The Process of Early Sobriety

[@Johnny-sn5sb]

Once you get to acceptance you pretty much live there ! Wow that’s a great quote ….. thank you

[@sergerodrigues1379]

Thankyou very informative:51 days sober today feeling good but like you said sometimes I’m bored

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

Congrats on 51 days sober! 🎉 That’s an amazing milestone! Boredom can definitely creep in, but it’s actually a sign that your brain is healing and adjusting to life without alcohol. Keep going, and try exploring new hobbies or activities that excite you-filling that space with things that bring you joy can make a huge difference. You’ve got this! 😊 Keep putting weight on the sober end. 💪

[@creativestrategyintersecti6268]

Good job. I am too. 70 days here.

[@CMoore8539]

@@creativestrategyintersecti6268Congratulations to you too! I’m just starting.

[@itscool770]

Last year I did 5 months sober and I felt amazing almost right away. Within a couple months I would say. Maybe even less. Now fast forward to today I finally got sober again over a year later. I regret drinking again because it was so much harder to get and stay sober again and this time I feel different too. Like it feels harder and more exhausting this time. I’m not getting the pink cloud effect like I did before. Low energy. Etc etc. I’m only 35 days in so I’m hopeful and trying to actually stick it out this time.

[@KelliEngland-z8b]

My mother died at 56 of cirrhosis of the liver, I got cirrhosis at 56 and decided to stop drinking instead of drying from alcohol, otherwise I was just continuing a cycle. I had spent 10 months in rehab previously because my life was becoming uncontrollable. I still couldn't stop completely. I finally went to a psychologist and found out I had complex PTSD. We need more open conversations about mental health and definitely more services. How many domestic violence situations are alcohol fueled? Cirrhosis in a way saved my life from alcohol, I am 5years sober and I have never been happier. I am lucky since it nearly killed me, I can't even stand the smell. Alcohol is poison, not only kills our body it kills our spirit. I cannot believe we are only now having these conversations about the truth of drinking. Family and communities are being destroyed by it and have been for a long time. I know I am free from it now, thank God

[@mariannewolf57]

Very glad you made it - keep going! :-))

[@BrianHealy666]

9 years sober . It justs gets better and better

[@alainmaurel]

No alcohol for 6 days Yahoo 🎉 thanks Veronica

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

🎉 Six days is an amazing accomplishment-I'm so proud of you! It's not just about the days adding up; emotional sobriety is such a big part of this journey too. Keep building that strength, and remember, you're doing something incredible for yourself. Keep going, you’ve got this! 😊

[@simonmcintosh6565]

9 for me!!

[@nehemiah1976]

Keep on guys. Good work

[@simonmcintosh6565]

@@nehemiah1976 13 today 💪

[@susancryan177]

I am the Mother of a functioning alcoholic and that’s why I’m watching this podcast and hopefully understanding his addiction

[@trydowave]

Im a binge drinker. The beginning of giving up booze i find quite easy. But... about 3 weeks in... im dying. Im feeling physically great but theres this big void in me that emerges.. its a hole, but its packed with negative emotions. It partly feels like being adhd mixed with depression. Boredom and lonliness. At this point, any rational and logical thouht processes go out the window and im on a mission. Its like im no longer in control of my body. Im telling myself no, no no, as i put on my coat and shoes and fly down to the shops as fast as possible to buy alcohol. Anything to relieve that feeling. Knowing that it will take months to get passed it, is a terrifying thought but its good to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Im also a slave to a number of other addictions. Food, phones and p_0rn. Tnankfully i now know they are the same coping mechanism. A symptom not a cause. Im a friggin mess but one has to start somewhere right?

[@Marytango99]

Wowww so interesting! I totally get this!

[@Rick40years]

I have the same feelings and problem.

[@AAxFrikFish]

boredom, loneliness is a trigger.Go fishing, do something outdoors

[@luvsmusic124]

When I get those urges, I say no!!! Keep going! And I say @#$off alcohol!!! You can do it!

[@trydowave]

@@AAxFrikFish those triggers follow me everywhere.

[@WilliamBTCWallace]

I’m 92 days in and this is exactly the video I needed to see. My buddy who all we do is drink and smoke cigars when he comes over is visiting in 2 weeks and I’m figuring out how to navigate it. What I do know is that I’m not going to give up over 100 days of progress for one night!

