10 Tips to Help You Thrive In Your 2nd Act || Life After 50 || Empty Nest Syndrome

[@lindawamsley5227]

You're so right Kay! After retirement I decided I wanted to learn to play piano! That was 4 years ago and I can play in church and sing! I also got a fitness trainer for a year and now I have my own gym in our basement! I also took up yoga and love it! I started canning again and increased my gardening, grow my own herbs, and dehydrating everything! I also work part time as a manager at a church resale which I love! And every Sunday after church all my kids and grandkids come over and I make us a big meal. I even let my (gray) hair grow long and everyone tells me it's the most gorgeous hair they ever saw! I feel like God has given me a whole new phase in my life! I feel great and I will unbelievably be 70 this year and still growing strong and healthy! Praise God!

[@marisayoung8670]

This is so true. After a serious illness in my late fifties, I ditched my past career and opened a pottery studio, using my creative skills to teach others this craft. It’s been fabulous. It’s a doable thing, this second act. Cheers to everyone.

[@TheDebs1956]

I have begun my second act and I did nearly everything you recommended. 1 year prior to retirement, I began to pray about it. Followed by taking 2 weeks with my husband to talk it out - dream over it and begin to put a plan together. I took the step to retire and now I am slowly working my way through those steps and beginning to realize what my 2nd Act will be. I want to encourage all you ladies to do the same. And never be afraid for God has a perfect plan for each of us. We just have to trust in Him!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Amen! Thanks so much for sharing, Debbie. Bravo!!

[@JJSolitude]

Thanks for the encouragement! I'm coming to the realization too that even though I have more free time in retirement, I don't have to fill it with something huge and significant. I can enjoy simplicity, contentment, and gratefulness without the pressure to accomplish bigger things. Putting that expectation on myself made me unhappy and disappointed thinking that there must be more to life. Life tells us to do, do, do. I'm focusing on just being content.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Oh this is absolutely true! A great point. We certainly do not have to push ourselves at this point unless we feel so inclined. And there is definitely something to be said for taking a slower pace during this phase of life. It’s 9:13 in the morning and I’m still sitting here in our morning room with my husband in our pjs having coffee. So I’m all for a slower pace! 😉

[@nancymcvey6932]

JJ, your words are exactly what I needed to read! I’ve been retired five years and have loved every minute of it but honestly, I thought I would have accomplished bigger things in my 2nd act. But I’m not disappointed or feel like a failure. It’s okay to just be content and be thankful for every day and every blessing. It’s funny that I didn’t get a full understanding of “time” and how precious it is until I’m old and running out of it! Thx for sharing your perspective.

[@JJSolitude]

@@nancymcvey6932 I'm appreciating that time more too. I don't want it to go by too fast!

[@clbellue]

I love this! Do, do, do is exhausting! Learning just to *be* in complete contentment would be the greatest gift we could give ourselves.

[@joanhendrix5967]

Thank you for saying this! A lifetime career that I loved came to an ugly, abrupt end. I ended an unfulfilling marriage, reconnected with my high school sweetheart, got married and moved from my hometown to a rural town with a different culture. It took me years to adjust!! We moved again, to be closer to our grown children, and life should be sweet. Yet pushing myself to be more, do more, left me feeling inadequate, like a loser. I feel best doing the small things I enjoy. Hopefully opportunities will present themselves when the timing is right.

[@betsydobrick7335]

Thank you! I am actually in act three. Retirement was a shock for someone who worked and had routine. I did pray for figuring things out. I watch you because I still want to look the best I can and make the most of ever day. Relationships mean even more to me. I now pray more, volunteer with several different causes, see my family who are not local, as often as I can. I am also more organized and cleaning but with more flexibility. My new hobby is making scrapbooking for my kids and keeping in touch with them on what’s app or messaging. I want to be sure that I keep up what they’re doing and share my days without being intrusive I hope. Also more cognitive about money and attend more to even “ trivial expenses. Also staying in touch with friends. Covid has taken a toll but am making each day the best I can. Plan what I wear, plan each day and ask God to help me help his purpose for me. Thanks Kay, sorry if this was too long.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Not too long at all! What a blessing. I love your testimony. It’s so important to us to know that with prayer and perseverance women do navigate this season successfully. And I love how you’re doing it! 🥰

[@rrhines3151]

Oh Kay, your closing section of this conversation with us caused my eyes to fill with tears… I truly hope you are right; that there’s a 2nd Act for those of us who were derailed, so to speak… thank you for your encouragement! 🙏🏻

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

There absolutely is. It may look different than expected or hoped for. But God can work all things together for good if we hold life in open hands and allow Him to work and lead. 💕

[@andami]

It's true! Life can be hard, but God is good, and his blessings endure forever. May you experience a new beginning that fills you with such delight and joy that the hardships of your derailment become sweet memories of a beautiful journey.

