20 things I wish I knew in my 20s

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Decided to switch it up a bit and try a new format on here. We want to be more open with you guys and really show you what filming looks like. Honestly, this one was one of the more enjoyable videos we've filmed. Believe it or not, these are some of the convos we find ourselves having over dinner or lunch so it's pretty spot on. What are some of the things you wish you could tell your younger self? What do you think of this type of format?
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[@patriciataubenslag6550]

Not a fan of this one guys… you seem at each others throat. Chillax.

[@TheMarandaWrites]

Watching this felt like watching a train wreck you can’t look away from. Made me sad. I understand that not all moments are rainbows, and some are raw and gritty. But this was very uncomfortable to watch and I got nothing out of it. I am 32, and have earned unfathomable lessons, wisdom and pieces of advice that definitely surmount the beauty rituals. Some of it seemed to just lull. Andrew was speaking from the heart and you just kind of mocked him. Also, was very distracted by the eating. Aaaand the minute she mentioned us getting a nutritionist I knew we come from totally different worlds, heh. Between the seating arrangement, styrofoam sounds and constant passive aggressive tone it wasn’t great. Hope Shawn is ok. ❤ ✌🏻

[@amandamorganSC]

I feel bad for Andrew on this episode?! The last one was sad, too.

[@ataurus2at]

She's giving Kate Gossling in this video 🫣

[@sherrywiedow3530]

I’m in my 60’s and the advice I would give my 20 year old self (and have given my nieces and nephews) is 1. Call your mom, dad, grandma and grandpa more often and 2. Be curious

[@ShawnandAndrew]

I love this! and agree!

[@slpplz]

Currently going through this. Grandmother passed away in February and dad was diagnosed with cancer the same month. Life has it valleys and peaks for sure.

[@NoStoryLostTeam]

@@slpplz 🙏🏻🤍

[@arunendrasaharay5816]

I saw a perspective: "Once you start counting in reverse the number of Christmas, Thanksgiving, Holi, birthdays you have, it really puts a perspective on how many finite chances you may have to spend quality time with people that matter the most". People and memories over things and validation is an uncomfortable but very rewarding transition.

[@arunendrasaharay5816]

I love the candor and speakeasy nature of the video. It's very comforting to see two accomplished individuals be so grounded and "real" in their answers and interactions. Definitely a couple to share a meal and beer with. As a 37 year old first generation immigrant (immigrated in my teens), many of your answers and reflections deeply resonated with me. My single most important advice that I would give: Pray before you eat (not to be religious, that is a plus) but to be thankful and grateful for the many things that I/we take for granted. Conscious gratitude is a great counterbalance to many of life's distractions (e.g envy, insecurity, jealousy)

[@heatherruble3177]

Love this! My advice to my 20 year old self is "trust your gut and be brave enough to go for it!"

[@cynetykwamboka1333]

Someone is a little,, salty today Shawn , whats up gurl

[@wendybrown500]

I love your videos. I couldn’t get through this one.

[@HayleySchreppler]

Were you all in the middle of an argument when you filmed this lol

[@katherinew1538]

Didn’t love this format to be honest. You said you wanted to make a somber video but it seems like that just goes against who you guys are naturally. Once Andrew started being a little more extra it felt much more like you. My favorite part of your videos is all of the natural laughs and giggles and it felt like you were purposely working in opposition of that to achieve a specific tone so it felt a little awkward.

[@abbyfloyd9230]

I feel like I just felt bad for Andrew. I don’t like the negativity at each other. Please be nice.

[@aprils8409]

As a mom to 2 sets of twins i love being able to see them grow into themselves.. My advice for them is to find what you are passionate about, do what you love and most importantly know you are always loved. Shawn and Andrew you both are wonderful people as well as parents! Much love!❤

[@jocelyndaley523]

Definitely not a fan of this format. Couldn't watch the whole thing.

