. It’s always “we are your parents! We are right!”. Or… we did this all for you and now this is what you repay us?”. I have been to so many counseling sessions and because I want healthy boundaries with them, I moved away. However even in the phone and text they can still manipulate and hurt. I am lifting it all to the Lord🙏🏻❤️‍🩹

[@retha6504]

Amen. Thank you for this prayer ~ my hope is in Him

[@KirstenLambert-nt8iy]

My mother and my now ex husband had me living in so much fear I couldn't function. I wanted to move in with my Grandmother to get away from mom. Grandma said no because she didn't want mom and dad visiting too often. Later, I moved in with my boyfriend and his family. He was a narc and I didn't know it . I wish I'd have known this then. Now, I have healing to do.