4 KEY STRATEGIES for moving on from a narcissistic relationship

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November 1-3, 2024
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[@NarcSurvivor]

Take the time to reflect and process what happened. But then put the focus back on yourself. Set boundaries, practice self love. Start doing the things you loved to do again.

[@Loneranian]

The narcissist having a new partner is like recasting actors in a long running series with the same toxic plot and new victims, like a bad remake.

[@SherryTomlinson-r2y]

I always put single never married. I was married to a bum narc for three years. I was the only one working. He i heard played the exact game he played on me. Got a business going and it died fast. His new supply he married they stayed together 30 years till his death. She completely supported him. Needless to say she was head bookkeeper of a doctor office. Buying new trucks for him. Spending way more money than a bookkeeper would make. I believe it’s called embezzlement! The story of two narcissists in love.

[@roseanngood2834]

My daughters father and I still live together because I'm not financially capable of moving out quite yet. He's already on dating apps. I don't feed his emotional and narcissistic needs, so he looks elsewhere. What people need to tell themselves repeatedly is that those behaviors reflect how afraid they are to be alone. That is a reflection of him not me. My focus will continue to be my daughter and bettering myself. I know I will get married somewhere down the line and it will be beautiful. That will come to me when it is time. But to get to that point, I need to focus on myself and my children. I will not let his narcissism dictate the rest of my life. I will make a good life for myself and my daughters.

[@demigaines5644]

1/ Implementing Strict No Contact!! 2/ Seeking professional Therapy 3/ Building A Strong Support System 4/ Focusing On Self Care!!!And Acknowledging The Abuse

[@privateprivate8366]

5. Develop an interest in something; get a hobby. That may sound trivial. But, you’ve probably been kept very busy, maybe for years or decades, by the neediness and soul sapping nature, of being with a narcissist. You may have been interested in something before the narcissist arrived in your life, but their arrival obliterated it. Try to reconnect with that or find something new. I always think of the mind, as a bookshelf, where you put new books on one end and it knocks old books off the other end. You won’t be ruminating about that narcissist so much, if you start concentrating on something new.

[@andron967]

Man I wish I'd had someone like Dr.Ramani when I was young. I think in hindsight I was looking in the right directions. It's the wasted time that still hurts. And I do have substantial talents that weren't used. I can only hope that we all move forward and do better. So much suffering, manipulation and waste in our world. I don't even trust my own perspective these days.

[@Valerie-h3t]

I’m in a fifty year marriage and still in it. Money is the reason I can’t leave! I pray to God for a miracle. I always knew he didn’t love me just didn’t know WHY. Thank you for giving me the WHY!

[@lindamcwilliams9056]

Trust me you are not alone.

[@fureraisiaka3363]

Fifty! That's a whole life.

[@charliesmom]

Self discovery. long term no contact provides the opportunity to examine the whys of how you ended up in an abusive relationship. For me, the deep connection of choosing an abuser is directly related to being treated the same as a child. Denial. years of denying reality. Who wants to deal with a painful past? Yet, necessary to get to the heart of healing. The abuser no longer seems powerful. They merely appear as an crafty, creepy opportunist. Elevate yourself for you.

[@sushmayen]

We can't fix them. It's waste of time to keep trying.

[@shelleyboggs]

Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally, I hired a private detective MetaspyClubLLC@gmail. com. Once I knew what the narc was up to, it got easier to get over that lying, cheating, sack of doo doo, loser. I didn’t need closure from the narc, I paid for it. Best money I EVER spent!

[@Tina_MarieRN]

Sometimes it hurts my heart to hear the truth in everything you say. But in a good way, a growing and healing way.

[@LipstickNsofrito]

Everyone...have a wonderful day..blessings and much love to you all ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Cheerschan1]

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[@mariehughey5390]

I had to get off social media altogether. I have local friends and decided to simplify. I let a bit left out at first, but don’t think about it much anymore.

[@Jeet-2023]

Im going through this RIGHT NOW. The narcissist, since i stone-walled him and asked him to leave my life and never come back again, has been going around the town, looking for any and everyone i know (friends, family, colleagues, ex colleagues, neighbours...etc), and bad mouthing about me. It has been going on for the past few months. It's so intense, busy, and non-stop. I wonder how much time and energy that must take, and why would anyone be so desperate? However, this channel helped me. I knew it would be coming my way once i called out the narcissist and threw him out of my life. So i was prepared and has already had conversations wtih those who matter that this person would possibility reach out to them to talk bad behind my back. And this is exactly how it happened. Thanks Dr Ramani. To add - I also learned that "information " is so important for the narcissit and they know how to manipulate once they have it. Not letting them be informed about you, makes them powerless.