[@sarahdieter-realtor8987]

slippery slope, please be careful

[@raymondlin8728]

Quit 2 memorial day weekends ago. At 1box wine a week a case of beer. That's a lot of alcohol that didn't pass thru my liver and soak in my brain. 52 box of wine. And 52 six pack, and more. Health, brain, blood , family relationship, improved. I am awesome 😂❤❤❤

[@stevebassett8944]

Thanks for this video. So, I'm approaching 1 year no alcohol next month. A little apprehensive, I have to take care not to celebrate this with a beer. That said, your video popped on to my feed for a reason. It's a reminder, it's a process, and I have to admit I'm enjoying this process. I'm enjoying this health, I'm 67, drank since my teens, I honestly have not felt this good since my early 20's. Stopping drinking has been a gift.

[@mariannewolf57]

Very similar story here, but only 8 days in. Glad you made it this far!

[@kathleenvaughan3709]

I’m struggling and needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing.

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

I'm so glad this resonated with you. Remember, it's okay to struggle-what matters is that you're here, seeking support and taking steps forward. Be kind to yourself, and know that you're not alone on this journey. I'm cheering you on, and we're all in this together. Take it one day at a time, you've got this! 💛

[@johncook4794]

U can do this, if it was easy everyone would be doing it. I drank and used heavily for 40 years and today I am 8 months sober, never done that before. I do exercise or movement every day, get out in nature is so healing. And meditation has been so hard but incredible. I love some art things and started yoga. Things I would have never seen myself do being a man. But getting in touch with that inner child and let it out. That laugh, oh my gosh I laugh so much and also cry which has been so helpful for me too. Everyone can can do this, it’s hard hard work but can be done❤❤.

[@kathleenvaughan3709]

@@johncook4794 thank you for sharing. I know im not alone . Your encouragement means a lot. Keep laughing and crying!

[@hollyolson5195]

Thank you so much! 9 days in, and I've watched a lot of content. You gave me a new perspective than I've thus heard yet!

[@SLOCoolChik]

Nearly 6 years alcohol free and I'm always looking for new inspiration!

[@lesleymasterson341]

1 year sober in 8 days. You are so right it does take a year for it to settle and feel the real the benefits 🎉😊

[@luvsmusic124]

Everything your saying is soooo true!! I am now 73.days sober. Thank you for the encouragement!

[@Iam_kdsm]

This was great. I’m new on this sobriety journey after having started over countless times. I’ve experienced everything you described especially feeling flat and grey so this video was a great reminder that it’s ok to experience these feelings as it’s all a part of the process.

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

Thank you so much for sharing this! I'm so glad the video resonated with you. It’s completely normal to feel flat and grey sometimes-especially after starting over. That feeling is part of the process of healing and adjusting to a new way of living. The important thing is that you’re still on the journey, and every time you choose to start again, you’re getting closer to where you want to be. Emotional sobriety plays a big part in this, and it's all about embracing the ups and downs with self-compassion. You've got this, and I’m so proud of you for keeping at it. Keep going-better days are coming!

[@rogerhugh177]

Brilliant video,Well explained,70 days no alcohol today 🙏

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

Thank you so much! Huge congratulations on 70 days alcohol-free-that's an amazing milestone! 🙌 Keep putting weight on the sober end. Keep nurturing your emotional sobriety, it makes all the difference. Stay strong, and remember, you’re not alone on this journey. You’re doing brilliantly! 💪🙏

[@tadalamandala9233]

Thank you for this Veronica. am 58 days in and i really needed to hear this today. ♥

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

You're so welcome! 58 days is amazing-keep putting weight on the sober end and focusing on building your emotional sobriety. Every day you're getting stronger, and I'm so proud of you! Keep going, you’ve got this! ♥

[@Rick40years]

Incredibly important video. Thanks

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

Glad it was helpful!

[@pacocandela7293]

Thank you. I appreciate your positive outlook. I'm 5 months with no alcohol. I'm going to Spain in the spring. I am nervous that I won't have fun without alcohol but you made a good point. Enjoy the food.

[@Marytango99]

I have experienced the FOMO of not drinking while on Europe holiday. So much romantic and mythical notions around the legendary vino. But then I learned that: architecture, natural scenery, music, history talks, cobblestones, art, tour guides, people watching, locals conversations, listening to the news or whatever in another language, window shopping, browsing for souvies... Every single one of these things stimulates our brains in a way that feeds dopamine!! Yay! The feel good buckets fill up with that ambience all around us when we travel, even the silliness that goes on in the airport and security and taxi lines. If we look at all of it as possible positive stimulus, we are actually "getting high" in a healthy way on all the newness and stimulus of a different locale. It's super rewarding and works for me when I let it all flood my brain! Plus all the walking, talking, food sampling, gelato or pastry tasting. Eureka! Let the dopamine and serotonin and epinephrine begin!

