10 Signs That Your Parent is Controlling

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Do you have a high-control parent?
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@allanjohnkemp Жыл бұрын

people not commenting on the video just in case their parents see it.

@bokamzhimo1356 Жыл бұрын

Lol

@bokamzhimo1356 Жыл бұрын

So true

@eturley7533 Жыл бұрын

Well most controlling parents don't think they are controlling...which is the problem.

@stepforwardtv1 10 ай бұрын

😂 So hilarious.

@ravenvalhalla3456 10 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@jayj4439 5 ай бұрын

This topic should definitely be brought to light more often. Some broken adults are just products of a controlling parent

@markarca6360 4 ай бұрын

Exactly.

@gavincarothers595 2 ай бұрын

Took the ideas out of everyone's minds, not everyone or every people human or not have the perfect parents, but given how much everything is going on like this right now as it did Helluva long time ago generations too far way back since from the very beginning right from the very start, compared to what's happening now today in this 🌎 😢ly, You might as well "If your lucky enough" either wishing you were literally born without Parents with no records or just be glad you don't have one/be better off without the Horrible 💩 A-hole kind of parents you have.

@pictlandpickers1171 Ай бұрын

Hi 😂

@Ninakat 5 ай бұрын

I’m 32 and still being treated like a child. It’s so exhausting living this way trying to create healthy boundaries but they don’t care about how I feel unless it’s convenient for them.

@ladennayoung2939 5 ай бұрын

I'm sorry that you are going through this. You must choose to develop a relationship with Christ for yourself and know His voice for yourself. You must be willing to follow His lead and voice for yourself. Even if it makes people uncomfortable and angry.

@Marie-yk4mz 2 ай бұрын

I’m 45 married and still I can’t take decisions without my dad always seeing the negative side of everything I want to do

@Ninakat 2 ай бұрын

@@ladennayoung2939 I already do

@Russiancaribbeanbride 2 ай бұрын

Hah your dad is mine! I'm 27 married and working and he wants me to move to the same state as him just because he says so, he also likes to give unsolicited advice, I can go on and on and on@Marie-yk4mz

@drin5079 2 ай бұрын

Same 😭 I just want to get out of this situation.

@vivalaelena2685 4 ай бұрын

My parents LOVE to do the “honor your mother and father” “obey your parents” thing.. I’m 26 years old. I wish they could see that sometimes they’re too much

@Hifirrrr 4 ай бұрын

Perhaps you have to tell them, start discussing and make them understand how you feel about all those things they want you to do. You’re a 26 years old and there is no need to be so strict towards you.

@Marie_Adams 2 ай бұрын

Read them the next verses after that verse & then find a way to move out

@godservantmusicclass4394 2 ай бұрын

It said honor them. That doesn't mean to agree and abide by everything they do. Also, the verse specifically says, *children* obey your parents *in the Lord*. You are not a child. Therefore you are obligated to obey God, not them.

@godservantmusicclass4394 2 ай бұрын

@@Hifirrrr in 100% honesty, if you have parents that love you, but don't respect you, that will never work no matter what you do. Many parents don't see their "child" as equal to them, therefore they are not worthy of respect. They will never apologize, never take blame, and you will always be blamed, even if you're innocent. There are only a few options, get away from them; move out or whatever, or they would have to literally have a change of heart.

@claudia5558 8 ай бұрын

You are so right. I am almost 28 now and can’t take it anymore. My mom asks invasive questions ALL THE TIME and she gets defensive and silent when I tell her i don’t want to share. It’s just energy-draining to repeat the same cycles over and over again.

@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l 6 ай бұрын

I stopped confiding in my mother when I turned 21 when I noticed she made fun or shared the info with my narcissistic sister. When I stopped my sister would call and make me feel guilty. Even if I was dating. I said I wasn't. No locks on the bedroom or bathroom. I stopped falling for the guilt trips or manipulation. I started to love myself and put myself first.❤

@dennisrobinson8008 5 ай бұрын

The energy drain is intentional.