[@veronicabone8835]

Life sure can throw us a curve ball! I never thought I would bury my only child Brandon June 2019 then we buried my brother Todd January 26, 2021. Not sure what happened to my son and may never know until I reach the other side; but, Todd was murdered and his murderer is walking free today. Anyway here I am turning 60 in February working in a convenience store which I love but there has got to be more. I am so impressed with this video and intend on watching it over and over. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️

[@rrhines3151]

@@veronicabone8835 My heart ♥️ goes out to you. There are no words. One day at a time sounds useless but I believe there must be “more” also. Know this is a kind, supportive community. I hope you find solace here. Prayers and hope to you. ☮️🙏🏻

[@veronicabone8835]

@@rrhines3151 Thank you. It truly is one day at a time with Jesus. I know that He will never leave me and will one day make all things right. 🙌🏼❤️

[@TrueTruthin66books]

It is so good to hear someone speak from a Christian world view. Being a Christian is to have a personal relationship with God, The Creator of everything, and to glorify Him, until we go home to Him. Life is such a precious gift, let us spend it well. I pray that God will give me the wisdom and discernment to be a joyful and graceful senior woman, so that my legacy will be that I pointed others to the abundant life in Christ. We had a bend in our road, that was nearly financially disastrous, but God walked with us. We are still recovering and He is teaching us through this journey. God’s goal is that we become more holy, rather than maintaining a state of happiness. He is sovereign over everything, period. Let us live and move, in Him!

[@dianethompsonbusch6005]

I so needed this today. I am a nutritionist. However, I became disabled in 2018 with a serious series of health challenges. I feel like my life has been on pause. God has healed me from cancer. I know He has a great plan. I have learned and gained so much through this. Pain is purifying. I am more spirituality equipped to help others and understand where they are coming from. Please pray for my 2nd act, for God to use me to be a blessing to others and further His kingdom. Thank you so much sweet Lady Kay! God bless you and your family ❤ 🙏

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Absolutely, Diane. God works all things together for our good. You can trust Him to do that. Blessings to you!

[@kathyscott3683]

Hi Kay, I just loved what you had to say today, I am 63 and still working full time as a labor nurse, keeping up with the younger nurses on my floor is no easy task but it helps keep me active and I love encouraging my young patients with all the exciting things to come for them. I am hoping to retire when I'm 65, my husband is already retired so working provides insurance. Anyway I didn't mean to ramble on but what I wanted to say was I love your thoughts today and how you shared your experiences so far. The bible verse and encouragement to pray more touched me as well. Please keep doing what your doing, truly you are an inspiration. Oh, and even though I am not retired yet I have started guitar lessons, I am 2 years in now and I hope to learn a new language too, so just some other types of ideas. And of highest importance in your sixtys is to just keep moving, the body seems to work better when it moves more. Thank you

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thank you for sharing Kathy. And thanks so much for the encouragement.

[@kham7571]

Great example! Two years will fly by, and it seems you are all set. As one healthcare worker to another, thank you for all you do.

[@sharischmidt4712]

My husband and I once we were empty nesters ,decided to sell our large house with the large never ending yard and bought an uptown urban condo and haven't looked back!! So many family members and neighbors asked, aren't you going to miss your house and your yard? No we don't!! No more weekend's of end of endless chores and yardwork, now we enjoy ourselves traveling, pursuing our hobbies and long hikes. We been married fourty year's and we're are happy and very content. We both said it was the best thing we could have done! My husband jokes that it's like being a newlywed, new except now we have money!!😊🍁

[@user-bb7rk1tr2f]

Thank you so much! Your chat was a divine appointment...just what I needed to hear this morning. God is using you to lead others to their calling. This a a confirmation on my new path. Although I am in my late 50's I just started my Ph.D. in Counseling yesterday. I will use my docrate as a tool to help me fulfill my purpose...my 2nd act. I hope to create a program for Mother's dealing with the stress of major transitions such as empty nest syndrome, caring for adult children with mental health issues or other losses. There isn't much out there for older moms. Again, thank you for your encouragement and inspiration.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Oh my! This gives me chills. How wonderful. Thank you so much for sharing Diana. And all the best to you in your new venture. 😊

[@saramaloney6082]

Thank you for this. It's OK to be derailed, and create a new route once ready. I am 53 and my husband is 49. He has aggressive, metastatic cancer, I think of those who never got their 2nd act. God bless you Kay and all of you.

[@pamkirby4390]

Awesome video Kay, really touched me as my health changed significantly at 50. I’m now 56 and I may not be able to be a blessing in person very often but every time I’m on the phone with someone I make sure they now I’m still blessed and I’m not giving up or giving in. God is so good and I make sure they know where my hope comes from! Jesus 🙏🙌🏻💛

[@terrymoore3978]

Kay, what sound wisdom you offer! I am in my 60's and I listened to every word. Toward the end, I had tears in my eyes, quietly listening, and taking notes. Thank you. You are such a classy person, and I can see you are the daughter of the living God!

