10 Signs of Histrionic Personality Disorder

Most people hadn't heard of Histrionic Personality Disorder until the Johnny Depp/Amber Heard Trial. Histrionic Personality Disorder is by far the least known of the Cluster B personality disorders. A person with HPD needs attention like they need water and air. They are highly sociable, engaging, and always working hard to be the center of attention, including using their sexuality and sex appeal to draw attention. In this video, I talk about the diagnostic criteria for HPD and how the symptoms of this personality disorder play out in relationships.
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Introduction (0:00)
Depp v. Heard (1:02)
Centre of Attention (2:40)
2: Inappropriate Sexual Behaviour (6:10)
3: Shifting and Shallow Emotions (7:22)
4: Physical Appearance (8:29)
5: Superficial Speaking (9:21)
6: Dramatic (10:23)
7: Suggestible (11:41)
8: Misperceive Intimacy (12:27)
9: Low Self-Esteem (13:12)
10: Abuse is NOT a Key Feature (14:48)
#histrionic #personalitydisorder #clusterb

[@Olivetree80]

Such an overlooked disorder, they would hate that lol

[@ashleelalasmith2792]

My mother has all these borderline , histrionic, narcissistic. She’s a thrill.

[@pete5819]

Good lord

[@lisannesteendijk1510]

Oh yeah. My mom also....

[@sunmiswashingmachine2753]

so, cluster B 🤣

[@neilrambaldi]

Sweet Jesus.

[@CreatingChaos]

I guess your fathers not there tho

[@KaraToNihongo]

This is my mom. She embarrassed me constantly and even took away a lot of my friendships growing up because she would flirt with my friends dads....i was so lonely because of her and got bullied in school. She would cry and throw a fit whenever i would confront her. Haven't talked to her in a year

[@pabloes.4945]

She never said sorry to you?

[@kawboy14]

My ex gf was definitely HPD. I have the deepest sympathy for the guy she married and has children with. When her mask finally comes off, he's in for the shock of his life. I wish him well.

[@asharajbhar1176]

What exactly made you feel she is not loyal..

[@rolfjohansen5376]

had a fling with a untreated Borderliner ... she had an arrested mental age of 2, but was good in hiding it , however logically she was very intelligent . When her mask came off , she acted like a 6 year old , even spoke with a thin girl child voice

[@AndrewJohnson-oy8oj]

I've worked in theatre and filmmaking for decades. I've known SO many people with HPD. Acting is very attractive to that personality type.

[@girlinthesouth850]

Probably Marilyn Monroe

[@melbee4848]

I think film attracts many ppl with PD in general. People with entitlement issues bc they self serve soo much in the industry

[@kristofs8893]

I disagree. Most of them are full on Sociopaths i.e Jim Carrey.

[@lesly9101]

Mrs. Leblanc, your're depicting and explaining the facts and symptoms of all varieties of PDs so concisely, vividly and expertly well informed, that I'd consider your videos and your channel in general being amongst the very best top of the line channels on KZbin dealing with PD-topics and -issues!

[@kawboy14]

And she's hot.

[@rak7293]

It wasn’t til I watched the depp heard trial and they described hpd that I realized I’ve a sister who must have this. It’s exhausting being around them for longer periods of time. Their need for attention is non stop

[@brendensangster3571]

blame your parents

[@hereweare9173]

It’s exhausting being around someone like this.

[@beckyboyt8535]

It's like they are alive only when someone, preferably everyone, is looking at them. Exhausting!

[@asharajbhar1176]

Just can't imagine a life like this omg...if they are sitting alone they will go in trauma.

[@zebrastripes3786]

Yes,this is my bestie. Any time there is a lull in the attention she gets she’ll say stuff like “What’s there to live for if no one is looking at you” & get really depressed. I can’t imagine being that dependent on other people unless you’re an infant.

[@stefal22]

I was part of the fan club.. Constantly getting breadcrumbs and having the finish line moved just a step further so I wouldn't lose hope. She was jealous whenever I went out with other women, something that I interpreted as romantic interest.. Everything makes so much sense now and I feel blessed that I was not good enough for her. Knowledge is power. Thank you for explaining this in such an approachable way. You don't understand what a difference it makes for my sanity and mental health.

[@ssing7113]

Sounds like a “friend”? I’m just speaking if in a romantic relationship yeah most women or men would be upset if you’re hanging out alone with other women Doesn’t sound the case as sounds like she strung you along forever in the friend zone or a past dissolved relationship.. Also learn from my advice. Men and women can’t really be friends. They either want to be with you or throw you in the forever friend zone for attention. Validation. Approval. Emotional tampon. Free help. Free food. Talk when bored…. It ain’t worth being a woman’s “friend”.

[@iceshades]

@@ssing7113 you are wring with so many things here.

