2 Things: Woman details her ex's Find Out Season, Unemployed woman asks BF for gas money

[@nalignmentwlifehealinglife]

Dude is 36 and is irresponsible? She's not married to him.., and he wants to his name to be put on the Deed??? Sounds like he's trying to scam her out of her house. That's messed-up man.

[@islandgirl8067]

As a former church girl, all of the people I know who married young due to family pressures were divorced by 25. The lady in the 2nd story needs to get out before she gets pregnant. 🤰🏾

[@rebeccajordan4491]

2nd story is giving me asthma from all the DUST!!!

[@denesejamerson2356]

Just took a puff of my inhaler!

[@AIBot929]

For that last story... ol' girl would actually save money by getting rid of him. She'll save money on gas by not taking him to work, she'd save on gas, water and electric. For all the driving she was doing for him she could just be an uber to make ends meet or start her on marketing firm. I was so confused as to why she didn't want to let him go, he contributes nothing . Having no man is better than having a leech

[@seabreeze4559]

She's a sugar mommy to his WHOLE FAMILY in India

[@tishinahoneyblue5355]

She didn’t leave because she was 19 and has pair bonded to the point of no return😭

[@AndyyWithAY]

A man with 4 children got with an 18 YO??😱🤮😱 OP is a great woman, she understood the 18 YO was a groomed victim too. Glad she got away too. He doesn't have his license bc of his foolishness. He should've been paying for gas the entire time. Do NOT put this man on the deed. Now break up. ETA there's nothing wrong with adults collecting toys even though funkos are so fugly 🙄🫣 The issue is he's doing that in lieu of paying for his adult expenses

[@TheePrincessBrat]

Her Deputy Dad must not have cared about her. If there was ever a time to use your badge… He had probably been messing with her before she turned 18, cause she’s wayy to confident in their “love” and he had stopped coming home after work (at the HS) for awhile.

[@WanderlustHomebody]

I agree. I believe in spending your money however you want as long as you take care of business (tcb) first. Business meaning: paying all your bills and putting away some money in savings/investing every paycheck. Toys can be bought after tcb lol

[@briskettacos]

For the price of a couple of cookie-cutter plastic Funko pops, he could buy a real piece of actual art, like a grown-up. Sorry but Funko Pops suck.

[@PandaHead602]

Omg wow

[@corimoon3360]

@@briskettacosNobody wants a boring “real piece of art” (a.k.a some boring lifeless minimalist painting) ALL art is real art. Even funko pops. Just because YOU don’t like them doesn’t mean they suck. I understand we hate men (I do at least lmao) and want to insult their interests but this isn’t it. Funko pops are collectibles just like everything else. They mean things to people. Not everyone wants some boring ass painting. 🙄

[@sciencerules4739]

I can't imagine getting married at 18. 😭 I'm turning 19 in a few months and the thought of marriage scares me tbh. I'm glad I found your channel.

[@christins.1481]

I got married at 18. Been married going on 22 years. I did everything completely opposite though. I stayed far away from the guys my age, married a guy 9 years older than me who wasn't the romantic kind and didn't sweep me off my feet. He was my booty call. I had relationships with girls my age but men were just for s*x. Turns out we had a lot in common in that area. I told him he could stop seeing me if he wanted to after he was the one driving almost a whole hour to see me. He said it was fine. What got me was the little things. When we said he wanted to go to the "toys" section in a store, he literally meant toys and not the electronics or tools. I mentioned us hanging out on a Friday and he say he couldn't cause he had to work. Our first date, he didn't try to touch and didn't kiss, he just parked next to my vehicle, looked me in the eye and said, "Bye." And then waited for me to get out. I was the lucky gal to know his secret at bedtime. His Mom was the issue because I didn't cater to her son like she did. Everything was fine because he stood up to me and told her to back off. Then when I snapped back at her, she would cry to her son and he would still defend me. Many women are envious of my marriage because my husband is the one who cooks and clean. I cook too, but he's the chef. I get my butt chewed out if I didn't charge a vacuum. My tip when it comes to marriage is to not look for the nice guy. Nice guys can be narcs.

