4 Aspergers Relationship Problems and their Solutions

If you have aspergers relationship problems then this video can give you solutions.
Aspergers and relationship problems can be common, not because people with aspergers want it but they don't have all the skills a relationship requires the will occur. If you are dating someone with autism spectrum there are some things you can do to try to address these issues. One of the important things to know about aspies and relationships is that they can improve and if you work with them on those skills they lack those problems can be smaller.
If you know someone who has aspergers in an adult relationship this video can help them see some of the areas they have to work on. This video can also help someone living with aspergers partner, living with aspergers syndrome, living with aspergers husband, or autistic adults in relationships. Aspergers and love is possible, autism and dating problems can be overcome. This video is about aspergers and dating.
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Right now the videos are being made by Craig Kohn. Craig was diagnosed with Aspergers as a child, and as he grew up he started realizing that he had to work on his social skills and improved himself dramatically all by himself. Craig has spent years working with people with disabilities in a professional setting. Craig is managing Teamautismpedia's social media presence. The channel looks forward to hosting experts on autism so that they can spread their knowledge.
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[@TeamAutismpedia]

Have you dealt with one of these problems?

[@JocelyneVautour]

Yes!!! I am in a 15 year (+) relationship with an aspie! We are learning more everyday!

[@ruelasfierro]

Yes its a little difficult but I know she has a good heart and so I stay with her and try to understand. 🙂💕

[@shiamaxwell3482]

@@earlgrayman982 I see my husband doing the same thing that I had him stop bc it makes him unpredictable. He works at the post office and so did I , too many unsavory characters working there with Al sorts of personalities outside of the work environment. I would say just be yourself and get therapy especially if you are in a relationship. The best to you .

[@shiamaxwell3482]

@@earlgrayman982 That makes sense but how can you keep this up ? One would have to be themselves in order for others to know who they are and not a phony person mirroring what they see and not what’s really them . Again, unpredictable bc Ppl in general are the same.

[@shiamaxwell3482]

@@earlgrayman982 Yes , those are great skills and I hope it makes you happy when you get smiles back 😊 At least you are aware and want to communicate with others . 😄

[@Onlinesully]

fair play to you for learning so much about the spectrum. and also for trying to educate others. I’ve not handled things like you at all. It’s been very serious.

[@Userf34567uvvvcxx]

This was super helpful to me. I married someone who has aspergers syndrome and when i listened to your video, it helped me understand him better which is what i was looking for. Thank you!

[@thinkuthink]

I definitely struggle figuring out when I turn people off. Thank you for this video! ✨

[@hannahparker4114]

My boyfriend with aspergers sent me this. Very informative, thank you!

[@madmom6969]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO! You helped me to understand the man im with. I will do my best to be more understanding and patient.

[@TeamAutismpedia]

Appreciate your comment

[@BarnabyPerrinAldous]

Such a straight up informative video, without a hint of flim flam. Great stuff! Hits the autistic nail on the head cleanly AF.

[@TeamAutismpedia]

Thanks

[@aIicht]

This is so awesome Craig! You rock!

[@TeamAutismpedia]

Thank you!

[@fashunpuss6279]

Thank you so much Craig that was just great!

[@TeamAutismpedia]

Look forward to seeing you here

[@wiredbeats9058]

Thanks Craig, I really appreciate your videos! 😄✌️

[@TeamAutismpedia]

That means so much to me😀

[@refulgensq478]

I love the shirt yo! Where can I cop one 😍 Thanks soo much for the info! It was super helpful

[@Emunaboy]

Point. Well taken!

[@TeamAutismpedia]

thank you

[@SeekTruthinLight]

