3 Signs of Parent-Child Relationship Trauma

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If you're feeling upset or anxious in your current relationship, it may be due to past trauma. Our earliest relationship is that with our parents, and it begins in our formative years-so it's a major factor in mental health and mental illness in adulthood. The symptoms and behaviors of past parent-child relationship trauma may linger into adulthood, especially because this kind of trauma results from attachment issues in ongoing relationship trauma versus a one-time traumatic event. There are ways to cope once you identify the signs of past parent-child relationship trauma. Sometimes it leads to complex PTSD aka cPTSD, or post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Here's how to spot the signs and begin the healing journey from past parent-child relationship trauma.
00:00 Intro
00:39 What is parent-child relationship trauma, actually?
02:32 Common HIDDEN traumas during childhood
04:26 1. Difficulty with trust
05:08 2. Consistently don't feel safe
05:49 3. Low self esteem or self worth
06:50 Why do different siblings react differently?
08:23 How does someone begin to heal?
09:30 1. Strategize your mindfulness
09:54 2. Build tolerance to difficult emotions
10:32 3. Identify negative thinking patterns
11:06 Dealing with jealousy in a current relationship
Trauma can be a very difficult thing to deal with, and can cause a lot of long-term problems like ptsd, cptsd, and relationship problems like trauma bonding and codependency. There are several signs that might indicate you're dealing with past parent-child relationship trauma so if you think you may be suffering from this kind of trauma, it's important to get help. In this video, we'll discuss some of the most common signs that indicate you may be struggling with past parent-child relationship trauma. If you're not sure whether you're experiencing trauma, then check out this video.
#relationship #trauma #psychology #ptsd #mentalhealth

[@MedCircle]

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[@djbond6241]

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[@djbond6241]

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[@MedCircle]

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[@tiararoxeanne1318]

Three signs of past parent-child relationship trauma: 1) Difficulty with trust 2) Consistently don't feel save 3) Low self esteem or self worth. No.1 & 2 could make someone having difficulties in maintaining romantic relationships, or even friendships.

[@lamisharochelle]

Me too!

[@lindylee1139]

Siblings can have different experiences because of the family system such as where one is the black sheep and another is the golden child.

[@stolensilver6963]

It was like my sister and I lived different lives in the same house.

[@Uvvibes]

100 agree my younger sister was the golden child and when I would bring up things to her that mom did that were unfair and a lot of the times crazy, she would Deny or down play it now as adults IM the golden child but see right through that shit and now my sister feels the brunt and I say see? See this how she is what I was trying to tell you all these years. She unfortunately understands now. I do not accept the golden child role however I help my mom with what she need (that’s the Only reason I’m the golden child now in her eyes)but I stay emotionally distant but try to not to show it to spare her feelings and guilt trips. I feel validated but at the same time let my sister know she’s just fine and doesn’t have to fall for it the cover/veil has been lifted on our mom

[@lauragadille3384]

Most counselors forget that religion is trauma too. It was used as a weapon in through out my childhood. It felt that even breathing was a sin. As I am adult now, passing by any Catholic church gives me a panic attack.

[@cjb128]

😯

[@healerscreek]

Tim Fletcher is a progressive pastor who acknowledges this. He has a youtube channel with excellent detailed videos about complex trauma, and healing from trauma. I'm not religious because of religious bs but I get a lot out of his videos. He is very open about discussing the abuses of religion.

[@rosemaryclarke2348]

How awful! Why can't people just let religion come from within it's so unfair!

[@NN-re7cy]

It sounds like you might have religious trauma syndrome. I can relate, and I would recommend looking into the research on it and reading material from the experts in that area. The toxic beliefs you were forced to listen to are not yours to keep, and working through them with a clinician specialized in this area could help. I don't know if you still believe in God, but I had to learn that God is pure love and NOT the abusive maniac people tell you He is. Blessings on your healing journey.

[@lauragadille3384]

@@NN-re7cy there is someone I follow who explains this. And yes I have that too. I don't believe in God but I know there is someone higher up that loves us no matter how fked up we are.

