1960s Baby Boomers Were Raised Like Robots

I grew up in the 1940s and 1950s. I became a documentary filmmaker when I was just 22 years old so by the time I got a grant from PBS to make a television series on the 1960s titled Making Sense of the Sixties (1990), I had been doing documentary interviews for a very long time. This is a clip from an episode of that series.
When people say that the 1950s were easier than today, the 1950s may have been easier for certain groups of people. For example the economy was strong, unemployment was low, and the middle class was expanding. Also the post-World War II era brought about a sense of stability and prosperity for many Americans.
Economic prosperity: The 1950s were a time of economic growth and stability in the United States. The post-World War II boom led to low unemployment rates, a rising middle class and a sense of financial security for many Americans.
Simpler lifestyle: Compared to today the 1950s were a simpler time in terms of technology and media. People didn't have smartphones, social media or constant access to news and information. This may have made it easier to disconnect and focus on family, friends and leisure activities.
Social norms: In the 1950s there were more clearly defined gender roles and expectations for behavior. This may have provided a sense of structure and stability for some people.
The 1950s have been described by some of my commentators and by my team in this clip as a socially uptight time period due to the strict social norms and expectations that existed during that era. Here are a few examples:
Gender roles: The 1950s were characterized by rigid gender roles with men expected to be breadwinners and women expected to be homemakers. Women who pursued careers or wanted more independence were often stigmatized and marginalized.
Conformity: The post-World War II era brought about a desire for conformity and a rejection of anything seen as "un-American." This led to a culture of uniformity and homogeneity, with little room for individual expression or diversity.
Sexual repression: The 1950s were a time of sexual conservatism, with premarital sex, homosexuality, and other non-heteronormative behaviors stigmatized and often criminalized. This led to a culture of sexual repression and secrecy, which could be suffocating for many people.
Racism and discrimination: Despite the economic prosperity of the 1950s, many people of color faced discrimination and prejudice on a daily basis. Segregation was still in place in many parts of the country, and the civil rights movement was just beginning to gain traction.
In many ways Americans have more freedom today than they did in the 1950s.
Civil rights: In the 1950s segregation and discrimination were still prevalent, particularly for people of color. Since then, significant progress has been made in advancing civil rights and ensuring equal treatment under the law.
Women's rights: Women in the 1950s were expected to conform to strict gender roles and had limited opportunities for education and career advancement. Today, women have greater access to education, career opportunities, and reproductive rights.
The 1950s were a time of intense stigma and discrimination against gays with homosexuality often criminalized and stigmatized.
Freedom of expression: While the 1950s were characterized by conformity and a rejection of anything seen as "un-American," today's society is generally more accepting of diverse opinions, beliefs, and lifestyles. Social media and the internet have provided greater platforms for free expression and the sharing of ideas.
Prior to my series, there had been a series on PBS called Eyes On The Prize that looked at the civil rights movement during that time. My challenge was to make a series that helped the teenage and early 20s children of those who grew up during these times, the so-called silent generation and the baby boomers, to understand what their parents had gone through. I decided to interview for the most part ordinary Americans and historians - experts - who had spent their time studying this era. The style of my interviews was to let people tell the stories of their lives their ways.
One of the main ways that the "rules" from the 1950s were communicated to kids and teenagers was at school and through educational films like the ones presented. It was here that I found rules stated in obvious and subtle ways that matched what most of the people I interviewed remembered from that time.
Based on what I heard from the interviews and from the historians, my team and I concluded that it was largely the experiences that kids had in the 1950s that created many of the social and some of the political events that took place in the 1960s. Other segments from the series are on my KZbin channel. I do hope you enjoy this and find it thought-provoking.

[@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker]

Here is another moment where 1950s parents respond - kzbin.info/www/bejne/gYbSo4mOf52AkKc

[@starduck8014]

Have a lovely day David XX

[@beckythornton6470]

Unlike the shining examples of maturity and intelligence we see so often today. Ha Yes many of us raised like pets or something. Food, shelter and med care. But not truly a valued part of family. Then my peers grow up and repeat neglect and poor parenting skills with their kids. Then the next ones and the next....we need to TEACH parenting in school. Everything depends upon it.

[@floresgt3]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😮😮😮😮😢

[@Wenyi108]

Pets should also be a valued part of the family ​@@beckythornton6470

[@RobertHecht-hi6li]

I was taught to be kind,respectful and to listen to others before responding...and,to be responsible for myne actions. I was shown love,affection and myne imagination was encouraged for growth. I think it came down to the parenting,and,the quality of their own parenting. It was a great time to be raised.​@beckythornton6470

[@ArtemisMac]

Anytime my mother asked why as a child, she was hit across the face with a wooden shoe. Yet she never took that out on her own children. She was a Saint. RIP mom.

[@phoenixzappa7366]

A clog?

[@ArtemisMac]

@@phoenixzappa7366 Yes, unfortunately

[@pickledblowfish6178]

Remember how mother didn't let grandma's anger affect her. It worked.

[@dimaknopf]

I guess Grandma and Grandpa will be taking care of themselves in the nursing home.

[@scapegoat1313]

My parents knew the art of doling out a quality ass beating. Even my granny wouldn't think twice about blistering your ass if need be. She was old-school enough she'd make you pick out your own switch, but her go-to was a vintage leather belt with a heavy brass buckle. One time my brother and I got into a pretty good fist fight to the point she was wearing herself out from full-on beating the hell out of us with the belt, but it didn't even phase us. So, since putting the leather to our ass didn't work, she put the brass to our skulls and that finally got our attention. Sincerely, God bless her soul. But I'm at least glad she left before she had to witness the way things have gone wrong

[@Notyourgirl253]

My boomer mother asked me why I talked to my kids like they could understand me, why I hugged them so much, why I gave them choices… she said I’d make them weird. Now that my oldest two are grown, I couldn’t be more proud. I’m strict, I taught them respect… but, I always treated them like developing humans.

[@nekad2000]

It's amazing that thousands of generations of human beings developed into adults and did all kinds of amazing things. And we think that our way now is the ultimate enlightened way to do things. Have you seen how society turned out? I disagree.

[@Houndoomgirl77]

​@@nekad2000You mean the society built and controlled by boomers

[@endigosun]

@@nekad2000 I agree with you. It’s so disheartening how ppl come on here to share their “abuse stories” like it was THE RULE back then and not the exception. Those were really great times for many! 👍🏽

[@michaelregis1015]

​​​​@@nekad2000"For thousands and thousands and tens of thousands of years, our economies worldwide operated with slavery and then you come along and want to change ish? What's the matter with you? What makes you think your way of doing things is enlightened? Can you see how society has turned out? I disagree?"

[@michaelregis1015]

​​​​@@endigosunyou are quite literally the epitome of "I got spanked and I turned out fine". Guess was the rule back then in those time? Judging from your profile pic, as a black woman, you and I (as a black man) should know that from how people used to do things back then that thingz ain't always that great, so stop looking in the past through rose-tented lenses. Actually critically judge the world and its conditions by its merits and the outcomes it produced using evidence and ethics and not just by an appeal to tradition fallacy.

[@krystalpistol2]

My dad was raised this way and he raised his children like that too. I remember being 11 y.o. In McDonald’s lobby and getting smacked upside the head real good, because my dad kept jabbing my sides and I told him to stop. I was yelled at in front of a ton of people and told, verbatim: “YOU don’t EVER tell ME no. YOU don’t EVER ask me why. If I tell you to do something and you ask why I’m gonna beat your ass. If I tell you to do something and you tell me no you’re not gonna be sitting down for a fucking month”. He stood on that shit too. At 23 years old I still have to convince myself that I’m not in danger if I ask why. All it does it make you grow up angry. Hating and fearing everyone because you don’t know what anyone will do, especially if your own parents are capable of being so shitty.

[@JV-ji4vl]

This broke my heart. I'm so sorry you were treated that way. You didn't deserve that.

[@brightspacebabe]

I’m sorry you were treated that way. Your dad sounds like he has issues and it was not your fault ❤

[@professionalfangster1510]

Been through something similar, maybe not this bad. Was a real violent kid growing up. Never hitting my kids for that reason. Peace is always the option.

[@GoOutside321]

I absolutely agree. A child being slapped around by their parent(s) will end up w mental health issues due to lack of trust and fractured attachment

[@AbbyCd]

​@@ValtheimTowerbanditSounds familar.

[@_Oof_]

I remember my grandma (born in the 40's) telling me that she didn't speak to her father unless spoken to. To him she was just a maid and someone's future housewife 😢

[@msmcginn4574]

Did the video say the kids aren’t allowed to speak?? Lots of ppl bitching about stuff that isn’t there.

[@_Oof_]

@@msmcginn4574 Did you reply to the wrong comment? I said *my* grandma told me this. Not the video

[@meek2312]

​@@msmcginn4574about things they experienced that may not be in the video but are similar? You don't say

[@hunterosophy]

Based.

[@CozTerra-dm2kp]

Sadly many men still think this way, but it's changing

[@caroh3158]

My mother , 73, is a boomer and she said she was never allowed to speak at the dinner table. Later when visiting my grandpa as kids, he saw how we were freely talking about our day at the table and apologized to my mom. He said : “ How bad was I to not let my children express themselves” He felt ashamed but it was also the way he was raised in the 1930s .

[@nekad2000]

Compare the pride people had in those days to now. They had something we do not because of the way kids were raise, but we can go on thinking we're enlightened and superior if it makes us feel good.

[@Melior_Traiano]

My grandfather was told that men don't cry. He used to pick me up from school and one day on the drive back he told me that it is unnatural not to cry, even for men and saying otherwise is simply inhumane.

[@cgilbert210]

Awww, at least he apologized to her.

[@EldishRinger]

​@@nekad2000Terrible bait

[@thelthrythquezada8397]

That cycle is brutal.

[@billyb7852]

My dad used to say “my father hit me and I turned out fine” - man, you had four kids and none of them talk to you anymore. Your father spanked you with his hand, you hospitalised me with your belt.

[@danielponiatowski7368]

i got a razor strop and that guy didnt hold back, didnt get it all the time, maybe only a couple of times a year but the threat was always there and a backhand that sent you flying wasnt unusual. he was an unhappy man i think and he went through the war as a kid, saw and experienced some bad shit. as a result you were always on edge and he could turn on you for no reason. never had a conversation with the guy, anything you said was stupid and my middle name was useless apparently, i was outa there at 15 and travelled 3000 miles to the other side of the country.

[@JohnSmith-zw8vp]

@@danielponiatowski7368 I can't stand when people on here romanticize and wax nostalgia about that crap. Because people who are like that about hitting kids are probably also like that towards their spouse and/or pets to "keep them in line".