One aspect of Autism is Theory of Mind issues; Like they don't get sarcasm well, and are quite literal, for example, it occurred to my 9 yr old daughter that the "The tooth paste lies" because it said on the label its "anti-cavity protection" and "prevents cavities"-- that when one with Autism makes the connection in the spirit of truth, and got a cavity, she felt terribly let down, wronged. Another thing is they are spiritual, meaning they get into a way of spirit of a thing (intensely staring for longer periods of time, entertaining in thought, fixated to the point where they tune out the surroundings. They have a one track mind, and are very determined once they get into the spirit of a way like "exploring" they will, in seeking happiness, try to go into every room in a hospital or office building greeting and meeting people along the way, and will have unrest if someone interferes with the happiness in that way. Most with Autism are very smart, like a 6 year old smart enough to know they cannot wright the abc's shown in the example, therefore they have anxiety and unrest and refuse to try because they don't want anxiety and unrest or to hear the rhetoric of error, falling short; but ironically by telling them it is practice, that liberty of truth is often enough for them to take part. Smart because of the way they remember, many photographically; yet when focused in the spirit of a way of truth, casually guided by one of the genuinely loving spirit of truth, (not one faking it by exaggerating phony demeanor) they are very good at learning, storing what they do-- if they are not distracted, by another source of happiness, in error, such as overstimulating environments) One problem with medicines like Ability meant to help them focus and organize thoughts is it working too well like when they are focusing in an inappropriate thoughts like determining to leave rather than staying to do school work for example, where they can be relentless. Another thing with the theory of mind part is they don't see the value of following rules or recognizing authority over them, part of which has to do with the nature of others; like if a teacher has anxiety or is having a bad day-- that way of error in spirit will be reflected in the child with Autism because it is thought that they have a tendency to mimic, but really they are sensitive to the way of spirit of others and do not want to have anything to do with a teacher who has the spirit of error, or error in spirit, underlying unrest- they can't fake their demeanor.

[@katharineofarrogant7805]

I just wanted to say what an interesting and insightful comment this is. I have just begun a relationship with a beautiful man with Aspergers and I resonate with most of this x

[@logicdiary3179]

This is the perfect comment. I love how indepth you are, it hits the nail on the head

[@TheCookiecute00]

I love and appreciate what you do!! What age did start having meaningful conversation? Keep up the good work

[@TeamAutismpedia]

I was always able to communicate. I have improved my communication skills with practice.

[@francesdumaliang6132]

You Sir, are an awesome individual😃👍!

[@TeamAutismpedia]

Thank you

[@rubyrootless7324]

I love you energetic style of presentation. Cool!

[@TeamAutismpedia]

Thank you I appreciate that

[@JocelyneVautour]

I am a NT in a relationship with an aspie. This video is awesome!! Thank you

[@JocelyneVautour]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/e2GWk6NujM-Kmas My boyfriend's channel that he just started on the topic. Please l, feel free to subscribe. He just started and I think it's a wonderful way to learn more about the subject and help one another ♥️♥️ Thanks again for the great video!

[@TeamAutismpedia]

Thanks means a lot to me

[@Deborah-jv3df]

I wonder what your perspective is on this: I dated a 29 year old guy with autism for 5 months. It was our 1st relationship. We saw eachother everyday. He told me a lot about himself and always seemed happy with me. He didn't hug/kiss me unless I did though. One time I asked why and then he thought that he probably doesn't have enough feelings for me then. Although he shared a lot with me, including time, we made plans for the future.. And liked spending time with eachother. So much. He broke up with me and was very sure about it. He cried and needed a hug for the 1st time. I'm still very confused about it. I wrote him a letter goodbye, because it will hurt too much to stay friends. I wrote that I believe our relationship should have started where it ended, because we were finally open. But I also wrote that I'm thankful and wish him the best. At 1st it helped. But now I feel really bad for letting him go. I don't know how to feel, what to think and what to do...

[@Deborah-jv3df]

He also said that we had too much in common... Like nerd stuff, skating, baking... He wanted some kind of passion. I believed it would take us more time to feel that. He said a break up in the future would only hurt more. He had some expectation or view about how a relationship should be... I guess.

[@TeamAutismpedia]

Find a mentor to ask those type of questions to. They can answer a individual case better then soneone from afar

[@lucaciel6403]

@Deborah I hope this comment finds you well. I just wanted to know if things ever changed for you and if one of you reached out. I am in a similar situation like yours and it pains me a lot. I've tried ending it on a open note since she was the one wanting to break up and like you said, staying just friends was too much.

[@ajackson3298]

​@@Deborah-jv3df if you still care about him try being his friend. it was his first relationship and maybe the emotions and your connections was too much for him to handle. he probably doubts that he will be able to sustain the connection in the future and probably also worries about how you may react if you experienced one of his meltdowns. by being his friend it will reassure him that you will be there during the fun times but also the rough times

[@bloodsports94]

Not being friends with someone after a relationship is really selfish and toxic. You sound more autistic than your ex.