[@jackiewilson2009]

I don't understand these other people's comments. I love you guys, the rawness of this video is great! I was laughing at y'all's communication. This whole video has just made me happy. Thank you 😂

[@ToochieTooch]

I love you two, but this video was hard to watch. Stop sweating the small stuff. The constant picking was making things awkward.

[@Realparisgirl]

I LOVE LOVE LOVE this format❤. I've been married for 29 years now and it's so nice to see other married couples show what REAL life is like. We snap at each other, joke, laugh, get angry withand argue with each other etc. That's why I love your channel. You guys are authentic and kind. God bless

[@kirstynball4980]

Shawn's vibe to me is a thought-out list and Andrew just thought of his list on the spot and they are just rolling with it. The giggles and joking are light-hearted. If you have been a follower for a while they adore each other. My husband and I talk to one another as bros and BFFs sometimes we are lovie Dovey. Balance is key. Cute video Shawn and Andrew

[@samantha.1999]

As someone who’s just short of 25, I needed this video ❤️

[@theresaherring3699]

Shawn was definitely the meanest to Andrew I've ever seen. Cringy. Sleep deprived? 🧐

[@staci_jo22]

So why are you sitting on a bunch of pillows on the floor instead of in the perfectly good chairs right behind you? 😂😂 Also, I feel like one of you were being judged by the other on every single thing you were saying. I used to love watching your videos but lately it’s been hard to get into them.

[@sherriitsamea3476]

These comments are a trip. Some of you want perfection videos. The edited ones we see all the time from couples portraying perfect relationships & no sarcasm & rolling of the eyes or what a real family is about in real life. This video was obviously real & unedited. THINK! And be understanding

[@griseldamartinez8338]

You're so right, I love the realness of their video! It was also funny!

[@reemer14]

I like the authenticity and realness element to this video: the real time reactions, zooming in and out, and more loose compared to the podcast. Like the other comments, it's nice to see the honesty without editing. The topic was helpful but the style and flow was the real winner for me in this one!

[@maryhartwell9041]

Great grandma sees some sort of something maybe a little tension remember to always no matter what love each other through it all I love watching you guys many many blessings to your beautiful family 💐💐💐💐💐

[@carolannelunan5329]

Eating sounds made this difficult to focus on your words. Not a fan of this style. My advice would be …..1. develop hobbies and friendships; your career should not be your whole life. 2. Be savvy with money management, investments, saving and spend wisely. 3. Travel! Learn about the world and other people ….. be curious and open minded. 4. Never stop learning! 5. Be kind and refrain from judging others. You have no idea what someone else is going through. Someone else’s behaviour is not always about you. Don’t take everything so personally.

[@mytrishy1]

I like the approach to a new style, but they seem like they’re bickering and it’s distracting instead of being authentic

[@oliviaferrone879]

I think Andrew deserves a bit more respect during this video. It was slightly degrading towards him. It’s weird she can easily treat him like this on the camera. Worse off the camera…. I hope not.

[@kmvideos3877]

This video was so chaotic 😂

[@sknight2517]

I was so uncomfortable watching them eat while talking . My advice: No talking with your mouth full, no take out in styrofoam and no plastic bags.

[@ginahebert1700]

Hi Shawn & Andrew! I absolutely adore your relatability. You are both incredibly accomplished and intelligent, yet you allow us into your little world and don’t sugarcoat things. It doesn’t matter WHO you are, life is hard and none of us make it out alive. Let’s learn to be decent human beings and look out for our neighbors! ❤

[@lindsayrobbins7673]

I have never commented, but I love the style. However, I am so uncomfortable with the interactions (albeit real) that I feel bad watching.

[@moemoe211]

This video is a little spicy and not in such a fun way. First time I’ve watched one of your videos where I felt awkward watching it. Neither of you feel like you’re in the mood to be doing this and it really comes across.

[@Golden_Queen_888]

It made me so uncomfortable and it’s only 2 minutes in.. It’s my first time watching them & I felt the woman being so rude cold & hostile towards him while he was trying to be nice and engaging! It made me mad tbh!