[@dk5755]

You were wise to prepare people of the inevitable smear campaign. I discovered my ex went around twisting the information he had on me to make me look like a crazy and sick person even during the entire relationship. If only the people he told things to knew the real story. 😢

[@Jeet-2023]

@@dk5755 - Narcissists don't have partners or friends. They have hostages.

[@nancygirard7343]

I was that parent who felt guilty about the times when I was so consumed with the crazy narcissist, that I felt like my kids suffered for that.

[@SeaGlassAndKiss]

My ex was a narsisist. When I went NC he had hidden bills from when we were together and got them sent to my house only for me to be terrified if I could pay my rent, break NC and reaching out. When I did he would tell me he had a heart problem and would make up fake dates he was going to pay the bill.. I finally got a lawyer, he discarded me in May and at least I live far away from him.. But I'm exhausted!

[@LightShia]

The narcissist moving on too fast hits so real right now 😂😂😂 Yes I've experienced all the methods of hoovering from social media. It's insane.

[@theindwelli]

I loved this vid. it’s so freeing & refreshing Ty.

[@Carol-lynnMulcahy]

This is such a powerful video! Thankyou ❤️

[@beverlyadams7205]

I remember my daughter saying “you should know why I’m angry! “

[@trinitytrin3184]

Dear Dr. Ramani, First of all, I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all the help you offer to victims of narcissists. Your knowledge, experience and wisdom is so incredibly valuable. Thank you for being here. Unfortunately, there is no one of your caliber in my home country of Germany and unfortunately, many people don't read your book because the language barrier puts them off. I have read your book, my English is good enough to understand, but many Germans find it too challenging. I am convinced that many more Germans would read your book if there was a German edition. Is there a plan to publish the book in German? Kind regards, you have helped me a lot. Thank you so much! ❤

[@lesabrydson2526]

Power Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🤲🇯🇲🙏

[@usewisdom2]

As usual, you give awesome guidance and sharing it for free here is very helpful I'm sure for so many sufferers. I'd like to add what I consider to be a powerful exercise for them, and that is, to practice loving themselves which can be very difficult because the lack of self love is the reason they became victims to a narcissist in the first place. Self-hate. Would you do some sessions teaching people how to practice learning to love themselves, love their "being" not ego love. It cannot be simple at all, is most hard to do, but is necessary for cure. Maybe it can be done during a period of isolation with deep meditation within, Thank you. Namaste.

[@ayezee2639]

My cousin never made me doubt myself. I've laughed at his accusations. He knows he can't damage my self worth and that's why he's been coming so hard these last several years. I typically dismantle his claims. It's more so simple aggravation of his efforts to destroy me that's lead me to cut him, aside from this knowledge. Sucks he comes at me like this but I've had two other friends who were the same, cut them too, familiar with it. I've been leveling up for the past 10 years and it drives him crazy. So sad. I miss the relationship and we had incredible times in our friends group, but he's blown it all up. His bf is all that's left out of 5 of us. The bf is prob next.

[@KrilleEgnell]

i was discarded 20 years ago, didnt know it was Narc then.. the pain was brutal for 1-2 years, rominating of the charts, couldnt sleep.. 3 weeks ago i ghosted a Narc went no contact.. 2 weeks ago i found out these where Narc people. Im in a good spot in my healing.. most of the pain is dealt 20 years ago.. i have the power in my corner and will not pass the ball if the Narc start to hoover... sure i rominate because its fresh but interlect is faster, feelings will catch up.. I have used Chat GPT everyday for analyze, coaching and help me explain all words and all....

[@lesabrydson2526]

Discarded 20 years ago 2023 I met Dr. Ramani, but before her I Persevered in The Bible Psalms 1-150🙏🇯🇲🤲

[@MegaMARLEEN1]

I remember that feeling....just like "really, over me???she now, oh and just forgot about me, just like that... But even when i was very young, i didn't give in to this. I'd rather cry me a river over him, and than start a new chapter.... After several similar episodes with different persons and ways, i kind of knew the drill better, still cried to forget , but every time less though Than forgetting and moving on became more easy every time. Yes, meanwhile i also practiced a lot of self care... If i could give advice to the young I would tell them to come out stro ng Know u're not wrong And rather work hatd on moving on

[@mac-ju5ot]

Well dr ramni i dont havevteo horses in a stabke and oricate colleges. My father was a factory worker ...vefy intelligent . Very knowledgable. Thrh kued tgats on them

[@Carol-lynnMulcahy]

Why the hell would you want to jump into another relationship? If you're looking for a hero then be your own hero!! Be loving to yourself and be kind to yourself. And positive social networks helps you to feel less lonely and helps us to feel validated and valued. Be mindful of your vulnerability though.

