16 Personalities - Most Likely to HATE or LOVE Their Own type?

[@lovewho]

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[@Olliewiener]

Can u repost the link to the discord It says it’s invalid for me ?

[@leagueaddict8357]

Ye, It's very easy to without trying just by conversing to upset someone, I would say as an ISTP the people that I hate the most are the most sensitive people, I think individualism and personal freedom has more value than someone's opinion by itself, ideas are more about being able to share them than how good or bad the idea is, I'm not against 1 sided views or hatefull views, Instead I value the fact that those people aren't as boring as the rest of the sheep and come with a new perspective, It's refreshing in a way whether It's facism or another type of hate, not that I'm against the people group that's being hated but it's nice to have people be themselves whether that's racist or not, as long as they aren't overly sensitive I'm fine with them existing.

[@rayw3332]

I wanted to join your patreon and contribute but the process of joining -- the dozens of questions and confusions and privacy grants and access and cookie agreements, etc., just insanely complicated, so I stopped the process. Sorry, great channel.

[@Zevven]

I don't think INTJs love themselves , they just hate others more.

[@crazydude2361]

This is true.

[@skud79]

Can't agree more.

[@Kima344]

I think we are just neutral towards ourselves

[@SOULJAJOE010]

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO bro i had to read this twice to really understand what you meant omg man 😂 INTJ here

[@arashseddiqi3241]

That is so true haha

[@atnoc8738]

INFJ here and yeah... you're right. I can't understand why people want to be INFJs so much that they get mistyped by one. I get it, there are some "cool features" like the wise and calm guy stereotype. But I honestly think that that "wisdom" prevents the INFJ from enjoying life as others do. It's like, being aware of the patterns of society and, many times, failing to see a purpose for your participation in it. This "too much in their head" characteristic can bring a lot of pain in the form of depression and apathy. We get to see and know things we preferred not to. This can affect our relationship with ourselves. We grow detached from life and our own perspectives and desires and wish we could be a little bit like others. The overthinking can get to a point that our default mood can be "why should I even try to be happy or want/feel anything at all?" If you're INFJ and you feel like this, try to get out of this Ni-Ti loop. Engage with people, expose yourself to new sensations and experiences, develop your Fe and Se. Express yourself, connect, put your feet on the ground and don't lose touch with reality. Even if you're not INFJ, seek help. There are people feeling the same way you do. And the others can also empathise with you and help you realise your own strength.

[@maybeazombie]

wait, did you watch that asurapsych ni-ti loop video?

[@atnoc8738]

@@maybeazombie nop, i don't know that channel. But i think that, for every type, their loops (1st and 3rd function) have to be balanced with the other functions (2nd and 4th).

[@maybeazombie]

@@atnoc8738 agreed. it's just that i could unfog a few things after watching it, and it has a very similar approach to what you wrote ^^

[@sudaknot]

Yeah.......

[@Amanita._.Verosa._.]

I don't always leave a comment, but when I do it's because your words are touching. I'm currently In a loop and I need a dang life raft.😑 Your words remind me what my head can sometimes forget or fail to acknowledge; that it's important to stay grounded and that I'm not alone. Much love to you.🖤

[@LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau]

I like being an INFJ, because I can understand almost every person on this planet. But the very moment when I feel misunderstood, I hate being an INFJ. So I do understand your decision. ^^

[@sheennina1234]

sameee

[@khuturuwmorow6267]

I just want to remember, that he said a trend to hate theirselves. I personally know just one INFJ in specific, but I can see what Nathan meant. But, because I havn't that much of expirience with INFJs, I cant discuss this anyfurther. Long story short, in his opinion INFJs are for which reason anyhow very likly, to hate theirselves

[@athos401]

As intj, I too understand every one. And I understand they're stupid.

[@fred_krueger55]

​@@athos401If you think that everyone is stupid, then you are the stupid one

[@lovescent46]

Your INFJ explanation is something I've always talked about, can't believe how accurate that was especially the part about rolling our eyes at the romanticizion of the type.

[@TheVintagePiano]

Yeah I always say how I wish I was ESFP. They seem like they have an easier time living life and I love how spontaneous and present they are

[@catherinedavidson7145]

Yes! Especially the "INFJs - the sparkle rainbow magic type" channels. So annoying! I wonder how many people will "stop" being INFJ now it's no longer the rarest type? 😂

[@whitneyd6827]

I get extremely annoyed on your behalf at how many people are mistyped as or assume that they're INFJs because they're mysterious or moody or just a teenager lmao. I lived with the most classic INFJ for 3 years, she's the best, but oh boy do people miss the mark when they're trying to act like that type. If she was mysterious it was because she was unsure of what she'd do next because the future made her nervous haha. INFJs are not a tumblr page from 2008 and you're not an aesthetic to be imitated.. idk why people do that

[@timefortee]

@@catherinedavidson7145 Part of the problem is that a lot of Ne-dom pose as INFJs and make others believe that's what actual INFJs are like. I think they really do believe their mistype.

[@matchamochi781]

I get so damn tired of seeing omg I’m and INFJ and this is so relatable comments that I sometimes avoid comments on 16 type videos all together. Also they get repetitive. I majority of the time they start with As an INFJ. Or INFJ here.

[@sophiamarmelstein1548]

I have an INFP coworker and love her strong opinions, but also the respect she has for others opinions. Maturity might be an added factor here. Me: INFP

[@dearkristin]

Can confirm this 👌👌 Great video as always, Nathan!

[@glueball214]

Hi .. cool to see you watch him too

[@angels5449]

Kristin!! Great to see you here

[@AlastorTheNPDemon]

Yes... My INFJ mother hates being herself. It's always surprised me, since even though she practically waxes poetic about how much she HATES dealing with people, she has the social agility of a pro negotiator. I've always known her as fairly bubbly - having a bit of ENFP energy - but she certainly has a sharp little bite if one of her friends is getting harassed, and a cold revenge streak against her traitors. Oddly enough, I got most of my etiquette skills from my ENTP dad and my efficient Occam's Razor logic from my INFJ mother.

[@haunterdragon4580]

One way to find herself is to base who she is off what she does and the actions she takes and accept that as her and she can choose what she wants to be. And idk if it's related to being infj but I'm also aggressively defensive of other people getting harassed even more then if it was happening to me

[@Gobtrey]

I've got 2 moods, i feel like the most gifted person on earth or the most useless person on earth. -intp

[@J11_boohoo]

Same

[@CaveyMoth]

I am the dumbest smart person

[@richsackett3423]

It's so adorable. - ENTP

[@FindingYourSerenity]

Relatable

[@lykoe4045]

THATS SUCH A MOOD THOOO LMAOOO -infp

[@shrinkhalalala6808]

Nathan, PLEASE keep doing these. I binge-watched all "Most Likely To" series earlier today wishing you'd make more of these. I physically shock-smiled when I got the notification. Also, great content as always. Needless to say, our open-mindedness indeed is severely overlooked. -ENTP

[@ourcozycorner8517]

Right? Lol I was shocked to hear someone mention ENTPs and open mindedness in the same sentence…usually people just focus on them being argumentative and make them sound really combative when that isn’t what it has to mean…we can be inquisitive & curious & ask all the questions & point out inconsistent reasoning & logic and then still accept various takes on the topic at hand (as long as they are well reasoned). Lol we’re brutal but it doesn’t automatically mean we’re rude or narrow minded.

[@jacobellis5822]

As an infj, having other infj friends is great because you can cut through the small talk straight to the deeper stuff. There's also a shared sense of understanding that you're both picking up on all the subtle patterns in each other, without necessarily having to say everything in words. All about the vibes. I feel like I can let the Fe act drop a bit with other infjs, and that can be such a nice relief

[@anthony3082]

Curiously one of my best friends is an ENTJ, which is cool because even though he doesn't really go deep on emotional things he also has Ni which means we understand each other alot. Plus if I wan't to say something I say it without having to worry about softening the opinion XD. Sometimes he can be an a hole but I feel like he's the only person I can vent to without worrying about my Fe getting in the way. Ps. Sorry for my english, I'm not a native speaker 😅

[@mysterical-]

I can't wait until I find another INFJ irl, a real one that is. I'm slowly loosing my sense of self, people pleasing to the detriment of my own needs is getting on my fucking nerves. I've heard about them instantly picking up things so much so that even if you butcher what you're to say.. they still get it. Exactly it does sound relieving!

