3 Ways Men Test Women (How to win him over!)

[@rebeccayoung6344]

My sister once told me “I understand why you believe everything people tell you. You are honest therefore you think everyone else is also honest.”

[@marygreety8696]

Absolutely true

[@sealife22]

That's so sweet. U are a speCial girl be beautiful Rebecca

[@gifttube7451]

True it’s a fact

[@shammamehjabin2878]

Ryt

[@Rabia_Burak]

stay like this such people are rare, hope you find good hearted and honest people like you in life

[@lkatz638]

I love how this video isn’t teaching women to give men what they want, but instead to find value in themselves and realize what they deserve.

[@jasonsilveryt]

Thanks for commenting L. My heart is literally tingling right now after reading this.

[@seandavid186]

@@jasonsilveryt I'd get that checked out

[@lironben-tora5979]

This is the best explanation for this video no kidding

[@thebest-yt5px]

This guy is awesome

[@cryora]

Yet it won't help you win any man over.

[@gymnast2890]

If a man is sarcastically putting you down.....LEAVE!

[@dorissanggau4292]

True

[@ShiraGoldberg]

Wish I would have listened to myself in this regard.

[@finabond8926]

Very true

[@nativefoodcollections4806]

I did, immediately 😊

[@jennifers.1081]

🙌

[@erindoherty6592]

After 20 years of marriage I am finally realizing things I have allowed that caused me to be treated poorly and am divorcing. Finally standing up for what I deserve and moving on with lessons learned, great video.

[@rs5570]

Good strong woman. I respect & admire you. Not married but am accepting too much neglect. Love & blessings to you. 🇺🇸♥️

[@melanierose5825]

Me too, sending you lots of love. 😘♥️😘

[@ybennett851]

Met my husband 2002 got engaged 2003 married 2006. He never changes, kind attentive loving .. i pray 🙏 to be forever with him.

[@3arhodes]

GOD bless you. I can't wait to find my kingdom man.

[@nancyfancy1956]

They always change on me.

[@ann-mariekanu9386]

Amen

[@bestillmysoul5357]

Why are you here? Hhhh

[@salmasoso2055]

I was born in 2002

[@rhey25]

Why can't people be more honest, life is too short to play around with other people's feelings, why can't we all just be true to ourselves?

[@margaritam.9118]

Bluekiss 2525 Why would they? If men can get easy sex, they will lie their asses off to get it. “We will see where it goes and may even date in future” is a 21st century equivalent of 19th century “I will marry you afterwards, don’t worry” phrase to get a girl spread her legs.

[@chewipacacaka9731]

life is too short to deal with long commitment, sum peeps just want to see and feel everyone I guess

[@farfetched9296]

Too much like right...

[@hannahscott6604]

Testing people is a behavior only children need to engage in

[@rebeccajones8628]

I will tell you why. I have a really "liberal" friend. She sleeps with a lot of guys. Good for her. HOWEVER, when a guy I know said he wanted a fuck buddy I immediately thought of her. When I introduced the idea, she was SO insulted. Men know this. That is why they all pertend to want a wholesome relationship when in fact all they want is sex. I think they should directly head for TINDER.

[@Kajp-se9eq]

I'm 39 super single for years I miss having a bf but I rather be single than settle for less than I deserve.

[@diptipatil1055]

If u r interested for having bf or husband then I will help u in this

[@Kajp-se9eq]

@@diptipatil1055 Haha how?

[@ildikoedit9110]

You are already a winner since you have principles! :)

[@silatikalaluka3847]

WORD fam !

[@knowledgehub504]

Totaĺy agreed

[@SuraDoes]

These tests not only apply in dating men. They apply in life. Do not let anyone ever mistreat you because they will do it again and again. Always call out this behavior and let people know you do not stand to be taken advantage of.

[@Mel.U]

❤

[@KingAdamPaul2025]

​@@Mel.Ugreat advice but a whole marriage of constantly fending off or reminding them when they're crossing that line.

[@Christian_Girl120]

If a man drops you for not sleeping with him early on let him. I've been down this road. This type of man is trash. Thank you for reminding me of these things!

[@shastradharma3517]

Lol you are pathetic

[@stylishemerald3181]

@@shastradharma3517 That person's right tho

[@rachaelnelson8029]

AMEN to That :) ... I had a guy do this to me when I was in my early twenties because I wouldn't move in and sleep with him!!! Well after that he just dumped me and wouldn't talk to me ever again ... So in-return I just ended up loosing contact with him!!! But you know what I don't care now because if the only reason he wanted to be with me was so that he could live and sleep with me, then I just said: "Forget It," because I deserve way better then that and want a man who wants Me for Me ... And not so that he can just live and sleep with me!!!

[@harrietnewbridge4599]

Alfwud stupid.

[@imagin.e.ternity]

Lol tru. X'D

[@carlinedouglas8302]

My fiance treats me like I'm the only girl in the world, he listens when I speak, we share happenings in our day, he talks to me, he is so in touch with his emotions

[@carlinedouglas8302]

@kenthoi angom thanks, you know what he said to me when I say he makes me feel like the only girl in this world, he says no you are not but you are the only girl I see.

[@blakspyder]

Where did you find him? 😞

[@carlinedouglas8302]

blackspyder... He found me, I live in Jamaica

[@sabrinab3337]

Dude yay! That’s amazing Lol my man reminds me how lovely and bang-able some other women are and I don’t favor those really.

[@tana5098]

You are quite lucky to have found this type of guy. I'm 55 and still waiting for my soul mate. Now, it's in God's hands, not myself.

[@Dr.priya.kumari]

True ..the one who truely likes u is always patient and mostly shy .

[@joyceedwards3336]

Exactly! That’s my man

[@triciahusbands900]

Seems as though I have a keeper

[@mariahconklin4150]

🤔 I keep hearing that it’s so weird and if you’re Christian it’s way different. I heard from God, “just go slow” but maybe that was a thought from my own mind idk. But me and him both text slow. I text back slow because he does to. I let him lead but a lot of the times I am really busy and have to travel to work pretty far so I’m exhausted. I’m so used to super needy guys to so I want something different.

[@princesstayag3680]

When a man disrespects you and talking flirtatious things from the first time, dude, have respect to yourself to go away, that's not love. He want just your body not you as a whole. A relationship with only lust without love, will just be temporary. An eternal love needs passion and compassion in good way.

[@lfritz1316]

Scientific studies found that men are not capable of eternal love, attraction will fade. Eternal love is an invention by storytales and Disney!

[@dutchessandkay2280]

@@lfritz1316 No one is capable of eternal love alone tbh because we are all sinners. People are just inherently bad. Disney doesn't know love at all either actually. Disney really twists it up. Love is meant to be unconditional but it can't be produced by people alone.

[@donnareed6559]

@@dutchessandkay2280 So true!!!!

[@sonofhibbs4425]

@@donnareed6559 ditto!

[@britt1953]

Yes 🤦‍♀️ jeez I’ve made the mistake too many times of falling hard for someone who was super flirtatious and touchy with me from the very beginning. I imagine that it’s difficult for extremely attractive women to date

[@martianwalker31]

Totally agree... Don't lower your standards ladies!

[@jasonsilveryt]

Yes!

[@suilenbryant9605]

Right

[@coredadventure1]

Łazik Marsjanski never have and always been single lol

[@martianwalker31]

@@coredadventure1 haha better that way than ending up with the wrong person.

[@veganway5481]

Is not about lowering our standards , is about knowing the man we are dating to see if they are sexually compatible with us .this is and old fashion way of thinking . Women should embrace sexuality!