[@ericablaschke3497]

Emotional neglect as well. My mother came from a dysfunctional family and an alcoholic parent. She has a mental illness and dismissive. I identified with all these examples. I do not feel safe, I do not trust or feel comfortable with myself or with other people low self esteem. Invisible trauma is hard because people don’t see it and when you tell professionals they invalidate me. Please teach more mental health professionals about relationship trauma and invisible trauma

[@rubytuesday7653]

💙🌈💙

[@Natalie-fo9pm]

I can relate

[@AMYBIERHAUS]

Once I had wallpapered my and my BF's bathroom, and lined all the shelves in the kitchen. Well, he came home and made me mad in some way, and I went around the apartment tearing down the wallpaper and tearing out the shelf liner! After I DID this, I said to myself, "This is something Mother would have done!" So I vowed then and there to never do anything like this again! And I never have!

[@bkm2797]

Self awareness is the best, Congratulations!

[@AMYBIERHAUS]

@@bkm2797 Thank you! 😍

[@AMYBIERHAUS]

@@gjdfjktr Thank you so much!

[@meghanmonroe]

Did not expect to be crying after only a couple minutes into this video.

[@risika]

I have an awful relationship with my mom and 3 years ago I started taking my own healing seriously because I realized if I didn’t id just become her or let her devour me… I literally started my youtube channel so that I'd be motivated to complete the activities that I was too depressed to do. To cultivate the community I lost in life. As I try to rebuild myself as a healthier person. It’s been very hard, sorta lonely in an unexpected at but I know im on the path to begin authentic and who I am internally. Watching your vulnerability has been such a beautiful thing. I super appreciate the time you’ve taken to share your thoughts.

[@Dana-zw7nw]

Sounds like you are standing in your power. That's an amazing place to be! It's ok to love people from a healthy distance. Doing the work can be hard, but you are doing it!

[@Rainbow_Daze-1960]

My very sick mother, my violent step-father, my absent Father my jealous step-mother and so many more damaging 'role models' .

[@lilletrille1892]

One of the factors constantly causing conflict between mother and me is my mental health problems. Mother sees them as criticism of her.

[@anemptyspace]

Well, she's not entirely wrong, your mental health problems are showing her her mistakes and her own problems, which she doesn't want to acknowledge because it's uncomfortable. I have a very similar dynamic with my mother, she takes my mental health problems as criticism on her parenting (which it is tbh, children are not capable of raising and regulating themselves, they need a lot of help) and always shuts me down and deflects (consciously or unconsciously) by starting to talk about how terrible her own childhood was (basically making excuses for her shitty parenting because "she also had it tough"). I hate this dynamic, because it just shows that she's (at least partly) aware of the damage and wrong she has done but refuses to take accountability for it, which pisses me off immensely tbh. Well, this rant has gone on long enough, thank you for coming to my TEDtalk and I hope you have a wonderful day ✨

[@Davidjune1970]

7:06 often one kid can bear the brunt if not all of the abuse. So the one who was not abused would not have the same view of the past.

[@thelman4496]

Birth order, in a dysfunctional family birth order matters. I can’t believe this person doesn’t mention this. The oldest is given more responsibility, the youngest is the “baby”, etc. family systems is the term to look up.

[@lisablacker3102]

I definitely think being the baby was a factor flor me, and boy, do I have trust issues!

[@amygreen4983]

Thank the Universe for channels like this, for those who think they need medication to heal, when they don't, balance is very hard work. Just don't give up.

[@MedCircle]

Thanks for your sentiment and for supporting mental health education 💙

[@rosemaryclarke2348]

That's the main thing, DON'T GIVE UP!🥰

[@MsTosha1111]

This resembles my story, and my mother. My brother is 7 years younger than I. The treatment between us was much different and we both see our mother from a different viewpoint. She has her own disorders that I'm learning which stems from where mine came from, being raised by her. Favoritism is huge between the two, me and my brother both have good temperament growing up both very laid back, never in trouble never disrespecting our mother. But I was her Target always personally had nothing to do with us, it was inside of her

[@cjb128]

Hi, your story is very much like my own. We were 4 kids: brother, sister, me, brother. The younger brother was the favorite or "golden child" and I was the target or "scapegoat". We older 3 kids were treated, and raised, MUCH differently than our younger brother and it was noticeable as soon as he was born. My mother is a text-book narcissist and my sister became one, too. I was bullied by NM, older brother and my sister, and more or less ignored by my father when there was bullying or abuse. He never spoke up to protect us. So growing up was really painful half of the time.

[@an-ic6gs]

Please consider the financial abuse from government which cause domestic, verbal, emotional,physical abuses towards children .