[@jacobellis5822]

@@anthony3082 I get this! I have a really close estj friend and we have a similar dynamic

[@jacobellis5822]

@@mysterical- it can be really comforting to know that someone else is facing similar struggles and naturally wants to communicate in a similar way. We're out there though - I'm sure you'll find someone to be yourself with :)

[@yanismartinel4043]

@@mysterical- It really is 😊. I hope you'll attract what you want

[@languagelover747]

As an INTP, I agree with both love and hate. We can obsessively “go down rabbit holes” of research/learning/hobbies and get so absorbed that we don’t come up for air to eat or socialise. It’s both exhilarating and isolating at the same time. Our comfort zone actually gets in our way of development of other abilities. Sometimes we suddenly realise that our lifetime is limited and then we reassess whether what we’ve been doing is leading in the best direction. (Ni critic, underlying our Ne which offers too many options to decide).

[@sunshineandrain869]

Although being an INFP is hard as hell, I wouldn’t trade it for anything. 😊

[@Imaginarie]

Yep! Because then we wouldn't be ourselves.

[@sunshineandrain869]

@@Imaginarie Exactly!

[@CartoonyPirate]

Agreed

[@CartoonyPirate]

So many things that aren't being talked abt online Frustrating, but also not hate it

[@loner8713]

Being an INFP is really hard indeed, I'm in hermit mode right now lol

[@maggis0]

I thought there would be 'neither' category where INTJs would land. I don't hate my type, I don't love it either. It is what it is. I could either utilise it or waste it Trying to apply the former, ceaselessly. Great analysis anyhow, as always.

[@isaymamamoo9469]

Intj here and I agree

[@Edward-pi2sl]

The curse of knowledge works in reverse too. And you know it. The feeling of doubt in every single section of life, where you know the answer already and you're sure of it, but still, the doubt remains there, because you have the feeling that nothing is certain. Nice video tho

[@coolcat2424]

omg yes i hate this bc it’s true, nothing is certain so your never know for sure what is true 😭

[@BuizelCream]

As an INTJ who's technically more optimistic, I have to say I agree. Despite the glaring flaws we see ourselves in, sometimes we can't help but allow our egos to inflate a bit when it comes to agreeing about INTJ things. With a little improvising for the sensing world, it'll actually makes things even better too.

[@matthewparsons4597]

I find this really funny because I'm an ENTJ and my brother is an INFJ. I enjoy some of the things about being an ENTJ because it does feel like I'm built to win, but at the same time it's lonely and no one ever listens to harsh reason. I have no idea if my brother hates his type, but he's not exactly the happiest with his "emotional guide" approach to life. Yet we absolutely adore each other and couldn't be closer. I wonder if our healthy levels of internal hatred bring us closer together. Also, I had no idea ENTJ was rare. It is pretty lonely at the top

[@fl3640]

INFJs aren't super emotional though. Maybe your brother is, not my place to judge him. As for myself my biggest problem is dissociating from the materialistic world and the Ni-Ti loop. I think all INFJs can relate to this and you might like to ask your brother about it to know him even better.

[@nerysghemor5781]

Do you think maybe the type of career you're in affects the degree to which people around you "listen to harsh reason"? My ENTJ dad is retired Air Force, and I think being in the military really suited him because of how mission-focused that is. He hated when people played political BS of course (and in his case that's why he actually decided he did NOT want to be a general, because that would take him out of the cockpit and mean a lot of politicking crap)...but at the end of the day it was about getting the mission accomplished and you did what you had to do. --INFP

[@endgamez7621]

sounds cocky im cringing alr

[@esfjazzy]

ENTJ’s are the rarest type

[@stephen_101]

But the world need people like you, stay strong 💪

[@sonalikadeep226]

I don't know how to explain this but as an INFJ I've always felt something was wrong with me and I needed some help( idk for what ) or a guru who would understand me and guide me through life LoL. No one around me felt the same or had same kind of struggles I did. No one relate to me and I couldn't even explain things to myself then how can I turn to somebody else for help ? Growing up I had this constant internal conflicts bcz in order to feel normal I tried to fit in the world and end up feeling even more miserable from it. After knowing about these four letters I.N.F.J it was the turning point in my life and I'm really very grateful for it knowing I was INFJ helped me a lot ...to actually understand myself and this is what I was searching for ? As the quote goes "knowing oneself is the beginning of all wisdom". Now I accept myself and embrace my weirdness and at this point I don't really mind having to struggle a bit bcz everybody is different and have their own kind of struggles in life :).

[@TeraHammer]

This! I guess this is why we love MBTI, it presents a system to understand, come to terms with, ourselves.

[@loner8713]

@Sonalita I am an INFP, I also tried to change myself so that I can fit in but guess what ? I was so depressed and couldn't enjoy my life till I had a heartbreak and came back to the way I was (INFP). Solitude helped me to know myself better, I also felt like something was wrong with me coz I am so weird.

[@Cinderella-mc8kf]

As an infj, i like infjs theoretically, being the sage the protecter, their other names, however in reality it's so difficult and different, feeling unworthy all the time or not *smart* as others or knowing how to live this world like the rest is really bad, it feels lonely, also i hate how i come off to others sometimes (arrogant, superior,not interested, self Centred and self absorbed), even when i don't intend to, but to be honest maybe it's my 4w5 enneagram that's exaggerating those feelings which feels like I'm cursed or something, bottom line is i feel like we're not loved liked or accepted and not cared about + being boring and have nothing to share or entertain. Even when people around me assure me the opposite but that's how i feel like I'm no one or I'm not supposed to be here, maybe i came from somewhere else 😅. I always dream/ fantasize of a savior coming to rescue me, to give me a purpose to let me know who i truly am, that i am useful, to stick with me with everything and become close, and to teach me everything and be patient with me, to understand me and see through me and respect that.

[@yellow_jacket3260]

As an INFJ, the reason why we usually hate our own selves is because we have Fi critic, so we can be extremely self critical.

[@amins4493]

omg, can you speak more about this? Or somewhere I can learn more about it? I'm actually having a hard time with this, and I wanna understand it, I'm so darn self critical for what :/

[@mysterical-]

this 👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽👆🏽 spot on. Drives me nuts

[@yellow_jacket3260]

@@amins4493 I think it is because we are generally agreeable people, and our agreeableness can make us slaves to our environment, which in turn makes us hate ourselves

[@amins4493]

@@yellow_jacket3260 oh wow, you’ve got a point, I try and mold myself depending on the environment/person I’m with, I try and be ideal with each and every one of them, but since everyone has a different “perfect” I end up being the complete opposite

[@yellow_jacket3260]

@@amins4493 ye, and it usually manifests into resentment

[@jacobandersen6075]

As an INFJ, I’ve said to my ENFJ friend on many occasions how no type is more frustrated by their own type than INFJs, and how it makes sense that there aren’t a whole lot of us because nothing would get done. Actually meeting other INFJs is like a surreal experience because of the mutual understanding, but it can be so weird to be in the company of another INFJ.

[@stevedavenport1202]

I know. I have been to several INFJ meet ups. However, it's nice to Qvetch with them 😀

[@justinael]

I am an INFJ and I like being this type. No hate for the type itself, because it explains who I am and why I am like that. We are a good type. BUT I hate some things about myself and I don't like seeing the flaws typical for INFJs in other INFJs. It makes me feel pathetic, uncomfortable and full of shame. I don't know if I can call it hate for the type, though...

[@resasmajli1584]

INFJ here .. I absolutely love being one, this is want I stand for building my character there 's nothing else in the world that would make me want to be different from what I am in fact my personality is the source of my happiness. I'd rather die than change my self, it doesn't make sense to me one ever not want to be who they are.. it contradicts themselves on the first place. Any mentally healthy person will love themselves simply for who they are.