[@norarivas777]

I'm 43 my issue is trusting my whole life I've been cheated on by men I've truly loved. I've been through trauma as a child. Now I have a fiance that treats me like a 👸. It feels good.

[@rosemaryryan9394]

I hope I find that

[@prophectresssvetlanahall5267]

Awesome 👍

[@sealife22]

But do you love him more than the ones u used to

[@marymdavis3189]

@@avawilliams5278 WHY if you don't trust someone, or are jealous enough to even WANT to do that, you have a toxic relationship. BUT ASK YOURSELF WHO MADE IT THAT WAY, AND GET COUNSELING. Are you reacting to your old baggage? If not, and there are REAL red flags, don't break the law, ask point blank or get a private investigator if you have money to burn, but just those acts, will have already have DESTROYED that relationship, and unless you deal with WHY you would go that far, you may self destruction every future relationship, because you aren't willing to try to trust!

[@joyce622yiu5]

@@rosemaryryan9394 you will

[@cherylupton7279]

The biggest turn off is when a guy pushes and pushes to initiate some kind of sexual activity after you have very kindly set the boundaries! Especially when it happens as early on as in a online relationship starting and you haven't even met him personally yet. After a while you can actually get pretty angry and frustrated, almost irate. It's very nice to see a video with a gentleman who reaffirms that thats the right and proper thing to do, thats how real MEN act! Thank you.

[@lfritz1316]

Please understand: For men it is so easy to be attracted. Often they become very focused on a woman but he doesnt know that this makes him less desirable. An experienced casanova will always hide his attraction.

[@cherylupton7279]

@@lfritz1316 well they don't need to hide it completely. Just be respectful and build a friendship before jumping. If it's a descent girl/guy who's worth being with the relationship will naturally take time. But that's just me. To each their own... Just depends on what you want at the time, but you also cant assume that everyone is in the same place or wanting the experience or relationship... ☺

[@africkinamerican]

That's how men feel when women push for either financial generosity or commitment too soon. And, women can get pushy sexually too...

[@cecehartley8532]

So true! This has happened to me many times and I have since drew the line. I love me and I know my worth! Sexual comments early on is a humongous turnoff for me. Good luck in your future relationships! BTW..your first name is my name too ❤

[@mariahconklin4150]

Time to say goodbye when they do this it’s sad.

[@cd9260]

I have been following the principles of not allowing anyone cross my boundaries, in every aspect of life. It is a bit lonely on this side, yet your life feels so complete at the same time. The funny thing is, I haven't met a man who did not try to cross my boundaries in a while; and my first reaction: Boy, bye! Thank you for this lovely video, raising awareness that men with values still exist.

[@spi5929]

So true 🙏

[@jaymariepomales5113]

My brother used to use sarcasm to tear into me. I would tell him to stop, but my mom would tell me that it's funny and that I'm being too sensitive. He got progressively worse, and now that he's married, I swear to God he's treats his wife like trash.

[@marykissel9273]

He's a big jerk

[@donnareed6559]

It’s a shame your mom trained him to do it, by laughing and condoning it (by telling you, that you are too sensitive)... it is wrong to do to anyone!

[@wonderland5425]

Same happend in my childhood. I never understood why a mother doesn't correct this behavior. A view years later I had to listen to one of his girlfriend, suffering, crying exactly due to that 😤

[@HandiworksbyClyne]

Oh no..

[@krunkyk2294]

I've once heard that sarcasm is really socially acceptable anger . . .

[@valentinaruseva8727]

A high quality man would not make you feel uncomfortable in the first place, especially early in the relationship.

[@PinkLaptop]

Yes he will not disrespect you with early sexual questions or actions

[@cosmictruth3600]

the same goes for high-quality women too

[@ashlynwanderer]

well, he might, but he should be alarmed upon realizing he did so. any good human would be.

[@Jivi_Galaxy]

😭😭I don't know what to do please help me. Few months ago ex cheated on me. He ghosted me. I met this guy on instagram. I like him. He liked me too. I asked him what he wants. He said I'm looking for relationship not Friend zone. I didn't wanted to loss him..so I said yes for relationship even though I still was struggling. Trust issues, intamacy issue, relationship issues.........he keep on asking for nudes,nude video call. I said no. He said I don't like hearing no. I told you before relationship. I'm nasty guy. I'm in that mood 24/7. You should have known it. (I had told him I have trust issues and I fear men...I don't dislike them) you need to keep me happy....then one evening I had mental breakdown.(I suffer from depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts,self harm, extreme mood swings) I said to him. Listen I'm not normal. We can't date. Let's break up. I can't take it anymore. I'm ubnormal. He said I don't just wanted your body. I like you. I won't force you. We will take it slow. I like you genuinely......but still even after saying no . He still ask for it. I don't know what he wants........he asked for my nudes with face......yes I'm stupid....I send him.......I'm stuck here....I have no other way....I wish he understands me and my feelings......I'm ready to give him whatever he wants....all I want is patience, understanding,time,love,care,alot of talk, emotional bond,....right now I'm not looking for sex....I like sex but first I want to build trust.

[@Jivi_Galaxy]

Please help 😭😭I don't know what to do. We fight twice. Once time I asked him do he wants to give up?? He said no. He said I'm not here for just sex. I genuinely like you....😭😭 please....I don't want him to leave......I'm going through alot of things family,health,school, relationship, identity issues....feel like no one wants Real me .they just want a fake normal person.

[@SwarnimaChowdhury2607]

I love it when he says "That is someone you want to run away from." 😂 Right on point! No more second thoughts or wasting any more time. 👍

[@IM-uh5tk]

1. The attraction or sexual test (2:08) 2. The sarcasm test (6:46) 3. The consideration test (8:42)

[@annabanzon313]

Really the sexual test, funny because I should have failed all of those tests but nope I just keep having to take those over and over. I guess my huge fail is not convincing enough 🙃 lol

[@donnakarakatsani3931]

Thanks

[@Benita-uw9zq]

Thank you

[@sunny3264]

I'm a grandmother, and stumbled onto your video. This is excellent advice, teaching young women to respect themselves. You present the facts well, so thank you for putting out this informative video.

[@jasonsilveryt]

You're so welcome! Thanks for the kind comment.

[@cadencechrome4783]

I am a mature woman and this advice has no age!

[@yuppers1]

Grandma-approved!

[@debstrout]

My guy and I are 4 hrs apart. We consensually became intimate after a couple of months. Now we've not been able to see each other for 3 wks. I'm feeling maybe I was intimate before I was ready. How can I take a step back and put the brakes on without harming things?

[@cydneymulally5337]

I feel like most men talking about dating on KZbin are kind of douchy....... but this guy is actually really cool, respectful, has good advise, and DOESNT seem like he’s a dick head when the camera stops rolling. I raise my glass to you sir 🍷

[@wilsonenyi4368]

Story.

[@paulcolin9071]

Only toxic men would put a woman through this shit.. A woman will sleep with you quickly if she's actually interested no need to play any games with her

[@JudyWYWong]

Came across this video right after I decided to stick to a standard and called it off with a man that was just too busy to be consistent and too busy to ask me out or show up for dates. It turned into a text buddy thing. 4 months, 4 dates and no progress. I simply decided to walk and this video reminded me it's OK, and it doesn't matter of he is testing me. I passed my own test of dignity.

