10 Yrs Ago Son Choose His Dad & His Rich Mistres' Side, Now He's Shocked I Won't Take Him Back

[@angelicakaufman7183]

Non refundable trip or son that betrayed you. Wouldn't be that hard of a choice for me.. He can wait until I come back all rested

[@robingibson6561]

that's exactly what I was thinking, when he decided he wanted to meet up in three days time...that's strike #1. I would have gone on my trip and told him I'd be in contacted when I got back. When you told him no, and the word Bitch worked its way into the situation that would have been strike #2 and needless to say no strike #3. He picked up some bad habits in the ten years he chose to be away. Albeit, he was 15 when he decided to follow the money and still a child but he's no longer a child and should have learned how to talk to someone he's begging money from. He's a man now, he'll figure it out.

[@mbyerly9680]

Tomorrow or not at all. Your choice. OP is a wimp.

[@MrAllenc79]

I know that's right!

[@kathrynbillinghurst188]

Yep… go on a lovely trip… he should wait!!! 💯

[@sukiwilliams1654]

I would of said,”We can meet up after my trip to Thailand.” Just to run it in his face 🤷‍♀️

[@pianolady10]

Taking a year-long break from grad school while he works, gets an apartment, and applies for loans to cover the last year sounds like a good idea. At 25 he’s old enough for adult responsibilities.

[@bodnica]

Bet he doesn't want to work it's beneath 😂 him! Father bankrolled him!

[@jackchop1576]

Exactly. Loans suck but he's only got two semesters left and he'll manage just fine. He's had a free ride for the rest of his college education.

[@Gems-of-Hope-Rocks]

@@bodnica Technically, wasn't it the stepmother who bankrolled him? Lol!!!

[@SherryClemens-po3ur]

He needs a job work for a living ck for a will

[@lynnechapman6204]

I feel so bad for OP that her son would treat her that way. I agree with what she did.

[@Lady.B0420]

I'm not sure I feel bad for her. She admitted she never wanted to be a mother. I really wonder how she was as a mom. I find it suspicious that the son would have chosen the father only for the money. At one point she says the son left for the money, but later she is upset the son "chose the father over her". Kids go with the parent they have the closest bond with, not which one has more money. It doesn't make sense. She is very resentful of her child and completely uninterested in rekindling a relationship. I really doubt she was ever a good mother. The instincts are not there.

[@echomoon3381]

@@Lady.B0420 Are you a mom? I can tell you that it does happen. That a son will choose a father ovee a mother. It all depends on the enticements. My X promised our son a dirtbike, our son's dream. And he played on son's sympathy. Told him that he (X) was gonna be all alone, that he really needed him. That it was gonna be just the 2 of them. HA!! X reneged and what back on every thing he said/promise. His father got bad enough that my 11yr old son ended up living by himself in what had been our house while his dad lived with his GF. My aunt stepped in and took my son home with her and my uncle. But they were very good friends with my X so no one told me. Finally before a year was ovee my son wanted to "come home with me". I and his sister had moved TN after the divorce. That very weekend after that call I went to NY to get him. He hasnt talked to his father in over 25yrs now.

[@AudreyWilliamsMusic]

She'd probably already gone through all the stages of grief by the time she got that final closure 10 years later. The son will eventually learn that you can't treat people as badly as he treated his mom and expect for them to still be there in their time of need after a decade of no contact.

[@robertx8020]

Will he though? He sounds like a very very slow learner .,,,he still doens't blame stepmother but only his real mother who HE stabbed in the back!

[@mari.s752]

​@@robertx8020 that relationship is long over with close to zero chance of reconciliation. Even if the offspring comes to believe he should make amends it is far too late as the mother has found her footing and moved beyond that stage of her life.

[@_Hollie_]

@@mari.s752especially conditions he was 14 and didnt even bother to try an keep contact with his mother. Literally just discarded her, sounds like him and his father both likely had/have a lot of narcissistic traits. And we all know there not getting through to someone like that especially if it doesn’t benefit them directly

[@Lady.B0420]

​@@robertx8020 hold the phone. He was a child when his dad divorced his mother. 14 is young. Regardless of what this woman says, it makes absolutely no sense the boy would have left over money. Kids go with the parent they have the strongest bond with. She also admitted to never wanting to be a mother and people still believe she was ever a good mom? I doubt it, especially since the boy got emotionally attached to the stepmom. Who, seems to be, awful too. People saying he stabbed his mother in the back are nuts. OP had a responsibility to him, not the other way around.