[@MsTosha1111]

@@cjb128 its so sad that this happens to any child living with sadness and emptiness alone even when they're present. The pain changes who we were, Who We Are. We really didn't have a chance did we what's worse is living like this while raising our own children. Trying to do our best from a broken individual therapy can't change that medication masks it. And to see it all unfold leaves me speechless

[@goodintentions1302]

When I was in my late thirties, I'd only had highschool, my mother said to me "You always get good jobs. And people like you. I just don't get it." I didn't respond. It was just like she'd always treated me. My sister on the other hand was perfect in my mother's eyes & my sister thought my mother was "the wings beneath her wings" and an angel.

[@vivtodd2473]

What a nasty - jealous- comment. It says more about her/your mother than you… she’s very jealous of you. I had the same- sometimes supportive but more often not. And if I struggled with anything disappointing or emotional, mine would always make it my fault!.. or throw the ‘opportunities’ I’d had, back in my face. Never any empathy. Good for you that people line you- dam good work considering your mother’s inadequacy.

[@Wendyj55]

@@vivtodd2473 Also feel for the Mum who felt so bad

[@Enchanteralle]

Think the last guy I dated had some sort of trauma. Everything was fine at first, but shortly after he became passive aggressive and it seems like he was trying to push me away and questioned if I was out seeing someone else when I already told him a week ahead that I'm meeting up with a friend the following Saturday. He became easily upset with things I say or suggest, and then gave up on the relationship. He didn't feel like he was loved and constantly proved his worth. I hope he gets the help he needs.

[@rosemaryclarke2348]

Oh that's so kind of you!

[@jomusicv]

I am so appreciative of the affirmation this video gives me just as I need it. Thank you for understanding why my attempt to discuss the boundaries of our relationship with a sibling was met with passive-aggressiveness and gaslighting. Thank you for validating the work that my other sibling and I have done to have a relationship despite our abusive childhood. And to those who think there is no hope, work on it for yourself, not for anyone else. I see you. You’re not alone. And once you start to heal, you will start to surround yourself with healthier people.

[@rosemaryclarke2348]

You are so brave, thank you for that.🥰

[@jomusicv]

@@rosemaryclarke2348 thank you. I don't see it as bravery so your comment has given me a lot to reflect on.

[@an-ic6gs]

Kyle kittleson please please please please tell us in a video why government leaders are not being given their medication for their narsistic behaviours like for example right now Putin is doing war crimes in Ukraine.

[@jomusicv]

@@an-ic6gs what medication is there for narcissism?

[@MsTosha1111]

Even as doctors, no matter how much experience they learn from books , school Etc, day after day dealing with different patients they see new things that they didn't read in books. But most of them more than half of them has never not once experienced one of these feelings or symptoms themselves to even understand the depth of the trauma. they all use the same tactics they've learned not experienced, in order to help heal the trauma in broken individuals coming to them for help the statistics from that aren't too positive. Then leaning to medication for help even with both therapy and medication. again low positive outcome. That's why the Mental Health crisis in America is at all time high. Their knowledge this far has helped many very true, but to an extent. The problem lies in not the person who comes traumatized broken at their end the problem starts way before them and they need help absolutely but the ones who created it the ones at fault , the foundation of why and where start from the bottom start from the base just like how a flower is planted makes more sense. Maybe generations to come won't be as disfigured

[@cjb128]

You stated that very well, and you're so right. Our society is in a mental health crisis that we have to figure out how to deal with, why it's happening, and who to turn to. First, my opinion is that a well qualified psychologist or talk therapist of some kind, is much better than a psychiatrist for treatment. If you need medications a family doctor can prescribe that, but for the therapy part, my experience is best with psychological counseling. They are less "clinical" and often more compassionate than the physicians. It's true that many of the therapists out there haven't experienced the kind of trauma that we have, but some of them definitely have. That is exactly what prompted them to study and become mental health professionals in the first place; they want to help you. Take heart and have faith first in you, and I wish you well. You're right, too many broken people are raising children and passing on their toxic baggage. It's tragic. 😥

[@sun_buddy]

@@cjb128 yes, but we can't change those people and if they wanna be set in their ways, they will be. but as survivors, we get to make the choice to do better than them by committing to our healing, to give ourselves the mercy never given to us. we can break the chain and raise up healthier generations.