[@resasmajli1584]

An INFJ is a positive thinking person to hate themselves . This is so dead wrong.

[@shikhasuman871]

@@resasmajli1584 True... They know nothing about us, quite stereotypical. I'm INFJ and I love it too. 💜

[@juice_lime5114]

The only type that is truly colourless yet colourful. The mirror that depends on your environment. I am skeptical with your approaches, that I have suspected your types. Maybe you souls here have being brought up healthily, or not tested in life to the breaking point yet. A true one will only be fully matured when tested on both extremes of their personality. INFJ struggles contain inner pain and sadness like no other. If you think that you are happy being one, look back at your worst mental struggles or even breakdowns and fully understand the MBTI functions. If you can stay fixated despite pain surfacing from those flashbacks forcing your tears out and fully understand the reasons behind your struggles and every single action, then you will understand if you are real, or let alone matured. Go ahead and take the challenge, and prove me wrong. No personality type likes getting themselves read inside out. They will either reject it, or accept it with a sense of defeat. Take note, all you need is a single letter mistype.

[@resasmajli1584]

@@juice_lime5114 I totally get your point.. However I have never doubted my mbti because when I first found out I was infj-a my whole life made sense and it's true I don't deny all the pain that we feel it's true all the misunderstanding and even trauma that I believe ALL infj go through (so been there done that) regardless it's only made me stronger as you said. My sister is an Infj-t and we are pretty different I would say in so many ways I think it plays a role being turbulent or assertive I guess infj- a are even more rare if I am not mistaken .. Or maybe it has to do with self esteem btw I was brought up by an Entp and my mom Enfj, my brother being an Infp and my other sister enfj. However you need to get this we live in a way that we do the things our way, kind of filter everything else to find the most important thing, to see the truth in things and by the time we're over 18 we have only developed our personality for the better because we've learned everything from observing our entire life now we put that into action.. I am 25 now and I am extremely okay with the way I am ( always have been ) but now with outer confidence (always had) but I would say more outspoken and articulate. I hope you understand my point 😀

[@juice_lime5114]

@@resasmajli1584 of course I do. I'm a mirror for a reason @@ those that are truthful will always continue to explain yet understand. I was brought up under a narc, and survived a toxic environment. Thanks to that experience, I rip apart narcs easily now... I also break up fights all the time very easily. If you noticed, I always leave a way out in my words. If people are being truthful, they will always somewhat continue without ticking off. I'm actually only slightly leaning towards turbulent, like 60 over 40. A constant improver. It's nothing wrong to question everything, it allows growth. But I trusted my senses while making a choice. I trust the MBTI maybe 99%, because I broke it down to the very fundamentals. The creator is an INFJ, so we naturally get in tune with the interpretations. Personally I won't be proud of the status, it is merely a "tag" for people to scratch the surface of what lies underneath. It is true that assertives have a brighter ego to light up their personality, But the best is to be balanced. Balance is the truth. I'm only happy of myself for sharpening my skills to realise the full potential, not for the "tag".

[@OperaGhost-jq8yz]

As an ENFJ, I definitely love my type, I find that the positives far outweigh the negatives.

[@cathyhart3946]

Me too. I love how easy it is to relate to and affect people. I also love spending time in my Ni head and getting those somewhat rare, but spectacular "a-HA" moments. I also enjoy tertiary Se - where I can be pretty comfortable in my own skin, somewhat athletic, and aware of my physical surroundings. Overall, it's a great type! I do acknowledge that there are challenges with the low Ti. I also beat myself up too much if I feel I've said the wrong thing or acted poorly. But other than that, I wouldn't trade it.

[@tonyharrison1726]

INFJ here. When I discovered I was an INFJ, I didn't believe it, so as INFJ's would typically do, I dissected everything and used my Ni and Ti to arrive to the fact that yes, I am. I then went through "hate" mode for many months. Self realisation is a massive thing for us. I sobbed uncontrollably behind closed doors. Incidents in my life suddenly flashed in my head and instantaneously I began to develop more self acceptance. I am 46 and have known I have been an INFJ for 3 years now. I am so much more happy being me now than I was around 2 years ago. I have also discovered recently that I am a sigma empath. For all you young INFJ's out there, here's a little word of advice if you are "hating" on yourself. DON'T! It is not your fault that the more common sensor types don't get your way of thinking as much as it's not their fault either. We are too on either end of the spectrum, so surrender to it. Instead, find more time for you and self love. That way, you can find a healthy balance. For if you are trying to make people understand you more, you are just going to annoy them and they will distance themselves from you. I know. I've learnt the hard way. It is still hard putting on that emotional gag sometimes, but I'm afraid a lot of times it is the only way to keep harmony. Know your worth without words towards most and save your meaningful conversations for the rarer types who will listen intently.xx

[@alicejwho]

I discovered I'm an INFJ when I was in my mid-forties; it changed everything for me in the way you articulated so well. I've not really thought about it before but you're absolutely correct in what you say about trying to get people to understand you (I mean I can see the effect it has on them but I hadn't really accepted it). My ISFJ husband now rolls his eyes when I mention it. It's not a case of being selfishly egotistical though, but a fear of being MISunderstood (for me, anyway). Also, I'm empathetic to the point where I actually nearly cried reading the first few sentences of your comment 😊 I wish I knew another INFJ but my ENFJ sister is great (some minor clashes!) I'm lucky to have an ENFP son, and I adore my ENTJ closest friend.

[@rymreaper]

@@alicejwho come here 🍽️

[@tonyharrison1726]

@@alicejwho Hi there. It was so lovely to read your response from my post. Thanks so much. Yes, it is still lip zipping for me a lot of times, and the eye rolls are really annoying. I can so relate. It has been a slow and humbled process to reach to my point of "blah" and "go away". Do you ever think like me though, that you are kinda glad you didn't self actualize at a younger age? I would of thought that an ISFJ partner would be more understanding than that. I really feel for you, and my eyes welled when you said you filled up from reading my post. What are we bloody like!!! It is so good to know you have an ENFP son to brighten your dull moments. As much as they say we are not compatible with ENFJs, I bet as much as you, I think they are amazing and are on the same frequency as us. ( Although a bit bossy sometimes, but only because they care.) I have a ISTP partner for whom we have formed an ISTJ daughter and a feisty ESTP daughter. I am full of sensors. HALP!!!! Would love to hear from you again. Thanks for appreciating. xx

[@juice_lime5114]

a nobody here in mid 20s. Staying at home for months on intermission due to my ravaged study life. I was pushed to the extremes of my personality on 2 perspectives through numerous head ripping mental struggles with a tough life shadowed by a narc. Questioned my very being during the last breakdown 2 months ago. I promised myself to discover the reasons that made up my life as self redemption. 2 weeks ago I came across the MBTI test and found out about my type. Then everything came around as a deja vu. My gut kept pushing me foward, any sense of denial made me feel sick. I just kept uncovering "rare" traits impossible to deny but accept. With full acceptance, I accepted my curse and turned it into a gift. Accepting who I am, I used the wisdom and knowledge of psychology to sharpen my senses. Now I wander all over the place, providing insight to troubled souls all over. The amount of pain endured from denying myself combined with fighting my fate was reversed into relief upon acceptance. Now I read people easily, and destroy narcs. I don't brag about these silly "tags" or "powers", all I know is that I'm a paradox that has chosen a path to live. Balance is the word of truth for an INFJ. The only thing that bothers me are how idiots all over swallowed by their ego trying to impersonate one. Fake comments are so easy to read. They don't understand the huge burden they have to bear with such a huge strain from their senses, and maintaining a true identity.