[@mari.s752]

​@@Lady.B0420 I am not going to try to dissect your entire comment but I do want to respond to one element. Love of a child irrespective of whether or not you initially intended to have them or had a happy accident is the same. Choosing to stay home and take care of your child instead of going back to work/school and paying someone to tend the child's needs so you can pursue your life's dream is a major sacrifice. When the one you made that sacrifice for metaphorically spits on you it is reasonable that you would have some level of regret for making the "wrong" choice.

[@MrBeevee5]

Choosing his dad was fine, not visiting his mother during those ten years was not. It is all on him. The stepmother followed the pattern of fairy tales with EVIL STEPMOTHERS.

[@sallychase1564]

But she did not get visitation rights, so how was it the sons fault?

[@andrewmarshall8187]

Respectfully, I disagree with saying choosing the Father was fine. If the choice was just based on something like he wanted to remain because of school and/or friends that would have been fine. However, he flat out told his Mother that it was because of money, totally NOT fine. Then he doesn't even contact her for 20 years until the stepmother throws him out and he's broke. The fact that he's broke after 10 years with a rich stepmother is his own fault. He should have been smarter and had a Savings account. Instead he most likely w wasted any money he got from her. The Mother was under no obligation after 10 years of no contact with him to help him out at all. One thing that wasn't said was if he got any kind of Inheritance after his Father died. If he did, what happened to it?

[@tanyaredfield]

I would guess that dad and gf told him stories and turned him against his mother. I would lay this all on dad, for his affair, for leaving his wife, for not insisting his son at least visit his mother, and for generally making his family fall apart.

[@kionaechan]

@@sallychase1564 just because she didn't get custody/visitation rights doesn't mean there was anything stopping the SON from contacting her. It was entirely his choice to a) go with his dad and b) cut ties with his mother.

[@MrBeevee5]

@@sallychase1564 At 15, a child has a lot of discretion on who he is staying with. Happen all the time, usually against abusive fathers. I am very sure she had the right to see him, the father couldn't legally prevent it, but the son could.

[@shirleyramirez4441]

We always talk about children cutting contact with their toxic parents but never the other way around. Like parents should just take their kids BS because they are their children. Smh. This child was simply trying to use his mother and I’m so glad OP realized her worth.

[@erenssister.5535]

Her son is 18+ he should know better. He shouldn't depend on his mommy to pay for his fees

[@shirleyramirez4441]

@@erenssister.5535 yup

[@kionaechan]

He's not even a child at this stage. He's around 25 and in grad school.

[@shirleyramirez4441]

@@kionaechan of course. But you are still your parents child.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

​@@shirleyramirez4441 I know right? Now look, I get it. Parents chose to have their children and they're responsible for them, at least until they turn 18, but that doesn't mean they forfeit the right to have feelings as soon as they become parents. Nor does it mean that they have to be a doormat, a punching bag or an ATM for their children. And there were some people who have given in to parental love, only for their children to leave them again or hurt them again. Part of the reason why some people grow up to be selfish and entitled is due to being spoiled rotten and the lack of boundaries some parents have failed to set. And I'm saying this as a young lady myself by the way. I know it's hard to give up on a child, but at some point parents need to let their children be adults.

[@cynregent4788]

He's 25 years old and asking for help? Please.. show him the door.

[@keen9166]

Ain’t nothing wrong with an adult asking for help however the op straight never cares about his mother and only wanted money

[@oneuup2490]

To be honest when he said Mom I would have been like I'm sorry you have the wrong number I don't have any children. I would have told him he can talk to me after my vacation also.

[@MrBeevee5]

You came up with that after some thoughts. OP, Of course, had no time to think.

[@melissawittman]

I will never understand why people think if they bad mouth a person on social media the person will change their mind and help them out. That's the first way to secure a NO from me.