[@marydenney8249]

This video is so good. I’ve been retired for 11 years. Just turned 70. Right after I retired I started quilting. I’ve made so many that I’m now donating them to womens shelters and the military. I also took up golf (my hubby plays so I wanted to join him). We have so much fun. We moved to a retirement community and joined the local groups here. This is all new to me. I was career oriented and kid oriented. Now I’m me/us oriented

[@lisaspadafino2194]

This video is so timely for me. I have enjoyed all of your fashion videos, and I really appreciate your going beyond the "norm" with this one. I encourage you to make more of these. Thank you so much!

[@HD-mg9ru]

What a Phenomenal video!! At 65, I'm a single mom/empty nester and I got stuck asking myself, "How am I going to navigate the rest of my Life." You're Steps and Encouragement just gave me the hope and faith to successfully move forward with my second act. I just Love that, " Second Act. ❤" Thank you. 🙏🌻🤗⚘

[@theresawhibley8050]

This is just what I needed. The last words hit home. I ended up with cancer at 60, and retired at 61. Shingles after remission and we moved. No life wasnt what we had anticipated but we can have act 2..and we will!! He is a Good God..always! Thank you so much. Your such an inspiration.

[@silverotter54]

I loved this! It spoke to me on so many levels--to see this part of life as what it is, or can be, instead of what it’s not any more-is so uplifting. Thanks!

[@Refreshing_Words]

Thank you so much for this video! I’m 50 and have one child in college and one in high school. I’m divorced and focused on what I want for my life in the next couple of years. I’m so grateful for my health and I’ve begun to take better care of body instead of taking it for granted. I want to travel and live a simpler life. I feel like I ran so hard for so many years as a working mom (and wife for 19 years). But I envision a slow and intentional second act. I appreciate you!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thank you for sharing, Danielle. I love that, "slow and intentional." That sounds like a lovely plan.

[@denisadellinger4543]

I just knew there was something special about you!!!!!! You are a Christian. Me too. I feel like God is very much part of my life and I have trusted him in all parts of my life. I am 66 and knew I wanted to get my second act. When I was younger I went into the ministry and it broke me. I struggled for many years to find myself and what my place was as far as career I struggled and struggled and God brought me home to where I grew up and home to my family. I got a big inheritance, well. big for me and now I am wanting to do all those things I've always wanted to do. Travel, go on mission trips, Work in my church,. Wnen you get a chance to pray, just put me into the group you talked to in this video. Ask God to open up for us what he would have us to do at this stage of our lives. I loved the scripture you read out of Isaiah about new things. I want to do what the desire of my heart has been during the living years. And that my finances will allow me to do it. Thank you Kay

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Bless you. I do hope God opens some doors for you to do those things. It sounds like you are very excited and passionate about living well for Him. 🥰

[@Cookie7294]

That last tip hit home. I retired just before the pandemic with a list of classes I wanted to register for and trips I wanted to take. All not happening. It's positive to think of this period as a detour. Thanks for this.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Oh my goodness. I know! But yes it is a detour and some things have possibly changed permanently. But we can trust that God is in control and has a plan for us even through this unexpected detour.

[@lolgriffin3243]

Maybe you could find some classes online in the meantime? There are lots of places including universities and colleges as well as things like skillshare. Good luck!

[@cynthiarozyckie5702]

A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver. I have been praying for God to give me wisdom and clarity over my 2nd act. I have no idea what it should look like (exactly), but I am so thankful for this message! Many of your words were parallel to my prayers.Thank you

[@gingersprecher3908]

To be honest, I put off watching this video, because I am in the thick of it and didn’t want to listen to a “pep talk.” I’m so glad I watched it. I needed this encouragement. My husband is in the military and we moved 6 months ago (again) and it has been a struggle. Moving to a new area in the middle of a pandemic, leaving a job I loved, last child leaving home, health struggles, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah! I felt like you could see me through the screen. I was deeply touched and encouraged. By nature, I’m not a crier, but I’m over here crying. Thank you for taking the time to speak to us. I know God used you to speak to me. Thank you so much.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Hmm. I know those are some hard things. Bless you. I’m so glad this was meaningful to you. 🥰

[@dianerobinson9248]

Oh my gosh, I was ready to stop listening then you mentioned being a parent of a special needs child! Our middle son is 35 and still lives with us. Life is quite different compared to friends our age. I believe God is listening, but sometimes I get discouraged wondering how can I do this for 20 more years! I enjoy your channel and tips! Thanks! 😊

[@susanlittlefield3291]

Thanks for this perspective, not everyone has the same family experiences, You are angel for caring for a special needs child.