[@EagerMarshmallows]

Another good channel is Melanie Hamlet if you like very lively personalities. ❤❤ Both women speak truth and I wish I had them at 18. But better late than never. 😊

[@lewid019]

Sadly religion really pushes the whole marrying young thing. Easier to groom and control.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

@@christins.1481 an almost 30 man took an 18yo to the toy section of the store? That sounds more like a red flag than a green one. And he was having casual xes with you. This is a bad take for a video like this and under an 18yo’s comment no less

[@TheePrincessBrat]

It’s better to live your life first to know exactly who you are and what you want. The danger in marrying so young is you really don’t know who you could’ve been without them. A lot of the times, you just grow into the mold they’ve created for you. That’s why a lot of girls leave once their brain is fully, or almost fully, matured. Everything they’re giving up dawns on them.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

Second story: Hope she’s on birth control. She was/is his mark. She needs to drop him and experience life without him. Why do I also feel like she’s far more attractive than him…

[@jayogee913]

I hate being judgmental, but how do you want to be with a 36 yo man who works part time and needs a ride to work? How is this good for any woman? I'm not saying be a gold digger but gd, girl, just get a goldfish at this point if you need companionship that bad!

[@TheePrincessBrat]

@@firstname6678 i think they call those “survival relationships” or something like that. They almost always have some kind of exploitative dynamic. I was more used to seeing women in them but now I see a lot of men are finding women to latch onto for resources And people really need to stop teaching their daughters to prioritize helping and being seen as “nice”. It just gets you taken advantage of

[@MelissaThompson432]

The Indian boyfriend is going to marry an Indian woman in two or three years. His mother in India is already interviewing women. Not only that, they are professional women: medical specialists, accountants, IT. He will go straight from one sugar mama to another.

[@BlackRaven000]

Dang right about that! New trend in place though: the parents usually don't interview the girls, they talk to her parents first, collect info on the family. They send him her info, like a literal resume with photographs, if her biodata makes the cut, the son interviews her, then tells his parents whether it's a yes or no. If it's a no, he doesn't even have to explain why. Total kingbaby treatment.

[@nikicarrie4071]

Yep a woman he can live off of and abuse.

[@thepoliticalcat]

This. Whatever your ethnicity is, if it's not Indian, he is not going to marry you. He is getting into a marriage arranged by his family, and you will be left out in the cold when it happens. He won't even tell you about it. And he will never spare you another thought once he is married. So get him out NOW while you can. He brings NOTHING to the table, and send him on his merry way without a second thought. Because he sure won't spare one for you.

[@studiosandi]

Burb and bougie should do a commentary on child marriage in the United States and the congress people who are fighting to keep legal.

[@jjohnsengraciesmom]

I can't believe some members of congress trying to keep legal.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

@@jjohnsengraciesmom i can. Gaetz is still there after participating in the trafficking of a minor

[@jesmey4902]

She did a Video about that topic yesterday I believe.

[@nalignmentwlifehealinglife]

True. I got a friend who got married at 12 to a 45 yr old man in the United States. They were Muslim. I didn't know that was legal. She said her mom would sent her on dates at 12 yrs old with men in their 40's and 50's and she was so scared. Apparently, Muslims enjoy these laws here in the US. I had no idea this was a thing. She regrets it. She said that she wanted to go outside and play. She would watch children playing outside and going to school everyday. She said she didn't want to be having sex, cooking, and cleaning at 12.

[@corimoon3360]

⁠@@nalignmentwlifehealinglifeThis world is hell for women and girls specifically. Seriously why are we allowing this to happen to GIRLS?!?! Little Girls?!?!?! Why are we allowing men around us? Why are we allowing male-identified women to do this to their kids??? This is literally SICK?!?! Why is the world LIKE THIS?!?!?!

[@tashasc1]

The second story...the man has enough disposable income to send money home to India, and I'm willing to bet, he has been back to visit family a few times during their relationship and his family knows NOTHING about her. He is being stingy with his money! Nah, forget that! The young lady needs to send him packing and give him the boot. Let him find someone else to leech on.

[@Redskywinter204]

KZbin has videoes on how to change locks! Very very easy

[@SupraSoulStar]

Ofcourse he has enough disposable income to send to India, he doesn't pay bills or for his transportation to work. He's even comfortable working part time, while telling his girlfriend her life is easier🥴

[@briskettacos]

Indian and especially Middle Eastern men are infamous for using Western girlfriends for sex, but then settling down with a woman from their own country. Bonus points if it's a younger cousin.

[@AmericanDreamer]

💯💯

[@strawbraryliberry4604]

Just half the gas 😅 Like, she's saving him a lot of time &/or money- gas is pricey!

[@SupraSoulStar]

The second story started off bad and got progressively worse. There's so many things that are unacceptable in this situation. He's making minimum wage AND working part time, while his young girlfriend pays all the bills AND his transportation to work. *Insert Iyanla yelling: NOT ON MY WATCH! NOT ON MY WATCH!* I hope she comes to her senses, kicks him out and realizes how much better life is without a 36yo leech draining her resources.