[@moemoe211]

@@Golden_Queen_888 i’m sure there’s two sides to everything going on. I would like to make the assumption that people aren’t inherently rude. We’re not sure really what’s going on but at the same time, it was still uncomfortable to watch. Doesn’t mean I’m not gonna watch because I absolutely love the East family.

[@LaceyNatasha41]

I agree with both comments, I've never seen them be this hostile towards one another, but they are doing their best and showing everyone that life's not always all happy and good times but actually seeing them this way makes it feel more normal and seeing the ones we love have harder times like we have ya know? I do love the east family they are great I have always loved Shawn watching her on tv. But I did see how they were not in the best of mood in this video.

[@kimdavenport8549]

You 2 are SO SO real!! Not to mention Funny Bunny's!! I feel like I am right there listening to you both and laughing my butt off!! Love you two and the kidos!! xoxo

[@ShawnandAndrew]

love that you love it! thats what we were going for! just want everyone to come hang

[@travjennybean]

"Vodka, don't!" Is on of the best peices of advice in this video! Shawn, I love your list!! Great advice for 20-something women. Thanks for sharing. Andrew your list is great too!! 😁

[@m.c.kennaaac9856]

i love how unapologetically yourselves y’all are. today is my 20th birthday so this is perfect!! thank you!! 🤍

[@PS-qn4oz]

Happy birthday!

[@atibatianya]

Sorry guys but this video……not good, eating between…..

[@ninas4968]

You two are so real and honest and I love that. ❤😊 and funny! 😅

[@carrieschuess22]

I totally agree with the paying attention to where you feel at home thing Andrew! ❤

[@carrieschuess22]

Ok I was also hardcore nodding to everything else Andrew went on to say 😂 and you frequently made me smile Shawn!

[@mytrishy1]

The food noises are making me crazy

[@kazzblewer]

Usually love watching these two, but someone is in a catty mood and is being mean to her man…..lol couldn’t watch it for long….

[@Fliptwisttt245]

Agreed

[@GinaSabatini-y1x]

Had to tune out also because of the meanness

[@okmein7725]

Yeah, it was really awkward very catty

[@paytonmareew]

Oh, I feel like this was just a real part of communication. Not perfect, but real 🤷‍♀️ sometimes there are days like this

[@michelepukaluk4205]

Shes got a huge attitude just tries to hide it most of the time.

[@CarolineWarde]

Shawn! Be nice to Andrew ;) You are guys are the best. Love the content ya’ll put out ❤️ Keep up the amazing work. Very inspiring.

[@texasbatos1711]

If I’ve learned something now that I’m in my 30’s it’s to not address everything that I don’t agree with so harshly and that people’s perceptions on things and situations are Reality to them so live and learn! Agree with Andrew on the kind words. Deal with Grace !

[@BeccaJean714]

What a very uncomfortable video, why are we eating? This is not good Content AT ALL! I wonder at what point in Shawn’s life she’s gonna realize how badly she treat’s her husband, or in what video is it gonna click for her. It’s not funny! It’s very cringy! This should be a serious video and she’s talking about washing her face wash, sunscreen and working out. I’m so confused she’s Telling people to go to the Dr/Dentist, such a secret sister to Kate from (John and Kate plus 8) It may take her until she’s 40 (hopefully not) to realize what’s going on, but she will at one point realize. This woman is a roller coaster of personalities. When she has a husband that is just 100% himself at all times. I sincerely use to brush her off but through the years it’s gotten out of hand.

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

I believe this is exposing so much of KZbin couples. The whole happy sappy dappy family dynamic is kinda falling off… not saying unhappy moments isn’t there in all relationships but… this one is just uncomfortable

[@vnokesCO]

Love the video & the style, and great advice 🥰 52 here. My main advice: Don't rush into things so much (ties into the rest). Take a gap year after high school & travel or work & think hard about what direction you want your life to take you. Some experiences can wait. Be more selective with friends & relationships. Get a handle on your finances & make smart decisions. Make sure you're choosing things for yourself & not others; also, worry less about what others think; & still be kind & thoughtful with your words & actions. Lastly, be kind to your body, to avoid pain later on.