[@NusratJahan-kd6sm]

When I was a kid my parents used to fight a lot cause my mom has schizophrenia, she had delusions about my father....everytime they fought I used to go in a corner take my diary write and cry about my situation praying for a stable life...in my teenages I started understanding my mother.. I actively helped her cope with her illness.. Solved my parents issues.. made 'em understand each other.. not only that I helped a lot of people by giving advice and make them 'em feel understood.. I feel really good about my self where I made these positive differences...and I know I'll make a positive change in the future as well maybe at a larger scale....and I love myself and my type for that _INFJ Idk if that makes me a pseudo INFJ or any other type.. Because yeah every where on internet you see "How depressing it is to be an INFJ " It's hard I admit, daydreaming all day and then beating yourself up for not being productive enough, having a paradoxical life, being so complex.. But that's the fun part...I love to do research about myself to understand my complexity.. So you INFJs out there who hate your self.. Don't!.. maybe you need to look at life in a positive light.. Yet I don’t know every thing..I might be wrong as well, I might be other type in that case let me know which type I might be. This huge comment might seem weird I know ... It’s just I can't really express my self in less words 🙃 Btw love your videos as always 💕

[@Multitudes_]

I love my type (INFP), I just hate a lot of the perceptions and misconceptions around it in the MBTI community, and how frequently underestimated we are, for example, intellectually or in terms of the capacity to be happy, healthy, secure people. And just soooo many negative assumptions around Fi. Of course, the perceptions and pressures of people in real life can also be difficult. I've been harassed and/or pitied countless times for my nature and lifestyle and personal choices, either because they're too weird/unusual or because they seem like 'not enough'. Not enough social life, not enough action, not enough accomplishment, not enough money or status. On the surface, there is not a whole lot going on in my life; beneath the surface, where I really live, there is so so much. Yeah, it can be hard to reconcile ourselves with society. But once we do manage to create a life that's in harmony with our nature, it's so beautiful and rewarding. I don't need a lot out of life except to be able to be myself and do my own thing freely. I can make so much out of so little.

[@nerysghemor5781]

You are so right about the INFP stereotypes!! Nathan actually has a video about how we “defy” our stereotypes, which is very nice for showing what a truly three-dimensional INFP looks like. I’m not sure if it was him or someone else who said that healthy Fi is not selfish; it values selves, including the selfhood of others.

[@Multitudes_]

@@nerysghemor5781 Right. I think Dear Kristin mentioned that in one of her videos.

[@nerysghemor5781]

@@Multitudes_ Could be! I love her videos too. 👍

[@liltunturi1251]

every cognitive function has its benefits, but generally I find living as INFP in modern society very anxiety-provoking, confusing and just exhausting to be functional. I feel like it is becoming more and more difficult, people have less patience with each other and tend to get offended easily. Everything is generally rushed, world operates on "the faster the better", standards are too high in work places and relationships. As an INFP I always notices how much I soak in the energy and mood from the environment around me. And I hardly ever feel calm. But still I both love and hate this. Although it is more of a "acceptance" of my way of thinking and feeling the world, rather than loving it. I hope I can do something about all the worrying, I need help. If that gets better, I know I will be able to love again.

[@Raphsophomes]

I love my own type as an isfp because I understand it beyond the online stereotype and there is a surprising amount of complexity to it that goes mostly unnoticed in the community. But ACTUAL isfps I've met are some of the most inspirational and intense people I've ever met. My te user girlfriend once told me "it's like your gut tells you what to think and somehow it checks out logically and you arrive to the same conclusions as me but out if sheer emotional instinct." I'd say isfps fit the traditional word "intuitive" better than an infj or intj does. I've noticed looking at other isfps that they are extremely emotionally intuitive and although they have ne blindspot, they can tell when something isn't right about something in a single glance, and they won't be afraid to argue about it either. Idk where this stereotype comes from, but people seem to think isfps being quiet and generally warm towards others means they aren't argumentative af... if they think you have ill intentions and if they think you aren't a genuine person, they WILL point it out to your face and they will not be nice to you about it lol. Like zero passive aggression... your either valued, or your nobody to them and you don't exist.

[@blackcat6374]

As an INFJ: I agree with placing us in the Hate category (at least in my experience.) Of course I might not be the best example because I have anxiety and ADHD (more specifically ADD), but if anything been an INFJ just made that worse. Having low Se, blindspot Te, Fi high enough to make you care about it a bit but not strong enough to actually understand it and what it tells you, and Si demon is definetely not fun to say the least.

[@zofiapoczatek7633]

I feel so bad for INFJs. I really understand that such people might not be able to accept what they think others wouldn't (at least I try hard to understand it), but for me, you are sensibly the best type to both get on well with the rest and preserve your own opinion, ambitions and traits. Ni and Ti stand for the whole sophistication of assertions that remain after weighing some topic distincly, and Fe + Se denote, for me, a caring, warm human being, who notices those small changes you want them to notice in day to day life and presents themselves in the best way for you to be proud to have such a friend in your surroundings. So to me, it's all a beautiful combination of what's pretty normal and secure, like also what's outstanding and original. As an INFP, I've always thought to myself that I lack this kind of balance in my personality, because I don't have too much to share with people who just want to have an ordinary life next to me. I personally know one INFJ (which I'm actually grateful for, because you guys are RARE), and that's what she is. If I misunderstand you, I'm sorry, but I just want you to know how I perceive the way you are. Forgive my bad English! I hope it's not that tragic though

[@rogerhuggettjr.7675]

INFJs are great people and my favorite J type. Easily the humblest IMHO. Wish I had more in my life ~(intp)

[@kyurei4478]

Thank you. I honestly think that others can appreciate what we are better than we could ever do ourselves. But at least I can appreciate myself for what I can bring to others. I think we're just not built for living an ordinary life.

[@c_mendes]

Thank you so much for this🙏 I really appreciate it. Also your English is great by the way! It honestly never occurred to me that it’s not your first language as I was reading it. -An INFJ

[@baileyab47]

You understood incredibly well. That's something I love about INFP's. You guys see such profound things about the nature of people. Thanks for sharing friend 🙂

[@trillium7582]

"Now I'm wondering if INFJs will be the only type in the Hate category, which would be hilarious." I lol'd. I agree, I've independently concluded that real INFJs tend to dislike being INFJ. I think another tell is, those memes where INFJ is compared to Hitler, are you a) offended, or b) "...yeah..."? (Actual INFJs are more likely to see what people mean by the comparison. INFJs may also dislike INFJs because we know our inner Hitler makes us awful, even if we never express it.)

[@charmainefrost]

Yep, always aware of ALL the psychological components, both in oneself and others. Aware of the “dark side”, the inner shadow/monster. So, yeah, “I could be a serial killer or devolve into a Hitler, if the right (wrong?) buttons are pressed in the right sequence”. Too aware of the “dark side” to delude oneself into identifying solely with angelic/heroic archetypes.

[@catherinedavidson7145]

3 songs that, to me, sum up what it's like being an INFJ: 1. Sweet True Lies (Beast in Black); 2. I'd like to teach the World to sing in perfect harmony (New Seekers); 3. I wanna set the Universe on Fire (Gloryhammer). All on KZbin. And sorry about the New Seekers - it's a terrible song!

[@matthewyang7893]

Very much aware of my dark side...

[@erratictransparency]

@@charmainefrost Sounds about right. I literally have a harm reduction strategy that revolves around avoiding nihilism like the plague because I know exactly where the buttons are.