[@cjb128]

@@sun_buddy Right. I learned that they will NEVER change no matter how kind you are, how well you treat them. It really is a choice as you say - to do better than that, and thanks to the grace of god, I wasn't born like them. I just can't understand how a person gets thrills out of bullying, insulting or hurting others. I disowned my sister because of it. Doing the same with my mother was harder, so I went back to be there for the end of her life. I DO sincerely love my family but they made it impossible to be around them. Their problem, their loss.

[@francesbernard2445]

Believing that we have to be perfect or near perfect to survive at all and so we are hypervigilant during every waking moment is a clear sign of Parent-Child relationship trauma. That makes people more vulnerable to become brainwashed into believing that they belong in an arbitrary labelled box which they never asked to be in.

[@solutions4tenants141]

Many relationship trauma dialogue with a spouse has helped me realize that they had their own childhood and relationship trauma and did not want to dialogue due to their own stuff

[@zinasager5205]

Abandonment issues, low self esteem, and lack of trust make discussing some problems difficult because you don't know if they're telling you the truth. My brother and I were raised differently in the same household with the same biological parents. He was coddled, I was abused mentally, emotionally and physically. He trusts people and has many friends. On the other hand, I belive they destroyed my ability to bond with humans. The relationships I have had I am forever waiting for that other shoe to drop. I have gone through years of counseling and am currently in counseling. Talk therapy has helped me tremendously on many issues. My question is, how can I learn to bond with people? Is it even possible after 8+ years of abuse?

[@GrandTourHTX]

Yes. It is possible. You absolutely will find friendships, love and joy!

[@lenading]

Bruh this is so triggering in a funny way. I just had this conversation with my therapist about this last week 😂😂😂

[@farmcat3198]

"...it was better that he beat you instead of me!" - Love, Mother.

[@ericablaschke3497]

Oh my gosh This is me. Not feeling safe. I had early health issues. My mother projected her anxiety onto me and her ongoing need was to fix me. All she saw was getting me help but that was her whole focus there was no bond. She saw something wrong instead of seeing what was good and enjoying me. It was constant causing bigger and bigger problems. My sisters didn’t have these issues with my mother I was her focus she was fixated on me. Stopped being my parent I felt more like her patient then her daughter. All she saw were problems and deficits I wanted her love and acceptance

[@buni566]

This hit too close to home, especially when she mentioned “avoidant personality” and temperament. I’ve been diagnosed with AvPD and awaiting ADHD assessment, one of the reasons being extreme emotions and expressing those emotions.😅 I’m laughing and at the verge of tears while watching this. I’m definitely one that feels unworthy in relationships (though I’m getting better), but it never really feels right. I move on so quickly because I think I’m just always prepared for my partner to leave me…

[@rosemaryclarke2348]

I'm always ready for the worst to happen; it's like a present when something good does.

[@unstoppablegirl6062]

Being a indian..my childhood was full of physical and verbal abuse...🥹i was constantly compared, invalidated being a girl .. discriminated also..my mother became a monster ever since she found about my affair..back in 2013..she has destroyed me ..said what i cud never hear for myself..she made me hate myself.. but she has changed since last year..and now is a peaceful mother but because of past experiences .. i became underconfident,shy, introvert, inactive 1 year back i fell in luv wid a narcissistic colleague..as i was a perfect target for him because of my wounds...he made my life even worse by abusing me emotionally, now i had cut all ties with him..and on my way of healing although it is no less than a battle.. because of lack of freedom..like i can't go out with my friends on weekend..i only go out for my 9 to 5 job..that is also traumatic because i see my ex narc there..but i m strong enough to see him but not getting moved by his sight..the struggle is real having a heartless family like mine... with lots of fuckin restrictions

[@craigmerkey8518]

Thank you! Dr. Yip makes me feel so warm and calm, and overall I am a chill person!

[@peterdeneke8401]

I had both of these experiences, fighting and alcoholic parents. today I'm scared of marriage and intimacy

[@musokiemily336]

I can relate with that

[@DynoDieselWagon]

Time to grow up .

[@VM-gg7be]

That's terrible and is an ugly scene. I would recommend reading Dr Bowlby. He was the researcher who started the research on Attachment. Great stuff to learn and consider. Best of luck!