[@Realparisgirl]

Thank you! I'm 52 years old too and you gave me great advice also

[@Erin.04]

I love both of your authenticity and personalities! 🤍

[@sophier5508]

I wish I knew that 20 is not necessarily the best age in life, and that there are always things to enjoy and learn as we get older :)

[@lilbitofjoy6130]

Wow, who knew Shawn could be such a.... well...the first thought is snippity snot. I have never seen this side of her and for me, it is not a good look on her. Where is the sweet respectful Shawn I know and love? I had to stop watching just a few minutes in. The way she treated Andrew made me cringe at times. I have always heard, if someone acts like this in 'public' just imagine how they act behind closed doors. For Andrew, I hope this is not the case. Her constant snippy attitude, raising her eyebrows and the frowned up eyebrows while saying "hey, do better" like he is a child was a bit uncomfortable to watch for me. Just how far above your husband do you think you are Shawn because from this video, for me, you seem to think you are the better of the two. I would never speak to my husband like that. Add on top of that, slurping spaghetti and talking with a mouth full was, sort of like Shawn was talking about not washing your face before bed "gross, have more respect for yourself." The "find yourself a nice man that treats you well" I guess was a practice what your preach moment for me. You should do the same and treat that "nice man" well in return. I just clicked pause, going to make this comment and move right along to another channel because i no longer like what I am seeing on this one. I guess many others feel the same based on comments and 35,000 + views with only 1.2K likes. I wish you both the best going forward.

[@cjp592]

I love the East fam and I’m a huge fan of Shawn. But this two do not share an emotional harmony. Some of the things said seem cruel and intentional. I feel the husband is trying to say something. I’m reading between the lines. I’m not trying to determine faults. But I sense a disdain for each other. I hope you guys work it out before it’s too late. 🖖❤️💯

[@melissasmith7907]

As a busy Nana who babysits my 3 grandbabies often-boy 8 &1/2, boy 4, girl 2 & 1/2, I love your videos and advice. Real, honest and helpful. And just when I need it, theres something funny to make me laugh. I appreciate the time it takes to do and post things. Im a veteran-retired-and it's hard to slow down and take time for yourself. Its absolutely amazing to see you learning this at a young age and even though busy, you prioritize your kids, yet do allow self care for each other. I wish more young people would do this. I always put kids 1st and myself last so I forget this step. Probably why im so tired always lol. But anyways, I appreciate both of you taking the time to post real life stuff. Have a great day ❤💜🙏🌹🌻😊

[@susie_q1]

Think Shawn kind of snippy to Andrew. She was being rather rude. She's taking something out on him.

[@juliewick]

I love you guys so much! Keep being EXACTLY who you are! I’m here for a good time and a LONG time!! 💖🤘🏻

[@audreyherrera6567]

What a lovely couple. Treasure and support each other. Love watching you two. If his back hurts maybe dont expect him to do lifts etc. Have been a Grinkov and Gordeava fan since i heard of them in 97.....he hurt his back but it was massive blockage actually. Make sure hes getting his physicals and do tell the fam history and symptoms. Only recently found your channel but already its a check in i look forward to a few times a week.

[@LaceyNatasha41]

Im 41 and what i would give my 20 yr old self would be to actually go back to school focus more on myself and not tbh i would wait to have kids bc the person i had kids with was not a very good person he turned out being very abusive and stuff my life was hell. I don't regret my kids by no means i just wish i could've been in a real marriage or had them later on in life and i also would have chosen better friends and man i can go on and on. I actually look at y'all and i see such a blessed, lucky and beautiful family that i always wished i had in my life but i was just dealt a different life. You guys are really great,keep up the great work!!

[@danyiadawson6724]

You guys are cracking me up! You’re feisty today! Keepin it real!