@dennisrobinson8008 5 ай бұрын

And not sharing with one who means you harm or intent to control is smart.

@ladennayoung2939 5 ай бұрын

@@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l Thanks for your comment. I think you cleared up something the Holy Spirit has been trying to tell me. God bless. I pray your strength in the Lord IN THE MIGHTY AND MATCHLESS NAME OF JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH. THE NAME ABOVE ALL NAMES. AMEN. ❤❤❤

@jl3268 2 ай бұрын

WALK AWAY. I am 54 and still trapped. Get away while you are young.

@lilysandoval1975 Жыл бұрын

That's Why I left ‼️ as soon as I turned 18 ....

@mi2ube 11 ай бұрын

When I turned 18, I was dating a young man with the prospect of marriage. My parents didn’t like that idea. I was still living with them at the time, and one night, he brings me back from a date. My parents were waiting to talk to us about our relationship. They thought we were moving too fast. At the time, I had a car I loved, had worked to pay for it, but when they purchased it for me, I was still a minor, so the car was in their name. They dangled this car over me saying, you can have your car if you stop seeing him. I looked at him, asked him to wait for me outside. I packed my clothes and left with him. We married, and after a few months, seeing their tactic didn’t work, they signed the car over to me. Just one of the many controlling stories of my parents. It’s a shame that some parents learn control over their kid(s) when they are children. The psychological damage takes a toll for most of that person’s life. To which, they don’t care. I’ve found prayer helps me get through it. I know God sees all, and He never forgets.

@shonsam5162 8 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing! Very much helpful❤

@Div-8739 7 ай бұрын

You see, your parents can only control you and your life when you are staying with them, and it means you are under their control , but the time will come when you will get your job , your own apartment and that's where it will be difficult for them to control you.

@Found_Myself 7 ай бұрын

I can relate to that. My Mom 100% expects me to get married and have kids but at the same time has cut off every friendship I've ever had with guys and yells at me whenever I talk to one. On top of that, she hates when I go out with friends, even if it's a group of girls. I'm an adult. Praying things get better and trusting God that they will.

@wintermatherne2524 5 ай бұрын

They still didn’t have a right to dictate her private life after 18. The law would side with her. That was pure blackmail.

@wintermatherne2524 5 ай бұрын

Just defy her. It’s none of her business. Legally she has no right either.

@Loha2005 5 ай бұрын

"There's a difference between you being who God made you to be, and you rebelling... but they can't tell the difference" Mmmmmmmm THIS RIGHT HERE! 💯🎯👏👌😤😤

@SinCityVirgini 2 ай бұрын

This is my life right now. My mother has zero boundaries and respect for my life choices. She uses guilt and manipulation tactics and it’s ruining our relationship. She doesn’t see it. All of our family members are experiencing this. I truly believe the older she gets she’s getting worse. Her mother was like that and very very black hearted. My 86 year old mother once told us she never wants to be like her mom. Well, here we are. I am brokenhearted over this.

@Lifestylewithennie Жыл бұрын

I pray I do better as a parent

@nyzwit2stixks312 Жыл бұрын

Same

@ValGhoulzz Жыл бұрын

I pray I will never get children

@mr.makedonija2627 Жыл бұрын

@@ValGhoulzzI pray you never get children either

@ValGhoulzz Жыл бұрын

@@mr.makedonija2627 im so scared to become a toxic/narcissistic parent so thank you

@L_MD_ Жыл бұрын

@@ValGhoulzz you may just become the complete opposite of your parents - I did. Whilst my parents are still the same today, my relationship with my adult children is healthier than what I ever imagined it would be. You are not defined by your past. You are prepared by your past. Xx ps I hope one day you are blessed with a family ❤❤ Lisa

@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l 6 ай бұрын

My dad wanted my house keys to he said keep an eye on the place. They hide it by acting concern. Narcissistic.