[@Mel.U]

❤

[@gloriascorner]

Never realized until after my last relationship that sarcasm can lead to so many bad feelings... or that you can’t make someone think about you more! It’s up to them To realize your worth, you just gotta know your own and keep doing your thing. thankful for perspective from learned mistakes and for this video!

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Gloria Wood,You deserve a good man!

[@qudsiafaiz]

Respect ✨ is something that is very important in a relationship.

[@qudsiafaiz]

@Kese Ho Yarr absolutely right 👍

[@qudsiafaiz]

@Kese Ho Yarr Yes you are right 👍 i got your point you haven't your own school of thought about love. it's good.

[@ponyhaly6131]

I learned it a hard way, “we teach people how to treat us”. I thought it was “treat others the way you want to be treated. In any type of relationships, setting boundaries and reinforce it are very important. Thanks for the video♥️

[@nickieglazer33]

Pony Haly Just starting to learn that right now.... I’m 47 🤦🏼‍♀️🤣 Great comment, thanx 🙏🏻

[@anditsreyna020]

I live by the first phrase

[@hermela4279]

true

[@annkleinman3244]

Just like we should put boundaries on ourselves and how we treat ourselves, from boundries of addictions (say no!) How we self talk, (dont allow yourself to demean ourselves (just like you wouldn't allow a man. We need to practice boundaries on ourselves first and get good at it, then we'll be better ready for someone outside ourselves.

[@constancejenkins3867]

I thought that as well, ..and it's very true BUUUTTTT.. If the thought process is NOT the same as yours LEAVE.!!!

[@susanfromsanantonio3873]

I have known my whole life that I am a high quality lady and I haven't ever compromised my personal standards with a man and it has worked for me.

[@FLdancer00]

Want a cookie?

[@cosmictruth3600]

there is a thin line between being delusional and being confident .. you seem to be striking the chord with the former

[@tjaspire]

That's what's up Susan! It sounds like the people on this thread are a little bit bitter because of the mistakes they made, but you don't have to keep making them. God's way is the best way! To not get your heart broken.

[@irinaivanovic9792]

@@cosmictruth3600 Wrong. You are one of the types of men women should avoid at all cost. Your comments are insulting, degrading, and show how you want to peg women down and ruin her self esteem so that she lowers her standards down to your pathetic level. This is what a lot of so called men like you do on KZbin, which is so pathetic. You deserve no respect or quality women behaving that way.

[@Danielle-kc6el]

The sarcasm aspect can work in any type of relationship, not just romantic. My bfs brother says sarcastic mean things to me and his brother all the time and he thinks it’s funny. I absolutely hate sarcastic people in the form that bullies and puts another person down. I would never date someone like that, it’s a huge turn off. Thanks for the empowering and enlightening video. It makes me feel not so alone all the times I’ve dealt with that. Even guys I met online for just friends would try to turn things into more and cross that boundary. And even when you tell them they still don’t stop. I just don’t know why people pretend to be something they are not in the beginning. Eventually the truth will come out and they can’t keep up the act forever. So frustrating

[@ab7079]

I dated a guy who was so nice at the beginning. But the closer we became, the more sarcastic he got. One day he made fun of my country and culture, I was so shocked and disappointed in him and quickly ran away from him. Come to think of it now, he was really insecure and jealous of me.

[@jennyispoop4]

Same so weird when they are jealous of you

[@lauradallavecchia6475]

Probably narcissist

[@breesan4446]

@@jennyispoop4 Sounds like a narcissist

[@mariajmc6557]

You escaped a narcissist Praise God 🎉

[@ranjitadutta3854]

Im talking to a guy. He is from same language n culture n country. Bt he is from rural n im in urban. N sometimes i feel as if he is jealous of me being in urban city. If i wud hv been in his shoes i wud hv been more happier coz he is with his family n working as he wants.

[@NairobiPerry78]

I love it when men call themselves “testing” me. They lose that game every time!! I am the definition of the Devine feminine with a masculine mindset. I’m always ahead of the game because I have deep empathy and understanding. It helps that I have a lot of confidence in myself. Age really does make you better!! With all the knowledge I have now, life is more fun!

[@dianagyimah3607]

Yh sure

[@maryellaperry8882]

Another smart Perry girl!

[@babygoldy1450]

Share some knowledge with us also

[@masterdevoe2519]

It's not a game, they're just looking for basic qualities without which a relationship can't function.

[@tianaacolatse1276]

@@masterdevoe2519 and how do you redeem a public embarrassment you caused your partner in the name of testing? Are there no better ways if your intention is pure? certain things are expected of toxic pple! c'est tout!!.

[@wandei7275]

Jason, The way Fathers treat their daughters in childhood and adulthood also sets the tones and foundation for how those daughters allow men to treat them in their lifetime. My father usually said things to me that were not very nice when I was younger, and I ended up with a Narcissist Abuser for 10 years. Thank God for saving me because the abusive relationship ended. I'm very thankful for mentors like you because you helped me rewrite my history and redefine my relationship with men. Now, I've relearned how to be treated well with courtesy and respect. I'm happy to say that now I command the attention and respect of ONLY High Quality Men.

[@angeleahlebrie5170]

Your comment reminds me of the info in R C Blakes jr, " Father Daughter Talks." His videos are great also.

[@rebeccajones8628]

You are so right. Our childhood traumas affect our partner choices.

[@monicanath4859]

Well said! I totally agree with you here. Fathers can potentially destroy daughters.

[@tinalmarmorstein2539]

Well said.. stay strong I'm very happy

[@tana5098]

I just broke up with a narcissist after 8 years together. How did you heal the pain? I have father issues too, which i'm sure, led to dating a toxic guy. Thought I had dealt with it, but obviously it led me down a wrong path. What advice would you give me that has worked for you in healing the feelings of self worth and self esteem issues?

[@MrStoqn4o]

My mental ex send me this saying I've been doing it all wrong . Very happy that subconsciously I've got rid of a toxic individual

[@lovelyangel6768]

I've been here and I got my lessons.. So all I have to do is move on and continues living and may the Lord of God will keep me from useless people.

[@fatimabouziani4776]

True

[@wanyamuthimookariuki2012]

God is faithful...will have the very best in life for the good spirt you have,,baby girl stay humble..ive loved you simple nice response.

[@fatimauzair2646]