[@cjb128]

I'm a "younger" senior now and the pain of it all is less bitter and has lost the edge, but I relate 100% to how this is. While there was no addiction or substance abuse in my family, I had a narcissistic mother and quite a passive father that would be called an enabler. Close, intimate relationships scared me when I was younger, and I never married or had any children as a direct result of the negative conditioning of my formative years. As is often the case, my mother's poor influence affected my older sibs, a brother and a sister, who both bullied and betrayed me countless times. The 3 of them ruined my then life, and ruined my future for many years. I've taken it back now, and I no longer buy into the labels, names, and lies they spread about me. Those in my extended family who choose to believe their distorted bull**** can go chuck themselves. I wish you happiness. 🙏

[@sherriflemming3218]

We are all responsible for ourselves as grown adults. Ownership.

[@aylinluna2031]

As a mental health counselor in training,these videos have helped understand topics more clearly. I love the questions asked through out the interview. Very insightful. Thank you!

[@Kelseysophia]

I definitely had the obvious and invisible, mostly the invisible though! I was the oldest and ended up running away from home when I was 16, didn’t come back until I was 19 and pregnant:/ I try REALLY hard to trust people, but it’s really hard..I ended up with partners who abused me physically and emotionally, landed in the hospital once too. I now suffer from chronic health problems formed in part by chronic stress and emotional trauma...I’m definitely trying to be a better parent for my own though!

[@rosemaryclarke2348]

YOU ARE SO BRAVE! KEEP GOING! By being that parent you are helping beautiful people into the world to help others, so needed!🥰

[@justlyfaith3454]

All I can say is thank you. This really spoke to me

[@raminatorrammer]

Thank you for these informative videos.

[@DiamondEyez456]

People can also develop c-pstd, it’s not always personality disorders. That is really false that they develop just personality disorders. I gather this therapist doesn’t take those into consideration and hasn’t full recognized that it is not alway the case. Sad b/c that is old school frame of thought and not what many psychiatrists or psychologists recognize now.

[@thisisntallowed9560]

If I always think I'm a burden to other people and they don't really like me so I end up isolating does this count as trust issues?

[@nancybartley4610]

That is a good question. I would appreciate an answer to it, too. What does trust feel like?

[@pamelaliegh]

👋🏼 same

[@100americanmade]

Same

[@emorris3859]

Hello, this sounds like a belief system formed from childhood and could be based in the core wound (the messaging you received in childhood) of “I am disliked” or “I’m not good enough.” Isolating could be based in a fear of rejection, fear of being abandoned in some way or fear of being seen as “bad” (as just some examples). There are ways to reprogram the belief systems that are running in the subconscious that are affecting your relationships and causing you to isolate. One would be to start noticing, as often as possible, all the ways that you are not a burden to the people in your life. I hope this helps.

[@CupCake-sc9eb]

I think so. I feel the same, cause my dad "motivation" was to talk bullshit about me and critisize me all the time. Like you are stupid, you cant do that etc and now i have to work on my selfeestem realy hard. Well i forgot him cause but still i think he doesnt uderstand how wrong was that.

[@ratulroy458]

Another beautiful video with a gorgeous kind lady... Doctor you are saving my life....😍

[@drdre251]

i missed seeing her. great video once again. thks kyle...

[@yaminoshinn1473]

Thankyou for the videos

[@chacha-Ce83]

Thank you so much

[@8_8ily]

My asian parents used to abuse me verbally and emotionally in my childhood because I was not a good girl for them, curious and careless child. My father used to yell at me, make me stand outside the entrance door and slapping when I did something wrong. My father had a gambling problem and that caused to lead divorce with my mother. In my age of 13-16, I experienced of being excluded and quietly bullied by some girls group because I was indifferent with something they like. Now I am mid 30s having some interpersonal relationship problems such as trusting people, low self esteem, and lack of working in the same job for a long time. When I am denied disagreed, and disrespected by people, I get so stressed even just small things.... I usually overthink and trying to figure out the truth behind what others say. I didn't know I was that mentally frail until I had noticed that childhood experience impacted my life so much.. and it's actually revealed this couple of years. Thanks to this video made me contemplate myself again.

[@Wendyj55]

Really really resonates.