@gloriaeguahon2369 Ай бұрын

😢😢😢😢😊😊😊😊 5:32 5:32 5:32

@amie7229 Ай бұрын

Same lol my mom said she wanted a copy in case she was in the area and needed a bathroom…. Umm how about McDonald’s? 🙄 I changed my locks after she went through my bills one day and tried yelling at me for being late on something….10 years later and she’s still asking for keys. I’m still saying no… Narcissists usually don’t change.

@elizabethy2912 10 ай бұрын

I'm 56. My father was a Baptist preacher. He turned into a different person in the pulpit. I married an extremely controlling, manipulative husband. He's a narcissist. I've been realizing my father was actually a sadistic narcissist. He LOVED to spank us/ beat us, and he had ZERO EMPATHY!! NONE! We were his possessions . God is leading me through this hellish realization . He is my only Hope. Jesus never gave up on me.

@lolo2good 5 ай бұрын

I thought my parents were “perfect” until I turned to God for Him to reveal to me the truth. My parents treated me so bad and I never understood why! -So sad.

@elizabethy2912 5 ай бұрын

@@lolo2good I think when you're like smooshed up to a wall you can't see the wall. It's like that- when you're too close to a situation/ person, etc., you can't SEE OR REALLY KNOW WHAT IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU. Once you gain some distance, and time, you can actually SEE . I pray you can heal!

@dennisrobinson8008 2 ай бұрын

Only hope is out

@elenifotopoulou4127 Жыл бұрын

A good sermon will be parents of Adult married children that triangulate, with siblings and relatives and pressure to submit, thank you

@elenehall89 10 күн бұрын

YES YES YES

@dennisrobinson8008 Жыл бұрын

Its amazing ones who need to control at the level described don't feel they have a problem.

@cynthiarm253 5 ай бұрын

You just described Mark Driscoll

@ladennayoung2939 5 ай бұрын

Yes. It is because they are full of pride, egotistical, and arrogant.

@dennisrobinson8008 2 ай бұрын

they are complete trash heaps. @@ladennayoung2939

@gracelockett96 5 ай бұрын

Thank you!! Individuality versus rebellion; literally felt so bad thinking I was rebellious, when I wasn’t.

@lindokmo7968 4 ай бұрын

OMG! Im almost 40 & my mom treats me like Im 4. It will take a miracle for me to get married & start my own family.😢 T Th

@MsMoore-bj9lq Ай бұрын

Your situation sounds like mine. I never thought I would have the opportunity to get married or have kids because of my controlling family. You have to put your foot down and take control over YOUR life. What she is doing is manipulative and abusive. I finally got away when I was almost 30. I’m married with kids now, but she still tries to control me. I believe I let them control me because I felt like I needed them…. I don’t.

@LLL417 6 ай бұрын

This would never sink in with my mother. I won’t be free to live my own life until she passes. She is constantly trying to control every aspect of my life. I live with constant guilt trips if I try to get out of anything. I’m held to incredibly high unattainable standards. I love her but I want my own life.

@jl3268 2 ай бұрын

Me too...waiting to be free.

@johnhammertron Ай бұрын

To you and the other person that replied. How old are you and are you able to have a job that pays a decent amount of money? Are you healthy enough to be independent and mobile? Does your parent(s) have a large (or nicely sized) estate that you would like to inherit? Whoevery you are, your best bet might be to build up your personal wealth as much as possible so that you can walk away and not worry about losing any possible benefits you might be getting. That's probably going to be really, really hard, and maybe not even possible. However, hopefully these questions and comments will spark some kind of inspiration that will help you. (These are general statements and may not work specifically for you because most people here are kind of anonymous.) Good luck to you and everyone.

@PamalaNEW 13 күн бұрын

I put my foot down hard when I was a 15yr old Girl. To this day, at 53yo, I still can't tolerate a controlling person! I decided I was tired lf allowing abuse and I won't be manipulated by a mentally unstable adult! Sad that Parents are the lroblem and some kids have to suffer bc their parent(s) is so wacko.

@darkstrifequeen1458 7 ай бұрын

This describes my relationship with my parents all too well. Their behaviors still haunt me to this day. 😢. I wish I could show this to them, but they’re holding me back from being the ray of sunshine that God knows I deserve to be.