[@envymosthated3037]

My dad say the same to thing and wonder why we don’t talk to them both like no and my anxiety goes through the roof when I’m around them I’m 32 and still terrified to say the wrong things around them 😩

[@kristinas7899]

No. We are both running when our mother needs something, seems I missed that part to start to hate her. My brother would never hit his daughter, but we never were mad at our mother, cause of hitting us.

[@Breaktheatm]

I’m glad I didn’t have a father 😂 one parent is enough my momma use to punch me into a wall

[@BlueLake7]

This is so far removed from the way I was raised. I’m a baby boomer and I had 6 siblings. We were cherished by our parents, grandparents, aunts, and uncles. Our church was wonderful. I never heard quarreling from anyone. My parents never showed anger towards us or towards each other. We sung, played, hiked, picnicked, farmed, read books, and loved each other. It was a dream childhood, for which I will always be grateful.

[@AlishaArlene]

That sounds so wonderful. I'm glad you have those beautiful memories. That's how it's supposed to be. 💖

[@DavidtinSongulous9856]

Yo, dude, may God continue to bless you all the days of your life!

[@nebbsbnw1343]

Sounds a lot like the church did it's true job in your lives - making everyone look more like Christ. Bless you all.

[@Ankhar2332]

What a bullshit

[@jennifergirling6850]

Yes,I think this is a propergander video,one of many, set to turn generations again each other.

[@sofidarkrabbit]

I was born in 2001 and I was raised by boomer parents. They raised me in this way all through my childhood and teenhood especially by my father. I was raised to supress my emotions in front of people, not to display negstive emotions otherwise it would be "neurotic" and "crazy". I wasn't allowed to talk back and if i were to say no to a request by them, I would be massively scolded or worse, shunned for a few days. Because of problems that my older brother had in his early adult life, my parents frequently went to a psychologist themselves and changed their behaviour. Today, they are totally different people than when I was growing up. When I would being up this way of raising kids, they seme to "not remember doing any of those things". I had a lot of anxiety and depression because of their actions, especially when dealing with feelings of loss or falling out with social circles. I thankfully have recovered for the most part but i do not like to be reminded of my memories growing up with my family.

[@davidreid7016]

Haha shut up

[@rowdy8488]

I definitely relate to this I was born in 2003 my dad is a boomer and my mom gen x.

[@robfromvan]

If you were born in 2001 it means your parents are not boomers. Boomers are people born right after World War 2 ended, meaning around 1945. In 2001 a person born in 1945 would be 56 years old.

[@robfromvan]

@@rowdy8488a boomer is someone born in 1945 or so, a gen x is someone born in 1973 or so. This is the same age difference between a parent and child.

[@LightningMo3]

I moved back in with my parents after leaving for 6 years after highschool because this is how I was raised as well, which causes a lot of differences to people who were raised by parents of a more 'normal' age. Being an adult that has nothing dictated by them is maybe the most equalizing thing that could've happened.

[@jojolearns]

“I was raised that way and I turned out fine” is the number 1 things said by people who did not in fact turn out fine.

[@DavidHoffmanFilmmaker]

In my experience, having interviewed hundreds of baby boomer generation people, you are absolutely correct. David Hoffman filmmaker

[@alvarobarcala]

Hey! This video (like all the anti boomer thing, even the term "boomer") is anti Western propaganda. Propaganda done to create confrontations btw Western generations so to fragment Western society, and create chaos. Hey, people: DON'T BE PUPPETS of this propaganda! Be smart, you can figure out who is behind these anti Western things, and who is trying to fragment Western society these days of conflict.

[@oldman-zr2ru]

I was raised that way and I turned out fine. I wasn't just beaten, my dad always told me why he was doing it. And "quit crying or I'll give you something to cry about" was heard a lot around my house. Was I a perfect kid. Hell no. Was I a perfect dad? Nope. That's the thing about life, there is no operators manual for children except maybe the Bible. You learn as you go. The first child is always the toughest, the next is a bit easier and the third is the easiest. But every child is different and each had their attributes and faults as well as the parents. It's all a learning experience.

[@DJ-ov2it]

"I turned out fine" "except maybe the bible"​@@oldman-zr2ru

[@oldman-zr2ru]

@@DJ-ov2it Don't tell me you're one of those people who thinks the universe poofed itself into existence for no reason. That's the real fairytale.

[@NicEeEe843]

Teaching people not to question things is probably the most dangerous thing ever lol

[@MeMe-wy3vr]

For real

[@robertsteinbach7325]

Look where it got an entire generation. Either they accept everything on cable TV as true or they question everything, including things know nothing about.

[@alvarobarcala]

Hey! This video (like all the anti boomer thing, even the term "boomer") is anti Western propaganda. Propaganda done to create confrontations btw generations so to fragment Western society, and create chaos. Hey, young people: DON'T BE PUPPETS of this propaganda! Be smart, you can figure out who is behind these anti Western things.

[@tinytoychihuahua7306]

@@colorsforhealing that’s a highly situational example; I think what this comment was referring to wasn’t immediate dangers like that, where someone’s tone would, in most cases, be enough to get across the urgency of the situation- though, for whatever reason, it wasn’t here- but rather, in a broader sense, not taking everything at face value. This argument assumes that all adults automatically have all children’s best interests at heart. Trust me, they don’t. If an adult is telling a child to do something that they know is wrong, or that makes them feel unsafe or uncomfortable, it’s very important that the child be able to question whether this adult is really a safe person to be around, something which, as much as we’d like to forget it, isn’t always a given. And besides, children who aren’t taught to question what they’re told tend to grow into adults who still struggle with doing so; that’s what happens when you don’t teach your children important life skills, like how to discern whether a command is reasonable- like, say, someone shouting at you to get away from a rabid dog- or unreasonable, like your boss telling you to fudge the numbers on your company’s annual report, or a cult leader telling you basically anything. Blind obedience might be convenient for the parents in the short term, but in the long term, it can be far more dangerous for their children than teaching them to think critically and have good judgement would be. Children don’t need blind obedience; they need common sense.

[@lordnokia4222]

Yup. You'd end up with America, lol

[@maryannwatkins7166]

My parents were in The Silent Generation. The abuse that went on in our house was awful. Hit whenever you expressed an emotion good OR bad. Not allowed to talk at the table, in the car, etc. Threatened with beatings all the time. Laughed at, ridiculed, mocked. No affection, no hugs, never told you were loved. My mother was disgusted because I said I loved my son when I was pregnant with him. She couldn’t understand why I felt that way.

[@Ankhar2332]

Why these people even had kids? They shouldn't

[@mchobbit2951]

@@Ankhar2332 Because it was expected that you would have children and since there was little to no birth control, you had little choice anyway. People would judge a childless couple and forget being an "old maid".

[@sclogse1]

"Remember you're a guest in this house." "Speak when you're spoken too." I know the drill. Then your grades suffer.

[@thetiredcynic]

How is a child a guest in their parent's house??? That's mad. I'm sorry you went through that. I hate parents like that who act like you owe them for creating you.

[@jlguttman44]

My parents are boomers and they definitely did not control their emotions when raising us. To this day it’s like interacting with mean children. They take responsibility for nothing- everything is everyone else’s fault.

[@makvande576]

Don't you just love the boomer tantrum too? ME BOOM BOOM ME YELL ME GO BREAK THINGS THAT NOT MINE

[@SuperCowboyJesus]

Same. Took the parents to counciling and they were told they need to take a course to learn how to act right. Very imature for being 60 years old.

[@jkd2817]

So true!!

[@jromanindahouse]

Then they raise you not to express yourself...but the youngest runs all over them and then ur parents fall apart and ask why aren't you like your older siblings who were destroyed lmfao no balance

[@alexroberts3706]

My dad was adopted by baby boomers in the late 70s early 80s, my grandfather was built different, he built houses all over Georgia. But all he brought to work was a pack of crackers and drink a bottle of water every day til he got home for dinner. But regardless, you dare not question anything or share your true feelings on certain subject matter , rubbed off on my dad when I was coming up

[@shaffergirl1732]

“Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.” was a famous line. When I was a 7yo, I told my mom I was bored. She made me clean out a closet. I don’t remember being hugged or told that I was loved. I remember being told, “you don’t know what a burden you are”. We were expected to be perfect, emotionless, and to work hard at everything we were told to do.

[@KendraNikole]

I'm sorry you went through that! 🥺❤️

[@hobomike6935]

Sounds like your parents raised a model working-class employee for the system to exploit, instead of a human with imperfections and personal interests that exist outside of “spend your life tasking to make someone you’ll never meet rich.”

[@SENSEF]

Millennial here - SAME.

[@karentucker2161]

Mine didn't do that last part. I at least knew mine lived me. If you're bored, you got something to do or you found something to do which isn't a bad thing at all.

[@haist1536]

My mom does that to me now and since I could remember

[@Angelus9015]

My boyfriend’s boomer mother is the worst. Every time she falls sick, she wants to be admitted to the most expensive hospital, see the best doctors and take the best medicine which often costs thousands of dollars for a simple fever. All of it are all paid for by my boyfriend. When my boyfriend was diagnosed with AML, her immediate concern was who would take care of her if he passes away. My boyfriend made a full recovery after chemo and transplant. During that one year of chemo, his mother would keep telling me to prepare for his death and I should focus on the living (her) instead of the dead.

[@KCMO1994]

Wow..... I hope he has seen her true colors.

