10 things men ACTUALLY want for Christmas; that women don't understand

Today I share the 10 things men ACTUALLY want for Christmas that women don't understand. and yes guys, you'll probably still get a grill brush.

[@98grad]

I don’t think women truly understand the physical touch desire that men have. I’m not talking about sex. I’m talking about the woman initiating a hug, sitting next you on the couch and touching you on the leg. Rubbing the back of your neck or head. Just simply being present, and showing how much you care by showing that affection through physical touch. If you do that consistently a man will take on the world for you!

[@jimstand]

The "things" you listed are better than any Christmas gift, ever. And they cost nothing.

[@Dan-hk3ge]

Nailed that one!

[@granitegreg7883]

This!! This morning I woke super early as I always do but just laid there for a while and my wife just grabbed ahold of my arm and running her fingers through my hair. That was amazing for me. She does do stuff like enough. Guys are expect to be tough and emotionless most of the time because we just bury it deep but something as simple as a touch from your significant other means the world to us.

[@brandyolsen3970]

I live for those things in a relationship. It's one of my favorite things.

[@ChaseSpacey]

any girl that does these things is the perfect partener.

[@steveroberts728]

No socks, no underwear, no scarves, no Christmas jumpers, no silly hats but above all, peace & quiet. For one day, no whining, no complaining, no scowling, no moaning, no bitching, no snide comments, no sarcasm, no arguing, just peace and quiet. Is that too much to ask for, just one day.

[@wiktorwektor123]

I'm not opposed to gifts, but if I would have choice between: 1) Gifts and drama 2) No gifts and no drama I would always pick second option. Piece of mind is worth more for me than any gift I could get. I'ts pricless.

[@jarichards99utube]

Christmas Day as "all, peace & quiet...." Yep...!!! 🙂 👍 -70SomethingGuy

[@sket179]

I think you need to get out of that relationship. Those shouldn't be the default settings

[@billsattic]

I keep telling my family just that and I remind them over and over again. This is why I like taking hikes in parks on a week day. Peace and quiet is so underrated.

[@mr.dynamite2543]

Wow. God, I love being single.

[@Jason1Pa]

The best gift my wife could give me is to NOT spend money during the holidays. That is the ultimate gift!!

[@sasapetroski981]

But if she spent money on you then you will be in good mood

[@WhackyRavenLand]

@@sasapetroski981 I for one do not want presents. My perfect Christmas is staying at home, preferably alone. Due to family and friends passing away during Christmas over the years, I really despise Christmas as a whole.

[@billsattic]

An underrated comment. I would have tears of joy if my wife bought absolutely nothing. A nice night by the fireplace is more than enough.

[@Michael020]

Maybe u shouldn't have married someone who not a materialistic shopper...duh Bet she doesnt work either

[@WhackyRavenLand]

@@Michael020 to whom are you responding?

[@brigidwell]

Our father when he was alive started a tradition of us not exchanging gifts for the large family gathering at his house - it was so amazing and made Christmas something to look forward to. There was plenty of food, good music, decorations, and just catching up.

[@chrismay2298]

Been trying to implement this for decades. Alas, I'm the only one not obsessed with currency and material junk.

[@chrisclark5204]

We have a family get together along the same lines, we do give gifts to those under the age of 16 of which there are only a few. For us adults it's more about spending time with family.

[@alphagt62]

This year I only bought gifts for my 3 year old niece and nephew. Everyone else gets a bottle of their favorite.

[@strawberryme08]

The gift thing can really ruin it 😬

[@jasonjones4941]

As a husband of 3+ decades, a father of six, and a grandfather of six (so far) I mostly agree with your list, especially the spending it with my wife, children, and grandchildren. A good bottle of whiskey and good cigars would be nice, but that's about it. About the hoodies...they always look better on her anyway so that's a win too.

[@jonathanbuzzard1376]

How do you do the grandparents and kids seeing their cousins think without the visiting thing? That's why IMHO the visiting thing is not actually correct especially if you have kids. So me the kid that does not want to see their grandparents and cousins over the Christians holidays and then show me the good father that does not want tot make his kids happy. As a kid I would have been so disappointed not to see my grandparents and cousins over Christmas and unless you all live in the same town/city that's going to mean some visiting.

[@jasonjones4941]

@jonathanbuzzard1376 not sure I'm following you Jonathan. All I can say is what I enjoy. My kids and grandchildren all live within a few miles of us. The wife cooks a big Christmas dinner (I help) and we all we all watch a fun movie afterward.

[@Seetiyan]

Congratulations to you, man. That's awesome.

[@jasonjones4941]

@@Seetiyan Thanks. I'm not sure why she keeps me around. Lol

[@kennethos8089]

What I don’t want (but she always does) is drama, some emotional mess, which she’s the center of, yet completely innocent in all of it. So wanting peace (and intimacy), but never getting it, because drama is her oxygen.

[@dianacharboneau]

Thats tok bad im sorry to hear that. I would rather stay home with my puppy than deal with that. This year its just me n the pup because everyone lives to far away now so im just pretending that thanksgiving and Christmas dont exist this year and prob quite a few to come Happy Holidays to you hopefully you get some of you Christmas wishes filled anyway, what a surprise that would be! ❤️

[@jerkeeman363]

Sounds like my holidays! Hang in there brother the holidays will be over soon and then it's back to just the "normal" drama. The last 2 Christmas days I've went fishing by myself. I think this year I'll go sit in the woods. It helps a little.

