33. [part 1] why & how I quit drinking alcohol after 26 years of binge-drinking alcohol

[@liselively]

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[@maxwillson]

I turn 33 this Friday and I've reached a point in my life where I don't see any benefits in drinking. It's all been negative for my life. I'm just tired of embarrassing myself. Falling over in public, smelling like booze and people commenting about it. Can't speak properly or staying awake. Stressing over logistics. I'm just over it. Not getting enough sleep and feeling like crap every morning. I'm done.

[@liselively]

I feel you! 💯 Sounds like you hit your breaking point. I can so relate. What an amazing birthday gift to give yourself! Happy early birthday! 🥳

[@liselively]

Hope you had a wonderful birthday today! 🥳 🎉 🎂

[@maxwillson]

@@liselively Thanks! It was fun! I drank a little but I still plan to be sober this weekend!

[@liselively]

@maxwillson 👍🙌

[@liselively]

@maxwillson Happy to hear you had a fun birthday!

[@Anna-ov6wc]

That's INSANE how our childhood traumas affect us! Im 40 now, my mother died a year ago from drinking, and she never admitted how much she was hurting me when i was a child. I have been drinking for the last 10 years because of those traumas that i couldn't forget.... That's crazy, but just one conversation between us would have been enough, but she never agreed to discuss it. So now... im trying to quit and im determined to quit. Because i can't live like this anymore, im just going down the hill. God please give me power this time, ive tried so many times... i didn’t get married, didn't have kids, drank...ALL because of my childhood.

[@liselively]

Thank you for sharing your story Anna. I feel your pain. You've got the power to make the change. You can do this! You are strong and you are brave. ❤

[@maxwillson]

Second night drinking nonalcoholic beer and second night sleeping sober in 3 years! Cheers!

[@liselively]

Heck yeah!! 👍🎉 Keep going! You’ve got this! 🤗. Thanks for sharing!

[@kevinmcalpine6929]

Wow me and you are running a close race I'm 52 now and I sobered up at 49 and I thought I wasn't an alcoholic too because I always worked and had a house and car and other bullshit. I drank every day but not in the morning so I thought I didn't have a problem. Glad I realized I had a problem and changed my life. Best damn decision I have ever made in my life!!!!

[@liselively]

I can relate! We’re very similar. And congratulations 🎊 on your decision! It really is the best decision! 🫶💯

[@laraoneal7284]

I so appreciate ur transparency. I quit drinking over 25years. I didn’t drink everyday ever but drank on the weekends. I didn’t want to drink anymore out of nowhere bc it just wasn’t fun anymore. I questioned why did I drink in the first place and knew that our subconscious rules us more than the conscious. I also couldn’t stand my parents & always resented them bc of the way they treated me. I started watching lectures on toxic family dynamics and how it affects us. I read books nonstop, and realized I was a childhood trauma victim. I started realizing that I was drinking to numb my emotional pain. From the very beginning of my intense research I never desired alcohol ever again. My incest recovery had started also. Too long of a story but I eventually went no contact from my family of origin. In the past I would literally have to drink to be around them. Obviously that was ridiculous so I discovered being around them was triggering & it had to stop. Found out later that I have adhd, CPTSD & I’m neurodivergent. My family also made me the scapegoat of our family & I just said NO MORE. They were the whole reason I drank at all. Never went to AA. either. Realized very early on that the recovery places I needed to be were for my CORE issues not alcohol.

[@liselively]

Thank you for being strong and brave to share some of your story here with us.❤ I was drinking to numb emotional pain too, as a coping mechanism. A heart-felt congratulations to you for being AF for over 25 years. You are amazing! 🤩Your story will help others that read it too. 🫶 If you ever want to be a guest on the podcast, please let me know. Would love to have you on if you feel comfortable sharing your Going AF story.

[@chicame2]

I’m 66 years old and I too was not addicted to alcohol, but I too drank a lot!!! Too much. I’ve stopped drinking two weeks ago and living one day at a time. It’s not easy, but I really want to be and stay sober. Thank you for your story!