[@mandynolan4752]

Same! I loved it

[@sydneymyers87]

“Throw your list away and give people a chance” best advice in this video! Way too many, women especially, are too picky and just need to love the journey of falling in love and get married and don’t get divorced! That’s my advice haha

[@dzlu3]

So I can definitely tell ya'll are struggling as a couple. Remember to respect eachother and eachothers differences.

[@kindnessmatters4068]

I think some of what you were feeling was that they weren't alone... so in a sense they weren't their most relaxed selves... That's what I got from it. ❤

[@juliannaanderson9747]

Why did you change the channel name? I liked the East Fam

[@ataurus2at]

I usually love y'alls video's but I feel like y'all should have waited to film and worked out whatever beef you've got going on. Why are we sitting on the floor when there are 2 perfectly good chairs behind you.🤦‍♀️ Yall just got me all stressed out.

[@MrsNadia888]

🧡 "I have to breastfeed in any position" 100% agree ~ that's me right now with my tall hubby, too 😂

[@kathyghrist7379]

I think they are just playing…not being mean…just snarky and fun…ease up peeps!

[@luztorres4332]

By ANDY'S second advice I was like "He has to be a Virgo." 😅 I loved this video, I was having lunch and it felt like just hanging out eating, laughing and having a good talk.

[@jennifertitus7496]

I feel bad for whoever was helping record this episode haha. Very intimate look at a relationship, maybe a little too intimate for me. Love them both though!!

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

Can yall stop pretending that this video is uncomfortable. Nobody is saying couples can have disagreements or nasty moments. But this one is just…passive aggressive. Let’s fix that tone for next time please

[@tommyjames6699]

I really love this family..there wholesome family funn.and genuine. Thanks

[@PS-qn4oz]

This was sort of uncomfortable to watch but that's why I love it. Things have been rough around the edges for me here. It's not exactly like misery loves company but.....yeah sort of. I get tired of all my spirituality/success/ambition content sometimes. This was more like a reality check and I thank you.

[@lilyw9324]

sending love! ❤

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

It would be real if they both apologize to each other. Let’s not romanticize rudeness

[@susie_q1]

She must be a huge challenge to live with.

[@michellepoe761]

My advice to my 20 yr old self and the advice I give my kids now at 22, 17, and even 12 is save money!! Learn how to really budget your money well and make sure you’re setting aside money in a savings account!! Advice I wish I had listened to when my parents were telling me. Also, living paycheck to paycheck is extremely stressful and very hard to get ahead that way because there’s always something that comes up. The one thing I am happy my husband and I don’t have are credit cards or credit card debt because honestly we wouldn’t be able to afford an extra payment each month. 💜

[@MicheleWalkerWebb]

Start saving money EARLY in your 20's for retirement. So at that age you have money to continue living a life that you've become accustomed to..

[@erinbrantley3206]

Don't let your mom control you control of your own life. Do the right things and take care of yourself. I love your life as good as you can. Twenties are really hard

[@amyvelsor8729]

Love you guys but please don’t eat in a video again especially out of styrofoam containers. They’re so noisy and distracting.

[@triciajones7033]

I love you guys and love having you share in a laid back format but this video felt like it had an underlying tension- were you both on board with turning the camera on in this moment? You are both working hard and under alot of stress make sure you are taking time to rest and recharge. We are all excited to have your content but please dont feel obligated to provide it when you actually need a moment to take a breath

[@mandynolan4752]

This is super sweet. Thank you both.

[@emmawolak7975]

“Noodle on it” useing that one😂

[@tarankular6541]

Awwww this was really nice to watch, y'all are funny! I'm 23, and I agree with your lists, and I could work on getting out of my comfort zone more

[@awahl22]

In a recent video, they said they’re back in couples therapy… I see why now. There’s a lack of respect.

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

I’m late to their channel… what happened before?