[@mysterical-]

if anyone says they love being INFJ.. than they're probably fake. Could be exceptions though.. like mature one's who've learn to self-care and accept themselves for who they are. I think I'd love another INFJ more.. wait, does that mean I'd technically be loving myself 🤔

[@corygingras1030]

I hate to be that guy… but I just wanted to mention that your “how to spot in 2 minutes” series is my personal favorite and I was wondering if you ever plan to complete it with an ESFJ video. I’m a big fan of that series and it would be awesome to see it concluded. -INFP

[@RazanIsMe]

It's funny how the more the type is uncommon the more you think they dislike their type, and the more uncommon the type is the more people pretend to be have it, and I agree with you in many of your choices

[@theraccoonatic]

I think there are 3 main reasons why i as an INFJ hate being an INFJ 1. I can always see both sides of something. This may seem like a good thing. But, when it is always the case or in a situation where anyone would be overwhelmed with positivity, I would still find a downside to it. But not say anything to keep everyone else happy and not burden others with problems. 2. I am rarely in touch with myself. This is something that i think is a problem with almost all INFJs. I have this problem where i understand everyone else in the world to a much deeper level than myself. This leads to me having a lack of self confidence in both decisions and my own identity. This is why i will always stand by the fact that, despite what many may say, INFJs can be very indecisive. Its because they lack the confidence in making decisions for themselves. 3. I can get too far inside the wrong people’s heads. This is something that stresses me out in particular because, despite hating it, i have a knack for it. Honestly, this could be placed into point number 2

[@gelliarts2104]

honestly, I’m 100% the same as you except I thought I’m ISFJ

[@HiFutureMeHowAreYou]

Fuck being an INFJ. I have zero sense of self. I hate when I see both sides of the argument and the result of this is unable to make a decision or get closure. I wish I could stop my brain from thinking AT LEAST FOR 1 MINUTE. I wish I'm an ESFP.

[@hannahmayhorn5466]

These are all so true!

[@masyaf897]

@@HiFutureMeHowAreYou You will learn to love it and then it becomes a super power. Trust me, work on yourself, be patient. Time is on our side.

[@user-he2pf1sz3u]

Dude I feel like a side character sometimes... Don't know my purpose in life. And every bit of what you said was relateable

[@tanyakulsum6909]

I agree... As an INFJ the thought of being in the presence of another INFJ is so intimidating to me. It's like they know my every move and can just read me so well that it horrifies me.

[@loner8713]

I am INFP and I love my personality, I can love and care about someone so deeply and I can also get hurt so deeply, I am so emotional and very sensitive to others, I am an empathy sometimes I wish everyone was like me, I care so much about the feelings of others,,,,,,,,I wouldn't like to hurt someone's feelings. Sometimes I care about others more than myself. Sometimes I think about replacing "F" with "T" maybe I wouldn't suffer like this. INFP

[@MikeShawTV]

ENFP both... to an extreme! That was too easy 😃

[@tanayasiripoon9822]

I totally agree with you!

[@Chigger]

It was totally easy to guess that. I'm never sure I'm the best or the worst.

[@hb6839]

Omg I just saw the complete video and INTJs being in the love category is totally accurate. It is not often that such personalities are seen and we find it a blessing to find someone else who can be in the same kind of mindset as us. I am too excited to hear your opinion of us as it is damn accurate, dear Nathan. I have been out of the personality typing loop for an entire year but your impressive analytical accuracy has made me excited to watch more of your videos. All your videos are worth liking and commenting on, my guy. Keep it up, love you

[@m.aj11]

I knew instantly where would ENTJs end up. I wouldn't say that "it's lonely at the top" is necessarily a source of discomfort for me, as I've always had greater interest in ideas, knowledge and putting them into real use through concrete action, then in relationships and people (which sometimes I even regard as waste of time). For me, the biggest struggle of being an ENTJ is inferior Fi: brushing aside your own ideals, needs and even self in favour of supper successful endeavours that I don't even like or know if they fit with my own desires, morals, emotions... There are times when nothing brings joy, simply because I do not even know what is the thing that would make me happy and feel like I'm truly realized as a human being.

[@sash8099]

😢😢

[@3Zeppoli]

Find your joy by developing your SE child function. It's helped me immensely.

[@johanhermanstorm8805]

As I could have written this myself 🙂 (ENTJ) sad, but true

[@letfreedomring7330]

I do love being an ISTJ, though you're wrong about being misunderstood. I feel chronically misunderstood and "alien" due to my blind spot Fe. I mean well, and I genuinely want to help people, but people think I'm mean sometimes. My way of helping is not usually welcome, but sometimes it is, and I can't predict which it will be at any given time.

[@CRohrscheib]

I'm an INTP and I usually don't enjoy being around other INTPs, especially younger individuals because they haven't had any time to work on their toxic INTP behaviors (no judgement, I was the same). INTP women are mostly ok because they generally communicate better and are more in touch with their emotions. Sorry boys! I gravitate more towards E types, friends and partners.

[@nowalls8713]

Considering that INTPs are 3,3% of population, it seems that you should deal with 100 people (on average) to get to know (maybe) 3 certain INTPs, and you’re stating, based on your 3 INTPs relationship experience, that “males INTPs are more prone to be toxic than female INTPs”. Add to it that you could have mistyped someone of these 3. Conclusion It seems that you’re biased and your judgement about “males INTPs” is a judgement about “males in general” 🙃

[@languagelover747]

I agree. As an INTP often stuck on my own world (and comfort zones) I thoroughly enjoy Extraverted types that can help snap us out of it, as long as there is some shared outlooks, interests, and open-mindedness.

[@ali8800]

@nowalls Did you not even consider that she would know best what toxic traits an INTP would have, considering she is one herself, and the fact that on the internet it is incredibly easier to find a higher proportion of the "rarer" personality types. Not to mention, that's not how proportions work. INTPs may be around 3.3% of the population, but we generally dont meet people at random. Usually through activities or school, which would select for a higher proportion of a certain type of individuals. That is to say, INTPs might be 3% of the population, but that doesnt imply they are 3% of the people you know. Especially know /well/. Finally, there is merit to pointing out a gender difference in behavior... because boys and girls are socialized differently. Its not a boys suck, women are better. It is a simple acknowledgement of concrete, objective reality... If you are socialized to be accomodating to others at the cost of your own comfort, you become disproportionately self-aware of your flaws and thus more likely to have worked on them or at least hidden them; which is what OP would observe when she considers relative "maturity" of young INTPs. If you aren't pressured into this kind of mindset, most people wouldn't gravitate to this type of mindset, at least not hyper self-awareness on the behavioral level, because it is a generally unpleasant and self-sabotaging mindset to adopt and exist in. No one can argue that INTPs are self-aware about the flaws in their logic, but I believe there are many dimensions to "self-awareness," and awareness of toxic/annoying behaviors (such as what an outsider may percieve as "immaturity") is not intrinsic or mutually implied by a high degree of logical cobsistency, if that makes sense. All in all, there is merit to being open to questioning her reasoning and conclusion, but your argument was weak from the start. It seemed more to me like a self-protective gut reaction than any actual attempt at debating or disproving what she actually said. If you actually cared for true to life accuracy, you would consider all of this, or do the research to consider this, /before/ reacting and disagreeing on principle.

[@nowalls8713]

@@ali8800 If she was so strongly convinced about the validity of her statement, why didn’t she answered me? I was provoking, waiting for her to argue. She judged, using MBTI “terminology” (pseudoscience without any diagnostic nor predictive power, semplification of the obsolete Jungian typology, invented by two women that weren’t even psychologists), the entire category of “males INTP”(males in general), based on her personal experiences. You are accusing me of “not caring for true to life accuracy”, writing, in your verbose essay, “It’s not a boys suck, women are better”. It sounds unscientific. It’s not because of how differently “males and females are socialized”, this is incorrect. The differences seem to exist on a biological level. Males on average are more assertive and have higher self-esteem. Females are higher than males in extraversion, anxiety and trust. The moral of the story is: If you want to discuss gender behavioral differences, just rely on real scientific sources instead of stupid pop psychology, writing about “INTP male toxic traits”, “E types” and other conceptual garbage. “SORRY GIRLS!”😆

[@SocialBurrito3]

You are one of the truly unbiased people who deal with the mbti. I really enjoy your content.

[@williambriggs9990]

I 100% relate to the INFJ argument you made. Those not in my close circle all think I am clearly an ENFJ, and although I tell people, many don't really believe me deep down (my assumption, although it seems quite clear). I find that implementing Fe in my life has to be a delicate balance. I feel at my best when I am out there helping others and helping people with their struggles, but then I feel terrible when that gets too much and I have to shut them out. When I get to this point I often fail to give good explanations as I am angry at myself for feeling this way (which sometimes results in internal resentment of others). I wouldn't say I hate my type, and I would even go so far as to say that the combination of Ni and Fe makes me often needed as a key component of friendship groups - Especially my current one, where there is a large amount of Ti/Te users and Fi users which always results in clashes which end up with me using my Fe to keep the peace between everyone. As far as I am aware, I am the only member of the group with Fe in my top two functions.