[@reneel2502]

Kay this was so encouraging and inspirational! I really like what you said about " not letting life happen to you, but taking charge..." Whether people decide to do something big or take the time to go at a slower pace- do it consciously! Thank you for all you do for us!

[@bobbiecalgaro5888]

Kay, this was wonderful. I’ve been in my second act for about 6 years now and things are constantly changing. And they will be for everyone in our retirement years. I do think you are right about planning and going for it but what you said at the end has great validation too. We may not end up where we want to be or we may not have change the world plans but God has purpose for us no matter where we are or what we are doing. I just finished Maud Lovelace’s 1912 coming of age book Emily of Deep Valley which should be required reading for all women and girls on life’s disappointments and challenges. Emily graduates and as all her friends head off to college, she is “stuck” at home caring for her elderly grandfather. The story unfolds as to how she gets over the depression she feels and builds a rich life in her hometown. Although it’s meant for younger women, it truly can speak to all of us at anytime in life when we are thrown a curve ball. Thanks for reminding us that life can be rich if we let God guide us to what he needs us to do and we search for joy in that.

[@kellywood9590]

Thank you so much for this. I needed to watch this today. My beloved husband of 35 years was seriously ill for 4 yrs before passing away last Fall. I then left my job of 16 yrs. I’m now in the process of moving to where my family is. I found this video very encouraging. Now I just have to figure out what I want to wear after being in a corporate environment for 40 yrs. I’m not used to looking for “fun”’clothes. Much love.

[@ramonabenson7572]

Just loved this video so much! You picked your second act so well 😀. Thank you 🙏

[@clarabarton2087]

Thank you and God bless you for serving the Lord with your gifts. I've had to start over many times and what I have tried to remember is something my mother said, "Enjoy every season of your life. I've tried to heed this advice. Now my 90 year old Dad lives with my husband and I and we are started another season.

[@betho.3542]

Thank you for this message, Kay. I just turned 65 and for the first time in my life, a birthday hit me hard thanks to the number of solicitations by insurance companies and signing on for Medicare! (Who ME???) I'd hoped to be volunteering at this point, but it's currently impossible to be around people thanks to Covid. I help my daughter and son in law with their two small children fairly regularly, so they can work. In order to protect the children from Covid exposure, my life has become one of social isolation. When I think of my future right now, I see a blank wall. I don't think I am alone in this. So, as you recommended, turning to God for guidance is the way to go. Patience is everything these days. Brighter days ahead! Thank you for your thoughtful words!

[@michellehamric6856]

Thanks for the encouragement for those of us who have been on and are still on detours at age 67. My detour started in 1993 with my sister's death from cancer, then parent care from 1999-2014, both sons being diagnosed with clinical depression and anxiety in 2010 (We still have the youngest son living with us and financially support the other),my husband had open heart surgery in 2020. Certainly a lot to get our heads wrapped around, for sure! Even though life has dealt a whole different set of circumstances then my husband and I could ever have imaged, God has been faithful. He continues to guide and direct us and provides what we need (many times financially). Some days are still hard but it's so much easier knowing that God has good things intended for my husband and I (Jeremiah 29:11).

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Bless you. I know that's been a hard, hard time. Persevere. God is indeed faithful.

[@michellehamric6856]

Thank you, Kay!

[@kham7571]

Our oldest (27) experiencing at times crippling anxiety. Its been scary. Trusting in God. He is getting help for which I am grateful. Seems like the world is a harder place to begin adulthood now? In our 20’s, we were fearless. I think its all the media and constant being “on” .

[@michellehamric6856]

Yes, there’s so much out there in the world to deal with at a faster and faster pace. Anxiety/panic attacks are definite indicators of needing to slow down. Easier said than done! Resting on the sabbath holds even more meaning today than it has in many years. It’s a day of setting aside and of peace. I’m learning to create quite times so I’m not feeling overwhelmed.

[@martinebenzio1320]

Kay, I loved this video! I am your age and an empty nester and our life changed unexpectedly this past year. My husband got a new job and we are in a new town so I am having to re-imagine my life. Definitely praying what direction God wants me to go in.

[@inglespasoapasoconlucie]

This was so encouraging and helpful! 🤗 Thank you!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Wonderful! Thank you for watching. 💕

[@dorisrapino8694]

I started classical ballet at age 60, 2 years ago. I am now starting pointe work. Went back to university to get a master's degree at age 53. Now working part time as a conference interpreter. Volunteering, and looking at your videos for dressing tips and Kerri Lou's for makeup for this season in my life. Enjoying my grandchildren and looking forward to my youngest' wedding next summer.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Wow! What an inspiration. Thank you so much for sharing.