[@corkforkdork]

If he doesn't go NC with her after that, you need to run

[@Kivadom]

I’m 29, but my parents are about their 60s now. My mom told me once when I was much younger that “children only exist to pawn all your chores off on”… she was not joking either. She literally sits around all day doing nothing, refuses to leave the house 90% of the time (unless she gets something nice out of it), barely wants to work, and has always relied on me and my dad to do everything for her. Growing up, when we deep cleaned our house for Spring Cleaning, the only thing she did was wipe the windows and leave my dad and I to tackle the rest of the 3 story home. I was overworked as a kid to the point of exhaustion, bc my dad would sometimes throw in the towel (esp after work) and I would be left to do everything by myself… My dad is also a perfectionist, def see traits of OCD in the way he tries to control everything and have literally everything done exactly how he likes and no other way, so cleaning wasn’t fun by any means bc he’d expect everything down to the minuscule detail, sparkling. Would sometimes set me up for failure what feels like on purpose, by telling me he was going out somewhere, leaving me with a very large list of chores to do (not in physical writing- I have adhd and my verbal memory is awful), and then refusing to tell me when he’d be back, but insisting that I HAD to have every last thing completed before he came back… I can’t cook, and they know this, but there were times when they’d also complain I didn’t have dinner ready for them on top of all the cleaning I was doing for them, while they would often sit back relaxing and watching TV. I could never tell them I was too tired, dizzy, feeling sick, etc, without them instantly getting mad and accusing me of lying to get out of doing work for them. Or my mom would just call it dramatics if I had to complain to her about say, a stomach pain I had or something, and tell me to get over it/work through it. If I managed to drive the point that I REALLY needed to rest, there always had to be a trade off, some kind of consequence- “you must sleep, but nothing else. You don’t play games, you don’t talk to friends, you don’t go anywhere, you don’t draw or listen to music or watch TV, you just stay in bed”. I never even had an allowance growing up either, like my 3 older siblings all did… I did not have a happy childhood bc I spent too many years comparing myself to a servant. I sometimes feel like my parents gave up at being parents when I was born. In some ways, it feels like they expected me to raise THEM. Not that anyone was wondering, two of my favorite and most relatable Disney movies are currently Cinderella (esp the live action version from some years ago, it’s a bit different) and Turning Red. I love that Turning Red addresses that generational trauma, but I have consistently referred to feeling like Cinderella to my parents since I was a little kid… maybe bc in a way, Cinderella performs for her Stepmother like a robot to keep her happy too. My parents still live the exact same way as I described in the beginning, btw. They are hard stuck in their ways and nothing will change them. Why I refuse to live with them ever again, and barely want contact.

[@MrsMeow9237]

That sounds like my parents.

[@macpony2571780]

The school tried to get my mother to put me on pills because I was hyper; she said the pills turned me into a zombie and she stopped giving them to me. thank God.

[@sunandsteelrecovery]

Same but my mom kept me on the crap. Your mom helped you dodge a bullet c

[@AlexKellogg-pv4qk]

They tried twice for me and looking back…. I despise the school even more I have issues just like everyone else, but I was a straight A student. Makes me sick to even imagine how destroyed my brain would be 26 years later if I took Ritalin or something like that. I have sincere trouble seeing anything truly good about this world we live in. Brainwashed doesn’t even begin to describe it. Everyone trying to tell other people what to do, putting money before everything. Sickening

[@Michd0417]

Thank goodness ❤

[@Weedkilla1993]

​​@@sunandsteelrecoverysame, plus she got angry when I didn't behave like a robot and didn't do as command since my school's health-dean said it wasn't normal, so she started to threaten me to put me in a crazy-home for youngsters .. 👀 I'm glad I quit that shit on my own terms.. Know that in the end, you're still the only one truly responsable for your own health .. 🤷‍♂️ 💪💛 🙏🧘‍♂️

[@HumphreyPloughjogger-tv3ln]

That happened to me because of ADHD. It's disgusting how many schools could do that, even today or less than ten years ago when I was growing up.

[@dursty3226]

ohhhhh so this THIS is why so many older people think asking them "why" is a challenge to their authority.

[@reid9584]

BECAUSE I SAID SO TWERP

[@velvetbees]

Our parents grew up in the Great Depression and endure WWII. "Stop crying or I will give you something to cry about." "I'm not going to mollycoddle you." And my mother hated us complaining. She had no sense of proportion of hurt feelings because she had to cram her feelings to survive all that. I have no good memories of her.

[@user-ko7bb5kh4i]

Yes! I am 60 years old, and my mother still treats me like I was ten years old. You can't treat a 60 year old woman who is a mother, grandmother, and going through menopause like a kid. It's absurd! Asinine!

[@user-ko7bb5kh4i]

​@velvetbees I understand.

[@maralfniqle5092]

It depends who is asking and in what manner one is asking.

[@justanoldhippiefreesteading]

I'm a boomer. 62 I don't know what kind of parents you had but my childhood was a blast. The 70's were the best!!!!

[@Pinklady-gt7xu]

Me too

[@sensibility6695]

If you were a child in the 70s you weren't a baby boomers. Baby boomers were in college then. You were raised by the next generation

[@user-jg9gq6ms9m]

I think you’re what they call GenX that’s what my parents are and they’re in their late 50s. I wish I grew up when you guys did😌I’d have loved to experience the culture in real time

[@tandiparent1906]

Me too

[@ginnymiller2448]

I am a Gen X, child of baby boomers, and I was also raised this way 🫤… 48 years later I still have issues 😵‍💫

[@pam112061]

I was born in the 60s to parents who were born in the 20s. They were loving and kind and told me and my sister we could be anything we wanted . Encouraged us to be compassionate but to not take any crap from people. My dad even changed diapers and took care of us as he would let my mom go on trips with her friends . He was a truly modern man. He would be 102 this year if he was still alive. Mom is alive and will be 97 next month.

[@MLBlue30]

Thats great. You were infinitely lucky. I hope they had a wonderful exciting relationship with each other. They have bravery and tenderness, humility and empathy, and strength of character. These are so sorely lacking in these times.

[@pam112061]

@@MLBlue30 they had a wonderful relationship which sadly ended just shy of 38 years. Daddy had heart issues and many heart attacks before dying in 1986 when he was only 63. I will be 63 this year so it will be a bit of a heartache knowing he died with so much more life to live. Mom has dementia so its hard. I certainly know I was blessed to have the parents I did and hearing horror stories about some People's childhoods makes me really appreciative but sad that there are actually bad parents in the world. My parents tried for 12 years to have children so they really showed me and my sister an abundance of love, affection and just the joy they felt about finally being parents. I have three adult children and ten grandchildren - my kids are really good parents, much better than I was honestly. It is like the Jackie Kennedy saying: "If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do matters very much." I grew up near Ethel Kennedy and her kids and I will say after meeting some of them - and also John Jr....Jackie did an astounding job of parenting. Ethel - eh, not so much, sadly.

[@alvarobarcala]

Hey! This video (like all the anti boomer thing, even the term "boomer") is anti Western propaganda. Propaganda done to create confrontations btw Western generations so to fragment Western society, and create chaos. Hey, people: DON'T BE PUPPETS of this propaganda! Be smart, you can figure out who is behind these anti Western things, and who is trying to fragment Western society these days of conflict.

[@samanthafreesi471]

Lucky!!!

[@Frankmaui67]

@@pam112061 awesome story

[@Wagonrider89]

They were taught how to act but not why they should act that way.

[@env0x]

for children to learn they need to see the outcomes and consequences of their actions. you can't teach a child something only using negative reinforcement without any positive reinforcement. or else kids just rebel. this used to be common sense before the education system made us believe that switchboard operators were nothing more than switchboard operators.

[@naelyneurkopfen9741]

If you need to be told why to do the right thing, something's wrong with you. Ffs

[@nicholasvanlierde2546]

It was behaviour that arose from WW2 and the trauma it caused

[@SonOfMorning]

Yeah, and now we are experiencing the Fallout. Traditions are very often solutions to problems people have forgotten that exist.

[@Geaxuce]

​@@naelyneurkopfen9741 What is proper etiquette and why is the etiquette we think of as being proper particularly proper as apart from other forms of etiquette?

[@Hexgirl]

My mother is a babyboomer, and she was never mistreated in any form. In fact, my grandfather is to me the perfect man cause he worked, raised his kids, cooked, cleaned, and took care of my grandmother, who was many times ill due to having cancer multiple times. He's also such a kind, funny person despite having experienced so much trauma as a child caused by ww2.

[@Ankhar2332]

Bullshit😊

[@corkforkdork]

Wow good for you

[@moblack5883]

I remember when I told my baby boomer father that I quit my dream job so I could move home he called me stupid. Without even asking why or where else I was going to be working. I actually got a raise in the process. I cut him off that day.

[@JubeiKibagamiFez]

And thus my father raised me as a robot, never to question, never to misstep, never to speak. All I had growing up was internalized anger.

[@user-zh5lj1ec4k]

Bahahaha. Good. What you gonna do hulk out? Hit the gym with that internalized anger. I think that’s why Americans are so cult like when it comes to dumbass agendas and politicals. Politically correct culture in general. They have so much angst but mostly cause they are taught to be so soft. It’s like they think softly instead of being real about situations. You can question things in your head bruh.

[@GridSeer]

ME TOO

[@markarca6360]

Sounds like militaristic.

[@JubeiKibagamiFez]

@@markarca6360 Yeah, that too. My father didn't serve, but his father was a WW2 vet.

[@englishrose4183]

Did you struggle with laziness and lack of will

[@JW-do9wq]

I’m a boomer and was taken advantage of because I could never speak up for myself. My mother would always tell me to be quiet. When I got a beating, I had to stifle my cries and tears or else I would get more punishment. I was afraid most of my life to say how I felt. I always said I was an introvert by nature, but I believe I was made one because of how I was raised. Thank God I didn’t do this to my children.

[@MeMe-wy3vr]

😢 sending you a hug, hope you’re feeling better today

[@nat0rade]

Your parents are ass, best of luck to you

[@Gitn2it]

I can relate. My mother never talked to us about our feelings. We were just supposed to comply, and if we didn't, we got beat with extension cords and switches from trees until we had welts on our skin. Even though my father would also beat us, he used his hand. He would also talk to us sometimes like human beings. We grew up with zero self-esteem.

[@honeybadger3570]

Awww poor baby momma told you to stfu (maybe she knew something we don't) 🎻 What you describe happens in ALL generations. My parents are boomers, some of us got worse than you and aren't whining about it on the internet. Tough love can be a bish, bad love even worse - yet both are much better real life preparers for a human than a silver spoon fluffy cloud ride until they are 20-25 years old. 2024 and everyone wants to be a victim 🙄 Born in '78, I don't care what gen that makes me - I'm much happier with life just being successful at each next step I take. What's endured is irrelevant to things achieved. People that enjoy pulling that victim card look at the rest of society as having it easier, society just don't understand what y'all been through 😂 thing is, we do and we have - we just coped & succeeded better than y'all and don't need to dwell whining about the life lesson or struggle bc we overcame it and moved on. Boomers on here feeling entitled to blame their parents for their problems, yet can't comprehend that their parents more than likely had it worse than they did 🙄 so do boomers think their parents got silver spoons and fluffy clouds to then turn into parental monsters to their own kids? Really?

[@alvarobarcala]

Hey! This video (like all the anti boomer thing, even the term "boomer") is anti Western propaganda. Propaganda done to create confrontations btw generations so to fragment Western society, and create chaos. Hey, young people: DON'T BE PUPPETS of this propaganda! Be smart, you can figure out who is behind these anti Western things.