[@ButterflyBree]

I cackled every time I hear about a dust mite that gets his FAFO moment. Especially when he abandons his wife/partner and his children for another woman. The "happily ever after" they expected backfires on them. I love this for them. 😅😅

[@TheePrincessBrat]

I’m glad she got away in the end but he took 10yrs. She ended the relationship in the best way for him. Sweet karma. I hope she processes her trauma cause I’m sure there are loads. Like OP, I’ve seen men “flex” young gfs and I’m like “just wait, she’ll wake up someday.” Some of those relationships end even faster than I anticipated. That’s my hope for all exploitative relationships tbh lol

[@lililululalabooboo]

I agree.

[@j.munday7913]

Usually, they're all over each other, and then a month later, you ask him about her and find out she's already found another man. LOL??

[@EndisNai]

The "my boyfriend of 8 years" caught me off guard so bad I had to pause and collected my thoughts. They've been dating since she was 19 and he was 28 (already sketchy), and all he's accomplished in that time is a part time job that she has to drive him to?! Edit: she's his sugarmama. There's no argument because she literally was making triple his pay, paying for all of his living expenses, and driving him to/from work and appointments.

[@DianaPrinceitiswhatitis]

The lady in the first story is beyond a cautionary tale and I’m glad she shared it. This is how marriages in religious families and communities start. The ugly reality was revealed and I’m so glad so it can warn other young women and women who are being pressured into marriage as soon as they graduate from high school. Those that say not all and that they are good men are lying as they don’t know what goes on behind closed doors. That husband was abusive and a total succabus. He got everything he deserved.

[@queensavage9896]

2nd story: What is the appeal here? This woman needs some therapy to get her boundaries in check. Smh

[@vanaphill2454]

Any time you are asked for a favor. Respond with these two words and they might drop the issue: FOR FREE? If they are cheap, they will drop the issue.

[@briana14333]

Love that 😁😆

[@shaypope4732]

I got married at 17 because I thought it was the right thing to do since I graduated early from high school im glad I came to my senses eventually tho

[@TheePrincessBrat]

People push it as the highest aspiration for a woman. So many girls get married expecting something that will never happen.

[@vrichards4363]

11:14 he supposed to fill up the tank. It's the least he could do.

[@karmAnonymous]

I LOOOOOOOVE how that first story turned out 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@madalice5134]

"She squeals the squeal of someone with hot tea." That line got me. I love her way with words. OP is a certified legend for how she stood on business, protected her kids and acted with such kindness and generosity towards the 18 yr old that ex groomed. I'm glad both of them got away. I'm absolutely disgusted that her deputy father didn't protect his daughter, but not surprised. Cops+Evangelicals= A**hole with abusive minsets backed by a badge and dangerous dogma. ETA: I collect Funkos and other similar merch, but I'm not going to buy those things before paying the bills. How ridiculous! If he's going to leach off her, she should see about getting the Funkos valued. My collection has a good resell value and I keep an eye on the aftermarket prices so I can sell them for a good price if I have to. Why should he get to leach off her resources without contributing anything? Having collections can be a fun hobby, but it's also a rainy day investment, imo.

[@Karina_Engr]

I love the criminal minds reference. 😂 lil miss is a detective. 🕵️‍♀️

[@Karina_Engr]

BF of 8 years?! Ohhhh honeeeeyyy 😬

[@rebecca7856]

I'm glad for 1 and her husband's brand-new ex! Late is better than never. There's always time to start building yourself up.

[@kyrabarr2846]

Always have your own money. Please any young woman reading my comment make sure that you have your own bank account and always put at least 10 to 15% of your check into it every month and save it for a rainy day. You find out how people truly feel about you when you have to ask them for help or rely on them.for support.

[@sylviaj270]

I can’t believe this guy didn’t offer her money for gas. Obviously, he is a moocher.

[@Lady_Danbury]

I hope the second story is fake! My goodness! Run sis run! It’s ok to be alone.

[@AG-iu9lv]

My life changed after PCOS treatment, too. No surgery required. 1000/10 hard recommend.

[@rosedevereux2391]

If you do not mind sharing, what kind of treatment did you undergo? I have a niece and coworker affected by PCOS. One is on meds, per her endo, but they are rough on her, not to mention they would be required life-long. The other is trying to get relief with inositol.

[@katherines144]

Co-signed "I have never seen a happy married couple"

[@RowenaSnow-px3jg]

She gave a great explanation for her thought process when she was pushed into the marriage.