[@EHeinkel61]

I have listened to this a number of times each time gaining more encouragement. It is like you are sitting in my living room and ministering just to me. Thank you. Each time I end up in a puddle of tears. Know dear sister that I am praying for you and appreciate your candidness.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thank you so much for your kind remarks and those prayers. I need them. Not everyone feels the way you do. But I'm so grateful for the many women who do.

[@andreaodell8769]

This is excellent! I watch these on my treadmill every morning. I have a dream and Good has blessed me with the tools! Now I need to carve out the time and go for it! Yes, there have been set backs (ugly divorce) but God turns things so around. I’m going to find the time and go for it! Thank you Kay for helping every area of my life and for putting God first!

[@kcdesign9]

So encouraging ….. love the scripture reading….what a wonderful way to start our day! Thank you Kay many blessings to you

[@sharone6534]

Excellemt, Kay! I”ve watched twice. Your closing comments are excellent.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thanks Sharon. I’m so glad you liked it. 😊

[@valeriefourie3209]

Thank you so much. I've just turned 50 and after your video I am very much looking forward to "take two".

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Wonderful! Thanks for watching.

[@astorytoldhere]

I have felt beyond frustrated for 7 yrs….when I turned 50 I set goals for the second half….but have been thwarted at every turn. I am not giving up, and your video was timely encouragement. Thank you so very much.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Hang in there, Cindie. I’m so glad this encouraged you. 🥰

[@conniehammond2389]

I am 67 and retired 10 years ago as my husband and I are raising two people f our granddaughters whose mother passed 12 years ago. We have had children in our home for 42 years now! Our retirement is different than our friends lives. My son pastors a church and we are active there. We have 6 grandchildren all together and I have two children living, my son and his twin sister. I am blessed but still finding my way! Also, I recently lost 70 lbs and at a healthy weight. Your style videos are helping me to figure out what my style is! Thank you for your videos and sharing your values and relationship with Jesus. 💖

[@annemariebranch-winic3072]

I really needed this, thank you….if only you knew….I’m 51 and this stuff is really hitting me. 🙏🏻♥️🙏🏻

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Bless you. It is indeed a difficult season of life to navigate at first. But it can be oh so good, too. Press forward and anticipate good things. 😊

[@heathersaunders3080]

Kay, thank you for your support. Your calming and reassuring voice is cheering us on and motivating us to be our best selves. Thank you!

[@marilyncoburn4936]

Excellent advice, thank you for making this very positive video about aging! The last couple of years has been very hard, seems like we are in pause mode with an expiration date. Your thoughts have helped me move forward again. Bless you.

[@lindabryant6333]

You & your words today were spot on...as I read the comments, it's obvious we can all connect & identify with each other about life's unexpected detours. You addressed these issues with wisdom & encouragement. You are a little bit magical! God bless you & all the ladies you have touched today💜

[@Anna-sb9oj]

Kay, your channel is such a blessing and encouragement. I agree with all that was shared in this video. I’ve already struggled thru the empty nest years and survived. My husband and I moved out of the home where we raised our kids and have been enjoying this season of life together. I am commenting because I wonder if anyone else has struggled to an extreme degree with the physical changes that occur quite rapidly and dramatically in their 50’s. I feel like I look completely different than I did 10 years ago and not in a good way. Mainly I am very disappointed in my skin and how wrinkled my face has become. I am slender, dress stylishly and have nice hair but I cannot accept these wrinkles. I don’t have money for expensive procedures. When I look in the mirror I don’t even recognize myself. I enjoyed being pretty all my life, especially in my 40’s when I really felt like I looked my most attractive. I felt young, fresh and feminine. Now I just feel like a look old and irrelevant. It’s embarrassing to talk to my friends about this and I don’t want my husband to view me this way so I can’t even talk to him about my intense disappointment and dread as the aging process is inevitable. I’m embarrassed to be on Zoom calls for work because I feel like I’ve aged so much in just the last 2 years! Other than this issue I’m completely content, joyful and very grounded. I’m a down to earth person authentic person thanks to my faith. ✝️ I just want my appearance to match all the hope and excitement I still have for my life and the hopefully many years to come.

[@Lynn-tz3cp]

I totally understand...same for me at age 65.… Hope you are doing well. ❤️

[@alanamarini9124]

Kay, This was exactly what I needed to hear today!! Thank you !!!! The Lord is using you mightily! I’m 71 years old and just started a part time job at Macys! I shopped there for years and now I work there. I need to appreciate my job. Your positive outlook is inspiring me to look at this job in a different way! God bless you!! Alana

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Oh that’s so good to hear. Bless you!

[@patriciahackett8153]

You always bring up a topic at just the time I need the advice. Thank you.