[@aravindkrishnan1722]

Until I watched this, I was thinking that my ex had BPD tendencies. But this, HPD, is the most accurate description and sadly I noticed/experienced all of these traits in her. Crushed my heart and devalued, discarded me like a piece of rag doll. Now I know why. In a way it is liberating to know the truth. Thank you so much for making these videos and helping so many men out there! Priceless

[@asharajbhar1176]

Can you tell what she did to you ..any incidents which made you realise she has hpd?

[@stefal22]

Eye opening. Thank you. The pain of seeing her do the most ridiculous things to attract attention in front of me is excruciating

[@BlakeSakalMusic]

Spot on! #5 was what really hooked me on my ex and what really has been the most difficult to come to terms with. I myself have a high regard for Trust, Integrity and I’m extremely loyal. She sold me on those being a huge part of her own life’s value set. I truly trusted her and believed it to be true but over time her words didn’t match her actions at all as the attention seeking trumped every ounce of any meany behind what it means to build Trust, Integrity and a sense of loyalty for a healthy relationship. I would never react but she pulled #10 a few times on me. It was just so odd to me. I’ve got grown children and even though it would hurt to see I ultimately felt sorry for her like a father would for an insecure child trying to grab your attention.

[@LiseLeblanc]

Thank you for sharing your insights and experience!

[@BlakeSakalMusic]

@@LiseLeblanc Absolutely! Thank you for such a detailed and solid explanation video. You’re great at what you do Lise!

[@bombinspawn]

Yup. The virtue signaling is real in these types of PDs. After awhile it’s easy to see they’re doing quite the opposite. By then you’ve been thru the ringer though

[@scottwwsi]

I was involved with a cluster-b for 2 years and saw histrionic, antisociai, npd & bpd daily...back to back. she was also a psychopath....pure hell.

[@BlackMoridin]

Ohhh tell me bout it. Just came out of such a relationship like 2 months ago. And just now realized what I've been dealing with. Even though not all symptoms add up.

[@lalagardenia6500]

Were you dating my sister? She's SO hot! 🙄

[@jcaleca60]

I see you met my x wife

[@mirananaim5971]

X is an amazing letter😅good for you and best of luck on the future

[@cdrom1685]

Sorry to hear that bro, how did she lose you?

[@dustinschroller4884]

Put her out of her misery, and yours.

[@jcaleca60]

@cdrom 16 she would beat my kids but the court send her for classes 🙄 I just gave her money she gave me kids

[@user-kcrpine]

Good for you, Jeff, and especially your kids. I tried the same and unfortunately didn’t get the same positive result.

[@lydierskil7162]

I have recently encountered someone who exhibits these traits in the workplace. I could tell immediately something was off. After 2 days of meeting, I was suddenly their best friend, a gift from God! I received adoring praise on my hair, and clothing that was dramatic and odd. I was quickly but briefly manipulated into thinking they were victimized by mean girls in the office. I then began to see cracks in the many stories they shared. Nearly every conversation left me confused. The sentences were contradictory to each other. It has been the most bizarre interaction I’ve ever had with someone in a professional setting. So much so, that I thought maybe I’m delusional! After seeking others’ experiences with this person, I understand it’s been an issue for years. I now have firm boundaries but it is challenging. The fire storms they create are exhausting, and distracting for everyone. My heart breaks for those living with this disorder who don’t know it and the rejection they must endure because the rest of us need to protect ourselves from them. But you can’t tell them they need to seek psychiatric care without repercussions. Wish I knew a gentle, effective way to help them help themselves. Until then, my walls are up.

[@user-rs7kc5oq9f]

They don't accept help. they think they are the best. give up. the hestronic form of woman is actually a psychopath.

[@claritacooke-xy1qt]

Not only women. Rare in men but it happens. My father had HPD as well as some other problems. He was a pain in the ass and could be ridiculous but I had more empathy for him then my mother. He tended to attract predatory women because of his naïveté and need for attention- including my mother- more of a psychopath- narcissist combo. Obviously a very messed up duo.

[@whitepouch0904]

I hope you didn’t inherit one or more of their traits.

[@TYGZus777]

Yes!!! I worked in the Fine Arts department of the public schools and most of my "male" colleagues behaved like this! They were exhausting drama queens. ...so predictable. Yet all the kids and administrators just loved them because they were so entertaining. It was sickening to me.

[@user-jc8py7dw7r]

People are much harder on women in general. I detect misogyny in your comments.

[@123janninha]

May I ask you to describe some of his characteristics for being HPD? I’ve always thought it was more in the flamboyant gays and women… I’m curious to see how it shows in straight men…

[@boris1387]

Wow I never even knew about this disorder!! The more I watch you, the more I understand just how screwed up my ex was!!

[@johnshields6852]

I think we all can relate to the complexities of the human condition, if you ask 10 different people who know the same person, you'll get 10 different answers, a good example is a tragedy like a murder, you always hear, "they seemed like such a nice person", do we really know anyone.