@kiwanypatrick5350 6 ай бұрын

Same here 😢

@dennisrobinson8008 5 ай бұрын

Excuses. Forget a them and what they think. Why do you need their approval?

@ladennayoung2939 5 ай бұрын

Ask the Lord to help you to choose to come out of people pleasing and codependency. Don't worry about trying to show them where they are wrong and where they need to change. Focus on self-control and choosing to become the best version of yourself that God created and intended you to be before you were in your mother's womb. I pray your strength in the Lord in Jesus' name. I pray that you choose to grow in God's love, wisdom, insight, perspective, and strength IN JESUS' NAME. AMEN. You are NOT doing them any favors by choosing to enable and tolerate their behavior. It is only making matters worse for you and them. And don't let them convince you to go along with their behavior if they say they are doing this because they love you and care about you.

@ambers2783 11 күн бұрын

@@ladennayoung2939 Very well said, I definitely needed to see this. Thank you!

@mariobryant8803 13 күн бұрын

It took me 40 years to realize that my mom didn’t love me at all. She hated me since the day I was born. I got out of there, I’m glad I don’t associate with her anymore. Ya gotta block them.

@ladennayoung2939 11 ай бұрын

OMG. We were discussing this on Easter. A relative of mine was saying she was having an issue with her son. He is in college. And I advised her to be cautious because it can be controlling. Because the way we respond can makes matters worse.

@lisac4375 7 ай бұрын

Quite a few of those points match my parents. They have interfered in my relationships, choices, etc. at all stages of my life. My dad knew one bible verse pretty well though...that children should obey their parents. Imagine hearing that until you are 40-something--until I got saved. At which point I told my dad "no", that I choose to obey God first, and if my earthly father does not allow me to follow the Lord's leading in my life then he is setting himself up as an idol. He suddenly stopped saying that to me and never said it again.

@Som-wv7mm 7 ай бұрын

My mom started micromanaging me from when I was 13 onwards. Most messed up time of my life. Covid-19 pandemic made me stuck with her 24/7. Her justification for is that I made a mistake (people made fun of me for having a parent that overreacted to that situation which could have been solved easily), so she said "my own independent route" is my "path of self-destruction. " I am ashamed to admit I have like zero skills: can't drive a car, can't cook, no work experience, and no friends. She blames these flaws on me and brags that she gained them all herself like an independent woman (because her parents barely cared about what she did). It went to an extent where she quit her job. The only skill I have is being a good high school student - she pokes my flaws even there.

@kiwanypatrick5350 6 ай бұрын

Waw ur situation is so similar to mines 😢

@lindokmo7968 4 ай бұрын

Lets be friends then. Im 37 years old & I also have a similar situation. We need to find some1 who defeated this kind of upbringing bcoz it's very difficult!😢

@Topg1 2 ай бұрын

You are valuable and loved

@johannadelaney5384 9 ай бұрын

I am loving this. You nailed my life. I'm a 34 year old Autistic Adult women. My father was in the army and my mother her own thing. So, long story short my parents try to dictate everything from my clothes, my job occupation and friends. Not saying I'm perfect not by a land slide, but they admitted they sheltered me and are now expecting I become an adult. I ask them questions for guidance and I'm met with anger and 'go fuck off' I want to move out and be my own person, but my father says only after he's dead can I move. I'm now stuck because I know how my parents will react if I move out. I'm depressed and tired of having these little school arguments where I'm always having to apologize for whatever their beef is. One of the most hurtful things my father said to me was ' I can kill you and nobody would fucking care' It hurt me so much and I can't stop thinking 'why does he hate me?' Nothing satisfies him instead of being a father bonding moment I get ' go fuck off I'm busy' Do you have any suggestions or advice because I'm tired of being stressed and made to feel like I was a mistake.

@tatie7604 9 ай бұрын

Get counseling. NOW.