[@liselively]

You've got this! You can do anything you put your mind to! Thank you for sharing your great news with us. Great job! ❣

[@chicame2]

@@liselively Thank you for your kind words. It’s a beast I’ve been battling all my adult life. Just need to remember, “ one day at a time”. 💙

[@liselively]

@@chicame2 You're very welcome! You can do it! One day at a time. 🫶🫶🫶🫶

[@oedeko3020]

When you decided to stop drinking alcohol, you have unknowing taken an oath between you and yourself. Don't break it. Remember these words !

[@nextlevelsuki]

Hi! I just found you today! Love your content so far! I am currently at 205 days alcohol-free after 27 years of moderate to heavy drinking. Some days are tougher than others but I know this is the best decision I could have ever made for myself!!

[@liselively]

Wow - Congratulations! 🎉👏 What made you decide to stop drinking? Please consider being on the podcast, would love to have you as a guest to tell your story. forms.gle/hyjEQdyQaaVxKxCVA Keep going!! And thank you so much for being here. 🫶💜

[@liselively]

Hi 👋! I received your submission to be on the podcast. Would love to have you as a guest! Will be in touch via email tomorrow. 💞🤗

[@nextlevelsuki]

@@liselively Hi! That is wonderful! Looking forward to hearing from you! Thank you!

[@liselively]

@@nextlevelsuki Please check your email. 😃Please let me know if you don't see it. Thank you! So excited to have you on the podcast to tell your AF journey. 🤗

[@jamareubanks7880]

I’m rooting for you! I’m glad you are winning the battle ❤

[@liselively]

Thank you so much! I appreciate your support. Thanks for being here! ❣

[@d.j.daugherty4945]

Pretty lady. I can relate in my mid 30's very well, thanks for the knowledge and insight.

[@liselively]

You're very welcome! Thank you for being here and for watching. 💜

[@laraoneal7284]

You have adverse childhood experiences. Take the ACES TEST. Good for u in addressing your childhood trauma. It’s important to examine our family of origin pathology to attain self awareness.

[@liselively]

Thank you! I have not heard of the ACES TEST. Will look it up. Thanks for watching.🫶

[@paulpillow7641]

Ha ha, you certainly can’t judge a book by its cover. The last thing I would imagine when looking at this pretty and demure appearing woman is her driving her Harley drunk at 90 miles an hour. I’ve had similar experiences, and somehow survived, but I’ve lost my father at a very young age to drunk driving, and saw my best friend go to prison for vehicular manslaughter while intoxicated. I finally smartened up in my 50s, but it took a potentially catastrophic sequence of events for me to come to grips with reality. I’m down to an occasional beer at this point, but I’m realizing that there’s no need for that. It’s time to just put alcohol away for good. Even if you’re not getting intoxicated, it’s just plain unhealthy. This type of content is very helpful.

[@liselively]

Thank you so much for being here and for watching. I really appreciate your support Paul.

[@AP-zc7lt]

Thanks for your story I’m starting my journey as well

[@liselively]

You’ve got this! 🤗👍💕 Thanks for being here and for watching the podcast. 🙏 New episode coming this week. If you ever have any suggestions/topics for the podcast, please let me know.

[@maxwillson]

It's funny how it goes full circle. I started drinking when I was in high school and it was fun at first because it gave me a boost of confidence I didn't have and then by my early 30s the drinking was hindering my confidence.

[@liselively]

Yep I experienced the same thing. Except it took me a lot longer to figure it out. Good for you for figuring it out in your 30’s. 👊

[@maxwillson]

@@liselively Covid-19 kind of forced me out of my corporate job ahahaha. If it wasn't for that, I'd probably still be working in it.

[@liselively]

Im so glad I left my corporate job. Was it ultimately a good thing for you?

[@angel19760]

Thank you! Can’t wait for part 2.

[@liselively]

Thank you! It'll be out this coming week. 🤗🫶

[@liselively]

Update: I have part 2 on the podcast players right now. The link to the podcast is in the bio. The KZbin video will be done soon. Thank you for your patience. ❣

[@brucemcguire5324]

Excellent words. I enjoyed your story. Maybe one day you will hear mine. Enjoy the new life

[@liselively]

Thank you.🙏 Thanks for watching! Would love to hear your story! 🤗

[@oedeko3020]

Whoever decides to stop drinking alcohol, unknowing takes an oath between him and himself. Don't break the oath. Remember these words ! So I stopped drinking alcohol since 2022. I will never break the oath. Be proud of yourself each day you abide with the oath. Tide and time come and go. So shall your alcohol consumption come and go. Take an oath today.

