30 things i learnt before 30 that rewired my mangled brain (part 1)

[@kelsey4292]

you are such a compelling speaker. looking forward to part 2!

[@amberakilla]

thank you so much !!! it’s on the wayyyy 💖💖💖 xxxx

[@brookebeasley6607]

I love that your content is centered around self-discovery, acceptance, and authenticity, and I feel like it was fate I stumbled upon your videos as I needed a redirection towards authenticity and just doing the things I love and finding new hobbies like a dance class to broaden my horizon. Keep doing what yo're doing, you impacted and inspired me, so i know you can do it for so many others! Also agree with the sunken cost fallacy thing. Lots of us get trapped by that one.

[@amberakilla]

hehe thank you for noticing!!! sending love and slay your way bb

[@rachelma382]

Hi Amber, just want you to know that I feel truly so grateful for discovering your content. I'm turning 30 next year and your videos put words/clarity on so many floating foggy reflections I had on life so far. Thank you Love you

[@amberakilla]

bless u bb!! know that you aren't alone in how you feel, its part of the journey ! sending love and slay your way xx

[@dumbthintoplaysongz9753]

Absolutely loveeeed this video and like you said at the end, I feel like you're saying all these things I've thought but never been able to construct into a thought and it's like you're speaking my language literally as you said. I'm going through a breakup and your podcast tiktoks and videos have been so wonderful and helpful, i'm so grateful for you and I'm committing to watching your content everyday for the next month to get me truly through and past this breakup. You're so eloquent and brilliant girl

[@amberakilla]

thank you so much bb!!! you got this

[@yoshi24k-j2n]

Thank you for your videos. Im turning 24 next year and feel like i dont relate to my past anymore. My friends, my old habits, it feels very lonely, and i get scared. You remind me that life is long and sexy despite the sadness and uncertainty. Its all part of the journey

[@amberakilla]

yes!!! i dont even remember what i was doing at 24 honestly.. life has just begun and then it will feel like its begun again and again !! you! got! this! xx

[@mckaylataylor6463]

Just found your channel. So glad. This is my third video. I'm binging listening while I deep clean and it's so soothing :)

[@amberakilla]

yayy thank you for tuning in bbb!! xxx

[@lightliu7287]

you're so awesome and living one of my dream lives in Shanghai rn. I turned 30 not long ago and resonate with a lot of what you said here about my own 20s. I'm also starting to see the effects of not doing the inner work by your 30s on some people that I've met in the last couple years in LA and even though I ate so much shit I'm glad I at least got through all that during the period of time where it's easiest to bounce back from it. actually for a while I was really bent on pursuing grad school in China so that I could have the chance to experience life there as well, but after a lot of thought ended up prioritizing computer science grad in the US for now. so I'm happy to see that someone else made it over there and loves having made that decision!

[@amberakilla]

proud of you !!! you will be so much better off long-term having navigated that time with courage and integrity!!! stay safe in the US and i hope/am sure you will get a chance to come to China soon!! we're waiting for you !! xx

[@Az4liz]

love. the way you explain things are perfect for the way i understand. thank you thank you

[@amberakilla]

yay i'm so glad!! sending love and slay your way xx

[@tayaaliz4088]

1:02 Commenting before I get too deep into the video. I am a 2000 baby, i was born in the year our lord, Y2K. I’ll be 25 in the middle of next year, and with the way social media boosts the lives of people my age and younger to stardom so fast, I feel like a failure and old. But, as I said, I am a 2000 baby.. SO in 2004 a little movie made me excited to be 30. 🎉 “13 going on 30” was my obsession for months, to a year, to 2years and I just couldn’t wait to have a great life at 30, at just 6 years old. But then i started living life, and having milestones pass me by, and “natural” things for pre-teens and teens escape me. Like I said, i’m 24 right now, and only NOW i feel like my life is in my control, or that my life JUST started. I have a pinterest board called “30” and I plan to have the most important party for myself. Although that feeling of being a failure and like my time is running out is still stuck to me, I want to be ready by 30 to stop attacking myself.

[@amberakilla]

a milestone that 'passes you by' was never meant for you anyways bb. i felt like my life just started when i was 23, then again at 25, 27, 28, 29... the opportunities to grow and evolve will forever be available. having goals is important but balance it with being present and enjoying the journey. happiness and a 'feeling of achievement' is not a destination that you arrive at where everything just makes sense and works out after, its moments along the journey in between wins, losses, joy, grief, excitement, sadness and slay! xx

[@tayaaliz4088]

@ appreciate you so much, thank you !

[@cave6646]

Need this on Spotify queen!!!!

[@amberakilla]

oki i will upload along w other vid audios !!! mwaa xxx

[@F4YRUZ]

You hit the nail on the head with this video, such good advice.

[@amberakilla]

thank youuu xxxx

[@Pinkwaterballoon]

I love listening to you speak !🦋

[@amberakilla]

tysm for supporting

[@oIiviaaa]

this is video is a need for me. im turning 25 in the new year and 30 seems so close now.

[@amberakilla]

live ur life bb ~ one day your 20s will just be seen as a distant blob, you won't bother spending too much time separating the years because you'll be too busy living in the MOMENT

[@Lalla.elaine]

I love you girl ❤

[@amberakilla]

sending love and slay your way angel xx

[@yasbri007]

I turn 30 in two weeks 🎉🎉

[@amberakilla]

happy birthday bbb!!!! hope your next year is filled with peace, love and prosperity !! 🫶 xxx