@jcchristian3982 9 ай бұрын

Sweetheart I would not try to have a relationship with him. Pray, keep busy, keep your distance from him. God will make away of escape for you. Take a step back study and do research on narcissistic parents. That will help you to know what to do. Don’t rehash what your father said to you. Fill your mind with what your heavenly father says about you and to you that God loves you. I’m sorry for what you’re going through. Praying for you.

@shonsam5162 8 ай бұрын

Be much in prayer!! God will give wisdom and strength

@the1brippie 8 ай бұрын

The longer you stay in that house, the worse things are going to get. You will have a better chance at establishing a more neutral relationship once you move out and set healthy boundaries. I know it's tough with the economy, but try working in that direction. I started lifting weights to put all my anxiety into something instead of internalizing things bc that's how they can manipulate you. And be as neutral as possible with your parents, especially your dad. Get help with a group, pray, fast, and start saving $$$ if possible. God bless. ❤

@hayleyferguson5284 5 ай бұрын

That’s very abusive behaviour towards you. I’m so sorry 😢

@stepforwardtv1 10 ай бұрын

If we all listen to this, it's an opportunity to make us better versions of ourselves and be a great parent to our children and not spoonfeeding our adults children. The Bible even says that a man will leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife. We have a responsibility to look after our parents but if they are controlling we need to let them know in a respectful way. Then step back a little but we should not withdraw our love and gifts from them while stepping back to help them readjust. Blessings.

@CNorMill2me Ай бұрын

@stepforwardtv1 your msg should be pinned to the top. I think it’s on the rare that people are so ugh that they have to be completely avoided. If we start to take honest looks to see what’s reflecting back, we will see.

@courtneycoleman6284 5 күн бұрын

I'm 44 and just ended up in a knock down drag out fight with my parents and it felt GOOD!!! I'm done with their disrespect and attempts to control. Good bye!!

@boniworldwide 8 ай бұрын

Damn he explained my parents . Yikes .

@Jake38nine Ай бұрын

At 0:55 is exactly how my parents act whenever they're given any form of pushback or criticism. Immediate, "We're just terrible parents then!" and guilt tripping and threatening to disown us. They try to keep us mentally controlled, but they don't want to control our own bills or anything. It's psychotic. If you want to control your child, then pay their bills. Don't still act like this when they're paying their own bills and have proven it for years. I've never asked for anything from my parents that my parents didn't INITIALLY offer. Because I know they will just use it against me if I do ask them for anything. It's sickening. They can't use what they offer you against you though because all you have to say is, "You offered and I took it."

@sassillama9873 7 ай бұрын

I’m late but maybe someone will see this. My mom (she denies everything) was either miserable, screaming, crying, or manically happy. Everything I did as a child was over analyzed and critiqued. In the meanwhile my parents did whatever they wanted and I covered for their affairs. I was fed and clothed, I wish I’d been stronger. I could blame them for being in a dead end job but pay most bills on time, realistically I could have tried more. If I could tell my younger self something I’d have said join the military, they will just as deliberately yell orders but you may walk away with a brighter future. Just get away from toxic parents sooner the better.

@Hifirrrr 4 ай бұрын

I hope you’ll get better❤

@deborahb209 6 ай бұрын

I'm 57 years old and my 82 year old mom is abusive to me for not having grand kids for her. She cuts my hair behind my back. Smears me to people, even in front of me.

@stickerlady1774 6 ай бұрын

Go no contact.

@johnhammertron Ай бұрын

Some of the fits they throw when they don't get their way is truly psycholtic. They get "sneaky" and "clever" to get their revenge. They literally write you out of their wills. Will God help make up for the lost wealth?

@HHAKitty 7 ай бұрын

This man describes my smother mother perfectly. She always pesters me for information and demands that I vote for her candidate and her party. I disagree politically but feel that I cannot express my feelings around my family.