[@drewt8138]

"Drama is her oxygen" 😮😮Sounds like you need a trade-in for Christmas

[@hymancooper9817]

You are so on the mark.. ALWAYS❤

[@katemiller5990]

Peace and intimacy. What beautiful things to want.

[@timothyhites7016]

I want a woman who understands men as much as Emily does.

[@atenleggedninja]

Her man is truly lucky. Not many women think like this. Hopefully her videos will make more of them come around to this way of thinking.

[@KyleTrimbach-ih5bx]

@@atenleggedninja I wonder what her ex was thinking. 🤔 Or perhaps much or her wisdom comes from dealing with him. 🤷

[@lucylululululu]

Ain't that the fuckn truth 100%

[@hoedemakerbart]

Good luck 😂

[@missfits78]

We are out here😊

[@Highway-Hobo]

The only one that really matter, is just be happy and don't ruin the day. Bring peace to the relationship and he will value you more than you know

[@user-iy6de7qi1r]

I didn't think a woman could know this, but she's exactly right. I'm a great grandfather now, and those are the things I still want, and it's now my daughter and her other half, that need to fulfill the desire, with the great grandchildren, eight and six.

[@MOstix13]

You’ve definitely been paying attention to what your man wants. We’re fairly simple to understand to women who care enough to listen. Very nicely done!

[@RobertMorgan]

People tell you what they want if you listen. Example: my next-younger sister, went over to her house for a birthday party and brought homemade pie as I do, she asked me specifically about using my KitchenAid mixer for them, how well does it work, do I use it a lot...fast forward to a month later, she visits my house, we're in the kitchen, she comments again about the mixer... So I jump in the group chat with the OTHER siblings and say "She's asked twice now about my mixer, so, what color mixer should I get her for Christmas?" Now, I see that as a hint only because I've known my sister 30 years, her entire life, I held her 10 minutes after birth. But a stranger, naw, I'd have never gotten that hint in a lifetime. it's like the new girl you're talking to, if she brings up anything more than once, that's their version of screaming what they want in your face. "My friends did this last week....my other friends did that same thing the other day....my sister went to that place also yesterday"...Do YOU want to go do that same thing you've been telling me everyone else is doing? YES, I thought you'd never ask, I love your idea of us going!"

[@johncavanaugh6481]

It’s not a gift you wrap. But I personally really appreciate the wife doing Christmas decorations and making the house sort of festive and a bit of a reminder of when I was a kid. It puts me in a good mood and sets the tone for the holidays.

[@robertschilling8217]

Very good list. I especially like #5 "knowing my wife is happy". Hearing her laugh and knowing it's because her life is good and she feels secure is sweet, sweet music to my ears.

[@davelb87]

The best gifts for men usually involve time and practicality. Growing up, my dad’s Christmas gift every year was something he would pick out for the family. One year it was a stereo, several others it was a post-Christmas family trip. One year, his father in law was planning on reroofing the house the following spring. Against the advice of mom, dad got him a massive box of roofing nails, which he loved! On the don’t buy side: tools, hobby supplies, or anything else where he knows way more about the subject than you. We know exactly what we want/need next, the brand, model, and specific modifications. Unless he gives you the exact thing to get at Home Depot, it’s best to not try to read his mind.

[@goldenhate6649]

To followup on the second half, give them a giftcard for their favorite place to buy tools, or their favorite hobby store if you want to go that route

[@dianacharboneau]

I AGREE 1000%!! Lets not forget how visual most men are! I gifted my husband a jar full of 'cuopons" with all the specific things/ acts that he verbally specified enjoying the most ! Even ones i did not care for, because sometimes love IS about sacrifice. One if his other fav gifts from me was from out first valentines day. I tried to just throw this in randomly on no special occasion days. Let me say first i am very poor body image so i prefer to be fully dressed at all times lol i bought a little french maid outcits with black fishnet stockings and all. I bought rose petals and left a trail from the front door to the bedroom and threw a bunch across the top of rhe bed then i put hersheys kisses on the floor making a trail to the bathroom door where i was supposedly kissing the ground he walks up/ showering him with kisses i light candles in a masculine scent all over the bathroom i ran him a hot bath put on my maid outfit and touched up my make up made sure my hair was down they way he loved it and i met him at the door and had him sit in the living room where i remived his over the knee logging boot ( though laces never stop!!) I handed him a rare stiff drink told him the kids are gone til tomorrow and I'm giving you your bath n washing your hair. Afterwards i will give you a nice massage and the rest of the evening is yours to be enjoyed. He loved every second of it! We would eventually order take out n he didn't mind for one night that i didn't cook. . Sometimes i guess he would get lonely in that bathtub while he was being bathed because several times over the years he would reach out n before i would know it i would be in the tub with him!!!😂❤️😂 he was in an accident 3 yrs ago while at work which took his life we were married almost 10 yrs and what i wouldnt do to hear his laugh again.. but these are the type if thihgs they love! If you use the coupon jar you get to decide when the jat can be used because ut gas to be a time n place with no kids, no rush ,no headache lol loved this video

[@JM-db8ez]

That's a helluva wall of text and FYI, cool that you agree 1000% as a woman...but as a man, this list has issues. Some items are fine, others are not so good, and a couple are just tone deaf. But you know, different strokes for different folks. Maybe some men agree with all this, they have pretty low expectations I suppose which doesn't say anything positive for their wife/family. If what you want most is a chair and to be left alone at Christmas--just how depressing is the rest of the year? Yep.