[@gerryroush8391]

I am a late boomer😊 "Stop that whining or I'll give you a reason to cry" ✅ Get that smirk off your face or I'll knock it off ✅ Proper titles such as doctor , mr , mrs, yes sir , no mam ect. ect ✅

[@msmcginn4574]

Did I miss something on the video? Did it say to hit the kids? Bunch of ppl in comments about that but don’t think it was advocated in the video.

[@PTC702]

​@@msmcginn4574They are telling you the other part of the story. That was common.

[@char6081]

I’m from the south (gen z) and it’s still like that lol

[@Phantom_Lights]

My mom is a boomer who was raised to do things “because i said so” and she always hated not being able to ask why or get a proper explanation for anything. She was a rebellious and stubborn child as far as her parents were concerned. I’m extremely grateful that her upbringing, rather than cause her to do the same to her own children, made her say “i hated that so much why would i ever do that to my kids”, so she raised us treating us like people, and giving us (child appropriate) explanations for the why and how things had to happen. Being involved in the thought process for these things taught me to evaluate the way my actions affect others, and that treating others like they’re worth your time to explain and help is actually a great way to treat others and makes it way more likely for a confrontation to end amicably. We weren’t allowed to run wild or into unsafe situations, but given a proper explanation about why some things weren’t safe or some things hurt other people even if it seemed good for us. I’m so grateful to my mother for breaking free of the way she was raised and treating my brother and I with respect and inclusion.

[@rockguitarist931]

The worst part is some baby boomers are incredibly proud of these generational curses and refuse to break them at all costs.

[@MrSilk13642]

Maybe they should be proud, considering theyre the most successful generation in the history of America.

[@aik51912]

​@@MrSilk13642That's great and all, however most of them lack emotional intelligence. More often than not the Baby Boomer patients I encounter are arrogant, entitled, miserable people. They struggle controlling their anger or expressing it in a healthy way. They have issues maintaining healthy relationships. It's a good thing they are successful and have money so they can afford therapy. Too bad most of them won't address mental health issues because their parents' generantion dismissed all of that. I definitely blame the parents for their behavior.

[@Kendosmemeshop]

​@@MrSilk13642 They're also a majority of the current do-nothing politicians running the country.

[@onionbubs386]

​@@MrSilk13642 pfffft that's hilarious 😂 you really think you're special

[@emilyr9866]

​@@MrSilk13642Truly spoken like the generation that created participation trophies 😆

[@zachary1417]

My grandmother used to hate that I had so many ideas and opinions. She would smack me and say children are to be seen, not heard. And I would get so mad and talk right back to her. She always told my mom I was a spoiled little brat. But now I’m 26 and getting married, I can’t wait to hear my children’s ideas and opinions because children ask the best questions.

[@ajrwilde14]

Good for you x

[@bigc473]

I think people like your grandma acted so because they couldn't deal with an entire upbringing where adulta talked down; being a woman who men always talked down to; and then finally, when as an elder, it's finally your time to be queen, younger women are your equal is just a reminder that your whole life you've been looking forward to a sort of "time in the sun" that you never get.

[@charleschadwick2586]

And grandma don’t get to enjoy your kids.

[@katherinethegreat]

​@@bigc473Very insightful & I resemble that comment. You are spot on!

[@AnimeFridays]

Yeah It's like viewing scenarios from a completely different perspective since the child based mindset is so much different than an adults mindset

[@ValerieRoberts-uv7kf]

I'm a boomer & had a wonderful upbringing. We were disciplined with love. We were allowed to express ourselves but disrespect was a no no.😊

[@LewdMama]

My grandpa, when i was small, told me to always ask questions no matter how silly. I understand now why he thought that way. Why he said it.

[@Amelia-vk4jt]

Ah my boomer mother took out all the same parental "techniques" she got from her mother, and she wonders why none of her children really talk to her

[@lionesslux6816]

Amen

[@DS-nw4eq]

Same, but I’m an only child. I was definitely not of any real interest. I was something of a nuisance for having existed. But my father did not beat me like his father did. The perspectives of my parents were dark and they didn’t like being around other people.

[@sauntersway3980]

That's my dad.

[@ElleS572]

Exactly

[@ElleS572]

​@@DS-nw4eqit's funny that these people think it's ok to have children? It's as if they created us for their need to torture someone 🤷‍♀️

[@daleschuls1020]

Every kid has heard the famous words, "Because I said so." With no logical reasoning behind it when we requested something. Kids aren't perfect, nor parents. But explanation is huge in child development.

[@saritawalsh5031]

Agreed, there's a time and a place. Respect and trust must be established in my opinion.

[@Funnyandsunnydays]

Well, as a parent that has said this. My opinion is that I already explained it over and over, and they don't accept the explanation, and then it turns into because I said so. Just my experience. Edit:Here is an example. My kid says I want mcdonalds. I say no, we are eating dinner at home. My kid says why. I say I can't afford mcdonalds, and I made dinner, that's why. They still keep asking why they can't have mcdonalds, and I say because I said so. There you have it.

[@yoberry.]

Children should be taught to do what they're told without question. Trust isn't earned. Mistrust is. If your children are questioning you, you either didn't teach them right, or they have learned that you are untrustworthy.

[@adamplentl5588]

​@@yoberry.What a fucking psychotic comment.

[@fishofgold6553]

​​@@yoberry."...or they have learned that you are untrustworthy." Riiiiiight...and it's not that children just tend to want what they want, and to want it now? Do you think that all a child's desires and behaviours are entirely due to his or her parents, and not partly the child's temperament? I wonder if you're the type of person who would criticise parents no matter what - that it's all the parents' faults; that they can't get anything right, according to you.

[@aaronjones5742]

I’m 22 and my parents were both born in the late 60s. I was never allowed to question. I could ask why but 80 percent of the time I got punished. If I was asked to do something it had to be done immediately. My dad would come home from work an hour after we got home from school and throughly check the house to make sure me and my brother did our daily chores. My parents could flip a switch from 0-150 instantly. If I spilled juice, milk, or soda on the dinning room carpet I had to go out and run laps around the house. My twin and I would get slapped for playing around in stores. That parenting style still exists unfortunately

[@jaromxochimitl8096]

This is what the "greatest generation" did to their children. It's not their fault - trauma is trauma.

[@emg708]

My dad was an (edited for spelling) early 60’s boomer and was raised this way. He told me it was strange to watch my husband ask for help when he was struggling with things, but he was glad things were changing. My father said the only emotion he was allowed to have was anger. Watching his own kids grow up and enjoy life was healing, I think. He’s an awesome dad and grandfather and deserved to be loved as a child.

[@alvarobarcala]

Hey! This video (like all the anti boomer thing, even the term "boomer") is anti Western propaganda. Propaganda done to create confrontations btw Western generations so to fragment Western society, and create chaos. People: DON'T BE PUPPETS of this propaganda! Be smart, you can figure out who is behind these anti Western things, and who is trying to fragment Western society these days of conflict.

[@scottdavidson526]

I don't get these comments. I was born in '62 my dad was the best father that any kid could have. This crap at the dinner table and this other hoopla I don't get. That certainly wasn't my upbringing.

[@voilet-the-non-violet-vulpix]

⁠​⁠@@scottdavidson526There are always different experiences even among the same generation. Think, even today there are “trad families” who beat their children with wooden spoons. It’s possible your parents were ahead of the times, or that this video has brought together people who are particularly disgruntled with their upbringing.

[@Nibiru3600X]

@@scottdavidson526 Dismissing others’ abuse & trauma as “hoopla” is gaslighting, and abuse in & of itself! You can be glad you weren’t abused, but discrediting others’ experiences just because they weren’t your own, or you didn’t witness it is very ignorant & can be just plain evil 💔

[@williamharris5957]

Completely normal even today!

[@benfreiler4054]

There needs to be balance. We shouldn’t treat children like robots, but we also shouldn’t let kids talk rudely to parents and do whatever they want.

[@nevedofficial466]

Who said they shouldn't be taught respect? No one. Raising them "like robots" isn't "teaching" them anything except to be steadfastly obedient, period, no nuance, no understanding, just a powertrip on the parent's part. Its why my mother had me young, and is still a terrible communicator of her feelings in her 40s.

[@benfreiler4054]

@@nevedofficial466 A large section of Gen. X and older Millennials disliked their parents’ strict parenting style so much, they went to the opposite end of the spectrum and give their children no boundaries whatsoever. I teach in the school system, it’s unbelievable what some of these parents allow their kids to do. Many of them defend their children’s out of control behavior. No one says children shouldn’t be taught respect, that sounds bad, but many parents simply don’t.

[@azurebrown3756]

Finally someone other than myself that understands that balance is needed in nearly all situations and relations.

[@AprilHare]

​@@benfreiler4054I like to look at it like a pendulum. First the boomers were on one side and the gen xers swung to the other. Therefore, it should be coming to the middle soon.

[@DarkEmpressTarot925]

@@benfreiler4054I am a millennial raised by boomers and I endured nothing like this, we were taught respect and manners, that's something kids lack nowadays. To me what caused this is people saying teaching respect and discipline is abuse, so everyone walks on egg shells to avoid having DCF knocking on their door.

[@brandonespinoza9279]

My maternal grandparents were like this with my mother, and maternal aunts and uncles, back in the day, as now I realize they were all so nice to me, since the 1990s, growing up.

[@janiece8439]

Two World Wars.....that's why These generations were survivors I am a Boomer and proud of my grit and my empathy My two kids and my grandkids are high functioning adults with big hearts There is bad raising in every generation The Boomers will never be forgotten

[@Junior_Rocky]

“Because I said so, that’s why!!!” That was the only answer I ever got growing up when I wanted to understand something.

[@alvarobarcala]

Hey! This video (like all the anti boomer thing, even the term "boomer") is anti Western propaganda. Propaganda done to create confrontations btw generations so to fragment Western society, and create chaos. Hey, young people: DON'T BE PUPPETS of this propaganda! Be smart, you can figure out who is behind these anti Western things.

[@someguy2744]

When I was given a command that made sense to me and I understood its importance (thinking to myself "Oh, I really should do that") then I was very motivated as if I gotten wings.

[@elizabethrose644]

same

[@Magdamk777]

Because they had no proper answers or argument to support it. They were lacking of knowledge themselves and were too afraid or proud to admit it in front of their own child. Not to know of something was perceived as being stupid.

[@desireandfire]

I can't stand that answer. Kids deserve the right to know why they need to do something. If parents don't have an answer then what's the point of doing it. It's as simple to say "because chores are our way to maintain our home and keep it organized".