[@chelseav8311]

I think what Andrew means is if you don't feel at home (like a good vibe in something you are doing repeatedly) that it may be something to move on from because it isn't something healthy for you. This doesn't mean to not stop trying new things though and push yourself outside your comfort zone. I know we are all looking from the outside in but I think you both are growing and maturing and both of your experiences should be respected.

[@giannabruno8753]

I loved this video I’m 21 and I appreciate this advice

[@KayRaeC]

For people who are hating on their interaction in this video, don’t. This is marriage for them and it’s adorable.

[@nettie3485]

Nice effort, but it's not a great style. Let yourselves keep exploring new styles. Keep being you.

[@tarankular6541]

To add to the list: "Don't sacrifice your values and standards for short-term joy." I think our gut always tells us what we should do, in my experience - its just better to listen.

[@Fliptwisttt245]

lol these two were in their 20s less than 5 years ago. Shawn feels passive aggressive here towards Andy.

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

Tbh. Shawn was every shady and Andy was throwing some Back at her. Awkward

[@mandynolan4752]

Just love your authenticity always have always will 🫶

[@aliciaallen7856]

Where did all your videos go

[@ninakoch1799]

Oh no, this feels soooo uncomfortable.

[@KennediClose]

I love this, feels so real and comfortable and I love it 🫶🏻

[@tracimartin7618]

I think the advice was great. As far as the style, I would like it occasionally, but I wouldn't want to watch it all the time. I can appreciate the stripped down authenticity, but I found myself feeling kind of bored and skipping around a bit and not smiling as much. I would say I like it for the podcast, not so much for the channel. Also, I'm curious about the name change, I liked The East Fam! But, hey, this is your life, if this feels better for you and your family in this season, please do it with all your heart and don't worry about what others think!

[@abbywenger2328]

The sass in this was hilarious!!! Also Andrew not being comftorable was kinda funny

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

Girl…

[@michelepukaluk4205]

How are these two still married?

[@taintedlove202]

Advice to my 20 year old is stop living paycheck to paycheck and start that 401K NOW!

[@emirom2]

Listen to Baz Luhrmann’s song called “Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen)” That’s the best advice for life!

[@susie_q1]

Shawn. Check yourself.

[@stephanie.stanton]

I thought the normal videos were chaotic 😂 Do what’s easiest on you, even if your viewership shifts. I respect the low dopamine thing, but I strongly prefer videos that aren’t as chaotic (though informal is still great). I have enough chaos everywhere else so I don't need or want it on youtube

[@RachdelaTorre]

Study nutrition and get a nutritionist… or formal name “Dietitian” is the best advice!!! 👏👏👏 I’m not biased at all being a Dietitian 😜❤

[@susie_q1]

She needs a therapist. Andrew is the glue.

[@lisawolff1511]

This video is boring

[@mariemeyer6852]

I like the new style…more real. Advice I would give myself is be more compassionate with yourself, do your best you can, learn to always keep learning, and stop more often to smell the roses. Less is more.

[@katiehartzler11]

Tell us about the decision to change your channel name??

[@ShawnandAndrew]

we will in one of the upcoming videos !!

[@torie513]

Probably has something to do with not forcing their children to be in videos and things like that.

[@Kelly-hn4gp]

Eating while talking is not the most entertaining thing to watch

[@kathleenhaskett7438]

Remember, your parents won’t be around forever.

[@shelbijordan7568]

Don’t worry Andrew… I knew what you were trying to say😂

[@leigh-anneobrien3299]

Yes ... "Show me your friends and I'll show you your future".

[@unapologeticallyromel7096]

I like this video idea I feel we all should do this in life regardless if your ok KZbin or not.

[@ShawnandAndrew]

I agree! Send through your advice!!

[@ronswolfpack]

Trust the lord with all of your heart and he will guide you. Hold tight to your family they want what is best for you. Love and I courage the young ones and let them know how important they are. Don’t let your husband drive to work tired so your son will know his dad without me having to tell how amazing he was. Fight harder for the right things in your life. Don’t be afraid to let someone know if they hurt you. Last one know you are stronger then you think