[@matthewandrews3883]

I think that's amazing that you knew him so well and what he liked or enjoyed. Great list. You sound like a great woman. Sorry for your loss.

[@grapevine9595]

Diana - what an uplifting story and God bless you for being you - a WOMAN/WIFE/FRIEND/ and well bit of a dirty girl too! lol I am so sorry for your loss. You keep your chin up and keep on living lady! He would want that for you. Cheers. RV

[@user-iy6de7qi1r]

I reckon your man knows how special you think he is, I hope he considers you just as special, great grandfather speaking here.

[@EyeSee4.8]

That is awesome, Dana. Cheers to you and your husband have a merry Christmas.

[@karlpierce3035]

I would like a woman to understand how much time it takes out of life to support her and the family and I do it out of love.

[@jez0508]

I disagree with "the way to a mans heart is through his stomach". For me its through my kids, I can always cook or make me some good ass food but my kids is what brings me the greatest happiness. Nothing better then being a dad!

[@Ali-coder92]

Well, say i guess. The greatest happiness should be u.

[@HandsomePutin]

Love language is commonly food, it means someone cares enough about if I'm eating if I'm healthy, it means she considered me even when I come home late and I'm filthy. Personally food is huge to me and her home cooking is completely the greatest way to make me feel happy.

[@donotrobme9295]

Kids bring joy. If the wife is raising em right then we get to enjoy em more. And enjoy em earlier. I know a lot of dads that have to wait til their children ate adults

[@AndrewTheFrank]

I get what you're saying I think the saying is a bit misplaced but kind of right on track. its not that a man having food will be happy. It is that if the woman is willing to make food for him then its sort of a sign of genuine desire. There are other ways to show this though.

[@jasonturner2206]

Yes there is, not being a dad…😉

[@georgeeads8689]

Girl you hit it on the head. If this truly how you feel your man is truly blessed.

[@anthonyjordanmoviesandmore2470]

A lot of Misses at this point I don't have kids and I've made peace with the fact I never will I don't want another relationship in my life I hate hoodies I don't drink alcohol so I would actually be pretty upset if someone gave me liquor as a gift Lol not a bad list but pretty much none of these apply to me in any way shape or form

[@MikeBeam-mi8jo]

The best thing for me is to see my wife and kids laughing, there is nothing better. That's when I know that I have helped them feel secure and safe...

[@ShOoToSpill]

THIS☝

[@DaveL9170]

Emily. NOT to the beach. To the mountains!!!!!

[@kcculp6430]

He wants to come home to a loving & peaceful house. He wants a kiss and a hug at the door. He doesn't want his wife to dump all of her problems on him the minute he walks in the door. He wants to be able to relax, have a drink and read / watch the news before dinner.

[@dontstalkmedeltoro8816]

That's why i call my husband while he is at work to resolve issues. That way, when we do get home after work, we already dealt with the list of inevitable things that need to be handled.

[@marieroxylox1456]

@@dontstalkmedeltoro8816 I call him during his drive home.

[@deltoro8816]

Don’t waste ur time with “please don’t stalk me”. She blames men…. For everything…. Misandry as philosophy.

[@Dmepps]

It is true… “please don’t stalk me”…. Blames men… for everything… misandry as philosophy

[@playdg]

Watching the news won't let anyone relax.

[@Infindibulator1]

Spot on, I would be incredibly happy with that list. The one thing I really would want is for my wife to want to reconnect emotionally and show me any kind of affection again, I so miss the connection we used to have.

[@SapphireKid-zh3up]

😔

[@theeshark7038]

Seriously, the time to relax at home, without the expectation of spending the day running around here to there visiting people - you hit the nail on the head. After working like crazy, I just want time to decompress and veg out for a day, let the kids open their gifts and play. Enjoy the time with my family without any commitments.

[@gpj5366]

The Ultimate Christmas gift, every men dreams about, is a good woman: loyal, honest and respectful. If a man gets this Special One then helping with cooking, cleaning and laundry is not an issue at all. That Special Gift is worth more than anything else combined. Too much to ask for in 2023, Santa ? :-)

[@SlideRulePirate]

The 'Socks' thing is not only a good idea but is much underrated. I can't be the only one to think that putting on a pair of brand new, quality, correct sized socks for the first time is a distinct pleasure. After a good breakfast and with good socks under good boots a man can take on the world.

[@shotsatwhitetails3289]

AMEN!

[@RobertMorgan]

Injinji Toe Socks. I just changed your life for the spectacular, and you are welcome. Yes they're $12-20/pair. Yes they wear out fast. Yes they're amazing and worth all of that.