[@Morgan313]

My Boomer parents were raised by people from the “Greatest Generation.” They hated the way their parents raised them and took a parenting class before my sister and I were born so they'd do better. One day, I was asking my mom a question, and a woman from the Greatest Generation jumped in and told me that “Children should be seen but not heard.” My mother turned red and said to her, “My husband and I TALK to our children,” then answered my question. I don't know what happened to that Greatest Gen person, but I still talk to my parents several times a week, and I’m in my 40s now.

[@matcampbell3552]

Raised by the same people and the problem wasn't talking to your children but children talking when they shouldn't. Till this day when someone talks too much everyone inherently sees that as a weakness and it's not for the talking.

[@billyccall5774]

The greatest generation fought WW2 and won what did the others do? Live in the most prosperous time I. Western history and waste it

[@cgg2621]

@@matcampbell3552 The problem is that no one seems to agree what counts as "talking too much". In my book "talking too much" would be something like talking when the situation calls for silence or not letting others have a turn to speak. From the comments and the short clip it seems like many parents interpreted it as "whenever the child asks for the reason behind something". When a child does that it's a great opportunity to explain the logic of social norms to them, not hit them or just say "because I said so and I'm the one in authority."

[@JA-oo9qp]

Your parents sound like they at least realized their upbringing was trash and obviously tried to correct that. Definitely think the boomers being so awful has a lot to do with the “greatest generation” raising them.

[@moonglow630]

They were brought up in the Depression & then in their late teens & early twenties went off to fight WWII. Even if they stayed home the women worked in factories for the first time, & once again had the scarcity of food because of rationing. They weren’t afforded the luxury of emotions. Pretty much all their developing years were about survival. Then after the war, they just married & had families like nothing had ever happened. There was no such thing as mental health therapy. My grandpa was a Marine on Guadacanal. It wasn’t until after his passing that I learned that after my dad was grown & married my grandma used to call him to say that my grandpa was having the violent nightmares again. It broke my heart to hear that. My grandpa was one of the kindest humans you’d ever meet. I was lucky enough to get to know my grandparents as people. Hang out with them. Vacation with them. But their upbringing was always there. They’d save & eat food past its expiration date because of the food scarcity they had been raised on during the depression.

[@maryeerickson-fl1jp]

I was born in 1955. I was one of six, and our parents always allowed us to express our feelings or emotions. We had a loving and very happy childhood.

[@Stellalovely1]

I wanna know why most boomers weren’t allowed to express their feelings? Why is that?

[@nancyashmore8042]

I was raised by amazing parents. Born in 1918 & 1921. I raised 5 boys & they are amazing ppl. As time went on i saw other parents & i realized not everyone was as lucky as i

[@Rei-1200]

My parents were raised that way and raised us the same way because they “turned out fine.” They did not.

[@aaa-gt8by]

My whole Chicago neighborhood is owned by baby boomers and they think they're all fine but they all have severe narcissism and alcoholism. Their kids and grandkids all hate them because they're so abusive.

[@jameskozy7254]

As if you turned out better lol

[@CyranofromBergerac]

Rule of thumb, if someone says "I got X growing up and I turned out fine" they almost always are not fine. It's just coping.

[@JeremyS.-ug3sp]

Don't you love those stories. They go on and on like, "Well I was beaten with a wooden spoon I had to whittle myself, just because I forgot to wipe my feet on the welcome mat, till I had blood coming out of all my orifices....but I turned out ok...KIDS these days! They are weak!" No no you did not turn out ok.

[@gh0ulee-b0nes]

@@jameskozy7254strange way to justify demonstrably bad parenting, lmao.

[@joemarley5982]

I'm a millennial and I was raised the same way. I was basically a pet. Everyone else's needs were more important than mine and I was punished for almost everything I did. Love was scarce. My parents have since seen the error of their ways though, and I love them despite what they did to me. I know that they were abused and neglected too. If I'm ever blessed with children I must break the cycle.

[@HOWARD963_]

Glad you forgave your parents and didn't take the victim route.

[@liviloo87]

I’m proud of you. Forgiveness is not only for your parents, but also for yourself to be able to heal and move on. And yes, you absolutely can break the cycle. Discipline is still very important, but so is love and nurturing. May Lord Jesus be with you.

[@pizza-mana.k.a.pizzaparker3615]

Pets should not be treated like it either

[@JChelsea91]

Me too my dad always told me “kids are meant to be seen, not heard.” Not it’s a inside joke now that I have a 6 year old how dumb that is because he jokes and tell her that that’s how he was raised and he will say…uhm no. She’s a little chatter box that loves to talk to grandpa ALL the time. 😅

[@blion2225]

I’m 28 about to be 29 and my mother is 62. Tbh I see highlights in the way they were raised. Look at millennials compared to these kids now a days.. idk.

[@michaelharrison7072]

As a baby boomer ,I was raised by great parents .Disciplined when needed but never hit in face .Second greatest generation .Loved 50s,and60s

[@broskin_fairchild]

Finally. Some facts

[@ItzJohnny-dn3rl]

Now i know why they vote the way they do, and blame other people for the mess they’ve created.

[@andrewwhite7210]

Their parents were worse. Kids who grew up in the depression era were raised with "spare the rod, spoil the child," and "children are meant to be seen but not heard." My grandfather never smiled. Life was hard, and a good person worked from sunup to sundown, thanked God for their gruel, spanked their children and put them to bed, slept in a seperate bed from their spouse, woke up before the crack of dawn, and started all over again, every day but Sunday, when they went to church, where they apologized over and over again to God and Jesus for all their sins. Life went on like this until the day they died because they couldn't afford to retire.

[@motophone8794]

It's giving Waltons.

[@jordanwhite352]

Okay so here's the thing. People sleeping in separate beds was mainly a invention off movies and TV shows back then due to censorship laws. That unless you are lying, your grandparents were essentially fucking insane and probably should have been thrown in a mental ward.

[@swetsTV]

What a sad existence.

[@TheAtomicMango]

i'm so done with the notifications of randos replying to this post without grasping the concept whatsoever, so i've deleted the content. i think most people understood what i wrote, as it was quite clear, but the number of angry notifications i'm getting is giving me anxiety about the apparent drop in general intelligence online, and i don't think most of them even understood the short. i'll finish by saying people should pick up some history books and talk to elders rather than take something on an entertainment platform as true. for example, claiming all of whatever generation were raised in some such way cannot be true by the simple fact that there were more separated cultures and traditions at the time and idealized philosophies, including parenting methods, would have been gaining footholds in various and different environments. class, race, culture, etc. played roles. this short and the original comment are made untrustworthy by applying oversimplifications of certain experiences to all experiences.

[@johngibson7307]

I was physically punished often as a child with belts and switches 😊 and I am so very thankfull for it because i had a father that loved me enough to correct me my dad also happened to be a baby boomer born in 1956 but here is the truth many people are trying to ignore now days if you do not whip your children you do not love your children if you do not whip your children when they are young the world will do it in your place when they get older and the world has zero mercy patience or understanding 😢 I see the results of raising children without discipline it creates evil ungrateful disrespectful fools with authority issues

[@RichardSpain-lz9cf]

Here‘s another one.“Ma,the teacher hit me for nothing „ „Don’t tell lies,you must’ve done something „

[@user-jt7ou4rv4c]

But on the other hand, my friend quit teaching bc her students cursed her to her face and when she called the parents, they told her my sweet child would never do that😮

[@annabellesanchez8011]

​@@user-jt7ou4rv4cyes now it's completely different children aren't taught to respect their elders

[@gmansard641]

That never happened to me, but my parents long had an excessive respect for authority. "If a teacher tells you to do something by God you do it!" they'd say. Later, when I was about to finish high school (1981) my mother got a clerical job in a high school. She was surprised to see that not all of the teachers were very competent.

[@anvilsbane2196]

@@annabellesanchez8011I will agree children should be taught. But respect should be EARNED.

[@Denebula549]

@@annabellesanchez8011 I mean, when you go from being completely restricted, is it hard to believe the next generation will be too laxed with their kids in hopes not to repeat history? I’m not saying it’s right, like it’s the total opposite of what they are trying to do, but it’s an attempt to stop the cycle that just goes overboard. Also the school system is trying to stop teaching slavery, the holocaust, and other super important stuff, so I do feel for the teachers just not the school system…

[@catesj15]

That’s why they think we’re cry babies, because they’re emotionally stunted

[@thomasshannon2315]

The pendulum has swung completely the other way. This reel documents an era as remote as the Peloponnesian War.

[@vernaclevinger5716]

I'm a boomer too but had better parents. We were told to think for ourselves and accept the consequences of our decisions.

[@cathompson58]

Same here .. great years and great parents ..

[@TheDriftwoodlover]

Agree. I was never beaten for asking “why” as some have said. They explained when we asked. They weren’t perfect but, hey, boomers are the bad guys, I get it.

[@cathompson58]

@@TheDriftwoodlover every generation thinks the older generation did it all wrong and their own generation will do it better.. we talked the same way.. the generations coming later will be saying the same things... how people see the world isn't necessarily the way things are, it is more of a description of how they see the world .. best not to complain because problems are almost always opportunities in disguise

[@dcampbelldcampbell8000]

This stuff is all anecdotal. Some parents in all generations are good, some bad.

[@dcampbelldcampbell8000]

@@TheDriftwoodlover Me too. Beaten for asking "why" is psycho territory, not generational. My '60s parents were critical but also mostly hands off (literally and figuratively) and rarely overreacted to kid stuff. I often say I'd be on Ritalin or something if I were being raised by modern parents.

[@furryplantsandcoins9070]

I was born in 1976 and raised by a very overbearing stepmother. She had once told me I wasn't allowed to go to a girl's funeral that was in my class because I would Make her look bad because I would cry... Last time I knew that's what you did have funerals... Yes we were taught You should hold in your emotions. And I'm not a baby boomer.

[@user-gw1dr7rt9b]

There are sick adults in every generation.

[@teralecole316]

Oh my gosh! That sounds cancererous. Holding in those kinds of emotions holds trauma, and trauma needs somewhere to go. I’m very sorry you went through that, that’s awful.

[@davidkeeton6716]

You aren't a baby boomer, but you were raised by one that unfortunately was overbearing and lacked understanding. But you did learn something very valuable, YOU have value, and you can count on you. This takes courage and self confidence. This probably also instilled in you a self sufficient nature and you are probably a self starter, as in you don't need someone to prod you along. They were trying to make you stronger but maybe could have used a different method or tactic, but their intention was probably good. There is not instruction manual, and some people had poor teachers, your parents grew up in or at the end of the depression. Life, the world was vastly different and harder then, so your parents probably had a tough go of it.

[@nekad2000]

And look where we ended up? 72 genders we didn't need an a pronoun gestapo. We need shame and we need tough people in a society that's going to survive. Most boomers grew up spoiled and we've slowly lost any sense of dignity and respect. Greatest generation to garbage in a few generations.