[@crystalhuffer8687]

You spoke to my heart ! I’ve been considering a career change (after 33 years as an Ultrasonographer) mostly because my body (severe hand arthritis) is not keeping up with the rest of me and it has become so hard to physically do my job. This is so hard though- I absolutely love what I do (specializing in OBGYN) - BUT - you were my sign from above to get on with it! Haha. I have done research in the new field, I know some schooling will be involved, I have told my husband and best friends- I have all the encouragement and support I need !! Now the leap of FAITH !! Thank you for your encouraging words!!

[@robertanash4553]

Thank you so much! The fact that you prayed about this to God elevated your status as a KZbinr and blogger seven-fold!

[@Barbara-pz8ky]

What a lovely message, Kay…not only are you encouraging us to look good but you are encouraging us to be good and do good. The last section about being derailed is real for so many of us and yes God truly does have a plan- often it’s so hard to accept HIS plan and not ours though! Do you or any fellow readers have suggestions for those of us who want to get out and volunteer and help others when it is something our spouses are not at all interested in? I want to be respectful of my husband and his needs but also want to address a calling that I am feeling….thanks for so much inspiration!

[@sjsp7631]

I suggest start small volunteer only one day a week for a few hours. Offer that time to your husband as a chance for him to do something he enjoys like reading, golf, fishing etc. If you volunteer with an organization that offers activities he is interested in they may be appealing. Reading to kids at the library , Boys/girls club activities Etc I’ll be praying for you that God opens the path for you.

[@janetardoin8979]

What an amazing video. Loved it and would love more. Retired 3 years ago… love my Bible study, praying and journaling time. Now have self care for me, health, caring for others, grandchildren, hubby, church and volunteering. God is good. Have health issues, but now I can rest. Thanks again 🙏

[@rsg6207]

Kay, you are a beautiful person! Your friends and family are so lucky to have you in their lives. Although I'm not a prayerful person, everything you said resonates with me in planning this second act.

[@barbmcmahon7709]

Thank you Kay for your inspiration! I retired 1 1/2 years ago and God has given me a new direction to use my talents… I experienced so many of the things you mentioned. It’s so nice to have the encouragement that things take time , sometimes there are detours, but we have a lot to offer in our second act . Thank you for reminding us to show up for our days and put effort into our appearance and our souls . ❤️ so glad that I found your channel!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

You are so welcome! Thanks for sharing.

[@lindacaffalette8927]

I totally agree with you......investing & looking at life with a Godly perspective will always make things better!!! Thanks for sharing Kay....that's my middle name!. 💟💜💟

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Mine, too! 😉 Thanks so much, Linda. I’m glad you enjoyed the video. 😊

[@bethreisman8869]

Kay, you are sharing the gift you were given in a big and meaningful way. May G-d Bless you.

[@nikkien7259]

I just love this. I just turned 50 last year and am 7 weeks away from getting my MBA. Then I need to find a new job. I’m so thankful my COVID layoff has turned into this opportunity.

[@sherryandbarneyathome9670]

I am so thankful that I stumbled upon this video today, and I am thinking it was God's hands at work. I am actually in my 3rd act. My husband and I retired a number of years ago and enjoyed our 2nd act tremendously. Unfortunately, he was diagnosed with 4th stage cancer on August 27, 2020 and passed less than 4 months later on December 15. I have made a number of necessary changes since then including moving to a smaller place and living alone. Recently I have been thinking and praying about starting a KZbin channel. I have been doing research to see if there is a need for what I have in mind, and I think there is. I will continue to pray about this and would covet your prayers as well.

[@Tammy-uu1ts]

I enjoy your blog so much but you have no idea how much this touched my heart. You have such a gift. Thank you for going through the tough times to reach out to others. Prayers for your rough spots! 💕

[@fj6746]

Thank you for your encouragement Kay. Encouragement seems to be in really short supply right now, and it feels so wonderful when someone is really liberal and generous with it. Much appreciated 🌻

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Absolutely! Thanks so much for watching. I’m glad it met a need for you. 🥰

[@lindah.1104]

I am reading a book right now, “Grandma Gatewood’s Walk-the Woman Who Saved the Appalachian Trail”, about the FIRST woman to hike the Appalachian Trail from start to finish - 2,200 miles “through hike”. She was 67 years old! After raising 11 children she decided she wanted to get away and do something for herself!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Yes! Great book!

[@darcypalmer7783]

What a great message. I pray that many women would find encouragment in this. My husband and I made some huge changes last year and we followed all these steps! Now we are settling in to our new retirement life and are excited about what God has planned next. Blessings!

[@karendouglass4669]

This was really great. Perfect timing for me. 2 years ago I retired and my only child got married and moved across the country. Not what any of us expected. It's taken awhile, but I'm coming back to my joy. My phrase for 2022 is "Trust with patience and joy.". God is good and good things are on the horizon, and in fact, are already here.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Thank you so much for watching and sharing, Karen. Indeed, life is rarely what we expected, is it. May you be richly blessed in this season of life.