[@dontstalkmedeltoro8816]

My whole family LOVES socks for Christmas. At this point I think we all look forward to it.

[@deltoro8816]

Don’t waste you time with “please don’t stalk me” she blames men….. for everything. Misandry as philosophy

[@Dmepps]

It is true “please don’t stalk me” will blame men… for everything… misandry as philosophy.

[@Devo491]

I bullied my first wife into giving me a good socket set for a wedding gift. She really didn't like the idea, but,50-something years later, I still use the tools almost every week, and I always remember her when I open the box. It's a bitter-sweet memory, but hey! 50 years down the track, I'm still thinking of her....

[@richardfehr1838]

NO to tools or other "men's gifts" from Marshalls or TJ Max. YES to tools that I specify, I usually try to be cost-conscious and specific. NO to big complicated meals that result in grumpiness, tiredness and hard feelings and/or tears. I'd rather find a Chinese restaurant (Christmas Story) or even Denny's, just so there are no recriminations later. Generally for me Christmas is my least favorite holiday because of all the baggage attached to it, unmet expectations, and the like. This is odd because as a Christian I should think this is the best or second best after Easter.

[@spamhere1123]

Don't feel too guilty about not liking Christmas much as a Christian. It's a fake holiday anyway. It is very unlikely Christ was born on December 25, and most of what we now celebrate as Christmas is actually a pagan holiday celebrated by Germanic peoples called Yule--the Catholic church just straight up stole it and changed the names. And boy howdy, is it a PAGAN holiday. Lots of weird wiccan/satanist/astrological stuff.

[@user-yh2ft4nx7t]

You and I think exactly alike. I was telling a friend today that this should be a time of joy and happiness, but instead, has turned into a time of stress and anxiety. My favorite holiday now is the fourth of July because it's warm, I can cook outside, days are long, we get together with friends & fireworks, and most of all, there is no expectation to get gifts for anyone.

[@FlamingCockatiel]

I think it hasn't helped that non-believers have hijacked it and taken depth from the giving of gifts. I know little about your particular situation, but I wish for you and your family that the peace of God will help you strike a good balance each Christmas and thank Him for the gift of salvation, which brings depth to all other gifts flowing therefrom.

[@user-yh2ft4nx7t]

Thank you and I wish the same for you and yours. 🙂@@FlamingCockatiel

[@georgefeliu2383]

What I don't want is nagging, crying, or a "You don't love me" later in the day because after all the gifts are opened something doesn't go your way."

[@seismicwhale5371]

This^^^ jesus christ dude i feel that. They always have a complaint no matter what its never enough.

[@jeremywhittington7605]

The number one thing men want is an M203 grenade launcher(yes, they are perfectly legal to own). However, when I asked my wife for one… she said”ABSOLUTELY NOT”, I feel I’ve been good all year, and deserve a grenade launcher, but apparently my wife is trying to ruin Christmas. Update… my wife finally saw the error of her ways, and is accepting the fact that I do indeed, deserve a grenade launcher. Let this be a beacon for husbands out there, with a little persistence… you can win!

[@michaelblacktree]

Dang, I had to buy my own.

[@jeremywhittington7605]

@@michaelblacktree that’s terrible, you have much to learn… do need to tell you the story about”The Old Bull and the Young Bull” lol?

[@STMARTIN009]

😂😂😂

[@Brad_Myers]

I was cracking up when you got to #1. That's the exact SAME thing I've been asking for for over a decade!

[@johndesousa7379]

My number one Christmas present would be to avoid Christmas all together. Send me to an uncharted Island and leave me there until January.

[@davidcox3076]

Better specify a tropical island or they'll send you to Greenland.

[@dannpurvis]

Wow-this lady gets it. Mine did about 10 years ago and we are enjoying each other and life much more. Thank God.

[@ragingbull3406]

We want #1 and #2 year round!

[@KS-yb1wq]

I liked the coupons! I kept very good track of what I had and used them throughout the year. The coupons were so popular, I started getting them for my birthday and of course Valentine's day.

[@dontstalkmedeltoro8816]

Our kids used coupons to make gifts for my husband on fathers day. I couldn't imagine needing something that should be normal everyday stuff, is now a gift. So strange.

[@KS-yb1wq]

The coupons were from my wife to only me. Generally redeemable in the bedroom. Make sense now? Unless you consider that normal everyday stuff.@@dontstalkmedeltoro8816

[@Johann-uc9sn]

@@dontstalkmedeltoro8816 You do know what they coupons thing was for in this video?

[@dontstalkmedeltoro8816]

@@Johann-uc9sn well...I assume it's more adult centric activities. But I get the point. I guess if a relationship is lacking variety and consistency in this department, the coupon thing makes sense. My kids used to make them with chores, dinner or other little things that. So that's what I think of when people mention "coupons" as a gift.

[@deltoro8816]

Don’t bother with “please don’t stalk me” she blames men for everything… misandry as philosophy

[@natedanger7841]

You hit the nail on the head with all those points. We just want to be love, appreciated, and enjoy the holiday with not much stress. Those are the days we work hard for. 🥘 🍺 🍑 ☮️

[@ImTrans-Former]

The only thing I could add is 2 hours game session uninterrupted with the homies.