[@furryplantsandcoins9070]

@@davidkeeton6716 I for sure learned so much from them. But I don't think I would change how I was raised. As much as it was hard to go through it wouldn't make me who I am today if I didn't go through that. I do love them and I know they loved me. They weren't taught to love someone and I doubt they were shown God from family members but a very strict hand. They struggled harder than I think we will ever see. And I give them thanks for that. Without their struggles we wouldn't have the conveniences we have nowadays. I think it just came out on their children and a very big way even though they thought they were teaching us to be stronger than they were. They may have had their own doubts and fears.

[@richardheudorf2245]

Im a boomer raised by the greatest generation. These people who are complaining are the exception not the rule. Every generation has terrible parents. Love you mom and dad and I miss you every day.

[@TuesdaysMusica]

❤❤❤

[@JTread2003]

Seeing these comments is really reminding me of how great my childhood was. Im so grateful my parents weren't like that. My parents are gen x btw, they were born in the late 60s and I'm 21

[@shellyhart4324]

I can confirm this as I grew up in this era. "Children are to be seen and not heard." They would say the same about women.

[@otterlyfresh2886]

better banished times

[@ReadyMindsetGo]

I (male) was born in 84 and I was still told this growing up through the 90s...

[@alexiachimciuc3199]

That was perfect. We need to revert to 18th century.

[@user-zh5lj1ec4k]

Now we have Weakass people whining about every little first world problem on social media. Weak westerners need discipline. Not to pop pills for every “disorder” that they love to diagnose to make pharmaceuticals happy.

[@Donfryesmustache]

I miss the days when children behaved in a polite manner and were disciplined effectively whilst also being taught valuable skills so that they could properly integrate into society.

[@kalenhuntley3508]

"I was spanked and I was fine" "We didn't use gentle parenting back in my day and my kids were fine." "Why don't my kids talk to me?"

[@makvande576]

Why do I have to go to the nursing home? I know I kicked you out at 18 but why can't I stay with you?

[@rockthejohnson]

Raise a sociopath who's obsessed with their own emotions and doesn't understand respect of elders and see if they don't force you into a care home at first chance. 😂

[@angbaby56]

💯 this!

[@t.8936]

Lots of children who have received a spanking for poor behaviour havr a great relationship with their parents. Trouble is that a lot of people just don't know where to draw the line. Kids these days have ZERO boundaries at all. I have a police officer friend who has to regularly attend calls where the kid has been pondered to their entire lives and there are no consequences so they are now teens, and beat their parents, literally tear sheets of drywall off of the walls and the parents are cowering in fear and have to call the police. You cannot take spanking off the table if your kids push it too far. They have to know that you WILL punish them if their behaviour goes too far. Feed them healthy, give them adequate sleep, emotional comfort and supper, exercise, and then guidance. If they decide they are going to go feral, make sure they know, that it will not be tolerated or else you will pay the price. You child will eventually end up in jail overnight to learn this lesson. Sadly.

[@pedrorojas0116]

Lmao getting spanked is the norm in Latin American families and those still stay strong after all those years, it's just a stupid American mentality that if you actually discipline and punish your kid, then it’s abuse and evil. Meanwhile in the US you'll see some stupid mom saying "please we don't hit others Joshy, while getting repeatedly smacked in the face" getting owned by a kid in front of everyone. Yea gentle parenting is so great

[@kb1996]

Why are they insulting the 1950s?? It was a safe, sane decade where people loved America and people were courteous!!

[@djnoneofyourbusiness525]

As a millennial with boomer parents and silent generation grandparents- we were raised like this as well. Common things I experienced growing up: - Children are to be seen and not heard, and not speak unless spoken to. - You are not invited or allowed to join in on adult conversations. If adults are talking, you leave the room. - If you’re told to do something, it’s not a debate or argument. Doing so is considered back talk and you’re either hit or grounded (or both). - There’s no allowance. Chores are done without question and having a roof over your head and food in your stomach is payment. - Your parents can change their mind even if they gave permission. “Because I said so” is reason enough. We were the last respectful generation. The only disadvantage is mental health issues weren’t taken seriously.. Parents of that generation had the mindset that kids and teenagers have no reason to be depressed and that isn’t true.

[@fredachildress3728]

Three of us kids were born in the 1950s, and our other sibling was born in 1960, but our mother had to work because our father walked out on all of us, she always told us that if we had questions, just ask her and she would explain things to the best of her ability. Our mother never, ever treated us like we were robots, in fact, she encouraged us to think for ourselves, but at least we did show respect to adults.

[@Deanguilberry]

I was born in the 60s. My mom was a bit strict my dad not at all. I had friends whose parents were permissive as all get out.

[@MrJgracias]

And is that why there is hatred in your heart?

[@jonathanpharo9165]

and how would you say your life turned out?

[@WorkerBeesUnite]

Your mother sounds wonderful. Hope you still got to spend time with her as a child in between her working a lot

[@llkoolbean4935]

Click bait and it's being used to divide the generations. It's BS. Thumbs down

[@mynamecausesconfusion9829]

I was born in 95, but Boomers raised me. We went through family therapy to mend this emotional gap and we couldn't be happier. I'm so glad my parents opened up to me. It helped us bond and heal

[@apache8795]

If you don't mind me asking when we're your parents born? I'm a 95 baby as well but my parents are Gen Xers.

[@mynamecausesconfusion9829]

@@apache8795 I was adopted by my grandparents when I was born, so in 58/59. My bio parents were born 79/77

[@Sleipnirseight]

That's great to hear. I'm trying again to do this with my mom, who is 75.

[@mynamecausesconfusion9829]

@@Sleipnirseight sometimes the Child has to be the Parent that their Parent never had. My mother went from anxiety so high that she would isolate and have extreme OCD/verbal outbursts to being my best friend and an amazing grandmother to my girls'. I wish you the best journey possible with your mother .

[@marcuscole1994]

@@apache8795I was born in 94 my pa was 56 and ma 59

[@tara34952]

I was born in 1981 in England and I remember many times if I questioned, challenged or complained about something, my mother would get angry and yell: "Do as you're told and don't answer back!" She wasn't cruel but she was raised by strict parents who were themselves born in the 1920s and brought up strictly.

[@nathansquared2685]

My dad's always told me stories of how my pop, his father, used to beat him but always favored my uncle, his older brother, and i couldn't be more glad that he never raised me that way. To this day my dad never hit me once. Now that's not to say i never got hit growing up, I've gotten the belt a few times from my mum and some of my uncles, one of my mum's ex boyfriends even punched me the jaw when i was a teenager, but for the most part i had a pretty alright childhood thanks to my dad and my nan.

[@rdsginia7499]

That’s exactly how I was raised. My self-esteem was low. I rarely questioned anyone. In my early thirties, distanced myself from my family. I read numerous self-help books and eventually learned to properly stand up for myself. It was a long process. i’ll never forget the first time I had an epiphany. It startled me because I’d been told that I was stupid my entire life and stifled from expressing feelings and opinions. They made major life decisions. I rarely argued, because, when I did, they ridiculed. me, berated and demeaned me. Sometimes, I was beaten or given a cruel punishment. I wasn’t allowed to say the word “no”, which caused me many problems, including becoming a people pleaser. Unlearning what had been instilled in me was a long, challenging journey. I’ve tremendously. I still struggle somewhat with asking for explanation and my self-esteem. Overall, though, I’m doing well and am happy with myself.

[@reid9584]

Thanks for sharing. I can definitely relate.

[@isabelbecerra9258]

I want even allowed to say “nevermind”… “you never say never mind to your mother!”

[@pauldonvito6169]

Thank you for sharing your story. You've displayed so much strength, compassion and emotional intelligence. Wishing you all the best in the rest of your journey x

[@thomasinefitzpatrick]

​​@@isabelbecerra9258" you never xyz " Or what? 😂 You gonna ground me? Spank me? 😂 Do it bitch 😂 One thing, when your parents are already raging abusive lunatics, if you have any spine in ya genetically.... They don't have any skin left in the game 😂 Granted, it wasn't like it all worked out super cool for me, but that was never in the cards or on the table for me anyways. That said, when your reaction to everything is nuclear, nobody takes anything you think feel want so or say seriously when you try to use your threats as deterrents. But then again, I suspect you need something genetic and irrepressible to perceive all of this, or to have the fire to stand up and say it boldly! Boomers though. Some of the most abusive neglectful psychotic narcissistic entitled crybaby victims this world has ever seen ever

[@adrianghandtchi1562]

I feel that, there are some similar things that you went through that I went through and I am of a similar age.

[@nancystampphoenix3109]

As a Gen X'er, Ican tell you, the best part about being raised by Boomers, was that they didn't want us around. The best we could hope for, was to hide in our rooms, or outdoors, until the streetlights came on!

[@alexiakelley4245]

Sounds like Heaven to be honest. My sister and I are Zillenials and we were forced to be shut ins.

[@LA_HA]

Interesting. All my Gen X family and friends also were told to go out and play. But, they all see it as beneficial because their Boomer parents took that time to rest, sleep, talk to other family and friends, clean, cook, and just relax and watch tv, play music, or whatever. Meanwhile, the kids had fun, socialized, got lots of exercise in the fresh air and sunshine, and learned valuable life lessons first hand. But there were a great deal of times that the family got together and did a ton of things together: go out to have some fun, vacation, eat, go to events, visit family members and friends, have family dinners/parties, celebrate good things that happened, cook, sing, dance, just take a drive, shop, go to church, and many times just talk. My older grandparents were awesome. They were quiet people who didn't want to burden children with adult worries and problems until they became adults. But, they demanded respect. You weren't required to love them, they told us, but when in their house, you needed to respect their rules and have good manners. And since we didn't see a problem that, there were no issues. That's not to say they were perfect people. My paternal grandfather could be a grouch sometimes. But, that was normal, especially considering being a veteran who saw a lot in the war. Growing up with my parents and grandparents was an amazing life. Most of the people I know had similar experiences. That's to be expected, though. Everyone had their own experiences and memories

[@Fefe559]

That’s exactly what I did as Gen x. Memories of warm conversations with my parents? Nope. Not one memory of even a cold one! Remember a hug? Never - being told of heard the word love” nope! It was exactly like being feral

[@holyhandgrenadeofantioch2019]

I can vouch for the street lights thing. In the early 70’s we were told to go outside and not come back until dark. There was nothing to do at home anyway, other than watch broadcast tv.

