298: Loving the Fantasy of Someone

It’s easy to fall in love with the idea of someone. The fantasy we create in our minds is often one of very few imperfections. Unfortunately, the perfect person only exists in our imagination. Building a relationship around a fantasy cannot only be disappointing, but it can be incredibly destructive.
In this episode, Justin and Abi are joined by friend and fellow Life Consultant Rachel Hughes to discuss the world of relational fantasy known as limerence. They explore how fantasizing about who someone is can cause you to bond to the idea of them, create unrealistic expectations, perpetuate a one-sided relationship, and cause you to overlook their nuances altogether. They also delve into the importance of humanizing people and recognizing the red, yellow, and green flags we all have.
If you want to learn about a more holistic approach to relationships that will help you foster balance in the way you relate to others, this episode is right up your alley!
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[@brittanyeorr]

Thank you for describing my life for an hour 😄 This was great!

[@justin-abi]

Bahaha, it's all of us, friend. Here's the link for the event we mentioned - Becoming Badass at Boundaries (10/18 & 19) justinandabi.com/boundaries

[@geo102094]

Seems like a broad term though to classify different scenarios. Why 'define' a child for believing their parent is perfect when they're just trying to get their needs met, seems like an innocent feeling for a child.

[@dittyman]

Great stuff! Did either of you have any limerence feeling toward each other? Just curious--I guess that may not be called limerence though. Idk

[@SelahSchauberger]

Question: how do you self regulate when you realize you are the limerant object? I had to cut an old friend out of my life and wasn’t sure why until this episode and am now trying to not be super triggered LOLOL