[@paulafaber8589]

Analyzing the type of people who fall for these types would be interesting as well.

[@blacksea1726]

Most men!

[@ssing7113]

It’s called being a codependent. We had neglect in childhood and end up “people pleasers” so we attract toxic people that we want to take care of to feel validated and lovable. Obviously a toxic person Buffett to find one. Which actually I’d assume half people on the planet suffer from codependency as it stems in childhood not getting needs or attention. And how many people had working parents. ill equipped parents. Parents that said stupid things. Young parents that weren’t mature. Parents suffering from their own addictions or mental disorders. Parents that didn’t want their kids. Parents who thought to say “you better stop or you’re going in time out” “listen to ME”. Very very few people have childhoods with right action and behavior and actually have the knowledge how to validate and respond appropriately to a kids needs. Wants. Love. Attention. Affection. Validation. Feel heard…

[@ssing7113]

@@blacksea1726very cliche. Very in accurate statement as well You would more mean unhealthy men. Men with childhood wounding. Men with codependency. Men with trauma. Men with mental disorders. Men who fall on the autism spectrum. Men who had a checkered childhood. . Tons of healthy people just as there is tons of unhealthy people

[@mrsimo7144]

Hi Lise, my ex dumped me by text after calling her rude, she caused so much stress over this that I had a seizure. I emailed her to let her know that I was poorly and nothing. I'm so angry I got caught up in all this and she ghosted me like this. Animal. Thanks for the upload.

[@MrSarkis]

My ex always talked to me about leaving because of relationship problems, etc. that respect had been lost, blah blah blah. Even though she was the one who yelled at me, she made scenes with me in the street, and called me manipulative, controlling, aggressive, or joked that she was going to find a lover or that I wasn't even happy with sex. I called her a liar, a narcissist and a thousand other things too. fights on whatsapp one day she told me that she wanted to love us better, the next day she told me that she had spoken with a person of great wisdom and wanted to end the relationship, I reacted angrily, she blocked me from all sides, I wrote to her again so that we could at least talk in person, she gave me excuses all December, and even told me that it was better after the New Year holidays, I suffered alone, and she hasn't sent me a message, we haven't seen each other yet. they can be very cruel. in fact I doubt histrionics is a separate disorder, it sounds like narco crap.

[@mrsimo7144]

@@MrSarkis Thanks for your efforts. Be strong. ❤️

[@whitepouch0904]

@@MrSarkis some debate it to be removed and be under NPD expressive dramatic kind.

[@AzumaRikimaru]

fell in love with someone with HPD because i saw right through it, but it was a trauma bond. Years later im still discovering just how deep the rabbit hole was.

[@MrSarkis]

How did you break the traumatic bond? My ex broke up with me months ago and I had a really hard time imagining how she used me and that she's already with another man :(

[@ssing7113]

Therapy man if you’re still trying to find the end of the rabbit hole Codependency / childhood wounding therapy would do you well and will all make sense a lot quicker then watching videos and self analysis

[@scourneene]

Same, not sure how to handle it always

[@maxkwartin47]

​@@MrSarkismeet another girl who treats you well, that's what I did. And be the best boyfriend you can. I was with a girl like this and it messed me up but when I met my nos girlfriend, who's a very nice girl, it helped me get over the one who treated me badly

[@dogadagasan]

This is the best video about HPD, it's explanied more accurate and clear than other videos 👏🏻👏🏻

[@ivane945]

Moving forward, is what your content helps me with. Thanks!

[@NPDexplained]

Thank you for this valuable information

[@trezpozgmail7292]

thank you for all your work for everyone.

[@astrology4u]

This was a perfect thorough breakdown.

[@williampmcd8548]

Chronic emotional neglect/isolation might be a part of what causes HPD

[@paulmryglod4802]

My ex had a terrible upbringing with an alcoholic family and S.A. too, along with emotional neglect and being left alone while the adults partied. That resulted in this type of personality.

[@PortraitoftheArtistasanOldDog8]

Yes! I've been bingeing Prof Sam Vaknin very informative.....

[@plusone8015]

John Lennon knew about isolation… People say we got it made Don't they know we're so afraid? Isolation We're afraid to be alone Everybody got to have a home, isolation Just a boy and a little girl Trying to change the whole wide world, isolation The world is just a little town Everybody trying to pull us down, I-isolation I don't expect you to understand After you've caused so much pain But then again, you're not to blame You're just a human, a victim of the insane We're afraid of everyone Afraid of the sun, isolation The sun will never disappear But the world may not have many years, I-isolation

[@aerofart]

Now I’m on the fence. I’ve been diagnosing (yes, I said it) my female partner as suffering from NPD, but HPD seems like a very good diagnosis as well. Thanks for the videos. I’m enjoying your style the more i watch.

[@birdlover6842]

Maybe she has both.