[@skarbuskreska]

I also see this as a great part of my life as a kid. When my own kids were in kindergarten the kindergarten teacher, a wonderful old lady that all kids loved said in a conversation once that she feels sorry for the new generations, because they would need uncontrolled playtime to grow as personalies, but because of security and change in laws and expectations kids hatdly get that anymore and in her experience of 30 years she sees that it hinders many kids to grow into strong and self relient individuals. And I think she was right and it can be seen in todays generations battling more and more with anxiety in what were absolutely normal situations for us back then.

[@fourcheeseblend8573]

Just got to say I 100% agree with the anger spreading like a disease so you shouldn't display it unless it's important people these days too comfortable showing it all the time for the little things

[@GrootManEiniqua]

Sounds like they were raised by narcissists.

[@eve0nline03]

My mom experienced a lot of abuse because her parents were traumatized by WW2. She wasn't the best parent when I was little, but she has always been my guardian angel and she is openly talking about her experienced with me now. I'm thankful she shares it with me.

[@user-pt3bv3jl3v]

Give her all the love she deserves. Never know when the inevitable happens, make every second count.

[@lynndavist]

I was raised in the 60s and brought some of that training into my household. I had to apologize to my sons and work on having a better relationship.

[@Kaliscetera]

I think a lot of people learn what NOT to do from their parents.

[@gottisttott6350]

Cynically this is HILARIOUS to me… 😂 like why didn’t they make those same connections ? Isn’t empathy built in to us? So is inquiry and postulation. Human nature

[@Kaliscetera]

@@gottisttott6350 They didn't make those connections and then I ask "hey did your dad do this to you(what they did to us) and they must think I have special powers for being right on the money.

[@Luni-ew9qw]

​@@gottisttott6350 we should be empathic, yes. We are also apparently a social species. Yet we r*pe, ensl*ve and mrder each other for fun, force our children to marry strangers and shame woman for being r*ped, since the dawn of mankind. How that makes sense? Idk. I think we sould've stayed solitary animals.

[@ieatoutoften872]

My (older) brothers were Baby Boomers, and I am GenX. When my brothers acted awful as young adults, my mom would say to them, "U are acting just like father." My brothers would suddenly stop being awful, as if they got tazed.

[@jacqui9176]

I agree.

[@KiBaby11911]

And THIS is why they call us “sensitive”.

[@starlightdeitrich3480]

That's so cute. Boomers did not figure out how to control their anger.

[@timo72455]

My mom was raised in the 60s (born in 58) and I think she applied that logic to me. I remember hearing “Children should be seen not heard” or “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry for”, or even “I know you don’t have an attitude right now. You better not have an attitude” and she’s still like that today. Almost as if people aren’t allowed to feel or have opinions. It’s crazy… I’m 26 years old now and she STILL does that.

[@razielthagreat2109]

They were raised to not have emotions or question things. This is why they believe every lie told to them by our govt or they actually watch cable news. That generation as a whole was raised by sexually deviant mentally abusive parents from the 20-30’s who were raised even worse.

[@annt.7785]

The problem is we allow the colonizers to raise society. Especially in black households, all these degrading things said to us by our old school parents and grandparents, came straight from the plantation. Modern days, we often want to forget the past, but this is where the beatings and other violent behaviors and words come from. The man that's speaking in the ad on this video refuses to tell other colonizer men that they ARE violent, and that is where the violence came from. The day we stop letting whyte people raise the whole gotdamn country, will be the day that everything will get back on track. But that ain't gonna happen until the creator comes back and puts an end to this whole system.

[@forgottenartform]

I'm 32, my mam was born in 64 (so the very youngest boomer) and literally said all of them to me growing up, and yet wonders why I'm not one for talking generally 😅

[@LoveLove-gf8gi]

I give them "Grace," because it takes a lot to change that upbringing mentally especially when we haven't truly gotten away from it until about 10-15 years ago. It's hard to dig up a rooted tree and expect it to still stay alive and strong. I'm just happy for all the areas I have progressed in and still learning how to be a better person and parent.

[@jasonsherwood7539]

We over evaluate feelings today. People think their being angry entitles others to fix things.

[@GoldDragonJewelry]

My parents are boomers and still have not learned how to talk out a disagreement, they just scream and rage at each other like toddlers. Then they call me weird for never having screaming matches with my hubby.

[@FlipTheBard]

I find it funny that both my parents are baby boomers, but while my mom is the "parents should be respect just because they're parents" and "never talk back(which she actually means "if I raise my voice YOU can't raise yours!")", my father is actually chill, understanding and always tries to maintain peace rather than start screaming and being aggressive.

[@MiauxCatterie]

my mother was born in 1959. she raised me this way in the 80s. hearing this snippet is so freeing somehow. I want to watch the whole thing.

[@destinyhntr]

Let's all remember that going to the opposite extreme isn't good either. Balance is what should be prioritized here. Bottling everything up isn't good, but letting anything go isn't either.

[@deatheternal720]

this is why boomers say they miss the 50s and 60s- because people wouldn't stand up to them

[@DandyParrott]

That makes no sense. Boomers were children in the 50s and 60s. They were the victims of this mentality. They probably miss other things like the simplicity of life back then.

[@Audi234-hp4qe]

Nah fr cause they hate generation Z with a passion it’s so funny 😂

[@nicholasjonas2505]

No this is when they were being raised. They were adults in 1970s-1980s onwards.

[@monroe7403]

Because society was WAY better off back then and people had more respect. But there were plenty of people that had attitude and talked back. Probably shouldn't talk about things you don't understand.

[@monroe7403]

It's actually because society was WAY better off back then and people had more respect. But there were plenty of people that had attitude and talked back. Probably shouldn't talk about things you don't understand.

[@paulgallagher5889]

Two generations drafted into wars, lead in everything, head injuries treated like skinning your knee. The Silent and Greatest generations were broken people, and they laid that on their Baby Boomer kids and the cycle continued. Thankfully, as science and psychology has progressed, we understand what our emotions are and where they come from; and that children aren't stupid or our property.

[@keeknee]

Uh huh but now days we could use a little more of the 60s. Poor kids out here being confused & mutilated, allowed to make decisions that they should never be allowed to make as a child

[@jessevallejo8797]

We see how great your generation raised kids. Now we have litter boxes in school bathrooms for furries & people that don't know their gender! Great job! 😂

[@josedanielrodriguez1126]

Still People are broken.

[@susangardner8108]

Boomers parents were raised in the depression then either they or their parents went off to participate in the war efforts and tried to put the world around them back together. They were broken, they did the best they could. I'm 64, I rarely misunderstand the mood in the room, I knew when to challenge an interaction and when to shut up. That's a trait taught by parents and grandparents who understood the capabilities of monstrous acts by people who had lost their humanity. I knew they loved me and I am grateful they put the work into rearing us after all they had to go through.

[@purplefry1752]

​@@jessevallejo8797That first thing literally isn't happening, it's just something people like you made up because trans people are icky yucky. Y'all love to make shit up to get mad at or make fun of trans people. Seriously, get a life and leave trans people alone.

[@3amAfterlife]

i was raised like a boomer sadly and i'm only 27. the man who raised me was from this time though. i'm glad not all older folks agreed with this mentality

[@pistolg95]

I mean they weren’t wrong we should bring it back

[@ReiseLukas]

"If you misbehave you weren't normal" And that was a fatal flaw in thinking. Misbehavior or rebellion is a central core of human nature. Now that doesn't mean it should be encouraged, but it shouldn't be completely supressed like it was back then. Channel that nature to be productive and don't block it out entirely

[@MrNote-lz7lh]

No wonder why school shootings are on the rise with that type of thinking.

[@juliel3460]

My parents are boomers but they had completely different backgrounds. My father was raised in a loving household and my mom was verbally abused by my grandma and step-father (she rarely speaks about it and has only told me small bits). My mom was extremely strict, aggressive, manipulative and controlling towards me during my childhood and my dad was the ”relaxed, non-confrontational and fun”-parent. They’re divorced since many years but my mom’s treatment towards me and my father’s ignorance and denial about it messed me up for many years. It wasn’t until I found out that I was going to be a mother myself a few years ago that I ”woke up” and realized that I’ve been a complete trainwreck all my life and that I had to change. Now I’m in a good place living a normal life, finally.

[@smusky4643]

Ur mum gay

[@sophieminter0]

Are you by any chance one of the Grants? Like Caroline Grant or Elizabeth Grant? Your comment sounds a lot like what they could have experienced, so that’s why I asked. But sadly I guess the situation is not uncommon so you could be anyone. Nonetheless, I am sorry you had to go through that and am glad you are doing better ❤🎉

[@juliel3460]

@@sophieminter0 No I’m just a regular nobody from Sweden😊

[@ryanbales8116]

Your dad either didn’t want to see it, or didn’t want to believe it was happening. My mom was the same way. She worked a lot of hours at the hospital and my dad worked nights. So she wasn’t around much. Whenever he did something abusive to us, mom would always take his side or he would gaslight us and spin the narrative to make him look better. Or lie and say that it didn’t happen. The physical abuse was minimal, but the mental abuse and the negative learned behavior was another story.

[@alecmagill5337]

My dad is technically a boomer but he was born in Ireland to a fairly progressive family so he was the chill one. On the other hand my mom is gen x raised by silent generation parents so she’s the stricter one

[@JornkDiurnk-sx9bj]

Glad those days are over.if anyone says “don’t question my authority” RUN.

[@Minihopa]

I'm a baby boomer and wasn't raised like that. People over generalize generational differences far too much.

[@artscollab]

My father, a baby boomer, was very intolerant of ideas different than his. He often seemed to be either anxious or angry, yet he rarely was aware of his emotions. He was status-obsessed and silently demanding of those around him. Growing up was very difficult. I'm glad that's in the past, and that I'm making my own way in life now.

[@LordBranniganThe]

And yet there seems to be some collective nostalgia that everything back then was better in every way compared to now

[@shellshock10]

@@LordBranniganTheit was.

[@RomeoJuju]

Well, that was your father. That doesn’t mean all baby boomers are like that. We weren’t raised like robots, we were raised to show a little respect.

[@wideawake5630]

This boomer glories in our differences and continues to learn as a septogenarian so don't stereotype.

[@dukecraig2402]

​@@wideawake5630 And you're proof that anyone can get online and lie about their identity and age.

[@MacSmithvox]

And now they're the most entitled generation that can't control their emotions.

[@katieandnick4113]

Yes, that’s the natural outcome of repressing emotions throughout childhood. You don’t learn how to process and manage them.

[@Deb_BG]

Boomers are entitled? How so? Hilarious, coming from whiners who expect participation trophies throughout life. Boomers worked hard for everything they got. Aren't you also the ones who say we worked too hard and kissed company ass? Make up your mind.