[@judithgilbert3536]

Excellent Kay, excellent! Not just tips, a high-level road map. At 50, I made a major career change. At 75, I can look back and see: you have laid out a guide for proactive change in our lives, a way of owning our own lives. Not all need a true Act II, but for those of us who do, it helps us build the spiritual muscle we need to cope with the blows that come. For those struggling with “what next?”, I suggest consider if there is a part of yourself that, for whatever reason, you did not develop. If the answer is scary, watch Kay’s video again. And maybe again, lol!

[@joyceohri3919]

Thank you for the scripture in Isaiah 42. I am so glad I found your channel. And thank you for the encouragement for a second act. Our lord certainly knows everything about us. Our ups and downs, struggles and all. I am in my second act. Our lord has opened doors for me. I am praying for good health coz recently I have been having one thing after another. And I can’t afford to take medical leave again. But I am excited in my new job. My daughter is still in college. My husband suffered financial loss. I am praying for him. God to restore his health and finances. My trust is in Him. May God continue to bless both you and your husband. Thank you once again for your beautiful honest share about life.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Bless you. And thank you for watching and sharing. ❤️

[@annewest-ellmers1807]

"A voice in the wilderness...make ready the way!" Kay, I appreciate your timely message today, and the nudge to plan my Act 2. I needed to hear this and to be reminded to be deliberate...and not reactionary... in creating those next-steps. I've held on to my safety net for too long. It's time to step out onto the tightrope and begin my journey. Thank you!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

You bet! Absolutely get out there and make things happen. It can be scary and time consuming but so worth it.

[@michealbelovicz2722]

This was a good watch for me. I am 58 with 3 adult children and a 12 year old son we adopted almost 10 years ago. My Act 2 looks different than I thought it would and I continue to work through have to go through the teenage years one more time. We love our son and are so glad God blessed us with him and will continue to navigate these next few years we have him at home. God is good, and I truly am excited about Act 2!

[@kathryncoffman6510]

Thank you for your encouragement and transparency. You have been a blessing!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

That’s so kind. Thank you Kathryn. 💕

[@9155ish]

You brought tears to my eyes yet I am encouraged that I will make the very best of my second act. Thank you Kay.

[@dianawestrate3681]

Thanks so much Kay. You were speaking to my heart, and I appreciate it more than I can say.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

That’s great to hear, Diana. Thanks for letting me know. 💕

[@gegeschannel8836]

What a great inspiration and timely. I am ready for a two. Thank you

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Wonderful! Thanks so much.

[@melissahutton1705]

Kay, this is so SPOT ON! I wish I could have watched it 5 years ago, but better late than never. Such good tips! I had serious health issues from age 49-52. Finally when I had them manageable, I “got back to it” and found a new marketing position 2 years ago. I love this job and know it was God sent! I had my own marketing business with several clients and was tired of that and ready to do something new. I trusted God and surrendered to continuing the search and walking through the open doors He provided. Then Voila! Thanks for addressing this topic. It will help so many!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

That’s such a great testimony, Melissa. Thanks so much for sharing. 🥰

[@pambrooker9014]

Thank you Kay for your encouragement. This is exactly the season that I'm in.

[@teacherlady6500]

Thank you so much for this video. I am 52 and my children are all away at college. I do find myself asking, “ what’s next for me?” I am still working now but will retire in the next couple of years. I think many of us spend so many years working and raising children that we don’t even know WHAT WE WANT to do now that we have the chance to do it! The search for a new purpose can feel depressing but also should be looked at as a new opportunity. I appreciate your insight. Thank you.

[@rcoop309]

I’m so grateful to have found your channel this morning. I will be 50 and to be honest I’m a little nervous. Thank you so much for your words of encouragement.

[@wendyelliott6828]

Yes Kay - I am “enjoying the scenery” or at least learning the lessons I had not realized I needed. The adventure and the mystery is discovering a part of you that is resilient - that can face new challenges. This is called a life with meaning. Wendy (And of course your fashion tips are so much fun! I watch every week)

[@elaineborn6135]

Kay, thank you for this extremely encouraging video. I appreciate your Godly approach to life. Thank you.

[@lilianstamand2755]

Thank you Kay for touching on this subject. I just turned 65 and have become a little “lost” as to what’s next and is it even worth the effort. You have given things to think about.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Great to hear. I’m so glad it spoke to you. 🥰

[@danielledhjaycbsyn2740]

This was fantastic. I just started following you ever since Angela Mashelle recommended you and this was such timely, good advice. I'm gonna pray and then start planning! Thanks again :-)

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

I’m so glad this spoke to you, Danielle. Thanks for letting me know. 🥰

[@kathsarazin]

Thanks Kay- really enjoyed this. I am approaching 60 in a month and facing that season of life so this came at a much needed time. I plan to retire in 2 years and have an act 2 planned of painting and selling my work in an Etsy shop but feel overwhelmed with the enormity/fear of failure etc. Also, feeling like my best years are behind me lately, but this has really encouraged and invigorated me to plug away with setting things in motion now, so I’ll be ready when I actually do retire.