[@ssing7113]

Well toxic is toxic man. Yeah it’s that implies to want to know and put your finger on it. I suggest you do that after you leave. You’re safe. And you’ve blocked for for good. Regardless you need some therapy in codependency and childhood wounding ( as we all do who attract toxic people ) so you can get Boundries in place. Stand up for yourself. Learn how to say no. Stand your ground. And leave as the most possible solution as they rarely change or get real therapy help. You’re in for a world of misery as it gets worse as time goes on Maybe check out Darlene lancer books if you wanna explore that route. Excellent researcher and therapist who has done extensive dive into codependency and toxic relationships

[@Starlightndust]

My sister has both, NPD and HPD. Please get help. My sister nearly ruined my life had I not healed from Codependency. I tend to attract Cluster B toxic people because of my Narcissistic mother and sister. Search also for Lisa Romano, Richard Grannon and Ross Goldberg. They are all online n wrote books on Codependency.

[@123janninha]

Narcissistic females can be very provocative too, and cheat, and attention seeking… there is a big debate to cancel HPD and just add it as a subcategory of NPD.

[@fardinahmadpor1225]

My ex was exactly like that,she was with lots of boys at Sametime, while she was acting like victims, even lied about her everything, like she said she has cancer while she didn't.... Worst part is ,I still cant believe all her words were all lie,and I still grieving over her

[@deirdreberger1363]

Thanks for explaining the differences between HPD and BPD.

[@regginap.534]

Very well analysed

[@samsonsarabi8719]

Masterpiece... Masterpiece... Thanks a lot.

[@Socoolral]

Good morning Lise, This platform you got going is amazing. I feel like I’m understanding things a bit better. I do have to watch your video more than one time because there’s so much great information. It may not be the ideal good news but it also depends on who’s listening in on it and where they are in their life. I for one needed to hear this. You take care and stay healthy and safe inside your body 😉🤙🏼

[@jessicamessica2271]

Its interesting one of the catagories is "the person with hpd thinks relationships are closer than they actually are." I think its more that they pretend these relationships are super close because thats how they get the other person to give them what they want. They arent actually close with the other person. But pretending they are may benifit them somehow

[@thecurrentmoment]

I'm not sure, other things I've seen suggest they really do believe they are closer than they actually are. Hard to say, I guess, but given they don't really get very close in reality, they probably think they ARE close because it seems close to them, even if it surface level by most people's standards But I'm not a psychologist so don't just believe me

[@asharajbhar1176]

​@@thecurrentmomentthat closeness is in their head and it's just for few months..it's very shallow .as soon as some one else give them attention they forget the previous person.the next person is now close to them.and the cycle continues..as much as I hv seen histrionics get bored very quickly in seven eight months.

[@thecurrentmoment]

@@asharajbhar1176 so do you think they believe they are close or do you think they know they are not close and are pretending to achieve some outcome?

[@asharajbhar1176]

@@thecurrentmoment I think in their minds they do feel close at that particular moment but that closeness is superficial in nature..it changes very quickly.so yes they do feel that you are actually there best friend.

[@thecurrentmoment]

@@asharajbhar1176 ok thanks, that's what I was getting at The OP said they are pretending (implying they don't actually feel close) but I wasn't sure about that

[@mgu1N1n1]

I spent 11 years with a woman I now believe was histrionic personality disorder. This was reconfirmed when researching her past relationships with a very long history of abuse towards men and false allegations. Men research and know who you're getting involved with and be very very careful with your partners. Men, be safe!

[@user-kcrpine]

Society needs to stop simping for anything biologically or claiming to be female and start embracing a little equality. I spent a weekend with this one chick who not so slyly incessantly reminded me how easily she could have me arrested, sprinkling it with “the cops will believe me because I’m a woman” always with a big “just kidding” type smile. Needless to say I kept my distance then was discarded because I wasn’t all over her as she apparently wanted. Pure insanity.

[@Mrkva22296]

men can be histronic too, just less likely to get diagnosed

[@cantasoup]

Now listening to this..I think I have HPD 😨

[@BlackMoridin]

Oh shit, well to be fair HPD not really known for bring self-aware... but go see a therapist just in case 😉

[@richardlau2447]

This is very good.👍

[@jimig399]

My wife made an anniversary post on Facebook. We hadn't been together for our anniversary. I wasn't in her friends list. So I never got any notifications for it. I happened to come across it when I was trying to figure out what was going on with her and searching her page. Turns out she had posted to make my kids think she was with me. She was with someone else. It was a really upbeat post. It wasn't for me.

[@poboy8490]

😬😬😬 yikes

[@mowtivatedmechanic1172]

If this lady and any manosphere creator (better Bachelor) comes to mind; did a table talk it would open a lot of eyes, answer a ton of questions and heal a lot of men. Thank you for this video ma’am.