@yeahright007 5 ай бұрын

I want my mother-in-law to see this after she cursed me and told me that God will punish me because she thinks I am toooooo boastful and proud of my achievements when she didn’t got her way with my husband (her son). It is kind of weird and confusing, but the bottom line is, she was not able to control my husband and she thinks I am controlling my husband when he has his own free will, which made her criticize me in any way possible and then curse me and wished ill will towards me.

@rwilkes2441 7 ай бұрын

Yeah I'm debating if I should stop all contact and move away again from my mom

@jl3268 2 ай бұрын

Dont wait another minute. Run.

@Puro_Sol_ 7 ай бұрын

“I want to have a healthy relationship with you. ❤” me, to my parentals

@aprilspark3570 Жыл бұрын

This is such an important message!

@shauntelgill9384 10 ай бұрын

This Video hit the nail on the Head!

@johnmazziott7780 6 ай бұрын

Don’t stop, Pastor Mark! 🔥

@jaymichael91 5 ай бұрын

When we played Yuker, it was always her turn to deal. We loved so much, God Rest Her Soul.

@jasonstrange1490 4 ай бұрын

Mark is one of the best christian therapist out there

@mikesmith6594 2 ай бұрын

You're describing my father he's very disrespectful , manipulative , double standard he thinks he can just run my life . He literally makes everything about him he really lacks empathy ! Ps my father wonders why I have severe depression , anxiety issues , suicidal thoughts , have trouble connecting with or trusting people .

@Russiancaribbeanbride 2 ай бұрын

Yup mine tries to guilt trip me into doing what he wants and control every aspect of my life.

@jenniferrodriguez-qn5sy 9 ай бұрын

Powerful message 🔥

@wisdomwisperer9 Ай бұрын

I’ve basically being guilt tripped all my life as an only child when tryin to make my own decisions I have ruined many things for me. A happy and well planned life They don’t just know their boundaries and that’s not LOVE

@screaminberries9046 4 ай бұрын

Whats terrifying is realizing how abusive your parents are. Its terrifying how he said everything my parents have done or word or word said tocme

@user-or1ns7fk5w 23 сағат бұрын

I am going through a lot and some of this is making so much sense to me 💯 and I really needed to hear this

@teethelowlife5879 5 ай бұрын

I was going to write my struggles with my mom. But reading the comments, I read my story over and over again. Guess I'm not alone. Lost a really great gf because I haven't confronted my mom yet. I'm 34 BTW so kids take a stand as soon as you leave the house. Don't waste 15 years.

@tprophesys5373 5 ай бұрын

🙏🏽

@jonathanstutzman8272 6 ай бұрын

Ahhhmazin .. all of them 🎉 great video

@Catturtlelover3000 5 ай бұрын

My mom got mad at me because I didn’t call my dad for advice regarding a hail damage claim. She recently also complained because she no longer has access to my bank account… I switched my bank account to one not connected to hers a few years ago. I’m in my late 20’s…. When I my boyfriend and I accidentally got pregnant out of wedlock my mom said “what will people think? I never thought this would happen in our family.” 🙄🙄

@kimdisharoon9563 2 ай бұрын

I deal with this everyday. I have slowly learned to just walk away and not respond. It makes it very hard to provide care for that parent when they need help. I could go on, but Pastor will say what needs to be said.

@jessicagp Ай бұрын

Mine are very controlling too but are dependent of me because of health issues. I feel like I can’t set boundaries without being negligent in caring for them and helping them.

@emzyc7482 4 ай бұрын

My mom is like this, she is demanding and wants everything to be done her way.

@williamhamblin4739 2 ай бұрын

Great message

@lo-ul8nq 6 ай бұрын

Both of my parents are like this. They are unbelievers. I am 47 female, I am a parent myself. My parents still try to control me to this very day. They bring up that I gotta obey them. They tell me that I don't raise my children right. I raised my children different then I was raised, and I raise my children to be with Jesus. I treat my children the way I want to be treated. I don't force my children to do things they don't want to do. I know where my priorities are. God is first, them my children . I keep praying for my parents to come to Jesus.