[@atnoc8738]

Hello, I don't know you, but the things you described on the second paragraph really do sound like ENFJ struggles. "I feel at my best when i am out there helping people with their struggles" is an Fe sentence, for sure. But if there's anxiety or maybe even guilt when you feel you want your space, that points towards an extrovert type. Also, you say you get angry with yourself when you fail to give good explanations, which indicates an inferior Ti. This shows an unbalanced Fe-Ti axis. The things you are talking about are people vs. self, which indicates a single Decider type (ExxJ or IxxP). I have ENFJs friends that also struggle with that balance between being there for the people they love and recognizing, in a healthy way, their own boundaries and limitations. As an INFJ, when i need to get my space and shut some people out, i'm normally aware of the reasons why and i do it for self-preservation. If you feel uncomfortable when you have to engage your introverted functions (Ni-Ti) and feel at ease when running with the extroverted ones (Fe-Se), then you are probably ENFJ. On the contrary, an INFJ might feel more nervous and insecure when talking or interacting with people or the environment. Hope this helps :)

[@williambriggs9990]

@@atnoc8738 Thank you for your reply, I really do value this kind of insight and advice. Recently I have been considering that I might be an ENFJ, but it's always been the fact that I feel so uncomfortable with Se that leads me away from saying that I am an ENFJ. I have music in my earphones nearly constantly when I'm outside and not engaging with others, because otherwise I can just get overwhelmed by all the sensory. On the other hand, the thing you mentioned about inferior Ti also makes sense to me, as I do get extremely frustrated when people see me as illogical or brush off my opinion/ideas because of the goals I have in mind. For example if my INTJ and ISTP friends are making offensive jokes and it's upsetting our INFP friend, I will speak up and try and explain why they should stop, but they don't see the Fe reason because for them it lacks logic. Then inevitably they take apart my argument for every logical inconsistency (which there is going to be of course, because the goal is group harmony, which means taking into account human emotion, which is inherently illogical). Sorry if this was a long explanation but I am sure you can understand my confusion. Once again thank you for your reply, I really do find it interesting.

[@atnoc8738]

@@williambriggs9990 oh i see... so you feel the impulse to speak up for others but you don't feel so comfortable in maintaning a debate... I think, in my case, i tend to avoid conflicts and normally i don't speak up in group. My approach tend to be more one on one. But if i need to defend my case, i think it helps the fact that my default mood is overthinking x) Because i feel deeply in touch with my reasons (due to extensive and exhausting deep inner exploration) i can usually be responsive, untill my battery goes down or i feel my emotions taking control of my tongue... One thing that might help you is "re-watching" the interaction you had after it has passed. With practice, you can analise the arguments that were made and try to find your own. Don't give up on that inner exploration. You have good reasons, just need to learn how to find and defend them better. Then you can speak up and keep harmony for everyone in the group ^^ Maybe next time, in some displeasing moment (a talk, a heartbreak, a professional faillure, etc) you'll feel more confident and present your reasons in a structured and convincing way.

[@williambriggs9990]

@@atnoc8738 I entirely agree with what you are saying. Thinking back to how MBTI works, the sole role of the dominant function is to be responsible for it. In actuality, I actually got into MBTI especially because it allowed me to explain things in a way that was approved and adopted by many. It means I can explain to thinkers that people also make decisions with Fe, and that it doesn't make them "stupid". I have always felt responsibility for the friend group I am part of, and the wellbeing of all the members. It is possible that I mistook my Fe as just a social skill that I have. Thank you for your interpretation, and I'll definitely think on what you have said for a long time!

[@atnoc8738]

@@williambriggs9990 😊 i'm glad i could help*

[@miss_anthrope5198]

As an INTJ, I will agree that I have invested a considerable amount of my time into self-growth but I wouldn't necessarily say I 'love' my type. I would say it's more of an indifference towards my type.

[@Chigger]

I'm not only an ENFP, but also a 6w7. "Existensial Turbulence" may as well be my middle names.

[@HaotoAnimeOnPiano]

As an INFJ, I don't hate myself but I do somewhat dislike my type. I'm way passed the point of where I'll just do whatever I want and whatever I takes to better myself. I've accepted myself since a very young age, but I would hate to be the stereotypical INFJ whose weakness misguided them and their strengths misjudges themselves. I know what I'm doing, so that should be fine.

[@mounikasampangi3589]

I think INFJs neither feel love nor hate for their own type. They feel more like sorry for their type🤣

[@LittleMew133]

That's mostly INFP, but yes a bit INFJ as well

[@Meenaia]

Lol nah. It's straight up hate. "why can't I be more like you mf's?"

[@sabicsabrina]

I already expected the Entp‘s being there in category „love“ , because I see them as really chilled/cool people with a strong mind and everyone would maybe love to be this type, right?

[@misseva7404]

ISFJ here - i always get a boost from your videos because you have such respect for my type. It's easy to feel like the butt of the joke in MBI for our naivete and plainness. You make me feel so appreciated.

[@nerysghemor5781]

It sounds like you have a well rounded awareness of your potential strengths and weaknesses, and if you’re actively honing both (strengths need nurturing too, not just the weaknesses), then I don’t think you need to spend too much time in guilt. ❤️ -INFP

[@erinl422]

I’m an ISTJ and will so to bat for all of my fell ISxJs. I’m supposed to get a along with INTJs well and while I do, to a point, I find that the other IJs tend to appear as though they think they’re better than others and I just can’t abide by that. I always know what I’m getting with an ISTJ or an ISFJ, though I do feel like you guys beat yourself up way too much!!

[@gloria7190]

Hi Nathan! I just wanted to say that as an INFP I really enjoy your unbiased opinions. It's an unrelated question but I was wondering something. Do you think it might be frequent for siblings to be the same mbti type?

[@i3ignorantidelweb43]

I was wondering that too

[@omerekici9835]

I am an ENFJ, my sister is an INFJ and my brother INFP.

[@gloria7190]

@hmmm my older sister is an ESTP and I'm an INFP. I sometimes wonder if her bullying behavior traumatized me into an INFP 🤣 meanwhile my younger brother I think is an INTP, but he lately comes out an INFP in the test. We get along pretty well. Younger sis I think is an esfj

[@bebelmatson]

this is a very interesting question to me as well, my siblings and I are so different! I’m an ENFP with an ISTP brother and an ISFJ sister, hahah.

[@paulakrumin8]

As a case study, my husband and I, both inp types, have 7 children. All but 1 are intuitives, all but 1 are introverts, the f/t and p/j are more of a spread.

[@yanismartinel4043]

I think being an Infj myself I would tend to love other Infjs. It comes from a place of realizing how f up and difficult it can be for this type to get into a more healthier state of themselves. And because I think I've managed to get into that zone myself I kinda want to hold compassion for these people as I know how difficult and lonely life can be for us. And I realize that there's possibly a distinction between hating one's type descriptions or how it is portayed or overly romanticized on the internet VS how a person's type actually shows up in the real world. I personally think that two Infj's both knowing that they're Infjs and that the other person is one too would be incapable of hating each other, they would rather try to correlate their life philosophy with one another and old space for the other person's problems or difficulties in a general term, and that wether healthy or not. But of course if we're just talking about "hating" a certain type description without trying to acknowledge that actual human beings possess those traits then count be out of this equation please. Internet can be very depressing for me sometimes.

[@andrewhamilton2424]

I personally hate that INFJ is one of the rarest types, due mainly to the un-welcome extra attention that it brings! I'd rather shimmy another type into the "rarest" spotlight and retire quietly to a more dimly lit and ambient part of the room. There I could better analyse everyone else and maybe even help them with any self dislike issues they may be struggling with 🤔

[@EmpressTarotGabbyTurner]

Very much agreed.