[@Porcelaindoll1028]

Op’s son will never know of his mothers sacrifice until he has kids.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Oh my gosh! Poor OP.........she's definitely NTA and she didn't deserve to be abandoned by her husband who was trash or her own son who needs to grow up. I know he's young and was likely manipulated but he had a chance to reconnect with his mom but he threw it away, because he didn't like the fact that OP was poor and only wanted money out of OP. I know I'm going to be attacked by the Holier than thou police and I know it's hard to give up on a child(I honestly don't think I can give up on a child so easily), but sometimes you need to let your children learn the hard way that just because they're your children doesn't mean you have to be a walking ATM or punching bag for them. And life isn't going to give you handouts just because you exist.

[@OKAYOKAY420]

As a parent of 2 children I love very much, I'm on your side OP. Don't worry about what the other parents are gonna say.

[@jinnieharrison9686]

I don't think Op did anything wrong at all.

[@Marsena]

OP definitely did the right thing! I'm glad she decided to move on with her life, and not give in to the horrible manipulations of her son. He didn't want to reconcile or renew a real relationship with his mother; he just wanted her money because the stepmom cut him off from hers. That's HIS problem, not hers! He can get a job and pay his own way through life like everyone else.

[@PuppyKatt]

Story 1: NTA. Feeling empty is not hating your son; it is part of the grieving process. The emotional rollercoaster has yet to begin. When the dust settles, you will have the chance to sit and talk with your son. Let him know how much it hurt when he was 15, and chose Money over Mother. Keep in mind that at 15, he was still just a kid. Good luck. Edit 1: Kick him to the curb. Sorry, but it seems as though the past 10 years taught him nothing except to "follow the money."

[@dragonagegirl]

​@@k70freeman That's true. It's the responsibility of the parent to maintain the relationship. It would've been different if the son was an adult at the time, but he was only 15. Considering how many times OP stated that she didnt want to be a mom, I'm sure that OP wasn't exactly discreet in her distaste for her son

[@DarkWolf22k]

He did learn nothing but follow the money... He saw the money the second his father left and ran with it

[@DarkWolf22k]

​@@k70freeman What are you even talking about? Also what emotional blackmail? You are literally blaming OP for what her son did also my eyes are bleeding from trying to figure out who you are talking about... Are you using Google translate??

[@robertx8020]

@@k70freeman You must be reading a differnt story Or are you just a troll? If you want to blame OP then there must be something wrong with you!

[@robertx8020]

@@dragonagegirl Nice assumptions So it's ALWAYS the fault of the parents? You must have had some bad parents!

[@melvinmelvin9606]

How could anyone think she was a bad parent? Christ that's just self preservation

[@kathrynbillinghurst188]

I’d feel empty and numb too… OP!! ✨ ✨💖🌸💖✨

[@keendog91]

This happened to my sister. When she had a surprise divorce in 2013, her son FROM A PREVIOUS MARRIAGE OF HERS decided to go with his stepdad. He has since gotten married and has two children. He blamed my sister for the divorce but it was her husband who cheated and served her divorce papers at her work. Don’t know what he told her son, but after all this, she ended up in the hospital with a breakdown. In 2014, she moved back to our home state. She stayed with me for a while but eventually moved out. The only way she could see her son and grand children was online. Finally in 2017, she met an old friend from her high school. They started living together. They haven’t married and both are now in their 50s. I had Easter dinner with them last Sunday. I asked how she was doing and her answer was this is the best time in her life. They have a small ranch. Love their horses and dogs. I asked if she misses her son and she told me she doesn’t have a son. It’s been close to 10 years now. If he ever contacts her, I think her position will be like this one.

[@cynthiabelhumeur619]

I read the rest of the post and it was shocking. I now have to agree with your decision to step back.good luck with the future.

[@doloressnowden7681]

His mother did the right thing, all those years he could have at least called his mother karma

[@susanmugridge2274]

OP is a great person and deserves lots of love and happiness❤

[@raydenn6027]

The son never re-established a relationship with his mother. Treating her as a cash cow was not the right way to go, He first needed to interact with his mother to create a bond before thinking about money.

[@scriblarian]

Op needs to refer her son to a good lawyer. His step mother most likely took all 0f the inheritance.