[@brandy4530]

Was it just a boomer thing to get their daughters married as soon as possible? If their daughter was married after she could legally drink, then they failed. All of my aunts and uncles, and my parents married between the ages of 18-20. I feel like they should have known better. Their marriages were all various degrees of horrible, maybe a few good ones here and there. But geeze, why would they want that for their daughters. I just don’t get it.

[@LatoyaChan]

Hi, Burb! I'm the same age as you, and I collect Funkos. The difference between me and this guy is I'm a responsible adult who doesn't freeload. As has been said in many posts, there's nothing wrong with adults having hobbies. Buying and owning collectibles is fine as long as no one else is harmed. I'm sure there are plenty of women here of all ages collecting them as well.😊

[@EagerMarshmallows]

Story one is unfortunate, but the ending soothed my soul a little bit ❤

[@guinealove3744]

@BurbNBougie please take a look at the Kennedy Barbershop talk with BM on child support. I am seriously thinking about never returning to social media. The dustbowl took it's toll.

[@Diananotaprincess]

Not me Googling Funko Pop just before you did!!😂😂😂

[@missi7196]

I'd bet cash money that dude from the second story is/was spending money on some other woman.

[@jjohnsengraciesmom]

Do Not Give Up Your Personal Training Sessions.

[@lacheregriffin-denton9946]

And the second situation if this has been going on for 4 years he should have been able to pay off whatever fines he had so he could get his self together and get him his own car. I really don't understand why women stay in these type of situations? You have been with this man for 8 years and out of the 8 years 4 years he's been mediocre and only accepting part-time jobs? He hasn't been giving you any money towards anything within a 4-year period and yet he still has not been able to pay it off his fines and improve himself? Yeah he's a homosexual and she needs to cut loose that dead branch that she's been caring!

[@eurekamreum5458]

hobosexual* lmao

[@lililululalabooboo]

Did you mean hobosexual?

[@missantrafalgar782]

15:37 I love my Funko Pops. I'm almost that man's age lol. Don't be coming for Funko Pops😂😂😂

[@BurbNBougie]

But he's not helping her pay bills. I don't believe that you will fall into that category

[@jojoone1099]

Girl, you brought up that Funko Pop thing faster than I did. I agree with the teenager comment. I would take care of a child like she did, but not a grown man. He shady too, btw.

[@Franciscaharrison1978]

18? I wasnt even thinking of marriage i was thinking of unjversity and jobs. My mum thought her marrying at 22( he was in his 40s though) was too young. She said it still felt like my 40+ dad was a whole generation away and they were on different planets . The guy who has his lady drive him around should get a pair and find his own way to work. My mum found herself in the dad sending money to family elsewhere situation even though he was earning less. This guy buying stuff like a teenager instead of contributing to his relationship is a parasite. This is not a relationship he wants a sugar mummy please get rid him quick please!!!

[@Sassayyyyy]

The second girl needed the gospel of ✨ Sprinkle Sprinkle ✨ in her life.

[@loveandjoy810]

I hope that girl claimed her boyfriend as a dependent on her taxes😂. That’s what he was. I got married at 21. I don’t recommend it. I really didn’t know what I wanted out of life or who I really was. I tell my girls do everything you want before getting married or having kids. That life of exploration spontaneity and fun will be completely over. You’ll swap all that for spit up shirts, pick up car lines at the school, dinner making every night and exhaustion.

[@halroxdynasty8683]

10:53 Lord help us 😂 how can you be making $55 an hour and still entertaining a dust⚾ who is making $16 an hour and is 10 YEARS OLDER 😮 what the heck! All these women need to leave these situations...we are conditioned to always give these dudes grace, it needs to end like yesterday 😮

[@emilyfeagin2673]

No car, no license. Red flag. It’s a control move. Keeps you busy taking care of him

[@samueldrzymala9108]

At 9:49, why does the first story cut out without an ending? 😢

[@StonedHunter]

See, the buying and collecting of pop figures in and of itself doesn't bother me. I'm 30 and I have some and I like to collect anime figures (when I can afford them), hell even my parents have some. The problem is that he's spending money he clearly should not be spending on fun stuff instead of ensuring he's paying his fair share. Not everyone who likes to collect "childish" things is immature, it's all about the balance of fun stuff and necessary stuff.

[@TheePrincessBrat]

I love cute stuff tbh lol. One of my professors has a funko pop in her office. Well a few tbh. I don’t have any. The only thing I collect but rarely use are purses and shoes 😂

[@eurekamreum5458]

I'm 28 and I collect Bratz and Rainbow High dolls lol but I only get one every six months or so

[@demigoth]

Oof, that second story was me. Some differences: we were both in our late 20s, he had a full time job that paid about $15/hour, and his money went to drugs to self-medicate the trauma he hid from me at first (refused to get therapy) instead of to family. Sadly i didn't get rid of him until he became physically abusive, which escalated quickly. 3 years total with him. Now i understand that financial abuse *is* abuse and would leave someone much sooner. If you are irresponsible with money, that's fine but you can't date me.