[@sds6303]

For some reason I really think AH has more narcissistic traits or ASPD traits rather than histrionic. Just due to the lack of empathy alone.

[@zlatkom1300]

Bravo Mrs Lise...with your help I learned a lot, that I did not know that exist in the wold (being married to that person for 15 years) now I am paying the price for being empath. well...

[@DookiebearoOOo]

Valuable content

[@pngproductions8529]

Glad someone made a vidoe of her with HPD and not BPD, My mother was HPD and while they have over laps HPD is very specific.

[@Wolfparkinson]

1 billion percent correct!

[@TheBoski7]

this is amazing .... last year I was dating this exact type of person .... it seems you are describing her in detail, it is almost scary how precise this is ... I wish her new guy and her former guy before me (still hooked) could see this ! I am so lucky I have lost her for good .. and now I have a 17 min video proving it ! thank you !

[@asharajbhar1176]

When did she start devaluing you?? After how many months..what exactly suffocated you to be with her?

[@EdfromCanada]

Ahhh - this added dimension has opened my eyes even more. It reaffirms and strengthens my resolve to ghost her. Wow, I will never be suckered again in taking her out and picking up another $250 dinner tab. I am so happy I invested the time to learn and read about these type of behaviours.

[@cori1302]

Describing theatre people - many actors/actresses. Also some musicians. Could be other public figures, business or the arts. My public awaits...

[@joshuamacer777]

I went to a birthday party at my friend's house once without my wife becasue she all of a sudden didnt feel good and didnt want to go. I took my oldest kid with me and wasnt at the party 30 minutes and the wife of the birthday boy told me that my wife.messaged her and told me to call her. I had over 20 messages and twice as many missed calls. I read the texts first and you can see as you read them that she is spiraling out of control going from "hey" to "why you ignoring me" to "our son broke his leg and you wont answer so my dad is coming to take us to the hospital" i panick and call her and she doesnt answer. I call her dad and he tells me she has no idea what shes talking about becasue hes 1500 miles away in another state. I text her and tell her i called her dad. She finally calls me and i ask her what happened. She just starts screaming non sensical things at me, accusations, telling me I'm a piece of shit and ignoring her on purpose and she cant count on me in an emegency, blah blah blah, i mean it was just insane and she called me in front of everyone because were all close friends and they were all genuinely converned and heard her entire tangent. And this whole time i was so confused by what she was saying and doing and asking her over and over what happened to my kid and she finally answered me and said nothing and hung up and wouldnt answer the phone again. The room was deathly.quiet and everyone was just starung at me feeling sorry for me. It was so embarrassing for me knowing that everyone knew she had made up this story for attention and that she was.off her rocker. This was my first time experiencing this sort of behavior. It wasnt the last time she did it. It was always when least expected and during events i looked forward to. Different stories, car broke down, flat tire, house flooded. None of the things were ever real. Rushed to her aid one of those times (she tricked me dangit) and she wasnt even where she said she was broke down and finally calls me about ten minutes later, says she had bad cell service and that everything was fine and she was almost home! Thats not even the tip of the iceberg of what ive beem through. It was terrible but she was very atttactive and thats how she kept me around. There was never a shortage of under the sheets time.

[@lorangeamere2435]

That was my old boss. That girl was a manipulative nightmare on two legs.

[@luci8244]

How do these women have friends?

[@Baruzuland]

I think of Aleister Crowley as a great example of a male HPD. I mean he made an entire religion based on sex magic. Thelema. Plus his ‘women’ were broken by the time he moved on from them. Pretty obvious in my opinion.

[@plusone8015]

It almost seems like all these disorders are merely symptomatic of humans not knowing how to simply be. Just about every woman I ever dated expressed they had 😢 childhood trauma. I have never once seen these issues get resolved. My natural reaction is to want to heal people I care about. My experience has been I should stop that and simply keep myself centered and giving within my boundaries. My last lady was in therapy for decades. Once, out of the blue, she blurted out, "I am well adjusted!" And just like a stone dropped into a lake, my heart sank. The red flags are everywhere. For some reason red flags alone are rarely enough. It's like a movie where I have to know how it turns out in the end. Thus far, I have no exes who are hostile and usually know when the end is near. It seemed everytime it ended, then only could they move from conflict towards warmth and nostalgia. Life really is surreal when we realize how desperately everyone's trying to cope and how many prey upon that knowledge. I have long ago decided to both blame and forgive myself for everything I dislike in my life. It creates a drive to seek knowledge and wisdom and help wherever I can. Sometimes I doubt myself until the kindness of others smothers me in my times of crisis. That becomes a life-long debt of gratitude. I know no way more effective to live. And still, it is hard 😊🎉

[@ssing7113]

Dude. It’s called being a codependent Go read Darlene lancers books. You’ll have a very eye opening experience that she can pin you to a T

[@ChristopherDonnerArtist]

I dated a woman like this . Absolutely nuts, I finally blocked her on everything. Best choice I ever made .