[@darlenesavoy2810]

OP made one major mistake.... she canceled her vacation the first time. She should met him that day or the next before her vacation or upon her return from vacation. A son who hasn't spoken to you in 10 years is not worthy of canceling your vacation for.

[@Carolina0108]

Good for OP. Toxic is Toxic. Regardless of who it is. Have to take of yourself first. He did what he did so she did what she did.

[@animefreaks9963]

NTA, not only did the son not contact her at all while staying at dear ole daddy's place with the rich woman, but he expected mommy to just jump at meeting her son again after such a long time and be fully committed to helping him. I am so glad that she didn't let her blood drive her to help the ungrateful money hungry brat. And she is totally right, he'd just spend it how he wants and keep asking for more, what he should do is get a job at the store like what she did.

[@khaavren3]

On the update: he's an adult. let him deal with the bed he made. He only called her when he needed stuff, not because he loves her. I'd say screw it.

[@knittycowgirl]

Good for OP! A Mothers heart is priceless matter how poor she is! Sherish her, you only have one

[@marthaandrews441]

Good on OP. You were being manipulated. He is 25, 25. Time to take care of himself.

[@tyffanypoudrier6610]

Just because he chose his dad he could have kept in touch with his mom he was 15yrs when they split he just wanted to use her he’s 25 yrs now time to grow up.

[@helema23]

he chose his bed long ago and shouldnt complain when it gets lumpy years later. he didnt call or visit his mom for years and now comes crawling back when he needs money. she did the right thing!

[@dorabarkley6335]

Why is it that when family members cut off their other family and come back years later broke asking for help and that family says no - the asker becomes belligerent, hateful, you’re called a bunch of dirty names but they’re the ones that needs the help - with that picture ??

[@tinab3an]

She gave him the ultimate lesson she teaching him how to fish it’s up to him to learn

[@KarlaGarcia-ld6mv]

The son sounds like he's manipulating Op to get what he wants, and he needs to grow up. He's only asking for money and blaming op what will happen to him in the future. The thing is, when I was growing up, my dad cheated on my mom twice. They are still married, and I have a pretty close relationship with my half siblings, and their moms and my mom are friends with them. Ops son better get a job because bitching about not having money is not get you any where.

[@vleev.6886]

The only thing o.p. did wrong was pay for the same vacation twice.

[@beasty909]

mistress bribed the kid cause she was jelly of OP & how shes so happy in her Life & she wasnt :(

[@LunaP1]

She also didn't give a damn about her stepson and just saw him as a means to keep her ill-gotten trophy. She didn't even care about her trophy since she was using him to get inheritance money and cheated on him.

[@Muney-hl9jh]

OP's son needs to grow up and get a job. We get it, he's still young and he's currently out somewhere, but so was OP and he mocked her for that. And the fact that he's a copy of his father makes it all too obvious he's learned from him. And not in a good way. Im proud of OP for standing her ground and not giving him what he wants, he should be able to get a job and be able to find a place to stay. And the fact he bad mouthed OP but not the one who cheated on his father and kicked him out is BS. He made his bed, now he must lie on it.

[@waynec38]

I`m confused..Why did`nt she just say this: 'Look son,I do love you,but when you decided to be with your father and betray my heart,and emotions,You Pretty much stabbed me in the back...You did`nt give a damn if you hurt me,all you cared about was yourself. You never Loved me,you just left me alone..So,if you cannot support me,and stay with me..I`m sorry,I owe you nothing,and you will get nothing,because you betrayed me,son. Don`t contact me,and leave me alone..You`ve hurt me enough..Good Bye!" THEN BLOCK HIM!!!!!!

[@jamekanichols3732]

Wow, I couldn't even fathom something like this happening to me. My kids would never.

[@jay_dave8722]

He's already 25 for the love of God, he can find a part time job and save up. All he wants now is free handouts.

[@rosecarrejo3940]

OP your instinct to hear him out and figure out he was trying to manipulate you was spot on. But just wondering did you tell him or ask him why now why did he feel you were obligated to help him when not once did he make an effort to reach out to you in 10 years. I guess maybe you will repost if any update happens

[@echomoon3381]

I have to wonder what OP would have done if her son had contacted her sooner? Instead of waiting 7yrs, and not needing her just for money. Had he called her before he turned 18? I think the story may have ended differently l.