[@Becoming_7006]

Thank you for sharing your story and experience with us. I'm so glad I found you and truly appreciate your support and guidance. It feels liberating to finally have that shift in perception! 🎉😊

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

I'm truly honored to be part of your journey, and it’s amazing to hear that you're experiencing that shift in perception. That feeling of liberation is such a powerful step toward long-term change. Keep moving forward, and know that I'm here to support you every step of the way! 🎉😊

[@robertaprilmaclean9258]

Very Helpful. Thank You! I have not seen a video on the emotional stages as well said. Must watch for those that wish to get and stay sober. This includes me!

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m really glad you found it helpful. The emotional stages are such a big part of staying sober, and recognizing them is key to long-term recovery. You're on the right path, and I’m proud of you for committing to this journey. Keep going-emotional sobriety is a powerful tool, and it’s so worth it! 🌟

[@tranceverse535]

I'm here! Everyday nonetheless is good, none the less, there is a waveform. A Jagged flow. Perhaps your mind will attempt to deceive you: it may and likely will suggest a drink is a good idea. This is the core challenge: drinking will likely reignite the folly.

[@paulabc8637]

Day 16 today, i'm eating more sugar than ever... but definitely feeling better 👍 keep up the good work folks

[@sengathomson6439]

53 today. I am a sugar cube! Had nore coffee in 53 days than my whole life.. but LOVE AA!

[@paulabc8637]

😂😂😂👍✌️​@@sengathomson6439

[@sengathomson6439]

@paulabc8637 keep it going! I am back after a 10 yr"i will do it my way" that didn't work so well. After 3 yrs of being in the program. Stay with it as it is the softer easier way even though I didn't think so.

[@anthonyfoster8675]

This is great. Have you seen Fostering Resilience and Dr. KJ Foster. She also has great information on mental health, sobriety, meditation, etc.

[@chammerchip6059]

Excellent video, can’t quite believe I’ve not seen any of your videos before!! I’ve had lots of Dry Jans & other dry periods & I’m always on KZbin!!! I’m two months into my current sober spell and have recently enjoyed a 6 months, broken by an AI holiday🙄 So many things you said ring true for me, and I guess I’m in the flat zone right now. I don’t even want to go on a holiday at the moment. Partly because last time I went on a trip back in May it ended my 6 month dry spell. But mainly I think it’s the flat feeling. I am running and have been for 9 months & I’ve just joined a gym, which is helping a bit. I guess I’ll just have to ride it out. I’m feeling positive this time around though and would love to get to a year +. I will check out some more of your other videos . Thankyou for your hard work sharing your advice. PS. I also call my partner Chip!!

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

Thank you so much for your kind words! I’m really glad you found the video, and it sounds like you’re already doing amazing things for yourself with your sober journey. Hitting that flat zone can definitely feel discouraging, but it's such a common part of the process. Keep putting weight on the sober end. It’s great that you're running and hitting the gym-staying active is such a powerful tool to help push through those flat moments. I completely understand your feelings about holidays; they can be tricky, especially when past experiences are tied to drinking. But it sounds like you’re in a really positive space this time around, and I'm rooting for you to hit that year (and beyond)! Keep putting weight on the sober end and give yourself credit for all the hard work you’ve put in so far. Thanks again for your support, and I hope the other videos help keep you motivated. You're doing great! 💪✨

[@22-degreehalo]

Hi Veronica! I’m new to your podcast and I love it! This one really hit all the marks of what I haven’t been able to put my finger on with so many things. Enlightening! I love how you say “reinventing yourself” and I believe that I have gone through all of those states you described. I think the main issue for me was I was not really a big drinker to begin with. So in my mind, I should be able to go out and have one or two, and can actually. However, the results of that on my body as I have gotten older is much more intense. It elevates my heart rate to frightening levels and now two to three glasses of wine in a weekend raises it for a week, and that makes me mad since I am fit and health conscious. So I am now at the ‘acceptance’ stage of zero alcohol and as time goes by, I’m ok with it. Instead of looking at someone having a beer being envious or mad, I can perceive it differently now. Finding podcasts such as this helps me realize that I am not alone and reminds of the damage it does to the entire body. It’s so refreshing and thank you so much for providing such wonderful, candid information.