[@georgemarian4417]

I'm an ENTJ and I love my type, I would never want to be an introvert, neither a sensing type, cuz I couldn't be able to see the bigger picture anymore, for sure I would never want to take my decisions based on emotions rather than facts, and, for my judging type... I know that it gives me a little bit of anxiety but without that, I wouldn't be able to make order out of chaos, the only thing I am good at and for which I'm highly paid :)

[@3Zeppoli]

Me too. I think he's wrong. He gets ENTJ wrong alot.

[@spring7643]

ENTJ is a sensing type tho, since it can be argued that 3rd function becomes stronger than 2nd function when you have alone time to reflect. Only half of the mbti types are true sensors or true intuitives, to find them look at the 8 types who have Nx and Sx at polar ends. One example of a true sensor would be ISTJ, and a true intuitive would be INFJ.

[@3Zeppoli]

@@spring7643 By your definition we would be true thinkers.

[@spring7643]

@@3Zeppoli correct

[@3Zeppoli]

@@spring7643 I agree with you on that , but NI cannot be discounted. It is high in our stacks and therefore very prevalent. Often times our hero function is so much a part of us it becomes invisible or rather autonomic, like breathing or our heat beating. The parent function is typically the most outwardly obvious function. Child function is super pure and that's where you see ENTJ's as great athletes or really musical or playful. It is the function I really rely on when I'm engaging with my ISTP husband or ESTP SE parent and hero respectively, but when it comes to verbal interaction or problem solving/analyzing I pull away from the sensory and you will very obviously see NI at play.

[@BrockMak]

5:28 8:58 "Love" would only be right if they agree on a said topic. If they don't, the debates could be... terrifying. I can't imagine which is worse: INTP's debating amongst themselves, or ENTP's debating amongst themselves.

[@ShaleNinja]

As always these are right on point, but as an INTP, I'm rofling at your description of us. I frustrate the hell out of myself, but I thoroughly enjoy the company of other INTPs and have, on multiple occasions, gotten sucked down wormhole conversations until the wee hours of the morning with several friends. The limitations of the meatsuit I'm forced to inhabit are a never-ending source of indignation for me.

[@lilywojciechowski9906]

As an ISFP, I ironically have been statically attracted to ISFP, INFP and ISTPs, so not sure what's going on there but I feel really comfortable around those types.

[@richsackett3423]

So many jokes about an ENTP being "pregnant with possibilities" that it wouldn't be right just to do one.

[@solarisan_]

I used to view my personality through the lens of love/hate (or, hate/love, if you will) till I have decided to do research on cognitive functions in order to understand them better. Now, I no longer phrase this thought in the way I have previously done. It gives me a strange feeling of comfort and brings awareness to my daily life knowing when and how I use(or, misuse) certain functions. And, most importantly, I understand others better. Rationalizing the inner process of how we make decisions, helps me show greater understanding and compassion.

[@stevedavenport1202]

I think where the INFJ self loathing stems from is how our strengths often do not line up with the world of work or the world in general. Many of us are stuck in jobs that rarely line up with our strengths. Our true inner selves are often rejected by most people as being too weird or unusual. Being the sensitive souls that we are, this is not a recipe for happiness or self esteem.

[@baileyab47]

spot on

[@sirbradfordofhousejones]

9:13 thank you! Fi aux is definitely self-reflective. But yeah, I’d rather move forward than be still.

[@charmainefrost]

Makes sense that the 2 rarest types are more likely to hate their type. Rare type means that fewer people are likely to understand your perspective or the unique way/reasons that events have an impact. Thus, a more frequent feeling of alienation. Over time, such chronic or repeated alienation leads to self-doubt: “What’s wrong with ME? It must be ME, if no one else has the same reaction”. “No man is an island”, but thinking differently from most leads to feeling like an island - isolation while in a crowd, “they know me superficially…….but no one knows the REAL me”. For infj, that feeling is difficult/frustrating for the high Fe that longs for true connection: alienation vs grief for the empathic merger that will never be (perpetual low-grade mourning the improbability of an ideal).

[@YellaSpiceFamily]

As an ENFJ I find this very accurate: I sometimes immediately hit it off with other ENFJs, other times I just feel extremely confused and frustrated. I think it corresponds to the other ENFJ's level of observational skills/self-awareness: some ENFJs are so used to doing "our dance" (without thinking about it) that they can't/don't stop to reassess when they aren't able to "get out ahead" of the other person like they usually can, and an ENFJ can't do that with another ENFJ. So the conversation just produces a kind of feedback static - never turns into a real encounter.

[@memenimatorcreator4206]

INFJ here, its right. On my insights, i think if i communicate or empathize to our fellow INFJs, it will be hard. We can't understand ourselves either, and theres so much going on in our minds and we care a lot to talk about anything. With other people's ideas, thoughts, feelings, etc but it will really feels like I'm talking to a mirror fsr and the curiosity will never end until someone opens up

[@makaniwebb9358]

'[INTPs] are like 'what is this [heart] for?' That's pretty true. It's inconvenient. You earned a chuckle from me. ~ INTP

[@Alpharexx]

This heart of mine only brings pain and suffering and gets in the way of me thinking objectively. Put my brain back in a jar. ~ INTP

[@blackbird9045]

My heart makes me confused about my brain so then after realizing that this is happening to me inside……. I tend to go to sleep to forget about it

[@Liathrys]

I think the reason why we stand at the middle on average is because being deemed as someone that is "cursed with knowledge", there's a certain amount of warmth that it brings. For me, it sort of keeps me from going full apathetic and emotionless, a reminder that I am human during the times when things just calls for me not to be one, for whatever reason. - INTP

[@usaokumao4892]

For me(INTP) personally, who grew up with INFPs and a lot of xxFxs in general, I'm a bit more emotional then supposed. I still find this exact type the most relatable and I love it, I'm genuinely glad, I'm an INTP. Tho it's hard sometimes to understand other people and I hope to find some xNTxs, so that I can relax completely while with them and not to worry so much about hurting their feelings. Well, it's kinda hurdler, then I thought, since I'm not a social person

[@zoeorchid]

ENTJ here. I definitely resonate with his ranking, especially as woman. When he says that finding people who are operating at the same level of you in relationships is difficult, he wasn't kidding, let me tell you. Especially as somebody who aspires to traditional relationship dynamics, having such a hard personality type is difficult. I want to be the soft and feminine one in a romantic relationship, but I also don't want to suppress my true self - which is, true to ENTJ stereotype, hard, logical, decidedly non-fluffy, and very driven. Thing is, most people aren't as hard as I am. And that's fine, but I just don't want that in a romantic relationship. Also, I found that a lot of men who are on the harder side of the personality spectrum want a woman who is complimentary to that, and much softer than I am.

[@homosapien5684]

A god complex and deep seated insecurities ~ intp

[@beep7634]

havent seen many enfp comments so i'll give mine :D i only know a few enfp's irl and ive noticed that i either love being around them or absolutely hate them. that being said i think your placement is pretty accurate. there are some enfp's that infuriate me for some reason, i don't know why but it may be because i see too much of a side of me in them, a side that i want to keep hidden. often these enfp's have similar struggles to me but they seem to have it worse and i just dont know how to....deal with that. i know that enfp's tend to do things at their own pace too but sometimes our paces are too different and that annoys me. the one's i get along with better, ive noticed, can deal with their attachment to people better than others. we understand that the reason why we get along so well is due to the fact that we can keep a comfortable distance between us, we cant really get sick of each other if we're not constantly together. as i'm writing this ive noticed i have some serious issues with my Fi........... damn

[@Kali_babe]

Even though sometimes it’s difficult to be an ENFP, I love my personality type and I wouldn’t change it for anything

[@beep7634]

i agree!! :DD

[@spring7643]

I like other INFJs the most, but I don't like being an INFJ it's like torture since quarantine started (Ni-Ti loop is hell, though I imagine any 1-3 loop is hell)

[@stefanleithner6922]

just curious, how many people here did get an actual typing through an mbti-interview and how many just made an online test? becuase, lately, it starts getting on my nerves that everyone starts putting those 4 letters in their bios and stuff just after making an online test, I feel like the depth of the topic is getting abused by most people...