[@darnelltucker9163]

I don't think OP did anything wrong. The fact is she was abandoned by her ex and son. Some people in the comments mentioned she could've tried to reach out to him, but who's to say she did and failed? For a decade, she needed to heal and grieve over the loss of her family regardless of the fact she never wanted to be a mom. The fact is she LOVED him and never abused him. Her son never tried to reach out to her to maintain the bond they had before. Now after his dad died and his SM kicked him out he wants OP to be in his life and help him. No! He's an adult and there's consequences to choices we make. He needs to take accountability.

[@juletneptune6264]

Story one!! OP husband is a stupid idiot, he was sleeping with her college friend, Five years, the grass looked greener on the other side, son was greedy and abandoned his own mother for a woman that now his father is going (dead) and the woman he chooses so long ago. Now he wanted to use his mother. OP please continue to take care of yourself and live your best life.

[@jeneden3492]

He's not bad mouthing his stepmom cause he doesn't want to burn bridges, he's a jerk

[@kimlehman8179]

Let him get a job and learn to take care of himself. The fact that he’s calling her names proves that OP was right to deny his request for money.

[@ladyblue5367]

Sounds like my story... only difference is that I did become a doormat. I let my daughter back in only to betray me and when I cut contact after, she played the victim card to make everyone hate me. Op was / is smarter than me for figuring it out. You are not a bad mom , remember your child is HALF you genetically. What he grew up to be was the half your ex contributed, not you. You did the right thing.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

Your story and this story are exactly why I hate how people blame parents who have been beaten down despite doing their best for their family. Look, I get it. Parents chose to have their children and they're responsible for their children. But that doesn't mean they lose the right to have feelings as soon as they become parents. Nor does it mean they have to be a doormat, a punching bag or an ATM.

[@j.scottvanlester4584]

She.... couldn't wait till she got back from vacation to talk to him?

[@jackchop1576]

The stepmom likely booted him out because he was a freeloader that refused to work and she was sick of him leeching off of her.

[@susanvanophem4569]

OP, you are not an ahole. You never wanted children, and your son actually chose money over you. Be happy and enjoy your life, maybe find a SO to travel and enjoy those adventures with. All I ever wanted was to be a mom, and I am. You wanted to be child free, and now, you are. I don't blame you, and he's a grown man so he can take care of himself. Hugs.

[@beasty909]

i hope OP took that mistress & him to the cleaners in the divorce!!! :/

[@scarter8137]

OP -NTA- If the son would have stayed in contact with his Mom over the 10yrs there would have been a bond. He totally ditched his own mother! If his father would not have passed away he most likely would have never spoken to OP. Obviously his Dad didn’t bother to leave him an inheritance. Yep, OP was right he just expected she would now fund his needs. Time for this spoiled adult baby to get a JOB and become self-sufficient!

[@gailholmes9099]

I appreciate your honesty. If I could go back in time I would never have kids. I would pursue my career and travel. You should have never cancelled the trip to Thailand. I am glad you are not helping him. You had every right to take the time to think things out and weigh your options. I am so glad that you rebooked your trip to Thailand

[@danielperkins7255]

He's about to be homeless, but he can still spend the next few months on social media to berate people into giving him money. This was an obvious grift.

[@dellablair5854]

You should have made him wait untill you got back from Thailand!!! Seriously

[@sabrinahinton1774]

Exactly!! Do you know how much a round-trip ticket is to Thailand?? I wouldn't have helped him either, he chose money over love & loyalty look what that got him. A mother's love is unconditionally until she feel betrayed. I hate this happened but sometimes life isn't fair.

[@lindaprofitarealtor]

Is she kidding me? He wanted nothing to do with you until he needed you? Nope 👎 sorry but all he had to do was keep in touch at least!

[@cmsxcb]

Does anybody else feel that OP is missing out a chunk of information here? Not being granted ANY visitation rights and the kid not contacting her for 10 years COULD suggest reasons other than money for his choice. The "I never wanted to be a mother" statement also doesn't sit well and suggests things were not always rosy while he was growing up. I'd like to hear the other side.