Good, I met my ex-on a matrimonial website and we vibe and started off very good . He has been very caring and considerate of what I think and what are my expectations.. but even before meeting him cause we live in different cities in Australia.. he lives in Melbourne im in Adelaide and we got some border restrictions for the past few months.. we we were unable to meet for 3 months in the begaining of our relationship.. he would text me daily and call me he said he likes to listen to me, but he slowly started asking physical stuff what I know what I dont.. he would bring up the conversation sometimes.. but he said he is not looking for physical intimacy but looking for honest wife.. in May, we had our Eid festival.. and he asked me why would I want as a gift from him.. I didn't say a word and said I don't need any .. I asked him the same question.. and he showed interest in watches and then all of a sudden he wanted an Apple watch from me as a gift.. I bought that as a present for him.. I flew and went to meet him.. cause if was to come to ADELAIDE he had to isolate for 14 days and his work will get affected.. so I went to meet him , we stayed in a hotel room but thank Godness we didn't do anything. He wanted that but I refused.. and he was fine with that he said he will not force or push me for it until im comfortable with him.. next day he dropped me at the airport..everything was very nice and dreamy.. I came back home and he asked for financial assistance from me.. $2000 .. he said he would return me before my next trimester fee is due.. He then liked an overall coat and wished for it.i had to buy that for him cause he would just indirectly points how how great the coat is.. In August on our 2nd eid festival he sent me a perfume gift pack worth $119. Later on ,he stated saying and whinning about his birthday that's 2 months away. He said he would ask for gift . And I was like alright.. for 8 months we were in a relationship..he said he would talk to his parents but if they don't agree we would not go against them. On my side my family knows my brother knows that I am interested in a guy and we to daily.. he would say he missed me.. he said he is waiting for border to open and he would come meet me.. I waited patiently.. I had asked him if his friends know about me if his family knows about me .. he said no not at this stage.. I sent him a birthday cake and gift on his birthday, an Airpods Pro .. he wished for.. he told me everything about his parents and his family and friends and his job where he works and everything.. his relationship with his family and his friends.. all .. but after a week from his birthday.. he blocked me from everything his fb, his contact no his What'sApp.. everything..! I was thinking the whole time what I did wrong i have been waiting that he will tell his patrons by the end of December.. he was the kind of guy who would correct me in my English grammar mistakes.. he is a professional lawyer.. I cried alot! I left him so many msgs , voice mails and called 100 times but he never responded. After 8 days he unblocked me and texted that he is sorry for what he did and he had no choice and wished me luck.. he said not to ask reason why he acted this way.. I asked him my money back he never responded.. my brother tried Calling him and told him you flirted with my sister and return her money back.. he cut my brother's call. And call me back asking why I told him about our relationship and he told me he got engaged with some other girl of his family choice and asked me not to contact again and said would return my money and apologised that he couldn't do anything!!.. he hurt me in every possible sense.. I never got my money back and I'm still blocked.. all this time I blamed myself that may be I did something and I upset him. I always try to keep him happy. I was honest and loyal and loved him genuinely. He told me twice he don't wanna loose me, he said his decision for me was right and he wanted me as a life partner.. I wont be able to trust anyone.. I felt used i cry to bed every night thinking how can a person do something like this.. it will take hell of time to heal I know.. but I just don't understand that was it all fake planned ? He actually got engaged or was that a lie.??

[@benfine2328]

Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks

[@EfeAikpokhio]

😂😂 sweetie

[@dutyforce233]

Oh dear! I really needed to be reminded of all those things. Thank you. I've clearly let the guys I've been in relationships with, treat me like shit, but in their subtle narcissistic undermining way. And when I finally realize & accept what's going on, have I left them? No. Stupid me. I'm in yet another waste of time relationship, not being respected. I care too much, give to much & accept too much for my good. I need to respect myself more & not let myself be treated as a convenience. Alas, old habits of being mentally abused & thereby losing self esteem & confidence, die hard. I'm grateful to watch your videos to remind me of what I need to look out for.

[@karlascott3569]

kazrikt i understand you. I was in a very mentally abusive narcissistic relationship. I finally divorced him. Met someone new who seemed perfect but is leading me down the wrong path again. My head says run. I've learned to love myself. But my heart wants to feel love. It is a codependent nature to want to be with someone even if it means being in an abusive relationship. I'm in the process of being discarded. Sucks. But i wouldn't leave on my own. I still have work to do on me obviously. I wish you the very best.

[@dutyforce233]

@@karlascott3569 Thanks for your reply. I'm sad the same is happening to you but also it's good to know you're not the only one caught up in abusive love relationships. There are millions of us & I think the numbers are growing constantly as more & more people have become so selfish, self absorbed, narcissistic & also more immoral. It's definitely a sign of the times we now live in. I once would have said that generally most people are good, kind & willing to help others, but not now. People have become the opposite. I'm not stating this from my own personal relationship experiences but more from living life over the years, watching people, friends, other's families, society in general & people have just morally declined en masse. It's really hard to find a decent guy, let alone be in a good loving, kind, accepting & respectful relationship! I'm 60 now & keep one eye open & my mind open to possibilities because I still believe in love. Maybe I'm just brain washed into that forever & ever thing, but when I love someone I accept them for who they are, flaws & all. None of us are perfect. Until in the end, I'm worn out from their verbal mental, undeserved abuse, be it months, a year or even 18 yrs as per my ex husband 7 years ago. My current relationship is also no good. Sometimes I think this is it, not a second more, leave, don't ever communicate again. Then after a week I'm thinking of some of his good but rare qualities that I admire & of the times spent together when everything is ok. Then I decide to stay with the "devil I know". Haha. Sad isn't it. I can enjoy my own company but I do prefer & want to share my life with another. After all isn't that how we were made to be? But I'm still looking.....

[@lisamartin3346]

kazrikt I feel your pain, kazrikt.

[@apoloniaayala6118]

kazrikt I’ve been through abuse myself. And when u go through it for years you feel that’s a mans way of showing u they love u. I had to step back and really wake up !!! There is NO MAN worth a Valuable woman such as yourself if he treats u in that manner! Don’t waist your time or your life on low life immature men that have to use physical harm just to prove there weak or that they can destroy you mentally !! Your A Valuable Person within-side yourself your beautiful, smart, and you have the Strength to Know When to Say you have had enough and Deserve The Best!! Once you except that and not lower yourself to such punks . You will see the world in a whole different way! And please please ask yourself what is it that has attracted u to the guy u dated or had a relationship. Once u know the answer then avoid the guys with that same attraction. Because usually when women are attracted to a guy in a certain way that attraction isn’t always a good thing. So Hold your head up high, walk with dignity and be proud of who You are. Your a Special Person! Never forget that...

[@dutyforce233]

@@apoloniaayala6118 Thank you for your kind & true words. I appreciate that you took the time to read what I'd written. I do know now that what these particular men do is wrong & abusive & that it's a big power trip to them. However I also know that not all men act like this. I've heard of some lovely men, who'd do anything to protect & respect their woman. I've even met one or two myself, but was not attracted to them, just friends only. The rope I hang by is very short now, & I'm about to cut it soon. I've really had enough. I'm just working my brain up to it, telling it that I don't need this stupid half hearted relationship, if it can even be called that. I'm a good, strong, caring person & it's overdue time to look after me & be kind to myself. Don't worry, the end is close & I'm working on making big changes to my life. All the very best to you for your future, with love & peace. xoxo

[@yourfunsister]

Omg so many women equate sex and physical attraction to attention and love. I wish every woman could see this video. I preach these ideals to my online women’s group all the time and in full disclosure, some of it I was guilty of in my youth. I’m def going to share this. Really good stuff.

[@visigoda]

Yup. And likewise, it is asinine the amount of *MEN* who expect women to use sex as a bargaining chip during courtship. Meaning: if women give up sex _too soon,_ she's deemed "easy", and thus... _a whore._ But if she makes him wait _too much,_ then she's either a tease, she's _playing hard to get,_ or she's just _uptight._ At times, women can't win. The best thing women can do is: either just go with the flow (either do it _right away_ ), or just don't do it at all.

[@sherryj738]

I frickin hate the sexual test. I walk away from the sexual test. I don't care if he thinks I'm a prude. He has to like me, my feelings, my personality, my emotions, the way I care for someone. Not superficial. Cant do superficial. I will not be used. I find it very difficult to find a man who will take the time that I need and at my speed. If not, then they are not worthy of me in anyway whatsoever

[@nm9412]

Exactly I’m very strict with the that too.

[@gracecaneda8924]

i wish i had known and watched this kind of video 20 years ago, its very helpful in realizing womens worth.

[@smrk2452]

I wish we had the internet when I was young. I would have really benefited from the information and support.