[@Xx.bygracethrufaith]

fantastic idea

[@newpatchincoming6574]

4 hour

[@sarn9044]

I can get 3-4 hours play time whenever I want... As long as it's after 11pm and she's asleep, and I'm okay with going on 2-3 hours sleep for work the next day. 😋

[@brokeboy87]

@@sarn9044 Well you are a savage

[@sarn9044]

@@brokeboy87 Or a masochist. Jury is still out. 😂😂

[@AFmedic]

The BEST Christmas gift I ever got was the the time when my wife (unbeknownst to me) arranged to have the kids spend the afternoon with her parents and after they left she said, "you have one more gift to unwrap" and then placed a bow on her head. Sure enjoyed slowly removing the wrappings on that gift. 😛😍

[@cesarb714]

Food and sex. Pretty straight-forward 😂 Not having to go to gatherings would be nice also.

[@chillydawgg4354]

Full stomach, empty balls

[@n9wff]

I would adore affection, touch, and appreciation. The last twenty years (except two) have been around her side of the family. The other two were distance-related. We couldn't attend. I abhor Christmas now. Her side is always trying to impress each other, getting loud, and pointing to self. My wife spends more effort on them than her own family. We're ignored. It is the most lonely time for me. Two weeks to go and the depression slowly creeps in.

[@chunkyd5880]

Full stomach. Empty balls. We're not complicated.

[@maaimachinedefrance513]

Always well spoken, short shots of truth spoken from a woman who understands men. We all appreciate this very much.

[@SonUhAhGun]

Just give him 12-48 coupons for the “You know what” and ignore everything else… No matter your man… That would trump everything she mentioned and it is free… And honor those dang coupons! Do not get a hoodie for yourself and give it to him and expect him to feel loved 😂

[@mattwaters6987]

You are spot on Emily. Merry Christmas! 🎄😊

[@ryanmalone2681]

My wife gets so stressed around Christmas we all have to walk on egg shells and she always blows up at me. We all just try to prevent her from ruining Christmas. Her chilling out would be the best.

[@seismicwhale5371]

Can confirm dude. Same here. The volatile ones really test our commitment to our kids. Hang in there.

[@nicolevose3066]

Every year, my husband and I pool our money to purchase something that we can enjoy together.

[@cs_yt]

Emily have us mapped! In my case, I don't want any stuff, I buy them myself, but love that my kids(now grown, but still do) bake my favorite cookies and my wife prepare my favorite dish, from her repertoire(I cook too). It shows they put the effort.

[@StevenAbbott]

I told my wife I wanted 800 sq ft of new hardwood floor to replace our old carpets for Christmas. She gave it to me and I just finished installing it. Married 47 years

[@dontstalkmedeltoro8816]

You're a good man.

[@Dmepps]

Don’t bother…. “Please don’t stalk me” comes here to troll…. Blames men…. For everything …… misandry as philosophy

[@deltoro8816]

It is true…. “Please don’t stalk me”… will blame men…. For the everything…. Misandry as philosophy

[@LordTaos]

This list was spot on. My wife is always trying to get us to travel home for the holidays (14 hour drive.. flying is too expensive with 4 kids) and I cannot tell you how long it has been since she gave me "certificates", probably at least 10 years ago, nope, longer than that, probably about 15 years.

[@markcarpenter6020]

Know the feeling. When me and my ex were married we never spent a single Christmas in our own house. We had to drive and visit her family every year. She finally promised me we would finally spend Christmas at home.....the year we divorced.

[@The2ndFirst]

10- Mostly true. 9- Absolutely. 8- Depending on what he drinks. If he's a single malt scotch drinker this is a thing. You have to be careful with rum because the different bases (sugar cane as opposed to rum) can make a HUGE difference. Best to know which brand he likes and get the top of the line of that brand. A little discreet research well before had does wonders. Men that like spirits that have higher ends LOVE to talk about what they drink. 7- Depends. For the most part yes. If he's the outdoorsey type merino wool socks are top of the line hiking socks. 6- Simple things are important. 5- A nice smile a hug and a genuine thank you for providing is a good thing. 4- That's solid advice. 3- That's reasonable. 2- The cupon idea is always good. 1- 5 ties in with this.

[@lngsrp4612]

Got to say about the traveling, you are correct. Taking it one step further, our present to each other is a trip to the beach between Christmas and New Years, with the idea that we can eat or drink whatever we want. Leave our (adult w/ special needs) son at home with a caregiver, and it great (especially for her) to not have to manage the day to day routine. We can chill, go out to the beach, watch bowl games, whatever we want. And I send links periodically to items that I would like in case her mother is stuck with what to get me, so it's win-win.

[@ellinganderson5434]

As a husband of 40 years, a father of three, and a grandfather nine my best gift is to have my kids and grandkids over to celebrate Christmas.

[@rouroux69]

My ex gave me coupons for christmas and it definitely was my favorite gift of all time.

[@michaelclark2458]

Have to ask. Hopefully you cashed them all in before the break up. Otherwise that would be a really awkward cash in.