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

And ladies, that's is why , when you marry under 26, wait 'til age 27-30 to have your first child. Otherwise you will forever be at the mercy of men. Use those prior years to get an education and a job.

[@Sinderella1987]

The second girl. 27 and you seem to have got your shit together Stop paying for the gas

[@4blueland]

Chauffeur story: As someone who woke up after supporting my bf for 4 years, I can say that she will likely get madder and madder at herself and one day add up the money she spent supporting him. It's so easy to give when my heart is open, but I can't see myself giving up that kind of time and money again for an employed adult

[@thepoliticalcat]

He needs to find another place to nest and rest.

[@gardenwitchinc9526]

"He collects funko pops." I believe the correct sentence was "he wastes money on expensive pieces of cheaply molded plastic." As a hater of funko pops, adults, typically men, that collect them are giant red flags to me. There's something incredibly disgusting about collecting cheap plastic toys only to put them on display as if they're home decor. Funko pops serve as one of the worst displays of consumer capitalism.

[@briana14333]

It’s crazy you say that! X had like all of them around his work cubicle and a couple at home! He is the absolute worst “person” I’ve ever known.

[@arceusinsanity301]

Most Funko pops are pretty cheap, but if you're getting a lot or a set it builds up, I have a small collection (6.5 (a keychain)) and only intend on getting one more to complete a set

[@qesther1241]

The stay “pure until marriage” is something that should be explained to especially young girls. One preacher explained this way; the wages of sin is death-even though you don’t physically die a little piece of your heart dies every time you have to break up and start over with someone else” I thought about that and it hit hard because it’s true. Many women don’t understand that in marriage if you’re a Christian and he says he’s a Christian but he doesn’t act like one, then I believe that is grounds for divorce because he married you under false faith. Women also need to know what the Bible says about how a husband is supposed to treat his wife. Most men twist the scripture to their advantage but if you know your Bible you can easily call BS on what he’s saying. Most folks try to force “legalism” instead of true Christianity. Also there are so many denominations that call themselves Christian but are not.

[@ForestTiefling]

I don't care how old you are if you wanna collect "toys" or whatever (neurodivergent here)... IF YOU CAN SPARE THE MONEY. Priorities, man. And doing the work, right? I know I am more prone to buy a new game or some beloved-media-merchandize on "bad days", I know this. Which is why I can keep me in (a balanced) check, right? I can wait the 5 minutes for the *whole* bag of marshmallows, and not go for the one on the plate in front of me!!!! But alas, for many men even thinking like that seems to be a major challenge? -Which I am saying a a person that has daily troubles with executive functioning and navigating "plans"... but the social conditioning regarding gender-stereotypical roles and behaviors didn't LET ME be "bad" at this, so I had to learn, just to not be "rejected" all the time... Honestly, the unspoken expectations towards women are SO EXHAUSTING. And the backlash you get (espc. from other still pickmeisha women) if you fail to "conform" is exhausting, too! ...Maybe even fatal for other, less lucky than me sisters, I dunno...

[@ForestTiefling]

wow, yes, there is a lot more of anger stored up where that came from. BUT I WILL NOT MINIMIZE MYSELF FOR THAT OR FEEL SORRY. Women are allowed to be angry, too! >;P Y'all don't wanna know where I want to put my fist next, if you don't allow me to at least shake it angrily.

[@nigerianwoman24]

I love Funko pops.😅

[@PandaHead602]

How many ong she had just 1 baby what a blessing but that’s it for her . Omf sorry

[@RowenaSnow-px3jg]

One side of my family tree is fundamentalist. Only in the last couple generations have some of them gotten divorced. Knowing what i know now, I am glad 😂. It means that they know staying in a miserable marriage is not mandatory. They also have a somewhat lower birthrate. It gives me hope that one day they'll wake up from fundamentalism, and i won't have to be low contact with them anymore.

[@Sinderella1987]

The Indian guy he is literally saving money living in your house

[@vrichards4363]

You're the ah bc why are you with someone who makes that little money? You might still have your job if he wasn't around. His low vibrations have rubbed off on you. He has affected your bottom line. Get rid of him and watch how you glow up.

[@silververnallbells191]

"low vibration" has nothing to do w/income. High income people CAN and often ARE low vibration.

[@the.masked.one.studio4899]

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[@onycagayle4485]

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[@puddin12dt]

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