[@bleepbloop9123]

Love this comment

[@bluewombat]

My ex has BPD, not properly treated, and I'm pretty sure after watching this she's also HPD and a covert narcissist maybe full blown NPD; she's a horrible person, finally had the guts to block her on everything tonight after she pushed me one too far.

[@michellek649]

Good for you! Hang in there!

[@bluewombat]

@@michellek649 yeah, it's hard though 😭

[@michellek649]

@@bluewombat I know. It gets easier. Stay strong. ❤‍🩹

[@bluewombat]

@@michellek649 thank you, I hope so.

[@ssing7113]

Have ya cycled back 😂 Takes most people on average 7 times to leave an abusive relationship You need codependency and childhood wounding therapy. If not start diving into some books. Darlene lancer is a great place to start and will all become crystal clear as you read. But therapy is the real driver here. Find a person well versed in codependency and they will amaze you how they can describe your relationship and finish your sentences. 😂

[@peterharris6604]

Thanks Lise Thanks

[@marymorenomariposa]

my mom. narc with histrionic traits

[@randybailey2282]

Thank you for the reminders. I let go of my 'project' 2 years ago and will say that giving up alcohol and/or drugs was far easier than going back and forth with this type of personality disorder. I made the mistake of taking her to a nude resort in Temescal Valley to play pickleball, swim, dance, karaoke, and be in nature ala carte. I stayed at the club for six years watching her dance and prance to finally get kicked out for all the behaviors that you mentioned. I knew better and had to learn how to do better. No contact was the solution while recognizing the yellow and red lights within another's personality traits. How empty of me to have been so full of her..

[@jcaleca60]

It happens

[@plusone8015]

Best nude resort is in private with your sweet patootie ❤️🍀☮️🙏

[@ssing7113]

Absolutely. Sorry to hear My dad passed away when I was with my ex. And she flew in and out within a day and was left to deal with her BS along with my dying dad alone. Him passing was level 1 compared to dealing with her which I term level 100 😂 These people will trauma bond you. Play games. Triangulate you. . . If you think someone is toxic. They are.. run and get therapy

[@sarcodonblue2876]

I have had at least 4 friends who I suspect had this . Two males and two females. Cluster Bs seem to find me to 😕

[@bjorncedervall5291]

Another great and important video. Thank You! (have seen essentially all the HPD behavior You are talking about but essentially have been able to avoid that species - less so with some pathological narcissists and ASPD:s but eventually got rid of those parasites as well).

[@joecrawford172]

This is my ex. She is on soulmate number 5 at the moment. Only problem is, she's getting older so the looks that she relied on for so long aren't quite as hot. Her most recent wedding is the only one that had to be moved to a CLOSER date. (true)

[@user-kcrpine]

There’s little revenge more enjoyable than watching such a woman lose the only thing she has. It crushes their soul and is priceless.

[@COD4JESSE]

How come people like this don’t have the ability to feel shame, regret, or are able to understand the extent of how their actions impact themselves and others?

[@ssing7113]

Short answer. They lack a core identity / self and are in a permanent state of child. Do you recall every action or behavior as a 2 year old? Would you get upset if we had robot humans walking around. You knew they were a robot and did some Fd up things. And then expect an apology. No because it’s a robot and not a human. Basically you’re dealing with a robot in human form. Hate to offend the people but it is what it is. In a nutshell..

[@COD4JESSE]

@@ssing7113 I think you’re completely right. And something needs to be done about these people. They shouldn’t be allowed to walk around doing the damage they do.

[@COD4JESSE]

@@ssing7113 Oh. And by the way, thanks for putting it so clearly and bluntly. I needed to hear that.

[@asharajbhar1176]

​@@COD4JESSEyes they are just like robots..all they need is fuel for day to day working.they never bond to any one..so just better to not be in contact with them at all .

[@aliciaboylan4626]

Can you make a video about HPD mothers/mother in laws and how to create boundaries?

[@gavinstewart2242]

Hello, thank you for the illumination. May I ask whether this disorder is related to neurosis?

[@drstrangelove4998]

Ha, love your work, I’m getting on a bit now and never married thank god. I know these cluster B syndromes can appear in men as well as women, but can hardly think of any I’ve come across in males. From my personal experience and observation, the hideous events suffered by many male friends and colleagues over the years has been caused by women: acquaintances, girlfriends and wives, with tragic consequences sometimes.