[@johncavanaugh6481]

One other gift suggestion is personal shopper. I will occasionally tell my wife what kind of clothes item I want, like a north face pullover (not hoodie). She will then go shopping (which is a win win since she loves shopping) buy 4-5 different options, bring them home and I’ll check them out. If I like one I keep it and she returns the rest. It avoids shopping for me, which I generally hate…

[@haludan111]

Spot on, on wanting to not go anywhere. Every holiday, we pack up and go, and I hate it, my home is my space, I like it, I have made it what I like.

[@zazuradia]

I would (very respectfully) argue every point with one single argument. Yes, there were points made, but there also were stuff that me personally don't like, and i know people who also wouldn't. So my argument is: What men want for christmas is THAT gift that would make them say "OMG! You know me so well!!" Because nothing feels more perfect than someone who actually listens to you, cares about you, and wants to see you happy. And if she goes out of her way to make you happy, after all that time... man, she's the one.

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

I do that every gift lol That’s my goal Oh man, she listens to me, she knows me! YAY

[@kevincaruthers5412]

My husband is so hard to buy for... . Sweetie, that is because you don't want to give him what he really wants. It's always the right size, the right color, and will never be returned to the store. No receipt necessary! And the next time you need to get him a present, you can give him the same thing... AGAIN! And he will be just as happy... again. Guys really are easy to please, if you want to please us.

[@user-pn6vv1lv7x]

What I want least is Christmas being stressful. Since years, at Christmas my wife starts alreads days earlier with baking, cooking preparations and decoration. And while I appreciate this effort, I would be much happier, if we didn't have perfect food and perfect decoration, but a real holiday without that many obligations and instead a calm athmosphere. The last years Christmas felt like 1 day before a deadline at a super critical project on my job ... I tried to tell her a few times, but it seems, she doesn't understand this, because it's the same every year.

[@SarNati]

Rum! an excellent choice. And yes, #1 is more about the connection and fun intimacy than the act itself. I think this is genuinely true for good men most of the time.

[@user-un3zu6cg7p]

❤ oh Emily my wife bought me sweaters for years a Christmas time and she always made sure they look good with her outfits and she usually wore them more than me that's a grand slam on that one

[@ronniecordova8706]

Just want to feel appreciated that day by the wife for who I am to her and not disappointed for what I'm not.

[@erics902]

Just found this channel in last few days. Love it so far.

[@SgtFury2007]

I love your videos! They make me feel like there is hope!

[@stefanschuh2957]

The things I want on holidays. Peeps for Easter, candy corn for Halloween, Eggnog in the winter season. Turkey and pumpkin pie for Thanksgiving and Lasagna for Christmas. yes I want to be at home, though the only one that shares my holidays is my cockatoo. No nagging, no bugging me for family gatherings. I hate crowds.

[@Mind_ConTroll]

We want to be left the fuck alone. The best part of being a single father is my kids understanding that on holidays, I just want to not be bothered.

[@SageKasuto]

Wow. So insightful! Thanks for sharing how we feel.

[@jarhart]

This, like the rest of your content, is spot on. I do have a nitpick about #5. Absolutely I want my wife to be be happy, but not simply for a peaceful day. I want her to be happy because I love her and it brings me joy. Making the day peaceful is just icing.

[@led0073]

Just to have been spent some time with. I didn't get any Christmas gifts in 11 years of marriage, and since divorce, I've stayed alone for 12 years. But the thing I wanted and still miss more than anything is to just have chilled out together. A movie, snacks, and a cuddle on the sofa, with a nice bottle of wine or a single malt whiskey. The lights out and a candle flickering away. maybe I'll do better in the next life. I'm 50 this year, and I feel it's just not meant for me this time around, oh well!

[@RobertMorgan]

Single unmarried childless man here, what I always want for the holidays, and I'm being vulnerable here because it's sappy as fuck, is to just for a minute have ALL my siblings in one place, together where we can see each other and ideally group hug. I'm the only brother of 5 kids and the dead middle child, two older twin sisters, two younger sisters, we range from 56 to 25, so we all have lives and work and businesses and kids, so to get everyone together at once has gotten so rare, I cherish those moments. When you're basically a loner alone in the world, used to a big family, they're all I have in the world. Men only want one thing and it is kinda disgusting: seeing other people you care about happy, even if it's at your own expense.

[@Maksim16-lm8kz]

Number 1 is so absolutely right. We don't really want anything else, just her and that bow.

[@jonlanier_]

Your first one... absolutely. When we got married 36 years ago my wife and I decided to do Christmas day... all by ourselves. We started our own traditions especially when the kids came along. We still went to our families for "Christmas" but it was not on Christmas day.

[@montymartin3978]

One of the best Christmas "gifts" my ex gave me, when we were living together.... she woke me up with an "offer I couldn't refuse". We were going to her family's Christmas later that day, and would have her two children, so no complaints for an early morning romp. The second best gift she gave me, was... a divorce. No more "black Friday" shopping. If she would have woke me up about an hour earlier, the same way as she did with that "gift", I might not have been so grumpy about going shopping. I didn't mind being woke up for that, but to go shopping? Much better things to do that early in the morning. Like sleeping! Then, waking up to a good romp.