[@kionaechan]

Stepmother was rich and had connections... it doesn't seem that far-fetched that OP got screwed over by her and her ex in court. But even if that's not the case and she was the worst mother in the world, I'd still say she's not in the wrong for choosing not to accept the son back into her life after a decade of no contact (which was entirely by his own choice after he became an adult... the "kid" is 25 at this point). His only interest in her now is money. She's not obligated to give it to him or want anything to do with him.

[@jeanettecasaus7828]

Well the son choose the father. After 10yrs. I'd probably feel the same. She obviously moved on. As she should.

[@delorescannon455]

You did the right thing you're happy without your cheating evil ex husband and evil son. Keep that evil kid out of your life....

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Ops son was obviously a materialistic shallow person. Many kids are like this. I feel the fathers influence was probably what did it. Some are born without that humanity chip.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Maybe I was wrong. Maybe Ops the empty human. Maybe it’s the money and human connection the son craved so he left with dad

[@mikimishisa]

@@amberleeannalee1999 Not really most people before they can feel anything specific for someone they feel numb

[@Gems-of-Hope-Rocks]

Actually, it's NEVER too late to apply for student loans. First day of class, halfway through the semester, it doesn't matter. Now, of course, there are things that definitely have deadlines, like grants, scholarships and certain types of loans. But, some student loans are always available. They said he had one year of medical school left and there is TONS of loans available to medical students, especially if you don't already have a lot of debt built up.

[@beasty909]

i think her (ex)hubby hoped OP would quit halfway with learning & now decided to try & screw with her :(

[@timothykennedy6804]

OP should just tell her (former/dead) son to "get a job".

[@karinasamaniego8765]

It is truly sad and I don't think I could just give up on my kid, but OP's son brought it on himself. He not only chose the money but he completely cut his mom out of his life. He doesn't get to choose her after writing her off because now he wants to use her for money.

[@yahainHotPink]

Thank you for sharing

[@bonnieschwegerl6536]

Good for you!

[@InvasionAnimation]

18:56 is my favorite part.

[@murielross9288]

I've learned early on you can love your children, you don't have to like them

[@vickichavez9956]

She made the right choice

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

The son was 24 not one Christmas,, not one Mother’s Day? No calls .No visits allowed. That is heart breaking. He can work and get loans for his last year. Heck he can probably get a job in his field. And they will pay for that last year. He could even go to the collage and tell them of his situation. They might be able to help him sooner than he thinks. If he has made it through his Masters. He should be well on his way to his Dr. S degree. I couldn’t tell if it was a Phd or an MD he was going for. If that were the case. He would be doing his residency. But he as an adult should be capable of looking at options. Most kids parents run out of money after the first degree. And scramble for jobs and cheep housing. He just doesn’t want to work a real job yet.

[@eatoyo.g1836]

Some children are lost case and it's has nothing to do with bad parenting. As you know horrible people can somehow raise wonderful kids . So NTA

[@katrinagoins1661]

I'd walk away from him

[@katrinagoins1661]

And make a contract for him

[@jingerjar1365]

My anger is you postponed your trip to see him. You should have said it wouldn't work see you in two weeks

[@andreavanhoof6047]

Do not give him the money; make him learn the hard way of betrayal! Tell him that this is what he gets for abandoning you!

[@elsaramos2375]

Op don't help your son. He doesn't deserve your help. After what happened he crawls back to mommy. No doesn't work that way. Let him pay for his mistakes.

[@stephaniehoyland4901]

Op sons doesn't deserve his mother forgiveness not after what he did

[@Gems-of-Hope-Rocks]

You ranted about how the son could transfer to a community college. Um, NO YOU CANNOT!! First, he's in medical school! Second, community college is for the first 1-2 years of college, not the final year of medical school!!

[@jackiehenry3372]

And that in 10 yrs, he's never contacted you, he's got a lot of nerves to call you selfish.

[@faraht1250]

Not crappy mother, he could keep in touch with you in that 10years.

[@Bmanbeast]

😢 OPs son is discussing

[@patriciavanross1473]

He was an adult, spunging off his stepmother and Dad. Then tried to do the same with the Mom he abandoned. I'm glad she made the right decision. What a looser!