@crystalschweitzer7625 2 күн бұрын

My mother in law causes all the issues in my marrage. Ive always had the freedom to do what i want with my family. They let me be who i am. But she doesnt let my husband do his thing. It's such a struggle.

@This_RuthIsOnFire 7 ай бұрын

Thank you for this. It sounds very familiar. My parents can be completely overbearing, micromanaging and pathologising. I am exhausted. I don’t know how to help it. I love them a lot. I hope that I can find some answers

@hazegrayprepper4396 Ай бұрын

Pastor, you're describing in detail how my parents were with me and my siblings, especially my brother and I (I'm the youngest of 4 siblings). I essentially had to go no contact 😊 my mother for 20 years and limited contact with my father from when I enlisted in the Navy back in 1999 until he passed away in 2005. I didn't see my mother again until 2019, right after I went on terminal leave, but at this point she has been involuntary committed to a facility for elderly people in Puerto Rico. She passed away in 2021. I have forgiven them for the damage they caused to me and my siblings, but some days I think about what they've done and I quickly have to lift it to Jesus so that I don't go down that dark hole again. Believe me when I say this, but I could write a book on how me and my brother grew up and it would amaze people that we didn't wind up on drugs, in jail, or six feet under. Thank you so much for addressing this topic that few choose to discuss and from a Scriptural perspective.

@brendajones5989 5 ай бұрын

Yes, there is no perfect parents, but there are some EVIL ONES too.

@rebeccaschroeder8891 Ай бұрын

THIS IS MY DAD, AND HE DOES THIS WITH ALL SEVEN OF US ADULT CHILDREN, I KEEP MY DISTANCE FOR MANY REASONS BUT THIS LIST TAKES IT!

@chriswalls5831 10 ай бұрын

I'm not gonna be controlled by them or their friends etc

@divinelygiftedco 3 ай бұрын

My ex's parents told me to read boundaries on issues with my mom but when I learned boundaries I learned it with them too and they hated that

@braxtonschans-hr1oe 6 ай бұрын

Thank you!!!

@dross9608 3 ай бұрын

This was my childhood and my early 20s as well. i got kicked out of my parents house im was relief and happy.

@mainakamweru7649 4 ай бұрын

5:31 you'd be surprised. My parents said this despite all their kids being in therapy.

@yungcash8800 7 ай бұрын

Bro hit this on the nail 100 percent

@megansmith9744 4 ай бұрын

How do I send this to my parents without sending it to them?

@erikaschaltenbrand7850 3 ай бұрын

Thank youuuuuu

@TravisAnderson-ys2zx 10 ай бұрын

Yeah sounds out of control

@georgeluke6382 2 ай бұрын

Only thing I don't agree with is 1:21- blessing/curssing is part of God's relationship with us. God blesses us via obedience, and he disciplines us unto the thread of even spiritual death as covenant members, while reminding us of the unconditional nature of the relationship of those who are ultimately in Christ. That said, entirely agree with the major threads in this clip. Maturing your children requires allowing them to begin to walk and make mistakes on their own.

@littlepixel1650 2 ай бұрын

Described my in laws. Omg trauma for life. The only reason I stayed is bc I had no where to go at one point. We moved away and 99 percent of the noise is gone. It only took 14 years. Waste of time. It ruined our relationship forever. My husband and I are doing amazing but his parents- I want nothing to do with. His mother gave me anxiety attacks whenever I saw her. Covert narcissist.

@Jonbutler89 5 ай бұрын

I my name is Jonathan and I have a overbearing parent. Please pray for me and others 🙏

@Topg1 2 ай бұрын

I have two overbearing parents. I can relate. I will definitely pray for you.

@gerryroberts662 6 ай бұрын

I have a parent who is always mvoeing my stuff, i had called the police on them more that once, and they Bs theyre way out of it, This happenes eveyr year, and I perfer not to move my plants, I want to move them to a glass room. Shes wants turkey counter empty on 11.07,2023..i have three weeks.. Am totally burned out, and i dont wannd do shit anymore..