[@dontstalkmedeltoro8816]

You didn't have to go shopping. Lol 😊

[@deltoro8816]

Don’t waste your time with “please don’t stalk me” she blames men… for everything….. Misandry as philosophy

[@Dmepps]

It is true… “please don’t stalk me” blames men… for everything…. Misandry as philosophy!!

[@RJhobbs99]

Me: I'd like a girlfriend. That'd be a nice start. 😂

[@ShawnKibel]

HOLY HELL! Emily, you're a rockstar. How in the hell did you come up with this list?!?!?!? I couldn't have come up with this myself, but I kept coming up with YEP, YEP, YEP, YEP, YEP, YEP, YEP, YEP, YEP, YEP. Very well done. I don't know what research you did to come up with this list, but you nailed it!

[@Leilani_2024]

I would add uninterrupted game time. Keep the kids busy and pop in every few hours to refill drinks and bring food. My husband's schedule doesn't allow him to play as much as he used to, so any opportunity to play for hours on end is a treat.

[@FOXFIRE1111]

If the majority of women had a fraction of Emilys insights, there would be far fewer divorces. So many women simply are not wife material. They love themselves far more than the man they married as their actions support on a daily basis. NICE PRESENTATION EMILY.

[@Darkwolfsbane]

Something for the next one, the last thing we want (any time but around Christmas especially) is unnecessary drama/nagging.

[@61countdown]

It's nice for a man to feel appreciated and that it was all worth it. Even if only once in a while. It reminds me of that line "I'd walk a mile for one of your smiles." Numbers one and two would definitely come with a smile. On both sides.

[@JoshGalindo58]

You absolutely killed it on this list, thank you for saying it. 😂

[@TKA322]

WOW! As a man, this was outstanding. I was curious and you surprised me for sure. Every pic was good. We always like tools, so I was expecting the material things on here, but your choices were the real thing, besides we do not want someone picking out tools for us, and women have not a clue in tools. So I agree that everything on this list belongs there. I did score once when my neighbor lady ask me what to get him (materialistically), I told her the model number of the top Weber gas grill, ...score! Problem was that I could smell all the wonderful smells....ha

[@rvail136]

All I want for Christmas is to have a woman tell me she was proud of me. I'm 61. Married twice to cheaters...divorced twice. Just want a woman to say she was proud of me. Never happened so far...

[@MartinCanada]

That's tough bro. Been there. Stay strong.

[@stupidtookmynick]

well....I know it's not ME you want to hear this from, but I am proud of you for getting out of 2 bad relationships. I'm proud that even after that first marriage and divorce, you were strong enough to try again. And I am proud that you didn't just settle for a cheater, but instead decided that YOUR happiness and mental health is worth more. You still have time to find that woman who will adore you and thank you for being her man. Just.....never stop taking care of yourself and living your life to the fullest, the way that makes YOU happy. You deserve it.

[@WBFH1421]

Thank you! I just sent this to my wife! Merry Christmas!!!

[@Natoflyboy]

Why is it so hard to believe this. You nailed Christmas ideas for men. Just want her to be happy!

[@nathanielmoore87]

I indulged my ex and helped her with her hobbies and interests many times, but I wish she had been more understanding of mine. In our 10 years, she only helped me once with something I was truly passionate about. I knew she could not care less about it, but having her there meant the world to me. As far as gifts go, that was the best. As for socks and underwear, I'd rather not get something I need and would be buying anyway. That's not the worst that could happen though. The worst is when she gave me a gift that was actually for her. Case in point: The TV I never got to use.

[@RobertMorgan]

the love I want looks something like this, "I don't care where we go or what we do, as long as I'm doing it with YOU that's good enough". With that mindset even chemotherapy could be an ok time. The worst thing you can imagine happening to someone can be quite mitigated with SUPPORT.

[@YeshuaKingMessiah]

I got a Bluetooth I didn’t want a Bluetooth It was for him to be able to be at me even while driving Then I had to pay for dogfood for his dog as he had had to put the food $ in for half the Bluetooth (this was 2015). I pd for half my gift I had no intention of using and had told him I did not want in fact. Thank You, God I never married him. I give awesome gifts 🤓

[@kry0-c00per2]

I don't have a woman any more, but yes this is what I would love to have.

[@lyndycranson6786]

Right on, especially the last one.

[@cygnuspmc]

Married 27 years. List is accurate. I would offer that while I agree with good whiskey/drink, some don't/shouldn''t/can't, in which case a "man shop" card for a favorite hobby could swap in with the same effect. Men are surprisingly simple creatures - acknowledge them and appreciate them for who and what they are, and they will John Wick the world for you.

[@jfv65]

Emily is right about the hoodie. Many men don't really mind that their wife or girlfriend wears their hoodie. In fact there are lots of men who find it kinda s**y. As for peace and quiet. Over here in the Netherlands we have a practical solution for that: we have 2 Christmas days: the first usually at home with our own family. The second is spent visiting parents and inlaws.

[@9983sp]

Many men don't wear hoodies, and don't want our clothes being taken.