[@rebeccajohnson8579]

OP, I am PROUD of you standing your ground! Son left you for money, along with his dad, dad died, and he got kicked out and rightly so! He should have been WORKING supporting himself instead of being totally DEPENDENT on his stem-mom! I don't blame his stepmom either taking care of a full-grown man, despite the fact that he was in medical school! I feel this was his was of AVOIDING working to be a free loader! Ten years and your son never tried to stay in touch, that's a truly low hurtful blow! Keep your distance, for he is definitely looking for his bio mother to take over from where his deceased father and stepmother left off! BOY GET A JOB and take care of your grown sorry lazy butt!

[@sarahhapka3647]

No it is absolutely NOT a parents responsibility to always take care of their kids, no matter their age. It is a parents responsibility to raise responsible productive adults. And OP's ex and his wife did a piss poor job!

[@deniseduffey22]

I'm pleased you dropped hi. on his ass😊

[@hvymax]

OP should have told him she'll see him when she gets back. 25 and hasn't accomplished enough to support himself!!! It's pathetic that she threw away her vacation. He could have slept in a car or couch surfed till she got back. He flushed her like a loose turd the last time she saw him.

[@janmarie3976]

So make him sign a contract for the money . But he only gets enough for school. anything more he needs to go to work for . But he can work for it all. Most people who go to university do this all the time .

[@kathleen2043]

I agree!

[@sandramjrd8179]

The son was entitled. He did not have a Plan B and used up his energy trying to manipulate his mom instead of trying to do something for himself. I could see if he asked his mom with a plan of action instead of looking for a complete handout. Kudos to the mom for her actions!!

[@Sammy52550]

Honestly, I don’t blame her. And I am one of those mothers that will do anything for her children, but after that, long after the blatant disrespect, when he did decide to come back, all he wanted was money no. He can go cry back to his stepmother’s side and beg her.

[@luizad2277]

OP should have gone to Thailand and see her son when she got back

[@carolm4646]

1st mistake was to skip your vacation should have told him he has to Meet a day sooner

[@antoinettebates244]

Cancel a non refundable trip for a lunch with a son who betrayed me..NOT A DAMN CHANCE!!

[@alicedavis4847]

Show him the door don't let him in

[@jackiehenry3372]

You should've told him how you feel, by his actions from 10 yrs ago.

[@sandraskellen3172]

Why would you cancel a vacation just to have coffee with him you could have arranged to meet him after you come back!

[@nadiahinson3515]

NTA they kicked you to the kerb so yeah I too would feel nothing

[@karlabenedict3658]

I completely understand not feeling for family anymore. Just by blood, it doesn't make you family, no matter the situation. She wasn't given visitation.. he chose money over his mother.. when he was old enough he could have reached out to mom to apologize. Nothing.. She hurt long enough and was numb.

[@evelynberrios8164]

A narcissistic user of a man. He can fight for his inheritance from his dad. He chose to go to you to use you again. Time for him to grow up. Work and pay for his own education. NTA

[@Mrs.Pena-1]

😂😂GOOD FOR OP😂😂 THE SON CAN POUND SAND AND KICK ROCKS😂😂😂😂😂

[@stephanietaylor142]

The point is hers. He didn't pick his dad over her, he picked the new lady's money over her

[@mari.s752]

Life by its very nature is based on making the most of what is at hand. When someone, anyone makes a choice that results in your soul being hurt you absolutely must respond in a manner that best shields you from that pain. Taking the path which leads you from harm does not make you a bad person. If someone has openly shown you that you have no meaning in their life you have no requirement to allow them to own any part of you.

[@roddyronny1226]

You have no obligation once he turned 21. He never once called and asked how you was doing, only called once he was in trouble. I know as a parent it's our job to help our kids but once the kids abandon you and treat you like a stranger the bond is gone. I honestly would've went on the trip and told him we talked when I got back. That way I'm clear minded on my decision.

[@gregoryreffitt7957]

I agree with you Mr Reddito, I think she made the right decision. At 15 he was old enough to know what he was doing and he cut his mother off and didn't talk to her or contact her for 10 years until he was in a bad situation. He needed to get out and get a job and work for what he wanted. He got lazy from having everything handed to him. Oh Well Tough Titty Said the Kitty.