[@vivavidadela]

Same here. Could have saved myself a marriage with a narcissist😏

[@anurse2b]

Ditto 💓

[@kishteee2440]

Awesome video! My ex boyfriend dumped me via texted and tried to bait me into an argument. I never replied and that was 3 days ago. It hurts but I value myself too much to let him treat me any kind of way !!! Thanks a lot for the advice

[@katywright5147]

You're better than that! Good for you!

[@hotmessmissy]

I feel you. My husband broke up w me via text when i had to leave the country when i went to visit my mum for a few months. He gave me a lame ezcuse that it was my fault for leaving. Wtf i was coming back i just had to check on my mums health. But nooo he cheated on me with a masseus and even brought her to our hpuse on christmas. Husband or boyfriend this is unacceptable. Some people have no morals. I thought i knew him well. Pppffftttt karma will get him. I cant waste time. But hes left me in financial difficulty.

[@raquelcastillo8322]

Omg! My ex did the same thing. He broke up with me through a text message said it was God telling him to and that he fell out of romantic feelings for me while I was out of state! That was almost a year ago and I've been single ever since because I'm finding who I am again. We'd been together for 11 months when he broke it off

[@raquelcastillo8322]

I'm sorry it happened to you. You're right tho you do DESERVE way better

[@candysmith8724]

The "text" break up is the most immature, cowardly thing ever! Shows how immature people can be. If he does this to you...he's a boy, not a man.

[@Angela-sp7sd]

What a sad, Sad, SAD society we live in today.

[@arysusanti6711]

After Instagram being made, all this issue become so cruel

[@karishort7561]

Isn't that the sad truth!

[@mistressmars3200]

Its always been this way....not just today's society!

[@MissSarcasmoFA]

I agree, everything is a test and a game, you can't be yourself, you have to pass every single proof people put in your way in order to have a meaningful relationship, it's stupid and shitty.

[@ftworthxxx]

@@MissSarcasmoFA Like you don't do it

[@mht5875]

I remember when my dear late mother would tell me how Dad had to earn her love before even trying to propose to her. Like the old proverb goes, "It is easier for a man to earn an honest day's pay than to earn a woman's love."

[@luckysol7486]

QUALITY MEN GO SLOW.

Sure, go slow until I'm gone. Life waits for no one. How long should a reasonable amount of time be?? I'd rather a person tell me they're afraid of something rather than waste my time ❤

[@ak-47intelligence75]

BOOM!

[@paulabryan882]

I disagree. My guy has taken it so slow that after 4 months I still haven’t been to his pad and when I asked to see him twice a week he’s now run for the hills

[@ak-47intelligence75]

@@paulabryan882 I see what you mean but the ones that move fast are narcissists too. Both extremes actually signal they're narcissists. The ones that move too slow, like yours, probably have other back up supplies. The ones that move too fast, like narcissistic ex, was looking to secure supply for abuse. Both dont yield results. We just have to wait for what is REAL. Dating on extremes are unhealthy.

[@blueberrycupcake6999]

@@paulabryan882 hes not quality then, putting sex first not u

[@sikareeins85]

I have listened too many dating sites and etc ,but this man teaches to value your dignity over falling a man ...Have a safe life too

[@fiid2185]

After listening to this, I realise I have failed miserably and really need to look at myself. Thank you for th insight

[@monienjeri3042]

Me here too

[@SunshineSuperstar]

GREAT attitude...you'll do fine!

[@ifyekeneme7517]

Sense!...when he seeks you out just for intimate moments,more than likely,you are being used.

[@fiona1407]

This video really helped me to see that I wasn't being too much or mean for no reason. As he kept saying he's a good guy but his action didn't measure up.

[@lizzyfunnybunny9020]

All of these 3 are completely my standards now I no longer feel dependent on a man. Lonely at times? Yes sometimes. Wishful? I admit I do wish for a soulmate one who will love me and be kind company to have fun with. Anything less? Never. Anything less is--- less. Meaning-less. Pointless. 😎

[@lexiemaep7930]

Look up Eckhart tolle. You won't be lonely anymore.

[@iya1989]

I totally resonate with that, I too have this desire to find someone and have that companionship, someone to direct affection towards me, to tell me I'm beautiful etc...this runs really deep in us. It's about self -love, respect and knowing ourselves.

[@lexiemaep7930]

@@atulpandey455 where are you from Atul?

[@atulpandey455]

@lexie , I am from India.

[@lexiemaep7930]

@@atulpandey455 Atul haha you are a lover huh? You just love women 💕 are you married Atul?

[@lailanunes624]

The part of sarcasms is so true! And when you say that "you are training him" with your laugh, you are saying, also, that if you accept everything he does, and don't put any bounders it's the star of abusive relationships. Relationships that make both parts sick and with a distortion of themselves.

[@aytenali6351]

It’s been nothing but heartache...every single time. I believe love is not on the cards for everyone and once you realise this and accept it, you can free yourself from ever expecting anything from anyone..love yourself and invest in yourself. You won’t let yourself down at the end of the day ✨

[@CreativeCreaturefx]

Yes very true. You're a very beautiful woman and it's nice that you have boundaries, high standards, and dignity. *hugs*

[@solitairestarr5516]

My grandfather used to say "he who expected nothing is never disappointed". But please don't write off the possibility that someone may surprise you one day, when you least expect it.

[@aytenali6351]

@@solitairestarr5516 thank you xx

[@solitairestarr5516]

@@aytenali6351. I have been thinking of you. I went through more than a decade in the wasteland. I eventually found someone who said he loved me but really he was afraid to know me. I am alone, older. Beware of men with hidden agendas, I was always amazed at the number of liars encountered! I have found comfort in keeping myself well informed, especially newspapers as they remind me of the realities of life for other people, the broader picture. All is not lost, there are advantages to the solo life as well :-) Best Wishes.

[@mbrilliB]

I think ladies we should stop taking men seriously because it seems like majority of them dont take ladies seriously and first respect yourselves

[@cosmictruth3600]

well, its the other way round.... women don't take men seriously ... they play games with men.... and hence men have started to lose their trust in women gradually. You people should stop being gold diggers if you want men to really respect your community.

[@Eclecticgirl17]

I think men and women should try to be respectful to everyone. If this is the standard, bought sides will have less troubles with one another

[@29duygu24]

Cosmic Truth who is your and our community. He/she/they, were all 1 community. Othering has never brought anything good in history funny how we don’t learn from this

[@cosmictruth3600]

두29 Duygu othering ?? What is that supposed to mean ?

[@cosmictruth3600]

Are you from Turkey ? Sen Nasilsin ?

[@guesswho5790]

Again, you just confirmed my decision to break up with someone. Thank youuuu

[@097PJ]

First test 2:17 Second test 6:47 Third test 8:44

[@vidushi9344]

Good job👍

[@faybrink-yourhoustonrealtor]

1)Sex too soon 2)Sarcasm at your expense aka I was just joking while being mean 3)Inconsiderate behavior or it's all about me and my needs, not ever about you and what you need.

[@betakalsoo2821]

Thanks alotttt

[@taghreedfarhat3295]

Thank you 👍🏻

[@yvonneamuyaw2889]

Thank you

[@randomgirl1364]

The best thing is to remain single and drama free...who needs a man to be fulfilled emotionally and financially. There's nothing wrong self sustained.

[@nachannachle2706]

Agreed. Looking after your parents and children are the only thing worthwhile in terms of relationships in this world. Nowadays, you can also have children without being stuck in a so-called "romantic" relationship.