[@3Zeppoli]

Definitely

[@alnapm8703]

I am pretty sure ENTJs will be on the love category.Its lonely at the top, but ENTJs also have the caliber to tolerate that.

[@john_dee1431]

Agree about INFJ reading between the lines; it's only when you see it mirrored in someone else you realize how misplaced it can be from a social perspective. Meaning, life has a way of self-correcting without intervention; live and let live.

[@YellaSpiceFamily]

ENFJ raised by an INFJ mother, and yes yes YES - any time I see someone say they're INFJ like they love the fact that I feel deeply confused. That's ... not how INFJing ... works... 😕

[@alexandrasimoes1032]

Every assumption i made about where the types would be he did the same. Then intj came and i was surprised ngl. He would be in the both if not hate category. They're probably more partial to their type while accepting and being in tune with theirselves so they can focus on what to improve in whatever they decide to.

[@tukynii]

As an ENTJ, I can 100% agree. It's not fun having no one truly understand you fundamentally, intellectually, or emotionally. Especially when I was an early teen, it was so depressing trying talk and connect with people on any deep or spiritual level when everyone just lacks the capacity for it. On top of that, people just make fun of you in highschool for being any smarter than stupid especially when you're not participating in AP or CP courses. Im not sure if I hate myself for being too complex and direct or of I hate everyone else for being insufferable.

[@mariliab6489]

I'm ENTJ and I love my own type I never have the feeling of hate myself. And I know sometimes it's can be lonely. But despite that i really like the idea of being different of other and i like things not cliche feels like I'm always innovating and I that we can be anything but predictable That's why I love being an ENTJ

[@meredith18352]

As an INFP I usually find meeting another INFP feels like coming home, it is just comfortable

[@keneibuswiho2953]

So true it's home...🌍🏠🌄

[@grrlinglasses]

I'm an ENTJ, I haven't met another ENTJ yet (where are all of you?). I am lucky enough to have two close friends that are INTJ's. They are awesome!

[@hb6839]

I am an INTJ and I absolutely love the fudge out of our type. I only mean to be expressive (not bragging) that being of higher intelligence and having met many other intelligent types especially INTPs, I didn't really get along too much with with their types as... They are more book smart and factual, which I enjoy a lot as I am sapiosexual but still, wisdom and analytics are probably the most compatible features with me. And INTPs don't display that too much... I have met one other (most of probably INTJ and less probably INFJ) personality in my life for the first time and it feels like I am in heaven. Absolute intelligence with wisdom and a humble confidence in one's abilities, we may be two sides of one coin. INTJs are rare where I am from while INFJs are more often seen, so from my infrequent experience, I enjoy others with my personality type the most. Really dying to make that special person take an accurate personality type but they are so damn reticent that they would keep mystery at the cost of enjoyment hahaha. I'd love it someone typed them accurately. I must also mention that my closest encounters are with INFP and ENFP and I love to hang out with their personalities for entertainment and an emotional bond but not a metaphysical, deep kind of bond which they can't seem to get their head around. ISFP has also been a very close person to me and although I experienced distaste for their personality type because of their habit of paying more attention to mundane pleasures and less on the goal oriented future (and practically showing no drive for accomplishment at a higher scale) they are great for distant and emotional bonds but not intellectual bonds, it just doesn't align.

[@jjleeisme]

When I listened to this I wondered if there are types who love themselves but often clash with others of the same type. As an INTP I might love the principles and logic of an argument but another INTP might come up with a different conclusion based on other criteria. In one case I had already discarded the data he was using but the guy still wanted to butt heads with me.

[@aniokay]

There are many factors that affect whether or not a personality type likes its own type: Sensitivity (highly sensitive people are more prone to self doubt) Intelligence (intelligent people are more prone to self doubt) Which characteristica is deemed favourable in society (In this day and age: Intelligence, power of action, and hopefully starting to include integrity, self expression and consideration of other people).

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

I am INFJ and I was 9 years with an ENTJ. It's a constant paradox for me, I love myself as much I hate me.

[@Pam-mb5td]

My ego probably enjoys being an INTJ when I am in my good days, but most of the time I dislike it. I feel like I can't relate to anyone, nor create anything that looks like sincere and loving relationship with anyone. I don't understand people's stupidity and I don't understand why they need to mold, or why myself feel out of place. Really on the verge of hate... 🤔

[@stefangrobbink7760]

I might be an ISTx of some kind. Socializing is difficult, I just don't quite understand people. Work, however, is something I'm kinda good at, so I just end up focussing on that instead.

[@Mi3ol]

I kinda don't relate to your explanation of INFJ but that might be because I developed a fondness for the way I am over the last few years. Possibly in the past I would've hated the way my mind, behaviour, etc. works and for sure there are still things that I don't like (too people pleasing, having a hard time saying no, not standing well certain situations with negative energies, having anxiety over confrontation,...). Maybe the fact that I've been working in self development also helps, because types don't determine your life, just your tendencies, and I've dealt with them all my life to be what I want for myself. Just a random thought. I was really nit expecting the INFJ to hate its own type ahah

[@mathiasarvidsson4370]

I'm an INFJ and I'll say this: I used to really hate my personality. Being people focused but drained by interactions, being a more sensitive man, not even knowing whether you're a thinker or feeler, introverted or extraverted, it is all really confusing. I grew up feeling like no one understands me and like I was very weird. Always thinking something was wrong with me. Liked by others, but frustrated with myself. It wasn't until I did the 16personalities test, that I for the first time felt understood. Someone had put into words so elegantly what I myself could not articulate. Ever since I've loved my type. Now that I understand myself better, know why I act or feel certain ways, and even learning to be more in tune with my natural abilities, rather than resisting, I've grown to love my personality. Learning about personality types has been a very liberating journey.

[@OneAndOnlyTrueJix]

I'd love another ISTP, no questions asked, that happened once and we have been a couple for a year now We argue/discuss a lot(It's fun for us both, but might be considered toxic by some), but we still are going strong

[@leahtheanimationfan40]

My dad and mom are both ESFJ. They got divorced after 15 years and each got remarried to an introvert 😄

[@Everynameistakenwhy]

As an ENTP, I agree with the ENTP placement here..

[@leissoo1]

I didn't even have to watch the video. I already knew I would love another ENTP :)

[@ShroobInvader]

Great video Idea

[@adrianbach8755]

ENTJ here and love my type. And I bet most ENTJs do. You didn't nail that one ;)

[@adrianbach8755]

When I used to be 18, I was an INTJ too. Partially based on that I really believe that INTJ are more likely to dislike themselves than ENTJ are.

[@3Zeppoli]

Nobody understands us lol

[@yesjo1456]

infp and I hate my type. I like being able to dream but I straight up wish things weren't like this.

[@carolineg3441]

So, I teared up when you started talking about INFJs because you are spot on. It's so rare to see INFJs being described as what they really are instead of these saintly mystical beings (which is almost infuriating). I always think about my future children and how I hope they are not an INFJ like me...I want life to seem a bit easier for them. I would love to be friends with you!

[@haunterdragon4580]

Noticed a lot of infjs (I'm an Infj btw) tend to treat it like a curse. I relate to a lot of the things they have in common with me but it almost always seems like a bad thing.

[@meganjohnson6601]

ENTJ here - Yes. I love the things I am able to do and accomplish, but it definitely gets lonely and I feel, more often than not, misunderstood.

[@c4k3yyz]

ESTP is accurate. I have a friend who is also an ESTP, and although our relationship isn't too deep, we get along like peanut butter and jelly. compared to my other friends, they're definitely someone you can count on for a good time if you're feeling down, i believe that's something all ESTP's share.

[@Bongi344]

Trueeee

[@nataliecrayton1124]

Wow I’m ENTJ and I hate it!!!! So lonely and as a women I am considered weird. You got that one so correct.

[@bunnyhop6911]

The more I watch these videos, the more convinced I am just how awesome it'd be to be an ESTP