[@user-ed4xt4yw2d]

Well... Too hard to get. Trying to understant the differences between all bad boys and girls(cluster B). As far as I got։ 1. Psychopath- Doesn`t care what people think of him/her, goal oriented. No empathy. No self-reflection. Sadistic. 2. Sociopath- crazy psychopath. No empathy. No self-reflection. Sadistic. 3. Malignant narcissist- Does care about what people think of him/her, goal oriented. No empathy, self-reflection. Sadistic. 4. Narcissist (classical or covert)- NEEDS admiration, approval, not very goal oriented. The main goal is getting admiration. Very low level of empathy or self-reflection. Sadistic. Rarely masochistic. Fear of rejection. 5. Histrionic- NEEDS attention no matter good or bad. Not deep but changeable emotions. Empathy, self-reflection are available. More sadistic than masochistic. A princess. Fear of rejection. 6. Borderline (Hi, that`s me)- NEEDS emotional closeness, deep changeable emotions. Empathy, self reflexion are available. Masochistic. Sadistic only when the secondary psycho comes out(when deeply hurt). Black and white thinking. Two fears. Rejection / absorption. The common features for all the cluster B-s_ inner emptiness, love chaos, idealization-devaluation, cheating, manipulations, may be seriously dangerous for other people.

[@bnic9471]

I think my sister-in-law had that. Seductive, fond of embarrassing people, ton of makeup, and she was jealous of her own newborn son.

[@peterculver233]

Unreal accuracy, i didn’t know the girl I just left had such a clearly understood personality disorder

[@JasmineBliss]

Jasmine Bliss 0 seconds ago 1. Uncomfortable when not centre of attention. Self worth = attention. Full of drama and flirtatious. 2. Never enough getting attention from 1 person or get bored. Discard or withdraw with issues. Breadcrumb u to prevent u from moving on. 3. Her interactions are seductive and sexual using physical appeal. 4. She displays shallow emotions and rapid emotional shift. Full of drama. 5. She speaks superficial and lacking depth. She can adapt her style to anyone lacking facts and details. 6. Her actions do not match her words 7. She exaggerate and dramatised by crying, tantrums etc. 8. She is suggestive yet flaky and easily influenced by others. Forms superficial bonds quickly.

[@youssefbenouiran7262]

some of these traits are in regular women as well

[@nightshadehelis9821]

I have this. I hate it. I'm extremely successful but still feel the need to tell total strangers bullshit that isn't true for reasons I genuinely don't understand. I feel uncomfortable when things are boring. I'm extremely charming and kind, but over time every single person starts to see me for who I am. I want to change because it's ridiculously embarrassing and I don't want to be like this. I also can't stop repeating memories of a delusional life.

[@williampmcd8548]

Please comment on single mothers (parents), their impatience and the impact of that impatience on the lives of their children.

[@don-eb3fj]

This is a very thorough description of the behavior and underlying pain and lack of self-esteem of this adaptation (I reject the brand "disorder" so casually applied by this disordered society, and prefer to approach with understanding and compassion ). Under the thin skin of these behaviors is often early sexual abuse and severe shaming, and lack of validation for any qualities other than physical appearance or social attention. But yes, the behavior is certainly destructive of everyone around , and EVERYONE is subject to be sacrificed for that next smiling glance from a passing stranger, even if the smile contains more than a trace of embarrassment which won't be noticed. Had to contend with this myself as a kid and paid a huge price for her insatiable need for attention, just now beginning to find some forgiveness, for my own sake.

[@HiHi-iu8gf]

based

[@don-eb3fj]

Thanks for your reply, I hope you got something useful from my comment that will help you or someone else in some way; if nothing else hopefully a reminder that each of us has had to adapt to a dysfunctional world that dishonors parts of our humanity - only through viewing others' behaviors through the lens of their pain, and finding some common ground and compassion can we hope to reduce the intergenerational abuse and cyclical societal trauma that generates these wounds and the harmful defensive behaviors they create. Namaste.

[@ammachi_wid_luv8507]

You are literallyyyyyy describing my ex friend :)

[@VikasChandParasPoems]

Can you please make a video on comparison of Covert Narcissistic person and HPD, and also Codependent Personality disorder?

[@theblissfuloracle]

Sounds exhausting…

[@MariaJoseGuzman-qg2un]

I don't understand how my ex is roaming the streets, his histrionic expressed with delinquency and outlandish display, sometimes randomly picking fights and of course much worse, that man is a menace to society.

[@peterharris6604]

Thanks

[@skybluedreams77]

My younger brother has undiagnosed hpd. He has all the signs and symptoms.

[@Corina-dq2my]

I believe that the cluster b personality disorders are very different from each other. I believe now, that a person usually has one of these disorders and it's confusing if someone does not understand the disorder very well. They do have similarities but are very different for different reasons, too. I believe that they have different underlying issues. Like NPD vs BPD. Etc.

[@Honeycutt1]

The best "real world" description of HPD I have heard. Describes my Ex-Girlfriend of 2 years perfectly. She hits 7/8 characteristics but will NEVER admit to any of it.