[@bhallmark3390]

Your chat was so inspirational. It should be a requirement for all to see before taking the plunge into retirement. Thank you so much!

[@kathrynlindeman8083]

This was so inspiring to me. I have thought about my 2nd act, and have followed many of your steps. But after listening, I wrote things down, with a timeline on needed things. Having it written down has made it feel more promising. Thank you for your generous heart in sharing what you have learned. It is a blessing to me and so many others.

[@wendys243]

You have a beautiful way with words and have been such an encouragement to me today. Bless your heart Kay!🙏🏼🥰

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Wonderful! Thanks for letting me know Wendy. 😊

[@diannemahedy8041]

Kay, you are precious. These past 2 years my husband and I have health issues. I'm turning 76 soon and looking forward to new adventures, since we survived it all. Well, maybe not too adventurous!! Thank you for sharing the Word, and your encouragement.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

You bet! Take care. Each day is a blessing. 🥰

[@lindabennett3639]

This segment was very inspirational and helpful. Makes you realize your not alone. Thank you!

[@sarahhanson3694]

Thanks for these suggestions! Very helpful. I was encouraged to hear you say you started this in your 50s. I’ve been thinking about what God has for me.

[@karenanderson6495]

This whole message is very encouraging. I'm excited to put some new things in motion. I will definitely remember to ask God what HIS plans are for me, rather than to rush into things. I do have some things I'd like to learn to do, and have already researched some places I'm interested in traveling to. Travel is going to be solo (by choice), so that takes planning. I'm excited. I understand about setbacks too, and believe we have to try to be prepared as much as it is possible. I'm in my 60's, retired, still in great health and plan to make the most of this season. Thank you for the encouragement!!

[@kerryparker8925]

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you so much.

[@lisamonti7057]

This was exactly what I needed and just when I needed to hear it. Thank you Kay!

[@beckygriffin4740]

I LOVE THIS! When the kids leave, it is a good thing and that is actually the goal!. That being written, it is hard. But changing your focus can begin an entire new act that can bring such joy. As a bonus your kids may be impressed and proud. The verse that I kept turning to as I was starting my current act was Genesis 12:1. Kay, you have hit it out of the park with this one and you know that I am one of your biggest fans!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Hahaha! Thanks so much Becky. I’m glad you enjoyed it. And thanks for sharing your thoughts and the scripture. 💕

[@kathleengnall5368]

Great advice, Kay! I love your thoughtfulness, perspective and positivity. Thank you.

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Glad it was helpful!

[@gillsimpson4976]

What a wonderful video Kay. I'm not religious but I found your sentiment and encouragement incredibly moving. Thank you Kay

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

That’s so good to hear. Thanks for letting me know. I’m glad the message resonated with you. 💕

[@marieschmidt9416]

Your cheerful encouragement is sweet to hear....good ideas to remember over & over.

[@vickilindgren4341]

You are amazing and you speak straight to this widow’s heart. Thank you

[@robinbelisle241]

I have enjoyed watching your videos over the last several months. This one in particular came to me on a day that I was having a “Pity Party”. All day I was wallowing in sadness over having to cancel an International trip at the last minute due to our current Covid unknowns. As I watched it again this morning, with a clearer head and a new attitude I am ready to move on! However I had to chuckle as I am actually an Act ahead of you. LOL. I am starting Act III of my life at 67 years old. I did recently retire from my Act 2 career. I am going to use the same tips to continue into Act III. Thank you Sweet friend. 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️

[@jackiemeduri2331]

Hi, Kay- I’m in my second act by becoming teacher at 54 years old. Definitely a new season, for sure!

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

Wow! That’s tremendous. Thanks so much for sharing Jackie. All the best to you!

[@chilibandit6660]

Thank you soo much for this topic! I have recently decided to build a small summer house on a plot I own, never had a chance to have a garden before. Looking forward to that more than you can imagine, that plan helps me to get up in the morning.

[@melissakelley6073]

Thank you for this video. It was very eye-opening. I’m on a detour in my second act. Your encouragement and words of wisdom has inspired me to change my attitude, smile and keep going. I think you are a wonderful minister. Thank you. Melissa 🌼

[@DressedforMyDaywithKayHarms]

You are so welcome! and thank you for watching, Melissa. You're very encouraging. And I really appreciate it.

[@rass6445]

Thank you for doing this video. The time couldn’t have been more perfect. I will look at the second act more intently, now. 🥰