[@MichaelJEdwards]

This is an awesome video ... my gay partner and I are both Autistic but have different needs... the thing that stood out for me is that I know he is awesome and I want to marry him in the future xx

[@TeamAutismpedia]

Just look at learning together whatcis needed in a relationship

[@Shanti565]

Hi Craig, I am an aspie that has a very difficult time interacting socially . I am married and, thankfully, my husband understands when I need alone time to recharge. If I am overwhelmed I will have meltdowns. This happens mostly if I feel trapped in a social atmosphere never at home though. I see a doctor every 6 months and that can ignite a meltdown. How do you deal with meltdowns? How do you deal with loud noises or your routine is interrupted ? Your delivery is improving a lot since I have been watching.👍 Namaste. :::Tere:::

[@TeamAutismpedia]

I don't have meltdowns, but just see what you can do to control your environment to avoid triggering meltdowns. When I was a kid I had special ear plugs to help me avoid loud noises (affected me for a brief time). On routines I know those can be important to people, you will have to see how to deal with each routine individually (can't diagnose from afar). I would also encourage trying to look at meetup.com to see if there is a autism support group near you that you could possibly brainstorm solutions with people who can get you and your challenges.

[@victoriaarcturus203]

Chelate the mercury & aluminum from your brain

[@Onlinesully]

i always preferred one on one times with people.

[@Knowthyself-zf3fy]

I hope that your okay

[@trudybongers3534]

My husband and daughter both have Asperger... and i didn't know this for a long time 😢

[@ewanelliot5824]

legend

[@TeamAutismpedia]

thanks

[@easterbuny2226]

Mother was told I have this when I was around 3 years old . I have a hard time understanding how to identity this in other people or even myself . I just know I am socially awkward person . And sometimes I dont understand why people sometimes do not me or call me crazy sometimes without even opening my mouth . I am really just unsure if this is just a fancy name for having a strange personality or something . Please can you tell me if you ever felt like this and if so did you discover more information so you could better identify it in yourself and other people .

[@easterbuny2226]

I have been given so many labels since I was a kid because I just did not fit in . That I am very confused about what Aspergers really is , ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER has so many similarities to Aspergers as well as other things . That I am getting confused about them overlapping each other or these things are just some strange aspect of somebodies personalities .

[@easterbuny2226]

And what is the difference between a meltdown for a Apsie or somebody that just loses there temper for another reason . How would you know ?

[@joshuaprice85]

I notice social things but people act like I'm a disease!! Even when I'm drunk I notice social things. Being a conversationalist people get freaked out about. I guess I'm supposed to be dead or invisible and not talking.

[@Knowthyself-zf3fy]

Hey man.. how are you?

[@zakiyaslater7042]

can you cover the topic of high functioning fulfilling their partner sexually and how the nuerotypical just wants support and have needs met and not necessarily controlling or directive support especially when the NT has done everything prior to marriage without a spouse and did just fine academically and socially and work wise and feels socially limited by autistic spouse fears and anxiety and general laziness

[@theveganmedium7663]

I feel bad for your spouse... loving a man with aspergers means accepting they aren't NTs and not expecting them to fill those shoes...

[@annasaenz-rico5057]

we both are aspies in the relationship, it’s double difficult 😢

[@andysmith5997]

Before I knew I was an aspie I thought I was just a miserable bad tempered git

[@TeamAutismpedia]

You can always improve

[@misspinkpunkykat]

Why should I have to change for another person to accept me? Even NT relationships are based on shared interests. I'm autistic and will only date someone if they share my special interests. Special interests are my strongest autistic trait. Same with friendships, once the interest was over, so was the friendship.

[@stephencolligan]

NT relationships,if successful,are actually based on shared values - not interests. A common interest can help,but that’s all. You might be better just joining some kind of club that caters for your interests perhaps,so that you don’t have to “change”.? Relationships are give and take ,or compromise - something AS people find difficult,hence the very high rate of marital failure.

[@misspinkpunkykat]

@@stephencolligan I honestly never was interested in the concept of marriage or a relationship. But no, I don't expect a future husband or wife to change for me, why do I have to change for them? I've found most people are only interested in sex anyway.

[@msjulie3613]

you are probably going to die alone.

[@mindofganza]

Huh?

[@TheAutisticGeek206]

Hey, dude! What do you think of this stupid war between Aspies versus a group of Neurotypicals? I think it's so stupid. Don't you agree with me, pal?

[@anthonyjack6922]

And if you do have a girlfriend or wife I feel bad for them

[@AlohaAmie]

jealous much?

[@annbiggs7270]

@@AlohaAmie Lol you might be jealous because I’m normal. Y’all are too strange for me that’s for sure. I’d rather not be around anyone with this disorder cause they are as narcissist as they come plus a asshole and I can’t stand it!

[@bloodsports94]

Lol what a jealous loser bully. Get a life.