[@bryanandrew7729]

The 3 Cs didn't cause it can't control it can't cure it in the end you just end up broken my whole family is disfunctional it's a continuing siecle it trickles down to the next sibling and the toxciidee lives on my sister wants closure with our father but you know and I know that will never happen we grew up with a very violent abuseive child hood our father can't understand what he did wrong it's horrible we don't see much of one another I some times wounder what it would be like to be in a normal family I'm devorced I live on my own I don't socialise not many friends I feel there's no hope for any of us any more

[@houdabouabdallah7106]

Amazing inspiring video

[@MedCircle]

Thanks for supporting mental health education 💙

[@a.r.4416]

Mindfulness exercises without a therapist might be very dangerous and invite traumatic memories, overwhelming you off-guard. I would be more cautious recommending that without second thought.

[@carlyar5281]

A safer way to be mindful is active mindfulness. Doing activities that require focus but allow you you still think in the background provide the same benefits. I have PTSD and ADHD and chronic illness and mindfulness exercises are harmful for me. But what does help is activities like colouring , gardening and painting. Woodworking, exercise and baking are other examples.

[@brandonwhisnant4325]

Please please do a segment on Parental Alienation. It needs to be added to this video!#victimtohero

[@notabadperson6163]

As a kid I always thought that my parents getting angry over me and my siblings playing too loud, or talking too loud, was normal. And they would get very upset, especially my dad, they would throw stuff or hit things along with other stuff. Later, I made more friends and widened my social circle, I would ask what did your parents get mad about and they would say stuff like bad grades, sibling fights, or arguing. I once mentioned my parents reactions and one of my friends told me that is abuse. I told her no, it’s just me getting punished because I was too loud. As I said it, I realized how silly it was to yell and break dishes over your kid laughing or talking too loud. My mom grew up in a very abusive home and was never heal over it, so she would be very aggressive and threatening with us. Because I were always scared I would lie to avoid punishment and then cheat, just to avoid my parents seeing my bad grades. Everything they described in this video I relate to now I’m older and I can see all the damage done by my parents. I can’t tell them, “oh, you did all this to me as a kid and it really hurt me.” They think they were doing what is right, and as a kid I thought it was right and normal. I can’t afford therapy, but videos like this help and hopefully one day I can get proper help.

[@mirandaemery8566]

J’adore cette psychologue; madame, votre intellect est une merveille! she is Beautiful to every extend💫

[@rachellescott4451]

Finally somebody gets it!

[@chesterkendra5224]

And now I feel inadequate for not "fixing" myself.

[@bkm2797]

Fixing yourself is a life long process, and as a spiritual being having a human experience, it's important to be gentle but determined to become the best human you can be, life is one big school.

[@rosemaryclarke2348]

You're not, it takes a lot of time; just be kind to you. You're body may give you some hints. It was only when my mum died that I found that the 'family' foods we had I really didn't like, but it was 'family' and that's what everything was for. Be prepared for some big surprises.🥰

[@dinahnicest6525]

No two siblings have the same parents.

[@jonathanlindsey7623]

I was molested when I was 5 and unfortunately my pregnant, hormonal mother let him stay and then years later I can't deny that I wasn't threatened into allowing it to become a consensual, statutory type of situation and then years later my mother got breast cancer. I can't see where that isn't why.

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

2:00 I have all of them 😕

[@GSR-oh3ng]

Am I trippin or did your eyes turn green during the end of video? I found this vid very informing also!

[@ayakizleriTR]

What is the name of the doctor speaking?

[@vksomji]

Yes Being the Rainbow Child to my Parents, though I am the Third Child, I do experience Anxiety, Pressure on my Nervous System. I am a third Subsequent Rainbow Child, because my Mother had experienced Miscarriage during her First Pregnancy. A baby born subsequent to a miscarriage, stillbirth, or the death of an infant from natural causes is a Rainbow Child. Rainbow pregnancies are often emotionally complex and involve feelings of grief and guilt along with relief, excitement, and elation. So when there are Stressful Moments, Stress due to Financial Insecurity, I can sense the Vibes of "Hatred" by the Family and Outsiders. These Negative Vibes triggers Anxiety, which makes me Nervous followed by the Tourette TICS. I was Diagnosed with Psychosis and Psychotic Depression in the year 2012, so due to Medication I experience Substance Induced Mental Disorders as on Present Date. I experience more of Palalia and sometimes Corpolalia, as in, My Unconscious, Subconscious Mind bubbles out my ACE(Adverse Childhood Experiences), Abusive Phrases, Words at the Surface of my Concious Mind, these Phrases are the one that are registered Deep down in my Mind since my Childhood and may be since my Inception in my Mother's Womb. So Parent Child Relationship can be Traumatic, especially if you are a Rainbow Baby or Rainbow Parents. I commented at 08:28 hrs ⏳ of Monday the 14th November 2022.