[@nidiaborge]

How much is toi much?? I don't even know anymore 😢 and I'm not talking beers. I'm talking hard liquor. My breakfast was vodka shots and went about my day. No family around. The shame and guilt is unreal. I somehow managed to keep an entire family together. Drank by myself. Entire bottle of vodka and hiding it. Got up, drank did my job and kept going. I'm still intact after a severe epileptic attack thaf I'm terrified of and I know why that happened. Went back to alcohol to kill the fear but now me actual fear is the amount of damage has done to me. I'll get through this.

[@liselively]

You will get through this. 🫶 You are strong and you are brave. 💪 You are not alone. 🤗Please consider joining the new safe and supportive community just for listeners of this podcast. Secret word is 'FREE'. Please check it out here. www.skool.com/going-alcohol-free-together-4518. I would love to see you inside. 💜

[@nidiaborge]

@@liselively thank you so much.

[@LiseLivelyMeditations]

@@nidiaborgeYou’re welcome. 🤗 ❤

[@liselively]

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[@justinaoska5901]

Thank you for sharing. You are such a nice person 😊

[@liselively]

Thank you for being here and for watching! You're a nice person too! 🤗

[@BaldFoodieGuy]

Thanks, it's tough isn't it. 😊

[@liselively]

Hey! 👋 it’s so much fun to see you over here. Thanks for checking out my podcast. 🙏 I was a lot like you. Except I didn’t want to give it up, I just wanted to cut back. I could never imagine my life without alcohol-how boring. 😆 You’re doing great! Keep going! 🙌

[@lucineusch5484]

Wow thank-you for sharing i love your sweet heart

[@liselively]

Thank you too!

[@riclee9504]

20 months for me August 1st. Best decision I ever made in my life

[@liselively]

Great job ! 20 months!!!! That is a great accomplishment to be so proud of! 🤗🎉🫶

[@Rogue_Strummer]

You do a good job Lisa with the presentation. I wish you continued success in your endeavors!

[@liselively]

🫶 Thank you so much! I appreciate your support!

[@DonPablo-81]

When’s part 2? X

[@liselively]

Hi there! Thanks for watching and for your comment. 💞 Part 2 will be out this week. 🫶

[@liselively]

Update: I have part 2 on the podcast players right now. The link to the podcast is in the bio. The KZbin video will be done soon. Thank you for your patience. ❣

[@DonPablo-81]

Thanks I’ll listen to that now 👍

[@whatupplaya7951]

What I've noticed is watching these videos about not drinking makes alcohol advertising pop up. What is up with that?? I find that very very strange 🤔 throwing temptation in our faces

[@liselively]

What? That's crazy! I'm sorry, I wish there was something I could do about that. :(

[@whatupplaya7951]

@@liselively it's not your fault. But something is not right with whoever is doing that crap.

[@liselively]

@@whatupplaya7951 It's all handled by YT! I'm sorry. that is so frustrating! It defeats the whole purpose of my channel/podcast. :(

[@jeffneel9721]

Wow you look younger than you are i guess I'm the same as you i drink every day right now and don't want to I'd really like to here from you to stop.

[@liselively]

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[@liselively]

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[@tenminutetokyo2643]

26 years!

[@liselively]

Amazing! 💕It's so worth it, isn't it?! ♥

[@Patrick-p8z1m]

Thank you

[@liselively]

You’re welcome. 😊 Thanks for watching. 🙏

[@mattorama]

51? Unbelievable.

[@liselively]

Thank you.🙏

[@kuntalsarma5106]

2-3 drinks a day, that's it. I am out of here.

[@liselively]

I drank much more on the weekends. I always had to finish every bottle. Would love to have you stay! Thank you for watching. 🤗

[@anneperry9014]

Binge drinking is NOT ALCOHOLISM!!!!🙄

[@alifatani7836]

Omg. 🫂