[@bhuvanas5114]

Agreed 😊

[@Andrewbait]

i see lot of pain here

[@Tzavaot]

@@nachannachle2706 but keeping the father around is good for the children...

[@joyceedwards3336]

I’m happy you are choosing this way of life but we are made to be with someone else so I am sad you haven’t found that one special person in your life! 🙏🏻

[@a.b.2850]

The decent/sanity test; where he tests how the woman react if he mentions the name of a female friend or any other women... tests our self-confidence.

[@Kcali111]

Annie Brunet sad truth

[@prettyalina7237]

That in itself is a test for me to him. I dont want a man with female friends. Its okay to be friendly but no texting,emails,phone calls chatting away at nothing

[@lingsuyen9509]

@Annie Brunet , self confidence shows up without tests. If he mentions a third party he is triangulating. Red flag !!! narcissistic psychopath sociopath , preschooler... run ! A man who wants only one woman gives her his full attention . Period.

[@EveofPyrite]

I would fail

[@NaturalDivineGoddess]

A High-Quality Man respects you Cares about you And desires To make You feel Comfortable ..

[@jasonsilveryt]

YES!

[@snowchymes4399]

A High-Quality Woman respects you Cares about you And desires To make You feel Comfortable ..

[@veep5712]

Agreed but they also may tease you a little bit to learn more about who you are. Men are status seekers.. how do they know who you are unless they test you?

[@NaturalDivineGoddess]

Enlightenment..

[@uneibindategjithe8786]

NaturalDivineGoddess and what a high quality woman does

[@mylittlecornerofdevon]

This is so true. Especially with guys sending their ‘tests’ by text to try and gauge your status / value and self esteem. I only respond to texts that I really like and enjoy reading. I simply ignore the others until men start to try much harder and learn my rules and standards. Thank you Jason for all your guidance, I share it with my 5 teenage girls xxxxx

[@jasonsilveryt]

You're welcome Cate. Glad you found it helpful!

[@malamw_k2158]

I usually laugh a bit when I'm feeling uncomfortable with a guy so that I'm not being rude with him ......Now i get why it's SOOOO.......WRONG and it explains a lot about their reactions afterwards . Really helpful thanks 💕

[@niyserenjiy]

You should speak up about that uncomfortability with them, and it should cease.

[@gracechan3039]

I do consider myself a high value woman but I’m also a survivor of narcissistic parents so in my friendships and in the workplace I’m very quick to call out bullshit. With my family and intimate relationships Ive turned into this other person who is conditioned to be compliant so I won’t be abandoned. I’ve recently learned that it’s worse to abandon myself than be abandoned by losers

[@richricogranada9647]

High value, YOU, a ch…? I don’t think so!

[@susan8sul]

every single one of the 3 tests you mentioned are TRUE. i have experienced them first hand and it has always been that guy who is just wanting to have fun but pretend they are looking for a long term relationship. i got out it and ran fast the opposite way

[@alexandrafreed5989]

The sexual test is absolutely the biggest turn off... bye! 👋🏼

[@jessicag.1845]

Alexandra Freed yee...

[@ShipperTrash88]

@@somyan8540 I legitimately have second hand embarrassment, in addition to being totally turned off, when they do that. Ugh, they're so clueless and have no idea how to treat a woman

[@ShipperTrash88]

@@somyan8540 I'm sorry....I might be misunderstanding your comment. Do you mean that it only seems like men don't understand women because I'm having a boring time with them? I was only referring to the ones who immediately start talking to you inappropriately much too soon....they are the ones I feel don't understand women AT ALL.

[@ShipperTrash88]

@@somyan8540 You got that right :)....I have no understanding of them at times lol

[@angellobresco7296]

Yeah.

[@bf6048]

Healthy self esteem is the key. You don’t owe anyone anything or an explanation. Set standards and refuse to be manipulated and disrespected. I wish I’d learned this 40+ years ago.

[@GDBONEY]

When God has laid you on a man's heart, he will never, rush, disrespect, or minimize a womans worth! You will be his priority, not an option. Men dont test/play games. Take your time, Friendship first!!!!. Have standards, values, stay in the word of GOD, no sex before marriage. If a guy does not respect your values, he's not who God has purposed for you, it will never last!!!!!

[@jackierumph6963]

You are so on point. Put God first in every thing you do!!!

[@NarnianLady]

Absolutely sister. A godly man would not 'test' a woman in these cruel ways. Sadly I know many Christian men appearing godly, but they are really arrogant and condescending towards women .. A lot of men in ministry (teachers, pastors, etc..) tend to be sarcastic and 'funny' aka outright rude and arrogant. It is rare to meet a man who has the right doctrine and ALSO has genuine love in his heart towards his sisters-in-Christ. So many of us are praying for these men and they end up just using our prayers as fuel... sad, sad. In the end, both women and men lose and miss out loving relationships..

[@francescovezzali3905]

GDBONEY I DO AGREE.TOTALLY.

[@jamieperry7568]

So true. ❤

[@pandalover1234567896]

Preach 🙌

[@hm8351]

This stuff is always in my recommended I swear the FBI agent watching my phone is just telling me how pathetic my love life is

[@sophiet2851]

Hailey Calder you are funny

[@cryora]

Haha, jokes on you. I'm literally being watched by an FBI agent. And he used to be a buddy of mine in undergrad. How things change eh?

[@mgeijho]

😂😂😂😂u and me both!

[@abduls.h4385]

😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣

[@kd-yd5pk]

LOL

[@sasakiumiquema9608]

I just realised I'm in a toxic relationship

[@sasakiumiquema9608]

Update guys, I broke up with him, best decision ever

[@agirlinaruba4954]

Proud of you girl

[@sasakiumiquema9608]

@@agirlinaruba4954 thank you

[@debbiefinn3149]

Omg...me too i think

[@daisystarthebrave8206]

Girl I’m proud of you for having the guts to do

[@jovankagasic4889]

Nice that you speak about mutual testing. A lot of other relationship coaches present it as if women only have to pass all the tests, and everything entirely depends on whether the men will fall for you. As there is no possibility of us women also changing our mind in the process.

[@lami9083]

My bf used to do these "tests" unconsiously early on in the relationship. Nevertheless I have always told him my standards. I got very angry and defensive times he didn't act the way I expected him to, to the extend that I would have quickly left him if he didn't change his behavior. He was surely aware of that. All the way down he always cared for me and I didn't let these flaws destroy the Rs without any chance because he understood my point of view and showed me respect, more and more over time. It is because I vocalized really clearly my standards and he adapted fortunatly. Now I am very satisfied and happy with the man he has become over the past two years. Today I am proud we could work it out.

[@MsGlamourcat]

Men that need to test you are narcissistic, run away as fast as you can... these tests are about your loyalty, about how you will meet his needs. If he needs his needs met he should to move back home to his mother. A relationship is also about you. A guy that makes it all about him will discard you once you are no longer making him happy... Move on! NEXT! Make yourself happy and the right people will gravitate toward you and you'll have a balanced relationship x

[@mstyles2667]

FACTS! RUN AND RUN FAST!!!