[@Deb_BG]

Whined someone who'd cry if they didn't get a participation trophy.

[@JenSell1626]

@@Deb_BGhit dog will holler

[@Deb_BG]

@@JenSell1626 Not getting a trophy for not winning in sports is akin to being hit or mistreated? However do you survive, poor thing.

[@Eropilled]

And this is why mental health is so important

[@shinigamit0d142]

if they are raised as robots we are raised like animals

[@JohnLussier-ff3ps]

64 here raised by silent gen. All these stories are me growing up. The hardest part for me throughout my life is i struggle with having feelings, being emotional. I feel like im Spock from Star Trek. Ive been married 40 years to the best person in the world to me. She's the same age and thank God she understands and is the opposite. I was taught the man works, so i feel i was never really involved or even close to my kids as they were growing up because i worked so many hours and really it was a way for me to not be involved in raising my kids. I knew i didn't want to be the Dad my Dad was to me, i was afraid i would, crazy right? It isnt till recent years i finally understand and now enjoy my grandkids. It amazes me how free they are to walk in my house and just be comfortable with anything, even when they just walk over and change the channels on the TV. I love it. I also have learned that hugging feels good now.

[@jillybe1873]

Yep❤

[@librarianlovesrick]

That's because you are older now. I think grandparents realize how rushed and ambitious they were as parents. Then when things slow down, they open their eyes and get to enjoy the grandkids.

[@aristobrat4987]

That broke me. Men learning in the last half of their life that hugging their own fucking kids makes them feel good as a human being. What the fuck was happening in the 60s and how the fuck did it ever get that bad. Moneys hug their babies. ANIMALS hug their babies. I pray you are hugged by grandchildren, great grandchildren , and great great grandchildren because everyone deserves that love. Especially parents

[@MelDarko]

Wow your comment helps me understand my dad so much more. I just thought it must be easier to be my kids grandparent than it was to be my parent. My grandfather passed away shortly after my oldest was born so this may have also helped my dad have an easier time connecting with his grandkids. We don’t talk about the past, but based on how my dad used fear generated by physical pain as a means to control my sister and I, my grandfather was probably even worse to my dad and his siblings. My dad never really stopped vying for his parent’s approval and continues to this day to do what he’s told by his mom. Yet, my sister and I rebelled against him and neither of us have a particularly great relationship with him. It’s more formal and business like if that makes sense. He has an amazing relationship with our kids (his grandkids) though.

[@barnacleboi2595]

​@aristobrat4987 They were the people they were for a reason. They probably had some really heavy life or death shit they had to deal with and didnt have time to deal with their emotional state.

[@Cat-the-dragon]

Im a gen z kid raised by a boomer mother and this was how she raised me. Dont ask questions, dont talk back, just do something else and don't bother the adults. Dont show negative emotions but she never even tried to control hers. I was treated more like an annoying purse dog than a human being.

[@paulruiz4518]

I'm a baby boomer born in (1962,) my 1st and only child born in (2000 a Z'er) and my Greatest joy!! tell my son Everyday "I ❤️ him!" and show him how much he's the world 🌎 to me? Something my father couldn't do because he grew up without a mother? he was born in (1921) Depression Era, and the "Greatest Gen" of All!! "Where men were men" and "women were women" "right is right an wrong is wrong" I tell my son between me and you, there's 3' generations apart!!.... Usually It's 1-2...3!!. that's quite a bit? NO BODY'S!! Perfect!! Everyone has faults!! an (unfortunately we pass it down to our kids?)..... So we learn from others people failures and be different with our own! we've a Saying in Spanish... "AMOR CONQUISTA TODO!!" ❤😊 ✝️

[@TheVirginGaryLovingDemocrats]

In every generation I've seen, there is an eee -veeel bunch running the world and the media to make sure bad things are happening especially where good is being taught. Also, parents aren't perfect so they do things raising children in a way that isn't good.

[@smusky4643]

Sounds like she had a skill issue.

[@nematolvajkergetok5104]

X-gen here, I feel you.

[@veganbutterfly3652]

They didn't want you to question things, but it didn't stop 60s people from asking questions. .... Remember, there was Malcolm X, Hippies, JFK, boycotts, protests, Black Panters, MLK, women lib movements, anti war proests etc. in the 60s.The 60s was the most rebellious time period so far in American history and set the stage for consciousness today.

[@GG-mx9fj]

I’m millennial ‘88 but was raised this way. Treading on eggshells around mother and father not interested in children. I forgive them, they had their own traumas and tough times. We just have to heal and unravel our own stuff and give the next generation the love we felt we missed.

[@hamsterdiving7593]

I entered the first grade in 1964. I was five years old I remember the very first assignment was, we were each given a white mimeographed sheet with a line drawing on it, and at the top was written a color word. We were supposed to find that color in our crayon box (we all had our own) and color in the drawing... My color was "white." Well, my sheet was white and I thought, no one will even see it, so I added white, then red, blue, yellow; all kinds of colors and it looked very pretty, I thought. My teacher held it up to the class as an example and said this is what it looks like when you don't follow directions... Around Christmas, we were shown a picture of Santa Claus and told to copy it by cutting all the pieces out of construction paper I made my Santa with blue eyes, dark bushy eyebrows, and I put glasses on him. We then hung them all up on the wall, and my teacher sat in a chair facing us to look at them and talk... My teacher pointed out that I went overboard with unnecessary additions and did not follow directions... Several months into the school year, we were introduced to the bubble answer sheet: the long skinny sheet with ovals on it that you fill in with a pencil during a test. We were supposed to copy a bubble sheet that was already filled in with our own blank copy so that they both looked identical. I just went down the sheet randomly filling in the bubbles, making patterns, and just enjoying the process. My teacher looked over my shoulder, snatched my filled-in sheet from the desk, and berated me angrily. She then grabbed the back of my neck and pushed my head down onto the desk and told me to stay that way until she said so... Later she called me up to the desk, told me I'd be given another chance, and then given the assignment again. I remember her voice being calm but cold. I filled in the ovals exactly... Looking back, I see now -- at least back then -- that we were being trained to be obedient. To be good little students who only followed their agenda Funny how, in the next year or so, it would all blow up when the anti-establishment hippie movement took off...

[@healthyliving4624]

Some teachers in the 70's behaved like animals. They were violent and unreasonable 😮

[@TJJ117]

They wanted children to grow up with no critical thinking or personality. Easier to send to pointless wars or believe in falsehoods proposed by the government that way

[@MegaTheman25]

Maybe you should've followed directions

[@MP-ne6ji]

@@MegaTheman25exactly

[@harold5774]

@@MegaTheman25You should stay under your bridge where you belong. How’s that for a direction?

[@Nope-s]

I think this is why my mom is so emotionally bankrupt. And she is so cold. And always told me "oh get over it" or "it's all in your head, get a grip". Never showed us much love or affection. She took care of us and provided for us, but she was so far removed emotionally. She still is. I begged her to come stay with me last night because I've been having heart palpitations that lead to horrific panic attacks. I begged my mom to come stay because I was scared to be alone with just my toddler daughter. Mom lives 3 to 4 minutes away. She told me no. I asked could we please come stay the night there. She told me no. Stuff like that really hurts. I forgive her...or at least I really want to... but it's hard. I can't stop feeling the sting from it. Anyway, I believe this 100000%.

[@hamsandjenohbacon]

What's her reasoning for saying no when you're just trying to feel better by having some support. I hope you tell her how this makes you feel

[@GadSammit]

You are NOT required to forgive her. I am so sorry. 💗

[@MariaRuiz-ii1sn]

Good for you for forgiving her. It’s not easy but it’s better than carrying that bitterness❤️ The Lord is with you! He loves you and your baby girl 💕

[@AB-mx1de]

I am so sorry, unfortunately I can relate as my boomer mother is emotionally bankrupt and has no empathy for her children. She hurts and abandons us over and over and over. Patrick Teahan’s videos have been very helpful for me in my healing journey.

[@jesusneversinned5985]

Your mother is broken but it is no excuse for her to treat you that way. Never ever let your heart wax cold, Ever ever ever ever ever Jesus is the only way to make sure that doesn't happen. A lot of people judge Jesus because of People who claim to follow him that treat others like garbage, But let's start approaching Jesus ourselves Instead of judging him because of the actions of those who claim to follow him. Jesus is loving and he is kind, But he is also not stupid either, And he is totally holy and righteous. And he loves you so very much.

[@theinternetpolice2078]

A lot of times, children are treated as parents' property and not their progeny. Children are human beings; capable of love, understanding, and reason, and a lot of people forget that because treating them like flesh-robots is easier. They are to be guided, not herded like sheep.

[@acllhes]

My mom would get straight offended that I’d ask why saying she never had the audacity

[@cemiller]

Everytime i see comments about how people were raised by their boomer parents it makes me grateful for how laid back my boomer mom was. She raised me to be respectful but also respected that I was just little human learning how the world works.

[@jimfinigan1681]

I am a "Gen X" and I was raised by my grandparents who were part of the "Great Depression/WWII" generation. Their attitude was that children were to be seen and not heard. If I opened my mouth to speak I would get my face slapped. I was also expected to be stoic and have no emotions. In our family, you didn't show any emotions or express sny feelings of any kind, or you would get slapped or beaten.

[@TheVirginGaryLovingDemocrats]

Parents could do better in any generation but bad people seem to be leading us, mixing in bad with good. Also, parents aren't perfect so in every generation they will make mistakes that other parents in that generation do not make.

[@jimfinigan1681]

@@TheVirginGaryLovingDemocrats My grandmother once told me that they were raised that way and they didn't know better. That was BS. She was a lifelong teacher and had a master's degree. She damn well knew better. My grandfather was just deliberately ignorant and didn't want to know better. It all worked out, though. I didn't raise my child like that. She was encouraged to ask questions and speak her mind. We even had discussions about the things that she questioned. All I ever asked of her was to be respectful. Now, she is grown and we still have a great relationship.

[@yvonnecortes_]

@@jimfinigan1681exactly! Those bad teachings went on for decades it wasnt just the one decade and thats it. Many generations were messed up due to this way of thinking. And those people who were raised to have no feelings and were beaten for everything then went on to b dysfunctional adults who then became law makers and police officers etc who then went on to destroy the world. Those bad teachings and abuse go on to have very bad effects on society as a whole. We cant just say eh it was how things were done but were ok…are we ok though are we?

[@behrens97]

@@yvonnecortes_ well said

[@user-bk3zy3gs6v]

😮 Why?

[@MichaelBrown-lm3vd]

It was called stay in your lane respect discipline.Best group of people ever raised