@Russiancaribbeanbride 2 ай бұрын

Move to this state with me just because I say so, when I'm working, married, and 27 years old...

@BjaaHobbies 8 ай бұрын

My husband and i are going through communication issues so strong and it is affecting my health his reasoning is out of this world, and he refuses counselor. My parents: calls us and talks calls his parents to see how they could talk to us and his son because they have tried. My inlaws: believe that they can not be third parties and even if the are ask to inteven they just say we should pray. Even when i tell them that their son does not try to communicate, he refuses to eat, intimacy, frequent anger for NO reason like for real etc. So they think my parents are controlling for asking that their children needs to seek help.and i do not want my husband to insult my family. His father was pretty rough on his mom so i dont know if it is just normal for them in their family. The father keeps saying that we should fix ourself the issue is that my husband is not giving a space for that talk

@jl3268 2 ай бұрын

OMG the triangulation is so harmful. I would get away from ALL of them.

@dawn4999 5 ай бұрын

YES! My MIL!

@patriciacardinale4349 10 ай бұрын

How do you handle this when still living home?

@Bluujay290 11 ай бұрын

I’m 23 years old and my mom is controlling telling my father not to do a certain task to help me cuz I’m refusing a therapist smh for her to guide me to get my life in order smh she stopped him from getting me a car because I wouldn’t seek therapy 💔

@cloud5887 11 ай бұрын

Well you are 23 just buy your own god damn car. Go to work and make some money.

@ThePrairieChronicles 11 ай бұрын

@@cloud5887 Your comment would sound more convincing and credible if you didn't take the Lord's Name in vain.

@user-a6k9i6n9o6M 3 ай бұрын

my opinion doesn't matter to my parents whatever I say they contradicts it

@Russiancaribbeanbride 2 ай бұрын

This is my dad in a nutshell, unbelievable...

@Night_Zero06 3 ай бұрын

Thata why I distance myself

@kunanisilungwe8275 4 ай бұрын

True

@user-fn8hg7cg1y 2 ай бұрын

Any warning should be welcomed IF it comes from a credible source. Driscoll needs to attend to various concerns about his teachings first.

@kkdidwhatable 9 ай бұрын

When adults (kids) are constantly asking for money ... I would think it might be okay to ask why?

@wintermatherne2524 5 ай бұрын

Yep

@Peridot07 5 ай бұрын

Don’t give it to them

@StarrShields-rr7uf Ай бұрын

Amen

@savedbygrace549 2 ай бұрын

6:24 The Bible says be perfect even as Jesus is perfect

@crystalcottrell7518 5 ай бұрын

Which is worse controlling parents or enabling parents?

@wintermatherne2524 5 ай бұрын

Controlling, but some parents contol by infantalising which can be enabling.

@JP-qx2wb 6 ай бұрын

I would have lost it if my in laws (or my parents for that matter ) asked me about my sex life etc… what is wrong with people . I guess my in laws aren’t that bad after all 😂😂😂

@markarca6360 4 ай бұрын

They are starting to show their true colors.

@ladennayoung2939 5 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@creampopz 3 күн бұрын

My 21yo bfs parents are this to a T

@dessy87 2 ай бұрын

I'm not mean...I just do not take crap anymore...I always have to put my mother in her place...AND QUICK! I've kicked her out several times. First, I'll start off with: 1) I'm grown and have my own business, so if that line is crossed, you can get to stepping out of the home I pay for and don't call either. I don't care how you feel about that either. And if you want to bring up how much you sacrificed for me, let me remind you, that IT WAS YOUR CHOICE to have a child and KEEP me, mind you, there was abortion and foster homes...so leave that bull in your mouth and save it for someone who cares. And if your going to say anything about obeying your parents let's also not forget the scripture about don't piss your kids off either. So take that with you as well. Now bye Felicia! Now this is only said when they cross the line, not a daily thing and yes they've been warned.

@Div-8739 7 ай бұрын

Sorry if you know that you are really in a healthy and safe position to move out, you should really move miss you are no more their baby girl , you are an adult woman.