[@asharajbhar1176]

It seems that the relationship with histrionic doesn't last more than 2 3 yes..most of the survivors say they couldn't handle the histrionics more than 2 yrs😁

[@siroossiroos8215]

I immediately knew something was wrong with that beautiful lady. It started with unusual deep romantic eye contact, lasting more than appropriate. It was a fun finding out what exactly did not work. I First assumed narcissistic emotional abuse, and reacted with gray rock, it made her almost mad! Following me, begging me to say her "hi"! Later I found out it was rather histrionic pd. Nowadays, I give her "lovely greetings" back, just not to hurt her. It is just fun to observe her behavior.

[@Alinasatika]

OMG, I realize that my close friend has this, that’s why she always wants to show me her selfie pics after she tries or buys clothes or after going to a salon and she wants me to comment about her looks, if I don’t want to see the pics then she will push me to see them, she constantly needs attentions by saying ohh I’m so pretty today look at me! sometimes she brings a gift then asks something in return directly, not even an hour after (can’t accept me saying no and if say yes then she would do it again & again), always being dramatic, always trying to get the attention focus on her by being loud, extremely friendly and cheerful, speaks in different ways when speaking other languages. When I heard one of the symptoms is still receives money from her ex, my jaws dropped bcoz her ex’s family still gives her money which I never understood why, always cries when talking about her ex after broke up for years, still clinging around her ex life but already dating different guys and after awhile gets bored of them and discarded them, always thinking that she’s a princess, always said that everyone thinks she’s a princess. And what she says usually contradict with the things she said before. Wow! I’m shocked. I thought I’m a bad friend who is ungrateful because she’s so nice and caring but she always pushes my boundaries to fulfill her needs and in the end I felt like she’s a child and I’m her parent. 🥹🥹🥹

[@asharajbhar1176]

Run away.. You will not regret it later..I had a histrionic freind too..I stopped contact..they don't care about anyone.they only care about the attention they can grab from you.. and yes you are her caretaker or parental figure.

[@Faithgrace295]

Sounds like a plan I will fail intentionally

[@ultra.based.27]

The last girl i fell in love with is like this. Gonna unfollow her.

[@er6730]

This is Toad from "the Wind in the Willows"

[@natural3362]

What's the difference from autistic spectrum disorder and other disorder? What's the key difference?

[@aztec0112]

AH was the "ambassador for DV"? On the basis of this presentation, I could plausibly argue that she missed her calling.

[@user-ho7jr4mc2g]

Can you make a video about histrionic men?

[@sammii_more]

I’m certain my husband has HPD with overlapping anti-social, borderline and narcissistic traits. Our marriage was a train wreck - I’ve recently uploaded 3 videos on my channel because he literally tried to destroy me and my reputation.

[@greglavine4035]

Thank you Lise...what is with me and a beautiful cluster B...lol...I have had a couple of these ... Shallow and vain...not a lot of substance...but have off the charts street smarts...a year long dead end...Lise can these HPD types be cured? They cannot find lasting bonds to people ,things or activities ....and are constantly scrounging for any next path....

[@noname-ye7zj]

Wow, 💯

[@monteiroeduardo9338]

Very interesting. Can men have HPD?

[@t.c.494]

You know that scene in Star Wars episode IV where Luke is flying down that channel on the surface of the Deathstar, and he fires his torpedos and they go down the hole and blow the whole thing to dust? That is this video.

[@AS004-xf4jc]

It should not last more than a year but with patience I continued for over six years.

[@danieldavidisson9906]

There has been an explosion of personality disorders over the past 10 years. Every single person I know, without exception, has abandonment fears from mild to severe. While mainly females with HPD make up the vast majority of influencers, TikTok is HPD central. It's so prevalent that I am going to do a video. The misogynistic manosphere targets those with HPD, while they have no clue what they are criticising.

[@opieshomeshop]

I can give you one "sign". The person in question did a commercial for a brand of beverage that rymes with dud bright.

[@Peter-pv8xx]

My brother-in-law, I don't know how my sister puts up with him, when comes to visit me from Colorado to New Jersey my other sister usually comes from Colorado as well, he doesn't want to come but he won't let her come alone and she won't go without him. He usually starts as croon as I pick them from the airport, they come for Christmas and my birthday both of which he purposely sabatoges ever sing time, it's too involved to get into here but everyday there here he throws a tantrum over one thing or another, he's especially embarrassing in a restaurant where he'll nitpick every little thing, and no matter where we go he'll engage some random individual and tell them his life story, he's 71 by the way, is like to blame it on maybe a little dementia setting in but he's been like this for the 15 years he's been married to my sister.

[@AESTHETICCosmopolitan]

Ex had the trifecta of borderline, narcissism, and histrionic pd. She was such a devil. Luckily, I only had to tolerate her for 1 month. But it did cause substantial damage.

[@caterinadelgalles8783]

Bree Chavez.

[@garbaczzoltan6255]

Is it even possible to have more than one personality disorder? Maybe she has multiple personality disorder and all her different identities have BPD and HPD.