[@ShipperTrash88]

But then the next man will be the same way b/c nearly all men tend to lean towards the narcissistic side.....just varying degrees. It's such a hassle ugh

[@MsGlamourcat]

Love is love and you either know if someone is relationship material or not - you just click, you get excited to see them and you don't need to think about it. You get butterflies and giddy, and you're walking on air... you wait with baited breath to hear from them and the world seems like a beautiful and amazing place, you have a new zest for life and you want to step right up in every aspect of life and be your best version... that's how you know the person is right for you! DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT GO AROUND DATING 6 DIFFERENT PEOPLE AT ONCE - this will only confuse you. It might be great for your ego to date 6 people at once but love is not about ego. If you're looking for REAL LOVE you need to ditch your ego. The Soul Only Knows Love, The Ego Criticizes. If two people are right for each other they will be highly compatible and share similar long-term life goals. Tip Numero Uno: Don't chase people, chase your dreams and make yourself happy - when you are HAPPY and blissing out on fulfilling your dreams you shine so bloody bright that other people are drawn to you, THE RIGHT PEOPLE ARE DRAWN TO YOU - and you discover you have similar passions and long-term goals. If you are testing people, check in with yourself and your ego, if they are testing you, RUN... 🙏😇❤️

[@ShipperTrash88]

@@MsGlamourcat Yeah I've been crazy in love.....I know exactly what it feels like. I'm not really a "serial dater" tbh I just don't enjoy spending time with people I'm not that into and its rare that I'm really THAT into someone. Dating 6 people at once sounds scary for someone like myself who is rather lowkey lol I never chase, I just won't do it but I will admit that I won't mostly out of pride. I am happy on my own and I'd much rather be on my own than to be with someone just because I can't be alone.I know people like that. They can't be alone and they jump from relationship to relationship. It's usually a long while between relationships for me. Tbh, I'm not even looking for anything with anyone....this vid just came up on the sidebar and I decided to listen to it lol

[@asyri305]

MsGlamourcat how to deffrenciate love and crush.... don't u need yr criticism to make a good choice for long term relationship?

[@NK-dp4km]

Simply get to know yourself first before you start looking for a partner. Under no circumstances lower your standards no one is worth it⚘

[@DutchiLuvzU]

I was in a relationship with a man my age for 2 years and by chance I met a younger man aka my current man. He didn’t tell me that I was being used by my bf at the time we met, instead he showed me he could treat me better. I was nervous about our 20 yr age gap… but I fell for him hard. He took all my sadness and turned it into smiles just by being him.. Sometimes you have to take a chance even if it’s scary. Im so happy now. 💞

[@DutchiLuvzU]

@@Fan-qu8qy Sorry for the late response. I don’t think you’re reading him wrong. I say give him the attention he’s asking for. What do you have to lose? Btw, I hope you have already took the leap. Let me know how it’s going? I’m curious. Thank you. 😊

[@DutchiLuvzU]

@Kese Ho Yarr Thank you for responding, I really appreciate you. When I was younger, I did have that point of view so at that time I didn’t settle down with one guy aka “I was playing the field” But now I just want one person to be my ‘Someone’ thankfully my man feels the same way. I feel this is also natural because there are some animals, such as Penguins that mate for life and I think it’s sad when 1 loses the other but also very beautiful at the same time. Shouts to all the people with open relationships. I don’t buy into or follow society’s made up rules that are mainly double standards anyway.I say do what makes you happiest in life no matter what anyone thinks. I’m unapologetically Dutchi😁

[@DutchiLuvzU]

@Kese Ho Yarr Oh and I forgot… Do you mean “fall in love with more than 1 person” at the same time or do you mean separately throughout your life?

[@maitisanw.j7453]

A true man loves his own just as he loves himself.

[@silverlinings3946]

True man or woman doesn't *own* anybody.

[@FreeSpirit47]

My opinion is from experience is that if a guy feels a need to "test" me, that he is too insecure for me.

[@mstyles2667]

FACT. REAL MEN would NEVER 'test' a woman. Immature, selfish narcissistic boys do.

[@FreeSpirit47]

Yepp. Seen too much of that. A man who is secure, refrains from playing the "testing" game.

[@subjer0]

Men that test women are insecure? Women that test men are confident? Lol okay love the double standard.

[@subjer0]

@ggg whatev women constantly s hit test men. They'll ask, "Does this make me look fat?" "Do I look good in this." To say "confident" women don't ever shit test men is utter BS. And I bet confident Brenda up there constantly shit tests her man while projecting men that test her are insecure.

[@Penelope416]

Depends on what you mean by testing.

[@margaretcampbell2681]

Thank you, keeping standards are so important. The sexual one comes up every time

[@GloriousVictorious]

Everytime!!!! It's so common I got desensitized and even a bit tolerant especially when I found the guy to be attractive. Truly awful. Never let down your guard. Even after marriage!!

[@smrk2452]

A man wants to know which box to put you in

[@cheriekrausz3731]

What a wonderful man you are! Your wife is one lucky lady! Thank you for this

[@shivamkh9903]

Nobody knows the relation between husband and wife. It's only your perception

[@GoldenAngel-]

Exactly

[@ocean3541]

I do all of this since I’m young. I could be a relationship expert myself and guess what I’m still single. And I’m okay with that. I won’t settle down for less than what I deserve. I wasn’t born to be someone’s slave.

[@sannajohanna5579]

It is fantastic to have this information. When I was young, there was no internet, no worldwide communication about common issues, like how to create high-quality relationships.

[@undercoverhamster2549]

True!

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Sanna Johanna,You look stunning 🌹🌹🌷🌷 dear

[@kristiekeith9103]

I can't believe how much of your video hit home in my current relationship. I'm embarrassed to say I was not teaching my guy to respect me.

[@jasonsilveryt]

Glad that you watched this. I hope it helps to elevate your relationship!

[@trishhill7563]

This wasn't what I was expecting at all! I thought I was going to be listening to a completely different kind of video. But boy I'm so glad to hear a guy talking about this! Yaaaaay!!! I just subscribed!!!!

[@technicolortigerlily]

This video layed out exactly what my “ex” did to me for 2 years. I felt so horrible about myself after he just ghosted me all of a sudden that it really brought my life down quite drastically. Thank you for this video. This makes me feel better just knowing what he was doing. I’m worthy, he just wasn’t.

[@janelcornejo8597]

You’re so worthy girlfriend 🕊✨💪🏼

[@technicolortigerlily]

Thanks, girl!! ☺️☺️

[@SaraX2024]

Thanks for pointing out the "just kidding" part and that it is a 'test'. If you happen to run into an abusive person such as a narcissist, the 'just kidding' will escalate to 'playful' physical attacks, which will be escalating to actual physical abuse.

[@jasonsilveryt]

Thank you for providing more information on this. If you're reading this and need more support around domestic abuse, please visit www.thehotline.org

[@niauge]

Really like that he said sarcasm is passive aggression and the beginning the being verbally abused. I have a family member that does this and it's beginning to really turn me off. I dislike men who feels that women are beneath them and have no say!

[@leacambe6869]

Hi jason silver....I really love ur advice...that's pretty awesome...thankz for this video. Now I know what is my value

[@mariadesouza5505]

Thank you, for the info, some of what you saying I been there , but no man will not treat me like trash no more.

[@nicoletambasco9210]

Yes! The moment it happens. With snarky remarks, passive aggressive accusations. Call it for exactly what is and do not stand down. I just went through this. Remark made about other than work involvement with my boss. If you think I’m the type of women that has inappropriate relationships in my professional life, or you think I’m the type of woman that would work for a person that was inappropriate in that regard, then this ends now. I didn’t go on about my boss’s beautiful wife and family and why he would never be interested in my in that way, I simply aimed back at what he came for which was my character, my integrity, my ethics, my morals, etc. Wasn’t at all what he expected.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Nicole Tambasco,You are beautiful!🌹🌹🌷🌹

[@Fan-qu8qy]

You go girl!