[@t_nels]

Not even after, to cause disturbance and yes blocked.

[@susieblu4152]

Heard you on CBC yesterday! As a subscriber, can I ask you go into more detail about the clusters? I’m a C cluster and I wish my daughters could learn more about them. My one daughter is a classic Narcissist and she slams me all the time about being BPD without understanding there are clusters. How can I lead her to understand the differences?

[@lisamartinali4545]

Easy enough to say but if you got toxic people just around you your on your own

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Wonderful video My partnership of five years ended a month ago. When my true love decided to part ways with me, it truly is the only thing on my mind. I can't fathom my life with anyone else, and even though I've tried everything to get him back, it's all in vain. Despite my best efforts to put him out of my thoughts, I can't help but miss him and think about him all the time. I could not really tell you why I am saying this.

[@Shanieceflordi]

It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@Shanieceflordi]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Shanieceflordi]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

[@Tina_MarieRN]

It's been a year and a half and the thought of even dating makes me ill ..

[@DeborahOlander]

The segment on being isolated by the damage done by shitty childhoods struck home so hard. I KNOW i need better social systems. I still don't know how to actually make that happen. I keep trying and failing.

[@lesliethiel1337]

Actually, we should be glad the narcissist has moved on, so we dont have to be included in their drama

[@elizabethhoeppner8881]

I am making new friends but my family is not happy or supportive at all. I am spending too much time alone. Apparently, a woman who demands respect is a monster.

[@TimetoWonder222]

It's been 2 years. I don't know if I'll ever try again for a romantic relationship. I'm better off alone than with the people I'm attracted to. Even when I think I found a good guy, it turns out I'm wrong and just another gamer. Maybe better off on my own.

[@BarbaraMarks-y5s]

Dr. Ramani. What are actions that need to be taken for the person leaving this relationship? Therapy for sure. Spending a year or more not dating or getting involved in any “relationship” with the opposite sex. My situation with leaving: I’m ready. It hurts. I’m left spiritually and financially in ruins. Can you offer advice?

[@privateprivate8366]

Although I’ve often ruminated about a man who once chased me and although I had suspicions he was a narcissist, this is years later and he’s with someone new. I do actually miss him, shame on me. Quite handsome, a total 10 l, had everything going for him 👉🏽but those narcissistic qualities, if they can even be called that. But, sometimes, when I wish I were her in his life, I do wonder just why she is puttin’ up with. I don’t know that I’d have the tolerance, if he is who he was back then. So, other than the probable fact, that it was possibly the greatest sex I might ever have, I don’t miss him so much, with those other thoughts in mind.

[@brendawashington206]

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[@TimithyBlair]

I Don't use social media other than I started a you tube channel to help others recover from narcissistic abuse. Dr Ramani what do you think about this? About me starting a channel like this one.

[@shellysawchuk1190]

I blocked him he just kept going into the back door through others so I had to dump my Facebook

[@angelikaesterhuizen1691]

🙏💜🇿🇦

[@merlinwizard1000]

15th, 13 October 2024

[@m.wolters9576]

And now?

[@okyouwinleavemealone]

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[@okyouwinleavemealone]

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[@rcatablet2984]

I used to watch Les Carter until he said how he supported Donald Trump. Now I get it.

[@rcatablet2984]

I was very disappointed

[@DeborahOlander]

Say what???!!!! When did he say that? I don't always watch him but if he said that I wonder how he reconcile that with his experiences with narcissism and anger mgmt.

[@lindabell2940]

Now look here, I'm a full blown sinner, my first time was president Trump, my age is 65 years, I don't remember Doctor Carter doing old man Trump, hell I loved a narcissist also, this lady here is sharing peace and harmony, Doctor Carter, shares peace and harmony

[@kristinbrowne8756]

Do you have a link to this? I looked and was unable to find anything with Les Carter and Trump in the same sentence.

[@Narcreap-g6g]

She is a corporate sell out