[@Perryscope123]

Hi Veronica, I really enjoyed your video. I found it very motivating in many areas, especially the bit about post pink cloud phase, when many of us have felt flat. It's motivating to build self-awareness to realise that it's normal to feel this way and important to keep the faith that great things will come to us down the line. Fear of Missing out or FOMO was one of my triggers but having used a bit introspection I now refer to it as ROMO (relief of missing out) i.e. relief of anxiety, regrets and all the other hangover affects

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

I love your shift from FOMO to ROMO-what a powerful mindset change! It’s so true, when we embrace that “relief of missing out,” we open ourselves to JOMO-the Joy of Missing Out. That joy comes from the peace, clarity, and well-being we find in sobriety, free from the anxiety and regret that once came with drinking. I’m so glad the video resonated with you and helped you through that post-pink cloud phase. Keep building that self-awareness, and trust that even more great things are ahead! 😊

[@tonywright8342]

I’m 4 1/2 years into sobriety and still not through what you talk about here. I don’t know what to do but something has to give.

[@SallyNegus]

Awesome. Thank you. What also do you think about coffee/tea...LOTS of data on its very negative and addictive effects....ten years comes off my face when I've stopped both in the past...

[@claireartuso1702]

Great title, thankyou.

[@rogerappleby1258]

Thank you, your articulations are very helpful, this is just day one and I will check back in as I go further!

[@Foreigner567]

Thank You 🙏

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

You’re welcome 😊

[@deborahmacneil8484]

This is absolutely amazing thank you for this in every way I can relate to everything you’re saying

[@TiffanySmith-vr2mt]

This is important information that’s not in the Big Book of AA. Hugely helpful to know this. Another thing to keep in mind is that cannabis effects the brain similarly so if you quit alcohol but keep consuming cannabis, the recovery of these dopamine receptors is stunted. It’s prolonging the pain… Also, it is important to understand that a sober brain will not experience the same levels of dopamine as the enhanced synthetic levels that substances induce. Natural levels will be lower and it’s important to learn to accept this and not compare.

[@Krankin2584]

Good advice

[@juliematon7461]

Truly amazing thanks

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

You are very welcome

[@rogerheisler2554]

New subscriber! Love your voice!

[@SummumBonum.]

I quit two years ago and never looked back. I want to take care of myself and be healthy. One can't do that when feeding oneself poison.

[@nehemiah1976]

Such great information. Thank you so much. Im curious what your thoughts are on the sinclair method.

[@MountainDreamSportsCards]

I have been struggling since the pandemic...im trying day by day.

[@SvenErik_Lindstrom3]

51 days sober 😀

[@sengathomson6439]

53 today keep going

[@CMoore8539]

Excellent Video! I’m new here.❤

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

Thank you so much! ❤ Welcome to the Soberful community! I'm so glad you're here. Let me know if there's anything you'd like to dive deeper into-I'm excited to have you on this journey with us! 😊

[@toniahobbs-peterson2151]

Thank you I would love to know if there's a course available now thank you

[@BrianHealy666]

There is a good time to stop drinking .NOW

[@BrianHealy666]

Soberity delivers everything alcohol promises

[@rundix3351]

I respectfully disagree, it is a decision one makes plain and simple, regardless of the scientific brain chemistry. If you can’t make it 100%, then there is a part of you that still wants to drink.

[@sillysnaps]

Such a good comment!

[@parikaamma]

Would you say you need a lot of social interaction to get emotionally sober?

[@melaniel7121]

Sober in your 20's until now in your 50's. So, you quit drinking in your 20's; it's hard to relate to that because most people struggle later in life and don't realize they've developed a dependency on alcohol to relax. I certainly did not drink in excess in my 20's.

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

Thank you for your comment. Everyone’s journey is different, and that’s what makes recovery so personal and unique. I actually began drinking in my early teens, and by the time I hit my 20s, it was already a full-blown problem for me. So when I got sober, I had already experienced years of dependency and struggle. But no matter when we start to face the truth about our relationship with alcohol, it’s never too early or too late to make a change. Thanks for being here.

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

I complain alot

[@Cartori]

Hey Veronica! Could you please let us know the best way to contact you for business reasons?

[@VeronicaValliRecoveryRocks]

Hi! Thanks for reaching out. For business inquiries, you can contact us directly at [e-mail]. I look forward to connecting with you!

[@AAxFrikFish]

Boredom is a trigger

[@angelaconnor3754]

Very hard. Cnt stop i keep trying. Its a mental illness i think. Fine with people. ?? THOUGH AGAIN ON YOUR OWN..DIFFERENT. VERY HARD

[@angelaconnor3754]

I would like to be taken away for help.😢😢😢🎉❤❤

[@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj]

It is a process I was making a ass of myself

[@richardstones7027]

I don’t get hangovers because I follow the “drink a ware “ guidelines . Is there anything wrong with that ?