[@jessicawolfe1329]

I love the way you talk! You can really tell you care about helping women become the best versions of theirselves! :)

[@hadafoxer9563]

The tests: 1_The sexual test. 2_The sarcasm test. 3_The consideration test.

[@29duygu24]

what are all these tests thooo I always feel like people built up their life like a school. Testing > grading 🤯 mind-blowing world

[@hadafoxer9563]

@@29duygu24 😂😂 BC true

[@Fiiii4567]

@@29duygu24 if they test you and u sleep with them too quickly it shows them how quickly you potentially could sleep with someone else

[@29duygu24]

@@Fiiii4567 if you’re doing this it shows me that you’re thinking too much and not being yourself just trying to fit into sth. That is supposedly right or wrong instead of first seeing the person in front of you

[@Fiiii4567]

@@29duygu24 ehm was that comment for me? I was pointing out why men test .

[@sherryj738]

I love myself first, and I am an empath. I deserve everything I need and want in my life. Walk away girl. 💕

[@Tzavaot]

"I deserve ___" is the most non-empathic thing someone can say

[@victoriac.attorneyatlaw]

Every long term relationship I have ever had, has begun with a strong foundation, i.e. friendship. Waiting for sex creates chemistry and compassion and makes it all the better! Sarcasm=a form of GASLIGHTING

[@twinflamegirl9901]

Sarcasm is a very British thing! This is how we ‘banter’. You can be sarcastic in a fun way without offending btw

[@yasmine900]

Honestly thank you for opening my eyes!! i've always been a bit naive not to say innocent eventhough i can sens man's dirty intentions but then i tend to blame myself and think it's me who's overreactiong or exaggerating or maybe i am too old fashioned .. but now i see that the earlier you flee the happier you become i'd rather be single then change my identity to please a man

[@Bizzy-Bumble1131]

Sarcasm is the start of a possible abusive relationship or signs of his own insecurities. For example, he is saying things in a funny way about your weight. It is a sign that he may have had issues with his own weight or he saw women in his family as having weight problems. Immediately go the other way, this will not be good.

[@snowchymes4399]

It can also mean he saw first hand the effects of the problem and wants to help you solve it , so he tries to put it in the least hurtful way he can. Intent can change depending on the person's interpretation, please try and understand the other side.

[@Bizzy-Bumble1131]

@@snowchymes4399 yes very good point, depending on the persons interpretation. 👍

[@devineasuquo6928]

Now this comment is an eye opener thank you

[@painexotic3757]

Not true. Depends on the people in question. Not everyone gets triggered like you.

[@SP-li7wn]

What about when HR does this to job candidates? It just shows you how much the company disrespects it's own employees.

[@Oriona-rbi]

Thank you for getting right to it without A crazy long intro 💯💯👏🏼

[@manishachaudhary7712]

Loved your video. That's exactly what I needed. On one hand my partner writes to me that I am like a Goddess to him...and an hour later he is verbally abusing me, calling me names, accusing me of some stupid imaginary things and bangs the phone down. He did this to me again yesterday. Earlier I used to call him, text him, explain to him but this time I have done neither.....I am just maintaining my SILENCE

[@angiedaugherty7613]

Thank you for helping me realize what I’ve been doing wrong for so many years.

[@benfine2328]

Hi baby Am Ben easygoing person I like good and do good I like friends that have understanding and fun to be with I love arts, museum and music l lunch luxury every Eve I compose poem and scripts am a civil engineer and a contractor I work for company and I work in Asia,africa,and Europe I need a woman who understands What love is all about, to be my own I saw your picture and I am impressed you're beautiful and baby you shines like a diamond springs In Sky nicely like flowers in the garden of Eden's I close my eyes all I is you at first sight I felt the energy of Sun rays angel'wings written love on it I love you so much baby I want a wonderful woman will love me and know who I am and be mine forever i hope You will reply soonest thanks

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Angie Daugherty,You are absolutely gorgeous 🌹🌹🌷🌷,hope you are with a good man!

[@user-dp5qi8cz1n]

These wisdom help us a lot to get away from the toxic relationships early on saving ourselves from broken heart , unwanted emotions,driving ourselves into depression .....Thank you for such great videos , expecting more of it .God bless you .

[@jaritagupta]

True Love starts with the absence of drama.

[@joincoffee9383]

-Psychopath, -narcissist, -borderline personality, -histrionics personality, these 4 cluster B personality people are usually dramatic. Research and learn about these 4 personality types. Otherwise you can get into a toxic and seriously damaging relationship, be it a romantic one or not.

[@claudiagurke6954]

I disagree with the sarcasm test because I laugh along AND I give it right back to them…that’s my type of humor

[@vanessagamboa6041]

The love of my life passes all these tests. Thank God I did not settle ❤️

[@chrysichrysi7889]

You're lucky👌

[@ladennayoung2939]

That's a blessing. 😊

[@angeleahlebrie5170]

I have flunked all of these tests--but I am now learning a new way of dating!😊Thank you!🙏

[@epiphanychild3289]

Same here and this video opened my eyes!

[@29duygu24]

you didn’t flunk every individual is different. A test needs a standard to compare to, but there can be no standard for humans

[@elsie132]

Just 5 min into it realised I've flunked the first one 🤣

[@lightwalkers9565]

You’re not kidding about sarcasm.. The syrupy kind is the worst! Also ladies, please don’t ignore these elements and hope or think that he will be different with a little time.. Just like Jason said, it only escalates!!❤️

[@ablurida]

yes it does. If only I had known...

[@surdogal]

I think mind setting is key. I have put up with disrespectful treatment because I had a scarcity mindset - worried that I would be lonely. Now I am single and lonely but celebrating that I’m not wasting time in the wrong relationship 😊

[@joannafaith888]

I agree about having standards. As a nurse, I could hug or kiss the man I married, but I choose sexual activity only in a committed relationship...aka marriage.💖I know my 🌹beauty and 💎value as a smart, moral, caring lady.

[@Hugocandy123]

You just gave me an excellent idea to tell a guy if he wants sex to soon! That will let me know his intentions right from the beginning Thanks

[@natalierullmanward9137]

joannafaith888 as a nurse?? How does being a nurse correlate?

[@tantramassagedubai]

Totally right.. I have tried to impart this on our courses been there and try to help ladies myself. Keep up high standards

[@tantramassagedubai]

@blooming orchid Doing well.. keep it up. Even though I teach Tantra. I do not have any sexual relationship outside marriage. I try to teach our female clients. Value yourself and do not be manipulated.

[@tantramassagedubai]

@@natalierullmanward9137 probably gets a lot of offers and sees a lot.. We do in the Spa industry and as a Physiotherapist. High professional standards you develop help you also apply them in your private life.

[@donnajuan8458]

This video is so nice. I felt understood. Many videos on the web are about "be perfect for men" this is so much more helpful!!

[@SingingThruLife]

Wow! My ex husband started being more and more sarcastic in the last 2 years of our marriage. I had no idea that was a warning sign. Now I know to watch for that.

[@lucillekean7035]

Hi I am a person who has gone through all of those situations you referred to. I was brought up in a very disfungshall family. No expressions of love 💗 or affection or careing, so my entire life I have been struggling with relationships. Watching and listening to your messages is a learning process for me. I never knew I could set my own boundaries, I was always being told what ,how where and when to do something. I am 91+ years of age and I am now trying to have the life I want , these are things I have wanted to do all my life . I guess I am just starting to grow up Thank you❤😊. LK. from 🇨🇦 Canada 🍁