[@po.po.poquito]

This is just me.. but I lost my middle child (first daughter) during birth in 2009, and I had my last child (third, another daughter) in 2013. I hate the term rainbow baby, like my youngest is supposed to be the pot of gold or rainbow after a storm. I had a child, she died. I had another child, she lived, and I still miss my daughter who is gone. I think the whole concept puts unnecessary and I’m sure unintended pressure upon these kid’s existence.

[@vksomji]

@@po.po.poquito Yes even I don't like the Term Rainbow Child because there is different aspects for this Term "Rainbow Baby", but there was no other Better Term to Express my Mental Condition due to Parent Child Relationship.

[@TheEdoardoCC]

Wow Kyle never looked better ❤

[@ajamanaid]

Last sentence... "Do something about the negative thinking pattern" - Is there a video offering some insight into that "something"?

[@user-mm1qx3rq2m]

Just be aware of your negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones !!!

[@ajamanaid]

@@user-mm1qx3rq2m Thank you

[@reayn111]

Is there Anyone Not traumatized By their parents? Is That Even possible? Whereever i See i See the Signs and the Personal disorders and where it is coming from…

[@suekelsey1329]

How to deal with people messing with my mind on purpose knowing what they are doing? I am very mentally disabled and the people in my life enjoy upsetting me to the point that I yell very loudly - F*** Y***! Why? How to cope? My sister says that only GOD can take my life. That is what I hold onto, I am still alive.

[@jomusicv]

When you say mentally disabled, do you mean with a disorder that you can't live on your own? Are you old enough and in a situation where you can move to a group home? Or do you mean mentally disabled in that you can care for yourself but the abuse you live with has stifled you? If you are feeling as desperate to end your life as it sounds, get to an emergency room and tell them. Tell them of the abuse you live with and see if you qualify for outpatient services or other living situations. Please, get professional help. You are in an abusive situation. What you are describing is the invisible/covert abuse mentioned and it is so horrible. A friend called the police and me put under mental health arrest once. That's where they take you to the hospital to assess your mental health and you can't say no. I was terrified my parents would be mad at me. But, my parents got (a little) better. Please, get to a hospital and tell them what you said about only God can take your life keeping you holding on. And be honest with them if that isn't enough

[@suekelsey1329]

@@jomusicv I live in Alaska. I will NOT go to those people who want me to take pills that kill me. I need NO pill. I need a person who has the time to be there for me at least three times a week. My living situation is better than ever my life has been. I am more safe than I was with my parents or anyone else before I came back to this town and am living with a man who has always been my best friend. The rest of the town is a true challenge. The doctors are marginal. Therapy is by phone. My therapist is in a smaller town only can get to by boat or plane, and I have panic attacks when I fly. I am not easy to pigeon hole. Doctors put me in third stage kidney failure for thirty years. I Do NOT trust doctors and/or psychiatric doctors. And figuring my stuff online is not working well, but better than the people who tell me that medicine will not help, then try to feed me double doses. Of medicines that say I will probably die of suicide if I take it. All those meds have caused a lot of medical issues that would not have otherwise happened. My family already have inherited medical issues so... The true challenge is finding my way to a place where I can call home. Starting with my mind. I am getting there. God does provide🙂🦋🕊

[@sun_buddy]

@@suekelsey1329 love your testimony

[@suekelsey1329]

@@sun_buddy Thank you🙂

[@jomusicv]

@@suekelsey1329 or sounds like I misunderstood your situation as living home with toxic parents. If it’s working for you, then I don't know how else to deal with them other than to go no contact. The point of the video is that they just want to be right. I'm glad you have found what works for you.

[@khannablithecortes8895]

She kinda looks like Dr. Victoria Belo here in the Philippines.

[@smw2234]

Been beaten black and blue mental warfare all the way up to 18

[@Uvvibes]

It not feeling safe in your own home from the very people that were supposed to make you feel safe

[@LightintheDark2056]

👍❤️

[@roeebaer]

I wonder, have the claims raised here, which seem very reasonable, been scientifically verified?

[@gregwindell7702]

BE STRONG ENOUGH TO BE HONEST AND KIND PEACE BE WITH YOU