[@dianacharboneau]

I love that ! 2 desperate days! What a brilliant solution 💯❤️

[@RobertMorgan]

As a man, you have a responsibility to have plenty of hoodies on hand to negate shortages. I like Columbia gear, I have probably a dozen of those hoodies, none of them my favorite, really like Marmot hoodies, they have the best 'hood shape', but my favorite favorite is my Patagonia heavy pullover, it's the warmest and it's huge because it was from when I was 307lbs, think it's a 2XL, I wear a medium now at 175 so it's like a wearable blanket, so cozy, I can even wear my body armor plate carrier under it. I'm the only brother to 4 sisters, I'm used to having my clothes stolen.

[@andersnielsen6044]

The day my wife shows up in a hoodie - the marriage is over.

[@Johann-uc9sn]

I don't care what clothes she wears as long as it is where it is and available when I want to wear it. I am 6'4 230, so her 5'10 130 can't really wear my clothes well. She just wears it around the house when it is cold. We figured out how to celebrate Christmas with something similar. We have extended family obligations on some day and then we do our Christmas on Christmas day.

[@tuxedobob2]

Responses: #10: I'd rather see my parents while they're still alive, and I'd rather see her parents if it makes her happy. #9: I just wear a coat. Don't need hoodies. #8: I don't care about alcohol. I could go for a soda? But yeah, I relate to the "not wanting to spend money on ourselves." #7: Well, I just bought socks and underwear not too long ago, but if there's something you want to see him in, go for it. #6: Yes, absolutely. Nobody opens gifts until I wake up. #5: Again, yes, 100%. Ladies, if you open your gift and like it, show it with a smile on your face. That's what he's really hoping for. #4: Okay, she's starting to track here. Yeah, once the gifts are all done, can we chill for a while? #3: Who doesn't want good food? #2: I mean, obviously. I'm a little torn on the "coupons", because let's try not to make it transactional, but yes, at least some enthusiasm here. #1: Yeah, I think she nailed this one.

[@reviewaccount469]

Love your channel! My views echo your own.. We want to be able to enjoy our time off work and have our familial responsibilities, duties, and requests to be lite (no drama), while letting us know you love us. We can get anything else we want or need for ourselves.

[@earlmcivor8922]

Standing ovation! Great list!

[@sullysosavage365]

The nuance of wanting to feel that connection. So glad you brought that up. Sex with the person you love isn't just about that carnal desire. There's so much more to it

[@darktenor4967]

It's me that cooks, so the food doesn't apply here. Also, since my wife is literally a foot smaller than me, there's no way she'd be able to ware any of my hoodies. However, one thing I'll add is any gift with thought behind it which I didn't know about in advance. Last year, among other things my wife bought me a mug in the shape of a black cauldron with a red dragon coiled around it. Every time I use the mug, I have a reminder that my wife bought it for me just because I have a thing about dragons and fantasy in general.

[@jsfate]

All I want for Christmas is my wife who passed away a year and a half ago.

[@denisedoodles]

Very sorry for your loss. Wishing you a blessed holiday. Denise

[@KevinSmith-yz5zn]

I would amend the socks/underwear thing by adding "without making him feel bad that his current stuff is wearing out". Like you said, they don't really notice or they put off replacing it because it is not a priority. Making us feel self conscious about it lessens the gift aspect.

[@musicandairplanes6330]

Excellent video! You nailed it!

[@SeraphsWitness]

Do not get me socks and underwear for Christmas. Don’t.

[@joethecomputerguy1]

Being single it makes me cry listening to Emily talk about these things. She is so right. Missing out on these things makes this time of year hard.

[@drewt8138]

Better to be single than miserable. Emily is a unicorn. This time last year, I was in a pretty toxic relationship. Yes, I'm single now and it's tough. You're right about that. But, I'm better off than I was last year. Continue to focus on you and your progress and the right person will come along

[@eshannumin]

I'm sorry to hear that dude. If you make it a priority you can still find a good woman out there, but also reach out to your friends and any family. Don't do it alone.

[@suzi6509]

Cheer up mate, it really could be worse, you could be stuck with some bit--h and longing for the single life 😎

[@drewt8138]

@@suzi6509 Exactly

[@tobykenobe]

I've been single all my life and while society as a whole says that you need to have a wife/ husband to be happy, I'd rather be single and get myself whatever I want. BTW I'm 66

[@LesMc191]

Great list, bang on!

[@dennisbednarz8196]

I agree. I do like the family time. I also like the kickback and relax time.

[@Trifler500]

I don't want a Honey-Do list for Christmas. An ex-GF actually did that. She wrapped it up in a little box, with a nice note and everything.

[@Milehighsnake98]

Unless the list has 30 things and all of them have her name...But I digress.

[@Trifler500]

@@Milehighsnake98 Would have been nice if it was something fun like that, but alas

[@Milehighsnake98]

@@Trifler500 Precisely. Me? I just hate Christmas at this point.

[@georgew.5639]

Money can’t buy what I want. Companionship. 😊

[@davidcox3076]

Well, technically money can rent companionship...

[@Milkman3572000]

I like how you Stated #1 & #2.. With class and grace. Well said.

[@CaptainDV]

Thank you fir mentioning number 4. Men love their children and the stereotypes of mean cruel fathers has made people forget that.